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Before someone asked me this question and I said no, then I touched my hair (afro) and they Iegit said, "How come your aIIowed to touch your hair?"
-I'm finished.
lmao
people are dumb af 😂
LMAO!
oh lord....🙄
you're sure they weren't joking?
As a kid everyone wanted to touch my hair and I loved the attention. But as I got older it started to become dehumanizing because random people were just petting me all the time.
I know exactly how you feel.
So true, the older I get the more I realize people aren't always touching it cause they like it, sometimes they touch it out of disgust and it is truly dehumanizing
Paris Monet Saaaame i used to had soft hair and my friends where so jealous so now im 11 years old and its kinda soft not like when i was 8 oh.. and because i diyed it red im witish with black hair (brown looking) and im syrian (kurdustan syria) and they tell me im indian like WTF im not Racist "angry about DaT"
Logan Parks are they actually disgusted? I'm white, and I'm afraid to say that I have said the phrase before but, I just said that out of curiosity because black people's hair are different, and the person said yes, I pretty much got a learning curve out of it. But with permission ofc. And I really loved the texture, and the life from that specific hair type, I apologize it offends you, but some people's curiosity gets the best of them 🤔🙂
I want to be petted :(
Im only 11 years old and all of my friends ask me that question like EVERY day. I don't blame them. They don't know what it feels like to have black hair. But when they say to me " Zizi your hair is so fluffy I wish I had your hair!" I feel special and proud of what type of hair I have. Before I wished I had long silky hair. But now.......I LOVE MY HAIR AND I WILL ALWAYS LOVE MY HAIR 😀😀💙💙
Zillah May Spiegel Johnson YES👏GIRL👏. NEVER LET GO OF THAT.
Schizophrenic Chameleon
👍💎💜
I feel exactly he same way becuase I'll be walking through the hallway and then some kid just yells goes SQUISH.Im like 🙁
Phantom Jennko
😂💙💙
There ya go girl🗣👏🏽👏🏽
I have mixed race cousins and they have gorgeous Afro hair, when we were children we used to play with each other's hair because we were fascinated with the texture difference. I think it's just curiosity majority of the time, but people should learn that it can be irritating and invading people's personal space.
KawaiiLumpette mixed is black
well said
arri jackson mixed is mixed
Mixed is black half black y'all are ignorant
I like you and to all the people in comments. . . .she never said mixed was black. Mixed is whatever they are mixed with.
Before you type a response to this, just because this question doesn't personally offend you when asked, doesn't mean that it can't and doesn't offend others - specifically others who are made to feel different in many other aspects of their lives by virtue of not being a part of the majority demographic.
Ppl are so sensitive nowadays get over it bitch😒😒 blacks have only had the same rights as whites for only the past 50yrs,get over it with ur white activist bullshit,ur ass is privileged that u don't understand
+Addison Clarke childish 😒😒
+Addison Clarke While the question may personally offend others; I think it would help for those who are offended to look at it in different ways. I've been asked the same question and didn't view it as objectification; rather I saw it as a legitimate sense of curiosity. I completely agree that it shouldn't be done without permission, but it usually isn't coming out of a sense of malice.
+ennis price (That guy) 👍
I just hate when someone asks to touch my hair then comment about how my hair feels different than theirs and then make rude af comments.
My freshmen year of high school I wore my hair in a afro. Mind you I go to a school where it's not a lot of black people and I was like the only and still am the only black girl at my school who wears their 4c/kinky hair proudly. So this Argentinian girl in my band class ask me if she can touch my hair. So, I'm like fine everyone has been touching my hair all day. She decided to put pencils and pens in my hair to see if they would stay in their. That mad me a little upset to the point that I don't let people touch my hair as much.
Just because I give you an inch doesn't mean you take a mile.
That’s completely fucked up. You should’ve slapped the fuck out of that bitch.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Shouldn’t have even given her the inch
its not offensive its just anoying
Makes sense :/
pretty much
from different viewpoints, it can be offensive
It is offensive stfu
It makes it seem like anything on our head is fake though.
"One word"
TheHG12 Yes Father Praise Be Too You....
That two words....
Marisa Faith you obviously dont understand
UnderTow Gaming OK that wasn't funny *sorry*
Marisa Faith no it was funny you just don’t understand
I'll be in school and people will co.e up and touch my hair without even asking. I hate that
*come
Tell them no.
