Retired Life in the Philippines /Single Over 50/Do You Need a Woman?
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- Retired Life in the Philippines /Single Ove 50/Do You Need a Woman?@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 I explore some some of the pros and cons of remaining single as we approach our golden years
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I'm moving to Valencia in May, and as a OTR trucker that has lived alone, no friends and no GF for the last 30 years. I have learned to live with myself. I have my dogs and am happy, it will take an exceptional woman to change that.
Who needs a girlfriend when you have dogs, right? They're the most loyal companions! But hey, who knows, maybe Valencia has some exceptional women who love dogs as much as you do!
Person even. Friends are super important to longevity. If you live alone, you die alone. If you’re okay with that, then God speed.
so your going to leave your dogs to move to the philippines?
I cannot imagine why you guys want all the drama in your 60s of a young wife...
A little puppy is great companionship and less expensive.
@@lindi373🫵😂 true 🙏🏻✨
Sadly many people are terrified of being alone. It's not terrifying....it's liberating!
Almost, no one moves to the Philippines to be alone, if they are really honest (mostly we are not honest)
I love being alone. Peaceful
I like being alone. sometimes. its the only way i can get something done.
nothing to be terrified about.
Every married man I know is a pathetic beta male who gets no peace until he completely submits
I married my only gf.
7y later she kicked me to the curb.
I cried for 1 min. Been happy ever
Since. That was 1990.
Lol 60 seconds of cry. Love it!
A whole minute.😅
😂 😂
def LOL I refused to cry tbh-I was bummed for a bit, but recovered and was so glad I dodged that bullitt! All meant to be and definitely careful of repeating that mistake again..Marriage in the US is a real bad unfair contract for the man in most cases.
@@joejamison8876 I could tell u so many stories. Like the time the DA sent me a letter on a Wednesday saying
“Pay $8000. In back child support or we will send u to jail.” I paid way more than I was told to. So Friday comes and my paycheck is
-700. Dollars back in 1996. So I go to pick up my kid and my ex asks “where’s my money?”
I say I don’t know, my guess is the DA has it.
Good luck getting your $700. From the DA on a Friday nite, have a great weekend. And I left.
The worst part was, they never asked to hear my side of the story. Some due process
I'm 48 years old right now and have been single for 10yrs.
Life is much better this way, peace, and quiet.
Hi @J.D.Vision Glad to hear you're finding peace! We're loving our quiet life in Dumaguete too.
47 years old, never been married, no kids, never been in a relationship, and I do not regret it. I took care of my dad during his final years, and now look out after my mother, that is all I need.
Sorry
I’m 43 yrs old never been in a relationship. Never married. I need to figure out how to keep going.
@@JR8029 its not too late to have children. marry a Philippines woman.. have some kids..
you need a 22 yo with a nice figure and a big set of breast to watch tv at night with you🫠
Hi @rick-ry3kj That's wonderful! Prioritizing family is truly special. We understand the value of having loved ones around.
I've been single for 10 year, 63 yrs old, love it... I could NEVER go back to all the endless drama that comes with maintaining a full-time relationship.
.... Amen brother 🙏
been married 26 years ,the drama upsets me so much ,i moved my work further away .,so i live at my factory ,my happiness has changed my life .i do go home on weekends ,and find drama there .its so bad.
Let me suppose... bottle is your best friend now.
@@marguskiis7711 thanks for the reply ,i play with old cars/Porsche/Ferrari /Benzs,i always wanted a Rolls Royce ,and was so close last week to purchasing one ,got scared last minute on parts costs.
I don't drink any alcohol, nor do I consume any recreational drugs. Being healthy and fit (mentally and physically) as long as possible, that's my goal. @@marguskiis7711
I’m 65, was married to a Filipina 23 years and divorced her two years ago, hardest but the best decision I ever made in my life. I will never live with another woman again. I’d rather be old, single and alone than be in a bad marriage or relationship.
Were you and your Filipina wife living in the USA?
@@realmercy Yes, I met and married her in the US, I’ve never been to the Philippines - She was born in the Philippines but migrated to the US through a work VISA.
I met my Pinay here in the US. I was 25, and her 22. We were married for 23 years. 15-16 happy years. Had one daughter. I think she left because i was too boring, too reliable, and stable. I couldn’t support her shopping habit, or her debt. She ended up cheating on me, then asked for a divorce.
I don’t like the American woman. I find myself drawn to the PI. I have met and dated two Pinays. I will stay single for a while. No need to hurry into the wrong relationship. Especially since now my GF is 7,000 miles away.
I am glad you were able to survive. I am getting by. Seeking equilibrium before i rock the boat again, with female influence/drama.
I love philippines.. but a Thaina is just as sweet and beautiful as the filipina.🥰
@@oscarcelius1996 when she finds out her 1/2 of the equity in the house.. she will go find a female attorney and drop the AX‼️
Living life alone you can find your own inner peace. Being with the wrong person can hurt much more than being alone ever will.
