How to Get Over a Guy You Never Dated (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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How is it you can be made so unhappy by someone you’re not even dating?
How can you fall into the trap of pursuing someone who isn’t really in love with you?
Easy.
Even if all of our friends and family know we are pursuing the wrong thing, we’ll hold onto hope because we live for the “maybe.”
“Maybe he’ll come around. Maybe he secretly does love me. Maybe he’ll change his feelings.”
We feed on the tiniest scraps of attention - a text, a conversation, some kind words and affection he gives before going cold and pulling away again.
But this is a recipe for misery.
I don’t want you to build on what could maybe happen in an imaginary future, I want you to invest in an amazing guy who is serious about you right now.
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Just remember, you fell in love with the idea of being with this person. Not the person individually.
This just slapped me in the face because its true
That's so true
This boy who I like.... Asked me but it was a dare.....
What I’m going through right now at the moment.. this comment slapped me right in the face!!
You’re in love with the person that you created in your head. Ariana grande
I cried when she said “since the beginning”...I literally cried so hard...God bless her...Why we are all like this....We can do better than this ladies. Don’t be afraid to be alone, you will be found, you will find the love you deserve.
Me too...was with my ex for 4 years and finally had the courage to break up this year.
stephwart Congratulations.... what strength and courage that took...good for you!! I hope you meet the perfect guy when you're ready...Wish me luck,...I've been trying to gather my courage, too...
Wrong, don't give false hope. You DON'T know that, you don't know the women! You don't KNOW ME. Life isn't so perfect, life is NOT fair. Not everybody finds someone.
@wally121000 Blame the victim? Really? Just awful! WRONG. There is no nice guy with flowers! Not our fault, no other options! Also, just because he is a "nice guy" does NOT mean a woman has to like him! Women learn men don't like us. If a "nice guy" thinks a woman owes him a date or sex because he is a "nice guy" then HE NOT A NICE GUY! He might be worse then the bad boys.
"you will be found, you will find the love you deserve" like hell you will. you don't approach guys, you are passive, very few women develop the skill to interest and keep a man interested, you can only wait for luck to solve your problems. and luck rarely solve people problems.
Literally laughed out loud when I read the title bc uh way too relevant
Marley T same! Hahahaha Ive fallen in love with guys I didnt actually date but I made it al up in mind 🤦🏻♀️
Actually felt like crap today too until I saw this and I cheered up. I was in the same situation as well - in fact I never met the guy it was just all online contact which absolutely destroyed me
Seriously though 😭🤦🏾♀️
Same. It's so painfully shitty even though you know it's bad.
@@at5286 same here 😔
Bro I clicked so fast cause I'm in this situation and its killing me
ALSO THX FOR 1000 LIKES WTH
Latasha Boatner me too
Me too!
Same! It's so freaking heart wrenching.... 💔
Same! 2 years mostly texting.. he and I connected so well, it sucks!
Me toooooooo
For all the ones saying that Matthew didn't actually reply to the first question: a shift in mindset is exactly what you need. Instead of obsessing over an ideal, we have to keep in mind that we need a real man that wants to be with us and deserves us. Being obsessed with a guy that doesn't reciprocate our feelings is like being drugged, we need a cold turkey and we need to focus on becoming a better person and being really happy, cause we deserve it. We shouldn't settle for less.
Matt basically told the girl to realize how she's putting herself in a bad situation by liking someone who knows that she likes him but doesn't like her back.
I spent 9 to 10 years obsessing over a guy who only felt pitty for me. NINE TO TEN YEARS. And wasn't until this weekend that it hit me that I was inside a loop. I feel like the worst human being for having done this to myself.
@@kiks399 i am a guy and i am feeling this way right now over a woman. we had something mutual but it never came to fruition because of many factors...but at the end of the day she stopped reciprocating. at this moment, i am in the same boat. it has not been as long as yours, only 2 and 1/2 months but i definitely understand that loop u are talking about. i am stuck liking them while they no longer feel the same and it makes one feel trapped and crazy. i feel u deserve better than that and glad it finally hit u. i dont think i have overcome that yet.