Pink Ivy tell them no? Trust me that doesn’t work
yeah they do it when i say no multiple times, they never listen and yeah it’s such a struggle cuz i go to a mostly white school. then i go home so upset cuz sometimes they try and play it into small clumps or flatten it or put things through it, makes me feel like an object 😃 this happens everyday
My hair is usually in long twists. The questions start out as "how long does it take?" which is fine. But then they touch without asking. I've had a lady run from across the other side of a store inside of a mall just to touch my hair. It's very frustrating and awkward.
The women in this video by the way are absolutist gorgeous. All of them ❤️❤️❤️
Absolutely *
Julia Chernov oh shut the fuck up
Rick Harrison your reply was about a year too late buddy. Get a hobby other then telling people to "shut the fuck up" online. Mkay??
Calm down rick
Natalia M i mean saying something once or twice doesn't make it a hobby but ok
People aren't even polite enough to ask me 😐😐
now that's when you should react
Same. I must watch my hair because their greasy hands keep touching it.
Ikr. Makes me so livid
@@holyexcalibur8917 also they dont pay for my hair product. Dont steal my moisture hoe.
Wow
When I wear my natural hair out people always give me compliments and say “Your hair is really pretty”. And when I say “Thankyou” they take that as a gesture to touch my hair. It gets very annoying because they feel like I owe them a whiff of hair because they gave me a simple compliment🧍🏽♀️. It’s to a point now that I get ready to scrap every time someone compliments my hair out of fear that they are going to make an attempt to touch it😮💨
When someone compliments your hair just take a few steps back, just in case lmao
@@en2p187 🤣😂😂
I had a co worker (who was white) she asked me once if she could touch my hair. I told her she could and ever since then it was downhill from there. She would touch my hair without asking me, and a few times she would pat my hair and be like "its just soon fluffy" like girl....if you don't go away. Vanish. I personally don't mind it i just need to be asked first each time.
Tell her to stop
TaiLand
You should be more open.
If you dont like it just tell her nicely.
Personally, I would let people touch my afro. Why? Because a lot of white people are curious about black hair and are interested in getting to know us better. When o have my natural I get more compliments from white people than I did from blacks. They really like your hair.
Queen of The marshmallows!! It’s irritating after one touch that’s it there curiosity should be just that and nothing else but no they have a weird fascination with our hair one touch is all it takes
Most of the people don't even ask. Like feeling your hair getting pulled on the bus cause someone got curious if its real or not.
For 2 years I worn my hair in a protective hair style bun on the top of my head in an effort to go natural. My hair was now so healthy that I decided to wear it out in a big curly Afro. On the way to work I stopped to buy coffee and a lady reached out to touch my hair, but I dramatically ducked out of her reach while saying "Ooooh no no no"....and I stared at her...and I held the stare. Then I turned my back on the lady, smiled at the cashier, paid for my coffee and left. When I got to work I was ready. Someone reached out to touch my hair and I screamed. People ran over to my cubical and asked what was wrong. I told them "I saw her reaching out towards me and it scared me." She never tried shit again.
Then there is the time when someone asked me “Is that your real hair.” I responded, “Oh, O-K. Quid Pro Quo...Let’s play. Are those your real teeth?”
I dont mind people asking. But I *do* mind people sticking their hands in my hair without permission or so much as a word. Yes, it happens.
witch, please I don’t really care if people touch my hair it feels Gooooooood!!!!!
Agree
When I recovered from Chemotherapy, the first hair I got were some blond, fluffy little locks and people would always touch them uninvited or run their greasy, sweaty hands over my head like a condescending parent. It was so annoying when I was trying to be taken seriously and all people did was talk about some fucking pieces of ceratine coming out of my head. Like "Hey, we know you survived a rubber pipe being implanted into your abdominal vessels, lot of toxic shit being pumped through your body, dealing heart and hearing damage, vomiting blood, not being able to eat, getting your hipbone replaced and not being able to move or get up for 3 months, but yeah... growing hair is the biggest accomplishment."
Hope you're still doing well 😄
I don't think I could ever be able to ask a person this question. It just seems so invasive, and I wouldn't want a stranger to put their hands on me . Don't get me wrong, I understand being curious about texture and bout anything different from yourself. In fact I encourage my children to be curious, but not to overstep boundaries.
Lol yea you can touch my hair, give me $5 though
Yessss, I'm gonna start charging!
