7 "BAD” Beauty Habits I Quit That ACTUALLY Improved My Life…

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  • @rachellewatson01
    @rachellewatson01 ปีที่แล้ว +273

    I’m a therapist and this is such a beautiful video. Self care isn’t just being gentle with ourselves. Self care is also pushing ourselves to do things that we know are good for us even when we don’t want to. Sometimes we have to show ourselves that we’re worth it even if we don’t believe it in the moment 💕

    • @arwabagerlmhc2589
      @arwabagerlmhc2589 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yes!!! As a fellow therapist I’m so happy Lauren made this video ! Bringing more awareness to something I feel so strongly about (and that comes up a lot in sessions )

    • @brookekivi
      @brookekivi ปีที่แล้ว +15

      “Sometimes we have to show ourselves we’re worth it even if we don’t believe it in the moment.” - this really struck me. Thanks for sharing that with us in the comments!

    • @KarenDugas
      @KarenDugas ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This!!!

    • @HaydeeSophia
      @HaydeeSophia ปีที่แล้ว +3

    • @RlRdHd
      @RlRdHd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@brookekivi this statement brought tears to my eyes.

  • @jennypie1903
    @jennypie1903 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    The aversion to showering is a real struggle when you have a mental illness. It's so refreshing to hear someone else talk about it. I struggle every day. Xo

    • @echoseeslight-wh9xe
      @echoseeslight-wh9xe ปีที่แล้ว +9

      This makes me feel so much less ashamed...... After a lifetime of trauma, Showering is the first thing to go for me.... It's almost as if it makes me not attractive to men and I like that

  • @tvmayer
    @tvmayer ปีที่แล้ว +298

    Your honesty is so beautiful. I totally feel you about showering. When I’m in a depressive episode, my hygiene is one of the first elements to be limited. I love using a shower cap so I can get in the shower and focus on body care without washing my hair if I don’t have the energy. I can make it a few days without a hair wash but you’re so right, a daily rinse, some body oil, and a bit of lotion do wonders for me, and it isn’t as exhausting as I anticipate. Love to you, lovely!

    • @jennypie1903
      @jennypie1903 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      yes

    • @agingophelia9812
      @agingophelia9812 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I get that too. For me, with a muscle disease & arthritis, it's physically difficult and sometimes exhausting to shower; showering at night instead of in the morning has become a helpful strategy.

    • @katieharris7219
      @katieharris7219 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes. This is me too. ❤❤❤

    • @jessicalevy2415
      @jessicalevy2415 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Realizing I didn’t have to wash my hair every time I shower was legit GAME CHANGING.

    • @brookekivi
      @brookekivi ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agree that shower caps are game changers for those of us with hair.

  • @hayleypflug7384
    @hayleypflug7384 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Your vulnerability in this video is inspiring. Personal hygiene is both important and SO HARD for the neurodiverse crowd. If you’ve never understood why some people don’t shower or hate showering… consider yourself BLESSED. Anything I can do to improve my shower experience helps. The smells and textures and the idea that I’m paying attention to my body, just for me. No one else.

  • @AmaniMaharet
    @AmaniMaharet ปีที่แล้ว +37

    It’s been a bad week & I was planning on not showering tonight, until you got to that point & I realized exactly what I was doing. Now i’m getting ready to go shower. Thank you for calling me out without knowing you were calling me out.

  • @janvann8386
    @janvann8386 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Lauren, hearing you discuss this “at your age” (I know that sounds condescending but I’m honestly not being condescending) is amazing!! I’ll be 46 this year and I have grown children and grandchildren and I’ve only just figured these things out in the last few years. We learn so much as we age and for you to have figured this out so soon is amazing and leaves you open to learning more about how to be happily you!😘

  • @dovafoos7513
    @dovafoos7513 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    Thank you so much for this video!!!!!! It’s really brave of you to be honest about these things on the internet! I am just climbing out of some of these places, the not showering often and all. I honestly started pretending like ridiculous scenarios, like I’m an ancient queen or goddess bathing and doing luxurious exotic treatments. Yes, it’s Neutrogena, but not in my fantasy 😂

    • @voodookitty2137
      @voodookitty2137 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      This is what I have to do when I come out of an episode, your not alone in this. A phsyc nurse gave me the idea to try it as it helps other patients she worked with.

    • @laexe2
      @laexe2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow thank you both, i'll try this!

    • @angiemcadam65
      @angiemcadam65 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for sharing! I'll try to remember this for the next time my depression tries to get the better of me

    • @lizisasleep
      @lizisasleep ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Omg I do this too! My tree hut scrub becomes a ritual potion lol

  • @mariannemilkshines2390
    @mariannemilkshines2390 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Such a great video- I have suffered with chronic depression and anxiety as well as being a mental health therapist who is very good working with my clients but not taking my own advice. I don’t know what it is about taking showers, washing brushes and even putting on makeup when I am not working. All of these activities make me so happy once I start them but taking that first step seems so impossible sometimes. On the outside you can look fine and put together even when you are not showering every day and I don’t think a lot of people realize that. So it can be easy to hide that low lever of depression that people don’t see you struggling with.
    I hope this is understandable and helpful.

