Stop being a perfectionist
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ก.ย. 2019
- I've been stuck in a creative rut for nearly a year. It's taken a while, but I've finally decided to let go of my perfectionism and start doing what I love again.
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"The mind of a perfectionist is always in pain"
Complete BS!!!
Davi Bandeira right
So true
true
Bro can you plz tell me the music name
'When its not your own story, it isn't as scary to put into the world'. Never a truer word spoken
It’s a fear within all of us. Seems like no matter how many videos we create, it’s still difficult to overcome. But in some ways I believe that fear drives us to try harder
@@RyanKao You inspire me, just know that.
so true
When you aim for perfection, you'll discover it's a moving target.
fuck that's a good one.
Except if you used m14 your aim will be badass
Thanks so much for this comment! I knew it, but for some reason it hit me harder now... And I'm going to use it for perfectionism and my inner pressure that I should think about others (not my passions only), "how to save the world"/people pleasing, instead of just focusing on what I want - but it's like with perfectionism, it will be never enough, if I do morel there will be always more... Because perfectionism and people pleasing is just in our heads, and if we listen to them, there will be always more to achieve or help... but if we listen to our hearts it will always be enough 🤗
Inevitably, one day you'll laugh at what you once viewed as a perfect goal
When you adopt perfectionism all you do is literally shift the goal post
"The mind of a Perfectionist is always in Pain".
- G Eazy
Ah yes G Eazy the wise
:((( gosh
and that’s what keeps you going. What makes you seek for pleasure.
No pain no gain
True
"When you look at yourself in the mirror you don't see what everyone else sees" - Good point
DERP
exactly
Medrea Aurel well I’m only self conscious about what *I’m* seeing... I couldn’t really care less about what others do
@Medrea Aurel,foarte bun....
always remember, nobody is perfect. no matter how much you try, at the end of the day you just did your best.
just do your best and someday people will recognize you. I'm hoping this.
YOU have no idea how happy I am that this video got put into my recommended.
Oh, how wonderful!
yo exactly bro!
Same ,same :D
same here i've stuck on something for nothing before i watched this video
Same WOOW! loved every second of it
Don't aim for perfection.
Aim for 'better than yesterday'.
― Izey Victoria Odiase
But what if it can't get better than yesterday?
@@kankeris02 Try your best then.
@@kankeris02 there's always a way, even if it's 1% (and 1% better every day is the best way to approach everything)
My Nontraditional Life exactly
Aim for Better Everyday :)
"When it isn't your own story, it isn't as scary to put out in the world." - So true
Indeed, that one hit close to home.
Like what's the point of living?
Man these youtube recommendations are getting personal...
I thought am the only one who notice this 😂😂
lol
trueee
so trueeee
Yeah.... 💯
3:08 "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes, and Art is knowing which ones to keep ..."
- DEEP! INSPIRING!
👍👍👍
can you explain a bit for me so i can understand it better
@@Avntdr9 Yeah, what he meant was: being a creative person is not always getting that or this thing perfect but trying new things, failing sometimes, mistakes, accidents, getting out of your comfort zone. And your artistic sense will tell you when something just sounds/looks or feels right (worthy of your public) even tho it was an accident or a mistake a first
That TH-cam algorithm really figured me out, huh.
Same thoughts man! Haha!
Jade Above same......finally
Me too lol
😪😪
Thanks for liking my dysfunctional comment.
This is true. There's a saying about this: "better done than perfect".
done now is better than perfect never
no i don't agree, i want to be perfect
Creativity is the courage to make mistake.
Mistake is natural;
regret is foolish.
love this
I'll put it on my FB status
Probably never heard one's life turning point because of regret
No need to experienced it yourself, but i can imagine that there are many peoples who became better just by that
Creativity is true intelligence, Remember that.
I think 6 months was a little too long of a break. It's time to come back ❤
Welcome back! This video was exactly what I needed to hear.
Ryan Kao, i always INSTANTLY look @ your videos whenever wherever i see the notification. I like your videos, so welcome back and i am looking forward to see more
Ryan Kao Yea!!!!!!! I started loosing hope there. Welcome back bro!
