Becoming Happier: A Conversation with Tara Brach and Arthur Brooks
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- Becoming Happier: A Conversation with Tara Brach and Arthur Brooks [2023-11-15]
The Dalai Lama regularly says that everyone wants to be happy, nobody wants to suffer. Arthur Brooks, in his new book on getting happier (co-authored with Oprah Winfrey) digs into the practical and science-based approaches that increase deep wellbeing.
In this conversation Tara and Arthur discuss the ingredients of happiness, the role of unhappiness in our lives, how to work with core ego-fears, the power of metacognition, the necessity of transcendence of small self and the love that is the grounds of true happiness.
Learn more about Arthur's work & pick up a copy of his new book, Build the Life You Want at: arthurbrooks.com
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Listening to this conversation is how I started my day today. It was very helpful thank you. I heard your guest interviewed about the course he teaches at Harvard before and was impressed. I don’t think I would have been interested in reading the book he’s written with Oprah unless I ha listened to your interview with him. I think this is because I have come to trust you and your teachings and perhaps have been sceptical of Oprah endorsed books. So my mind and heart are more open to what this book may offer. Thank you for all your content it has helped me over the last decade. While I was following a Rick Hanson online course he interviewed you in one session; that’s how I started following your channel . Thank you it’s been very grounding for me over challenging and unsettling times.🙏
Thank you for your existence. I appreciate you. You are one of the first people that helped me with my Meditation journey. I love you.
Tuning in from Cape Town South Africa. So great that we're all on the same page about these ideas. Tara speaks a universal language.
Tara … incarnated love&compassion
This is my first time commenting though I've been listening to and watching Tara's videos for years. Thank you from my heart for this gift. I fully agree with what someone else commented: "I don’t think I would have been interested in reading the book he’s written with Oprah unless I had listened to your interview with him. I think this is because I have come to trust you and your teachings and perhaps have been skeptical of Oprah endorsed books." This is a book I will read though and these are the kinds of discussions that move mountains.
What a gift 🎁 Thank you both. ❤
Well said. I appreciate this information.
Deeply nurturing and profoundly helpful. Thank you both! :)
"Unhappiness" is not an attribute. It is not something you have or carry around with you. It is not a feature of your personality. Unhappiness is not a condition. It is not a quality that exists. It is not inevitable. As Rupert Spira (and others) have pointed out, "unhappiness" is a veiling of innate happiness. Happiness is your nature (or rather, happiness is the experience you have of your self when nothing is concealing your true nature). "Unhappiness" is ignorance of, or blindness to, your own essential nature.
I try to see overlaps between traditions. Christians say that God accepts us as we are and that once we know that, we are grateful and repent. This is a lifestyle that leads to peace. And joy
@@johnstewart7025 Beautiful =)
I believe that unhappiness (and anxiety) is a natural reaction to a world that has been run by evil for a very long time. The drugs they sell to "cure" it are just part of their business model.
Wow so beautiful 🙏🏻♥️
If we could all delude ourselves like Brooks. Gobiligoogaga😅
it's the deliberately chosen falsities of a zi0nst
Why did he have to tell us he wrote Thich Nhat Hanhn’s obituary? next, he told us he didn’t know him. 😢
I also agree with many comments here. This man’s energy feels pushy, intense, loud, and egoic. I couldn’t believe it when he started teaching Tara Brach about Buddhism. 😮
“Love is commitment” makes me feel suffocated, that was used to manipulate me
It's helpful to learn how people become addicted to pleasurable experiences and substances.
Tim Ferriss brought me here, thanks Tara
Thank you for sharing this with us. It feels extremely helpful to me right now.
thank-you, thank-you, Thank-you!
I love the theme!
I think Mr Brooks is brilliant.
A different style to Tara but equal amount of wisdom. Thank you sir for sharing the wisdom you have attained, which make our lives happier.
People who associate with Oprah Winfrey are not brilliant.
You are both beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
I have a question about 1:18:46. Speaking of the transactional nature of love, when he brings up the subject of "homeless" people asking for money (who may be drug addicts-how can he know this?) and talks about Jesus, and then proudly states that he requests that beggars pray for him to keep the "circulatory system of love" open. Does he mean that rather than give money to those asking, he asks them to pray for him? I hope I have misunderstood him.
Probably not 'misunderstood' him.
Sounds to me like something he would do😒
(not that I 'know' him - I bailed after I got wind of all his hyperbole and egoism. Not a good fit, imo... Arthur Brooks & Tara
AMEN AMEN…HOLDING SPACE FOR ALL HEALING..No longer I …but Christ through me
I had to cut it off. Mr. Brooks was just too much for me. The talking hands and the rapid speech created stress and tension. I don't know how lovely, calm, peaceful Tara stood it.
I heard the audio only on Spotify and didn't experience that at all....interesting how different perspectives can exist
I urge you to research this guy. His politics and agenda are insidious.
When Tara described her RAIN technique for calming a limbic response, he gave a meandering response which ended with "journaling is better". Tara was very zen about it but I found his response to be egotistical and self-promoting. Why not say "journaling is another good technique but people should stick with what works best for them"? I actually like both journalling and RAIN but I won't be reading his book because he didn't demonatrate the qualities of a good teacher in this video.
