So hard not to engage in a power struggle at times.... you become exhausted from your efforts and you just feel like you want to scream! The struggle is real and this is so hard. Thank you for this video, I and many others fight every day and find ourselves having to keep fighting even when we have no fight left. And external judgement makes it that much harder. "I hate you mom, I wish you weren't alive".... hardest thing to hear from the person you love the most. Love and Prayers to all high needs, special needs moms and dads out there. You will survive this! The outcome is worth all this fight!
It is especially difficult to remain calm when their meltdown trigger you as is the case with my older ADHD son and I. Deep breathing has helped as well as reminding myself that he's not giving me a hard time he's having a hard time. Thanks for this😊
A little late in the game seeing this video, but it was so good! I'm a dad with ADHD, parenting a child with ADHD. Lately I have REALLY been battling my own frustration, stress, and sometimes anger when my amazing little kiddo starts flying off the handle. This video helped kinda put things in perspective. Especially the concept of "letting her brain cycle". Letting her get it out and get back to a place of more clarity. THANK YOU for sharing!!! This is something I'm striving to do on my own channel and open conversation like this is incredible encouraging and uplifting!!!
I can totally relate these emotions to yours, especially in the public places, or when I see the " average" kids behave beautifully around others, it's so hard not to compare and feel disappointed, angry at my son even though I know I shouldn't, because the differences is just so great that I don't know how to ignore it. When those thoughts come I just feel like the most nasty person in the whole world.
I have a 2 year old who has adhd and maybe some Autism. Really hard taking her anywhere without fussyness and trowing a fit. She also can't sit still and quick touching and breaking any stuff she gets her hand on. I want help to stay relax without raising my voice and losing my temper
Dictate positive statement during meltdown. Never say direct no to your child but give him 2 choices to child that is like teaching him life skill. EXAMPLE: stay calm and tell your child. We are going to talk when you are ready. Take deep breath till the count of 10. Express your feeling I am here for you. Doing this helps child to understand how to regulate their feelings. Continuous practice of this will help in disappearance of melt down. Child learn what to do when feel that way. If child is creating a seen at grocery store just take him home don't shop and ask him to take breath give 2 choices that you want for him presented in positive way rather saying direct no. Hope this helps are some of tested and success tips.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
Thank you for this video. I first reached out to you thru FB, & you answered so promptly. I have an 8 yr old son, diagnosed w ADHD @ 4 yrs old. I am always looking for tips & sugestions to try w my kiddos. His little sister tends to mimic his behavior sometimes, in the evenings. That's my biggest challenge. We choose to medicate & late afternoon/evening is when meds are going away. This is the time Dad & I are referees in trying to keep the peace. Your videos & websites are very helpful.
Hi, and thank you. My Little girl is 19 now. She has add/adhd/anxiety and has lived through the following:- 3 separations of my wife (her MOM) and I, between her ages of 8 and 13 yrs. - Her Mom's tragic death (auto) at 13 yrs. High schools - we are beginning our 4th in Sept '17. She was Bullied out of her 1st H.S., mainly topiced around her Mom's death. The 2nd High sch. I sent her ( at her suggestion) to my Mother's- whom she was v. close with - in a different province! Where she was Bullied by her Aunt (staying there for financial, attach. reasons) , so She asked to come home after 18 Months. Then a high sch. in a different town, which she attends currently. Next is a school for special H.S. needs Students. I also have a 15 year old Son who is disability free. Both of my children live with me and always have. It has Been 61/2 yrs Since my Wife's Passing with no end in sight. I Have raised my Children 'mostly' myself as their Mom was very social and my job enabled me to work 3 nights/wk (full pay) - THAT has been the greatest gift of my life. However I am now in mid 50's and wearing out. Any Help you can offer?
It sounds like your daughter has been through a lot. Your love and continued support is powerful, and she will need it for years to come. Just continued to honor what is true for her, where she is right now, and that will guide you in the right ways.