Ryan Kao welcome back 🙏🏾
I really love this post . I’ll tell you one think that really helped me personally . I saw a Gary Vee post on insta ; someone was complaining and he said ; do you have any idea how many people have it worst than you ; billions !! It really killed me because it’s so true .. you and me ; we live in a western world where we have everything and we’re still not happy . I changed my perspective a while back but this sentence just solidified shit .. anyway , I miss your videos homie . Chin up !! ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼
Trying to be a perfectionist lowers your self esteem.
it doesn't matter because I can't go any lower
@@MuffineousMuffin That's the perfect situation to stand up and climb the ladder. I assure you that there's no better situation to learn something than this one.
@@MuffineousMuffin Gabriele is right, if you're at the bottom of the ladder, the only way you can go is up! All the steps are there, you just need to climb them, and as you do it with confidence, break each step so you can't go back down!
True
@@gabryalato Easy for you to say that... Mine is so low it doesn't exist anymore... 😑
I saw this video two years ago, and still watching it sometimes because every phrase in this video is carefully placed and has so much value
Always appreciate hearing this. We all need a reminder from time to time.
same commenting this now after seeing this video few years ago and try finding it again
youtube algorithms went inside my brain to recommend me this video.
the same here
the thing here
same here
same hereee
generally stated by people who only have ephemeral and superficial interests.
"I stopped viewing my work as an artist & started viewing it as a judge." Right on point. 💯
"When you look in the mirror you don't see what everyone sees; you're overly critical of every detail and we all wish we could change something we see..." That hit so hard, there is always a change that can be made.
Wow, FANTASTIC VIDEO! You really nailed it!
? What you doin here
"It's not that I didn't have ideas or want to create, it's just that when it's not your own story it is not as scary to put out into the world." OMG. THIS. RESONATES. WITH ME SO WELL.
Justina S just wanna say I read your comment at the same time he was saying it in the video 👍
Justina S facts
GolderiQ same
Literally burst into tears when he said that.
"Stop being a perfectionist"
- tell that to my boss.
your life is scary
Hahahaha! Is your boss a Korean or what?
*gets fired*
chill dude, no one until this video came out knows how to not being a perfectionist. me, you and the rest of the audiences.. so, why you just stay in the place that doesn't make you feels happy.. its up to you now (:
@@ferdiemvira lemme flex real quick i actually stopped being a perfectionist by myself with no help
"When it's not your own story, it isn't as scary to put into the world..." Very true Ryan!
can we just take a moment to appreciate the editing skills! omg editing goals.
I can’t believe you spent all the time creating this message for someone like me that you never knew existed. Thank you so much for this beautiful life-saving video. New subscriber
JustDavidMinistries EXACTLY HOW I FEEL.
Luke Livez Let’s believe in ourselves and go out there greatness
YES! all i want to do is do my BEST.
5months later- BIG SAME
"Perfectionism is an anchor"
I will remember that.
Perfectionism*
@@Allahuma.sali.ala.muhammad. I pressed on "view replies" knowing that I am going to see this haha
@@MLaylani Same
@@MLaylani It's kinda ironic, being a perfectionist in a video telling you to stop being one.
@@Allahuma.sali.ala.muhammad. opps sorry 😂
this is so amazing man! Keep it up :o
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This message resonates within me and where i've been at as a creator for over a year. its too easy to become obsessed with the idea that less than perfect content must be deleted and started from scratch. the important message, the thing to remember, is that for each of us.. creating is an ever evolving process and each piece builds a foundation for the next... great work will come, with time and persistence.
The irony is that this is the most perfect video I've ever seen.
that the point that he is trying to say even it looks perfect to the eyes of others it's not perfect in his eyes
Bro can you plz tell me the music name
Wow this is so relatable, I don't know how many hours I've spent on videos that never make it to the light of day due to being scared of other peoples judgement. Also the video is a masterpiece and you can tell that it comes from the heart!
Anton Nordstrand much love 🖤
Keep working on getting things perfect (the exact way you want them). your skills will increase and eventually whatever your working on you’ll speed up in finishing it to that perfect final state..
Anton Nordstrand I can relate so hard! I’m glad I’m not alone
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I see...