  • @kristentrep5038
    @kristentrep5038 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Oh Gurl! When you know.., you know! Im choosing to vacuum and mop my floors, and cleaning my closet! Bc I’m putting off hopping in the shower right THIS moment! I hate having to think about drying my hair, and being all damp getting out of the shower! It totally feels like a HUGE chore!

  • @sea_g0at
    @sea_g0at ปีที่แล้ว +5

    the shower thing is so real!!! i hate feeling wet (heh) and have always just not loved showering. but i realized showering more regularly has helped my body acne and kp TREMENDOUSLY. things i’ve found that help: finding shower products i love using and!!! super absorbent towels as well as using a hair dryer on my body. sounds weird but gets me feeling dry quickly so i can put my clothes on and feel comfy and clean ! seriously y’all. it’s so great to figure out what it is in particular that you hate about something and then finding sometimes unconventional solutions. similarly- i would let dishes pile up in my sink and then i realized i did it because i didn’t tlike touching the dirty dishes. solution? GLOVES! literally (like not even hyperbole) changed my life. good luck to anyone struggling and if anyone is reading this pls share any similar epiphanies y’all have had because maybe i will learn something helpful ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @lisamc2820
    @lisamc2820 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    You know something - I REALLY needed this video. Everything you said is something I can really relate to. Thank you so much for saying all you’ve said - it has made a difference. At least I know it has for me & all the rest of us here who appreciate your genuine compassion. You’re a true blessing!

  • @blendofdays
    @blendofdays ปีที่แล้ว +64

    As someone who is nd & struggles with bipolar, I completely relate to ALL of this 😅💜*also... As someone who used to only wear makeup as a creative outlet to take pics, YOU got me into actually wearing makeup daily! I fell in love with neutrals & sparkly one & done shades. It completely blew my mind ngl. That's all down to you 🫶

  • @kmonkey1
    @kmonkey1 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I can struggle with the shower sometimes too when my anxiety is up. I found that if I shower with just a candle or small light on instead of having all of the bright/harsh lights it helps so much.
    Also, I NEED to know what eyeshadow you have on in this video. It's so pretty!!

  • @jilliancampbell6742
    @jilliancampbell6742 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Thank you so much for talking about this and posting it!!! It’s worth mentioning too that these things take time and it’s not like you tackled all 7 of these at once. You didn’t start them all on the same day. That can feel like such a hurdle. I too remind myself to start with one thing, take a step. And some days I can’t and that’s ok too. I appreciate your vulnerability and that you’ve not only taken time to reflect on these things for yourself but that you shared them with us. It’s encouraging! Way to go Lauren! You’re beautiful inside and out!!

    • @moriganna67ify
      @moriganna67ify ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You really are a beautiful soul! Not sure why my gut told me you need to get past this hurdles and just tackle them all! Like I said. A beautiful soul.

  • @ericaschiffler2425
    @ericaschiffler2425 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Love your honesty. Also face wash wrist cuffs from Amazon are a game changer for splashing water everywhere and getting your arms and clothes wet.

    • @liviamusolino2573
      @liviamusolino2573 ปีที่แล้ว

      I ordered face wash wrist cuffs yesterday and I can't wait to try them!

  • @isadorasmiles9339
    @isadorasmiles9339 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    To expand on your last suggestion about your thoughts changing about your makeup, I definitely can relate to your point. I was getting lost during the surge of minimalist content and declutters. I was getting rid of stuff because I told myself I had too many duplicates or you don’t wear this enough or I only need so many. Although some cases it’s true, I also felt like I stripped too much where makeup wasn’t what it was for me. Now I feel true resurgence of why I love make up. For me, I love variety, textures, color, techniques, changing my look from day to day to fit my mood. I also like to be apart of the beauty community space here on TH-cam a lot and like to buy certain influencers makeup releases to support and feel a part of something. To me make up is an art form. Sometimes I felt bad before spending like an 1.5-2hrs doing my makeup and hair to not really do much for the day. But for me, it’s a time of loving myself, self expression, and just having fun and to feel good. I’ll even wear a more done up look to the grocery store. Idc anymore. So while other people may think it’s crazy, for me it brings value. My mind set now is not “do I need this” but instead “does this add value to my life and is it worth investing in”. This has helped a lot and has allowed myself permission to explore and try something new. Since then I’ve finally gave myself sweep bangs again after a long time of debating, wearing brighter colors and patterns. It’s helped a lot and I feel the most like myself in awhile. It’s true mindset is everything in order to make changes. Thanks for sharing your struggles❤
    Side note of the showering topic, I always play music while showering like Lofi music and I think that really changes the game. It puts you in zen mode

  • @rishibeauty8889
    @rishibeauty8889 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I struggle with BPD, PTSD, SAD- I am a disabled veteran of the USAF. I totally hear you & understand what you are saying.
    I have been a sub of yours for a few years. You are looking so good! You can see that you are feeling better & prioritizing YOU.
    I really look forward to you vids. They lift me up & want to put me first too.
    I use a walker & it is really hard- totally easy to feel bad on myself. I get what you are saying.
    Keep up all your growth! Its ok to have bad days- just make it a priority to love yourself!❤

    • @dizzieblonde
      @dizzieblonde ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for your service. I hope you find peace, comfort, and contentment.

