Girls and guys out there, don't ever fake feelings for anyone. You might be scared to turn them down... But remember the longer you fake the more they get hurt. It's okay to turn people down. Your feelings are valid too.
That's funny I thought you were talking about the guy here. He shouldn't have given up things he cared about to be someone else FOR someone else. When we are our best authentic selves is when we will find our true love.
I'm in that situation now. I tried to give it a time and now I feel that it didn't get to anything. But as you said, I'm scared to turn him down. I don't want to hurt people
@@smithaammu398 bad advice for @kira , as a man we want direct answer because when you say you don't want any relationship now it gives a hope for maybe in future. When we see you with other men after we only hear things about no time for relationship, focusing on ourselves, it hurts on another level.
Fun Fact: Jo was actually supposed to be an aromantic character who never got married. However, the publishers did not like it and thought it sent a bad message, so they made the author change it.
Does anyone have any thoughts about whether or not romance and love are the same. Is romance love? Is love romance? Two different words would suggest that they are not the same thing. I think it may be safe to say that someone could be aromantic and want a loving relationship. I actually just looked this up online to see what definitions there are. It appears they can.
@@toddnelson6907 romance can be a part of love, but love is not ALWAYS romantic, if that makes any sense. love can be platonic or intimate or familial, but romance is purely intimate
@@thebarbarians8082 Ayo, I'm feeling pretty sad and I don't know what your going through. Hearing story like this makes me go down😢. I have never been in a relationship and after getting so many sad break ups make me loose my expectation. Hope you're healing for better ☮️ .
@@VijayKumar-qf4jn trust me keep your head up. When she did love me it was the greatest feeling I’ve ever felt in my life. There will always be break ups and you might not find your love for a while, but if you keep working on yourself and keep on a smile even in tough times you will find someone, someone who actually loves you. It’s why I keep going, cause even tho I’m hurt it’s better to keep going than to get discouraged and give up and miss something that would have happened! You got this! I didn’t think I’d get a girlfriend and then I found one, sure it’s didn’t work out but I would have never felt so much love if I had given up like I wanted to earlier. There will be lonely times and there will still be break ups but love and happiness is worth it!!! I’ll be here if you need to talk
There is absolutely no way you can make a woman love you when she doesn't. You could be the best guy ever, love her with all your heart and center your whole existence around her. But if she doesn't feel that love there is nothing that can be done. And that's just sad. Because frankly there is no one to blame here.
@@familyvideosmakingmemories3590 thats a misconception that their is just one person who can love you. She can find a relationship where love goes both ways.
Every Little Women movie always has a heartbreaking scene where Laurie professes his love to Jo, but she turns him down. She only loves him like a friend and a brother.
@@harubaru4912 Well, he never did anything bad. But he wouldn't give up on Jo, and he was persistent and kind of annoying. The last time I read it was about 2 years ago, so my perspective might've changed since then though. Overall now that I think about it, Laurie was a really genuine character that was young and in love.
@@joelvarelajr6495 she does care about him, but her love for him is not sexual/romantic. She is very clearly upset about hurting his feelings, but lying would be worse. Not all love is romantic, that doesn't mean someone doesn't care.
The way he delivered "you can't" i felt that wound, being rejected after all the good things you do and when you saw them with the worst shit ever... was so degrading.
I think she means in terms of societal hierarchy because their differences in social position is something that’s emphasized throughout the novel. She doesn’t want to live in the upper-crust world he’s from because she can’t be a novelist within it and would be pressured into becoming a housewife. Rather than inconvenience Laurie by becoming his wife and not being able to meet his needs in that way, she stepped aside so he could find someone who fit his life better. I think it’s a great example of true, selfless love because she cares about him enough to want his marriage to be easy for him.
It wouldn't be worth it my dear. You would find yourself resenting him and yourself, and eventually fall for another person, breaking his heart even worse. You simply cannot "learn to love" someone. You do or you do not, and that is no one's fault. You will find a man like that that you do love, but only if you aren't promised to one that you don't.
@@socksandshoes8033 is correct. Trust us....you won't be able to truly understand it until you have lived it. It sucks to have to tell someone that, believe me when I tell you...guard your heart. Truly speak to the person you think you may want to give yourself fully to. If you can't tell them every deep dark secret that you have and vice versa....then I don't think either person is ready to commit to each other; in the way needed to make a true love marriage work.
@@socksandshoes8033 you can learn to love some one. They may always love you more than you do them, but you can choose to fall for someone. People make love a thing that is so magical and out of our control but nothing is out of Mans control. We control everything we do and feel. Just like you chose who you allow to effect you negatively is just how you can chose who effects you positively. You can simply learn how to love someone just from the way they treat you. I chose to love a man now i recent because he couldn’t love me the same way. Love like everything else is a choice. You choose love.
@@Mae-bu2wu You can see you’ve never been presented the opportunity. Either that or you’ve forgotten. Trying to love some who you don’t love is foolish. You’re saying I should force myself to love men who I don’t love simply because they are good people. That’s a toxic old school paradigm of thinking because in the reality that we live in, that doesn’t last and it hurts both parties. Love can be passionate and deep and lasting and anyone who tells you to settle is saying so out of fear they can’t find better. Don’t project your fears onto others
@@Divine-Sage yeah you clearly don’t in live in the real world hun. Love comes in many forms no one is saying you need to settle, but you can most certainly chose who you fall for. And you can learn to love someone. Most of that passionate, love stuff tends to be full of toxic ness. Because there’s always one person more in love than the other and most of the time that type of love is strongly based on lust. The true love they don’t portray in Hollywood is the one that hurts and bleeds. The true love that means loving them at their worst, even through the hurt. That passion doesn’t last for ever.
The moral of the story. Girl or boy, don’t give up on the things that make you whole to fit somebody else’s persona. Be who you are and stand on ur grounds, don’t depend on anyone else’s for ur own happiness. You will end up like him, gave up on his on wants and needs for a girl who only fell inlove with a portion of him and not wholly. But it’s never too late to start over but don’t be stupid, especially you men.
Hey he ended up with someone really into him. I think the real moral of the story is to be honest with your feelings or else you might hurt someone else trying to make them happy. Both of them weren't confronting the truth. She pretended to be ignorant of his feelings and of her inability to love him and he was changing parts of himself to be someone he *thought* she would love. Neither of them wanted to hurt the other. Both of them really did want the other to be happy. But both of them were wasting so much time living in different worlds.
We must all remember....YOU CANNOT EXPECT OR FORCE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU, just because you love them. It's wrong and uncomfortable if it's not MUTUAL. "IT AIN'T LOVE IF ONLY ONE OF YOU IS IN IT". End of.
way to miss the point. Do you see Jo call it wrong and uncomfortable? No. It's something that just happens, have a little empathy. All you can ask is for honesty and respect when this happens
Bro she faked feelings for him he confessed his love got hurt and then at the end took it like a champ no one was in the wrong she probably didn’t realise what she was doing until the end
I don’t think love is wrong and uncomfortable. It may be if you expect someone to love you like you do for her/him. Even though I have never even had a boyfriend, I know that loving someone is never wrong. Just know how to act upon it.
Real life is messy like that. I think society builds such ridiculously high expectations of what love should be that it really hurts most of us when reality doesn't measure up.
No matter how much you love a person, you Just can't burden them with love. It hurts like hell and you may never recover but if you truly love them you know what's the right thing to do. Sometimes love is to let go, it sucks but you can always love without being loved back.
Just went through this. I loved her for 31 years. She was not in my life for so long, and when she returned, I wrestled ally courage up and told her. Now, I wish I never had.
I've been in this situation. And I caved and dated him. He treated me like a stranger for the entirety of our three week relationship. Should've trusted my gut and not wasted my time
I run a business with someone who I thought might have feelings for me. He never told me for yearsss and then finally did. Turned him down as nicely as I could. He said he respected my decision but now everything is different and he blames me for things that go wrong in the business and it always feels like he’s punishing me sort of. It’s very messy. Definitely be up front with your feelings asap.
@@dopamineinaformofashort exactly when i got rejected i stopped putting up a persona that i thought might please them and just acted naturally. I started commenting on things i didnt like about them and stopped giving them a pass everytime, just like i would with any other friend. And im glad i did she is a good friend now and i met someone much better that accepted me for who i am.