Thank you so much for posting this video, it's really helpful, there are times my son who also have ADHA at age 6 has gone through the same episode toward me as your child towards you, but I didn't took it very well which cause me to react. I felt awful about that. But listening to your post which I realize it was a year ago help me how to manage my son outburst so that I could help my baby and to cope and sometime control his emotions. Thank you so for that! 😀👍
Wow.that was helpful. My 29 year old daughter is just getting proper diagnosis, was treated at 7 but only for a year. Ririlan and Zoloft, really needs it again.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
Ok stay calm I get that even though it’s soo so hard. But what do you physically do when they have a melt down, walk away? Talk to them? My son is 11 and he screams and throws things around , so I need tips on what to actually do because he is big and I get so upset and the whole house gets affected by it .
Staying calm is hard -- no doubt. It takes practice and it becomes a lot easier. What you should do during meltdown differs based on your child. If it's a true meltdown (amygdala is hijacked), then nothing you say or do will make it better until their brain recovers. They don't have control. Some kids need a presence with them to feel secure. If that's your child, stay in the room, let them know you're there for them, and then be quiet. Do not try to rationalize or talk it out. If your child does better calming down alone, then let them know that you're willing to help if they'd like you to and then honor their need to be alone to recover. For some kids, walking away from them during meltdown can be an escalating factor, so beware of that. When he's not in the throws of an intense outburst or meltdown, talk about alternatives to show his emotions without breaking property and hurting others. Could be tearing paper or using a punching bag or punching a pillow or letting out one big yelp....
I like the frozen peas idea. I've been told to hand her an icecube when she can't deescalate, maybe I'll hand her the bag if peas. I can't get her long term care unless this is considered an intellectual disability. I see that ADHD is in the other category and autism is an intellectual disability.she mimicks people, so she's probably on the spectrum. it's frustrating having to categorize for services.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
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So hard not to engage in a power struggle at times.... you become exhausted from your efforts and you just feel like you want to scream! The struggle is real and this is so hard. Thank you for this video, I and many others fight every day and find ourselves having to keep fighting even when we have no fight left. And external judgement makes it that much harder. "I hate you mom, I wish you weren't alive".... hardest thing to hear from the person you love the most. Love and Prayers to all high needs, special needs moms and dads out there. You will survive this! The outcome is worth all this fight!
It is especially difficult to remain calm when their meltdown trigger you as is the case with my older ADHD son and I. Deep breathing has helped as well as reminding myself that he's not giving me a hard time he's having a hard time. Thanks for this😊
A little late in the game seeing this video, but it was so good! I'm a dad with ADHD, parenting a child with ADHD. Lately I have REALLY been battling my own frustration, stress, and sometimes anger when my amazing little kiddo starts flying off the handle. This video helped kinda put things in perspective. Especially the concept of "letting her brain cycle". Letting her get it out and get back to a place of more clarity. THANK YOU for sharing!!! This is something I'm striving to do on my own channel and open conversation like this is incredible encouraging and uplifting!!!
The store meltdown you talked about in your video ,brought back the emotional times we have had in stores with our son!
It's so tough, but you're not alone!
THANK YOU SO much for this.. I am almost in tears..
I can totally relate these emotions to yours, especially in the public places, or when I see the " average" kids behave beautifully around others, it's so hard not to compare and feel disappointed, angry at my son even though I know I shouldn't, because the differences is just so great that I don't know how to ignore it. When those thoughts come I just feel like the most nasty person in the whole world.
I have a 2 year old who has adhd and maybe some Autism. Really hard taking her anywhere without fussyness and trowing a fit. She also can't sit still and quick touching and breaking any stuff she gets her hand on. I want help to stay relax without raising my voice and losing my temper
Dictate positive statement during meltdown. Never say direct no to your child but give him 2 choices to child that is like teaching him life skill. EXAMPLE: stay calm and tell your child. We are going to talk when you are ready. Take deep breath till the count of 10. Express your feeling I am here for you. Doing this helps child to understand how to regulate their feelings. Continuous practice of this will help in disappearance of melt down. Child learn what to do when feel that way. If child is creating a seen at grocery store just take him home don't shop and ask him to take breath give 2 choices that you want for him presented in positive way rather saying direct no. Hope this helps are some of tested and success tips.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
Thank you for this video. I first reached out to you thru FB, & you answered so promptly. I have an 8 yr old son, diagnosed w ADHD @ 4 yrs old. I am always looking for tips & sugestions to try w my kiddos. His little sister tends to mimic his behavior sometimes, in the evenings. That's my biggest challenge. We choose to medicate & late afternoon/evening is when meds are going away. This is the time Dad & I are referees in trying to keep the peace. Your videos & websites are very helpful.