Well said ~
Spot on comment.
Hi @Lawrencerice Couldn't agree more! We've found that too. Thanks for sharing!
A wise man once said, if it flies, floats, or F*ks, rent it. 🤣😂🤣😂
Very, very wise man!! 😂😂😂
My man… I’m stealing that… you made my day
Nice!! 👍
Reminds me of the old…”if it’s got tits or wheels it’s going to give you problems”
Felix Dennis
I don't care where they are from: staying single is the way to go. No drama, no baggage, and no BS. I'm 54 and have been alone for nearly 10 years. I'll never trade my freedom for anyone again. That's just my opinion of course. But different strokes for different folks.
True... nice to be single.
I am 18 years married but very toxic life. Nice to be alone someday.
You are absolutely correct in your comment!
@@J....40How toxic are you?
I saw it in the 70s and could never see getting married. It destroyed my faith in female commitment.@@SeattlePioneer
I'm 60 and living in Thailand. Never married and have lived alone my entire adult life. I was able to retire early because of it. I have a gf who lives about 15 km. from me. We see each other enough but don't get under each other's skin. Works perfectly for me.
Some underage girl I suppose.
@@marguskiis7711 Underage is a concept of every country, those are the best ones 😏
Can you there for $900 month.
Stop wasting her time. Set her free for a good husband and children. If you believe in "wall at 30", (as many americans do), wasting her youth, you are part of the problem
@@Nexus31323 exactly
Living alone means you are 100% in control of your own time, you can wake up when you want, go to bed as early or late as you want, etc.
Nag-free zone
And not have to explain everything you spent all day trying to forget
56 years of age here. Never married. It is bliss not to have no one nag you or make life a living hell for you. Seen many men in my age group that have wayyy too much drama in their relationships. Even my own family members having bad relationships. I am very happy to live alone and if it happens die alone. Singlehood is bliss.
@@manuelcortes7091 it's not too late to start reading books on how to communicate and make friends
@@manuelcortes7091 yes, being single is best, sometimes yes i am lonleyl, but i used to live with a women for 6 years, and omg i would start to hate just going to the grocery store with her!!! i would have to send time with her family too!
I'm 88 and live alone. i garden and have a few chickens plus i do all the house painting and maintenance, 5 bedrooms so a bit work is needed from time to time. I cook all my food, mostly simple stuff apart from trying out Filipino dishes occasionally. Dishes? i mostly wash at night so nothing to do in the morning. I do have a woman on a Sunday to do the house and that really keeps the house clean for a week cos i don't dirty the place much. A huge main plus is the fact that there are NO arguments here, NO minor complaints, NO money problems NO silent treatment NO stress. Hopefully, this will be the way until it's time to shake off those mortal coils. Bye all, and good night. Take care.
😃👍 take care of urself
Thank you Sir! You are truly a Man worth admiring. God Bless Your Life and the mark you are making in the lives of countless others…..
@@sandlerfrancois666 thank you, take care
Hi @user-nz4iy7lo3y Thanks for sharing your inspiring story! We're glad you've found a peaceful life in the Philippines.
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Thank you, i'm relaxing like a pro.
No woman, no cry.😊
No man, no cry.😊 both statements are true.
@computernerd8157 yeah but we have official song from Bob Marley
@@kubasniak I suppose that is true.
💯🌈🕺🏽
Some of the truest words ever spoken…
67 and living alone post many marriages and relationships. All I can say is freeeeedom!! Love it
😃 like the song Sweet Freedom
Alone = solitude. No nagging broad + saving money - headaches = life is grand.
alone at 60 means staying alone rest of life, because 60 is very old, too old to find a new woman
@@williamvanholder3368 lol- not trying to brag but I am 60 and I get ladies age 25 hitting on me all the time-get a reality check- 60 is not old if you are in shape, look good, have confidence and verbal skills and a friendly caring nature towards others . 6ft 175 same height and weight as 30, but actually stronger and in many ways healthier! I definitely lucked out in the gene pool but still have to take care of myself. Age is def all in the mind. If you feel and look old you need to change your brain and the rest will follow!
save money is #1
Hi @AaronOlafson Love it! Simplicity at its best
Single works for me. I'm comfortable with myself, don't need constant companionship, enjoy peace & quiet and don't get bored.
I get bored not being alone but being with the wrong partner!
" LIVING ALONE ... IS LIVING FREE " !!! 😊
Good message Dog, I’m a confirmed bachelor, I got married it lasted 6 horrendous months . I found out I was not the marrying kind . After I got divorced I swore to God I would never get married again. So far so good. Lots of Gfs but I take them as they come and it last as long as it last. Being single is great ., I am my own person. I do what ever when ever. Money is not an issue.. I’m in and out of the Ph it’s a blast ! Being single is a blast !
Dam right. Pay for play.
