It's called love bombing, if they don't have a strong background and support. The victim will let the cycle continue for years. Narcissist pray on weak minded people.
Truth! If you stay afterwards then you deserve what’s too come. Because they already showed you the disrespect. Believe it the first time. Wine belongs in a glass not in your thoughts.
Imagine thinking you can lead someone and show them "the way" when you can't even lead yourself to the point of your sentence, or to an answer for the questions the judge has asked you 😒🙄.
Ladies, if no one else will tell you, I will. A man will waste your time if you allow them to. When you give so much so fast, this is what the outcome can be. Being alone is not all that bad 😞😞
AMEN!!!! & I have 2 songs that support your comment. They are: "I Can Do Bad All By Myself " by Mary J. Blige & an old school song from 1985 from Ebo... "I Rather Be By Myself." The messages are Crystal Clear!!!
It’s actually much healthier for women to be alone than to be with abusive, lazy, manipulative, using, addicted men. It’s men who get sick from being alone.
Red Flag: If someone says they want to “show you the way,” they do not regard you as an equal or as a fully formed person. They will not respect your unique characteristics or your own person. There is a difference between “helping” someone and “showing” someone. Language is important, pay attention to WHAT they say, not just the bullet points.
He's bleaching! Girl leave him. You're beautiful and you can do better. These men will use your past against you to hold you captive, don't do it ladies!
This is why not doing the emotional work and healing before entering a new relationship can be extremely dangerous. I hope she goes on a healing journey and focuses more on herself.
I will never understand these ladies come on here with these deadbeat dudes knowingly being disrespected, neglected and cheated on, not knowing that they are worth more than these guys deserve. They all have the same cry, " I love him your honor, I just want him to do right" No one else can make someone treat you right, If he doesnt want to, LEAVE HIM! Love yourself more than you let him mistreat you.
I recently learned that what she was doing could also be classified as abandonment issues. Everybody think abandonment issues is just a fear that comes from being abandoned. sometimes those fears steam from traumas that happen in your life, so you cling and manipulate people in your life that you think could leave. The craziest part about abandonment issues is you have no idea that your doing it until you fully heal yourself.
First of all we need a part II so he can explain the disagreement going on between his knuckles and his hands moving along😮 whenever I watch these cases it makes single life look glamorous and tempting. Why are ppl so toxic nowadays?😢
Why is it that some people believe they need to show others "the way?" Each person should be whole on their own then get with someone.This is how controlling issues take place... if you've got to lead your partner like a kid. They aren't ready and you're not helping, but possibly enabling.
It just really confuses me how people who suffer from Mental Health illnesses, are so resistant to therapy, but are so accepting of both drugs and alcohol or romantic relationships as a substitute, it just does not work, why don't they see that, this young lady has severe abandonment issues, that is why it is so difficult, for her to leave him, being alone truly terrifies her, GOD BLESS HER ❤
That's because they are not ok with ppl seeing them looking weak and being vulnerable 😢 Do you see the way society treat ppl with mental illness...be real not very well.
Yes!!! You hit the nail on the head, as someone that had mental health issues due to childhood abuse and abandonment it’s very hard to leave situations even when they are toxic. I empathize with this young lady, she’s wounded and vulnerable and just wants love and support.
Yes as someone stated this man is bleaching his skin, you can see his actual skin tone appearing on his knuckles. I am unsure if that is a cultural thing but it is sad to see that honestly
Growing up, I use to always hear my mom say, she would never date a man, who spent more time, in the mirror than she did, he strike me as that type of guy, when did it become, the in thing for women to start dating men, who look like women, my have times have changed 😁😁
He thinks the crumbs he gives her, in return, is supposed to ensure she fulfills anything he wants. Sad thing is the adults failed to instill in her the value she carries is to be cherished only by those who make her a priority.
I relate to the trauma that comes from your birth parents abandoning you, so I really don't appreciate the way people take advantage of that vulnerability.
I think she’s trying to buy his love and his acceptance. She needs to seek counseling and learn to love herself and know her worth. He’s a cheater and he don’t want you.
He's the type that "needs" more time than you to get ready then proceed to get mad whenever they end up late for an event. Sir please put the idole bottle down. I beg 😂
In the first few minutes I hear... She wants to change him, and he wants to help her. Neither will ever work in any relationship. If you are not a team then there is no solid ground to have a relationship and for God's sake, let's not get kids together when you need court to intervene before marriage already! Build yourself first so you know what fits long term.