Easy answer: I cant get excited about someone who isnt equally excited about me. Those days for me are over and I know I'm going to be unhappy in the long run.
Why would u be unhappy?
@@manijaan5276because you don’t know them that well (presumably). But if someone started to date a person that they (fell in the love with the idea of) and they end up being nothing like you fantasized, you’re probably gonna be very disappointed
It’s so pathetic! I am so pathetic.
I see this guy every week. I obsess about him so much based on WHAT?! He is giving me NOTHING! And I lose sleep over him... it’s so pathetic. I know in my head what I have to do. I am taking the action. But it’s not easy to get my heart to agree. I guess that part will catch up. But until then, my stomach goes in nuts all he has to do is smile at me and i feel all kinds of butterflies. Silly.
I think it’s easier for guys to be practical about their feelings. It’s really not easy to not feel something just because you know it’s what you need to do.
Hey relax, don't be so hard on yourself, of course you will get over this! Untill then try like really to focus on any one of your hobbies or interests.😊 @VioletDaisy
You're not pathetic, you're a romantic. I've been there too but the resilience builds. Stay strong and never ever give more than you get !!
Zeal Thakkar thanks 😊
Belinda S thanks 😘
I spent four years of my life with the guy that didn't want me but treated me in a special way. I was his emotional support and even if I thought I was over it, I was still his housemate and I didn't wanted to meet other guys. When I left that house and he found a girlfriend, removing me even from his friends list because he didn't want to make her jealous, I slowly realized: I allowed him to do all of that. I was not in love, I was just obsessed with him. I decided to work on my weak points and become a better person. Now I was in the same position with a guy, after one month, but since now I finally love myself I know that I don't want to fall for an ideal, that I deserve a man that wants all of me, and that I won't settle for less. And the only thing to do is to put some space and boundaries between us. We will be friends (but only friends) since both of us are good people, but first I need some "me time" and to distance myself. The point is: remove yourself from this situation. Observe your thoughts from an objective point of view. Write down what you want to do in order to improve. Write down the characteristics that the right man for you should have. And don't forget that you don't want to be obsessed and dependent from anyone. You deserve someone who would do its best to be your partner, your best friend.
I think that the most hurtful part is the blaming. We blame ourselves for being so blind, or for giving too much, or for not have paid attention enough to the red flags. But the truth is that you have to life these experiences if you really want a partner. I don't think that loving someone and wanting to be loved in return is bad at all. Even be attached to someone who is showing signs of not interested is something you have to whip yourself. We made mistakes. It's ok. Don't worry. Keep trying, practice makes the master. Don't blame yourself for wanting a real connection and didn't get it. The more you see what you don't like, the closest you are to find what you do like. And if never happens to be a true love, don't worry. You can have a happy life without a romantic partner. Your goal should be always be happy, not to be in love.
Thank you for this 🥺🥺
Beautifully said! 🥺 Thank You for this. I really NEEDED this!
thank u so much this made me feel so much better
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I swear one of the best parts of these videos is hearing that I’m not alone. I needed to hear that second question. I just hope when it is all said and done, the waiting and learning to move on, and all the hard lonely weeks are over, I can look back and smile and say, “Thank God all that happened, because now I’m standing exactly where I want to be.”
“I didn’t want to be alone” ~ My heart went out to the lady. 💕 All of us can relate with that. I wish none of us have to be with someone who’s not good for us. Love Mathew Hussey for knocking sense into each one of us lol and treating emotional matters in a light hearted manner. The way you’re kind and empathetic towards everyone Mathew, melts my heart. ❤️
The problem is people ARE staying with someone because they don't want to be alone. Hell, I needed 3 FREAKIN' YEARS to realize someone was not right for me (and first boyfriend too). And now, different experience, the title. Well, yeah, I did fall in love with the IDEAL of being in love again because I romanticized him. At least he was really nice about it when I told him the truth.