Not really I set the rules . I don’t lead with my wallet. I don’t deal with young girls. I stick with the ones that have a business of there own or a province woman 30 to 55 age group.. Number one rule the moment they start talking meet the family or marriage I’m out. I know how to say no when I have too. Do not get involved with anyone until your boots on the ground .take you time. Don’t play there games no matter how good the th ass is.@@Dutchy695
Hi @modusop8 Thanks for sharing your story, buddy! We're glad to hear you've found happiness as a bachelor.
I'm in Thailand right now. Single, but NEVER lonely. 😉
Shout out to you brother, hoping to follow in your footsteps one day!!! 😂😂😂
Yep cheap yet attractive women companions too. Nothing like the THOTS here in the US
You’re a hero. ❤❤❤
@@randyvaughn4046 LOL....NOT a hero I can assure you.
@@brians2328 1st choice was the Philippines. However, after visiting Thailand for an extended period, not sure I'll even visit the PI. This place is amazing.
I’m so happy you’re talking about this! I’ve been biding my time in a unhappy marriage til the kids reach 18. They’re 18 this summer 2024. I’m an old dad who will be 66 this spring. I’m watching lots of these retirement videos and planning my escape 😂
Good on you for giving your kids a stable start.....soon you will be in paradise doing who you want when you want how you want!
Just don't fall in love over there.
Stay clear of the Philippines brother 🙏
Any pics of the wife? 😈
I’m rooting for you. And your escape from Alcatraz plans. 😎. Lotsa people will criticize you, but no one that’s ever been a married working man in the USA 🇺🇸 would ever blame you: admire you, sure, but never criticize you. We’ve done our time on the chain gang, but it’s never enough. Hardly No man ever regretted going to the Philippines 🇵🇭. I went in 90 while in the usmc and I’ve dreamed of returning ever since. I just hope I can escape too.
Get ready to split all of your assets
Love is always the key. Loving yourself is the golden key. Never compromise your own peace and freedom. And yes, we are social creatures and are not really designed to live in solitude. I guess it’s a question of finding and living in the right balance. Good luck to everyone ✨🫵💖✨
You can be social while living in solitude.
@6554. Some guys just can’t be with themselves alone they need a gf to validate them. I agree a healthy friendship is helpful in life but it’s not a difficult balance to achieve well not in my experience any ways 👍👍. I met a nice guy here in Cebu, he’s lived here for 14 years and had 12 different live in gf’s 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️.
Being single doesn't mean that you're alone or lonely, you can have a social life outside of your home. There's actually lots of advantages for staying single because a woman will never fulfill your social needs and she can eventually stop you from having a social life in the first place.
We aren't designed to live with feminists either
Peace & freedom & much more..No Women..No Cry😊
I believe, for us guys, that it comes down to peace, overall peace. If we cannot find peace. We cannot find happiness. Short term craziness may provide us with a little excitement, but eventually that happiness is replaced with stress. My goal is Ormoc, Leyte in twelve years. I like the small-town feel, two-hour Supercat ride to Cebu and still have access to malls, hospitals and shopping when you need it. My goal is just to workout, pray/meditate, grow food and go fishing for meals. When I walked away from drama, dramatic people and started taking care of myself. My life became incredibly fulfilling.
Being single all my life I learned tips after moving to Southeast Asia. You don't need to do dishes. I bring out my finest paper plates and plastic cups. Plastic spoons, forks and knives make it simple.
Waking up when you want, sleeping when you want and getting groceries when you want makes days go faster being retired.
In the past three years I've hired cleaning help, landscaping help and it's so much easier now. I lived so long being single it's difficult to start compromising everyday.
You do need a social network of friends to look after you. But single life is just being happy. All that money you worked hard for all your life, it's time to enjoy this chapter and be comfortable in life.
Absolutely.. That sounds like me the last 44 years 64 now😅
Lol I am 34 and living this type of life now. Love being single. I can't stand people and many get in my way.
I wasted 25 years being married to an American woman and the only good thing that came out of it was my son. Now he's off in life and being successful on his own. 5 years ago I met my Filipina and I wouldn't trade her for anything. For the first time in my life I felt valued, admired, loved, and cared for. I truly can't imagine my life without her. I did not seek her out, she just happened to me. I really can't imagine living life without her. We have been together for 5 years and it seems like we're still dating and in love like teenagers. It's okay to be without a woman in life, but when you find one that fits so perfectly, you will feel the same way. I am definitely a person who does not like being alone. Maybe that's a weakness, but I don't feel I've lost any freedom being with my woman.
I've always been single as well. But I rather enjoy hand washing dishes! However, I would not impose dishwashing on you.
C’mon man, you’re not that lazy that you can’t do the dishes? If you are, get a dishwasher. Eating off paper plates … 🤡
I made the permanent move to Cambodia two days ago. I could see myself starting a family of my own here. The women are so beautiful and it is so easy to have long conversations with total strangers on the street here. I love the atmosphere!
Sounds great!
What area of Cambodia is like that?