    • @claudialevesque6993
      @claudialevesque6993 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I second what dizzieblonde had to say, 110%!

    • @lelalu101
      @lelalu101 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have a bunch of mental health issues and am also a disabled human. Using my walker has been freeing and I try to focus on that. Being a human is hard, but finding ways to take care of ourself shouldn't have to be 💕

    • @claudialevesque6993
      @claudialevesque6993 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lelalu101
      ♥️👍

  • @jennabellerhiannon
    @jennabellerhiannon ปีที่แล้ว +11

    For some reason, I also can really struggle with getting into the shower. Something that's been really helping me is having a cup of coffee to enjoy before and in the shower. Idk what it is with the anticipation or just the build up to get in there but warm drinks and a podcast have been doing wonders for my pre-shower routine

  • @FacesByGina
    @FacesByGina ปีที่แล้ว +18

    One of the most important things I learned (and honestly had to work hard to internalize) for my mental health is:
    "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly."
    I'll leave it here for anyone who might need to see it. 💚

    • @fourducksoriginal
      @fourducksoriginal ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I've never seen that phrasing for that sentiment, but it's catchy. thanks for posting it.

    • @LaurenMaeBeauty
      @LaurenMaeBeauty  ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @FacesByGina
      @FacesByGina ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@fourducksoriginal you're very welcome. One of the best memes that ever graced my Facebook haha

    • @kyeoptawerk93ah
      @kyeoptawerk93ah ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i've seen that before too! for hygiene routines, i always think doing it half assed is better than not doing it at all. if i don't feel like a full shower, washing my hair or just doing a quick rinse is better than nothing. if i don't feel like doing my full oral hygiene routine, a quick brush of my teeth is better than nothing

  • @danieller.r.m.1853
    @danieller.r.m.1853 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    LAUREN ❤️ I’m only on the second habit so far, but this is already so incredibly relatable. Thank you so much for this video! Sending you a virtual hug ❤️

  • @BeckyReynolds
    @BeckyReynolds ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is the realest video. I’ve never been a fan of showering, my skin literally burns afterwards but I’ve saved for a new bathroom and am now trying new products, same with brushing my teeth… peach toothpaste for the win!

  • @hellogovna91ify
    @hellogovna91ify ปีที่แล้ว +2

    With washing my face I absolutely hate water running down my wrists and arms. I bought a bunch of wrist sweat bands on amazon and it makes such a difference! I can tolerate it so much more now.

  • @Leelo20
    @Leelo20 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Thank you for this. I am so glad you decided to post this video. You are creating such a beautiful space on your channel. A space of acceptance, understanding and empathy. You deserve all the love. 💚💚💚

  • @samantharuber9498
    @samantharuber9498 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    For me this list is completely accurate with how I have been lately! The only struggle I don’t have is sun screen but you can replace that with washing the dishes or folding and putting away my clothes. Then I put off the dishes by saying- ooohhh can’t run appliances from noon- 8pm. Thanks so much for sharing such deeply personal issues with depression. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @trdewey
    @trdewey ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Really enjoyed this video coming at the perfect time. I’ve had lung disease my whole life, and worked as a nurse for 30 years in the Pediatric ICU. I was diagnosed 20 years ago with PTSD. Learning how to cope with self care is essential. We all have things we have to overcome, and I enjoyed hearing your thoughts. We don’t need to be ashamed about this. I am 65, and currently am having health issues, which is triggering my mental health. Makeup is great therapy, so is my work as an artist. I am active physically-just got my second black belt in Taekwondo. Just want to say how much I love your channel! And, as we age, showering is not recommended every day-itbstrips away all your skins protective barrier. I am trying to be better about body oils and creams. But I skip out on a shower about once a week unless I’ve been to TaeKwonDo-then it’s a necessity.

  • @Arbee1000
    @Arbee1000 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I thought not showering every day was my dirty little secret 😊 I started working fully from home about 5 years ago and I stopped showering every day. When the pandemic hit it got worse since I’d go days at a time without leaving my apartment, especially in the winter. I would simply forget to shower sometimes or just keep putting it off until it got so late that I would decide to wait until the next morning. I know a big part of it is that I live alone and I don’t like silence, so I always have to have a show or podcast playing during all non-working, non-sleeping hours. Taking a shower is a long stretch of time where I can’t distract myself from the silence with any media, especially if it’s a long shower where I’m washing my hair or shaving. I keep Parks & Rec playing on my phone on the counter so I can at least hear it after I turn the water off, which comforts me. It’s strange how the loneliness that I sometimes feel plays into my reluctance to shower at times. But I do love being showered and feeling clean, even if I don’t love the process. I try to buy nice smelling body washes to make the experience more enjoyable. Right now I’m showering at least every 3rd day since that’s how often I wash my hair. And then the rest of the days it mostly depends on whether I went to the gym or not.

