Mendeecees comes off as intimidated by Yandy. She doesn't pander to him and make him feel big, so he tears her down. Yandy isnt perfect, but she definitely settled with him.
Yandy praised mendeecees he could do no wrong in her eyes the way she would talk about him on LHH , she protected his name at all cost , he needs to appreciate her way more
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 his issues r deep rooted from his Mom! As a Mother u r to Nuture, Protect etc... She wasn't there to do those things..Ppl must heal certain wounds before moving further... It creates chaos.... Yandy is asking for some things that he clearly can't deliver, because he doesn't know HOW.... PERIOD ✌🏾
Yandy is glitz and glam, it's all cosmetics. Mendece down to earth, simple, not pretentious. He is what you see is what you get. He likes the lifestyle that comes with Yandy. One thing he is his own man.
@@canishalashaetv I agree with you on this... I personally think that she's just trying to keep their family together for the kids sake & she doesn't want to give the other baby mamas any satisfaction of doubt about their supposedly marriage... She's over him & instead of just walking away, she's going to make it seems as if he pushed her away so that way she won't look like the bad person... Yandy is a very smart woman & most definitely a strategic thinker... She bought him on this show knowing how he'd look, that way she won't look like "Yandy didn't & wasn't holding him down!"... If the marriage fails, then all babymamas & her enemies especially Chrissy & Kimbella have won by revealing who she truly was from the get go... Because I don't think, I know Yamdy is that snake that everyone acknowledges her to be & if you're truly a person who can read someone, than you'd also know that since watching her on any show she's been on.
Yandy is beautiful and successful and she should want her husband. I hope he gets it together. He got too much female energy around him with all the different mothers of his children.
@@4265kitty they both love each other you can see he loves her bk, they just need to get away together NO kids NO FRIENDS just each other.... Best thing about falling out is making up..... Candles and ice cream strawberries 🍓😋 Come on guys love you too Xx
@@candice6261 not in every situation. Light attracts darkness and healers attract damaged individuals. Why would anyone be jealous or envious of someone they have supported or is supporting.
@@lalajones3242 that’s not double teaming. the coach is saying what she observes in their relationship and since he’s not hearing what he wants he’s being double teamed? Yeah ok.
@@lalajones3242 it’s only double teaming if what was said isn’t the truth , some ppl can’t handle the heat so they call it double teaming to take the attention off of them & put it back on the other person(s), sounds like gaslighting to me 🤷🏽♀️
She was so happy speaking on him and he tore her down real fast. This a man that can't stand for his woman to shine or be happy. The man is jealous of his own woman success. Run Yandy u sleeping with the enemy.
Same with me X he came from Nothing and it’s my fault that I have a Family that actually celebrates Growth & Success. And we empower each other with Love ❤️ & Encouragment.
He cheated on her during their relationship and he said he wouldnt hold her down if it was the other way around all while she was getting maced/peppersprayed in the face marching for him. She shouldve been ended that relationship.
This is a man who has never been held responsible for his actions, his lies and narcissism. Yandy has been an enabler to his lies from the get now that he’s doing it to her, she don’t like it 🤦🏽♀️
It's sad this is your outlook but I respect the difference. However, when anyone is in love they look pass things others will see. We only know what is shown on tv we don't know these people. At the end of the day he married her. Let them live and figure their life out and I hope we all do the same
@@jasminehenry2509 the funny thing is I agree it’s like folks want her to suffer for choosing him yandy more mature than him emotionally sad part he ain’t there and never will be she may have subconsciously enabled him in other ways we nothing about but how the comment was made above yours that’s not what I seen he def jealous because he has women that is financially bigger then him and it makes him insecure 😕 any man that says I want and I’m ok wit my women making more then me is scary 😟 and I’d run if I hear that my point is though his body language say other and that never lies
It’s an observation jeez. Ladies make men the prize all to often, even fight for the man but eventually see what the previous women had to deal with. 😒
A lot of these men process conversations like 18 yo boys. The lack of comprehension and deep thought that goes into their side of the conversation is startling. The constant defensive viewpoint instead of realizing he’s in a union, a PARTNERship is .. wow.
He’s soooo childish, just like Ray J. Unable to take any type of constructive criticism or truth without getting their feelings hurt. He’s also resentful of her success.
Yea but that was years ago when she was happy. Things change, thats not karma its life. Them baby mamas were salty. He used them up and threw them to the way side that wasnt her fault.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 SAY THAT!!!!! He stuck on how their relationship/roles were when he went to prison and Yandy has elevated her status by leaps and bounds. He's an emotionally small man who wants her to shrink herself to make himself feel better. Don't EVER dim your light so your partner can shine!!!
@@melaninqueen4562 it’s that childish toxic 2000 man mindset where a man can’t be beneath the woman financially. Like it’s 2021 almost 2022 he needs to learn that it’s ok not being the money maker in the house. He needs to voice his jealous and come to terms with it so it can be mended
Yes, that part! Like, if we as people can receive before responding, we'll have more clarity and understanding then arguing and misunderstanding things that are miniscule.
