Imagine how hard to just take care of one wife, and all the non-muslims out there just talk about Muslim men can have more than one wife 🙄😩 May Allah SWT bless us all 🙏🏻🤲🏻🇮🇩
For my dowry I really don't want it to be too big, just something he can afford comfortably or easily so we just live ♡halal♡ Is because it can be an indication that he can take care of you right? So it should be an indication what he can give as nafaqah after marriage to manage the household. Truly it doesn't have to be a lot but a halal job is a non-negotiable♡
It is not good to put animated pictures as profile. in Sahih al-Bukhari 6109 Narrated `Aisha (may ALLAH be pleased with her): The Prophet (ﷺ) entered upon me while there was a curtain having pictures (of animals) in the house. His face got red with anger, and then he got hold of the curtain and tore it into pieces. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Such people as paint these pictures will receive the severest punishment on the Day of Resurrection ."
You would be upset too if you were basically told you have to give up money that you worked for to someone who didn't have to work for it, and also that you cant even ask for money from that person and not only does that person get your money they get to keep any money they get, how is that fair.
@Isometric Shahil I'm not Muslim but I'm looking into Islam, the reason why I wrote my comment is because it seems like from what ive heard men have to contribute money, protection, and moral support to women, but women only have to contribute moral support wich seems like an unfair deal to me, and I'll admit that my previous comment was a little disrespectful and I'm sorry for that but I still dont see how its a fair deal.
I really hope, lots of people knowing these ayah... i see a lot of struggling mothers, can't even complain about finance to the husband since *"Wife must always obeys the husband"*, while in fact, a lot of woman around me spend the money for the house bills, children needs, ingridient for food that the husband likes... i'm not blaming the husband that doesn't know, i hope they wont hurt people who truly cares about them
Just you realize people.Its when you marry a MUSLIM woman,A woman who was Muslim and was brought up with the Muslim woman's manner.And yes,as a man,you can check the relationship between her Mother and Father to confirm how things are gonna go for you and your wife who'll be their daughter.
But, I think the topic and discussion should be balanced out because a wife's whole time is her husbands right and she can't do any job without his permission if he is paying for her everything. According to today's routine womens are doing job without their husbands permission and trying to be independent and not giving proper time to their husband or child which is their duty and first priority according to Islam. So that thing is also needed to be discussed with which have been discussed in this video, so there will not be any confusion or misuse of this discussion from females side. I hope I have cleared my point.
Yea I agree but some men are really toxic too there wives they treat them like rubbish so off course a woman will try too become independent but if the man is a good man then of course she should be kind and respecting too him and she also should ask him if he agrees on something or not but really some men these days aren’t even kind too they’re spouses and then wonder why they are sad getting ill and wanting divorce and independence
women have to obey their husband, they go through childbirth ( a process that might even kill you) , She has to take care of and educate the kids, you want to make sure that your kids are safe when you leave the house, Just like how you take care of her in your way, she will also take care of you by making you food , taking care of the house, and keeping the house in peace. she has to leave her family, where she has her father who can protect her, and is willing to put her trust in you that you will protect her now. So she is leaving her protecter, coming to you, hoping you can protect her. ,she can help you fulfil your manly desires, she can be a shoulder you can cry on, she can be by your side in difficult times, she can be a source of peace for you. I hope these can help a bit.
Sadly, No one talks about it. Most doesn't talk about a men's mental health, their situation. I have seen through from a partial view. I know life as man is extremely tough, but every man deserve mental peace, mental happiness. if a wife is not able to provide that, then it's better to remain single; specially at the end of times. The fact is, Many men are doing the best, but majority women are not doing their part.
I hate how you and others only comment on this but not the whole picture. You don't tackle hard topics but only topics that will be taken easily by the crowd. How about tackling if a women doesn't have to work but is working and her time is being spent away from the home, is that money still hers or not. This is where I see that you are anywhere near competent or not.
"feminists" arent the thing you have a problem with, you have a problem with your Islamic duties .So you in order to avoid such jobs that dont align with your redpilled idealogies, you deny them claiming that "feminists" are the ones obliging you to complete such actions . These are commanded to you by Allah, no matter what you say this is your job in marriage. go learn about your deen and the duties of men and women.
@@Emeruld1 Well where does it say my money is her money? We don't follow no redpill, but do need to fight the feminist onslaught. Ours is the last religion standing straight still.