This guy has seriously bleached the heck out of his body!!! You can tell by the dark rings around his knuckles... dead giveaway!!! That's not healthy at all!!!!
Not saying he is, but narcissists always want to “help” the other person change for the better and “show them a better way.” Yet, they cannot see their own faults and are therefore powerless to help themselves. No one needs to be trained. Either you take them as they are or move on. He’s not ready for the singular relationship she desires. Move on sweetie.
Ohhhhh, this man is deflecting his own insecurities onto her and she's receiving it through intimate connection. That's why she thinks she's in love, that damn soul tie is serious business 😒 any person bleaching their skin and dating someone with a darker skin tone, has deep insecurities 😳
One thing I learned from DC is that I'd be a crap partner. I wouldn't be willing to even try. Counseling mediation all that. I don't need that extra work. I already have work. I don't want to put work into maintaining relationships in my personal life. I don't have to work to keep positive relationships with my friends or family why is a romantic relationship the only one that takes work. With my friends as long as we spending time we remain close it's easy, fun and fulfilling if a romantic relationship takes more work to give me less I'll pass.
HE IS A SIGHT AND HE SHOULD HAVE FLIRTED WITH ANOTHER SHIRT BCUZ THAT ONE AIN’T IT!!! She’s beautiful and needs to keep it pushing! I feel sorry for some of these women who don’t want to be alone but will accept anything…a piece of man🤦🏽♀️
I cannot for the life of me WHY do these women continue to collect red flags - go open a museum with them😱😂. Choice Choice, what are you choosing for God's sake. Geech
WHY ON EARTH IS EVERY GUEST WHO APPEARS ON THIS SHOW, NOW BEING LABEL A NARCISSIST, WHEN HALF OF THEM DON'T EVEN KNOW, THE DEFINITION OF THE WORD, SMH 😁😁
@@BiggYhaKCi definitely know what a narcissist is and experience it these clips be 19mins long people be with their spouse for 3+ years you can’t possibly pile 3 years or more into 19mins lol so you all just see what they decide to air
Girl he's not a guru 😭 he lives with his mom, he doesn't have a job and he uses I thought we were done so I talked to multiple female to make me feel good too long with this mess throw him away what has he done for you 😭
So she's only concerned about "females" and not any "males" 🤔...He looks like he bleaches his face sometimes, & the cheap way at that leaving his skin blotchy & chalky.
This guy never seems to answer a direct question, that's a major red flag. She deserves better.
I will never, for the life of me, understand a woman saying "I caught him cheating" and they are still with him? How sway?
It's called love bombing, if they don't have a strong background and support. The victim will let the cycle continue for years. Narcissist pray on weak minded people.
Dont ask Sway. He doesnt have the answer!
I pray u always have that childish idealism. I’m happy that u have lived however many years in such a thought process, good for u.
ya kno they say... a mane will only treat you, how you allow them too ☕
Truth! If you stay afterwards then you deserve what’s too come. Because they already showed you the disrespect. Believe it the first time. Wine belongs in a glass not in your thoughts.
Imagine thinking you can lead someone and show them "the way" when you can't even lead yourself to the point of your sentence, or to an answer for the questions the judge has asked you 😒🙄.
😂😂😂😂
Ladies, if no one else will tell you, I will. A man will waste your time if you allow them to. When you give so much so fast, this is what the outcome can be. Being alone is not all that bad 😞😞
That's the truth!
Amen
AMEN!!!! & I have 2 songs that support your comment. They are: "I Can Do Bad All By Myself " by Mary J. Blige & an old school song from 1985 from Ebo... "I Rather Be By Myself." The messages are Crystal Clear!!!
It’s actually much healthier for women to be alone than to be with abusive, lazy, manipulative, using, addicted men. It’s men who get sick from being alone.
This man bleaches his skin and got some nerve to call someone insecure 🙄
@canary, hahahahahahaha you know this information also
I'm watching the rerun August 10th, and I noticed the knuckles right away. This guy is not... Okay anyway I just can't see it.
And that shirt 😂🤮🤪
I thought he using a skin whiters
😂😂😂😂😂 oh okay so I'm not the only one who noticed that
The skin bleaching alone is enough to break this off.
Red Flag: If someone says they want to “show you the way,” they do not regard you as an equal or as a fully formed person. They will not respect your unique characteristics or your own person.
There is a difference between “helping” someone and “showing” someone. Language is important, pay attention to WHAT they say, not just the bullet points.
I can't take anyone seriously who bleaches their skin out like that, cause honestly why?
I’m with Judge Star “Why do you want to be here” 😩😩😩😩
He's bleaching!