Yoooouuuuuu
Oof Ima do dat
Right like if you are going to treat me like a petting zoo at least pay. I dont let people steal moisturizer for free.
Well if they are gonna treat me as of I am a petting zoo/human that's gonna have to be $99
I can remember asking one lady I used to work with if I could touch her hair.
She said yes, and I still couldn’t bring myself to touch it because I felt as if I would’ve been invading her space.
I’ve never asked that question again.
Now that I’ve seen this video, I will NEVER ask anyone else.
It is however absolutely fascinating for hair to look as if it’s maybe 6-8 inches long, and yet I’ve watched young women take a strand and cause it to stretch out an EXTRA 6-8 inches
Black hair is beautiful
Please don’t be ashamed of your hair, and never be afraid to tell anyone “no”
Your space is more important than someone else’s entertainment.
We call what you were describing as "shrinkage". Some might shrink a little, while others might shrink a lot.
Idk why is it ppl get offended for people not letting you touching something on your body (head in the case which is attached your own personal body.) You can be curious without touching people or asking to touch people. It’s not necessary. Control your impulses people and we’ll all be happy. This is for everyone no matter what race. Your body AND HAIR is your own and not everyone else’s. Just cuz you ask doesn’t mean you have rights to or that you just HAVE to. Keep your hands to yourself ppl.
I'm glad some of these ladies said yes.. because to me it's not that serious.. I feel like u have to have some insecurities about your hair to feel offended if someone wanted to touch it.. as a black woman, I LOVE my hair.. and I like to touch it too.. why would I deprive other people?
BUT: I will say this though: there are a few hairstyles where u may not want people to touch it cause u might be afraid they'll mess it up.. but that's too much work.. I don't mess with those hairstyles..
Yeah I really liked that there was a diversity in opinions :) The one thing that I agree is pretty rude and I hadn't thought of is people asking if that's real hair.. kinda cringe worthy.
Anyx B I hear what your saying.. and I don't think that it's odd for someone to be upset that someone doesn't want to be touched without their consent.. but I'm just talking about people "wanting to touch." like if someone asked to touch my hair (even if the answer is no), i wouldnt feel insulted, I'd feel flattered that they would "want" to touch it. That doesn't mean I think everyone should have their hand in my hair.😋 But the fact that you find my hair "facinating" to the point that u have the desire to touch it.. I can't see how that's not a compliment.
Anyx B there use to be a stigma that our hair was dirty, corse and something not to be desired... now we wear it proudly and the fact that people want to put their hands in it tells me that that stigma is changing.. again, I'm not advocating for strangers to pull up and just grab at my hair. And just because someone asks that doesn't mean the answer is yes.. but I don't think that when people ask our first reaction should be "you think I'm an animal" but rather "you like my hair" or "your interested in my view point" (as in you wonder about my hair, my life etc).
I just don't believe in getting upset if I don't have to.
I don't get upset I get aggravated. I understand what your saying but it'll be different if they did it to whites and Asians but they don't its just us. It reminds me of how they used to have our people in the human zoo. It's the principle of it all just because my hair don't look like yours doesn't give you the right to touch it. And I don't know what stigma your talking about because ever since I was young I've been natural and people never thought it was dirty. Think about it like this... when you go to the petting zoo you see animals with different fur and the most "exotic" looking fur is the one people always want to touch. You wanna admire my hair just say ,"I like your hair" and I will take that as a compliment.
I don't like when people always ask me this question but at this point, it's better than people reaching over and just helping themselves to invading my personal space. I've had customers at my job just reach over. When did that become okay?
im so sorry. if i ask, and take no as an answer, would it still be rude? sorry for the question
@@peterlovegood3361
If you move on swiftly and don't insist it's okay. Instead of asking and being told no, why don't you ask someone you know, someone who's not a total stranger.
@@digitallocations1423 sure, sorry for asking
This comment section tho.
Everyone likes to act like race doesn't play into social dynamics and interactions.
Sure, let's all act like historical context is not important, y'all.
It's. Just. Hair. I ask people of different races to touch their hair all the time.
Karen E it’s just MY hair keyword MY if I don’t want someone touching my hair then that’s that at I’m not some animal or pet they can touch when they want to
CJs Bakedgoods that’s why people ask more often than not ??? Touching hair doesn’t dehumanize anyone and make them anywhere near equal to a pet, tf I love getting my hair touched during sex, when I’m sleeping, when I’m just hanging out, that doesn’t make me feel or seem any more inferior to anyone who’s touching it. It’s a gesture of kindness and it’s sweet. People find anything to have a titty attack over nowadays
Karen E are you white?