I think he is just no longer giving you the pass and just being himself. Before when he had feelings for you,he probably doesnt want to do things that would make you dislike him.He does respect you but he no longer sees you as someone he has feelings for. I think you should both talk it out on the business(keep it strictly business). Good luck
@@ninepuchar1 there is no reason to treat me the way he does sometimes. No matter what he thinks I’ve done professionally or personally, it should never go that far. Maybe it is just him being himself now but I’ve known him for over ten years as a business partner and a friend and I have never really seen that side. I know people put up a front when they like someone but I think it would be hard to shield that side of him for this long but perhaps that’s the case. That makes me sad though to think someone could fall for that not knowing his true personality.
Been over 10 years for me. She is still in my thoughts every day. When someone truly commits the whole of their being to someone...no one else can ease the pain. I often wondered what the bible meant about guarding your heart. Now I know....guard your heart and don't fully commit until you are certain the other person will also. It takes wisdom to know when a couple is at that point. Wisdom only gained from going through it. Seek guidance from married couples who have lasted decades together. Speak to friends that have had a broken heart longer than year. I don't know exactly how to prove to another person that you know what it means to truly have a broken heart until you have lived it. Like I said...been over ten years for me. No other woman will do.
Every day you think about them. Wonder what they are doing….a smell makes you think of them….all the little things that happen every day ….can’t get over it.
If she can’t love you, leave her I don’t understand people who waste their time on anyone who doesn’t deserve it man or woman. Yes it hurts but it’s worse wasting away while being pushed afar from what you would like.
This hits way too close. I had a guy like this once. He would've given me the shirt off his back if I asked. He only wanted to be near me and for me to love him back but it just wasnt there. I didnt feel that way and i tried to change it. Give it time. But you can't force yourself to love someone. He refused to believe that so i went no contact. He hates me and hated women for awhile, but he is a lot happier with his new gf. She's pretty and loves him. Im sad for my loss but it will always be better to set one free than keep them chained to you in a one way relationship
That's fair to say.I have a gf I'm not in love with.And its soul crushing to press yourself daily knowing she is not what you need..It's not her fault and I'm not a greater human being. It's just so painful for me knowing I will never be happy..And there a is a gorgeous beautiful baby girl we have.Choice between slow painful death and good parenting makes my soul crying every night..
You must have tried to keep him around to feed your ego.... but he wised up and escaped..... don't talk about this 'i allowed him to go' bullshit......
@@VivekSharma-ux2bl thats not how it went but you've already made up your mind about it. I broke it off with him and he wanted to continue to sleep together. He wouldnt have gotten over me if i didnt go no contact. I knew he deserved better than what i was giving him. He still waited for me until i got a different bf months later.
This reminds me of a guy that was so kind and such a gentleman, who would confess his feelings for me over and over, but no matter how good of a man he was I couldn’t feel the same about him. I hated rejecting him, but my heart didn’t see him like that. There was the one time where I said yes, yknow let’s try it out he’s a good guy, but the whole time (it was only a few weeks) I just wasn’t in love with him. It made me feel like the biggest liar and the biggest jerk. I tried to love him but I couldn’t. This scene reminds me of that. This guy changed so much for her, truely loves her, but she just can’t accept it. And it’s weird why she can’t, but I can understand it completely.
@@kulotjoy its BOTH. Commitment comes from a place of loving. Commitment is a loving act. If you've never felt love to know that its an emotion or state of being, I hope you do someday.
That reminds me of my sister and this nice guy who had a crush on her for years but they end up not dating at all. We had to move because of my father's job and the guy did asked her out about a week before we moved but of course she rejected him cause she says he's like the bestest friend but can't be nothing more to her.. I kinda feel bad for him but it's not like you can force love either so I think all that happened for the best and I really hope these guys will meet the one for them, the wonderful supportive partner they deserve..!
Does she feel worthy of the love he is receiving because it’s crazy to deny true love in a world like this. If she only loves him as a brother and friend that type of connection is misleading because it’s a family friend familiarity which goes deep. Hence why he fell Inlove. And tried changing himself but he was never the issue. She needs to decided what she wants in life. What she wants in a person because if she knew what she wanted she would of known it wasn’t for her and she would of been honest from the jump and let him know if he was a friend and brother. That’s love . He loved unconditionally she loved to conditions. I can’t love you beyond this connection. I don’t understand this. So it’s to conditions. Maybe the confusion the guilt and thrill stopped that but this is why communication is so important
Nope, I’ve always identified with Jo’s personality and she was 100% right in turning Laurie down. Laurie grew up in a different world and the March girls were different and exciting and didn’t have the societal expectations he was accustomed to. However, he would eventually expect Jo to be a good housewife and that’s just not the kind of person she is. She’s too free spirited.
I dont know if thats what he would want you don't fall in love with someone and expect them to change if they changed they're no longer the person you fell for
"The Little Women" is the first novel book I've read when I was 9. I'm not a native English speaker. It still breaks my heart that he ended up with Amy. I always thought he shared a beautiful bond with Jo.
As a guy, there’s absolutely nothing worse than giving absolutely everything you have to give and more but it still isn’t enough to be loved the way you love. It’s the worst type of pain. There’s literally nothing else you can do
As a woman, there’s nothing worse than telling a man this is how you feel and having to deal with the stresses of the very real concern of being murdered.
@@nuclearmomof5750 I mean it Goes both ways woman kill men don’t make it jus about one side and you taking away the meaning from what the guy posted girl or boy it hurts and if you kill someone cause of that ur jus crazy has nothing to do with man or female
Everyone saying "it goes both ways" simply don't understand the reality of life. It DOESN'T go both ways. Yes, women kill men. Yes, women commit DV. HOWEVER, the reality of living in today's society is simply that men aren't afraid of women simply for being men. Men aren't afraid of being murdered for turning a woman's advances down. Men aren't afraid of being assaulted for saying they aren't interested in a woman's advances. Men aren't afraid of being raped by women. Are there outliers, sure. To say that they're equal though, that they "go both ways," is just plain ignorant.
This made me think of my fiancé. I do love and care for him, but I'm not _in_ love with him the way he is with me. But he deserves the world and he's my best friend, so I give him everything and love him fully. Life is short and I got lucky. We're going 7 years strong.
That's real love in my opinion. Beeing 'in' love while caring and loving a person would be the best yes, but most of the time that "beeing in love" is only desire and has nothing to do with genuine love. If you romanticize anyone it's because you project something on them and it's not actually them that causes those intense emotions.
Real love is when you feel calm in the near of someone. When you feel at home and understood. I would never change that for a intense but not lasting "entanglement" :)
Its best to be with someone who really does love you! I started my relationship like that with my hubby we are going 8 years married and 11 all together. I grew to love him more and more as we getting older. He is sooo selfless he puts me first before him. And i rather be with him than any other person in this world. Always be there for each other because he will be the only one who will pick you up when you fall❤️ blessings❤️❤️❤️
You're lying to yourself and him. You need to cut ties and end it. You're only going to make it worse doing what you are doing. It's not a good favor. It's a deceitful one.
This spoke to my little aromantic heart. There's been too many times where I had to say I don't, won't, and can't love you. It's awful, I hope I never have to crush someone like that again.
Telling someone "You're too good for me" creates this impossible challenge, it creates the idea that if they just do "enough", it will eventually work. It's selfish to do that, it's not right. You'd be doing so much good by just being honest and saying, "I don't see a future in this".
Some girl lovebombed me and then pulled away, to flirt with another man. After I got word of it, I confronted her, she denied. Made me feel like shit and go in a depression. She used those exact words at the time. It's a way to make themselves feel good, but it cuts like a knife when you know their meaning
Love goes both ways. Yes, a woman needs a man who cares and loves her but there needs to be chemistry too. Otherwise it can’t be more than a friendship and it shouldn’t be forced because it‘s not healthy for any of them.
If someone is physically attractive, emotionally and financially stable, and also you're both REALLY GOOD friends ... you will make an EXCELLENT couple. Stop expecting some magical feeling. If you enjoy being around them, and they have all the traits that make for a good spouse, fucking go for it. Or you'll regret it later. Which apparently she does in the film The truth is, if you can be great friends you can have great chemistry. If you say otherwise it's because you've got your eye on another guy or gal. Nothing wrong with that but I despise all this magical talk surrounding relationships. It's why so many people are single these days. "Love" is simple. Don't overcomplicate it.