    • @simplythebestgirl
      @simplythebestgirl ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I understand and relate so much. 🩷💘🩷

  • @Letty4
    @Letty4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Kudos to you for taking your walks and wearing sunscreen! It's wonderful self-care to take time to enjoy moving your body and protecting your skin. You're worth the effort!

  • @beauty_enthusiast
    @beauty_enthusiast ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My other favorite beauty Yter is HLP and this year she has really come into herself and that has refined her channel in a way that always brings something to the table worth talking about / considering. Videos like this, Lauren, align so well with your passion and path. Keep going! (And no need to apologize☺️)

  • @imjustanasshlesometimes3488
    @imjustanasshlesometimes3488 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I'm so guilty of not using sunscreen consistently until recently. Love the one from Apostrophe. Then I love Sun Bum face mist for reapplying. Both work beautifully.
    I was diagnosed with ADHD about a yr ago. I get horrible anxiety where I just freeze... And doing the littlest things (like jumping in the shower) is debilitating. Been going through a rough depression lately... But I've been forcing myself to shower almost daily, and to do my makeup almost daily. It really does help. Love these vids ❤
    Klarissa

    • @EnvyBlu
      @EnvyBlu ปีที่แล้ว

      I love Apostrophe’s sunscreen! I’m surprised I haven’t heard more people talking about how good it is 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @lovemesomeslippers
    @lovemesomeslippers ปีที่แล้ว +6

    A lot of this resonated with me. I don’t have any particular issues but I’m a later bloomer who needed some maturity to get to know myself. 1. My skin feels too hot and dry without sunscreen so using it is a comfort thing for me. You may like it! 2. I live in an old house in the north so getting out of the shower is my issue. It’s cold when I get out in the winter and the A/C is freezing me in the summer so I hate to shower. I block the vent in the summer (I don’t know why it took me so many years to think of doing that) and I got a towel warmer and it’s a lot better now. You can get one shaped like a trash can with a lid and the towels are toasty. I had also been forcing myself to do the spa things, like scrubs, but I stopped. I really just want to get in and out quickly. I bought scrubbing mitts to get the job done quickly. I hate having to lotion up and I have dry skin so I’m experimenting with moisturizing mists or just skipping it sometimes. I lotion any part that’s visible when I get dressed. 4. I use a washcloth to clean my face. No drips and I hold the warm washcloth on my face for a minute and it melts the balm. I have some washcloths only for my face. I bought them in a dark color so makeup stains aren’t bothering me. 7. I don’t have a lot of makeup so I get fomo. I’ve tried to change my mindset about things. I now call my limited jewelry my signature look so people kind of expect to see me in it. I change it whenever. I call my clothes my uniform for the season. I wear a very small selection and I’ve actually had people say that it’s a good idea and freeing. I get a few things that really speak to me. I’m not really a minimalist though. I have no rules about quantity. I don’t get anything I’m not thrilled to own. This means I don’t ignore many items. Some of these changes took time and some clicked right away.

  • @JoolsVoiceOver
    @JoolsVoiceOver ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Due to my Fibromyalgia showering is not a daily thing sadly but when I do I have a brilliant bluetooth speaker on full and have a great sing song in there and love it. Also someone suggested once having rock salt and hold it over your head and let it wash over you and the negative ions make you feel so much better.

  • @MsCarterElise
    @MsCarterElise ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Also, sometimes when I’m not feeling like doing something, I try to find a TH-cam video related to it (cleaning, decluttering, shower routine). That tends to get me up to actually do the thing!

  • @tossefin
    @tossefin ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for mentioning the shower part! Sometimes I feel alone in that. Having dry skin and eczema, I feel like it's a huge chore every time I shower. I have to use a rich prescription moisturizer all over my body within minutes of exiting or I'll dry up like a mummy. I also have a dry scalp and eczema there too, so it's dry like the Sahara desert (and itchy) after I've washed my hair. I envy people who can just take a quick shower, get out and get dressed with no hassle.

  • @SoulShiner1115
    @SoulShiner1115 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I hate washing my face for the same reason. I found these things on Temu that you put on your wrists when you wash your face, and they absorb the water. It actually really helps. The water doesn’t run down your arms, so it keeps a lot of water off the counter.