Mendeecees fell in love with Yandys bank account......before he fell in love with her....this is why I always say as a woman get with a man who matches your success 💯
@@oliviaharrison6584 I agree i truly do think she loves him and he loves her i my honest opinion they both legitimized each other. Because she was a good girl making moves with her management co he was has been able to me legit business people and because most of the artist she managed are street artists mandeecees gave her the street credibility needed to deal with those types.. I guess I am just saying they compliment each other in alot of ways
@@robbsheff5982 yes they definitely compliment each other but an ego can do damage to any relationship on both sides. The problem is people spend too much time focusing on what they are(material stuff, being seen) instead of who they are
My intuition is telling me that he doesn't love you like you may think he does sis! 😬 The way he said "Absolutely not" over and over again.... said it all for me.
It was strategic on his part bc she had the money and connects so he had to play the game like he really loved her. But look at his exes Yandy was never his type but the most convenient
I really don't know what she see in him...he seems powerless....weak....not a leader....almost like her son....he's really not on her level...this struggle love relationship....smh...but its her....not me
We all seen her about to break down talking about how her soul is tied to this man and hearing it come form the pit of her soul the whole table was moved. She gone wayyyyy past love
Yet, Yandy was trashing Erica and Samantha, bragging about being married to this loser, the marriage was never real from the start, I'm pretty sure he only stayed with Yandy because she had the bread, that was a better situation for him to slip through.
I knew since she came on the show with him 🤣 just watch in one of these clips "their love triangle" all 3 ladies talk about their relationship with him, he just played them
I just commented this! He only picked her because she made the most money and it doesn’t put all the pressure on him to bring bread. That’s it! He’s a hustler and joke. ✌️
He doesn't love Yandy the way she loves him.. Yandy deserves more... Can't wait till she realize this.. Mendecees body language and facial expressions towards her is louder than his words #wakeupYandy...
The fact that she spent lonely nights and days and held down they kids is crazy, fought all on national tv with his other baby-mamas and lastly could have cheated but did not! She need to move on from him!!
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 yep... Erika told her first then Samantha started trying show receipts and a part of me feels like Mona edited a lot of stuff out for Yandy sanity since he was already down
He wanted to marry her and thought they were married and Samantha and Erica were the same two bitter baby mamas that tried to plant a fake story that yandy cheated to break them up and there were receipts on that! Those bitter betty’s were just jealous and bitter towards Yandy because their baby daddy put her on a pedestal so those two aren’t credible at all! Just two bm haters! Yandy was protecting her bag from those two jealous foes it had nothing to do what they were talking about smh
@@kianidavis2042 ok yandy family that must pulled Samantha hair when she wasn't looking... Who said anything bout yandy... I'm talking bout him... But if she so in her bag why she couldn't get a man to match her bag ? Why did she need them to be her storyline... Where is yandy interesting? You came at me hard all I'm saying is both of them explained to Yandy how he was going to be they knew him longer.... Yandy actually started it all by calling them bitter and acting stank instead of being a wife/step mother... But carry on with fraudulent yandy I'll pass on that one... Be blessed
Yandi became a BOSS and Mona Right Hand and Mendeecee can't take Yandi's success. He was a boss when they got together so he acts childish cause he knows he can control her emotionally so he breaks her down
It’s clear he just doesn’t want her. She needs to just cut ties and let him go and be with someone who really loves her. He needs to go heal before he enter back into a relationship.
He wants the lifestyle she brings, that’s it. He doesn’t have to worry about bringing in so much money with her. That’s the only reason why he chose her.
It’s always good to communicate! But communication can be difficult to accomplish when neither one wants to listen and the other just doesn’t want to deal with it..
I definetly see these two divorcing. Maybe not soon but give it another year or two. The issue they are having is they both want to lead and the other to support. Mendecess was used to leading the relationship, but when he was locked up Yandy became the lead. And she wants his support but he wants her support too. Either they learn to co lead to fix their issue or all of what they are feeling is going to slowly mutate to just resentment. Just because your role shifts doesnt mean it cant shift again or maybe shift into something better. But they should have known this would have happened. He went in one way and came out expecting things to be how they were. And she expected him to have adjusted to the changes when he couldnt if he wasnt there to grow with her during those 5 years.
It's communication. The ability to articulate verbally thoughts feelings and needs. The ability to listen without becoming defensive and putting the other person on offense.
You seem to have the best comment and hit it on the nail. Although sometimes it seems as though she disses him and hurts his feelings publicly. She seems to tear him down in that sense, and it caused him to lose a little respect for her. She just seemed to destroy his love for her.
Idk, he doesn’t have desire in his eyes when he looks at her! I don’t think he’s attracted to her. Remember when she did that video fir him he just looked embarrassed 😳
Holding a man down because he went to prison does not make him want you or need you once he is put of prison to be honest he doesn't want Yandy anymore because she isn't controllable like she was prior to his prison stint she was on her own doing everything without him so she really doesn't need him I don't even think she wants him his mama has did numerous interviews saying Yandy was dating around on the low while he was locked up so🤷🏽♀️ it's there life they gonna live it how they want but living in the public eye doesn't make the relationship any better
Yandy pumps this man up more than he deserves. I'm not the biggest Yandy fan but seems like she could do better and should have somebody to support her like she did/does him.
It’s so hard to continue to take care of a man who feels insecure about your success as a woman. Tandy look upset but honestly, this is how it’s going to always be.