@@tryscience phnom penh
@@mylifethaidiy7045 I’ll add Cambodia to my list of Southeast Asian countries to visit and maybe stay for extended periods. How long are the tourist visa restrictions? Vietnam just went to 90 days so that’s a good choice for me to think about also.
You marry the whole family....starting with a considerable payment to the mother which is called " milk money....$10 to 15k + would be a figure they have in mind...+ wedding costs...( 150- 250 guests)...your looking at $30k minimum....I almost fell into the trap myself in Cambodia...stay single guys...and just f@@k all the whores.
I am 41 and retiring from the military in 3 months. I needed to see this video. Thank you. 💆🏾♂️💆🏾♂️
Hi @redpilldh Congratulations on your retirement! Welcome to the island life, we're happy to have you here!
The most valuable lesson I learned was to enjoy being with myself solo. It is a freedom and a super power that you can take into your future relationships.
51, never married, no kids myself. It does concern me if I decided to marry a Filipina. I truly enjoy my peace, quiet and freedom. Recreational dating would be ideal for me.
Thank you, I appreciate that. @@Gabe.G_Live
Living alone is FANTASTIC!
Hell yeah myself and my Filipina just split so clingy 😅 thank God it is over.
I’m 63 and have been divorced since 2016 after 38 years of marriage. Kids are grown and successfully launched. I have a LDR girlfriend in Manila and we talk at least twice a day and last year we spent about 2 1/2 months together but it was more in vacation mode. I enjoy my time alone and have become accustomed to it. Not sure I would enjoy going back to any other way of living.
Thank you for sharing your story! It's inspiring to hear how you have found joy and independence after your divorce. It's wonderful that you have a supportive LDR girlfriend and a fulfilling relationship. Wishing you continued happiness and fulfillment in your current way of living.
Have been single and living alone for over 11 years now. I've been living in the Philippines for 8 months (one month in Cebu City and seven months in Mandaue City). Have had several dates and met several different women. All of them. at some point, started asking me for "LOANS". They always had some type of family crisis whether it be a death, injury, or illness. I agree with some of the others regarding that it's better to live alone than to live in a bad relationship. As always, I enjoy your informative and entertaining videos.
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I often dealth with single mothers, who always had problems with their lives.
They were always welcome to hit me up, and if I helped THEM then I expected them to help ME. That was just fine with them in most cases.
The trick is to NOT have "relationships." Don't get emotionally involved. Keep things transactional. Women could understand that, especially when they were needy for some reason.
Just as an example, on e of my single mothers was a very attractive woman employed as a bartender. She worked until the bars closed.
She had a son who was in Cub Scouts, and often I would take him to his meetings, bring him home and put him to bed. Then I would put myself to bed ----in mom's bed.
When she got home we would shower together and wash the barstink off of her, then spend some congenial time together until I left in the morning.
After a couple of months she found a boyfriend and I was no longer needed. But I'd get calls from other needy single mothers. No problem!
stay away from Moochers 😄
lead them on, cheat on them. never give them money. give the bare minimum pay for dates and thats it!
Hi @TexasT-Bone1970 Thanks for sharing your experiences! We understand the challenges of dating abroad and appreciate your honesty.
I'm 45. I went on one date after my last girlfriend and I broke up 12 years ago. I realized life is too short to put up with any of that kind of bs just to avoid being alone.
Not dating here is easy, but I haven't left for the Philippines in part because I'm afraid of being confronted by women who are likable or even lovable. A couple months ago I watched one youtubers channel and toyed with the idea of getting on a plane the next day just to meet her. Dangerous stuff over there.
Oh yeah very dangerous 😅
Follow the filipina pea
Have too agree, wouldn't be hard to let down those defenses and indulge in ones desires... One of the reasons I hesitate jumping on a plane. Easy to resist western women, but having been in PH, I think a ton of will power would be required... especially if you are decent guy and anyone who knows you are single (and they all will), is trying to hook you up with a friend, cousin, aunt, daughter etc.
bring a fat wallet🤠
@@secretagent86• Pee?
Nailed it again!. I find that external forces will effect most men positively or negatively . I've been single for ten yrs and I'm 55 yrs old. I have found that here in Canada being alone is more positive for me. I would only seek a girl if she bettered my life , here that's not the case
Canada is awful for dating
Hi @user-bs3yh9tb3t Thanks for sharing your perspective! We're glad you're enjoying our content and finding common ground with our experiences.
Paul, I too own one plate, one knife one fork and one spoon. I have one extra mug for the occasional guest's cup of tea. Have done so for the past 20 years. Never a problem finding washing up piled in the sink. My four dogs have two bowls, one for biscuits and one for tinned meat. Recipe for perfect contentment, 95% of the time - I am talking about having the dogs of course, perfect companions.
Hi @charleswhite758 Love it! Minimalist living at its finest! We're simple too, no fuss!
I cant sleep around to happiness but it sure did make me happy trying!
Hi @keithbarnes7876 Glad you're spreading joy, my friend!