  • @BobbieLovesBeauty
    @BobbieLovesBeauty ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so helpful, I’m struggling with basics right now my mother just passed and I feel so out of my normal. Like I’m struggling to take care of myself. I have so many others to care for I just don’t have the energy for myself. The small things really help me push through. Washing my face even just having clean hair is so nice. Thanks for all you do ❤❤❤

    • @fourducksoriginal
      @fourducksoriginal ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for the departure of your mother, may she rest in peace. Of course nothing feels normal; for most of us, our mothers are the first thing we ever knew or remembered, and we have never known life without their existence. I wish you peace in your adjustment to this part of life without her earthly presence. God bless you

    • @LaurenMaeBeauty
      @LaurenMaeBeauty  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m sending you my love!! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @BobbieLovesBeauty
      @BobbieLovesBeauty ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LaurenMaeBeauty thank you

  • @katewank8254
    @katewank8254 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This, all this. Everyday...ME! These are all challenges I face as well. Sunscreen every darn day has been so hard to learn, and the simple act of showering has taken so much energy.
    I've allowed myself to get into shower products that smell good and are great for my hair. It's made me more excited to take care of myself 😊

  • @chamorrojen1905
    @chamorrojen1905 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm a newer subscriber that has always appreciated your fun personality and sense of humor, but I have to commend you on your honesty and vulnerability in this video. I've dealt with these same feelings and I'm sure i will in the future. Pushing through, getting cute and having fun with my makeup always seems to help but its so hard to remember that when you're in the eye of the storm. Thanks so much for being brave and sharing with us. I'm an even bigger Lauren fan after this video! Sending lots of love ❤

  • @shirefb2006
    @shirefb2006 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I always recommend that makeup wearers who have some harder nights/days to use milk cleansers with reusable cotton rounds (I like the garnier ones) instead of wipes if you need a low-effort-required/emergency beside the bed makeup removal with no rinse required. I've liked the lancome one (lait galatee comfort) but it is scented, and would mostly be suggesting you find one of these types of products that YOU love! It's a great bridge for those who sleep in makeup sometimes, love wipes and need to swap, and would prefer not to fully cleanse 💖💖💖

  • @jessicaharrison4719
    @jessicaharrison4719 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was using makeup as my creative outlet during the times we all were supposed to stay home. I am gradually returning to my prepandemic makeup levels, which is just wearing it to perform, for special occasions, and to help me build characters. For a while I was trying to hang on to the makeup time even while I added back my older activities, but I started feeling resentful about forcing myself to do makeup every day, so now it is just for when I want to. I am performing today, and I am looking forward to taking an hour to build a dramatic look to help me get into my over the top character! But the rest of this week, I chose to do other things, like take my kids to a museum, go hiking, practice my music, and more, and I didn't put pressure on myself to wear makeup for any of those things. Even when I went to get a new ID photo for my work, I just put some tinted lip balm on. I still love makeup, and I still get those feelings swatching pretty things, I just don't feel like I NEED to do it or xyz will happen (I will waste my products because they will go bad, people will think I don't take care of myself, people will ask if I am sick, etc).
    I do love all the advice here about self care hygeine. Getting a shower cap was a game changer for me, that is for sure. I have a lot of fine, long hair, so I tend to need hydrating products to make a wash last rather than dry shampoo, and finding that out and realizing I could put my hair in a shower cap and not have to wash and dry it was super helpful. Now, if I don't have time to wash and dry my hair, I just put a tiny amount of dry shampoo at the roots, a little hair oil or leave in conditioner on the ends, and then twist it up into my shower cap, shower as normal, then brush out my hair when I am out of the shower. No more waiting around for my hair to dry, no more telling myself that there was no point in showering if I don't want to get my hair wet, and so I am more likely to actually treat my body as though it is worthy of care.
    One of the things I have been doing as well in the same vein of "my body is worthy of care..." is that I have been spending a little more on some products because it is worth that to not be frustrated. Example: I used to only buy the cheapest nail polish, spend a bunch of time painting my nails, then be frustrated when it woukd start chipping before the excess polish even wore off the skin around my nail beds. I started buying fewer colors but slightly more expensive polishes ($5-$10 instead of $1), and now I can make a manicure last a few days or even a week. Which is impressive, I am really tough on my hands. I was frustrated by the dollar store hair care products I was using, starting spending a little more on nice drugstore products instead. I don't need to use as much product when it just works, who knew? I am never going to be the person who goes for the most expensive option because I just don't think it is worth it, but my time and my care are worth using products that do what they are supposed to.
    I know I regularly need to hear this, and if it makes you feel uncomfortable to hear it, you probably do, too: you are worthy of care and love, just by virtue of existing and being you. No one is more worthy of your care and attention than you are. You have always deserved that love and care, and you always will.

  • @mariad.6618
    @mariad.6618 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This was a much needed video - I admit that I have a small hoarding issue with makeup - I have too much but I'm working on using it up and not buying as much. I have firced myself to date when I start using an eyeshadow palette and consistently using it for 3 months and then throwing it out. You touched on one issue that I feel is almost a generational thing - self care - showers (baths), skin lotion and all that stuff can be overwhelming because it takes time if you do it right and I was brought up in a house where taking self time was considered selfish if you were in the bathroom for more than 15 minutes so even though sometimes it feels exhausting - I have given myself permission to take time for myself and I always feel better afterwards.

  • @claribelhernandez8114
    @claribelhernandez8114 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You hit the nail on the head on many of these for me!! Thank u so much for using ur space to take time and be real with us. I truly appreciate it! Not many people are confident enough to speak on these topics.