Brooke Heads you already know Karen is white
I get it, people like touching fabulous things, and my hair is fabulous. It's not offensive or even that annoying if it's my friend that's asking to touch my hair, it's when strangers do it and that's when it's weird and inappropriate.
I think it's not too horrible when people ask. I mean, it's not a crime to be curious is it? Of course if someone just straight up reaches for your hair, that's rude as hell. I can also see it getting annoying if it happens all the time, but you have the right to say no.
I think the more open we are to sharing our differences, the more comfortable we'll be about them. I grew up not seeing people as their race or gender, but as individuals. But I ask a lot of questions because I want to understand cultural or racial differences. The more you understand, the less you fear. The more you know the more you can relate, and the more you humanize the people around you.
reicirith amennnn
Even being white I use to get this when my hair was really long. It was quite uncomfortable and some people asked without consent.
It's never even crossed my mind to want to touch someone's hair.... I mean it looks awesome, but I don't need to touch it to admire the beauty of it.
I've had people yank my hair "to see if its real" come up to me, in my personal space and touch it as if its some sort of museum artifact. Idk how people see this as normal to get up in someones personal space without asking. I find it very uncomfortable
I like how she said it was a learning moment. As long as people are being respectful, I think it's awesome to let them learn about your culture.
How about we just admire black hair without touching it!
"my hair is fabulous" I LOVE IT
1:41 OMG. OMFG. THAT GIRL. THAT GIRL HAS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL HAIR I'VE EVER SEEN AND I'D LOVE TO FEEL IT. I know it sounds weird but omg it looks so perfect to me and it reminds me of Michael Jackson's hair from the Bad era and I just love it so much. If that girl ever reads this comment, let me tell you: I love your hair and I would love to have my hair like yours!
iKR
same
Whenever people asked me that question and they start touching it I just smack their hand hard
samee
Me too
It's dehumanizing. I'm not dog. My hair is normal.
No it's not ITS FABULOUS 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly. But my friend always tries to touch my hair and sometimes she jokes about snatching my weave and I know she doesn’t mean it in a bad way but it’s still offensive.
Bitch Please exactly 💯 and I love your profile name 😂😂😂
i get a lot of this as a ginger. most of the time random people touch it and comment on the colour.
I'm mixed race and I have really nice curly hair. I don't mind when people touch it cause I kind if like the attention. Plus, they'll always say things like "I wish I had your hair !!" And that always makes me feel good. I even have a friend who constantly asks to touch it and then apologizes right after lmaoo. Personally, I think people are just curious and want to see what it's like. However, we're all different and if you dont want other people touching your hair that's ok !!
This reminds me of a story i would like to share. before i do though i want to explain something. This happened in primary school in the early 90s in ireland, I'm talking 93/4 and we did not have many black people in my city, maybe in dublin but not cork, so seeing a very very dark skinned black woman from africa was a huge different experience for us and she was so amazing and different.
Anyways. I was with my classmates when our teacher brought in a special guest. she was from africa and was a princess back home of her tribe, you could sort of tell really now that i think about it because she looked important, you know? some royal people just have that look. She had some traditional jewellery and "regular" clothing but had tight cut very curly hair and without thinking one of the girls asked if she could please touch her hair. she said yes and let us all touch her hair. now looking back on it i can't believe how we just up and did that, but i was just so curious about this beautiful exotic woman from a place i knew nothing about and so desperate to learn more about her. we also got to learn songs and her language and she let us hold her hand in the songs and dances she taught. i remember thinking how soft her skin was and i thought it would be tougher then mine cause it looked like that. i think one girl even asked her why she had white palms and black skin
i guess what i am trying to say is please don't think all white people do this just cause they are rude or meaning to cause offense, we (well, some of us!) are just curious and don't mean to upset anyone.
This woman always returns to my mind. man she was a beautiful woman. and so kind and loving. she treated us with such love. even made us all grass skirts for the dance she taught us.
I thought it was cool that there was a range of different responces in the video. It is so accurate. I know my response changes given the day, the person, and how detangled my hair is lol.
"Sure,my hair is fabulous " my favourite quote
I always think it's funny when people ask to touch my hair or beard, and it did happen fairly often in Japan.
haha morsom å lese en kommentar fra deg her ;)
Haha what do Japanese people think of beards? I don't think many of them have them.