Great video Paul. You hit a lot of good points especially the one about being happy within yourself. I will use this video as a reference for all my married friends and my mother who can't understand that after 27 years of marriage, I'm now happy being single.👍🏝
Absolutely!
In 1969, at age 19, I observed the PLAGUE of divorce taking place. I decided never to get married or have children.
Not worth the risk of social and financial disaster.
Now, at age 74-------
BEST DECISION EVER!
Hi @SeattlePioneer I appreciate your unique perspective on life!
Lived alone now for 42 years in the states. I live below my means and as a minimalist. My nearest neighbor is a mile as the crow Flys. My only fear is that day that I need someone to notice I've fallen and got hurt, medical issues ect. Also in my older age it would be nice to have someone hold me accountable on taking better care of myself. So I'm starting my reprogramming process for my move to the Philippines.
Im doing a slow multiple increment process and not pounding in any stakes anywhere. Also going to leave the American lifestyle,attitudes and value system behind in the states. Good thought provoking video Paul! God bless you two kids! Play nice!
It sounds like you've put a lot of thought into your decision and it's great that you're taking steps to make positive changes in your life. Best of luck with your move to the Philippines!
@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 I have put not just thoughts but vacations for planning.
I've got 3 years till I turn 62 and will make the full move then.
But, watching your videos and others helps to think and plan as best possible. As you know, additude and expectations are a big factor too. For me, noise and privacy might be my biggest huddle.
I can live under a tarp, so creature comforts aren't top on the list. Thanks for all the information. I'll keep watching and learning. Take care!
My wife of more than 33 years, passed away a few months ago. I miss her companionship, love, and guidance, dearly, but I lived alone for 11 of the 13 years ( I was renting from a couple while in law school) before we met, so I knew how to be alone. I will be 70 soon, and have no desire to remarry or be in a serious relationship. No woman could ever replace my wife and I am a person who enjoys personal freedom and solitude.
I tell people that “ I am alone but I am not lonely.”
You are a wise man who’s not afraid to recognize publicly the failures and successes in your life while you were either alone or cohabitating with someone, those up & down times and adjustments as needed has taken you where you are right now. I’m glad you found someone that understands you and be with you and accepts just who you are.
Hi @lbfarfullo Thanks for the kind words! We feel grateful to have each other's support.
One of your best videos, thanks again, Paul! You drove the point right home, told guys our age esp. how to avoid repeating past drama and issues...
It's most imprtant to learn to like yourself and decide what it is you want! Most older men became so accustomed to catering to other's needs that they forgot to say no 😢😅
Best advice ever!
I wish you and Baby Mae many happy years and the very best outcome for your projects.
Hi @mick-berry5331 Thanks, I'm glad it resonated with you! Learning to prioritize yourself is key.
You’re a smart fella Paul! I always enjoy your videos and thank you for putting them out here!
Another classic by Paul ! This is one video that should be require to watch by all newcomers ex-pats .We are so lucky to have Paul relating his views and stories to us Baby Boomers . Keep them coming and have a Good New Year . P.S. May we all have a Happy Ending in our journey through life .
Hi @farmerboy8659 Thanks for the kind words! Means a lot to me, appreciate the support. Happy New Year indeed!
You nailed it Paul. I am 67 and found my wife 25 years ago (second marriage) and couldn’t be happier. I was alone for a few years too. It’s all how each person (male and female) views the world and that is the key to a happy relationship. Outstanding video!
What you said about happiness coming from within, I totally agree with that. But, related to that, I often see Facebook posts that say "Money cannot buy happiness". My smart-ass response to those posts is always "No, but it can sure rent a good substitute".
Absolutely! Happiness truly does come from within, but it's also important to acknowledge that money can provide comfort and opportunities that contribute to our overall well-being.
And also depends where you shop lol
@Stan. The version I heard was, it’s better to be alone to cry in a new Mercedes than a beat up ford. 😄
One advantage in Southeast Asia is it is warm to hot. So people are outside and people meet. Unlike in the US, so much of the time it is cold and people are inside so there is a loss of interaction with people, both male and female. The Nordic countries are very cold and there is a big problem with depression and suicide. So, retiring to Southeast Asia, staying single and just interacting with people would be a good peaceful life.
In my case, my wife died and I was very depressed. I met a lady from Vietnam and that was good for me. We are still in the US but I don't like the cold weather. I am 81, (20 year age gap) so concerned about her life when I am gone.
Hi @jimgraham9450 Warmth brings people together! We're lucky to have that here in Dumaguete.
great topic paul, really enjoyed it
I’m content living here in the states. I’ve visited the Philippines , nice place to visit but I live comfortably retired here. Many places I still need to visit. I’m 62. Rock on Paul 💯
Hi @gregtucker2892 Appreciate your perspective! We're glad you enjoyed visiting the Philippines. Rock on indeed!
True wisdom! Thanks for tackling this topic Paul. Hopefully some take it to heart.
divorced for 3 years now. the freedom and peace of mind is priceless.
Good video and very realistic topic. Keep up the good job!
