Healing Self-Doubt - Tara Brach
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- Tara Brach - Healing Self-Doubt - 10/30/13
Siddhartha Gautama's last challenge before enlightenment was doubt, and to some degree, most of us live with limiting beliefs about our own worthiness and goodness. This talk looks at the tenacity of self-doubt and the power of mindfulness, investigation and compassion in releasing its grip.
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With thanks and love, Tara
I don’t know what I would do without you and your teaching! Thank you!
I've been watching her video for the past two months now and it's been helping the hell out of me. One can only be thankful. Greetings from Brasil
Man...this is the first video I have ever watched of Tara's but I feel like she's my second mom
Michael Randell There are many sides to this lady, like most humans, that would make you quite uncomfortable. Why do you think she is so devoted to mastering her “monkey” brain? She is a natural born leader, which comes at a cost
She s my mom too 🥰🥰 or my Rol Model 🤗❤
@@Knight766 please explain...
@@RebekaNewboldVantablack Hard to explain. Just a gut feeling that Tara might be a "bossy boots" type lady. Nothing wrong with that, she's great
@@Knight766 Maybe it's societies patriarchy that makes it seem odd that a women's vessel could be so powerful and enlightened. The buddah comes in all genders. :)
I discovered Tara Brach through the Palouse Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction online course. Hearing her voice on the RAIN meditation that she contributed to that course was so moving that I sought out more. Simply reading these things is not enough for me...I need to hear it and then begin to incorporate it into my own thoughts and heart. This particular teaching was profoundly "on point" for me. I have much work to do, yet. Peace to everyone here and my deepest appreciation to Tara Brach for sharing herself with the wider community.
Thanks for your comments 😘
How are you doing now?
35:04 "if I don't know you, it's easy to hate you, if I look in your eyes, I can't"
36:28 That story was a huge relief for me
Tara has a way of talking to your soul, where all your thoughts You battle daily disappear and the way you have been operating seems silly. She puts things into perspective. When she talks it’s calming, and at least in my mind makes things make sense. She was meant to do what she does and my heart is completely open. I’m amazed.
Tara, thank you so much for this timely message. I'm 59 and only now am I able get a glimpse of the mind's machinations. I've been napping way too long. Thanks for the wake-up call. Peace.
You are in good company. 😊😊
a tip : watch series at flixzone. I've been using it for watching loads of movies recently.
@Joseph Kendall definitely, been watching on flixzone} for years myself :D
I am so appreciative of all the talks that Tara Brach provides for free for all to benefit. True humility, generosity and compassionate lovingkindness, indeed!
Endless thanks Tara. This is perhaps the most profound and succinct information I’ve heard, ever on you tube. Pertains to every human on some level. Delivered with absolute Grace, and right on time! Blessings and much love to all beings!
Real but not true, It's amazing how that phrase can dissolve the trance, even if only for a while. Thank you
I love Tara Brach and I love Byron Katie, and so I love Tara explaining Katie's teachings. Both of these women have brought me to sanity many times. Thank You from my heart.
Mary Cameron thank you for writing out Byron Katie. ☺️
thank you so much for your kind words. your voice is so calming and everytime I listen to a podcast of yours I learn something new about myself.
Thank you for bringing me to the root of my suffering
As a way of responding to some of the comments further down in this section,I feel compelled to say that I do not feel Tara is setting herself up as some type of Guru.I think the way these talks are delivered is very much based on a kind of person to person level,Like this is my experience and it might well be yours too,we are all human together experiencing these things."I have had self doubts,I have insecurities too" and this is a way that Buddhist practice and western psychology has come up with ways of dealing with and overcoming some of the universal problems of life.If you disagree then that is fine.i personally have not found anything but validation in watching these talks and they help you realise you are not alone in facing all these various insecurities and problems.It takes quite a lot of skill to deliver these talks in this calm captivating way and I am glad she has put them out there.
Taras awesome. People are projecting, she definitely doesnt have a guru ego complex. She speaks of a wide variety of topics and quotes many peoples and stories in a simple and humble fashion. NOT the tactics of egocentric gurus, for sure!
Projection, for sure. People playing small who will never realise their own greatness.
Letting it go makes me think that I might confirm I’m right, that I’m not worthy. By keeping the thought of not being worthy I feel there’s a possibility I may be wrong, and one day I find out I was wrong in thinking that way.