Exactly. It's usually been drunk business men at Japanese bars that lean over and and ask where we're from before asking if they can touch our hair and beards. They all comment on how lush our beards are compared to what they get :P It's always a funny situation, haha.
ACrystalfever Du gjømmer deg bak brukernavn! :P
haha ja glemte det at jeg har en brukernavn :p har hatt kontoen i evigheter men bruker det nesten aldri. Anna fra Romerike btw :p
Black women's hair is amazing. so richly textured and fluffy. Jealous they can get volume without much effort.
Personally, I can see why some said no, but it made me happy to see those who said yes. I, someone who has naturally beach waved hair, love getting to learn about other peoples! If I ask someone to touch their hair, I want them to know its because i want to learn. I genuinely learn through hands on experience. If I ask someone, I swear its not me trying to be rude, but its me trying to learn and enjoy it! if someone were to ask me to touch my hair, I would likely say yes.
If I know the person asking I don't mind, heck I don't mind if it's someone who legit is curious but when it's some stranger reaching out to my head without asking well then don't be a surprised if I whack your hand away from me
I have pink hair now and have had people ask me if they could touch it. It's fine by me. I'm proud of my hair :D
I seriously love this. I'm not black or a woman but i've been asked that before oddly enough and when someone seems like genuinely interested its nice but then you have the other side where its almost like a making fun of you kind of thing, so its cool to have that even if slight connection on how they feel about it that some are like nope and the other are like oh yeah and enjoy it kinda thing. :D
i haaate when people ask to touch my fro, like touch your own hair
When someone ask can I touch Ur hair I say no, but THEY STILL TOUCH MA HAIR
When I go to Kenya each year all the young girls and boys come running up to me wanting to touch my hair and feel my hands. I don't go get all offended because someone see's something new that's a normal reaction for humans it's called being inquisitive it's not a demeaning thing. This shouldn't even be an issue it's as simple as when someone comes over to you and asks to feel your hair simply decline and say I do not like to share my personal space. There simple. Just recognise the fact that some people are impolite and will say rude shit and you've just got to get over it and tell them to stop and if they persist tell them that they are harassing you.But the overall message of the video was good guys apart from a few instances.
Simon Murray PREACH
I imagine if it happens way too often, especially with natural short hair and when you're in the middle of doing something, it can get annoying. Especially if people touch without asking.
honestly, girls in general who style their hair & curl it hate it when people mess up their hair so nbd if someone doesn't want you to touch theirs. If they got afros, imagine how much work it is to brush out such really curly hair? I doubt they would want people to come up and mess it up again or make it frizz. So it's understandable.
I feel like most of these women aren't offended by it but of course it would be annoying! No one has asked to touch my hair because I have pretty boring hair but if they did I would be kind of weirded out.. I would want to say no but kind of feel like I would be the rude one to say no when it's my hair and they are the ones being rude... maybe not in all situations but I feel like asking to touch a strangers hair is weird and rude. Apparently it happens to these women a lot! I never even knew this was a thing!
Simon Murray yh but America is reeled with different race that people should be used to so you kinda flopped
I love when people ask before they actually just go touch it cause I love how they are amazed by the beauty of natural hair but it is rude to just go up to someone and just touch it but I'm fine if you look clean and want to touch it for the feeling of texture :)
I love the different of opinions in this video and respect them all.
they're gorgeous
People up here try to touch my dreads too. I hate that shit.
I like these kinds of videos. I'm always so awkward when I'm around new people because I'm constantly afraid to offend anyone - what I don't want to. I don't like the fact that I can't know what other people think or feel and end up talking to hardly anyone . I'm sure these videos won't make me more outgoing but they just give some… affirmation that I am doing alright :)
I say yes just because am so proud of my curls. For a whole 25 yrs i hated my natural hair until one day i decided to accept myself and love me. Now i have a full head of curls and i cant get over how much i love them !!!! Wish i wouldve accepted my natural hair earlier.
Whenever I get asked this I just say, "Well can I yours?" If they say sure than I'm totally cool with it, and I'll definitely touch their hair as well xD
They usually look offended when you ask to touch theres back
Remarkably low views, surprise surprise. People hate being called racists, but they wont stop, watch, and learn. How many subscribers just skipped right over this video?
+ricecristi is this racism when it happens to me since i'm white?