I really admire that lady for her honesty. It’s so hard to admit to yourself that you’ve made a mistake when you truly love someone when deep down you know it’s not working, and to say that out loud in a room full of strangers was very brave 👏
What a pretty smart young woman and she's afraid to be alone... Hell
I wasted THREE years! I got her, I really got her. Now few years later, still single, I'm like NEVER AGAIN. I do want to be with someone eventually (I even got a crush for the past months that's why I'm here) but it's like, I have my priorities and having a man isn't one anymore.
I lost 8 months but it's okay. At least I made it clear. I was the one who saved myself from the mess because if I hadn't do it he probably wouldn't
The girl's honesty was surprising and touching. We know the answers, know your self worth, don't get trapped in situation that will make you feel miserable.
It hurt so much to be in love with someone who doesn't really about you. But we need to accept the reality. Pray and trust God for that compatible partner.
The second girl said the relationship was so great for 4 months but when she answered Matthew's question about when she knew it was wrong, she said: "right away." If we all listened to our intuition we would save ourselves so much heartbreak. She also admitted she was "afraid of being alone," it is much harder being lonely in a relationship than it is not being in one at all. Great video Matthew! xo
I came to realize that every time I’m interested in someone they end up making me feel self conscious (with their attitude towards me or their behavior with other women...). And instead of walking away, I sometimes get obsessed with them.
The ONE main thing that EVERYONE
here needs to start with is: HONOR YOURSELF & YOUR TRUE FEELINGS.
THAT IS YOUR TRUTH & NOT ANYONE elses. We have to STOP
BLAMING & SHAMING ourselves
for BEING HUMAN & COMMEND
YOURSELF for BEING VULNERABLE & LOVING & FEELING STRONG PASSIONATE LOVE for SOMEONE ELSE. THAT is a BEAUTIFUL THING:)
This actually happened to me yesterday. I found out the guy i've been talking to for a month went out on a date with another girl. It broke my heart but at the same time I feel like I can't say anything about it cause we never dated.
Year later but... I know that feeling. I've always been that kind of girl. Wondering if I can feel that way, ask about something or say that I don't like it? Do I have a right to say it? And than crying why it's happen to me again... And the answer is YES. Yes, You can Say what you feel, what is hurting you. Always. So do not make my mistakes- take care of yourself :) say what is not right for you. It's hard to show your heart and emotions but it's worth it. Better to know what other person think.
(sorry for mistakes, English is not my language:))
My story too
"I can't get excited about someone who is not excited about me"
That's what I've learned from you over the years and I am very grateful for that and yes your picture is right, people around the globe get helped by the content you share! I hope one day I could attend one of your seminars live or do the 5 day retreat
from your 5-year follower, sending you much love from Egypt 💕
Just because love isn't reciprocated doesn't mean, that you're obsessed with an ideal. People can fall in love with their best friend or someone they grew up with, already being aware of all their flaws and loving them anyways.
For me personally the only way out has been to give in completely, love them, wish them joy and happiness but then focus on myself, forgive myself for not being adequate, for not having reacted perfectly in all the "what if..."-situations and eventually picture myself in the same state of peace and happiness that I've wished unto them.
Because in the end, all the feelings that you want others to install in you, are born in your own mind.
You shouldn't "stop loving someone" and there's a good chance you can't. Feeling should not be suppressed.
Just realise that your love for someone is not tied to the question of whether you are with them or wether they are good for you.
"because I didn't want to be alone" and this right here is part of the problem as to why men are getting away with all this bad behaviour. Ladies it is very self empowering to lean in to the lonliness, and learn to love your own company. Nurture your friendships as that is what women want mostly emotional nourishment and you won't get that from men as men and women are built differently.
AMEN SISTER!
I don't know about people of the US, but in Latin America, female friends tend to judge other women on whether they don't have a boyfriend. I think that someone who does not respect you from your decisions on being alone cannot be your friend.
Gabriela Sofia I agree completely! It's just sad that some women think their only value lies on whether they have a man (or a woman, I don't judge) on their side and kids!