Girl leave him. You're beautiful and you can do better. These men will use your past against you to hold you captive, don't do it ladies!
He is🤣🤣💀 he don’t even like himself
I was wondering if anyone else noticed 👀lol
He definitely is. 🤦🏽♀️
Bleaching his eyes in some of those pics it looks likes he has some kind of eyeliner. Something just not straight
lol.......he look like he is struggling with some other sweet issue.....leave him hunny
This is why not doing the emotional work and healing before entering a new relationship can be extremely dangerous. I hope she goes on a healing journey and focuses more on herself.
Never get with anyone and you have not healed! It will never work, its like trying to fill a whole with air.
Yep!!
I will never understand these ladies come on here with these deadbeat dudes knowingly being disrespected, neglected and cheated on, not knowing that they are worth more than these guys deserve. They all have the same cry, " I love him your honor, I just want him to do right" No one else can make someone treat you right, If he doesnt want to, LEAVE HIM! Love yourself more than you let him mistreat you.
Well they gotta own up to what they like because I will never tell a woman to not date an aint shii dude.
Because they're still trying to "fix him".
Is it just to be on national tv?
They’re on here and NOT married.
She needs help ....the VA will give her counseling.
when she said "because I love him" you can see all the ladies in the back shaking their heads 😬
He need to stop with the bleaching 😩 his knuckles are giving it away
I mean..... everyone can't be a redbone 😂 he'd look better dark
@@foxyboop4164 No seriously 🤣 he should have left his original color alone .
The bleaching and dyed blonde hair! And, he is calling her insecure! He clearly does not love himself so how can he love her?
I swear
I came here to say the same thing! 💔
I’m not listening to a man who bleach’s his skin! Our black is beautiful. NEXXX CAAAASSSEEE 🤦🏽♀️.
I recently learned that what she was doing could also be classified as abandonment issues. Everybody think abandonment issues is just a fear that comes from being abandoned. sometimes those fears steam from traumas that happen in your life, so you cling and manipulate people in your life that you think could leave. The craziest part about abandonment issues is you have no idea that your doing it until you fully heal yourself.
Yes and he is correct it is a form of manipulation. I’m sure she does not do this consciously but that’s what it is.
Its called borderline personality disorder
You're right, she definitely looks like she has a preoccupied /anxious attachment style
All of a sudden he said where he was from and an accent came out of nowhere 😂😂😂😂 then it left
Chile I read this comment before that part came up…and hunny when I heard it I HOLLERED!!!! I’m like what’s happening here???!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I thought I alone noticed that 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
He's treating her like a project "I have to show her the way"
First of all we need a part II so he can explain the disagreement going on between his knuckles and his hands moving along😮 whenever I watch these cases it makes single life look glamorous and tempting. Why are ppl so toxic nowadays?😢
😂😂😂😂😂 omg that was awesome
So her aunt has already given her wise words yet she's still buying love
Sorry, his skin bleaching distracted me.
Ooop lol
Why is it that some people believe they need to show others "the way?" Each person should be whole on their own then get with someone.This is how controlling issues take place... if you've got to lead your partner like a kid. They aren't ready and you're not helping, but possibly enabling.
It just really confuses me how people who suffer from Mental Health illnesses, are so resistant to therapy, but are so accepting of both drugs and alcohol or romantic relationships as a substitute, it just does not work, why don't they see that, this young lady has severe abandonment issues, that is why it is so difficult, for her to leave him, being alone truly terrifies her, GOD BLESS HER ❤
That's because they are not ok with ppl seeing them looking weak and being vulnerable 😢
Do you see the way society treat ppl with mental illness...be real not very well.
Yes!!! You hit the nail on the head, as someone that had mental health issues due to childhood abuse and abandonment it’s very hard to leave situations even when they are toxic. I empathize with this young lady, she’s wounded and vulnerable and just wants love and support.
Drugs and alcohol are used to self medicate they help them to forget even if its only for a little while.....
I am the young lady on the show I actually get help from the Va I never self medicate
@@christinacraig313 I'm very happy to hear that love ....I wish for you all good things
Yes as someone stated this man is bleaching his skin, you can see his actual skin tone appearing on his knuckles. I am unsure if that is a cultural thing but it is sad to see that honestly
AND He is Also bleaching his hair !!!!
@@mariannehappiness2227 😂😂
Bleaching is not a cultural thing in Guyana. We have 6 races here and many of us are Mixed race.
@@enlightened1005 thank you for the information as i wasn't sure
@@litastar2455 Not a problem..i though so..lol
Ladies never tell men your trauma. They will use it against you.