Here y’all go you can’t take nobody dignity this whole pride dignity thing with men and yall make excuses for them is why these niggas act the way they do.
He was a drug dealer and was in jail he hasn’t evolved.And everyone is living off her dime.She was probably paying his child support for all these years as well.And him his momma and them damn baby mommas wouldn’t be on LHH if it wasn’t for Yandy.And none of them have respect for this woman but they sure getting that paper.And this is how he acts.
Yandy wouldn’t be on L&HH if it wasn’t for Jim Jones, but I doubt he allows her to pay for anything on his behalf. He’s too proud for that. Plus he just got her a Rolls Royce drop top for her birthday. And Erica & Samantha never petitioned for child support.
Its not just that he's broke now, they have kids and he's tied to Yandi's show deal i think or at the very least Yandi has worked his deal wit Mona and Vh1 for the 3 shows they've been on since his release 🤔🤔
Yandy made herself compete with many women for mendeecees, so she was deeply invested when all he did was show up. I think alot of the things she saw in him were all in her head. But she put herself in a position where she had to win him. Without truly knowing what she won.
Its the way all this begun on a very cheerful note (by Mendeecees making a light moment, talmbout how he holds the door) then for him to kill the whole vibe that got me 😂🤣🤣🤣😂
I am no expert buttttt maybe because they didn’t have a chance to grow together, it put a damper on tings. Plus this was filmed not too long after he got out. They didn’t try to relearn each other all over again before hopping on TV. I think individual counseling and marriage counseling is best. Mendecees got some stuff to work on as a human being before he can even think about a congratulations. And Yandy is just all around irritated with him for leaving her and so even if he is trying, she’ll never see it as enough.
If it's broke, don't continue to fix it. Sometimes you have to walk away, even when you love someone so much. If they're not giving you the same energy back in return, it's time to let that individual go.
I feel her success emasculated him and his circumstances being incarcerated worsened that as he COULDNT and DIDNT have the choice to help his lady grow I wish these guys all the best. They are a beautiful version of #blacklove #blackpower. And I hope for nothing but beautiful things for these two beautiful people
She's a bad couples therapist. She's not supposed to Target someone issue she was supposed to let them discuss the target issues coach them to figure it out themselves. She's not supposed to be the problem solver
I think that alot of Guys dont express their feelings because some women only hear negative.. If they say you look nice you will say thats all?. EXPRESSION IS INDIVIUALITY!! You cant control the way anyone expreses themself.
Thank u! Plus, what do she want the man to do, give her his soul because she waited and supported him while down smh. Why look for a medal for being righteous? That’s why I try my absolute best from getting in positions where I really need someone, because they’ll feel like u owe them special praises, and will hold it over ur head forever. She’s right tho, he see how arrogant she’s getting, so he’s not going to give her the praise she wants. He’ll end up like Waka, she’ll fall out of love with him. I learned in my last relationship, u can’t love a person more than they love themselves, because it’ll ruin them.
My husband might be extremely happy for me but he doesn't express it the same way I will. You have to learn your partner. They been together a while so she needs to learn that.
He's just a cute face to match hers. He lacks confidence and is clearly intimidated by her. I really believe him when he said he would not have help her down if she went to prison now!
Believe me. There are A LOT of "adults " without discernment, intuition and let's throw in maturity. Both of them are lacking these things in their own ways.
AJ Johnson (Jody mama ) is not married IN FACT ! .I wouldn’t listen to that woman at all .She is really private about her life in general I can’t stand women like her smh !
She definitely hit a nerve. Mendeecees has some issues to work through. He isn’t fully emotionally available in their relationship. He seems a tad insecure and he doesn’t love Yandy in the way I think she needs. She better be careful putting her relationship out here on TV for scrutiny. I do want them to work out.
Yandy act like she's entitled to be treated a certain way because she's been there for him when he was locked up. Which yes she does but at the same time she forgets all the drama she caused with his kids mom's while he was away and throwing one mom out with her child . That all takes a toll on a person after awhile.
Mendeecees comes off as intimidated by Yandy. She doesn't pander to him and make him feel big, so he tears her down. Yandy isnt perfect, but she definitely settled with him.
He never teared her down
@@lalajones3242 tore *
And he’ll go and find a woman whose weaker who needs all his attention
Yandy praised mendeecees he could do no wrong in her eyes the way she would talk about him on LHH , she protected his name at all cost , he needs to appreciate her way more
@@Hi.Im.Lovely Yeah she praised him while tearing down his other children’s mothers.
Mendeecees has a lot of issues he first needs to deal with his MOTHER.... PERIOD
Facts!
Yep, i totally agree
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 his issues r deep rooted from his Mom! As a Mother u r to Nuture, Protect etc... She wasn't there to do those things..Ppl must heal certain wounds before moving further... It creates chaos.... Yandy is asking for some things that he clearly can't deliver, because he doesn't know HOW.... PERIOD ✌🏾
He acts just like his mother when he gets called out about something
@@anitarobbins3486 yeah, I don't understand all those abbreviations
He’s a problem taking corrective criticism and he doesn’t communicate well
He has a broken Mama and Yandy can't fix a broken man
Not at all, Mendeecee is not the man i thought he was😒but then, none of the tv couples i use to hold in high esteem are😒😒🤦♀️
Yandy is glitz and glam, it's all cosmetics.