Btw, I spoke to the guy, I mentioned few months ago, again yesterday. He is still very nice about it and says we will try to not make things awkward if we meet again in life. But I do think it will be at least a bit awkward, I mean, I did love him but he didn't reciprocate my feelings.
I am at a point in life now where I refuse to be mistreated by a guy. Those days are done and over with. I would rather be single and live my life to the fullest rather than staying with a man who doesn't value me. Been there. Done that. No more.
fully fully fully agree. wish I could like this comment 100 times !
"I do not want to be alone." This should NEVER be the mindset when you go out to meet someone who is supposed to be an addition is your already GOOD life!
Wow.. I can relate to that.. I was communicating with this guy for 4 months.. he was great but things just went the wrong way... I felt so down... I think it is time to let go... and stop hurting myself
@Rose M same here. bc I never got an answer I cannot make peace with it and cant let go..was I so wrong about him?
Same except i'm the guy. She wanted all these things. It was great in the beginning but then she stopped texting and talking and when i asked her why she never texts me she would say it's because of my brain cancer that she survived. To make things worse i would see her respond in seconds to my best friend. Which is her former best friend and she would get jealous when i would hangout with my best friend and she would say i hurt her but all i wanted was her and to talk and love her and then one day without warning literally the first text in like. Months she says. We should break up. She never gave any explanation to why she just said i hurt her and that she wasn't good enough. Sadly i never hurt her. her past relationships and her overreacting did. I hurt when she broke up because i bever knew that anything was wrong. She never said anything but oh well. One thing to always remember is that life will get better csadly some people aren't ready for love and don't know how to love
@Rose M right.
@@tonywalker1954 This is what I called miscommunication, which happened to me and my ex. I think your girl is hurt because of her own jealousy over you and your best friend. In her mind she doesn't wanna feel like that anymore, that's why she thinks that breaking up with you is the way out (kind of an immature action actually). I used to think like her in my younger years because I was childish, but as I grew up I learn to think more mature. What you can do now is text her, expressing how you feel. Reassure that she doesn't need to worry about your best friend because all you want is her and to love her only... I wish my ex would express himself to me. We have misunderstandings because no one is willing to express and let the other person know their true feelings. That's why I learned my lesson, so now I will always let the person know how I feel.. I show them lots of love and affections to reassure their mind and heart.
@@ataraxia7949 i. Did tell her my feelings. I told her everything. I told her exactly how i felt and that i wanted to be with her and only her and. Like you said. She let her jealously get in the way and. After i told her and explained to her that i was being a good friend to my best friend. She just went Silent and never texted me for about a month and then she texted me and said that she wanted to break up. I feel sad for her that she felt so unworthy of my love. But it's been months now. I don't text her or contact her. But I'll never forget her last words. I will. Send a song. In a sepreate comment. And it will describe how she felt. SADLY
The title called out all of us 🙃🙃🙃
Reality is the best medicine.
The days of me being able to get excited about someone who's not excited about me are over . Cant find the energy for someone who doesn't want me . We know that this person will make us unhappy .
He’s 100% right about not finding uninterested women attractive. It’s one of about 10 rules I’ve followed for most of my dating life and it’ll spare a lotta heart break. Eventually, you stop even noticing those who don’t notice you back. It’s a small mercy and a blessing, try it.
We romanticized shit all the time! But I got so tired of his shit I ended it 2 months ago and he hasn't tried to contact me soo I'm not important to him so why am I thinking of him?
No joke. It is actually the hardest thing to get over😔
This advice has really turned my mood around. Thankyou so much. “Why be excited about someone who isn’t excited about you?”
