These Skills Are Hard To Learn But Pay Off For The Rest of Your Life
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- "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Thanks for your sharing in this video! There is one skill - critical thinking - that I have found difficult for me to keep balance with capacity of empathy. Too much critical thinking might lead to judgment and criticism. I have found many experts and researchers have similar problems. Can you share your experience about this? what/when should we think critically? what or when shouldn't we? Thanks! :)
It would be great if you could do a video about The Law of Reversed Effort, I'm curious for your narration on this topic!
Mental toughness, adaptability, silencing your inner critic, saying NO, critical thinking, emotional intelligence
i've never been able to silence my inner critic
How to silence your inner critic?
@@dawoodakhtar9108 Be realistic. Weigh the chances of a negative event happening. Yes... It's possible your colleague will take credit for your project. But how likely is that? Prepare for what you can and reduce those chances. Befriend your colleague. Determine what would make them betray you. Prevent it happening. And keep focusing on the positive outcomes. As time goes by, you'll realize you've prepared for everything your current skill allows you. If you still then fail, then you couldn't have done any better at the current time and place. And that is fine. Learn and grow. Carry on. You can only be truly defeated if you stop trying.
@@1urie1 well said bro
I never adapt to my abusive family.broke a leg,get some bottle to the head,loose a bunch self-respect,ruined future.Yet im not a school shooter yet.HOOORAY !!!
Grit was my thing.A signature of me if you know me.IT build me!All i have ever accomplish is throug hardship and never give up,always find a way even when thing didn't go your way.The power of never give up is truly remarkable.
As a religious person,my adaptability is very poor.That's why i keep getting punch and kick from my family without even moving.Because it had possess me,in my bone in my blood vein.I was like a computer,a program design not to hurt their privilege,their emotion or their body.But all the curse,the gaslight,the lie,it show me their hypocrite.No longer i was blindly love and respect my family,and that's when i stop my Murphy's Law.
Their word soon find a way into my head.Never have i let anyone opinion bother me if my action is justified.But my family.I learn to hate myself,telling myself that i was nothing,and deserve nothing.That all I do mean nothing,they are small and they are useless.They told,even still now that they own me,treating me like some kind of poperty.
You never see "Democracy" in my family.just purely slavery.Every inch i lie,every bite i take,every sip of water i drink,every day that i'm living, i get a remind that it was their money,their work,the sweat they make.Everyday,and im not a bad son.Even in Asia my condition is bad,but people having stigma if i said so.so i wanna say "no" my family isn't that happy,no it doesn't,stop telling me so.You can see what outside but you can't see what inside.
Now am i a good son?No.Am I a bad son?No.
+ A good son is someone who listen to all their parent word and don't talk back,do all the housework,make their parent proud in school,never let their parent worry about anything,seem mature and all that stuff
+A bad son is someone who casually trash talk other people,always piss off,drinking,use drug,racing,talk back to their parents,hang out with the bad kid you name it
But to them,it may be different.each person see throug a different lens,and think differently,behave differently.True is,they never care.They don't care when i got an A,don't care when i got nominate.So i keep trying,days i get tired,i still try.Days i get sick,i still try.It come to a point that i was physically and mentally so fucked up and don't think i got the will to do it anymore.I thought they would have change,but no no no no.
: ^ )
I loose my my respect for this.My friend for this.My influence for this,my reputation for this.
I loose time to care for myself.I loose my handsome outlook.I loose my healthy body.Loose my singing voice just to scream all my anger and get back to study
I loose my dream,my purpose,my initial goal.I lost myself.
Who am i?
Is this all what i am?
I keep living like that for so long,until i could finally met somebody who took pity of my life.And all suddenly there is something inside.Something so hard to tell.Despite being so "nerdy" i can't pin it down.
Is this love?