NO, you don't get it. She has rights to all your money, and you can decide together on what to spend, without manipulation from your side. She needs a salary too and to be a normal part of society. Of course, you can spend on your needs too. Basically, she deserves a minimum 50% of your income or what's left after paying for necessities. Everything must be fair. You can't decide that her portion is $10 a month, and expect God to be happy with you. It goes against God. For example if you earn $1000 a month, let's say $250 for expenses, $250 for food, $250 for you, $250 for her. She is your equal. Your money is her money, so you both should decide on everything together, so both parties are happy. You can't spend her portion of money on food, or on other things, cause it's never enough. Even if you earn $500 a month, at least a little bit should be given to her, after all expenses were paid. She is not a man. She is a woman and she has her expenses and life. She is not your worker, where you decide her salary however you please. It is wild.
i feel like this is one sided, even though yes more power to women, i don't feel like any financial gain is coming back to the husband. could you do a video about the benefits of marriage, cuz if I don't then imma commit some zina with my girl, screw marriage.
women have to obey their husband, they go through childbirth ( a process that might even kill you) , She has to take care of and educate the kids, you want to make sure that your kids are safe when you leave the house, Just like how you take care of her in your way, she will also take care of you by making you food , taking care of the house, and keeping the house in peace. she has to leave her family, where she has her father who can protect her, and is willing to put her trust in you that you will protect her now. So she is leaving her protecter, coming to you, hoping you can protect her. ,she can help you fulfil your manly desires, she can be a shoulder you can cry on, she can be by your side in difficult times, she can be a source of peace for you. I hope these can help a bit.
@@user-qx3yd6nk4n first off, women can sense weakness, and will not tolerate to use that as their weapon against men. We have enough women's rights in Canada, USA, and other countries. If you don't have em, move! Secondly, I want my woman to protect me. Keep me updated, and let me know when to bare arms against assholes. The love of a husband for his wife should be reciprocated. The powers between Men and Women still need balance. Women should do the same construction work that men do, women should join ranks among men in wars and peacekeeping missions.
Yes I am supposed to spend my money on my family but that does not mean my money is hers. She can’t just take my money whenever she wants. If I’m responsible for my family then I get to decide how the money is spent. A wife keeps 100% of her money through Allah given rights but that does not mean it’s bad for her to spend on her family. I would imagine it’s actually rewarded to help ease her Husband’s stress. And if the husband says he does not want his wife to work then she should obey. “Your money is hers” is just buzz phrase used to get views. No doubt both men and women will be questioned on how they spent their money and how they treated their spouses. May Allah guide us to success as individuals, as families, and as an Ummah.
NO, you don't get it. What a shallow thinking man. Are you taking a wife or a slave??? She has rights to all your money, and you can decide together on what to spend, without manipulation from your side. You must create a monthly budget. She needs a salary too and to be a normal part of society. Of course, you can spend on your needs too. Basically, she deserves a minimum 50% of your income or what's left after paying for necessities. Everything must be fair. You can't decide that her portion is $10 a month, and expect God to be happy with you. It goes against God. For example if you earn $1000 a month, let's say $250 for expenses, $250 for food, $250 for you, $250 for her. She is your equal. Your money is her money, so you both should decide on everything together, so both parties are happy. You can't spend her portion of money on food, or on other things, cause it's never enough. Even if you earn $500 a month, at least a little bit should be given to her, after all expenses were paid. She is not a man. She is a woman and she has her expenses and life. She is not your worker, where you decide her salary however you please. It is wild. Are you implying that she must not work, obey you and be happy with little money you give her, like $10, raise your kids to be amazing, and do everything for you? Quran frees women in every ways, and you are responsible for her, means you are responsible for her happiness, development as a human being, her social status, health, her satisfaction with life, everything everything. It seems like You are avoiding that responsibility in some ways. And don't tell Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan to get his facts straight. He knows better than you. I wish you and your wife a good life, I hope she is not suffocated with you. If you keep her low, don't expect high quality kids. No beautiful kids will be raised from an oppressed and unhappy woman.
You have a wrong interpretation Of this matter. I agree a husband should not agree on a number he cannot reach. But it also says in the Quran. If the husband asked the wife for help She Have to help. But he should not be sitting on a couch.
She’s not obligated to financially contribute, meaning she won’t be held accountable on day of judgment regarding that, like the husbands would be questioned. However if she does chooses to help, she’ll surely be rewarded for it in the hereafter
That's too much and today's girls demand is high . That's why I don't wanna get married... I will get a GF and I have one now . I am happy with my girlfriend ❤️. I don't want to lost my money and energy 😔
And Also she will not be loyal to you as she isn't in official relationship with you. And you mightpaying for her shopping and other things you can do the same for your wife but there you will get confidence, Real love and will save your self from Haraam/.
