Am with Lornzie 100%, i can make professional connections without necessarily building to friendships but yet stay open to it if it's meant to be... rather than overloading my emotional capacity.
When Ivy is moderating it really gets that Money Monday vibe. More interviewish less chitchat-ish, really focused conversation and everyone gets a chance to share their side of it
Adulting is hard guys. Lately most of my friends have become 'people I know' I realized I have been watering dead plants. Always the one checking up and when I don't they don't.😒 So road to meaningful connections. 💁♀️
I am those people who don't have friends. I am an introvert and my social battery is kidogo... I feel more energized being alone working than hanging out with people.
Being an introvert is such a struggle.....I always strive to meet new people but I also cant stand small talk.....but as Lorna said alcohol sometimes helps and having extroverted friends has proven to be quite crucial.....its always nice to see a fellow introvert share their life experience
I'm learning to have zero expectations not necessarily in trying to make new friends or relationships but also in life. It not only reduces the chances of you being hurt but also it increases the chances of you being open to what the universe has to offer. Absolutely loved the episode 💯💯💯🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@chelseakoveti5674 not really .... It's just from my personal experiences and some self help books like the Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz . It changed how I looked at relationships. I'll look into Wayne Dyer though 😃💯💯
Ivy seems different today. A good different. It seems like she is baring her soul and opening up more. Learning and unlearning is definitely something I'm constantly working on as well.
I realized especially when you need to meet people especially people you want to learn from, you can provide a venue for them to meet and do some fun activities, be the provider because they are so used to giving either resources or advice or just anything, be the giver they will naturally gravitate towards you and ask questions and you'll have changed the game instead of you going to them they'll come to you and they'll remember you.
My current struggle tbh. Recently turned 27 and realized I barely have any networks. When ivy keeps saying that your network is your net worth on #moneymondays,it triggers me...I feel poor. I've been so snobbish of people who reach out to me, maybe coz I fear being vulnerable. But I'm actively learning to be better.
Really enjoyed todays conversation - Ivy is a fantastic hostess and it was lovely to have her back on the show. This conversation is really important especially in this post (?) covid space - finding your tribe and nurturing those relationships. its a daily struggle for me but I do have some takeaway lessons from the episode. It's so lovely to see Lorna blossom; I loved seeing her contribute more to todays conversation and as a fellow introvert, I identified so much with what she had to say but would encourage her to take on the counsel from Ivy to just try and get out of the shell. It's so difficult for us introverts though 😭😭😭. Jules as usual is a whole vibe on her own - she should have her own talk show. Jules is easily Kenya's Oprah. She is hilarious, relatable, wise, practical, easy to listen to .. I love her!
I just can’t explain how much i learn from you guys I am turning 23 in a month,and I always feel blessed to have known your channel,a was taking notes 📝 the whole time😂,can’t wait for next Monday ❤️❤️❤️
I totally agree with Lornzie, honestly my current friendships are like cactus. I barely communicate or meet up that much because adulting is the hood of the hoodest.
What a coincidence? Yesterday i was thinking how hard it is to make friends, i have serious trust issues, i question peoples intentions, been done bad in the past. I really long for people whom we can have great conversations and not just gossip
I read this somewhere and it has been my mantra for this topic of friendship "I place my friends in three mental categories; (1) Best Friends (2) Good Friends (3) Acquaintances. It's important that I understand where they stand in my life because unmet expectations breed frustration. Some of you are expecting your number 3's to ack like 1's"
I’m a lot like Julia. If you come at me the wrong way, even if I’m wrong, it shall not go very well. And my family keeps scolding me about it. They say I take things to personally and I’m burning a lot of bridges because of it. But I just feel that your tone and how to communicate to me and your energy is a BIG deal and if it’s not right, I’d rather not pretend to be okay and yet I’m not.
This combination of ladies with great personalities, beautiful, very informative is just what I need. I feel like you are my friends. Great work ladies...
Nice episode!!, being an introvert, i really get drained by small talk.....i would rather just sit and listen than talk... i thrive best in my own little world than in groups and i love it that way
As an introvert, this episode was A LOT…. I wish it was easy to just flow! Aki people can be draining… how do you start a conversation? How do you walk away from one?! Small talks ah ah
This year i have really learnt a lot about friendships.. its good to know where your 'friends' have kept you (lack of a better word) because you may be there for them all through and one day you realize you didn't mean all that to them,,, my painful lesson this year , am now making meaningful friendships and its beautiful because most of them we are like-minded.