Mendece down to earth, simple, not pretentious. He is what you see is what you get.
He likes the lifestyle that comes with Yandy. One thing he is his own man.
*constructive
That's actually constructive criticism and it's not constructive criticism
I will never in my life “hold down” someone in jail. This is what she gets in return?
That’s the same thing I was thinking. Yandy is fake
That’s what she get
The way she dragged the other baby’s mothers as if SHE wasn’t also the side chick.
Same I well not hold u down
Exactlyyyyyy neverrrrrrr
He don’t want her like she wants him. she is in love with HIM!
@@canishalashaetv I agree with you on this... I personally think that she's just trying to keep their family together for the kids sake & she doesn't want to give the other baby mamas any satisfaction of doubt about their supposedly marriage... She's over him & instead of just walking away, she's going to make it seems as if he pushed her away so that way she won't look like the bad person... Yandy is a very smart woman & most definitely a strategic thinker... She bought him on this show knowing how he'd look, that way she won't look like "Yandy didn't & wasn't holding him down!"... If the marriage fails, then all babymamas & her enemies especially Chrissy & Kimbella have won by revealing who she truly was from the get go... Because I don't think, I know Yamdy is that snake that everyone acknowledges her to be & if you're truly a person who can read someone, than you'd also know that since watching her on any show she's been on.
Yandy is beautiful and successful and she should want her husband. I hope he gets it together. He got too much female energy around him with all the different mothers of his children.
@@4265kitty they both love each other you can see he loves her bk, they just need to get away together NO kids NO FRIENDS just each other.... Best thing about falling out is making up.....
Candles and ice cream strawberries 🍓😋
Come on guys love you too Xx
@@kizmo1810 I totally agree with you also.
Completely chilllle
Sometimes the same person you sleep next to and support the most are actually jealous and envious of you.
Whew that's deep & you speaking the truth
You are who you attract
@@candice6261 not in every situation. Light attracts darkness and healers attract damaged individuals. Why would anyone be jealous or envious of someone they have supported or is supporting.
Facxxx
Straight talk
She’s outgrown him, and grown in different directions. learn to let people go!
She's a BOSS now and he can't take it. He's jealous cause he use to be the breadwinner
Yes yes yes 🙌🏾 she is a boss now and he isnt on her level
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 YASSSSS 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 Real Talk Sista
@@kendrajohnson6485 I've been in this situation many times, some Men can't take their woman being successful
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 Dats Tru Real Talk 💯
“It feels like they double teamin’ me” Meanwhile at that time Yandy was just sitting there lol
Right...they EXTRA!
She aint stop her. So what u call. It
@@lalajones3242 that’s not double teaming. the coach is saying what she observes in their relationship and since he’s not hearing what he wants he’s being double teamed? Yeah ok.
@@lalajones3242 it’s only double teaming if what was said isn’t the truth , some ppl can’t handle the heat so they call it double teaming to take the attention off of them & put it back on the other person(s), sounds like gaslighting to me 🤷🏽♀️
Quite so not to upset him,
She was so happy speaking on him and he tore her down real fast. This a man that can't stand for his woman to shine or be happy. The man is jealous of his own woman success. Run Yandy u sleeping with the enemy.
He probably teams up and gossips with them other baby mommas..he actin like a frenemie
Oh please. Masculine men dont care. Your single mama lied to y'all
Yup sound like the guy i just left
Same with me X he came from Nothing and it’s my fault that I have a Family that actually celebrates Growth & Success. And we empower each other with Love ❤️ & Encouragment.
WOW U Know Exactly What Your Talking About Facts💯💯💯🙏🏾
Don’t give your all too someone who doesn’t appreciate the hustle
He cheated on her during their relationship and he said he wouldnt hold her down if it was the other way around all while she was getting maced/peppersprayed in the face marching for him. She shouldve been ended that relationship.
🙌👍💯
@@ericatheempress6698 very true ! It’s a whole mess
💯💯, No better words were spoken on this subject, Thank You 💐❤
I don’t know how two females can fight over him🥴
This is a man who has never been held responsible for his actions, his lies and narcissism. Yandy has been an enabler to his lies from the get now that he’s doing it to her, she don’t like it 🤦🏽♀️
Exactly, now she knows how the others feels
It's sad this is your outlook but I respect the difference. However, when anyone is in love they look pass things others will see. We only know what is shown on tv we don't know these people. At the end of the day he married her. Let them live and figure their life out and I hope we all do the same
@@jasminehenry2509 the funny thing is I agree it’s like folks want her to suffer for choosing him yandy more mature than him emotionally sad part he ain’t there and never will be she may have subconsciously enabled him in other ways we nothing about but how the comment was made above yours that’s not what I seen he def jealous because he has women that is financially bigger then him and it makes him insecure 😕 any man that says I want and I’m ok wit my women making more then me is scary 😟 and I’d run if I hear that my point is though his body language say other and that never lies
It’s an observation jeez. Ladies make men the prize all to often, even fight for the man but eventually see what the previous women had to deal with. 😒
@@jasminehenry2509 the way he has treated the Mother’s of his children & his wife is sad.