After a hearbreaking divorce six years ago I was left to raise my 2 boys alone with minimum salary and truly lost in my feelings. I got a full scholarship at the University studying Psychology, on my last year to get my degree now and the intimate / relationship and other experiences I gained helped me see who it is I am and who I want to be with. I too feel like my calling is to help people through my work. Relationships is my main interest and this is where I am focusing for my Master's degree. My first born is in University studying to become a Doctor and my second boy has found joy in art. My work as a piano teacher took off again thank God. So I am very proud for pulling it off. I must say I have been following you from your first days and you created a safe space for me knowing that others are also facing such issues and there is a way out! Blessings!!!
i clicked soooo fast on this because im also in this stuation i kept saying that i dont love him anymore but my heart says i still love him.I can't say that i moved on because we never dated
:-(
Lady, Lady ikr😩
He has better options.
What kind of men will want a love beggar ? Laybe you are the 'nice' girl for him.
Move on and go improves yourself to know what it takes.
For me the worst thing is not knowing for sure if it will never become something. Every time I get over him, he shows back up in my life in a fleeting manner, and then I'm back to scratch. It's been this way since we first lost contact..
I just love how he says, “..cause I’ll help build you back up..” That’s really sweet and helpful because some of us really need that. Bless his heart, for sure good karma and blessings his way😇🙏🏽
My fiancé broke up with me in the most cruel manner 4 months ago. I knew the relationship had changed for the worst a year prior, but I kept holding on to the good times, and the “potential” that never occurred outside my head. It’s so painful to love someone and to know they don’t love you back in return.
TheTyra1976 I’ve been there. Stay strong, sending you light
Shar Burc - thank you. I wish you light and happiness as well.
Yes thank you for your words. I know exactly what you mean. You love them inside and have such strong yearnings to be with them but deep in your mind you know why it is bad for you but you think of all the good you wanted from that person to fill your needs.
TheTyra1976 I'm so sorry you're going through this pain now, but as someone whose fiance did not break up with them, and I didn't have the courage to do it because I didn't want to hurt his feelings, (oh, THE IRONY) all I can say is I wish he had broken up with me because our marriage was a disaster.
I know you're in pain right now, but try to think of yourself as one of the lucky ones who escaped.
Now you are free to find your true self, and your true love. I hope you do. Best Wishes, light, and love 💕
I'm glad you figured it out before you married him. It still sucks though.
I love how all of Matt’s advice can be interpreted into anything you do in life
The one that got away is always perfect because you never really know them. You never see their dark side 4 months in so they are frozen in your mind on a pedestal no real person can ever live up to. I love that he put these two questions together.
I woke this morning to this video announcement on my iPhone. I opened the link and listened to EXACTLY what i needed to hear. I’ve had a massive crush on a guy i work with for 21 months. Crazy, I know. We have never dated, just a dinner here and there, texting for months then nothing, flowers but then explained it was just a friendly gesture,... my emotions about him are so up and down all the time... it’s crazy! I have not dated anyone since I fell for him. And I’m 48 . In this video I heard, “The days of being excited about someone who isn’t excited about me are over.” Love, love, love!!! Applying today! You’re awesome and thank you for you!!
Love the passion he has for his ability to help and have such compassion in his work you can see the drive when he is speaking and shows how much care he has within.
This happened to me - I obsessed over someone when I was very vulnerable emotionally (death in family and unemployment) and it took me a lot longer than normal to stop lying to myself and admit that this guy didn’t feel the same way I did. I ended up just telling him knowing I would get rejected and never looked back. It took a couple of months before I stopped feeling hurt and to this day I still feel a twinge here and there, but I am glad I walked away and put a stop to this nonsense. Now I have a great job and feeling pretty good about myself!
Now my question is, how do I meet people? I have met some people (not enough though) and what do I do with guys who are coming on a bit too strong and I feel pressured? I am still scared of being alone but at the same time I am independent and don’t want to settle...
Hey, I resonate with this a lot and wanted to ask how you are feeling his x
Same! I know you might not see this, but I’m wondering how you are doing now? ❤️
I was in the same situation, only it was with a girl. Made even more difficult we had been friends for years (and we still are). But I eventually moved on and asked someone else out which worked surprisingly well. Got a third date this monday
Amazing! Just wondering if you ended up in a relationship with the second girl? ❤️
I hate the fact that i spend my youth crushing on guys i could never have,fantasizing about things i could never live while people are out there having meaningful relationships and learning and growing.im just so tired of it.