Having a Friend who understands you and pushes you to be better other than seeing you as toxic is the best thing 💯, communication solves alot too. Powerful chat 🙌
Haiya I totally related with Lorna in this episode. I fucking hate small talk😂 As an introvert it's really hard to make new connections/friends😅 I'd rather stick to my ride or dies🥂
Love this topic. There is a podcast I listened to which said that if the intention is not clear it becomes manipulation.. so set the intention for the connection clear
Jules has just spoken exactly what I have been fighting within myself since USIU...am I a musician or a corporate person. It was really antagonising. I believe that people shouldn't give up but, just grow up. Every experience is part of maturing us.
Thanks Jules for that point on alignment. Some habits and traits about us cannot be permanently fixed. We'll be triggered and resort to our comfortable defense mechanisms. It's normal. What's important is recognizing when you retreat to old ways and getting comfortable with apologizing to people and promising yourself you will try to handle similar situations much better in the future
Watched this video just when I've intentionally purposed to review my friends/social life and I got so shocked that I actually don't have friends, over the years a lot of people I called friends really hurt me and messed me up and it has really taken some time for me to want to have friends, but again I'm human and I've been feeling particularly lonely lately but I can't seem to bring myself to find friends or just people to talk to but with all this knowledge I've gathered today I feel I'm definitely at a better place to get new and meaningful connections, thanks girls for this talk, really helped.
So refreshing!❤️ And to Jules yes please think about the art growth lessons,painting etc..😊 People like I ,would love that kind of community connection.
Loved the conversation!! Am like Lornzie introvert wise! I struggle to make small talk😅 Also i thinknthe growth is because you have now become consistent with posting and we are here for it!!!
I love Jules 💜. I relate with her on so many levels like when she starts quoting the likes of Abraham Hicks, Eckhart Tolle, and other spiritual gurus. Also when she said I'd rather have a best friend than a boyfriend..💯. I look forward to making a real life connection with you Jules 😁
Lorna is so me…I also feel like I have everything on my phone 😂 ..very intentional about the connections I try to make as an adult and small talk is just something I can’t keep up with.
I have made peace with the fact that am not a good friend and I can be selfish. I am working on correcting that side of me and becoming a better human.
Hi. long time follower first time commenter. Can I just say how much I appreciate the candidness with you lot. Amazing how this talk corresponds with what am going through at the moment, Iove it.
First of all Ivy your outfit is fire...making friendships when you're are an adult is hard because you already know what you like and you're not ready to compromise
I'm with Lornzie on these introverted struggles. A glass of wine or fabulous cocktail, really helps me loosen up to interact more with strangers and stop overthinking the situation 💯😂
My two best friends are like Ivy, Shikie and Jules and I’m the lornzie. It’s so damn hard to maintain my own friendships later on make new ones but I realized that in every environment I’ve been in for some time I always make 1 or 2 meaningful connections although some times they’re not so watered all the time.
This is a great topic. Thank you for all the highlights and all the tips you provided. Being intentional and seeing how people are healing their traumas is my big guide when searching for a friend. When making meaningful connections, I attend events and collaborate a lot. A meaningful connection should always be beneficial, targeted and highly intentional. I am an introvert but when it comes to a business I create an agenda in my mind, or I just talk on what I know. Virtual coffee, virtual lunch or a virtual hangout is what I do mostly. I meet people in conferences, virtual conferences, the common activity groups, and through people I have done business with and I liked the experience.
Just like when you are building your business, even in rships its good to decided whether you are going vertical or horizontal. I strongly agree with Lorna..vertical rships as an adult are very important.
This is one of my favourite episodes this year, I feel like I'm at counseling guys. I'm very good at making friends and meaningful connections, BUT HORRIBLE at maintaining them, especially when going through a tough time, The last 2 years have been horrible for me and I completely shut off friends that I have known over 11 years, I didn't trust anyone apart from my sisters and a cousin . I really need help with maintaining relationships. Thank you guys for this topic
Aaah completely relate with your comment especially on the last two years bit and shutting off friends completely. Mine is worse coz even family is not spared especially when on a downhill. I try but just cannot let people in when spiraling.