I've been in the same situation... I love to produce music and to play piano but I've never published anything related to it. Every time I finished a song I would have noticed a small detail that stopped me from publishing it. I was also afraid of others judging me for what I was doing. Luckily for some reason, I actually managed to get out of this "mental block" and I'm starting a new project here on TH-cam. Guys if you feel like you have a cool hobby or passion, try to improve but within some limits otherwise, you will be stuck in this circle and it's very hard to get out of it. The quarantine helped me to think about all the stuff I could do while being at home and for some reason, my creativity increased like never before. Follow your dreams and do what you like, stop caring about what others think, YOU ARE UNIQUE.
hey, I stuck in this perfectionism. plss help mee and guide me
I’m in the same boat, but I play guitar and produce and I can’t bring myself to finish a song because I tried to make everything perfect
I watched this video when it came out last year but felt myself needing to hear this again, thanks Ryan.
This is useful and i'm lucky i got this in my recommendations
The school system is training you to be a perfectionist, That's the problem of today.
The school system is outdated, nowadays we need minds that are free and have great Ideas/potentials to change the world
Sorry can't like that because of 69 perfection, but you're right
@@konstimagreis no need any more to hold, the 69 ratio just broken
i'm so glad i figured out I don't need to get straight A's from every subject. I'd rather spend my time doing something i love and work on that, than bust my ass off for a grade that won't matter in the long shot.
The school system is outdated! The biggest block of creativity is the fear of failure and they root it in us so hard. Companies want creative people and yet they dont force school systems to change :/
Well, now its our homework to change ourselves, just like with enlightenment, everybody has to do it on its own.
@@DontbeF00Iish the school system is preparing you to work for a company, not to make one that is a problem to. Its like they want us to be poor and not successfully
0:40 "when it isn't your story, it isn't as scary to put into the world." - Damn man that is so accurate....I have a few project ideas that I just don't want to pursue because I am afraid they won't come through.
SAME with me, i also have few projects in mind but not persuading them
do it. I dare you
@@yungkg3495 thanks buddy I plan on making a feasibility let's see how things progress....
@@fahadahmed480 yeah I get it buddy, but I hope that you'll find your way and figure out what to do and how to go about it...
Do them bro! Take the dive! I've also been procrastinating lots, I make music but have never actually released any, even tho I know that I'm just as good as the other mainstream artists out there! But life it to be explored, no point looking back at life when you're 70+ years old and regretting not doing that thing that you always wanted. Follow your passions, the rest will follow
This hit deep for me.
For me, perfectionism is also an anchor. It has stopped projects that I wanted to do so many times throughout my life. I was afraid of making mistakes and failing. The fear is paralyzing as you say. I'm still trying to accept the inevitable flaw in my work. Trying to scrounge up the courage to put my work out there. Thank you for this video.
Ooh God, I can't thank TH-cam enough for recommending this. This is exactly what i have been going through for almost 2 years now. Been looking everywhere to get help, to get motivation, to kill my self judgement and I couldn't see any hope. I wish I could subscribe to your channel a million times, this video has given energy yet made me emotional at the same time. I felt like you were telling my own story. I should rise up the way you have decided to. Whatever we go through, there is always someone out there going through the same. Thank you Ryan Kao
What did you do to solve this problem? I've been feeling it for almost one year.
"I'll Never be Able to show you exactly what i see in my head" Ohh Brother I know ... Sometimes when you are looking at something from a certain angle you just want to capture it but you can't or sometimes when you have an idea which needs to be done perfectly but no one can execute it .. Damn that feeling of Disappointment
this is so true
Just find some psilocybin and that will never be an issue again.
@@jtjdt HAHAHAHA BET
@@jtjdtpsilocybin? What does it mean?
Artigate Studio it’s this substance that temporarily removes most of our ability to judge.
Love this video so much. I’ve been chasing perfection for so long, and I really needed to hear this. I love how you say “if I know what I want to see and I thought if I couldn’t make that exact thing then there’s no point in trying”. I’ve been dealing with that exact then in my music. Finding that my ideas are perfect until I actually try to make them come to life where they can only disappoint me. Letting go of this perfectionism is such an important step in creating art.
This video is so underrated, some really nice shots and the idea of confronting your flaws by facing them in such a creative way is very inspiring, thank you
“I’m never pleased with anything I’m a perfectionist, it’s part of who I am” -Micheal Jackson
was them kids perfect as well then?
Nivan your ignorance sure is
Nivan hossain the cover up was perfect
@@divinityinversace just a joke. sorry for triggering you. In all seriousness there is a lot of believable facts in the matter but at the same time, no one's there to defend him anymore and some people are just after the money so yeah
He seems to have come to terms at it long ago though because he wouldn't release so many songs otherwise.