Yandy is so good at pretending that her relationship is perfect.
It's called delusion. A favored Piscean ♓ past time.
Well said👌
A lot of these men process conversations like 18 yo boys. The lack of comprehension and deep thought that goes into their side of the conversation is startling. The constant defensive viewpoint instead of realizing he’s in a union, a PARTNERship is .. wow.
Men don't understand how to deal with their emotions.
He’s soooo childish, just like Ray J. Unable to take any type of constructive criticism or truth without getting their feelings hurt. He’s also resentful of her success.
@@pink1237480 Y'all can't control your emotions and you are the last person who needs to talk about emotions
A lot of men are stuck at “trauma ages” also.
@@mashaya8 true.
Yandy should have never gotten married or whatever she did to make a union with a Mendecdee.
🤣🤣🤣
“Or whatever she did to make a Union” 😂
@Tasyaus Norseman Yeah but they married for real real now tho 😁
“Or whatever she did” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
They’re NOT legally married!!
He don't seem like someone worth waiting for.
Ouch🤣
@@NkNk-vg8fc frfr 😅😅
And this was the same Yandy bragging about her marriage to Mendecees’ baby mothers😳😳😳😳sometimes what seems as a loss is a blessing in disguise
I agree.
Yea but that was years ago when she was happy. Things change, thats not karma its life. Them baby mamas were salty. He used them up and threw them to the way side that wasnt her fault.
Say it again
EXACTLY
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯💯💯💯💯
He’s watching Yandy leap ahead while he’s stuck . He’s an emotionally immature ex-con who’s resentful and jealous of his woman
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 SAY THAT!!!!! He stuck on how their relationship/roles were when he went to prison and Yandy has elevated her status by leaps and bounds. He's an emotionally small man who wants her to shrink herself to make himself feel better. Don't EVER dim your light so your partner can shine!!!
Period
You said a mouth full Sis!!!! I agree 100%
What smh
And what does that say about her
poor yandy...sounds like some jealousy on the attention she gets, thats what you signed up for honestly shes a business women in the media
Exactly!! Why not stand by her and support her just like she did for him while he was in prison!!
Exactly!
That’s not wut DC is saying. There is a time & place for everything. And if SHE don’t give him the affection that he needs...U know the rest!
@@batteriesnotincluded4715 💯💯
@@melaninqueen4562 it’s that childish toxic 2000 man mindset where a man can’t be beneath the woman financially. Like it’s 2021 almost 2022 he needs to learn that it’s ok not being the money maker in the house. He needs to voice his jealous and come to terms with it so it can be mended
Everyone has problems in their relationships I wish them nothing but the best.
Amen! Thank You
YEP; TRUE FACTS... 😘🙏😷😁
Exactly.
I love your outlook
Yesss
What is she wrong about? See, this is what happens when people listen to respond and not to understand.
💯💯💯💯💯
Facts steady thinking about what his rebuttal is going to be instead of listening with an open heart... and ears 💓and👂
🤔
Yes, that part! Like, if we as people can receive before responding, we'll have more clarity and understanding then arguing and misunderstanding things that are miniscule.
Yes
I honestly feel like Yandy has outgrown Mendeecees. If she continues to stay with him, she'll eventually loose herself.
“Yandi stay “not knowing this was gunna happen”. Thats her tag line
Exactly
Did Rah Ali lie though? 🤔
@@JH-lb6qf I came here to say the same thing 😭
@@JH-lb6qf literally what popped into my head was her at the reunion chin quivering acting like Yandy 🤣
True 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤷♀️
Aj Johnson still look good 😍😍
Yasss I thought that was her. She still looking like she did in Baby Boy
She is killing it. So gorgeous
BLACK DON'T CRACK #MELANIN
Yessss she does
How is she a personal trainer, life coach and psychologist etc...
Mendeecees fell in love with Yandys bank account......before he fell in love with her....this is why I always say as a woman get with a man who matches your success 💯
Amen!!! And that's true 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Amen 🙏 you so smart u comment made my day much love to you
@@oliviaharrison6584 I agree i truly do think she loves him and he loves her i my honest opinion they both legitimized each other. Because she was a good girl making moves with her management co he was has been able to me legit business people and because most of the artist she managed are street artists mandeecees gave her the street credibility needed to deal with those types.. I guess I am just saying they compliment each other in alot of ways
@@robbsheff5982 yes they definitely compliment each other but an ego can do damage to any relationship on both sides. The problem is people spend too much time focusing on what they are(material stuff, being seen) instead of who they are
That right Queen thank u💛
Now that he cant sell drugs and yandy is making all the money he doesn’t feel like the man anymore. Get over it bra yall a team
😅
Can we all be honest HE DON'T WANNA BE WITH HER STRAIGHT UP 😩
I think I agree 🙁
@@NkNk-vg8fc you can just tell it's all over he's face
@@tisha6951 honestly he looks depressed and emasculated. She’s going to bat way to hard for him not worth it if the love ain’t there
Agree.
His jealous. But needs to realize that she held his ass down. So he needs to wake the hell up.