Watched this just when yesterday I spent a whole afternoon conversing about how loyalty doesn't even exist in most friendships... people stick with other's for selfish gain....and some friends honestly are a whole emotional baggage
Let me just say God bless y'all for starting this channel.I relate with Ivy here..a friend once told me of a negative character of mine,i kinda ignored until my recent boyfriend pointed out the same.Let me just say..its then i knew I can also have negative toxic traits.😩😩 I've since changed that habit and i'm still becoming better. P.S We are still besties with the friend ,and i'm still with the said boyfriend. We usually joke with the friend and say growth is a beautiful thing. Man was i in the gutters🤣🤣
Waah Lorna I can relate , small talk doesn't work for me, and I don't really think I need new friends , keeping in mind maintaining the ones i have it's a struggle
I am so Lornzie at this stage of my life! From 2014 every year my resolution was no new friends and I think this will continue for sometime. Relocating twice the past 3 years has moved me to make friends but I’ve made very few but meaningful connections. I also hear Ivy because when I moved her approach now is what I used to make friends and then filtered them down.
For me, networking is tough for me cause I feel like people think I am forcing myself on them when I have always PRIDED (hahaha) myself in wanting people not to think I want them like that. Same with ordinary friendships. I'll take a number in a party and never follow up cause I'll assume they'll think I want them too bad. Crazy
Make self awareness a practice.I learnt that self awareness is being honest about your good and bad traits .Know them and accept them.Being self aware makes it easier for you to make honest connections because you get to understand what actually nurtures you as a person i.e what connections are good for you and those that are not.
Sad to say that I'm in a point in my life where I actually don't have any close friends and this has been bothering me a lot lately. Part of the reason why is because I lived outside my country for a long time and ever since I came back (about 7 years ago) I've not been able to make or maintain any meaningful friendships/connections. I'm literally on the verge of giving up trying to make friends and just accept that I may be alone for a while longer.
I learnt to like not be soo quick to label just any one a friend........now i am learning not to over share my things , and just because someone invites you oftenbyobtheir place, that foes not mean they are your friend, friendship has to be earned and reciprocated, otherwise you will be in the friendship alone.
You guys are top tier in helping the yout and everyone in between. Thank you so much for staying true to who you are and I love you guys’s friendship. The best Kenyan influencers in town aki.
Ivy said it well. Be careful with the word 'friends'. Because that's deep. You can have acquaintances and connections but jumping that part to friends isn't easy as you grow older. Tbh, after 25 those relationships you weren't giving that much energy, will fall off, but have connections. Lorna is so my introverted people. I swear I get that weird verbal spew when I get to talking to people at an event and it gets fun, but tbh, I will have fun and a great time and go home and go on with life, Jules said, 'don't expect anything' and it's true. I never expect people to reach out after, I actually panic on the down low. I will remember you but I swear even seeing a familiar not not really close like that face at ana event, I sweat in my corner like Lorna. I'm more of like 2 friends and content type of person, but I don't hesitate to have a conversation if it gets moving and enjoy the time. But pleeeas, don't follow up. I shut the doors upon arriving home. I follow things that excite me but daaaamn, the energy to keep connections going, phew. Extroverts I bow to you.
Lornzie is serving the truth today! If you don't have the emotional capacity, imagine it's not a must.
Yes
Not a must thats me.
Am with Lornzie 100%, i can make professional connections without necessarily building to friendships but yet stay open to it if it's meant to be... rather than overloading my emotional capacity.
When Ivy is moderating it really gets that Money Monday vibe. More interviewish less chitchat-ish, really focused conversation and everyone gets a chance to share their side of it
Factsss✴
But chitchat is also good sometimes cause we get to learn somethings from their unplanned vulnerability
@@hope.n.wilson sure thing. I like the episodes whichever way
When Jules said, "Your tone matters" I felt that. I may forget what you said, but never will I forget how you made me feel, so f*ck yeah tone matters.
Adulting is hard guys. Lately most of my friends have become 'people I know' I realized I have been watering dead plants. Always the one checking up and when I don't they don't.😒 So road to meaningful connections. 💁♀️
Good to "see"you here☺️
Hey you! Good to see you too.😊
This is soo me! It's exhausting
I can feel you on that
I Feel you 😭😭😭so exhausting
I relate to Lornzie so much. Introvert struggles😭 Small talk literally kills me. What are we even talking about?