"You hear a lot of people call themselves perfectionists, and usually it's said as some sort of humble brag, but for me perfectionism was an anchor. The thought of making mistakes was paralyzing." Great insight. Keep it up bro
Love this video man! I myself have been on a rut for a year and a half and stopped uploading because I kept telling myself I wasn't good enough or what I create will never be good enough and it got me really depressed. Lately, I have been doing better and I've forgiven myself and finally understood that it's okay to make mistakes and it's normal that we all have our own flaws. Gary Vaynerchuck's content helped me a LOT in the past months and I hope your video does the same to other fellow aspiring creators. Amazing talent, you're the best keep up the work :)
YOU CAN DO IT!!! RANDOM SUPPORT FROM A RANDOM GUY!!!
YOU CAN DO IT!!! RANDOM SUPPORT FROM A RANDOM GUY!!!
come back please!!!
This is amazing! So glad youtube recommended this video. I have been thinking like this as an artist for a while now. Thank you for putting this up. This is the first time I saw one of your videos but definitely not the last
Worth my 4 minutes. Didn't move my eyes even for a secont. hats off.
3 minutes 58 seconds
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i paused the video to see your comment lol
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the title alone caught me, i am a perfectionist and lots of my stress is caused by this.
The way you blended the visual, audio, and mental stimuli was *perfect* in my eyes. Great video and worth a watch.
Love this message! A lot of us can relate including myself big time! Hope you’re doing alright and staying safe during these crazy times!
fire my dawg, this hit hard, glad to see you coming back
Henbu thanks brotha. Pumped for what’s to come
Yessss
"Imperfect is perfect."
It make the others learn the mistakes ,it makes you strive for higher achievement
I just came across your video today and it hit home. There are parts of my life that I am trying to be perfect in that I need to just let go or reduce the stress I'm placing on myself. Great video! Loved the message and the editing!
I just connect to this entire video so much. No words man,!! Keep creating. Wishing all the creative best of luck
Hugh Jackman said this on the roundtable: A Perfectionist is another way of saying ur insecure. Cause lets face it, what have we ever done that is perfect.
I love this this!!!!!
1+1=2?
The mistakes in a masterpiece are only visible to the artist.
Great video man. A lot of people could learn something valuable from this even if they aren't creatives.
I really felt this. Being a perfectionist, I always feel like I'm not good enough or that my work isn't good enough. It's so easy to get in your own way and never reach your full potential. Thank you for this video :)
I feel this so deeply. Keep sharing ☺ and know you're not alone. I feel stuck with perfection too, but we can shift our perspective and that's beautiful
" I've finally decided to let go of my perfectionism and start doing what I love again."
Vinay same I started beating my meat again
@@valdbagina2273 tb.
If anyone's wondering what the song name is. It's falls by Odesza
Thanks. Merci. Gracias. Spasibo. Grazie.
Reprise version.
"Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes, art is which ones to keep."
Make mistakes and learn don't be overburdened by other people's judgments.
PEACE!
Have a good day.
This is just perfect wow, this really evoked emotion and left me with a feeling afterwards.
And I hope the next video you make is just as imperfect 🖤
This.
^
Brandon Sallinger Perfectly put👌
Wow this came into my recommended at the most perfect time
Kaitana stop being a perfectionist, any time is good enough
@@MrMemo7037 😜😜
Haven't seen a video with such quality in a long time, watching your work i can be sure it's truly a video from a perfectionist. Great job !
Ryan your story has inspired me to start my career as not a videographer, but an artist, I've always wanted to be able to write stories and your video has not only inspired me, but guided me. I'm grateful to have stumbled upon your channel and this video.
"Perfectionism is an anchor" is probably the best thing I've heard this year. Something that's worth saying it to yourself over and over again in every phases of your life. So many people are held back because of that.
Everybody who took it the wrong way,
The title interprets as: *_"Stop trying to be a perfectionist. Flawlessness makes you imperfect"_*
Underrated comment :)
Your words ring true and they resonate with me, expose many of my personal flaws as well as yours. The video, though is magical..... beautiful.... inspiring. Every frame is a work of art in and unto itself. I really loved all of this production. Thanks !