+Brian Peppers good for you Brian 👍🏾
ricecristi it happens to me all the time haha, i'm a male with long hair am i victim of sexism or racism which is it?
i like it how there are some people that aren't so angry about the "touching their hair" thing
Although this is obviously much, much, *much* more common with black/African American people, I've definitely had people ask me this before (I'm East Asian). Actually, I haven't been asked that much, most of the time people just touch it without my permission which is really weird because I turn around and just find someone there and it always takes me by surprise.
I hate when people ask to touch my loss (freeform) normally I say can I touch your and then they say no
WHY ARE YOU ALLOWED TO TOUCH MINE
Person: "cAn I tOuCh YoUr HaIr?"
Me: Did you wash your hands?
Person: "nO."
Me: Poor hygiene.
I loved the ending of this video, the girls who said yes 👍🏼💪🏼👌🏼
“Sure... my hair is fabulous”
I love her oml
I'm a white guy with long hair. People just go for way more often than they ask. And it always, ALWAYS gets brought up. Everywhere I go it's "Jesus" this and "Jesus" that. It's so frustrating because I love my long hair, but I hate everybody's reaction to it.
My question is why? Lol I don’t get it... “oh does it grow out curly? “Lmao I don’t understand the fascination with black hair. I don’t walk up to Asians or Caucasian’s to touch their hair.
No it grows straight 😑 LMAO. Like what kind of question is that.
I would never ask that but when you've not been around black ppl before you do stare when your a kid because we'll honestly l just think black ppl are so beautiful it's hard not to stare
@@danielle7368 I mean I get if you as a kid had never encountered a black person yet. It just depends on if the reaction is positive or negative. But the hair thing is seen as negative for some people because it makes it feel like they are seen as a dog and the question "can I touch it" almost resembles "can I pet your dog". That's how I feel perosnally. But from one of my encounters, I wasn't even asked. This kid who has been caught not washing his hands after using the bathroom on multiple occasions didnt even ask, he just randomly touched my hair. As if I were just some dog to be petted and on top of that his hands had a high chance of being dirty. I just think it is kind of weird/slightly off putting when a stranger asks because I wouldn't even let some friends touch my hair or acquaintances. And then saying it is so soft like did they just assume that our hair is not capable of being soft because of the texture? Hair is intimate because it is on your body. Some people dont mind and some people like me may find it alienating because most of us dont ask to touch hair different from ours so why do they do it to us?
I'm Mexican with a lot of curly, thick, natural hair and I often get ask the same. I always say yes because just seeing their faces how curious and excited they want to feel it, makes me smile. It's all good with me. ❤ I respect everyone's decisions tho. ❤
I go to a school where only a few of us have curly hair, so a good amount are so amused by my hair. (I'm white) and my hair is curly and LONG, and back in middle school people would touch it, tug at it, throw paper balls in it, and stick pens/pencils in it because they thought it was funny. So when people ask to touch it now, it really depends on who's asking, I get pretty uncomfortable but end up saying, "Yeah, just please dont try to run your fingers through it". It's even more awkward when its strangers at the store or something.
I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I really really don't understand why black women are so offended when people to ask to touch their hair. When I see hair like theirs, I am truly blown away by it. It is so beautiful and so unlike mine, so unique, that I completely fall in love with it. I am confused by the fact that they take it as an insult. Though I've never asked someone if I could touch their hair, if I ever did I would absolutely mean it as a compliment and not an insult of any kind.
olyana esme It's not necessarily offensive, it's more annoying than anything. Plus, I've seen people ask a dog if they can pet it, then come up to touch my afro without asking me at all!
Tina Haha I get it if someone just touched it w out asking lmao!! thanks for explaining ur opinion
olyana esme to all the shit black ppl have gone through because of us white ppl, if I was black I would not want white ppl in my hair either
Wow. I didn't know this was something that bothered these people. I never truly asked the question but I always just wanted to feel their natural hair because I think it's beautiful and they should embrace it. Obviously it's rude to ask a complete stranger.
Black women *do* embrace the beauty of their natural hair. They don't need people to touch it to embrace it.
Some don't mind if you touch, others do. Not everyone's one in the same.
+CHL. I didn't mean it like that I'm sorry. I would never mean it in a rude way. I also just like touching other people's hair lol no matter what. That's just me. But I understand.