@@KentuckyObjectivist As already said, above everything, love is a mutual thing. That’s basically flat sharing and being flat mates, where one or both of them then end up having affairs because of unfulfilled needs. The world is full of those. Friendship is important but also the physical connection. It’s a mix of both. Otherwise it’s just a friendship or a sexual relationship. Either way, it never works in the long run.
This is never about making a woman love you, this is about a person knowing you are sacrificing your life because you love them and them not shutting you down from the start. The problem with keeping someone around you who likes you no matter how many times you say no, you’re mean, you use them, it only takes one kind act to make them feel like if they keep up eventually you let me have you.
The saddest part is that in this version, Jo actually realizes she loves Laurie too, but when she goes to try and confess her love back, it’s already too late. Laurie ends up with her sister instead. So sad 😞
in the book it was more about her saying they arent compatible, since they are both hot heads and they wouldnt get nowhere. which i agree. but i just cant see lauries whole deal with amy. i think that this movie gives it a little more sense than the book - but aside from that, it's still a forced pair the author put together bc she wanted laurie to marry a march sister.
He was more into the idea of family than the girls in particular which is why in the book he also says if Meg gotten married he would be jealous as well, he always knew he belonged in the March family. Meeting Amy in London years after Jo turned him down, seeing her as a woman and gaining a passionate affection for her & her love for him. I mean it was kind of inevitable lol. One of the girls would have ended up with him, at least it’s the one who’s been in love with him forever.
Personally, I don't think anyone would have seen the pair coming till the second half of the book, but laurie has always been there for amy, and their dynamic has always been starkly different from Jo and Laurie. Amy really did rouse him up and built him up in Europe, and Laurie's always calmed her and supported her through tough times (like both of Beth's illnesses). I understand people who feel like they were a forced pairing, but honestly, I love them together
I think Beth was in love with Laurie too, at least according to the book. As much as I kinda resent Jo for not loving back Laurie, I understand her too as I also have a male childhood friend that I only see as a brother.
When she said " I just don't love you anymore" all my heart's pleading halted. Hurts. Hurts like a hot white blade going through my chest. Just feels numb after awhile. Lost and stumbling and falling down. I just want to find my path and be able to walk again.
Been there recently... Exactly the same pain. It's so hard to cope with the pain and the loss. I'm lucky to have some time now to work on myself and heal to truly be able to walk again, without her supporting me and with all the love I could give locked deep inside my heart.
My favorite scene. Cryyyyyy 😭😭😭😭😭 every time. I've loved a Jo, bit truth is he wasn't ready to love me at the level i needed. Hope he learns to love himself first!
I once loved like this.for almost 20 years I did, then she went for a someone almost 15 years younger... ❤ still hurts, a year later, but what can you do!. Im Just lucky to still be on this planet
The book is even more heart breaking. I have gone back to the book wishing so badly that each time I read this scene would end differently. But it never does...The only time I hated Louisa May Alcott. Just like the heartbreaking scene when Amy describes her love to him... 😭
I respect that mentality on her part, don't make a man believe for a decade that you're in love as strongly as he was just to ghost him when it was too much love for you.
The more you keep chasing her to love you, the more she keeps repelling, not that she means to do that but there is a psychology in her subconscious that you're of a lower value and she can do better. This affects the chemistry of love formation, and she doesn't know why she just fall in love with you. There could be other causative factors.
She’s been in love with someone else. You sound like you’ve watched too many pick-up artist videos and view women in a weird light. She just doesn’t love him. Lol
@@Houseproudasamotherhen We are both right, she could be in love with someone else and she might not just be in tune with him. Like I said there might be other factors like what you just said. 😂 I don't watch pickup artists lol, I'm talking from experience. I have been in love like this before the more I expressed it, I discovered I was losing her until I tried to suppress my feelings and backup a little bit she started coming to me more and started developing feelings for me, but again people differs. Women are complicated even to themselves lol.
This guy was rich and ambitious and fun. Any woman would chase after him. She knew how awesome he is. But that doesn't mean she loves him. Love doesn't work that way
This shit hurts 😞exactly what I’m going through and it hurts 🥺😞 you know when you get that feeling.That feeling you get when you are hurt. That goes through your body and get that sharp pain around your heart. Y’all say this man simping to her and begging. That’s because I’m he truly loves her. The pain he is feeling is real and he is fighting for her. The same way I’m fighting but I’m losing 😞
Been over 10 years for me. She is still in my thoughts every day. When someone truly commits the whole of their being to someone...no one else can ease the pain. I often wondered what the bible meant about guarding your heart. Now I know....guard your heart and don't fully commit until you are certain the other person will also. It takes wisdom to know when a couple is at that point. Wisdom only gained from going through it. Seek guidance from married couples who have lasted decades together.
It happened to me and we can't blame anyone. It's our fate, sometimes things won't happened in our way so understand and try to move on. One day you will be able to cop up with it. Those who had experienced this feeling, I'm sorry for all and a big hug!
Romanticism at it's finest, you can only be together if you're in love, else it's not meant to be. It's important to understand in what way you are bonding. And if it's an unhealthy way, but the other does not trigger for instance, abandonment, then you won't feel the "right" way to try and commit to them. Just a few thoughts.
She doesn't love him precisely because he loves her. There is no mystery about him and he lowers himself beneath her by putting her on a pedestal which destroys all possibility of attraction
Years ago when I was at highschool i was in love with a girl. She was beautiful, intelligent, empathetic, kind. Nevertheless I barely spoke to her because I thought she was way out my league and i was just just self conscious , introverted, shy guy. But maybe the reason why i didn't speak to her and didn't make confession it's because subconsciously I was afraid of rejection.
U know i think rejection is a good thing. Sure it hurts for a while but it lets u move on instead of the lingering hope that kills u in the process of chasing thats not meant to be. So i dont think people should be afraid of hurting peoples feelings if they reject them. Becoz ure in a way doing themselves a favour of not wasting their time on u
Your fear was justified. You felt that and probably for a good reason - you would be rejected. You don't confess your feewings. It comes naturally. You just click with a girl or not. Confessing is only going to shut your chances down. Just look at what happens after a guy proposes to his girlfriend. Her love just goes away like you wiped it with a tissue. She thinks to herself - "I got him now".
Gentlemen, never waste time trying to make a woman like you. The moment you know she isn’t interested, walk away. No woman is worth this kind of degrading display.
I literally felt this been there. Can't make someone love u as much as u love them. Sometimes u just gotta move on knowing and understanding that sometimes that's just the way it is. I always look at it as if there's so much more to be discovered, more compassion and understanding from someone that's just not this one and no matter how much it hurts, no matter how much u love that person and u don't wanna let them go, u have to. Newtons third law- something has to get left behind. Never leave the best of yourself in the past with someone who doesn't see u in their future
At the stage of life i am in and as a grandmother. This scene shows how Deceitful the heart is. I have loved those that did not deserve it, while dismissing the genuine love from others. Looking for that magical "connection". Please consider the merits and care someone is offering you. Do they consider you and your feelings? Do they include you in their family circle and respect yours? Do they trust you and love with quiet devotion? OR is it drama, suspicion, verbal or physical abuse, decreasing lust, selfishness, running hot then cold thenhot again, tears of manipulation.....? That young man would die for the young woman and the children they would make together. It is not "settling" it is truely seeing, and understanding. Tip i wish i knew when i was beginning my adult journey. " Men offer "love" for sex, women offer sex for love". Take all the time you need to get to know each other. No rush to jump into bed. Lord knows the regrets i have for doing that way too soon. Any pressure, run RUN. The men that still think of me and i them, i took the longest to get to know.
Thank you very much for taking the time to write this message. It brought tears to my eyes because I have seen this and felt it, and what you've said about how people are looking for that magical moment only is so true. May God bless you and your loved ones.
Age women teach the younger... The masses have abandoned this wisdom. It is the old women's job to *teach l* tge younger ones this. Instead we have youngins out here chasing their feeling and I say feeling cause it is only one, *LUST*
Walk away dude. She was a teacher to show you that your capable of loving . but she is only a teacher. The one women that will love you won't ask you to change. You will change with out being asked.. So lesson learned .. Now move on..