My intuition is telling me that he doesn't love you like you may think he does sis! 😬 The way he said "Absolutely not" over and over again.... said it all for me.
Karma playing out here
I don't think he wants her anymore🤷♀️ ( after so long prison can change your feelings & sometimes it's "outta sight outta mind" )
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It was strategic on his part bc she had the money and connects so he had to play the game like he really loved her. But look at his exes Yandy was never his type but the most convenient
Well said even tho!!! I was also saying...😏🤨 Nevermind ✌🏿
He’s ugly and she can find better.
@@charityholley9613 🤔👂👂👂
What I’ve noticed in men they’re very deeply secretively rooted with insecurity
Mendeeces doesn’t want to be there and it’s so sad yandy my sister take a hint
I really don't know what she see in him...he seems powerless....weak....not a leader....almost like her son....he's really not on her level...this struggle love relationship....smh...but its her....not me
It’s embarrassing really but oh well sometimes women need to get old to realize the truth
We all seen her about to break down talking about how her soul is tied to this man and hearing it come form the pit of her soul the whole table was moved. She gone wayyyyy past love
Yet, Yandy was trashing Erica and Samantha, bragging about being married to this loser, the marriage was never real from the start, I'm pretty sure he only stayed with Yandy because she had the bread, that was a better situation for him to slip through.
Yup, the way she was crying over her friendship with Safari on the show. I knew something was up with that relationship.
I knew since she came on the show with him 🤣 just watch in one of these clips "their love triangle" all 3 ladies talk about their relationship with him, he just played them
I just commented this! He only picked her because she made the most money and it doesn’t put all the pressure on him to bring bread. That’s it! He’s a hustler and joke. ✌️
Yandy did all that capping against the baby mamas to still be just another woman he don't really care for
Baby boy mama still look good damnnn ❤️🔥❤️🔥
I THOUGHT that was her!!!! Thanks for the conformation!
And just a couple of years ago, Yandy was bragging to the “bitter” baby mamas that she was “married” and now look at her 🤭
Chilllle, Yandi ain't file them papers for a reason
Right lol
She’s fooling herself that he loves her the same way!!
He doesn't love Yandy the way she loves him.. Yandy deserves more... Can't wait till she realize this.. Mendecees body language and facial expressions towards her is louder than his words #wakeupYandy...
And that's what people!!! Don't understand!! It's a different! From wanting to be with someone. And you love them!! So thanks 💖 he never love her!!!
The fact that she spent lonely nights and days and held down they kids is crazy, fought all on national tv with his other baby-mamas and lastly could have cheated but did not! She need to move on from him!!
He said don't de-humanize me. Felt that statement.
Me too.
Such words are unhealthy in a relationship
He wasn’t not being heard by either of them and the mediator isn’t a qualified therapist to work through this with them
He wants her to dim her light yeah we don’t do that !
Girl he needs to put on some shades or up his watts to match hers but she shouldn’t have to dim her light
That's what y'all are going to end being single
@@damienkirksey7026 BOY rephrase that sentence and then try again.
To all ex-cons or just some of them since they're your favorite?
@@damienkirksey7026 single is better than an insecure man. Bye! Dont let the door hit ya on the way out
I never realized how much he acts like a whole female. He really is too emotional.
She thought she was the prize over the baby mommas so hey there you go 🤷🏽♀️
But y'all was trashing Erika and Samantha everyone told yandy then she lied bout the wedding so the relationship seems kind of yandy sided to me 😂😂
Yes! That's the crazy part about all this. They been say this but every body was team Yan. I believe Sam,she had many recipts
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 yep... Erika told her first then Samantha started trying show receipts and a part of me feels like Mona edited a lot of stuff out for Yandy sanity since he was already down
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He wanted to marry her and thought they were married and Samantha and Erica were the same two bitter baby mamas that tried to plant a fake story that yandy cheated to break them up and there were receipts on that! Those bitter betty’s were just jealous and bitter towards Yandy because their baby daddy put her on a pedestal so those two aren’t credible at all! Just two bm haters! Yandy was protecting her bag from those two jealous foes it had nothing to do what they were talking about smh
@@kianidavis2042 ok yandy family that must pulled Samantha hair when she wasn't looking... Who said anything bout yandy... I'm talking bout him... But if she so in her bag why she couldn't get a man to match her bag ? Why did she need them to be her storyline... Where is yandy interesting? You came at me hard all I'm saying is both of them explained to Yandy how he was going to be they knew him longer.... Yandy actually started it all by calling them bitter and acting stank instead of being a wife/step mother... But carry on with fraudulent yandy I'll pass on that one... Be blessed
Mendeecees is really intimidated by his wife, and he's emotionally immature.
Wow🙄
@Maria Garcia agreed
*intimidated
Yandi became a BOSS and Mona Right Hand and Mendeecee can't take Yandi's success. He was a boss when they got together so he acts childish cause he knows he can control her emotionally so he breaks her down
@Maria Garcia it ain’t like thy legally married. Thy love and hip hop married 😁
Once she realizes she’s better than him, she’ll be better off.
That mendeces guy looks like a child. Yandy is a fool. She's a boss, get you a Man not a grown child
And he knows Yandi has out grown him.