  • @laurenb6156
    @laurenb6156 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow. The tone of this video was so perfect. No shame. Great tips for those of us that struggle ❤You are an inspiration!

  • @MuddledMind
    @MuddledMind ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Gimme the eyeshadow. Gimme the hair. Gimme the skin.
    Sharing this means the world to someone who deals with intense mental illness. Thank you for the vulnerability.

  • @sireorcry
    @sireorcry ปีที่แล้ว +4

    One harmful habit I've quit is using filters. This is the real me in my photos, imperfections and all ❤

  • @stephaniec4766
    @stephaniec4766 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The types of things you’re describing are so relatable, even if the specifics vary. Love this concept for a video, love your honesty 💖

  • @Kupo923
    @Kupo923 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very rare to find someone speaking so honestly online these days, kudos to you. Hell even the shower thing is waaay more common than we think in this hygiene olympics society of ours.
    Btw you are absolutely stunning, geez.

  • @marielle7505
    @marielle7505 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think you hit the core when you said: I love myself and I want to do that for myself.
    That's it, Lauren! Hold that thought, because that is so important! It's a great mindset.

  • @MadisonAnne
    @MadisonAnne ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Putting a separate face wash in the shower really helps when trying to do skincare, and not washing your hair everytime you shower really cuts down on having to feel like every shower is a chore, depression sucks but hygiene is necessary to feel better about one’s self, much love hope you get your spark back❤

    • @MadisonAnne
      @MadisonAnne ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Also there’s glitter sunscreen to make it feel more fun and I highly recommend the olay Shea whipped body wash or the Olay with hyloronic acid body wash, both help w dry skin and not having to always feel like you need to use lotion, I say make everything feel more luxurious or fun and it helps the habits fall in place

    • @Kitteh342
      @Kitteh342 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A luxe shower cap helps with that too. 😊

  • @AlisonInCT1971
    @AlisonInCT1971 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh girl, you're not alone in any of it. As for sunscreen, I grew up in the 70's and 80's and the only thing we put on our skin at the beach was baby oil. Fortunately I'm not a sun girl, so I'm mostly inside or in the shade. I've only had a few bad sunburns in my life but I know that's enough to get skin cancer. I'm in my 50's now and it is still a struggle to even think about sunscreen. I know I should wear it in the shade too but old habits die hard. I did buy one recently and am trying to push myself to use it. As for washing your face, you can buy hair scrunchies that are that washcloth material (I've seen them, so they're out there!) and put them just above your wrists and they will catch all the water. No more water dripping down your arms! It's a total game changer because I hated getting water everywhere too. If I can remember the name of the creator, there is someone on either Instagram or Etsy that sells skincare sleeves. But in a pinch, the scrunchies will work. 😊 Depression for me also means having to push myself just to shower. For whatever reason, self care just goes out the window. I've been struggling with depression all of my life and it has worsened in the last 10 years. Hygiene is the first to suffer. Everything is a struggle. So know you are not alone in any of it. And thank you for speaking on it - it lets me know I am not alone either. ❤

  • @jackivacha
    @jackivacha ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Everyone in the beauty space needs to hear this. Awesome video! ❤❤

  • @sherrypettit5552
    @sherrypettit5552 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I suffer from depression, PTSD, and Bipolar Didorder. I struggle to get in the shower so I ususually shower every other day. I use a cleansing to take my makeup off because of water splashing. I hsve been having difficulty making a satisfying look. I have been working on more self care lately. Thank you for this video

  • @ScaraScream33
    @ScaraScream33 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    👏❤ I also has a hard time getting into sunscreen! I have been trying the Unseen Screen and the First Aid Beauty one.. just seems so hard for me to layer it with my skin care and then my makeup routine. Slowly getting there.
    Love this honest open discussion. Mental health is such a hurdle and having content with some encouragement, it really is wonderful.

  • @billieosha7309
    @billieosha7309 ปีที่แล้ว

    Laura, thank you. Your honesty has been a blessing.

  • @BeautyRepublicUnited
    @BeautyRepublicUnited ปีที่แล้ว

    You have NO IDEA how much this videos helped me! Thank you so much!

  • @Allypooh88
    @Allypooh88 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really needed to hear this today. THANK YOU!!❤❤

  • @laurac86
    @laurac86 ปีที่แล้ว

    I relate to so many of these habits you’re talking about and while I hate that you struggle feeling the same way I do, it makes me feel like I’m not the only one and motivates me to make much needed changes. Thank you for being so open and honest ☺️

  • @becktheruiner
    @becktheruiner ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow.... Absolutely shocked how similar we are, and I really didn't think that there were people out there like me because no one wants to talk about these serious issues but You having the courage to just open up and talk about this really helps me😊 I really appreciate you, your honesty, and your uplifting comments❤
    They truly mean the world
    Stay beautiful girl You got this, I'll be here watching ❤️❤️

  • @AngelaJeanBTW
    @AngelaJeanBTW ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing this Lauren. I have been feeling a lot of the same things, and trying to finding ways to pull myself out of it. It feels good to know that I’m not alone. 😊

  • @lynnkayseas636
    @lynnkayseas636 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is relatable to my own life, I thank you for sharing and being vulnerable, you are truly a solid human being

  • @dominiquebright4790
    @dominiquebright4790 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Omg thank u for sharing this lauren❤ most of us definitely r right there with u❤

  • @sarahpratt378
    @sarahpratt378 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this video, thank you so much for posting. I dont feel so alone and am so inspired to take care of ME! ❤️

  • @faithruntz2969
    @faithruntz2969 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Literally every single point applies to me lately. Saving this video to reference over and over! Thank you!!