There is difference between love and lust. In my opinion most people confuse these two feelings, similar to how we confuse thirst and hunger. You can love a lot of people, your family, your friends, yourself. However, (hopefully) you don't feel lust towards your family, friends etc. Picking a husband/wife is not about lust and not even about love. Lust will be gone sooner than love, and love will be gone as well. Love will transform into something else. You need to know your goals. Do you want to stay single or married? Do you want to have children? Once you know what you want, pick the person who is right for that. If you want a family pick a person who would be a good parent, who woul starve to death just to feed his /her children. Pick a man/woman who would die to protect you. Someone who would love you more than they love themselves. People in the past used to know this, and they made *SACRIFICES* A relationship is not about you, never was, never will be. It's about the family. A couple will only stay together if both of them will give more to the other one, than they want for themselves. If you can't do this you *WILL* die alone and miserable. The choice is yourse. _My advice would be to keep the body count low, and don't date too many people. I saw my promiscuous friends fry their brain. They are sleeping and dating around, but they are never happy. They are miserable people who live in the past and in the moment. They compare all of their partners to eachother and because of this they cannot see the value in people anymore._
I sobbed this entire movie. No joke. I've never cried so much in one sitting. It was just so relatable and well done. The thing that got me was when one of the girls ( I don't remember their names) died and I have two younger siblings and I just could never imagine that happening to one of them. I just sobbed and sobbed and my friends thought I was dying lol.
Yes. Never ever be afraid to turn a person down just so you don't hurt them. It will be very painful for them and you. The pain is not worth it and it's too deep. So always say No. If you don't want it, don't feel it as soon as possible. I am speaking for personal experience. I've always dated wealthy, handsome guys but I become very very good friends with this guy, he was the best friend, the sweetest, caring and loving. I loved him and my love was deep but as a best friend type of love. The other guys were amazing as well but I wasn't looking for a relationship. My best friend once asked me out and I was so afraid to hurt him by saying No. He meant so much and I loved him. He was not my type didnt see him as a man or a crush but very stupidly and bc I felt sorry for him. I said, yes. Thinking I would just be with him for 3 months and call it quits. He never did anything wrong he was the best man. But bc of the lack of attraction in every single way I hurt him very badly but even so he said, he will do anything to make me love him the same way he loves me. We went through hell and many, many times we got hurt baldy especially him. You might ask why not break up then? I did many times and everhtime I hurt him. My mother once said, stay with the one that loves you not with the one you love. Because the one that loves you will never hurt you. So 6 years later. We are still together and he was the best man I could ever wish for. Now he is everything to me. But my point is and my only regret is hurting this man for many years when he could have been with a woman that could give him what he always wanted. I wasted years of his life trying to make this woman love him. And I wasted years trying to love someone who I didn't want. Things changed now But save each other pain. It will hurt for few days or even weeks but it's better than been hurting someone for years.
I Love how she stands in her Truth... Even when the truth -- hurts 😔 But it would hurt even more in the long run, if she stringed him along and lived a Lie.... by acting as if she cared about him that way -- when she doesn't. I can't make you Love me 🎶 ..... If you don't 🎶
It's very simple, you cannot love a woman so much that you give up things for her that you make her the center of your world, because then surprisingly enough they don't like men that make them the center of their world their instinctually turned off by that. So point of the lesson never ever make a woman listen to your world you will lose every time
It sucks when someone says "you're too good for me" its just an excuse it stops a lot of heartache to tell someone youre not intrested then leading them on into something that'll never happen be it for attention or the anxeity of hurting someone Love is a very cruel thing
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Girls and guys out there, don't ever fake feelings for anyone. You might be scared to turn them down... But remember the longer you fake the more they get hurt. It's okay to turn people down. Your feelings are valid too.
That's funny I thought you were talking about the guy here. He shouldn't have given up things he cared about to be someone else FOR someone else. When we are our best authentic selves is when we will find our true love.
I'm in that situation now. I tried to give it a time and now I feel that it didn't get to anything. But as you said, I'm scared to turn him down. I don't want to hurt people
@@AlexanderWebster_ yep. That's true. Love isn't everything. It's one in many things. Non offense here☺️
@@Kira-nk8wr well just let him know and making him waste his time thinking about you and try everything he can to make you happy ☹️☹️
@@smithaammu398 bad advice for @kira , as a man we want direct answer because when you say you don't want any relationship now it gives a hope for maybe in future.
When we see you with other men after we only hear things about no time for relationship, focusing on ourselves, it hurts on another level.
When he said : "I waited and I never complained" - my heart felt that 🥺
When he said I'd rather be dead 💔
Same❤.
Fun Fact: Jo was actually supposed to be an aromantic character who never got married. However, the publishers did not like it and thought it sent a bad message, so they made the author change it.
How did you know she was a romantic? I think she just didn't want to get married
@@miye7349 She wasn’t supposed to have any romantic relationships and be uninterested in them even at the end, which is aromanticism.
Does anyone have any thoughts about whether or not romance and love are the same. Is romance love? Is love romance? Two different words would suggest that they are not the same thing.
I think it may be safe to say that someone could be aromantic and want a loving relationship.
I actually just looked this up online to see what definitions there are. It appears they can.
Ironic, given Jo's book, huh?
@@toddnelson6907 romance can be a part of love, but love is not ALWAYS romantic, if that makes any sense. love can be platonic or intimate or familial, but romance is purely intimate
It really is lucky for people to have mutual liking for each other otherwise it is just heart breaking
Yea I’ve been through something like that it wasn’t too fun
@@thebarbarians8082 fun like what?i didn't understand what you're saying about... 😕
@@VijayKumar-qf4jn I went through a relationship where I loved her and she said she loved me but she didn’t, it was heartbreaking as you said
@@thebarbarians8082 Ayo, I'm feeling pretty sad and I don't know what your going through. Hearing story like this makes me go down😢. I have never been in a relationship and after getting so many sad break ups make me loose my expectation.
Hope you're healing for better ☮️ .
@@VijayKumar-qf4jn trust me keep your head up. When she did love me it was the greatest feeling I’ve ever felt in my life. There will always be break ups and you might not find your love for a while, but if you keep working on yourself and keep on a smile even in tough times you will find someone, someone who actually loves you. It’s why I keep going, cause even tho I’m hurt it’s better to keep going than to get discouraged and give up and miss something that would have happened! You got this! I didn’t think I’d get a girlfriend and then I found one, sure it’s didn’t work out but I would have never felt so much love if I had given up like I wanted to earlier. There will be lonely times and there will still be break ups but love and happiness is worth it!!! I’ll be here if you need to talk
There is absolutely no way you can make a woman love you when she doesn't. You could be the best guy ever, love her with all your heart and center your whole existence around her. But if she doesn't feel that love there is nothing that can be done. And that's just sad. Because frankly there is no one to blame here.
It goes both ways
Such women end up in unhappy marriages/ relationship. Women need men to love them and men need to be honored. This is a secret.
@@familyvideosmakingmemories3590 whatever incel.
@@familyvideosmakingmemories3590 thats a misconception that their is just one person who can love you.
She can find a relationship where love goes both ways.
That’s bullshit! A real woman can defiantly fall in love with a guy that cares for her and loves her.
Every Little Women movie always has a heartbreaking scene where Laurie professes his love to Jo, but she turns him down. She only loves him like a friend and a brother.
I only read the book and I never had an ounce of sympathy for Laurie. This scene makes me sad tbh, I think I might watch the movie
@@christina9111 what did he do in the books if you don’t mind me asking? I might start watching the movie
@@harubaru4912 Well, he never did anything bad. But he wouldn't give up on Jo, and he was persistent and kind of annoying. The last time I read it was about 2 years ago, so my perspective might've changed since then though. Overall now that I think about it, Laurie was a really genuine character that was young and in love.
What would it be like for her to never see him again? She really doesn't care for him at all.
@@joelvarelajr6495 she does care about him, but her love for him is not sexual/romantic. She is very clearly upset about hurting his feelings, but lying would be worse. Not all love is romantic, that doesn't mean someone doesn't care.
The intensity of this young man’s performance is riveting!
The strain in his voice he fucking means what he's saying I can't stop watching bc of his power
It’s a film bruh
I actually thought the acting on his part was quite bad
@@khxliakhxlia3605 That's because you've never felt that way before. That's exactly what it feels and looks like when you're consumed.