But sometimes you're in love with someone you're friends with for a long time, so you dont actually right away know that they dont like you back, you keep wondering if they do or dont, or if they could develop the feeling overtime like it happened with us, so youre getting mixed signals all the time because him treating you nice could just be friendship or could be something else
And getting over that doubt is so difficult
Thank you for this. Just wondering how you’re doing now? ❤️
"I really wanna date my crush live in person" and we will be in love with each other that lasts cause I believe it"💎✝💎
Your work has helped me so much. You helped me find reasons to love myself again, and in turn finding me a partner who was actually good for me, unlike anyone I’ve ever dated before, who were all assholes. Thank you so much, Matthew. You’ve really changed my life for the better.
I still dont know how do I get over someone I never dated.
I've had this happen way too many times. I once was in love with a guy for 2 years, after we had had a fling on and off, met his family, etc. The guy just kept me there, didn't let go, but wouldn't be with me either, now I'm trying to get over a guy I don't even know who I've been talking to for almost 3 months every day, but this past 2 weeks I've just seen I'm way more into him than he is into me. So... Here I am again. Only thing is, now it doesn't take me that long to finally drop it. But it hurts and it sucks.
U have no idea how i needed this vid Matt...been in this situation for over 2 years,it's absolutely ridiculous.
Thank God that I found this human being...you are already helping me to feel better after my break up! So far I been watching like 8 videos and everything you say is amazing! Thank you..thank you!🙏 you are changed my perspective in all about.! ❤
It hits too close home for me.
I have been crushing on this guy for 5 YEARS NOW, and I can't let go because he seems so similar to me in music/movie/book tastes and is genuinely a nice guy.
We were kinda friends for a short time of period but now we don't even text to each other for Christmas. I want to get over him, but I dream about him every month and I meet him (and his girlfriend) at every concert I go, so yeah, it's hard.
When I was young (well, now I am 30, but not in my 20s anymore 😅), I genuinely thought that having a lot of things in common was incredible. Hundreds of dates after, I realized that there are really a lot of people that have the same things in common with me, and they are smart too. What matters are values and chemistry. And also, if he wants to stay by your side as a partner. If he doesn't, move on. And the last thing that I can say is that the right guy at the wrong moment isn't really the right guy. Good luck!
@@b.t.7454 this is true because when it comes down to it. You can share/or not share the same taste in music/movies/books/interest and still have your relationship with the person you're in work out. It's the shared values that is important at the end of the day or for long term relationship. I think as we all become older (and maybe through some dating experience) we learn that this is true. Find someone with similar values. The other similarities are just added extra or bonuses. :)
Wow this totally spoke to me!!!! Not getting excited about someone who doesn’t get excited about you. Wise words!
I went to your live event in London last June, and broke up with my boyfriend from 3.5 years a month later. It was the best thing I could have possibly done for myself. Thank you, Matt!
Of all of the hundreds of your TH-cam videos I have watched I love this one the most ... how beautiful of you that you can offer to help someone pull themselves together after a breakup ... no matter what the relationship is ... god bless you ... you have been an incredible source of inspiration and knowledge to me xxx
Matthew you are so generous and kind to help out women all over the world! I love to listen your advices and your opinions! Keep up the good work! Thank you for your effort!
Wow!!! I needed this video! I’ve been in an on and off situation over a year. I’m so glad to hear that girls honesty, because, yes I knew it was wrong from the beginning and I’m afraid of being alone. The hard part for me is not to answer his phone calls or texts. I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one in this situation. I wish there were more guys out there willing to commit and give me the love I deserve.
I love this girls honesty. I think many have known it was wrong for a long time without wanting to admit it.
I love these Q & A videos. I love seeing these magnificent women being vulnerable and honest. And, appreciate the honesty and respect you give back. I think it says a lot that you and your team are able to create an environment that allows for such an exchange at you live events.