Great questions you asked. Now that I’m working on being ok with the unknown I want to let this go and watch the magic that comes with not being afraid of outcomes. Thank you!
Your voice and your words are like a soft cozy blanket to my Soul ❤️ Under cozy blanket, everything will be alright.
I am grateful for every single one of your talks! You are such an inspiration for me as mindfulness teacher!
I love Tara’s stories and jokes. A sense of humor is such a gift!
This is my favourite Tara Branch video so far. Powerful and helpful, please keep up the great work!
Ditto All! Tara is a true master.
This is perfect for me in my life right now. Especially after listening to Diederik Wolsak yesterday.
Thank you so much Tara. This is so true and beautiful. Your wisdom is a blessing.
The quality of her voice penetrated my sleep in it’s inquiry n healing
No words can describe how amazing you are and how you're helping me open my mind. Thankyou Tara :)
I start and anchor my days with you! Thank you for your gentle wisdom....
Thanks so much for your comment...I concur. Nanaste
Thank you so much Tara, for generously sharing your gift to accompany people as they explore their own limiting beliefs.
This video is exactly what I wanted and needed today. I will make every effort to pay it forward.
I feel gratitude for people, places, opportunities in my life. At age 88 to continue on this path.
Want to expand in goodness, peace and outlook. And be maybe a beacon.
Imposter syndrome is a sign of sanity--of not buying into a role. All roles are matters of imposture, each is to an extent pretend and play.
I so agree. I have the controversial opinion that imposter syndrome is caused by being an emotional imposter, and it’s a call to return to being honest with yourself. It persists because we are afraid that if we are honest with ourselves we won’t be able to keep pursuing this role that will make us good enough.
"It's real, but not true." Words to live by.
Maybe that nakedness theme is for those soul's like me who need to hear it randomly.. NOT so random. They are universal "GOD" "shot's" I call them moments of personal private knowing in synchronicity with our spirit guide's (or what you know yours as)... thank you Tara. You are truly a blessing that brings me DAILY gratitude and growth. I can genuinely respectfully say I love me a little bit more through you. Namaste 🙏🙌💝
Thank you for this teaching. I have been getting curious about my habits of overwhelm and confusion, my complex of self-doubt and practicing to open to these ancient feelings instead of running. Thank you for confirming my inquiry and process. It is natural when we deepen awareness to feel meet and release sensations/energy. I love your way to teaching it so that it is accessible, and the funny stories as well as that insight into Hitler's family. Self-doubt gone amok.
You are amazing. You approach the subject in a very soft way. I feel peace just listening to you. Thank you.
I wish Tara was my guide , someone who would guide me through every decision on my life , in person
thank you Tara... your talks and Sounds True programs have helped me so much... your words touch me deeply...
Great talk. Good combo of wisdom and laughter :)
Thank you for your work and gifts. This was very powerful and meaningful.
So thankful and blessed by her teachings
Let the heart lead is somehow difficult in autopilot world
I just love you, I have a statue of the happy Buda, and I’m going to pursue it.
Holy magnificence. Thank you, Tara.
Thank you so much. I love your stories and soothing voice.
This is such a good talk. So much truth in it. There is no other way but to be our authentic selves, otherwise we live a false life.
Thank you Tara🤗❤️
Magnificent - a healing tool for profound self-doubt - thank you so much.
Thank you! This was very helpful.You have a very compassionate and calm way of presenting very meaningful teachings, Tara. Inspiring.
So powerful. Thank you so much Tara.
Thank you . I always love your humorous setups and loving treatments of the subjects.
You tell the most wonderful stories Tara
Thank you so much Tara!!!You are so beautiful and connected .
You are an inspiration.
You have saved me. I’m an alcoholic and can you recommend a podcast by you for this?
thank you for helping me find stillness & quiet.
Love to you all ❤️
Thank you! Namaste
love u Tara.
Thank you so much this was beautiful and so helpful! Love you !
Awesome. Thanks so much!
thank you Tara. The mystery I've been living is. will my authentic self be financially provided for? I am no longer able to go back to the old egoic way of contributing in the world. Would you share your thoughts on this? Thank you!
Thank you but very difficult work to do alone
Thank you.
This is very much like Primal Therapy. But much, much better. Thank you. I would like to take a session with you if that was possible.