Ivy is serving a look for us today💅🏿
Ivy's personality is amazing !!! Ivy, Don't dim the light trying to fit in. You are dope as you are !!
my sentiments as well
I am those people who don't have friends. I am an introvert and my social battery is kidogo... I feel more energized being alone working than hanging out with people.
Ooooooooh my God! This is me! 😅
Meeeeee 😂😂.Sometimes I sit and Wonder form ni gani.I dont like people
Woooow.....same introvert gal en reqlly selective on who to hang out wit🙆
I so feel you, I enjoy my space and company most of the time. We should start an introverts group lol!
@@geewangare Hahaha we start an introvert group, then who is going to keep it engaged. 😂😂
Being an introvert is such a struggle.....I always strive to meet new people but I also cant stand small talk.....but as Lorna said alcohol sometimes helps and having extroverted friends has proven to be quite crucial.....its always nice to see a fellow introvert share their life experience
Lornzie's pony tail is beautiful. Infact all the ladies look amazing and beautiful😍
I'm learning to have zero expectations not necessarily in trying to make new friends or relationships but also in life. It not only reduces the chances of you being hurt but also it increases the chances of you being open to what the universe has to offer. Absolutely loved the episode 💯💯💯🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I am with you on this.. I got the same concept from an author and a public speaker…Wayne Dyer??
@@chelseakoveti5674 not really .... It's just from my personal experiences and some self help books like the Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz . It changed how I looked at relationships. I'll look into Wayne Dyer though 😃💯💯
Ivy seems different today. A good different. It seems like she is baring her soul and opening up more. Learning and unlearning is definitely something I'm constantly working on as well.
Her confidence has grown on this show! The poise with which she stirred this episode is remarkable.
I realized especially when you need to meet people especially people you want to learn from, you can provide a venue for them to meet and do some fun activities, be the provider because they are so used to giving either resources or advice or just anything, be the giver they will naturally gravitate towards you and ask questions and you'll have changed the game instead of you going to them they'll come to you and they'll remember you.
That's some good advice. Thanks for sharing
especially
Perfectly articulated
My current struggle tbh. Recently turned 27 and realized I barely have any networks. When ivy keeps saying that your network is your net worth on #moneymondays,it triggers me...I feel poor. I've been so snobbish of people who reach out to me, maybe coz I fear being vulnerable. But I'm actively learning to be better.
So true..
This is me, you are me #WorkingOnMe
I'm like a fusion of Ivy n Lorna. I can easily make friends but maintaining the friendship weh 😂😂is a hustle. Yet I'm really young Amazing episode ☺️.
That Jules point of tone,i had to check my mother on it and now we're best friends.Sometimes to reach the diamond you need force.
Am glued at ivy’s outfit..that blue is serving looks❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's purple
@@lorrecco my bad,looks good either way
@@lorrecco I also see blue 😂 interesting
I also see cobalt blue 🤣
But is blue
Such a timely conversation, this has been on my mind a lot lately.
I agree it's hard making friendships
I'm glad there are men who enjoy Over25 as much as us.😁😁
I really appreciate your topics ... I am in my 40s and learning.
Really enjoyed todays conversation - Ivy is a fantastic hostess and it was lovely to have her back on the show. This conversation is really important especially in this post (?) covid space - finding your tribe and nurturing those relationships. its a daily struggle for me but I do have some takeaway lessons from the episode. It's so lovely to see Lorna blossom; I loved seeing her contribute more to todays conversation and as a fellow introvert, I identified so much with what she had to say but would encourage her to take on the counsel from Ivy to just try and get out of the shell. It's so difficult for us introverts though 😭😭😭. Jules as usual is a whole vibe on her own - she should have her own talk show. Jules is easily Kenya's Oprah. She is hilarious, relatable, wise, practical, easy to listen to .. I love her!
I just can’t explain how much i learn from you guys
I am turning 23 in a month,and I always feel blessed to have known your channel,a was taking notes 📝 the whole time😂,can’t wait for next Monday
❤️❤️❤️
Happy 23rd Birthday in advance Vallarie.
watching you feels like having 4 beautiful elder sisters who walk me through life... Such a blessing.