I keep watching her.My mind stun for a momment.That sily eye couldn't keep away what i was feeling inside."For so long there been a woman who care for me no matter it all" I talk to myself."All people leave me when you are here cuddle with me,joking around,making yourself sily so i could smile?"I thought that women care so much for me that she wouldn't mind me now.She know me before and even now,her attitude is still the same.The same manner,the same word,same action.None have treat me this way.I fell for her completely...
the skill will improve the life and career
1. grit
2. adaptability
3. inner critic
4. critical thinking
5. assertive
" Don't give up on life long learning, ever " absolutely true :) if you have graduated school / University and think you're done with learning, you're preparing yourself for a bad outcome. Read everyday, or listen to audio books, or lectures, or languages. Learning a language is really powerful, it changes you profoundly. There is so many things to learn in the world, I'm genuinely surprised by the people who waste their lives and stop learning. Isn't it boring? To never learn anything new?
Thanks yes . I agree
Great point. I learned years ago that whatever job or career one has, everyone is still in training every day
It is boring but with the age of technology, people will just distracted themselves with video games and social media.
Besides, nothing in school or university is applicable to real life, except English.
*There’s always some truth behind “just kidding”, knowledge behind every “I don’t know”, emotions behind “I don’t care” and pain behind “it’s okay”. ¥*
But if its ok i dont know then i dont care if they are just kidding.
why is there a yen sign at the end
@@bonniejunk Because every knowledge comes with a price! :-)
Well said
Success to me isn't just reaching a peak and saying "I made it."
It's reaching a peak and saying, "man I have come a long way, but my favorite peak to reach will be the next one." A lifelong journey is exactly what it says it is: lifelong. To reach a fay in your life when you knew you ended up being your best self and that you are leaving nothing behind. That is what makes learning these skills worthwhile.
*To be a star, you must shine your own light, follow your own path, and don’t worry about darkness, for that is when the stars shine brightest! :)*
People should focus on acquiring long-term skills so that they have the abilities to adjust to any situation. 🔥🔥🔥
... and I would add: keep updating your acquired skills so that they remain fresh and relevant.
To be precise, "the obstacle is the way" said Marcus Aurelius 2000 years beforу that Ryan whatever :)
Yes, came to say that myself.
"Don't give up on life long learning..."
Thank you so much for an awesome video
2:49 "equally important, don't allow anyone else to dwell on your mistakes or shortcomings or to expect perfection from you"......literally what my dad has been doing all my life. but he changed now that im 25..........
Greetings!
I’m watching your videos every night before i sleep,
so i could motivate myself to keep on making myself better each day till i achieve more better than i could ever imagine
Thank you so much for your wonderful inspirational insights about human progress.
Thank you, i always learn alot from your videos
You're welcome
"Quote quote quotey? Quote! Quotequotequote, Q U O T E quote qUoTe (quote)." - Quote Q. Quotestein
Very nice vid. Funny how so many “success” or “motivation” vids don’t focus on skills and continuous learning. I think it’s cause that involves actual work... not just some “motivational mindset”
You have a very interesting way to look at things in life. And what I like the most about this video is that there wasn't distracting music or other sound effects. And your drawing is amazing btw.
Drawing isn't real it's a software..
one suggestion: when u present the quotes, instead of silence for a few seconds, narrate them. This may keep the audience engaged during those quotes. Great Video!
The William Jones Show absolutely. I could only read a line or two of the quote. I had to rewind then pause it. I hope you consider this for future videos
Really needed to watch this video thanks for the upload
wish i was constantly was told this, and listened
your videos are inspiration for me, you make us understand difficult things easily ❤️
This channel has helped me so damn much
this channel is so breathtaking, i love the lesson very much
Absolutely stunning video! Thanks
Critical thinking skill is priceless, you will be less invulnerable to advertisement and lead an easy and happier life
Very underrated channel
Security Officer - No work, but sleep at work, medium salary, Fixed hour but very active on day offs like gardening and maintaining and happy with family.
IT Technician - High salary, Demanding, Skills, but all with stress, no time for family, all time with colleagues and noisy data hall.
Both buys from same superstore, both travels around once/twice a year.
Which is good for happy life?
Obviously security guard
It tech can afford nice holidays and earns himself and family a comfortable life now and for their futures. Security guy is going nowhere. Ive been at that level and i wanted to change that. Now i have plenty free time and a brilliant salary, all because I decided to learn and adapt and take a risk. To do what other cant, you must do what other dont
Chill IT gig for ~40 hours/week, but save 70% of your salary and retire after 10 years.