Right Now Here In United State Alot Of Women Are Mental Damage
I hear that alot
I Have to say, dating Western women is an absolute disaster. But I dated women from other countries, such as China who were here for grad school and that went extremely well!
Night and day difference, beautiful, considerate, affectionate, engaging. I'm looking forward to getting to the Philippines.
See recent stats on how many on abortion pills 💊 side effects
If a woman has been in 2-3 relationships you dealing with one with some deep seated issues 😮
Depending upon the relationship
This is your best video, i been alone sense 2018, i was engaged, but was not happy with the feeling of the direction, we both where changing. I have been along ,and have found inner peace through meditation, inner love , inner peace. Love is within, not without, i desire companionship, not love ! But being alone, i feel peace inside my soul, most people are empty inside, drugs , liquor, smoking, one night stands etc. Two empty people can't make each other happy, why would a happy person deal with drama, because you can't be alone!😮
Being alone is how you truly find yourself!
Absolutely agree with everything. I'm 61, never married, no kids, over 30 years since my last date and could NOT be happier. I've watched countless friends get hooked up with the wrong mate and have their lives more or less ruined. Not one bit interested in that. No way, Jose!
The most impactful words you spoke, and a phrase I myself use often - "They're STILL women!" Truer words were never spoken! Women in the Philippines, Thailand, Vietnam, etc may be a lot better than most you'll find at home but... They're STILL women! They ALL come with baggage and they ALL come with drama. Maybe less of it, but not zero.
Good food for thought...Happy New Year Paul + Mae
Great topics Paul.
Paul, when you said the kids will go and start their own bad marriages, I laughed so hard with you ! You made my day with that...subbed...
It's true, lol. I'm 52 and retired, and my 22 year old son is married with twins to a modern-day tatted up woman. I don't see it lasting longer than 5 years. He saw what I went through with his mother, not sure why he would want to go through the same thing I did.
Hi @DJ_BROBOT Thanks for laughing along! We're glad we could brighten your day.
I have been listening for @ 3 years to your lessons you’ve learned in the Philippines.
I may come visit some day. I live in Vermont with an 80 year old widow. I rent a room, mow the lawn and shovel snow. I had to bury the dog when it got hit by a car. Im 62 and single. I raised my 3 kids by myself since my wife decided to leave back i 1992. Your story of getting married to Baby Mae has helped me to consider finding a no drama girl in the USA. Thanks Paul
Hi @kenwalton80 Thank you for sharing your story! We're glad our content has inspired you to consider finding a partner.
Thank you sincerely for REAL TALK! This is the first video of yours I’ve seen, and I am so grateful that I subscribed. You sir, are a gentleman, and I am so thankful for your presentations!
Great video buddy! These are my favorite type videos that you do. Much better than interviews, I think because you share such great wisdom with us. Thank you.
Another great Video Paul, on a very important topic! Also, encouraging guys & Gals to wait...take their time...before shacking up. Someone once quiped: " Marry in haste,repent at leisure ! " You and Baby Mae are a great example for us all, as well as being an Ambassador & Bridge for expats.
Hey Paul, I enjoy your candid conversations. An interesting trend in the States is that young men are refusing to get married and refusing to submit to a 9 to 5 job that limits their freedom. I think it's because with videos like yours, they can more easily predict how their lives will evolve. Staying single and renting those essential moments in life has huge advantages! Hindsight is 20/20.
It is easy to understand, young guys are finally learning from older guys. More like, they are observing the stupid shit and outcomes older guys are going through and opting out.
The ones who are not wanting to work are mostly the ones who have given up on dating.. lets be honest most guys try to make more money because they think it'll get them girls, so if they give up girls then they only need enough money to live as a man, and since most men are simple creatures it don't take much
Hi @23billd Thanks for watching and sharing your insights! We're glad to be a part of the conversation.
Living alone provides something a relationship cannot provide…PEACE
great advice, great video.
I’ve been single like ten years. My finances have never been better. When you only spend your money on you, that’s when you get ahead.
9 days until I leave for the Philippines. Maybe my single streak Will end lol 😅
I told myself a long time ago, If I can’t have a high quality woman I’d just rather be single.
Hi @ThePhilippinePipeDream Great attitude! We're glad to hear your finances are doing well. Enjoy your new chapter in Dumaguete!
A lot of great thoughts here, and a lot of words of wisdom. I'm just speaking for myself; I've spent the last 30 years being in a marriage with all of the responsibilities and almost NONE of the so-called benefits. No sex since 2009, and what there was before that was not stellar. I've packed my own lunch, done my own laundry and washed my own plate all during that time. Sooo...I'm not missing anything? IDK I'm just feeling like I'd kind of like to rediscover physical touch again. I realize that makes me possibly vulnerable to some sketchy shenanigans heading overseas but it still seems worth a shot.
Check out Thailand and rent women as needed.
Philippines will present to you what seems like a relationship, but in reality is pay as play long tern prostitution. 🙏
Just curious, why have you stayed that long?