I would never ask but I love that some people say yes and like it, I admire the way black women style their hair and I find it so interesting how different it is it's so beautiful
I was volunteering at a farm in Namibia a few years back, and they had a small school for the children of the workers, all of them very dark skinned and all kinds of varieties of curly, black hair (one could have like small litte buttons of hair and another could have a long thick braid all the way down her back). But man, those kids are CRAZY about long, soft hair. They didn't even ask, they just said "sit down" and they went amok on my hair, braiding it, touching it, grooming it. It was pretty cute and they obviously had a swell time playing with my hair.
So my input is just that everybody with one type of hair is fascinated by all other types of hair.
that was pretty cool. a lot of different opinions
A few years ago:
"Hey, can i touch your hair?"
"Ehm, sure? I guess"
Now:
"Can i touch your hair?"
"No, why don't you ask other people to touch their hair instead of mine?"
I don't get frustrated but to me it's pretty weird to ask people to touch their hair. I mean, i don't ask to touch your skin if it had another colour or something like that.
"Is that your real hair?" Yes it is, i never get frustrated About that question, because yes i've had fake hair before, but i decided to go all natrual and let my hair the way it is.
People are always curious, and i don't blame them.
I'm 59 and have only had 2 people in my life ask me that question. They were both Asian women; one actually being in Asia when I traveled there. She said to a friend with great excitement, "I touched her hair!" I just smiled. I said yes to both requests to touch my hair.
I'm sure other ethnicities get asked that question too, if their hair is unique to them in some way, like if a woman's hair is so long, it goes down to her knees, for instance.
And as a black woman, my hair is dry as I just wash and dry without adding any oils or grease to it, so they don't have to worry about having oily fingers when they touch my natural hair. lol!
What makes me mad is when people just go ahead and do it without your permission, then they get pissed off when you get upset. When they do ask and you tell them no, they get mad and say that you're being rude then start making fun of you because of it🙄
I’m not black so my hair is just straight and wavy and this black girl in my class used to touch my hair all the time, and I never liked letting anyone touch my hair unless it’s my mom so one day I told her to please stop because I don’t like that your touching my hair but she doesn’t stop so I start to touch her hair because I was really upset and then she tells me um your not supposed to touch black girls hair so after that I felt like I did something wrong because i was in second grade and didn’t understand much so I just let her keep touching my hair. Now that I look back at it she was the one who was in the wrong.
@@giselleangeles4137 She was wrong. It's not really about race tbh, it's more about having respect for other people (personal space I think) and her logic made no sense
Why are they all acting like it's a negative thing to be asked if someone can touch their hair..
I understand if they find it irritating if it happens a lot, but many black people have wildly different hair to what many people are used to, i'd of thought it would be quite flattering, if someone asked politely and had a genuine interest in your hair.
I know dudes with dreadlocks and they don't get annoyed they're just like yeah dude haha
Ink Forged I’m surprised they didn’t mention this in the video but a lot of black girls don’t like getting their hair touched by random people too often/too long because it can cause breakage to the hair and cause a lot of it to fall out.
Because I dont like people in my personal space with their grubby hands. Simple. Especially if I dont know them
When I was little EVERY girl in my class wanted to touch and play with my hair because it was so damn long I sort liked it because it was relaxing, now that I'm older I really don't like it because it's uncomfortable knowing I haven't washed it and someone wants to touch it hahahaha
I'm a black guy and I live in Ontario Canada, this usually happened to me when I was in elementary school and in earlier grades (like grade 2-5) but by the time i was in 6th or 7th grade I never got that question anymore. In high school it wasn't even a thing anymore, they would comment or ask how long it takes if I had it in cornrows or twists and there was a period of time where I had black girls fawning over my hair, over the quality or something like that and the fact that I had my hair so long at it was completely natural.
congratulations 1 million !!
People: can i feel/touch ur hair?
Me: ok
My brain: IF UR HANDS ARE NOT GOD DAMN CLEAN U BETER GET THAT THINK OFF MAH HEAD
Tell me if u can realate to this 😄
I don't think there's anything wrong with just asking. It comes from a place of curiosity. If you're a white person you don't have any experience with a black person's hair and you just want to know what it feels like. In regions with majority black populations they do the same thing to white people and it's fine because it comes from a place of curiosity.
Like I remember when I was a kid and when a class man hot shaved bald we all wanted to know what their head felt like when it was smooth or prickly from all the short hairs. I think it's the same thing with people wanting to know what other ethnicities' hair feels like.