@@erikwelch18 hmm debatable
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Sadly somewhere there is a woman who could love him this much and he wouldn’t be able to return her feelings.
Actually, their is. The sister of the girl in this video is in love with the boy..
Ya he returned her feelings lel
You mean Amy?😂
Hi Roland...i don't know for sure. I hope someone in this position will be able to someday again find love.
Amy does. I think in the book they get married later on. I’m not 100% sure about that. I know in the audio dramatization they do
Woah! His voice at "You can't?" .he did a great job.
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” -Perks of being a wallflower
The way he delivered "you can't" i felt that wound, being rejected after all the good things you do and when you saw them with the worst shit ever... was so degrading.
"You are too good for me" is the worst excuse ever.
I think she means in terms of societal hierarchy because their differences in social position is something that’s emphasized throughout the novel. She doesn’t want to live in the upper-crust world he’s from because she can’t be a novelist within it and would be pressured into becoming a housewife. Rather than inconvenience Laurie by becoming his wife and not being able to meet his needs in that way, she stepped aside so he could find someone who fit his life better. I think it’s a great example of true, selfless love because she cares about him enough to want his marriage to be easy for him.
It’s not an excuse because he’s not entitled to her attraction.
@@katybee3891 yeah, he is not. But just tell him not. Don't make excuses.
@@katybee3891 you are dumm..
Some people can’t offer the amount of love they’re given. I felt this once and knew they deserve better.
To have a man that loved me like that I would lie until I learned to love that beautiful soul
It wouldn't be worth it my dear. You would find yourself resenting him and yourself, and eventually fall for another person, breaking his heart even worse. You simply cannot "learn to love" someone. You do or you do not, and that is no one's fault. You will find a man like that that you do love, but only if you aren't promised to one that you don't.
@@socksandshoes8033 is correct. Trust us....you won't be able to truly understand it until you have lived it. It sucks to have to tell someone that, believe me when I tell you...guard your heart. Truly speak to the person you think you may want to give yourself fully to. If you can't tell them every deep dark secret that you have and vice versa....then I don't think either person is ready to commit to each other; in the way needed to make a true love marriage work.
@@socksandshoes8033 you can learn to love some one. They may always love you more than you do them, but you can choose to fall for someone. People make love a thing that is so magical and out of our control but nothing is out of Mans control. We control everything we do and feel. Just like you chose who you allow to effect you negatively is just how you can chose who effects you positively. You can simply learn how to love someone just from the way they treat you. I chose to love a man now i recent because he couldn’t love me the same way. Love like everything else is a choice. You choose love.
@@Mae-bu2wu You can see you’ve never been presented the opportunity. Either that or you’ve forgotten. Trying to love some who you don’t love is foolish. You’re saying I should force myself to love men who I don’t love simply because they are good people. That’s a toxic old school paradigm of thinking because in the reality that we live in, that doesn’t last and it hurts both parties. Love can be passionate and deep and lasting and anyone who tells you to settle is saying so out of fear they can’t find better. Don’t project your fears onto others
@@Divine-Sage yeah you clearly don’t in live in the real world hun. Love comes in many forms no one is saying you need to settle, but you can most certainly chose who you fall for. And you can learn to love someone. Most of that passionate, love stuff tends to be full of toxic ness. Because there’s always one person more in love than the other and most of the time that type of love is strongly based on lust. The true love they don’t portray in Hollywood is the one that hurts and bleeds. The true love that means loving them at their worst, even through the hurt. That passion doesn’t last for ever.
The moral of the story. Girl or boy, don’t give up on the things that make you whole to fit somebody else’s persona. Be who you are and stand on ur grounds, don’t depend on anyone else’s for ur own happiness. You will end up like him, gave up on his on wants and needs for a girl who only fell inlove with a portion of him and not wholly. But it’s never too late to start over but don’t be stupid, especially you men.
Hey he ended up with someone really into him. I think the real moral of the story is to be honest with your feelings or else you might hurt someone else trying to make them happy. Both of them weren't confronting the truth. She pretended to be ignorant of his feelings and of her inability to love him and he was changing parts of himself to be someone he *thought* she would love. Neither of them wanted to hurt the other. Both of them really did want the other to be happy. But both of them were wasting so much time living in different worlds.
Days are changed God has me now I will let my blood heart soul peace of mind free
The love for my ancestors and my God both of one heart recognize me
On spot
@@AstarTiamat I feel like you just succinctly described my last relationship. Thank you.
How many people should be saying these exact words to their partner but will grow old with them instead knowing this is how they feel?
Sometimes there's just nothing there, you can't force anyone to love you
We must all remember....YOU CANNOT EXPECT OR FORCE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU, just because you love them. It's wrong and uncomfortable if it's not MUTUAL. "IT AIN'T LOVE IF ONLY ONE OF YOU IS IN IT". End of.
Boom… nailed it.
These shorts are teaching kids how not to handle situations….
True
way to miss the point. Do you see Jo call it wrong and uncomfortable? No. It's something that just happens, have a little empathy. All you can ask is for honesty and respect when this happens
Bro she faked feelings for him he confessed his love got hurt and then at the end took it like a champ no one was in the wrong she probably didn’t realise what she was doing until the end
I don’t think love is wrong and uncomfortable. It may be if you expect someone to love you like you do for her/him. Even though I have never even had a boyfriend, I know that loving someone is never wrong. Just know how to act upon it.
I love watching him in every part he plays. He takes you on a journey.
That’s why is always pains me when he immediately goes to Amy, who has always loved him, and she is afraid that he has settled for her.
Real life is messy like that. I think society builds such ridiculously high expectations of what love should be that it really hurts most of us when reality doesn't measure up.
This fantastic scene from the latest screen interpretation of Little Women reminds me that no one can, or should, change for another's sake.
My absolute favorite not-couple ever. Sairose and Tim really did this scene justice
No matter how much you love a person, you Just can't burden them with love. It hurts like hell and you may never recover but if you truly love them you know what's the right thing to do.
Sometimes love is to let go, it sucks but you can always love without being loved back.
Just went through this. I loved her for 31 years. She was not in my life for so long, and when she returned, I wrestled ally courage up and told her. Now, I wish I never had.
Do you want to tell us the story?
At least now you're free. Sorry for your loss and congrats on your upcoming blessings
Tim is a great actor. I loved him since"call me by your name"
I've been in this situation. And I caved and dated him. He treated me like a stranger for the entirety of our three week relationship. Should've trusted my gut and not wasted my time
Stay strong Queen, they’re always playin.
Because the chase is more fun and challenging.
im having this now. should i leave or stay?
Wait he chased you and treated you like a stranger later? Damnz
@@sandrajc9905 talk and communicate with him firsf
IF YOU CAN'T FIGHT FOR YOUR LOVE, THEN WHAT KIND OF LOVE DO YOU HAVE? LOVE IS EVERYTHING, IT HEALS.
I run a business with someone who I thought might have feelings for me. He never told me for yearsss and then finally did. Turned him down as nicely as I could. He said he respected my decision but now everything is different and he blames me for things that go wrong in the business and it always feels like he’s punishing me sort of. It’s very messy. Definitely be up front with your feelings asap.
Ew, classic entitled dude who thinks you owed him those feelings.
@@miad6160 Shut up, you don't know him to judge him in any way.
@@dopamineinaformofashort exactly when i got rejected i stopped putting up a persona that i thought might please them and just acted naturally. I started commenting on things i didnt like about them and stopped giving them a pass everytime, just like i would with any other friend. And im glad i did she is a good friend now and i met someone much better that accepted me for who i am.
I think he is just no longer giving you the pass and just being himself. Before when he had feelings for you,he probably doesnt want to do things that would make you dislike him.He does respect you but he no longer sees you as someone he has feelings for. I think you should both talk it out on the business(keep it strictly business). Good luck
@@ninepuchar1 there is no reason to treat me the way he does sometimes. No matter what he thinks I’ve done professionally or personally, it should never go that far. Maybe it is just him being himself now but I’ve known him for over ten years as a business partner and a friend and I have never really seen that side. I know people put up a front when they like someone but I think it would be hard to shield that side of him for this long but perhaps that’s the case.
That makes me sad though to think someone could fall for that not knowing his true personality.