Get a good girl. And if you not ready for responsibility so marriage is not your option. But if you insist a relationship with girl then you must get marry and take responsibility. All of our efforts are not a waste, Allah s.w.t will gives us reward.
@@user-rx7lc1od7w Yeah there is definitely some space if not a special one for people who innovate in religion and say things that are not found in the Qur'an, or Hadith!
Spot on! May Allah bless you for such clarity
Brothers walahi lets take the responsibility as a muslim man ☝🏼💪🏽
As a woman who takes the responsibilities of a muslim woman, thank you brother.🙏✨️
YESH INSALLAH BROTHER !!!
Imagine how hard to just take care of one wife, and all the non-muslims out there just talk about Muslim men can have more than one wife
🙄😩
May Allah SWT bless us all
🙏🏻🤲🏻🇮🇩
For my dowry I really don't want it to be too big, just something he can afford comfortably or easily so we just live ♡halal♡ Is because it can be an indication that he can take care of you right? So it should be an indication what he can give as nafaqah after marriage to manage the household. Truly it doesn't have to be a lot but a halal job is a non-negotiable♡
Islam is so beautiful. I'm glad I am a Muslim.
Very true....Allah guide PPL towards righteous deen...Ya Allah make them understand the right of the wife
this is the thing that I need to teach to both of my son :)
May Allah bless your deeds
It is not good to put animated pictures as profile. in Sahih al-Bukhari 6109
Narrated `Aisha (may ALLAH be pleased with her):
The Prophet (ﷺ) entered upon me while there was a curtain having pictures (of animals) in the house. His face got red with anger, and then he got hold of the curtain and tore it into pieces. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Such people as paint these pictures will receive the severest punishment on the Day of Resurrection ."
Please do make a playlist focusing only marriage in Islam.
I just noticed that the eyes are hamzas(ء)
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Sir, Thanks for the discussion❤
Clear and Helpful video.
such an amazing illustration which explains smoothly to the other significant
A lot of angry men in the comments lol May Allah guide this ummah
Ameen
You would be upset too if you were basically told you have to give up money that you worked for to someone who didn't have to work for it, and also that you cant even ask for money from that person and not only does that person get your money they get to keep any money they get, how is that fair.
@Isometric Shahil I'm not Muslim but I'm looking into Islam, the reason why I wrote my comment is because it seems like from what ive heard men have to contribute money, protection, and moral support to women, but women only have to contribute moral support wich seems like an unfair deal to me, and I'll admit that my previous comment was a little disrespectful and I'm sorry for that but I still dont see how its a fair deal.
@Isometric Shahil Thank you for informing me I guess I didn't look at it that way, and sorry if I sounded rude in my past comments.
@@IsometricShahil i don't get it, so does that mean the husband doesn't have the right to his own money?
I really hope, lots of people knowing these ayah... i see a lot of struggling mothers, can't even complain about finance to the husband since *"Wife must always obeys the husband"*, while in fact, a lot of woman around me spend the money for the house bills, children needs, ingridient for food that the husband likes... i'm not blaming the husband that doesn't know, i hope they wont hurt people who truly cares about them
jazakAllah for such clarity .. now Mama's boys are gonna get offended lol !
If you keep your wife sad, don't expect high quality kids. No beautiful kids will be raised from unhappy woman.
JazakAllah Khair for Guidance ✨
Just you realize people.Its when you marry a MUSLIM woman,A woman who was Muslim and was brought up with the Muslim woman's manner.And yes,as a man,you can check the relationship between her Mother and Father to confirm how things are gonna go for you and your wife who'll be their daughter.
May allah help me to take this responsibility.
I seen tons of Videos of Men should do this and that which i 100% agree haven't seen a video on what's women roles in marriage?
Then find some video like that - is that even a problem. Like a women bosses you around?
What do you mean?! There is many many of those videos of women's responsibilities only a few on men's responsibilities.
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Okay 💀🙏
But, I think the topic and discussion should be balanced out because a wife's whole time is her husbands right and she can't do any job without his permission if he is paying for her everything. According to today's routine womens are doing job without their husbands permission and trying to be independent and not giving proper time to their husband or child which is their duty and first priority according to Islam. So that thing is also needed to be discussed with which have been discussed in this video, so there will not be any confusion or misuse of this discussion from females side. I hope I have cleared my point.
Yea I agree but some men are really toxic too there wives they treat them like rubbish so off course a woman will try too become independent but if the man is a good man then of course she should be kind and respecting too him and she also should ask him if he agrees on something or not but really some men these days aren’t even kind too they’re spouses and then wonder why they are sad getting ill and wanting divorce and independence
All problems (toxic man/woman) are because they’re far away from Quran and the REAL teachings of prophet peace be upon him
talk about taking back the gifts ... haiyah.... astaghfirullah
Upload it and that's it.