Lornzie has made me feel like i am a normal human being. I struggle with my current group of friends. i cannot deal with a bigger circle
I totally agree with Lornzie, honestly my current friendships are like cactus. I barely communicate or meet up that much because adulting is the hood of the hoodest.
Ivy amesema tusema tulike before tuwatch...whoms am I to refuse?? 😆😆
What a coincidence?
Yesterday i was thinking how hard it is to make friends, i have serious trust issues, i question peoples intentions, been done bad in the past.
I really long for people whom we can have great conversations and not just gossip
Lornzie😍😍😍 you and I are so much alike, small talk, socializing..... Not my cup of tea, it's haaaaard
Hmm! Was literally thinking about this yesterday. Feels like it's harder to make new friends as I get older.
I read this somewhere and it has been my mantra for this topic of friendship "I place my friends in three mental categories; (1) Best Friends (2) Good Friends (3) Acquaintances. It's important that I understand where they stand in my life because unmet expectations breed frustration. Some of you are expecting your number 3's to ack like 1's"
I’m a lot like Julia. If you come at me the wrong way, even if I’m wrong, it shall not go very well. And my family keeps scolding me about it. They say I take things to personally and I’m burning a lot of bridges because of it. But I just feel that your tone and how to communicate to me and your energy is a BIG deal and if it’s not right, I’d rather not pretend to be okay and yet I’m not.
Officially turned over 25 yesterday (26) been a huge fan since i was 23 through.
This combination of ladies with great personalities, beautiful, very informative is just what I need. I feel like you are my friends. Great work ladies...
I used to think I was weird until I heard Lornzie talk today...nimejikubali sasa. I really get worked up when I try to socialize with new faces.😂😭
Nice episode!!, being an introvert, i really get drained by small talk.....i would rather just sit and listen than talk... i thrive best in my own little world than in groups and i love it that way
As an introvert, this episode was A LOT…. I wish it was easy to just flow! Aki people can be draining… how do you start a conversation? How do you walk away from one?! Small talks ah ah
Same sis, it is very hard. It is just too much.
I can relate . Let’s just start here and be friends lol
Yaaaas. People can be draining esp for an introvert
@@ilungasaya437 yes! 😌have us our own little introverted crew
Well 5 years back i was like on top of the social circle ....but now am like a social introvert....it exists guys...😂....
This year i have really learnt a lot about friendships.. its good to know where your 'friends' have kept you (lack of a better word) because you may be there for them all through and one day you realize you didn't mean all that to them,,, my painful lesson this year , am now making meaningful friendships and its beautiful because most of them we are like-minded.
The content is so relatable now that we're in our 30s. Content worth a watch, channel worth a subscribe! From 🇹🇿
Love this episode... this is the kind of honesty that's required for friendships to succeed! Keep it up guys!!
Having a Friend who understands you and pushes you to be better other than seeing you as toxic is the best thing 💯, communication solves alot too. Powerful chat 🙌
I love how Ivy has grown. You facilitated this session so well. And kudos on your self-awareness
Haiya I totally related with Lorna in this episode. I fucking hate small talk😂 As an introvert it's really hard to make new connections/friends😅 I'd rather stick to my ride or dies🥂
Love this topic. There is a podcast I listened to which said that if the intention is not clear it becomes manipulation.. so set the intention for the connection clear
23 and loving it here!
Jules has just spoken exactly what I have been fighting within myself since USIU...am I a musician or a corporate person. It was really antagonising. I believe that people shouldn't give up but, just grow up. Every experience is part of maturing us.
Ivy being self aware and conscientious has been the highlight of the recent blogs!
I am very proud of her!
Ivy, you should read "The year of Yes" by Shonda Rhymes. She recalls her experiences during her yescapade.
Thanks Jules for that point on alignment. Some habits and traits about us cannot be permanently fixed. We'll be triggered and resort to our comfortable defense mechanisms. It's normal. What's important is recognizing when you retreat to old ways and getting comfortable with apologizing to people and promising yourself you will try to handle similar situations much better in the future
You're all glowing...Thanks for making our Mondays special ❤️❤️❤️
Watched this video just when I've intentionally purposed to review my friends/social life and I got so shocked that I actually don't have friends, over the years a lot of people I called friends really hurt me and messed me up and it has really taken some time for me to want to have friends, but again I'm human and I've been feeling particularly lonely lately but I can't seem to bring myself to find friends or just people to talk to but with all this knowledge I've gathered today I feel I'm definitely at a better place to get new and meaningful connections, thanks girls for this talk, really helped.