I personally would probably die of boredom after ten years working as a security guard.
1. Teach your kids personal finance in elementary school. Compound interest will be their greatest asset. Better yet, instill them a mentality that their investments are for their families, not their retirement.
2. Fear works better than grit. :D
3. Meet new people. Play around with technology. Try new things. Get out of your comfort zone.
4. Perfect is the opposite of done. If you’re criticizing yourself, you’re taking time and mental effort out of your productive and leisure time. Let others criticize you instead of doing it yourself. You will find that many of they won’t even care.
5. Remember your inner child. Any toddler will tell you how important “NO” is. :D
6. Creative thinking is valuable to your most important employer - yourself. Avoid comfort and thinking something can’t be done.
7. Guess it’s time to find a video explaining what this “emotional intelligence” is. Maybe with the rapidly advancing technology mentioned in Adaptability, someone will cross a human being with a golden retriever. :D
You are the best! I always look forward to your videos...
Stop saying “I can’t help it”
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I literally said this to our coordinator _today_ 😹
School isn't actually meant to teach you real life skills. It's actually meant to get you used to waking up early and going to a boring and miserable job every day.
👏👏👏 Nice video
Thanks for this. I recently came across your channel and I appreciate what you are sharing. Cheers
Grit = Deep work!
Impressive skills.
Nicely done!
Thank you for posting this very informative video.
No problem
Nice video thx q
Of course but you have to understand what you do . Is that your job and your opportunity
I can't read these quotes fast enough, I guess that's what I should work to improve first haha
For me personally, soft skills is the biggest challenge. I always wonder how other people talk to everyone so easily. Any ideas on how to improve soft skills?
First read books on body language than apply it in real Life couple of months later you will thank me
Shouldn't there be Creative thinking instead of crotical thinking? I got confused cuz one and the other term was used in that point and overall conclusions make me think that it's more about being creative than critical atleast relating to that point. Could you please explain???
I can't read those long quotes that fast.
If only there was a button that would stop the video
Just watch at 0.75 speed, or press "Pause" :-)
Learn when to hold out and listen to your gut
I'll just take my time sharping my soft skills then.
Do I need to get out of bed first?
Hi The Art of Improvement, insightful video! could I know what animation software do you use?
There's a link in the description for you
I like the stock market.........
The big assumption here is that you know what you want to do and have a good reason to do it.
It's very easily argued that there is NO big assumption here.
If you don't know what you want (most) to do, then research, experimentation, and observation of results combine with critical thinking to figure it out... Consider it cyclical, and the first pick of things to research for the first experiment completely random.
Once researched, studied, and experimented with, the notions of whether or not you like or want to do it will come... OR you can always make a list of "Pro's and Con's" to consider before either doubling down on that first thing, some part or derivative of it, or finding something else to research and study... and the cycle can continue.
Good reasons are a bit more ambiguous, but should you be able to sustain the activity and still manage a life in which you find happiness, relatively... then you're likely on approximately the "right" path. ;o)
i work for a big market leader company. brainwashing, indoctrination is on the menu, daily. saying that these values listed in the video will be the most sought in the future is rather naive.
I want to make people laugh.
10,000 comedians out of work, and you're trying to be funny.
It's just an old joke.
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house guest and fish both stink after 3 days........
Good info but functionally useless. Some constructive criticism: the video could be much better if you provided tangible exercises and practices to improve upon said skills.
You don't need any of this if you're born into money. You can go to Harvard if Daddy went to Harvard (so true it actually has a name) without worrying about grades. All these aphorisms do is try to maintain the fallacy that hard work and intelligence are all one needs for success when it's pretty damn clear, especially in this day and age, that nothing could be further from the truth.
Learning is fun. It can upgrade your personality and calm your mind. For example, if you read philosophies book , some of the subjects area will teach you how to cope with emotional trauma and stay positive despite of temporary set bacs which you occasionally may encounter. We cannot be successful or win all the times. When we fail, philosophies books have the answer for you to cope with the consequential emotional distress. 🐢🐢🍉🍉🐸🐸💉💉🦴🦴🥶🥶🙈🙈🐗🐗🐔🐔🐏🐏🦑🦑🕊🕊🪱🪱⛷⛷