  • @janetdunleavy3926
    @janetdunleavy3926 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just found your channel and I am SO glad! I absolutely can relate so hard to so much of this! Thank you for talking about this! So nice to know I’m not alone. 💖

  • @loco7357
    @loco7357 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate you for saying a lot of this Lauren. I've been struggling the last few years with my mental health and showers are an issue. It's embarrassing! I'm not stinky either 😊 but it's just not something I can do everyday. I've also become mostly locked in my house. I wasn't able to phase out of the lockdown unfortunately. I had just gotten out of a traumatic experience when all of that began so it was oddly a relief to me to be shut away from the world. I am working on myself with my therapist, so hopefully I can get back to some "normalcy" soon. I still love doing my makeup and skincare, I'm just the only one that really sees it.
    I just wanted to thank you for making me feel a little less weird. ❤❤❤

  • @ellelovescats3
    @ellelovescats3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really needed to see someone discussing all this. Sometimes i start to feel like im awful and the only one who has a problem doing these things even if i know tons of people have mental health problems. You are so brave for sharing your struggles! Thank you 😊 this really made my day.

  • @kayla4702
    @kayla4702 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this video, I too have struggled with many of these and am still getting used to the routines.

  • @judyhechinger-5946
    @judyhechinger-5946 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your honesty! I appreciate you so much. I am sure this video will help everyone who is struggling.

  • @michellejames6133
    @michellejames6133 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for putting yourself out there. I was feeling so alone in the struggle. I appreciate hearing that I'm not. It's normal to struggle with life sometimes. Needed to hear this and you're advice was extremely helpful. ❤

  • @Diamond-pm3vt
    @Diamond-pm3vt ปีที่แล้ว

    Please never feel embarrassed because you have the power with your platform to make others feel like they aren't alone! 🤞

  • @renemurphy4244
    @renemurphy4244 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my gosh, I have struggled with every one of these points, at one time or another! And you are so wise and gentle and a beautiful soul, Lauren. I am much older and it took me much longer to get to where you are and I find some of these cycle back on me (I think they are depression related). So thank you for giving us something we can revisit in the future when we forget or backslide or whatever. You are a treasure.

  • @melissap7369
    @melissap7369 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks so much for talking about this! 💕

  • @shannondeppen1343
    @shannondeppen1343 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing and being so very honest with us. So many of us can relate to how you've been feeling. I think self care is so beneficial and for me, it's essential to my mental health as well as my physical health. You truly seem very genuine and are such a lovely person. You are beautiful inside and out. 😊

  • @NaharaVensar
    @NaharaVensar ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing. I've been struggling with chronic health problems in the last few years. Having routines and making time has really helped me as well.

  • @KellieRyan
    @KellieRyan ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this! It is beautiful, and something that I needed to hear. Again, thank you for sharing. It means a lot.

  • @imperfectlyEm
    @imperfectlyEm ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this video Lauren! And thank you both as a viewer and creator, for speaking on your mental health. Not only is it lovely to know I’m not alone but it makes space for others to feel less alone too and that is magical. ❤❤❤

  • @catherinebyrom6307
    @catherinebyrom6307 ปีที่แล้ว

    You've reframed things really nicely here, and I don't doubt it has helped other people ❤

  • @Eva_Lauren
    @Eva_Lauren ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for being so honest and open in this video ❤ a lot of the topics you covered are ones I struggle with as well. It's so refreshing to hear someone share their struggles, and then also share how they've been able to improve 😊❤

  • @KarenDugas
    @KarenDugas ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved this Lauren. Thank you so much! Your content is so fun because you always keep it real, but this was extra real and vulnerable and I’m here for it. Deep gratitude to you!! ❤

  • @rabbiroz3806
    @rabbiroz3806 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As always, you have spoken right to my heart; it is as if you are speaking directly to me. Mental health and self-care (which includes doing my makeup) are so inter-related. Thank you for sharing so honestly. You have helped me so much.

  • @smalltalker9710
    @smalltalker9710 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for posting this ❤

  • @tillythehun
    @tillythehun ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your videos girl, great job. I’m always happy to see you.