Thank you!❤
On point…this one helped me really sit with this self doubt/fear and the outcome was a great breakthrough 🎉
I'd like to be like you!!! Do the same for people, enlighten myself
Some of us never are strong enough to 'compensate' for feelings of low worth with achievements and external validation. We just fold and hide away...
thank you
Why do so many people dislike Tara Brach? What is wrong with them?
Heard her on the radio briefly and was taken by what she said and how she said it. But strangely after watching some vids, the feeling is more about something I've been noticing lately -- our tendency to sit in rapt attention while some guru or teacher or expert speaks, telling us what we already know, but we don't trust unless someone in authority speaks it. But that person is just like us, they only know their own experience, and yet we take their experience to be gospel or universal truth, because they have a privileged position. And while Tara clearly has much to offer, isn't there a danger in so readily deferring to authority? And theoretically couldn't anyone in the audience get up and speak and have just as much insight? I am distrustful of any hierarchy I guess...
baconlatte then live that inner knowing.
baconlatte i would say it makes sense to equate listening to Tara and taking what she says (or all of it rather) as truth or something with trusting political leaders and such who are actually evil and have bad intentions. the difference is you don't need to believe everything she says, only what really resonates with you.. and she's not one of those bad sorts of leaders as she doesn't have political or legal power over you. it's kind of like psychological 'countertransference' when you think of her in the way you describe. i'm Catholic but I've gotten some interesting feelings out of some of what she's said. it can be a little slow-paced for my liking at times, but these are freely available talks so can't complain.
Frater Tenc I'm thinking not of politicians but of spiritual leaders, psychotherapists, life coaches and the like -- those who instruct in how to live. Her message is fine, but something in her energy seems to say "don't question what I'm saying, for it is absolute truth". Could this be partly countertransference? Maybe. I get some of this with Eckhart Tolle, so it's not just her. Anything that seems to invite blind faith troubles me. Not a complaint, just some observations.
+baconlatte I take wisdom in when I encounter it.... I know when I hear it if it will serve to teach me and help to heal some part of life that troubles me. And that wisdom can come from anywhere. You just have to keep yourself open and listening.
+baconlatte the chef offers you a meal, they've prepared it, they share with you the recipe, they even advise you to make it your own, but you like the recipe the chef has prepared. When you attempt to follow the recipe you doubt the chef's expertise, you consult another chef, but you doubt their expertise as well. Finally, you decide to put yourself into the dish and to you it is a masterpiece. You decide to share your version, do you care if anyone doubts your expertise or intentions? Anyone who has only one teacher is in trouble, that's like The Bible having one book and one narrator lol. It sounds like you're concerned others might be lead to idol worship, perhaps you've experienced that or fear that. I grew up Pentecostal/Holiness...I get it lol. Tara is one of many, a part of the whole. Not everyone is called to speak, some are called to listen :-)
Thank you! This was very helpful today :)
I'm,sorry I felt so excluded at a 7 day retreat I had to leave - can you help people in your retreats love newcomers - thank you
Thanks
And right at the end I in my mind realised I was looking at a puppy dog.the power of meditation....xxx very cute...some puppies have nice live some have horrid. If my mindbus a puppy dog how do i want to train it....lol. xxx you have a wonderful way x thankyou. Xx
Tara i love you 😘
5 star Jonny? Yeah
Oh man: loving without holding back. Like children do. That's why being around children is such a blessing. Children are the fathers of men. Maria Montessori. Get back to your childlike innocence and match up the inner and the outer, like children do.
McFraneth ..father of men....why not mother of children.....women give life ......just curious
@@blackrocktile5855 Children are the parents of men and women. 🙄. Gargle with that gigantic mouthful.