@@user-6htyhfjy5 isn't true.
Meaningless premiere
Wow
I don’t mean to sound frustrated, but: what exactly does the husband get in return? I’m just curious?
women have to obey their husband,
they go through childbirth ( a process that might even kill you) ,
She has to take care of and educate the kids, you want to make sure that your kids are safe when you leave the house,
Just like how you take care of her in your way, she will also take care of you by making you food , taking care of the house, and keeping the house in peace.
she has to leave her family, where she has her father who can protect her, and is willing to put her trust in you that you will protect her now.
So she is leaving her protecter, coming to you, hoping you can protect her.
,she can help you fulfil your manly desires,
she can be a shoulder you can cry on, she can be by your side in difficult times,
she can be a source of peace for you.
I hope these can help a bit.
Sadly, No one talks about it. Most doesn't talk about a men's mental health, their situation. I have seen through from a partial view. I know life as man is extremely tough, but every man deserve mental peace, mental happiness. if a wife is not able to provide that, then it's better to remain single; specially at the end of times. The fact is, Many men are doing the best, but majority women are not doing their part.
Giving birth, raising your kids alongside maintaining the house, keeping it clean and whatnot! You can't go through what we have to go through.
My mom wants to get a job
Is there any feminist here after this XD
Time has changed adapt to it, it's difficult these days to support a family with a single source of income.
Bro seriously
Bruh 2:30
Are you saying Allah is not the All Knowing, who is aware of the present, future, and past? He sent the Quran for all times.
@@Emeruld1 did I say that or you just putting words into my mouth! isn't that something a believer shouldn't do.
@@nabilarahman2299 it's not something forced upon her instead if they can or capable what's wrong with providing for the family.
I hate how you and others only comment on this but not the whole picture. You don't tackle hard topics but only topics that will be taken easily by the crowd. How about tackling if a women doesn't have to work but is working and her time is being spent away from the home, is that money still hers or not. This is where I see that you are anywhere near competent or not.
Your question has a simple answer: that’s still her money 🤷♀️
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"Her money is hers. Your money is hers.' No such thing as well as no evidence.
Basically your money is hers and her money is hers. Buddy you're scroood !
@@clearheart6444 source: Trust me bro!
@@Salty0 in the video, he is talking about married men who have incomes
OMG the feminists even got to master Nauman
Be a man bro
"feminists" arent the thing you have a problem with, you have a problem with your Islamic duties .So you in order to avoid such jobs that dont align with your redpilled idealogies, you deny them claiming that "feminists" are the ones obliging you to complete such actions
. These are commanded to you by Allah, no matter what you say this is your job in marriage.
go learn about your deen and the duties of men and women.
Got it right, huh?
@@faridawiser5441agreed
Her Money is hers and a portion of my money is hers. I decide the portion as well. Get your facts straight!!!
where does it say that?
Your evidence?
Get your facts straight
Where does it say that in the Quran or Hadith? Or do you follow the redpill holy book instead?
@@Emeruld1 Well where does it say my money is her money? We don't follow no redpill, but do need to fight the feminist onslaught. Ours is the last religion standing straight still.
NO, you don't get it. She has rights to all your money, and you can decide together on what to spend, without manipulation from your side. She needs a salary too and to be a normal part of society. Of course, you can spend on your needs too. Basically, she deserves a minimum 50% of your income or what's left after paying for necessities. Everything must be fair. You can't decide that her portion is $10 a month, and expect God to be happy with you. It goes against God. For example if you earn $1000 a month, let's say $250 for expenses, $250 for food, $250 for you, $250 for her. She is your equal. Your money is her money, so you both should decide on everything together, so both parties are happy. You can't spend her portion of money on food, or on other things, cause it's never enough. Even if you earn $500 a month, at least a little bit should be given to her, after all expenses were paid. She is not a man. She is a woman and she has her expenses and life. She is not your worker, where you decide her salary however you please. It is wild.
so is the husband doesn't have right to his own money?
i feel like this is one sided, even though yes more power to women, i don't feel like any financial gain is coming back to the husband.
could you do a video about the benefits of marriage, cuz if I don't then imma commit some zina with my girl, screw marriage.
women have to obey their husband,
they go through childbirth ( a process that might even kill you) ,
She has to take care of and educate the kids, you want to make sure that your kids are safe when you leave the house,
Just like how you take care of her in your way, she will also take care of you by making you food , taking care of the house, and keeping the house in peace.
she has to leave her family, where she has her father who can protect her, and is willing to put her trust in you that you will protect her now.