@@mikeh9956 fair question: because despite not being into me she is a good mother to my kids and isn't a bad person, per se. She might actually be a better person than me, in an objective sense. SO she's stayed with the kids while I worked, and we're working to get them launched.
@@dazamistwalker I feel for brother, what a terrible position you are in. I hope you can break free and find female intimacy again.
Just started watching vids like this. Lots of older men coming out of poor to mediocre marriages which were probably bad ideas in retrospect , and they are drawn to this illusion of young women who will fawn over them, cheap housing and other commodities,nice weather and freedom from any social responsibility whatsoever. What I’ve seen is that while there are savings in housing , food etc, many times the women there start to turn and use these men as private ATMs. Almost without exception. These countries are developing , with slowly emerging economies and not a lot of opportunities for women( yet) in some of them. They tend to have large families which will expect these men to subsidize their needs too. You don’t have to go that far to find gold diggers like them. Maybe cast your net closer to home but look for something else in a partner. 70 year olds thinking a 25 year old they’ve just met is head over heels in love with them need a reality check. This guy Paul promotes being alone , yet he’s married. Somehow, even he says it’s not a bed of roses and he’s not having kids or other stresses placed on him. Kinda sketchy.
Love it😊
Excellent Video & Advice 👍..
Great video, Paul. All true.
Glad you think so!
yes, my man, once woman is gone , drama is gone
Hi @poohshmoo9892 Love that simplicity!
Awesome video Paul……thanks for this new perspective that I’ve never really depth into💪🏼🙏🏼
Hi @FilCanGil Thanks for watching! Glad to share our experiences with you.
Nice video again Paul...I have no problem from been along and very happy. THANK😇
Hello Paul, I'm 65 living with my Son but I understand this topic. I was a single father for years and raised my kids from 13, 7 & 4 because of divorce but now at 65 alone would be ok
Great video Paul and excellent topic. I remind myself that I could be dead tomorrow (hit by a bus, whatever). Then I make decisions based on this reality. Being single gives you the freedom to meet so many interesting people, free up your time to tick off the bucket list, travel, work as long (or short) as you want, create financial independence and the list just keeps going. If you’re someone who wants or needs to have a girlfriend/wife all power to you. Life is not a one size fits all. Thanks for sharing.
I should add that it helps if you are a bit of a people person and have a network of good friends.
Hi @oncall21 Thanks for sharing your perspective! We appreciate your thoughtful comments.
Super great video, thank you.
Excellent Video Sir Paul 😊. A lot of good information 👍. I am counting down the days before I can move to the Philippines 🇵🇭.
Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Im currently in 10yrs deep after my exwife left and adults kids began their lives , been having a few intermittent relationships through these 10yrs but nothing that would hold my feet to the fire, i still enjoy this freedom..im on my way to visit the Ph in June..
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Hi @RONALD...... Glad you're considering the Philippines! Enjoy your trip.
TH-cam knows me very well. They just recommended this video. Subscribed immediately 😅. Got divorced in 2005 and never looked back. My 50th birthday was on 12th November 2023. ... Same drama in Kenya Africa.
Hi @RaymondKIMATHI Thank you for sharing your story! Glad TH-cam recommended our content to you.
Paul, this is one of your best videos, very thoughtful. Thank you
Great video, Thanks Paul 🙏, see you in February
Hi @miguelc.819 Thanks for watching! See you in February!
I found a dish rack that sits over the sink,so I wash the dishes and they drip dry into the sink.
I also found a countertop dishwasher that I intended for my RV, but it’s a little large for that, but it’s perfect for a single person in an apartment. It holds two bowls, two plates and two coffee cups and assorted silverware. Plus it has a cycle for washing fruit and veg and a UV light I haven’t used yet.
I usually like being single, but sometimes having companionship is better. If I could work out a part time situation it would be ideal
you dont need a dishwasher, you dont even need soap. just rinse off plates thats enough...
Hi @kenmcclow8963 Thanks for sharing your solutions! We've also found some great space-saving products here in Dumaguete. Companionship can definitely be a bonus, we've learned that too!
Paul, excellent content you hit the nail on the head. I have just started exploring the possibility of retiring to southeast Asia (I retired a year ago). I am a bachelor, and you just about outlined my bachelor life😀 To be honest it is a good life, after being married (spouse passed away) and raising a family I enjoy my time alone. I know it's not for everyone and it takes some time to adjust but it's nice only having to be responsible for me with no one in my pocket. I think I am going to base myself in Thailand, (the food looks amazing) and travel all around the other side of the world. I still haven't decided whether I'm going to live there part of the year or full time, but I am heading that way to check things out. I will also visit the Philippines. I do get lonely sometimes and would enjoy companionship but want that to happen naturally not force it. Thank you for your videos!!
Great Video 👍
You give all your viewers plenty to think about 🤔
Thanks for uploading ..
Greetings from Ireland 🎉
Hi @rednegsnartevoli5737 Appreciate your kind words and Irish greeting!