Yandy has a sweet heart. She deserves to be loved by someone the same way she gives love. I don’t think Mendecee is that person
The fact he can’t hold himself accountable....
It’s clear he just doesn’t want her. She needs to just cut ties and let him go and be with someone who really loves her. He needs to go heal before he enter back into a relationship.
He wants the lifestyle she brings, that’s it. He doesn’t have to worry about bringing in so much money with her. That’s the only reason why he chose her.
@@2jcward 💯
It’s always good to communicate! But communication can be difficult to accomplish when neither one wants to listen and the other just doesn’t want to deal with it..
At this point- I hope Yandy finds her worth and find some who would truly value her. She's better off without him
These couples have been through a lot and all of them are strong 💕💕💕 yandy did a good job planning this couple retreat it was well needed
He seems girly to me! IJS😏
Yandy been had more attention than him. That’s why he got with her. He used her and now he’s done. Now he can go back to Erika
im not sure why she settled for him, shes a made woman and I feel like she might be happier if she were single
The moment she said “number 1 fan” he shut down from the conversation. I think he’s jealous but also he’s scared what comes next for him.
Yandy needs to wake up .... he don't rock with her the way she rock with him .. I don't think his in love with her I think his comfortable with her ..
If it's not about him, he don't want anything to do with it.
I definetly see these two divorcing. Maybe not soon but give it another year or two. The issue they are having is they both want to lead and the other to support. Mendecess was used to leading the relationship, but when he was locked up Yandy became the lead. And she wants his support but he wants her support too. Either they learn to co lead to fix their issue or all of what they are feeling is going to slowly mutate to just resentment. Just because your role shifts doesnt mean it cant shift again or maybe shift into something better. But they should have known this would have happened. He went in one way and came out expecting things to be how they were. And she expected him to have adjusted to the changes when he couldnt if he wasnt there to grow with her during those 5 years.
Ain’t no marriage to divorce 😂 unless she did file that paperwork
@@alc-i3c True! I forgot about that, i wonder how common law marriage works in this case then?
It's communication.
The ability to articulate verbally thoughts feelings and needs. The ability to listen without becoming defensive and putting the other person on offense.
They never divorcing because she is the bag. She’s even admitted there have been months he doesn’t bring in any money. He’s not going anywhere.
You seem to have the best comment and hit it on the nail. Although sometimes it seems as though she disses him and hurts his feelings publicly. She seems to tear him down in that sense, and it caused him to lose a little respect for her. She just seemed to destroy his love for her.
Yandy was never his type. She was just the money bag and connect to the people he want to be around.
Idk, he doesn’t have desire in his eyes when he looks at her! I don’t think he’s attracted to her. Remember when she did that video fir him he just looked embarrassed 😳
@@NkNk-vg8fc he doesn't have desire in his eyes for anything......something is missing....frfr
@Ms.T Pick Yandy smith dance video for Mendecess 🙁
Holding a man down because he went to prison does not make him want you or need you once he is put of prison to be honest he doesn't want Yandy anymore because she isn't controllable like she was prior to his prison stint she was on her own doing everything without him so she really doesn't need him I don't even think she wants him his mama has did numerous interviews saying Yandy was dating around on the low while he was locked up so🤷🏽♀️ it's there life they gonna live it how they want but living in the public eye doesn't make the relationship any better
Period 🤷🏾♂️‼️
Yandy pumps this man up more than he deserves. I'm not the biggest Yandy fan but seems like she could do better and should have somebody to support her like she did/does him.
It’s so hard to continue to take care of a man who feels insecure about your success as a woman. Tandy look upset but honestly, this is how it’s going to always be.
When he said humanize me, I felt that. You can't take a man's dignity and expect him to sit back idle.
Here y’all go you can’t take nobody dignity this whole pride dignity thing with men and yall make excuses for them is why these niggas act the way they do.
He was a drug dealer and was in jail he hasn’t evolved.And everyone is living off her dime.She was probably paying his child support for all these years as well.And him his momma and them damn baby mommas wouldn’t be on LHH if it wasn’t for Yandy.And none of them have respect for this woman but they sure getting that paper.And this is how he acts.
I doubt she was paying that. She don’t want them bms to have nothing
They said they didn't file for child support... and don't forget Yandy wouldn't be where she is without Jim Jones
Yandy wouldn’t be on L&HH if it wasn’t for Jim Jones, but I doubt he allows her to pay for anything on his behalf. He’s too proud for that. Plus he just got her a Rolls Royce drop top for her birthday. And Erica & Samantha never petitioned for child support.
they both hit the nail on the head. that’s why he was so offended & wanted to leave
He spoke up for himself! That is key to communicating. Some men will just agree and hold resentment so cudos
He is a narcissist if there ever was one I’m telling you
I believe so too.
Most men don't want to go to therapy and then doing it on national television. She should've known.
This is what happens when you don’t express your emotions well, ppl will assume and they could be totally wrong 🤷🏽♀️
I think he's just in it to benefit himself
Its not just that he's broke now, they have kids and he's tied to Yandi's show deal i think or at the very least Yandi has worked his deal wit Mona and Vh1 for the 3 shows they've been on since his release 🤔🤔
He knows Yandy is fake.
THIS!!!