Not a man that truly loves you
@@ladyvirtue650 tell it to a therapist.
😔
Hell..yea..ain't that the damn truth...but if he loves you..he will accept ur baggage lDK
What a wonderful closing statement.
Chile, I live for Star’s intro😂
Auntie was on point 💯❤️
I feel that he was compulsively texting these 3 women to reassure himself because he felt insecure, just like a chain smoker would.
She needs to run! FAST!
RUN BABY RUN! FAST!
TRUTH IS TRUTH!
JUST THE FACTS!
SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT!
LEAVE HIM ALONE!
I JUST LOOOOOOOOVE THE REALNESS OF QUEEN JUDGE STAR JONES?! CHIIIIIIIIIIIILE SHE SAID A MOUTH FULL AT THE END OF THIS EPISODE?!
This word narcissist gets thrown around way out of context
cause nowadays everybody is a personal therapist.
I hate it. You can be a bad person and not a narcissist.
It’s a buzzword just like misogyny because I’ve never heard a woman use narcissist correctly.
@@Reezy12333 misogyny is far more common that narcissism.
@@Reezy12333 🎯💯
NEVER SIGN A CONTRACT .. THAT SIGNIFICANTLY BENIFITS ONE PARTY MORE THAN THE OTHER .. NEVER GET MARRIED .. 💯👍🏾
Growing up, I use to always hear my mom say, she would never date a man, who spent more time, in the mirror than she did, he strike me as that type of guy, when did it become, the in thing for women to start dating men, who look like women, my have times have changed 😁😁
I know right, I thought he was on The other side when i Saw, the clip 🤔!!
As soon as he started talking, I checked out! No thank you 🙄
Judge Star looks Absolutely Beautiful!😊
He thinks the crumbs he gives her, in return, is supposed to ensure she fulfills anything he wants. Sad thing is the adults failed to instill in her the value she carries is to be cherished only by those who make her a priority.
He wants his GREEN CARD!!!!
This man is Guyanese. He sees absolutely nothing wrong with what he’s doing.
And sometimes, I wonder why I'm still single considering these losers be out here WINNING!!!! It's the craziest thing!
Yesss
Continue being single, most men bring nothing to the table, your not missing anything.
I relate to the trauma that comes from your birth parents abandoning you, so I really don't appreciate the way people take advantage of that vulnerability.
People are not projects...no one should set themselves up to be a "helper" and love cannot be bought.
SIS, He doesn't want you. HE is keeping you around until he finds someone else
I adore Judge Toler but Love Judge Star also! Love all her isms and her wisdom. And she seems like a nice person.
That woman is not controlling. She is just trying and doing things for a man that doesn't appreciate it.
It's the bleaching for me
😂 I was thinking the same thing
I think she’s trying to buy his love and his acceptance. She needs to seek counseling and learn to love herself and know her worth. He’s a cheater and he don’t want you.
He’s a nasty immigrant
That man is bleaching his skin.
He really needs to stop bleaching his skin. Destroy our beauty and don't even realize it.
He's the type that "needs" more time than you to get ready then proceed to get mad whenever they end up late for an event. Sir please put the idole bottle down. I beg 😂
In the first few minutes I hear... She wants to change him, and he wants to help her. Neither will ever work in any relationship. If you are not a team then there is no solid ground to have a relationship and for God's sake, let's not get kids together when you need court to intervene before marriage already! Build yourself first so you know what fits long term.
This guy has seriously bleached the heck out of his body!!! You can tell by the dark rings around his knuckles... dead giveaway!!! That's not healthy at all!!!!
He lives with his mama enough said not even married 😮
He’s unemployed, living off her pension, nasty immigrant. God bless America 🎉
Not saying he is, but narcissists always want to “help” the other person change for the better and “show them a better way.” Yet, they cannot see their own faults and are therefore powerless to help themselves. No one needs to be trained. Either you take them as they are or move on. He’s not ready for the singular relationship she desires. Move on sweetie.
She choose to pay his way, she was trying to buy him
Christina need to seek professional help period
For Christs sake, we’ve ALL been through “ stuff” it’s not an excuse.
Spot on aunty!
She is sooo beautiful. Drop him.
It's the failed skin lighting for me 🤢🤢
PSA. He said he is from Guyana which is in South America. He is not from Africa
Non ain’t better than the other, he’s a user..run run run
I’m West Indian and have never understood why African American women cater to men. He’s not your husband.