Thanks Paul, for the honest and clear observations..Kind regards, Leon
Happy New Year! I agree with all the points (the stoic that I am). I think self-regulation and self-reflection are sorely missing these days.
Very true!
Thanks for sharing!!
That’s why diet and exercise and longevity principles are so important! I’m 57 and want to live with active lifestyle and sex past 100 or for as long as I can perform. With TRT and Cialis it should be possible. I have longevity in my family on both sides. Absolutely correct nothing like having independence and getting a rental GF when you need it. You can even work out the long term friends with benefits.
Very wise word's Paul, you now have a new subscriber from Ireland
What a candid and refreshingly honest view of your life and reset. I get it - and for myself going through a new life on my own whilst , I reset my future plans is interesting. What is exciting is the fact that I get to choose my future - where I live in what part of the World and with whom on my terms. I have made enough sacrafices and compromises to last 2 lifetimes. Keep believing and "Live the life you love."
When I got out of the Marines I was in a wheelchair facing surgeries and my wife left me ...that was in 2006. I when through the treatments and physical therapy and got better and went back to work as a security contractor overseas...Might sound weak but I loved my wife of 13 years and tried to get her back three times...after 6 months my sister's said I better get a divorce and I did...being along has been the worst...I too have not been able to be in a relationship due to what I went through with my x wife that said, I prefer being married and hope to someday meet the right woman...at this point in my life, I am free to go and do what I want but really miss be in a relationship... thank you for your wonderful videos
Norm
If she left you because you suffered injuries, she has demonstrated exactly what kind of woman she is... you are better off without her in your life.
Don't dwell on it, get out, join clubs, meet people, and who knows?... the right one may just come along.
Sorry you had to go through that, Norm. Some people though, and your ex sounds like one , cannot make their affection for someone override their discomfort with any disabilities they might develop. Avoidance kicks in. This is common and having worked in a trauma unit, you see it sometimes. I do hope you find someone who is more emotionally grounded in that way; you sound like someone who is emotionally generous and positive( you tried three times to win her back!) Wish you luck.
Thank you brother. God bless.
I'm 67 but I am very physical person. in order to have a happy life I need a touchy feely kind of woman. That physical contact is what I need from my partner.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's important to understand our own needs in a relationship and communicate them openly. Wishing you all the best in finding the touchy feely woman who can make you happy!
I appreciate that as well from the women whom I have dated.
you need something with a nice set of breast😀🫣
Great video man. Thank you for sharing.
Paul..... I am amazed at your insight and ability to express your thoughts and convey them in a thoughtful and conversational manner. I will be watching and wish you both the best!
Hi @tom3966 Thanks for your kind words, it means a lot to me and we appreciate your support!
Im settling in and enjoying all the points you pointed out being single...I have 3 plates I have 2 older sons that I still have a great relationship with so 1 plate wont work. I originally wanted to go to the Philippines. I dont think I will get on a plane for 22 hours for anybody! Thank you for the content!
Hi @kevmonty1 Glad to hear that, and thanks for sharing your story!
Paul:
I hear you about the "what do I inject into a relationship if I'm angry" That is one of the things that hold me back from entering into a relationship. I know if I was angry when starting a relationship with a woman (whom most are mainly running off their emotions and very little logic) it would be a disaster right from the beginning. It would be like entering into peace talks with a bomb strapped to your chest, the outcome would not end well.
IT's hard to eliminate the negativity that creates the anger when the people around you keep piling their BS up on the tops of what you are trying to get rid of., even when you tell them to leave you alone. Things are so negative here in the west, and that is why I look mainly for channels from the Philippines to watch. The people are so cheery, happy, and positive that it helps ease the tension from the burden of all this stress and negativity causing the angry side of me to be forced into the fore front. Thankfully there are plenty of channels that I can watch to feel like they lighten the load of those stresses, and help me forget the negativity being constantly piled on top.
Would I want to get into a relationship right away if I ever got the opportunity to head for the Philippines? Hell NO! I would want to soak up as much of the culture and positivity that I've seen in the channels I've watched for a while before to erase the negativity and anger from my life before I enter a relationship with a person who has never seen or experienced the horrors I've had to deal with my entire life. It would just not be fair to her, or the possibilities of a great relationship with her.
Just my own two cents.
I have starting recognizing and eliminating toxic people in my life after many years. It is quite liberating and feelings of anger are much less. Thanks for sharing and hope you have a great 2024!
Hi @Crazykid949 Thanks for sharing your thoughts! We can definitely relate to the struggles of negativity and anger.
I truly needed to listen to this video....thank you
Paul. This has to be your best post. Thank you!
Thanks David
Paul has always got it dialed in... what an interesting guy‼️😃
Thank you very much
Paul married life seems to agree with you, I think Father Time is turning the clock back for you lol 😂
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm really enjoying married life and it's great to hear that it shows. Time flies when you're having fun!
Great insight! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Very good insights