Yandy made herself compete with many women for mendeecees, so she was deeply invested when all he did was show up. I think alot of the things she saw in him were all in her head. But she put herself in a position where she had to win him. Without truly knowing what she won.
Wow. Great insight! This should be pinned. 👏👏👏👏
Its the way all this begun on a very cheerful note (by Mendeecees making a light moment, talmbout how he holds the door) then for him to kill the whole vibe that got me 😂🤣🤣🤣😂
And her face when he did lolol
Word i peep that they were happy but he switched the mood real quick lol
I am no expert buttttt maybe because they didn’t have a chance to grow together, it put a damper on tings. Plus this was filmed not too long after he got out. They didn’t try to relearn each other all over again before hopping on TV. I think individual counseling and marriage counseling is best. Mendecees got some stuff to work on as a human being before he can even think about a congratulations. And Yandy is just all around irritated with him for leaving her and so even if he is trying, she’ll never see it as enough.
Absolutely correct 💯👏🏼
Yandy expects so much from mendecces as she should but he just ain't having it he's not coming out his zone for no one ....smh
If it's broke, don't continue to fix it. Sometimes you have to walk away, even when you love someone so much. If they're not giving you the same energy back in return, it's time to let that individual go.
I feel her success emasculated him and his circumstances being incarcerated worsened that as he COULDNT and DIDNT have the choice to help his lady grow
I wish these guys all the best. They are a beautiful version of #blacklove #blackpower. And I hope for nothing but beautiful things for these two beautiful people
He left a long time ago, Yandy is in denial
She's a bad couples therapist. She's not supposed to Target someone issue she was supposed to let them discuss the target issues coach them to figure it out themselves. She's not supposed to be the problem solver
I don’t feel for them lol she knew what it was before she inserted herself, he was in a full on relationship with his other Bm’s. 😂
True
Exactly
I think that alot of Guys dont express their feelings because some women only hear negative.. If they say you look nice you will say thats all?. EXPRESSION IS INDIVIUALITY!! You cant control the way anyone expreses themself.
Bingo, nothing is ever enough ..what does yandy have to work on ?
Agreed! I don’t think it’s jealousy, but he feels abandoned or pushed to the side.
Thank u! Plus, what do she want the man to do, give her his soul because she waited and supported him while down smh. Why look for a medal for being righteous?
That’s why I try my absolute best from getting in positions where I really need someone, because they’ll feel like u owe them special praises, and will hold it over ur head forever.
She’s right tho, he see how arrogant she’s getting, so he’s not going to give her the praise she wants. He’ll end up like Waka, she’ll fall out of love with him.
I learned in my last relationship, u can’t love a person more than they love themselves, because it’ll ruin them.
Absolutely, I don't sense jealousy. He's adjusting to this new role
My husband might be extremely happy for me but he doesn't express it the same way I will. You have to learn your partner. They been together a while so she needs to learn that.
That’s karma for how she made fun of his baby mommas 💯
He's just a cute face to match hers. He lacks confidence and is clearly intimidated by her.
I really believe him when he said he would not have help her down if she went to prison now!
She probably said come on back let’s get this check
Mendeecee want yandy to do what he say he figured she don’t need him
I feel like he don’t really want to be there but don’t want to initiate it 🤷🏽♀️
Something off about him..I understand childhood trauma but its something else
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I just realized who AJ Johnson was.....this is my house Jodi...if I want a man running up thru here🤣🤣
I could imagine Yandys unhappy with him. Pray they might not stay together because he doesn't get it!
She ain't going nowhere,at least not for a while she's not ready yet
Yandy, you still have time. Leave this Dusty and get a real man.
she aint going nowhere, but she does realize she settled.
Is that Jody mama? He’s using her and he got someone on the side....I bet the min she cut her money from he will be out
Papoose is the black boss that care and respect his woman most, on all reality shows. Mendes will never be it yandy. Just accept him for who he is.
After he heals from his mom he might be a great husband. Yandy too old not to have Discernment & Intuition.🔥❤️
The beat comment! 100%
*best
Believe me. There are A LOT of "adults " without discernment, intuition and let's throw in maturity. Both of them are lacking these things in their own ways.
It's called willful ignorance
For the record... I thoroughly enjoyed this series! I need more shows like this 👏🏾
If he was on his feet better I'm sure he would walk away, but right now she is the bread holder, and he is resentful.
In general, damaged plus damaged equals multiplied issues.
AJ Johnson (Jody mama ) is not married IN FACT ! .I wouldn’t listen to that woman at all .She is really private about her life in general I can’t stand women like her smh !
She definitely hit a nerve. Mendeecees has some issues to work through. He isn’t fully emotionally available in their relationship. He seems a tad insecure and he doesn’t love Yandy in the way I think she needs. She better be careful putting her relationship out here on TV for scrutiny. I do want them to work out.
Yandy act like she's entitled to be treated a certain way because she's been there for him when he was locked up. Which yes she does but at the same time she forgets all the drama she caused with his kids mom's while he was away and throwing one mom out with her child . That all takes a toll on a person after awhile.
Yandy is getting her karma now
Agreed, I’ve noticed throughout the years that Yandy is very good at playing the victim. She’s a very dangerous person in my opinion.
@@kordz78 Yaaassss !!!