What a wonderful energy that woman has! I wish her all the love in the world and to keep laughing at life! The same goes to all of you! 💜💜💜
Hi Matthew I'm one of your Oct retreat people. I'm so inspired by you that you are loving your life and what you are doing for people. It's so good! Hugs!!!!!!
Thank you Matthew for making a difference in this world - one single advice at a time ❤️
Great as usual. You are the best Matthew! Something "clicked" in me a few weeks ago. Stuff that I would have tolerated before, like the woman who dated the guy for 1 year 3 months (me 5 years ago) I don't tolerate anymore. It is so refreshing and feels
good to have boundaries. I am so glad you are here giving advice on a weekly basis. Thanks!
You never answered the question
he is saying go out and date other people until you find someone who is super
into you, instead of focusing on someone who is not
She answered it herself... She knew from the beginning n she only stayed cause she didn't want to be alone
No. This is plup. Very disappointing, Matthew. I've watched a lot of his other videos where he really brings content to people. This was worthless for anyone that wasn't there. Shameful.
@@jaredcarwilliams I don't agree that it was worthless. They only revealed snippets of the entire program. There may be a plan to sell (or release for free) the full video later. It's a bit too soon to judge based on just this snippet. Don't you think? 🙂
@@oluchiigbokwe2946 what does that mean? "Too soon." It's a video...
This is the main question I've asked myself. Thank you for this video 💞
Couldn’t have come at a better time
He doesn't like me the way I do.
This is the last time that I will cry. 😭
Great message as usual, this is really helpful, exactly what I needed in this exact moment. Thanks for all the support that you give us!
Matthew I’m very proud of your journey and progress. I remember some of those earlier videos. I wish you and your team all the best, thank you for the great advice.
I have given so much of my heart to people that didn't deserve it because I didn't wanna be alone..
Thank You Matthew for making such a MASSIVE difference in our lives...iv used ur techniques on guys who dont invest and it helps me everyday!!! God bless ur heart
1:08 to 1:51. To me this is the most important part of the video. These are really good affirmations. I listened to that part about 20 times so it can set in. Best advice!! Stay strong and blessed everyone.
This is so unbelievably helpful and I can't begin to explain how greatfull I am for all your content and the effort you put in for all of us. THANK YOU MATTHEW ❤ YOU HAVE HELPED ME SO MUCH
she was so honest
When she said "I been with him because I was afraid of being alone" it hit me hard.
I've struggled a lot in the past I can feel her pain, may god bless her and everyone who reads this comment.
Remember, you're the love you'll ever need in your life. Take care of yourself.
This video just made me realize why I'm stuck trying to get over a guy I'm not dating. It's because I'm into him for the wrong reason. I'm interested in him because I share the experience that he is going through now which makes him emotionally bankrupt and incapable of even putting effort into a relationship. I also respect that he told me this once he realized he wasn't ready. I also desire him because I am also not ready for a relationship. All of the wrong reasons to be romantically interested in him right now!!! But all the right reasons to want to be friends! I just have to change my mindset, I only started seriously thinking of him as serious long-term relationship potential when my friend told me how much he liked me and asked about me. I knew I wasnt being smart going there mentally without knowing him better! Then a few days later she did a complete 180 and said she was afraid he would hurt me. I started liking him romantically for the wrong reasons and I remain liking him romantically (but not pursuing) for the wrong reasons. Good gravy atleast i answered that question I've been asking myself for the last week.
Hahaha i was in a situation like this just a month ago, and i had to deal with it for a year+, but watching your videos helped me get through it and i even faced him telling him that " i want someone who is a 100% sure about being with me" because he's really unsure about his feelings and it just feels like he wants to keep me arround, that's why i was in this situation for a long time, but also because i was scared to leave, and now i'm proud of myself that i was able to stop it and i feel so free and ready to embrace the world hahahah SO THANK YOU FOR SHARING THESE WITH US ON TH-cam
He is my best friend for two years now, we flirt , but nothing serious... I know I should end the friendship cause is really hurtfull not to be with him... sooo...