Been over 10 years for me. She is still in my thoughts every day. When someone truly commits the whole of their being to someone...no one else can ease the pain. I often wondered what the bible meant about guarding your heart. Now I know....guard your heart and don't fully commit until you are certain the other person will also. It takes wisdom to know when a couple is at that point. Wisdom only gained from going through it. Seek guidance from married couples who have lasted decades together. Speak to friends that have had a broken heart longer than year. I don't know exactly how to prove to another person that you know what it means to truly have a broken heart until you have lived it. Like I said...been over ten years for me. No other woman will do.
Every day you think about them. Wonder what they are doing….a smell makes you think of them….all the little things that happen every day ….can’t get over it.
Have you ever married after her?
I made the mistake of doing this now I'm afraid I'll never love again because I could never move on
@@chloetic I never married after my relationship with her. We were never married, but I would have married her if she said yes.
@@chloetic what I think you are saying is that you married someone even though you did not truly commit to the new marriage?
If she can’t love you, leave her I don’t understand people who waste their time on anyone who doesn’t deserve it man or woman. Yes it hurts but it’s worse wasting away while being pushed afar from what you would like.
This hits way too close. I had a guy like this once. He would've given me the shirt off his back if I asked. He only wanted to be near me and for me to love him back but it just wasnt there. I didnt feel that way and i tried to change it. Give it time. But you can't force yourself to love someone. He refused to believe that so i went no contact. He hates me and hated women for awhile, but he is a lot happier with his new gf. She's pretty and loves him. Im sad for my loss but it will always be better to set one free than keep them chained to you in a one way relationship
That's fair to say.I have a gf I'm not in love with.And its soul crushing to press yourself daily knowing she is not what you need..It's not her fault and I'm not a greater human being. It's just so painful for me knowing I will never be happy..And there a is a gorgeous beautiful baby girl we have.Choice between slow painful death and good parenting makes my soul crying every night..
You must have tried to keep him around to feed your ego.... but he wised up and escaped..... don't talk about this 'i allowed him to go' bullshit......
@@VivekSharma-ux2bl thats not how it went but you've already made up your mind about it. I broke it off with him and he wanted to continue to sleep together. He wouldnt have gotten over me if i didnt go no contact. I knew he deserved better than what i was giving him. He still waited for me until i got a different bf months later.
@@dakotagarcia7781 what was the different in that boyfriend?
@@VivekSharma-ux2bl man good woman bad Wahhh!!1🤡🤡🤡🤡
He's such a handsome man and good actot.❤
This reminds me of a guy that was so kind and such a gentleman, who would confess his feelings for me over and over, but no matter how good of a man he was I couldn’t feel the same about him. I hated rejecting him, but my heart didn’t see him like that. There was the one time where I said yes, yknow let’s try it out he’s a good guy, but the whole time (it was only a few weeks) I just wasn’t in love with him. It made me feel like the biggest liar and the biggest jerk. I tried to love him but I couldn’t.
This scene reminds me of that. This guy changed so much for her, truely loves her, but she just can’t accept it. And it’s weird why she can’t, but I can understand it completely.
Love is not a feeling actually, its a commitment.
@@kulotjoy its BOTH. Commitment comes from a place of loving. Commitment is a loving act. If you've never felt love to know that its an emotion or state of being, I hope you do someday.
That reminds me of my sister and this nice guy who had a crush on her for years but they end up not dating at all. We had to move because of my father's job and the guy did asked her out about a week before we moved but of course she rejected him cause she says he's like the bestest friend but can't be nothing more to her.. I kinda feel bad for him but it's not like you can force love either so I think all that happened for the best and I really hope these guys will meet the one for them, the wonderful supportive partner they deserve..!
Does she feel worthy of the love he is receiving because it’s crazy to deny true love in a world like this. If she only loves him as a brother and friend that type of connection is misleading because it’s a family friend familiarity which goes deep. Hence why he fell Inlove. And tried changing himself but he was never the issue. She needs to decided what she wants in life. What she wants in a person because if she knew what she wanted she would of known it wasn’t for her and she would of been honest from the jump and let him know if he was a friend and brother. That’s love . He loved unconditionally she loved to conditions. I can’t love you beyond this connection. I don’t understand this. So it’s to conditions. Maybe the confusion the guilt and thrill stopped that but this is why communication is so important
It's good that you weren't fake and were straight forward about what you feel. Hope the guy moved on aswell.
Nope, I’ve always identified with Jo’s personality and she was 100% right in turning Laurie down. Laurie grew up in a different world and the March girls were different and exciting and didn’t have the societal expectations he was accustomed to. However, he would eventually expect Jo to be a good housewife and that’s just not the kind of person she is. She’s too free spirited.
She wants drama and toxicity
@@TheRealJohnHooper no.
I dont know if thats what he would want you don't fall in love with someone and expect them to change if they changed they're no longer the person you fell for
@@TheRealJohnHooper someone’s projecting 😭
@@TheRealJohnHooper did you even read the rest of the books man
"The Little Women" is the first novel book I've read when I was 9. I'm not a native English speaker. It still breaks my heart that he ended up with Amy. I always thought he shared a beautiful bond with Jo.
Same 🥲
As a guy, there’s absolutely nothing worse than giving absolutely everything you have to give and more but it still isn’t enough to be loved the way you love. It’s the worst type of pain. There’s literally nothing else you can do
As a woman, there’s nothing worse than telling a man this is how you feel and having to deal with the stresses of the very real concern of being murdered.
@@nuclearmomof5750 I mean it
Goes both ways woman kill men don’t make it jus about one side and you taking away the meaning from what the guy posted girl or boy it hurts and if you kill someone cause of that ur jus crazy has nothing to do with man or female
@@chaseyoung9628 It’s the ignorance for me.
@@nuclearmomof5750 It's the victimhood mentality for me. Poor you!
Everyone saying "it goes both ways" simply don't understand the reality of life. It DOESN'T go both ways. Yes, women kill men. Yes, women commit DV. HOWEVER, the reality of living in today's society is simply that men aren't afraid of women simply for being men. Men aren't afraid of being murdered for turning a woman's advances down. Men aren't afraid of being assaulted for saying they aren't interested in a woman's advances. Men aren't afraid of being raped by women. Are there outliers, sure. To say that they're equal though, that they "go both ways," is just plain ignorant.
This made me think of my fiancé. I do love and care for him, but I'm not _in_ love with him the way he is with me. But he deserves the world and he's my best friend, so I give him everything and love him fully. Life is short and I got lucky. We're going 7 years strong.
That's enough
That's real love in my opinion. Beeing 'in' love while caring and loving a person would be the best yes, but most of the time that "beeing in love" is only desire and has nothing to do with genuine love. If you romanticize anyone it's because you project something on them and it's not actually them that causes those intense emotions.
Real love is when you feel calm in the near of someone. When you feel at home and understood. I would never change that for a intense but not lasting "entanglement" :)
Its best to be with someone who really does love you! I started my relationship like that with my hubby we are going 8 years married and 11 all together. I grew to love him more and more as we getting older. He is sooo selfless he puts me first before him. And i rather be with him than any other person in this world. Always be there for each other because he will be the only one who will pick you up when you fall❤️ blessings❤️❤️❤️
You're lying to yourself and him.
You need to cut ties and end it. You're only going to make it worse doing what you are doing. It's not a good favor. It's a deceitful one.
This spoke to my little aromantic heart. There's been too many times where I had to say I don't, won't, and can't love you. It's awful, I hope I never have to crush someone like that again.
Telling someone "You're too good for me" creates this impossible challenge, it creates the idea that if they just do "enough", it will eventually work.
It's selfish to do that, it's not right. You'd be doing so much good by just being honest and saying, "I don't see a future in this".
This is very true. Well said, mate
Some girl lovebombed me and then pulled away, to flirt with another man. After I got word of it, I confronted her, she denied. Made me feel like shit and go in a depression. She used those exact words at the time. It's a way to make themselves feel good, but it cuts like a knife when you know their meaning
Timothee is such a great actor. I felt all those emotions... that rejection cuts deep... 😩
If someone don't feel for you, don't try to find the reasons they do! Accept it, respect it and move on!
Love goes both ways. Yes, a woman needs a man who cares and loves her but there needs to be chemistry too. Otherwise it can’t be more than a friendship and it shouldn’t be forced because it‘s not healthy for any of them.