Like you should obviously ask for permission to touch it and only do it if they say yes. You're not entitled to anything and it's their hair. And don't ask incessantly either and be mindful that they might get this question a lot, but as long as you are considerate and they are fine with it, it's ok.
I know an African American guy and someone asked to touch his dreadlocks. I was a little bit confused because I thought it was racist to touch someone else's hair. But he said there was nothing wrong with it, they just wanted to know what it felt like. And if he's cool with it, I don't see anything wrong with just asking for the sake of curiosity.
like those "freak shows"...that sounds cool
It's good to see the mixed opinions. I'm glad that they did not make the video one sided.
I feel like the further I look down the comments and get so into it is the same feeling as looking through someone's Instagram that's like 35 weeks ago -.-
I really liked 1:10 What a great attitude :)
she is gorgeous!
1:11 Love her perspective. I believe that curiosity is the door for understanding.
I also understand that personal space is important. When I been asked, "Can I touch your hair?" I smile and let them touch it for a moment, and afterward, I start a conversation with the individual.
I don’t know where their hands have been for all I know they could’ve been anywhere
I come from an extremely white background in the Nordic countries, so when I moved abroad to a much more diverse country and I became really good friends with this awesome black lady, I asked if I could feel the texture of her hair. She immediately answered "if I can feel yours!" which was a little surprising, but I felt like it was 1000% fair. Apparently I was pretty much the only person that had agreed to do a... mutual hair texture feeling. :P She had no idea what really straight hair felt like, and I didn't have a clue how her hair was. It was a really nice bonding experience too, and we had a good discussion about how black women and men get these kinds of questions and how it feels like :)
I have had colorful hair for years and most people just will randomly start touching it as if it's a compliment. I can't imagine haven't texture like these ladies!
who is that girl at 1:41? she's amazing holy
ikr 😭
Nigga its about fascination
i literally used to ask people this question all the time in middle school. like i didn't do it to be rude at all, and tbh i am sooo jealous of people with such a rare and diverse hair texture 🥺 plus, the dudes in my class let me twist their hair during lectures 😂😭
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The lady at 1:20 yes! Learning moments are a good way to look at things!
As an asian, I don't really get asked of people if they can touch my hair a lot, but I don't think I would deny them unless it was like a creepy person. I've had little kids ask before and they are usually surprised it's soft when it looks more course.
It probably is annoying to get asked but learning about blacks and black culture is a good step in the right direction of understanding!
I painted my PC black so It can be faster lol
+Ricardo Quaresma L
I don't care if jokes are racist but at least make them funny, Jesus Christ.
+Sam Boroudjou as a black person I LOVE racist jokes but nowadays it's just the same shit copied and pasted everywhere on the net. I love original and funny jokes. Old jokes are just stupid.
Question: Can I touch your hair?
Answer: NO, you MAY NOT.
All of these ladies are so beautiful, I love watching these videos they're inspiring and interesting.
It always baffles me that so many people would ask this (and some don't even ask, they just do it). I wouldn't ever ask a stranger to touch any part of them. It's just such an intrusion into personal space and I don't quite understand why people have this strong desire to touch it. I'd have to be very close to someone to where I would even be interested to touch them in such a way.
I'm a black woman and I have no problem with someone touching my hair as long as they ask.
0:45 talk about looking too deep into it, jeeez
Haha
All she's saying is that black hair is like a phenomenon when it's really just hair. It's offensive sometimes depending on the context
+Sam Johnston You're really gonna disregard what she said like that? That is her personal experience. That comment says a lot about you.
+Elezabeth Alem its not phenomena, deal with it, u r nothing special, u r like everybody else. curiosity is common. get over your self
+Indre Leipute You sound hurt and jealous and as such are being delusional
When I was little, I was living in Cameroon and all the black kids were constantly checking my hair and the cutest part was that they tried to braid it =D It's normal, it's different. But of course you have to ask first, otherwise it feels awkward when a stranger starts touching you ^^ I also got asked a lot if my hair was real since I use to dye it and make crazy hairdos ^^ It's actually flattering, people notice the work you put in it !
I'm from Mexico and there's not a lot of people with that type of fluffy hair. When I came to the US, and saw a lot of girls with that hair, I was saying in my head "I want to touch it, I want to touch it", but I compose myself, saving me from an embarrassing and awkward moment. What I'm trying to say is that lots of people haven't seen that type of hair in their whole life's and they just can't control themselves.