So refreshing!❤️
And to Jules yes please think about the art growth lessons,painting etc..😊
People like I ,would love that kind of community connection.
I understand Ivy's struggle. That's so me 😌
Me too
Me tooo😂
We need a support group!Alpha females☺️
Small talk is abit weird for me too. Lornzie +me =🤝
Loved the conversation!! Am like Lornzie introvert wise! I struggle to make small talk😅 Also i thinknthe growth is because you have now become consistent with posting and we are here for it!!!
The book " How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carneige is an invaluable resource
Very true ..
I'll have to check this out. Thanks for the suggestion
@@katewamuyu2465 Highly recommend
this was a great convo!! I like that every POV on this topic has come through from each one of you but Julz on spiritual alignment you got me...
I love Jules 💜. I relate with her on so many levels like when she starts quoting the likes of Abraham Hicks, Eckhart Tolle, and other spiritual gurus. Also when she said I'd rather have a best friend than a boyfriend..💯. I look forward to making a real life connection with you Jules 😁
Lorna is so me…I also feel like I have everything on my phone 😂 ..very intentional about the connections I try to make as an adult and small talk is just something I can’t keep up with.
I have made peace with the fact that am not a good friend and I can be selfish. I am working on correcting that side of me and becoming a better human.
The struggle is real
Hi. long time follower first time commenter. Can I just say how much I appreciate the candidness with you lot. Amazing how this talk corresponds with what am going through at the moment, Iove it.
Your vibe attracts your vibe ,what you appreciate appreciates
Everything about this video 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you so much for this - it is so timely for me in my personal life. Thank you 💓💛💛💓
First of all Ivy your outfit is fire...making friendships when you're are an adult is hard because you already know what you like and you're not ready to compromise
Tone and words ARE everything😂😂
I'm those people who can think about someone's tone even months later
I'm with Lornzie on these introverted struggles. A glass of wine or fabulous cocktail, really helps me loosen up to interact more with strangers and stop overthinking the situation 💯😂
Been thinking about this a lot lately..thanks for the tips
we need more of these conversations .You guys teach alot.
My two best friends are like Ivy, Shikie and Jules and I’m the lornzie. It’s so damn hard to maintain my own friendships later on make new ones but I realized that in every environment I’ve been in for some time I always make 1 or 2 meaningful connections although some times they’re not so watered all the time.
AUTHENTICITY!! GEMS!! I really apreciate your input to the society.
First time listening. I am sold, this is so meaningful.
This is a great topic. Thank you for all the highlights and all the tips you provided. Being intentional and seeing how people are healing their traumas is my big guide when searching for a friend. When making meaningful connections, I attend events and collaborate a lot. A meaningful connection should always be beneficial, targeted and highly intentional. I am an introvert but when it comes to a business I create an agenda in my mind, or I just talk on what I know. Virtual coffee, virtual lunch or a virtual hangout is what I do mostly. I meet people in conferences, virtual conferences, the common activity groups, and through people I have done business with and I liked the experience.
This is such an eyeopener for me.Been struggling to relate with people.Thanks alot ladies.💗💞
Just like when you are building your business, even in rships its good to decided whether you are going vertical or horizontal. I strongly agree with Lorna..vertical rships as an adult are very important.
I resonate so much Lornzie 💯💕
This is one of my favourite episodes this year, I feel like I'm at counseling guys. I'm very good at making friends and meaningful connections, BUT HORRIBLE at maintaining them, especially when going through a tough time, The last 2 years have been horrible for me and I completely shut off friends that I have known over 11 years, I didn't trust anyone apart from my sisters and a cousin . I really need help with maintaining relationships. Thank you guys for this topic
Aaah completely relate with your comment especially on the last two years bit and shutting off friends completely. Mine is worse coz even family is not spared especially when on a downhill. I try but just cannot let people in when spiraling.
Julia it's such a delight listening to you!!!
Watched this just when yesterday I spent a whole afternoon conversing about how loyalty doesn't even exist in most friendships... people stick with other's for selfish gain....and some friends honestly are a whole emotional baggage
i love today's discussion.I am an introvert and I have been trying to break out of my shell.Thank you for the tips1
I am so LORNA NOW,I always relate to Jules or Ivy, but today oh Lorna I feel u!!