Wow this was such an inspirational video...I def needed this video. I’ve been stuck in a rut since all this craziness in the world has happened and this story, your story, was exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks brother ! Keep inspiring !
Much love man ✌
"Done is better than perfect" :) great video!
Su don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good :)
THIS. IS. INSANE.
the idea, the shooting, the editing, the music, your words, it’s just so breathtaking 😍ill definitely step by this video every now and then for inspiration!
successfully inspired a youtuber here✨
Sara Nouh much love 🖤
Thank you ❤️🙏🏼 I started to cry deeply when I listened to your words, you spoke directly to my soul & helped me to free my creative spirit from the prison of perfectionism where I have kept her for a long long time ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing this story, Ryan!
Man, I really needed this. Thank you for helping convince others to drop the shackles they've put on their own hands.
MY DAY IS BLESSED AFTER WATCHING THIS!
SO INSPIRING
honestly i’m mind blown! one of my goals is to work with you!
Talking about stop being a perfectionist. And then you make a video which hits you in the hart. You just found perfection my friend.
"I will never be able to show you exactly what I see in my head". That's it for me, and I feel frustrated sometimes that people aren't seeing it as I saw it.
Man. This hit home so hard for me. One of the main reasons why I stopped making videos for myself since 2016-17... Thank you for the inspiration.
Yay you’re finally back. You’re def one of my favorite youtubers on here. Keep pushing. Your content is always dope and I missed your visuals 🤟🏾
Man, this is the best video I have watched in last few months. More than perfect edit,sound effects and your story. Keep going man :)
This video was beautiful. I've been watching your journey since around 1k or 2k subs. It's insane how much you've grown, truly impressive. Amazing job Ryan!!!
These imperfect creative edits only give the video more character and uniqueness! You may be able to tell what is not perfect and what is, but I definitely can't! Another great video my guy! Keep it up, and welcome back!!
"Over time I realize that the thing holding me back was perfectionism"
You motivated me a lot. Thank you for making this video. New subscriber
Love the grading man! Good work
So well said....we all think the same....and the fear of not being perfect in a thing stops us from doing it. But the reality is that nothing is perfect, the whole idea of something being perfect is the biggest lie we believe but we gotta trust ourselves and deliver the absolute best that we can...... loved your video.
- Your new subscriber ♥️
Ryan! So glad to see an upload from you; was legit thinking about you a couple weeks ago.
Your work is incredible; keep doing whatever makes you happy. ❤
The message, narration, music, and cinematography is Dope man! I can see a bit of kold style and it`s a very inspiring vid mate
Ryan, I really like the video, great job. It gave me the motivation I needed right now and made me feel that I can start working on myself and start creating my own videos no matter what obstacles I will face.
Ryan, thanks for being so vulnerable and honest in this video. Tough 'judge' to get beyond - hope you can keep pushing past him.
Finally man! Missed you dude. Love the raw start
"When it's not your own story, it isn't as scary to put into the world"
That makes so much sense Ryan. I'm glad you made it through. I'm going through similar things, and I will make it through too. All the best man, you've got this.
Love this man, so glad it came into my recommended. Best of luck to you🔥
just wanted to say how Inspiring you’ve been to me ! You’ve made me decide to finally start working towards my passion in creating content !And for that I thank you 🙏🏽
This was randomly in my recommend but I am GLAD
"I'll never be able to show you exactly what I see in my head" - so well said dude. The visuals, coupled with a topic I feel that so many in the creative field can relate to makes for a super sweet film !
i can relate with my every single cell to this video. it is such a relief to embrace the imperfections, thank you!
wow, thats what holding me back, thanks ryan! spending too much time perfecting a single project rather than doing all the others that are equally important
So good to see you back again 🥺🙏🏽 Creative revival even stronger
I always knew that i had the right skills and knowledge but just like you said - sometimes i see this idea in my head and if it doesn't come out as i imagined it i don't try working on it any further and just drop the project...This video inspired me so much and i'm sorry if i make a similar one after 2 years. Thanks man, you're great
I needed this. Every thing I’ve been trying to comprehend and explain, you did it for me. Feels good to find something I can relate to
"Perfection is a measure on how well something does what it is intended to do" - I love that.
and I subscribed as soon as I heard Odesza - Falls, one of my fav tracks.