@DJ Cole that is... not true? We'd rather a guy that tells us what he feels than one that keeps it to himself because it's not "manly".
If someone is physically attractive, emotionally and financially stable, and also you're both REALLY GOOD friends ... you will make an EXCELLENT couple.
Stop expecting some magical feeling. If you enjoy being around them, and they have all the traits that make for a good spouse, fucking go for it. Or you'll regret it later.
Which apparently she does in the film
The truth is, if you can be great friends you can have great chemistry. If you say otherwise it's because you've got your eye on another guy or gal. Nothing wrong with that but I despise all this magical talk surrounding relationships.
It's why so many people are single these days.
"Love" is simple. Don't overcomplicate it.
@@KentuckyObjectivist As already said, above everything, love is a mutual thing. That’s basically flat sharing and being flat mates, where one or both of them then end up having affairs because of unfulfilled needs. The world is full of those. Friendship is important but also the physical connection. It’s a mix of both. Otherwise it’s just a friendship or a sexual relationship. Either way, it never works in the long run.
This is never about making a woman love you, this is about a person knowing you are sacrificing your life because you love them and them not shutting you down from the start. The problem with keeping someone around you who likes you no matter how many times you say no, you’re mean, you use them, it only takes one kind act to make them feel like if they keep up eventually you let me have you.
The scene that stole millions of hearts on New Year’s Day😔❤️
The saddest part is that in this version, Jo actually realizes she loves Laurie too, but when she goes to try and confess her love back, it’s already too late. Laurie ends up with her sister instead. So sad 😞
She doesnt love him romantically, she just didnt want to be alone anymore.
She doesn't love him romantically
She doesn't lol...She clearly says that she's gonna confess to laurie bcz she's lonely...There was no love...
Not sad at all. She deserves it.
@@lynna3671 oh, I see. Was confused.
in the book it was more about her saying they arent compatible, since they are both hot heads and they wouldnt get nowhere. which i agree. but i just cant see lauries whole deal with amy. i think that this movie gives it a little more sense than the book - but aside from that, it's still a forced pair the author put together bc she wanted laurie to marry a march sister.
He was more into the idea of family than the girls in particular which is why in the book he also says if Meg gotten married he would be jealous as well, he always knew he belonged in the March family. Meeting Amy in London years after Jo turned him down, seeing her as a woman and gaining a passionate affection for her & her love for him. I mean it was kind of inevitable lol. One of the girls would have ended up with him, at least it’s the one who’s been in love with him forever.
I didn't like him with Amy, according to me it kinda came out of nowhere in the books.. I've never seen the movies tho, maybe I will 🤔
Personally, I don't think anyone would have seen the pair coming till the second half of the book, but laurie has always been there for amy, and their dynamic has always been starkly different from Jo and Laurie. Amy really did rouse him up and built him up in Europe, and Laurie's always calmed her and supported her through tough times (like both of Beth's illnesses). I understand people who feel like they were a forced pairing, but honestly, I love them together
I think Beth was in love with Laurie too, at least according to the book. As much as I kinda resent Jo for not loving back Laurie, I understand her too as I also have a male childhood friend that I only see as a brother.
When she said " I just don't love you anymore" all my heart's pleading halted. Hurts. Hurts like a hot white blade going through my chest. Just feels numb after awhile. Lost and stumbling and falling down. I just want to find my path and be able to walk again.
Been there recently... Exactly the same pain. It's so hard to cope with the pain and the loss. I'm lucky to have some time now to work on myself and heal to truly be able to walk again, without her supporting me and with all the love I could give locked deep inside my heart.
The worst feeling is being dragged on by someone you thought wanted to give you the world
My favorite scene. Cryyyyyy 😭😭😭😭😭 every time. I've loved a Jo, bit truth is he wasn't ready to love me at the level i needed. Hope he learns to love himself first!
Is it film? Name??
Little woman
@@avill012 Thank u
Who says he doesnt love himself.
@@narlywaves2371 he did.
I once loved like this.for almost 20 years I did, then she went for a someone almost 15 years younger... ❤ still hurts, a year later, but what can you do!. Im Just lucky to still be on this planet
The way he said “you can’t?” Is heartbreaking, you could hear the pain😭
If a man said that and did that for me. I would love him back. It’s not hard to love someone who respects and loves you to that extent.
The book is even more heart breaking. I have gone back to the book wishing so badly that each time I read this scene would end differently. But it never does...The only time I hated Louisa May Alcott. Just like the heartbreaking scene when Amy describes her love to him... 😭
I understand how she feels! I'm been in her same situation many times, & most men have gotten mad at me, & sadly we're not in good terms, unlike her!
I respect that mentality on her part, don't make a man believe for a decade that you're in love as strongly as he was just to ghost him when it was too much love for you.
You know this is the sadest feel you can have in our life
The more you keep chasing her to love you, the more she keeps repelling, not that she means to do that but there is a psychology in her subconscious that you're of a lower value and she can do better. This affects the chemistry of love formation, and she doesn't know why she just fall in love with you.
There could be other causative factors.
She’s been in love with someone else. You sound like you’ve watched too many pick-up artist videos and view women in a weird light. She just doesn’t love him. Lol
@@Houseproudasamotherhen We are both right, she could be in love with someone else and she might not just be in tune with him. Like I said there might be other factors like what you just said.
😂 I don't watch pickup artists lol, I'm talking from experience. I have been in love like this before the more I expressed it, I discovered I was losing her until I tried to suppress my feelings and backup a little bit she started coming to me more and started developing feelings for me, but again people differs. Women are complicated even to themselves lol.
That's bullshit. She saw him as a family. As a brother. It's impossible for her to fall for him
This guy was rich and ambitious and fun. Any woman would chase after him. She knew how awesome he is. But that doesn't mean she loves him. Love doesn't work that way
This shit hurts 😞exactly what I’m going through and it hurts 🥺😞 you know when you get that feeling.That feeling you get when you are hurt. That goes through your body and get that sharp pain around your heart. Y’all say this man simping to her and begging. That’s because I’m he truly loves her. The pain he is feeling is real and he is fighting for her. The same way I’m fighting but I’m losing 😞
same king, keep your head up
Awwwww better days to come 💔🖤❤️🩹❤️🙌🏽
Been over 10 years for me. She is still in my thoughts every day. When someone truly commits the whole of their being to someone...no one else can ease the pain. I often wondered what the bible meant about guarding your heart. Now I know....guard your heart and don't fully commit until you are certain the other person will also. It takes wisdom to know when a couple is at that point. Wisdom only gained from going through it. Seek guidance from married couples who have lasted decades together.
@@deegSZ I’m sorry your going through it but hey we will get through it I promise man 💯
@@danadiimplez2559 thank you 😊
It happened to me and we can't blame anyone. It's our fate, sometimes things won't happened in our way so understand and try to move on. One day you will be able to cop up with it. Those who had experienced this feeling, I'm sorry for all and a big hug!
Timmothée is too good to be true❤
The "you cant" felt it on my heart
Well Jo did love him.She sacrificed for her sister.She is my idol
Life's emotions I the nearest thing to hell we know, but also the nearest thing to heaven.
This is the greatest scene and I cry every time
Romanticism at it's finest, you can only be together if you're in love, else it's not meant to be.
It's important to understand in what way you are bonding. And if it's an unhealthy way, but the other does not trigger for instance, abandonment, then you won't feel
the "right" way to try and commit to them.
Just a few thoughts.
Thanks for your words
that is the problem with people they thinks its about love its about respect and what they other will do for you!
“I figured you loved me jo”
That broke my heart 😭😢💔💔
She doesn't love him precisely because he loves her. There is no mystery about him and he lowers himself beneath her by putting her on a pedestal which destroys all possibility of attraction
Love is the thing that we can't control and when you love someone truly but he doesn't or can't love you it hurts so so so much 💔
I have thousands of words chaosly messing up my head but in short, they come as “f**k love”.
I bet he’ll take up billiards again after that and won’t give them up for anyone.
He fell in love with her sister and married her 🤣
Years ago when I was at highschool i was in love with a girl. She was beautiful, intelligent, empathetic, kind. Nevertheless I barely spoke to her because I thought she was way out my league and i was just just self conscious , introverted, shy guy. But maybe the reason why i didn't speak to her and didn't make confession it's because subconsciously I was afraid of rejection.