Let me just say God bless y'all for starting this channel.I relate with Ivy here..a friend once told me of a negative character of mine,i kinda ignored until my recent boyfriend pointed out the same.Let me just say..its then i knew I can also have negative toxic traits.😩😩 I've since changed that habit and i'm still becoming better. P.S We are still besties with the friend ,and i'm still with the said boyfriend. We usually joke with the friend and say growth is a beautiful thing. Man was i in the gutters🤣🤣
Waah Lorna I can relate , small talk doesn't work for me, and I don't really think I need new friends , keeping in mind maintaining the ones i have it's a struggle
I'm with Julia btw, the shot when nervous will make me more nervous. Always a vibe on over 25!🔥
I think I’m a small version of Lorna. I’m really turning out to be an introvert and she’s just rubber stamped my thoughts. ❤️❤️
Let's just say your videography and quality are crisp!!! Would love a tour of your setup and equipment. Keep at it!
I am so Lornzie at this stage of my life! From 2014 every year my resolution was no new friends and I think this will continue for sometime. Relocating twice the past 3 years has moved me to make friends but I’ve made very few but meaningful connections. I also hear Ivy because when I moved her approach now is what I used to make friends and then filtered them down.
I relate with Lornzie.I have two best friends.her and internet. Other friends use your weakness to pull you down.other see you as a source of revenue.
Ivy... your voice and how words roll off the tongue , you need a segement on radio girl .. locked in
For me, networking is tough for me cause I feel like people think I am forcing myself on them when I have always PRIDED (hahaha) myself in wanting people not to think I want them like that. Same with ordinary friendships. I'll take a number in a party and never follow up cause I'll assume they'll think I want them too bad. Crazy
The part where Lorna is starting to yawn🤣🤣🤣 and Jules shamelessly points it out
Make self awareness a practice.I learnt that self awareness is being honest about your good and bad traits .Know them and accept them.Being self aware makes it easier for you to make honest connections because you get to understand what actually nurtures you as a person i.e what connections are good for you and those that are not.
Authentic conversation 💯
I love the way Ivy listens, nodding... Mmmm it's beautiful...
Sad to say that I'm in a point in my life where I actually don't have any close friends and this has been bothering me a lot lately. Part of the reason why is because I lived outside my country for a long time and ever since I came back (about 7 years ago) I've not been able to make or maintain any meaningful friendships/connections. I'm literally on the verge of giving up trying to make friends and just accept that I may be alone for a while longer.
Nope, please don't be alone. I can be your friend.
Same sis
@@janetarus6602 Aaaww thank you love. I'll be happy to be your friend 😊
@@faithodipo4776 sending you hugs 🤗💕
I learnt to like not be soo quick to label just any one a friend........now i am learning not to over share my things , and just because someone invites you oftenbyobtheir place, that foes not mean they are your friend, friendship has to be earned and reciprocated, otherwise you will be in the friendship alone.
You guys are top tier in helping the yout and everyone in between. Thank you so much for staying true to who you are and I love you guys’s friendship. The best Kenyan influencers in town aki.
Welcome back ivy! 😍
Ivy said it well. Be careful with the word 'friends'. Because that's deep. You can have acquaintances and connections but jumping that part to friends isn't easy as you grow older. Tbh, after 25 those relationships you weren't giving that much energy, will fall off, but have connections.
Lorna is so my introverted people. I swear I get that weird verbal spew when I get to talking to people at an event and it gets fun, but tbh, I will have fun and a great time and go home and go on with life, Jules said, 'don't expect anything' and it's true. I never expect people to reach out after, I actually panic on the down low. I will remember you but I swear even seeing a familiar not not really close like that face at ana event, I sweat in my corner like Lorna.
I'm more of like 2 friends and content type of person, but I don't hesitate to have a conversation if it gets moving and enjoy the time. But pleeeas, don't follow up. I shut the doors upon arriving home. I follow things that excite me but daaaamn, the energy to keep connections going, phew. Extroverts I bow to you.
Jules is bringing it today!!!!!Ah!!!!!!!🥰🥰🥰
As always.
Like always!
Wow...
Enjoyed this!
Learnt alot
Learning to learn myself....💙💙