  • @sierrajamison8535
    @sierrajamison8535 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So happy you posted this. Mental health and the way it can affect daily tasks is not talked about enough especially in the beauty community. It can feel almost shameful. I totally agree with everything you said. You don't have to do it all. Embracing the small things you already enjoy and flipping perspective is the way to make sustainable change.

  • @dnaturalartist546
    @dnaturalartist546 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The transparency and truths in this video are appreciated. For those of us like myself who deal with depression, I felt everyone of these and thanks for your bravery discussing it. Good luck on your continued journey and I am working on the same things as you are. Love and light

  • @seaflwrz
    @seaflwrz ปีที่แล้ว

    Love the honesty and the last section about loving what you already have was especially spot on for me! I’m about to clean my brushes! 😂 Thank you for being such a genuine person!

  • @CJ-gf3yl
    @CJ-gf3yl 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a helpful and important video. Thank you for this!!

  • @alicepirola7077
    @alicepirola7077 ปีที่แล้ว

    I live with treatment resistent depressive disorder, PTSD, BPD, Anxiety...trauma childhood. I am so proud of you Lauren, for taking time out to speak to some very important topics. Needs to be addressed and as can be seen from the comments, many suffer in silence. It only takes one to speak out and use your voice. I believe in #empathizeeducateadvocate when it comes to mental health issues.
    Thank you so much for doing just that in this video. Kinda love ya for it! ❤

  • @samanthaleigh805
    @samanthaleigh805 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel you about all of this! Some days I get so busy with life and my kids that I don’t remember if I showered or not.. ugh. I also love cleaning my brushes now too and never did before. More mental health/self care videos please!

  • @valsbeautylife7196
    @valsbeautylife7196 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a relatable video, it's so refreshing to hear you talking about this stuff, when a lot of people on social media try to.portray a perfect lifestyle. This is so important to talk about, thank you. I personally have been kind of going through a phase of more minimalist makeup when I used to love complex and colorful looks, and also post partum so I'm home right now not using makeup a lot. I appreciated hearing you talk about your experience and that change is ok. I still love makeup, like you, but I am just in a different stage, and that's ok.

  • @lizsahu9344
    @lizsahu9344 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was such a relatable video. I have also made my face washing and self care more of a priority and I completely hear you about working on having more capacity.

  • @kiitos7904
    @kiitos7904 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I always love how you do your makeup!!!😻 just something about the shimmer and the colours that you choose. I especially like how you do your eyeshadow and blush. But in this video the makeup+the hair+the hairband are just an incredible look, I just can't get over it💞

  • @brckaboo
    @brckaboo ปีที่แล้ว

    Lauren, I so appreciate this video. A lot of this resonates with me and your approach to the discussion is so refreshing!! Thank you! ❤

  • @lorigrondin6305
    @lorigrondin6305 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It is great to see how in touch you are with your actions and habits and then identifying how they impact your feelings. I really relate to so much of what you observed in yourself. Thank you - very helpful and motivating!!

  • @SharrellKline
    @SharrellKline ปีที่แล้ว

    I really appreciate your honesty. I've been there a lot over the years.

  • @rebeccafriesen417
    @rebeccafriesen417 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lauren! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and found wisdom with us. You are so insightful and I commend you on the hard work you have done! I totally feel you with so many things, especially the face washing. One thing that's really helped me is washing my face by a method Salli Hughes writes in her book Pretty Honest-using a gel cleanser like Cerave or Cetaphil non-foaming and using on dry skin, then wiping off with a warm wet face cloth. It's less messy, good for days with less or no makeup (most days for me), and is also kind of exfoliating!

  • @KathyW89
    @KathyW89 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Lauren, thank you ❤ This video was exactly what I needed, you spoke about everything I am going through. The little things, like taking showers everyday, cleaning brushes, and really getting in touch with your passions, are helping the most. The changes are good as well, discovering something new you might like, changing the mindset. I had a really rough the last half a year, I’m slowly getting better but it’s good to know that someone actually understands. People in my personal life have been just brushing me off, they don’t care nor want to learn about depression and it’s really been hard, going through all of this on my own, so I’m going to internet to connect with people who actually care, know and understand, but you are just the first person to say out loud what it’s really like, I appreciate. So thank you once again for being true. Now you have a new subscriber ❤

  • @rovingrey425
    @rovingrey425 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love this! Definitely would like to clean my brushes more. The cinema secrets does help me a lot to not mind as much because it’s so fast and works so good.

  • @MsAdrammelech
    @MsAdrammelech ปีที่แล้ว

    This is such a great video ! Thank u Lauren. Lotsa love 🩷

  • @belindah6554
    @belindah6554 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Adore your eye look, so beautiful! Admire you for speaking so openly, honestly & bravely. The internet needs more of you ❤

  • @EH012
    @EH012 ปีที่แล้ว

    All so relatable and so affirming to hear. Thanks, Lauren 💚

  • @brittanismith8611
    @brittanismith8611 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You’ve really helped me look at my makeup differently. Every time I start to feel like I need to declutter I make an effort to actually “play” with my makeup whether that’s using it, swatching, making a custom palette etc and the urge goes away ❤