Same here. Maybe the content was ok, but he sounded more like the new wave of trendy neuroscientists and others who by default speak fast, teach at ivy league schools and don’t give you much time to just enjoy their words and their presence. Wouldn’t it be a nice refreshing change for the Harvard kids, to have a teacher who transpires peacefulness? Sadly, this gentleman doesn’t.
@@laguapa2375Thank you! Just did. Nothing spiritual about him.
I think there may be a stage in between naming a fear and the fear dissolving. When the specificity of the fears has previously been suppressed, the naming (via journalling or whatever) can shock the system, and that needs handling carefully
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Tara's Radical Acceptance has really opened my eyes how to love myself fully,. I do wish Tara had questioned Arthur more for his Zionist ideas and conservatism. He should encourage Oprah to support taxing the rich to pay their fair share. Oprah's support of this issue would be so helpful in closing the gap between the rich and poor and help income inequality in this country. Unfortunately I do not think Arthur nor Oprah really care about inequality in the USA. They need to keep their millions and billions of dollars so they can do their PET projects and get huge tax breaks.
Oprah's connection to Weinstein and other questionable people is very concerning to me. I do not trust her or anyone who works with her.
The more inner dialogue the less you hear what really matters: silence.
Thank you, Tara, a beautiful topic. Had to pause the video, unfortunately, because the Harvard aura, as represented by the entitled navel-gazing Harvard students "afraid of failure", is a bit nauseating. Look forward to your exchanges with people from more humble corners of planet Earth, beyond the me-me-me Harvard cuteness.
Sounds like some deep, painful, beliefs that create such a lens.
Whatever aversion you have, speaks to greater healing needed within.
We can learn from all walks of life...and often, it is those we are most triggered by, who can provide the greatest opportunity for growth, evolution. It's a signal to attend within.
I didn’t like him either. Totally agree with you. It seems to be trendy these days, to have ivy league schools professors and neuroscientists speak about happiness. Very strange. Since they don’t transpire calmness or happiness at all. I will stick to learning from the humble, joyful Buddhists nuns and monks from Plum Village.
I agree entirely. I, too, found this guy very glib and lacking in spiritual presence. I'll stick to Buddhhism as well 😊❤
@@Alphacentauri819Oh, what a load of BS. 😂 This commenter doesn't like him, and for good reason.
@@liana2136 when anyone starts with “what a load of BS”…it shows a certain combination of arrogance and ignorance, and is far from curiosity, humility, and other character traits which create connection to ourselves and others.
While I can see that someone would find this man a bit pompous, and irritating, I also see how facing that in others gives us a chance to examine our own level of consciousness. It seems this deeper concept is far out of your grasp and instead, you go with your impulsive, primitive, limbic system reaction and develop a retort from that space. Consider developing introspection and metacognition, mindfulness, “practice the pause” as Tara so wisely says, and then move forward with grace, compassion, awareness.
I’ve worked with thousands of patients, am a grandparent. I have loads of experience with seeing when parts of the brain are being hijacked. Control yours before it sabotages you, your relationships, your goals…beyond where it likely already has.
wonderful conversation..I follow both of you
This is odd for me to hear and follow this conversation…did he mention hundreds of thousands died or were displaced in the Maui fire??
look up Arthur Brooks and learn more about who and what is connected to.
I believe he said “hundreds OR thousands “.
@@sandytouchton9338
Hmmm...sloppy with facts.
But he IS (IMO) full of hyperbole. So, why am I not surprised.😒
Hmmmm…. I prefer to learn about happiness from real peaceful Buddhists than from fast paced, name throwing ivy league professor with shady views who regurgitates Buddhist philosophy and transpires excitement, but not at all the calmness and true joy that the world needs right now. He sounded false.And just BTW, our Thanksgiving does not “smell of turkey “; hurting and killing animals doesn’t bring happiness.
Mixed feelings. Too much performing on his side for my taste. Theres such profound contrast between Tara and Arthur. He seems to believe that if you explain science to people, they will apply it and simply be happier. I dont buy into that. If that was the case, telling an addict "Hey, alcohol is bad for you, here's the science to back it up" would be enough. We are far more complexed than that. And I'm sorry to say that, but if my kid was a sniper, I wouldn't teach people what to do with their lives. Clearly, you kind of failed as a parent. Big time.
As soon as he brought up Oprah, I turned this off. She's part of the suffering in Maui.
Look into Arthur Brooks' politics and the feeling you have will make more sense.
@@laguapa2375 thx but I'm not gonna spend time on him. I already feel like I spend too much time listening to his performance. But yeah, my intuition never fails me ;)
I gave him the benefit of the doubt for some minutes, but he sounded so false! Very disappointing
@@prettysavage87Yes. And she's connected to Weinstein, Davos and other nefarious people/activities. I believe Oprah is evil.
Oprah's connection to Weinstein and other questionable people is very concerning to me. It doesn't take a genius to be aware of her shady activities and the disturbing words she has spoken, especially concerning children. Cannot watch this, sorry.