He needs to ease off the bleaching
Why is the answer always: I love him/her
He got the I bleached my skin look a little 😩
GETTTT AWAY FROM HIM. HE LOOKS (???) CONFUSED
Wish to meet someone I can treat like a queen soon
IM AVAILABLE
Hello
Ms. Judge Star Jones is an excellent choice for Divorce court.
The freaking best!❤❤❤❤
I couldn’t find what attracted him to her. He is nonsense if nonsense is a person.
He need to stop bleaching his skin. It looks terrible.
Sometimes god puts people in your life for a season
Ohhhhh, this man is deflecting his own insecurities onto her and she's receiving it through intimate connection. That's why she thinks she's in love, that damn soul tie is serious business 😒 any person bleaching their skin and dating someone with a darker skin tone, has deep insecurities 😳
I think if he stopped bleaching, maybe he can be a better man😂😂😂
I’m screaming 😂😂😂😂
Facts! Cause it's rotting his brain 🤣
😂😂😂😂 I'm cackling at the accuracy
One thing I learned from DC is that I'd be a crap partner. I wouldn't be willing to even try. Counseling mediation all that. I don't need that extra work. I already have work. I don't want to put work into maintaining relationships in my personal life. I don't have to work to keep positive relationships with my friends or family why is a romantic relationship the only one that takes work. With my friends as long as we spending time we remain close it's easy, fun and fulfilling if a romantic relationship takes more work to give me less I'll pass.
HE IS A SIGHT AND HE SHOULD HAVE FLIRTED WITH ANOTHER SHIRT BCUZ THAT ONE AIN’T IT!!! She’s beautiful and needs to keep it pushing! I feel sorry for some of these women who don’t want to be alone but will accept anything…a piece of man🤦🏽♀️
Q: is this lady buying this guys love so that she won't be alone?
He’s giving Vybz Kartel & Sammy Sosa 😮
True 😂😂
It's the defendant bleaching for me
If the behavior continues after you had that conversation, then he wasn’t fucking done these men get on my nerves💯
It’s Mr piggot saying thank you at the end 😂😂😂
He looks like he bleaches his skin. His hands tell a tale
Dem a bleach..
@@anastasiaabrahim9096 dem a bleach out dey skin...my people
@@keylacmckemp1309 im shocked that he bleaching. Its not that big in guyana at least when i was last there
They be having Judge Starr so confused 😂😂 I didn’t know what the hell he was talking about 😂😂
I cannot for the life of me WHY do these women continue to collect red flags - go open a museum with them😱😂. Choice Choice, what are you choosing for God's sake. Geech
WHY ON EARTH IS EVERY GUEST WHO APPEARS ON THIS SHOW, NOW BEING LABEL A NARCISSIST, WHEN HALF OF THEM DON'T EVEN KNOW, THE DEFINITION OF THE WORD, SMH 😁😁
That is this year's word. Last year, it was toxic.
Having grown up w/ a narcissistic mother. Then being in a relationship w/ a narcissistic male. These people have no idea what’s it’s truly like.
This was spot on
Thanks so much for this comment with facts.
@@BiggYhaKCi definitely know what a narcissist is and experience it these clips be 19mins long people be with their spouse for 3+ years you can’t possibly pile 3 years or more into 19mins lol so you all just see what they decide to air
Girl, RUNNNN
EXACTLY
Go heal before jumping in a relationship it's not healthy for both parties ‼️
Girl he's not a guru 😭 he lives with his mom, he doesn't have a job and he uses I thought we were done so I talked to multiple female to make me feel good too long with this mess throw him away what has he done for you 😭
Her spending money is feeding his ego.
Narcissists cant change...run!
Never let a man know your weakness
He doesn't even love himself fr.
Why is he assuming it's his job to set her on the right path? If God was involved, they wouldn't be living together outside of marriage.
Amen Judge Star ⭐
Girl run, and don't look back!
He is…. Nvm 😂
We're right here 👁️👁️
" YOU CANT MAKE THIS SHIT UP " .. KEVIN SAMUELS .. 💯👍🏾
Rest in peace Kev😢❤
He's SO Tired & Trifling! 🙄
He didn’t manipulate her she’s playing the victim role and that role is a form of manipulation. How can the judge not see through the bs.
So she's only concerned about "females" and not any "males" 🤔...He looks like he bleaches his face sometimes, & the cheap way at that leaving his skin blotchy & chalky.
1st off, he has too much sugar in his tank for me. And any man who has to live with his mama isn’t for me. We both have to be put together somewhat.
Miss please leave that little boy alone