U know i think rejection is a good thing. Sure it hurts for a while but it lets u move on instead of the lingering hope that kills u in the process of chasing thats not meant to be. So i dont think people should be afraid of hurting peoples feelings if they reject them. Becoz ure in a way doing themselves a favour of not wasting their time on u
Your fear was justified. You felt that and probably for a good reason - you would be rejected. You don't confess your feewings. It comes naturally. You just click with a girl or not. Confessing is only going to shut your chances down.
Just look at what happens after a guy proposes to his girlfriend. Her love just goes away like you wiped it with a tissue.
She thinks to herself - "I got him now".
Don’t ever loose yourself trying to finding someone else’s love
Each and every word just pierced through my heart....💔💯
Jo really is the asexual icon we all need, because this is the most familiar scene in any movie ever for me
She married the professor tho
@@Bhnbhn publisher made Alcott end the book in marriage. It’s like, the entire point of the movie’s meta ending. The true ending is Jo staying single
@@Bhnbhn it doesn't disprove her being asexual
Gentlemen, never waste time trying to make a woman like you. The moment you know she isn’t interested, walk away. No woman is worth this kind of degrading display.
I literally felt this been there. Can't make someone love u as much as u love them. Sometimes u just gotta move on knowing and understanding that sometimes that's just the way it is. I always look at it as if there's so much more to be discovered, more compassion and understanding from someone that's just not this one and no matter how much it hurts, no matter how much u love that person and u don't wanna let them go, u have to. Newtons third law- something has to get left behind. Never leave the best of yourself in the past with someone who doesn't see u in their future
If a guy told me this.... I would melt in his arms
At the stage of life i am in and as a grandmother. This scene shows how Deceitful the heart is. I have loved those that did not deserve it, while dismissing the genuine love from others. Looking for that magical "connection".
Please consider the merits and care someone is offering you. Do they consider you and your feelings? Do they include you in their family circle and respect yours? Do they trust you and love with quiet devotion? OR is it drama, suspicion, verbal or physical abuse, decreasing lust, selfishness, running hot then cold thenhot again, tears of manipulation.....?
That young man would die for the young woman and the children they would make together.
It is not "settling" it is truely seeing, and understanding.
Tip i wish i knew when i was beginning my adult journey. " Men offer "love" for sex, women offer sex for love". Take all the time you need to get to know each other. No rush to jump into bed. Lord knows the regrets i have for doing that way too soon. Any pressure, run RUN. The men that still think of me and i them, i took the longest to get to know.
Thank you very much for taking the time to write this message. It brought tears to my eyes because I have seen this and felt it, and what you've said about how people are looking for that magical moment only is so true. May God bless you and your loved ones.
Age women teach the younger...
The masses have abandoned this wisdom. It is the old women's job to *teach l* tge younger ones this. Instead we have youngins out here chasing their feeling and I say feeling cause it is only one, *LUST*
Walk away dude. She was a teacher to show you that your capable of loving . but she is only a teacher. The one women that will love you won't ask you to change. You will change with out being asked.. So lesson learned .. Now move on..
She never asked him to change for her.
When did she asked him to change?😂
Dude! She said "i can't change how I feel"
This happened with me.. sometimes no matter how hard we try . .we are not able to love the people who love us back
Friend-zoned… EMOTIONAL DAMAGE….
The lesson here is simple. Don’t sacrifice what makes you happy for someone you can replace.
Why dose it always work like this? You never love who loves you and the person you love dont love you. F this
Exactly i hate this shit so much
Because u always love ppl better than you and those ppl love ppl better than them and it goes on
There is difference between love and lust. In my opinion most people confuse these two feelings, similar to how we confuse thirst and hunger.
You can love a lot of people, your family, your friends, yourself. However, (hopefully) you don't feel lust towards your family, friends etc.
Picking a husband/wife is not about lust and not even about love.
Lust will be gone sooner than love, and love will be gone as well. Love will transform into something else.
You need to know your goals. Do you want to stay single or married? Do you want to have children?
Once you know what you want, pick the person who is right for that.
If you want a family pick a person who would be a good parent, who woul starve to death just to feed his /her children. Pick a man/woman who would die to protect you. Someone who would love you more than they love themselves.
People in the past used to know this, and they made *SACRIFICES*
A relationship is not about you, never was, never will be. It's about the family. A couple will only stay together if both of them will give more to the other one, than they want for themselves.
If you can't do this you *WILL* die alone and miserable.
The choice is yourse.
_My advice would be to keep the body count low, and don't date too many people. I saw my promiscuous friends fry their brain. They are sleeping and dating around, but they are never happy. They are miserable people who live in the past and in the moment. They compare all of their partners to eachother and because of this they cannot see the value in people anymore._
@@user-yk5xu8gr1e Thats not true.
I don’t wanna love 😔 it hurts too much
Never beg to be loved. just be yourself as you are.
If you ever cried tears of joy, then you know of what I speak. Until you cried those tears, you thought you were deep.
With such a handsome man, I would just force my self to love him loll if I was in her shoes, coz nothing is impossible in this world.
I sobbed this entire movie. No joke. I've never cried so much in one sitting. It was just so relatable and well done. The thing that got me was when one of the girls ( I don't remember their names) died and I have two younger siblings and I just could never imagine that happening to one of them. I just sobbed and sobbed and my friends thought I was dying lol.
What's the movie?
Loved this remake as much as the original. Such amazing actors and actresses.
A) Being with someone who loves you.
B) Being with someone who you love.
What will u choose ?
A
I'm confused😩
Yes. Never ever be afraid to turn a person down just so you don't hurt them. It will be very painful for them and you.
The pain is not worth it and it's too deep.
So always say No. If you don't want it, don't feel it as soon as possible.
I am speaking for personal experience.
I've always dated wealthy, handsome guys but I become very very good friends with this guy, he was the best friend, the sweetest, caring and loving. I loved him and my love was deep but as a best friend type of love.
The other guys were amazing as well but I wasn't looking for a relationship.
My best friend once asked me out and I was so afraid to hurt him by saying No.
He meant so much and I loved him.
He was not my type didnt see him as a man or a crush but very stupidly and bc I felt sorry for him. I said, yes. Thinking I would just be with him for 3 months and call it quits.
He never did anything wrong he was the best man. But bc of the lack of attraction in every single way I hurt him very badly but even so he said, he will do anything to make me love him the same way he loves me. We went through hell and many, many times we got hurt baldy especially him.
You might ask why not break up then?
I did many times and everhtime I hurt him.
My mother once said, stay with the one that loves you not with the one you love.
Because the one that loves you will never hurt you.
So 6 years later. We are still together and he was the best man I could ever wish for.
Now he is everything to me.
But my point is and my only regret is hurting this man for many years when he could have been with a woman that could give him what he always wanted. I wasted years of his life trying to make this woman love him.
And I wasted years trying to love someone who I didn't want.
Things changed now
But save each other pain.
It will hurt for few days or even weeks but it's better than been hurting someone for years.
This scene once again teared my heart
In my case, the feelings took time to manifest and It's too late...Pleading to God to give me strength...
Love doesn't appear magically... it grows. It's better to accept someone who truly loves you and feel your love for him/her blossom slowly
damn bruh. at least he tried
Its the best proposal and the best rejection shown in the same scene
I Love how she stands in her Truth...
Even when the truth -- hurts 😔
But it would hurt even more in the long run, if she stringed him along and lived a Lie.... by acting as if she cared about him that way -- when she doesn't.
I can't make you Love me 🎶
..... If you don't 🎶
Fellas, never give up what you’re passionate about for a women. What attracted her to you was what you were passionate about in the first place.
It's very simple, you cannot love a woman so much that you give up things for her that you make her the center of your world, because then surprisingly enough they don't like men that make them the center of their world their instinctually turned off by that. So point of the lesson never ever make a woman listen to your world you will lose every time
That is just not the lesson. The point is you cant make someone love you. It has nothing to do with gender either
At least she told the truth 🌚❤️✨
It sucks when someone says "you're too good for me" its just an excuse it stops a lot of heartache to tell someone youre not intrested then leading them on into something that'll never happen be it for attention or the anxeity of hurting someone
Love is a very cruel thing