So she is leaving her protecter, coming to you, hoping you can protect her.
,she can help you fulfil your manly desires,
she can be a shoulder you can cry on, she can be by your side in difficult times,
she can be a source of peace for you.
I hope these can help a bit.
@@user-qx3yd6nk4n first off, women can sense weakness, and will not tolerate to use that as their weapon against men.
We have enough women's rights in Canada, USA, and other countries. If you don't have em, move!
Secondly, I want my woman to protect me. Keep me updated, and let me know when to bare arms against assholes.
The love of a husband for his wife should be reciprocated. The powers between Men and Women still need balance. Women should do the same construction work that men do, women should join ranks among men in wars and peacekeeping missions.
If u do Zina then be ready for hellfire
Get blessed for loving your wife. The wife will be punished by Allah. If she is not following the Quran and sunnah.
Yes I am supposed to spend my money on my family but that does not mean my money is hers. She can’t just take my money whenever she wants. If I’m responsible for my family then I get to decide how the money is spent. A wife keeps 100% of her money through Allah given rights but that does not mean it’s bad for her to spend on her family. I would imagine it’s actually rewarded to help ease her Husband’s stress. And if the husband says he does not want his wife to work then she should obey. “Your money is hers” is just buzz phrase used to get views. No doubt both men and women will be questioned on how they spent their money and how they treated their spouses. May Allah guide us to success as individuals, as families, and as an Ummah.
NO, you don't get it. What a shallow thinking man. Are you taking a wife or a slave??? She has rights to all your money, and you can decide together on what to spend, without manipulation from your side. You must create a monthly budget. She needs a salary too and to be a normal part of society. Of course, you can spend on your needs too. Basically, she deserves a minimum 50% of your income or what's left after paying for necessities. Everything must be fair. You can't decide that her portion is $10 a month, and expect God to be happy with you. It goes against God. For example if you earn $1000 a month, let's say $250 for expenses, $250 for food, $250 for you, $250 for her. She is your equal. Your money is her money, so you both should decide on everything together, so both parties are happy. You can't spend her portion of money on food, or on other things, cause it's never enough. Even if you earn $500 a month, at least a little bit should be given to her, after all expenses were paid. She is not a man. She is a woman and she has her expenses and life. She is not your worker, where you decide her salary however you please. It is wild. Are you implying that she must not work, obey you and be happy with little money you give her, like $10, raise your kids to be amazing, and do everything for you? Quran frees women in every ways, and you are responsible for her, means you are responsible for her happiness, development as a human being, her social status, health, her satisfaction with life, everything everything. It seems like You are avoiding that responsibility in some ways. And don't tell Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan to get his facts straight. He knows better than you. I wish you and your wife a good life, I hope she is not suffocated with you. If you keep her low, don't expect high quality kids. No beautiful kids will be raised from an oppressed and unhappy woman.
Spot on!
@@user-rx7lc1od7w you seem to be one unhappy frustrated woman for some reason. May Allah help you!
True
@@user-rx7lc1od7wFeminist 😂
You have a wrong interpretation Of this matter. I agree a husband should not agree on a number he cannot reach. But it also says in the Quran. If the husband asked the wife for help She Have to help. But he should not be sitting on a couch.
She can help if she wants
Not have to
She does not and shoudl not pay in finances unless she chooses too. (Like she wants to be a doctor)
She’s not obligated to financially contribute, meaning she won’t be held accountable on day of judgment regarding that, like the husbands would be questioned. However if she does chooses to help, she’ll surely be rewarded for it in the hereafter
That's too much and today's girls demand is high . That's why I don't wanna get married... I will get a GF and I have one now . I am happy with my girlfriend ❤️.
I don't want to lost my money and energy 😔
Astagfirullah GF IS HARAM
And Also she will not be loyal to you as she isn't in official relationship with you. And you mightpaying for her shopping and other things you can do the same for your wife but there you will get confidence, Real love and will save your self from Haraam/.
GF is haram. You cannot even see or touch any women because not only is it haram but you will go to hell. So leave it
Get a good girl. And if you not ready for responsibility so marriage is not your option. But if you insist a relationship with girl then you must get marry and take responsibility. All of our efforts are not a waste, Allah s.w.t will gives us reward.
@@mr.noname788 Those who are not able to marry will they masterbation and watching porn all the time ?
Then my money is mine😂
Special room in Hell is all yours too ☺Funny right 😂
@@user-rx7lc1od7w Yeah there is definitely some space if not a special one for people who innovate in religion and say things that are not found in the Qur'an, or Hadith!