@@blackrocktile5855 men also give life, unless immaculate conception is your thing.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:58 🤔 *Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, faced doubt as his last challenge before enlightenment under the Bodhi Tree, representing universal struggles with self-doubt.*
02:51 🌱 *The woman's self-doubt is paralleled with the Buddha's questioning of his capacity for an awakened heart and mind, showing the universality of self-doubt.*
03:44 🔄 *Self-doubt, like the Buddha's uncertainty, often revolves around questions of worthiness, lovability, and the ability to connect with others.*
05:29 🔄 *Our sense of identity plays a crucial role in determining whether we live in self-doubt or move towards freedom.*
07:40 🧠 *When caught in self-doubt, practicing mindful awareness and investigation can weaken the grip of beliefs, fostering a sense of freedom.*
09:29 🤝 *Consensual beliefs about right and wrong guide us individually and societally, influencing our laws and rules.*
12:37 💔 *Our most persistent beliefs often revolve around personal deficiencies, stemming from a primitive sense of identity as a vulnerable and separate self.*
18:32 🔄 *Living exclusively with an identity tied to the egoic self leads to self-doubt; trusting basic goodness requires discovering a larger, more authentic sense of self.*
19:55 🔄 *The false self, seeking external validation, perpetuates a cycle of never feeling "enough," leading to imposter syndrome and a sense of being a fraud.*
22:47 🎭 *Seeking affirmation is temporary and fuels self-doubt, making us Teflon for compliments and Velcro for criticism.*
25:56 ❓ *Reflecting on what could go wrong if we let go of a limiting belief can reveal fears that hinder the process of overcoming self-doubt.*
26:54 🧠 *Beliefs can be rigid and deeply ingrained, shaping our experiences and actions.*
28:13 🤔 *Powerful beliefs, fueled by fear, can lead to extreme behaviors and perceptions.*
30:29 🔄 *Our beliefs are often conditioned by culture and upbringing, shaping our interactions with others.*
30:52 🔄 *Gandhi's perspective: "Your beliefs become your thoughts, words, actions, habits, character, and destiny."*
31:18 ⚖️ *Limiting beliefs on a societal level can lead to war, social injustice, and harm to the environment.*
32:32 🌍 *Hildegarde of Bingen emphasizes the need to take back our own listening and see our own light.*
33:54 🌱 *Illusions persist until investigated; examining and loosening societal fears and beliefs is crucial.*
34:51 🤝 *Interpersonal understanding and deep listening are essential for breaking down beliefs of separation.*
36:18 🌧️ *The RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Non-Identification) process helps explore and release self-doubt.*
43:20 💡 *"It is real but not true" - understanding that beliefs feel real but may not reflect ultimate truth.*
45:10 🤲 *The phrase "Not my will but my heart's will" can help navigate triggers and challenging beliefs.*
46:35 🌟 *The story of the Buddha highlights the importance of seeking a larger truth beyond self-doubt.*
53:01 🧘♂️ *Investigating self-doubt with questions about its impact and imagining life without the belief.*
54:11 🌌 *Resting in presence allows a connection with a larger reality beyond the conditioned interpretation.*
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How do you convince yourself these things aren’t true? I’m kind of stuck there, sorting through lies and truth.
Which book was she recommending?
Is Tara extrasensory?
So much self loathing and I am not enough. Relief seems beyond reachable even after so many years of more or less continuous striving. Does it ever end?
Probably not, but as some wise person once said: if you’re going through hell, keep going 🦄
For some is that we are the verge of homelessness.
Were you ever at Green Gulch? You look familiar.
I love you Alex
Is doubt the same as fear?
Awesome question... I have been doing a lot of reflecting on my self doubt issues which are really extreme... I have found that the self doubt and the fear are very closely linked... like theres a fear of being the True Self, which then creates the effect of the self-doubt talk and thoughts.
I just don't really know what to do sometimes.
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I was born, raised an omnivore, and now I am a Vegan 🌱💕
self-efficacy based on real achievement is legit. Does it lessen the dread of death and loss? Even then there is doubt, but not always--only when the question arises. Psychopaths don't worry about this stuff about themselves.
I have an aggresive sociopath as a close relative. He doens't have help nor wants it... I want the best for him, but i do have to be very careful what i say to him. Contact is impossible for me. Has been for years. Just to toxic, hurtful and potentially dangerous.
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Funny story- I was running security for a Burning Man event, and I took my 16 year old son. After the first couple of days I asked my son "Son, how are you handeling all the nakedness?" My son responded "It's only awkward when you stare?" lololol
Beautiful lady her skin ❤❤❤
buddha thinks he's no one, no different than anyone else, that's what makes him altruistic.
Tara do you need a gynaecologist??
I love you Tara but the story about the cow being always a cow and now a fish was not a very compassionate story. As a vegan I’m shocked and saddened, a cow and a fish are living sentient beings not for us to torture and eat.
Thank you so much for this🤍
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