God bless you for this, you've described my now 5yo daughter and my almost 11yo son. as people say, the struggle is real
Hi, and thank you. My Little girl is 19 now. She has add/adhd/anxiety and has lived through the following:- 3 separations of my wife (her MOM) and I, between her ages of 8 and 13 yrs. - Her Mom's tragic death (auto) at 13 yrs. High schools - we are beginning our 4th in Sept '17. She was Bullied out of her 1st H.S., mainly topiced around her Mom's death. The 2nd High sch. I sent her ( at her suggestion) to my Mother's- whom she was v. close with - in a different province! Where she was Bullied by her Aunt (staying there for financial, attach. reasons) , so She asked to come home after 18 Months. Then a high sch. in a different town, which she attends currently. Next is a school for special H.S. needs Students. I also have a 15 year old Son who is disability free. Both of my children live with me and always have. It has Been 61/2 yrs Since my Wife's Passing with no end in sight. I Have raised my Children 'mostly' myself as their Mom was very social and my job enabled me to work 3 nights/wk (full pay) - THAT has been the greatest gift of my life. However I am now in mid 50's and wearing out. Any Help you can offer?
It sounds like your daughter has been through a lot. Your love and continued support is powerful, and she will need it for years to come. Just continued to honor what is true for her, where she is right now, and that will guide you in the right ways.
Lmao "talk to the peas" Omg! I totally agree with busting out the humor tool. Awesome!
Thanks for the insight Penny, such an important message!
Thank you so much for posting this video, it's really helpful, there are times my son who also have ADHA at age 6 has gone through the same episode toward me as your child towards you, but I didn't took it very well which cause me to react. I felt awful about that. But listening to your post which I realize it was a year ago help me how to manage my son outburst so that I could help my baby and to cope and sometime control his emotions.
Thank you so for that!
😀👍
You go momma! Its not easy. I have the same experiences!!
Wow.that was helpful. My 29 year old daughter is just getting proper diagnosis, was treated at 7 but only for a year. Ririlan and Zoloft, really needs it again.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
Thank you I will try the music one!
Ok stay calm I get that even though it’s soo so hard. But what do you physically do when they have a melt down, walk away? Talk to them? My son is 11 and he screams and throws things around , so I need tips on what to actually do because he is big and I get so upset and the whole house gets affected by it .
Staying calm is hard -- no doubt. It takes practice and it becomes a lot easier. What you should do during meltdown differs based on your child. If it's a true meltdown (amygdala is hijacked), then nothing you say or do will make it better until their brain recovers. They don't have control. Some kids need a presence with them to feel secure. If that's your child, stay in the room, let them know you're there for them, and then be quiet. Do not try to rationalize or talk it out. If your child does better calming down alone, then let them know that you're willing to help if they'd like you to and then honor their need to be alone to recover. For some kids, walking away from them during meltdown can be an escalating factor, so beware of that. When he's not in the throws of an intense outburst or meltdown, talk about alternatives to show his emotions without breaking property and hurting others. Could be tearing paper or using a punching bag or punching a pillow or letting out one big yelp....
This was amazing and so helpful, thank you so much.
I like the frozen peas idea. I've been told to hand her an icecube when she can't deescalate, maybe I'll hand her the bag if peas. I can't get her long term care unless this is considered an intellectual disability. I see that ADHD is in the other category and autism is an intellectual disability.she mimicks people, so she's probably on the spectrum. it's frustrating having to categorize for services.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect
Do you have a video to help with the sibling being able to understand, and the sibling being able to react calmly as well? 22 months younger.
Thank you!!! Typical parents don't understand our process. ...
I have ADHD
I get yelled at when i tell my mom to calm down
you mentioned a mans name about the time blindness issue at 4:11 minutes in what is that please
Ari Tuckman. Here's his ADDitude webinar on Time Blindness and Time Management. www.additudemag.com/webinar/time-management-procrastination/