I am waiting impatiently for you to answer the second lady. Everything she spoke, it's me. That's exactly me. I relate 100% with her. That's exactly what I've been going through. Awaiting for your advice. And lots of love to you Matt for helping us through rough times. Please come to India soon.
I have been in love for the first time ever, its really scary and we have never even dated, I didnt even know that happened I just thought I was weird. Loved this video so much , thank you
Matthew seriously you gave me positive energy and im thank for it
You are so wonderful human being who is helping woman around the world be the best they can be and brave to be it. Bless you
This is EXACTLY what I needed! Thank you!
I am from Germany and found this video randomly. I was really embarrassed by the way some guys treat women. There is this adorable woman close to tears recognizing she made a mistake for over a year and I am sitting hear full of confidence doing it better. All the best to that young lady.
She asked all the right questions!!! Im definitely in the same situation and feel so dumb I think maybe just being alone is the only answer.
You're an angel Matthew. Love your work.
Thank you Matthew u have helped me a lot during my breakups u have become my favourite coach you and coach Natalie I hope I will meet you one day
You're the best, u don't have idea how much my life is change since I listening u! 💜💜
It feels right because the world needs this!!!
Wow this is incredible, I needed this as usual. ❤️ Thank you Matthew!
Matt, awesome job like always. I can honestly tell you thanks for everything you do, I resently found love again and I am so happy.
Ive learnt that admitting the truth to yourself is better Finding a way to deal with the problem from the roots .Learning to get comfortable being alone.I know its hard and ive been in this too but im goint to begin this journey of getting my shit together and learning to be alone .Theres so much more in this life and i believe one day love will come along
Yes but if you have been alone for six years. There comes a pint where you want to pursue someone. Or have someone pursue you. There is alone and then there is alone.
What I am currently going through. Me and this guy are ‘talking’ according to him. I thought we were ‘dating’ since we’re only seeing each other and have been for the last 3 months. But I see the signs already where he isn’t putting as much effort as I am. I want to be with him but he’s not showing me he wants to be with me as much as I want to be with him. I am torn because I do like him but don’t want to beg someone to be with me and give me the time and attention, I know I deserve. 😕
"i was putting alot effort and that seemed to scare him away for me"dumbest thing I ever read lol. Maybe hes just not interested in something serious or something serious with you. Since youre moving to the "serious phase" too fast which he dont want to be in or want to be in with you, he moved away slowly. Female brains smh.
I think that putting some distance is the right thing to do. Either you will be able to get over him, or he will realize that he really wants you. But don't expect anything, focus on yourself now.
@wally121000 you are you, others might be different and honestly if they don't even have the opportunity to miss a woman because she was ALWAYS there (sometimes we forget to mind our own business and tend to be always available, it is a mistake but it happens) distance might help. I saw it happen with some of my friends in their 30s, they were not really thinking about having a relationship since they broke up a few months later. The point is, this has just a narrow % of possibilities to happen, but in any case the only thing that she has to do to be objective and stop obsessing over him is to take distance and focus on herself anyway.
Sounds like you already know the answer. You just need the strength to do what's right for you.
Hun, while you are spending days and night creating scenarios in your head about you and him, he is probably seeing you as an option.. he might be talking to another women.... look, there is nothing to do to get rid of this situation just by meeting new ppl! Go out there, talk to other guys and TRUST ME there are a lot of wonderful ppl who would think about you day and night! Love and peace 😘
I so relate to this as well. I fell in love with someone on dating site, knowing they weren't right from the start.
Awesome little piece of video. Always so inspiring.
I'm a guy and this is helpful for me as well. And I get a better understanding of how women think. Thanks!
I always think how perfect that guys i meet are without even knowing them and it’s exhausting bc then i get upset over it when it doesn’t work out
I can relate to both those questions... The first question is like what am going through at the moment.
Thank you!!!! Your videos help me through and give me the confidence boost I need ❤️🤗
Thankyou Mathew for being such a wonderful coach . We really love you 💝
Wow this really was right up my ally
Thank you