@@johnny2598 not trying to be rude but why are you in love with her if you've never even talked to her/get to know her? You sure you don't just have a crush? Love is a very specific and explicit feeling.
I couldn't agree more. Control what you can and leave the rest to God. I also recently shared a video about this th-cam.com/video/Bziq1wwYpQI/w-d-xo.html
Isent anxiety feeling you can naturally get, if you feel your stalked or followed too much to your home, so its not nice to live in anxiety with waking everyday having sence of anxiety. As child I used to mot have anxiety, when felt like nobody cared much about me, than anybody else, but as teenager you can get a lot anxiety, if your followed a lot to home.
Overthinking + living in the past, kept me stuck in life for the longest time. It’s not easy to stop something you do naturally but over time you notice how you change your mindset and actions, it’s best to dive in instead of talking yourself out. Great video bro❤️
Sometimes some people think about the past, because there was so horrible experience, that after it left you emotionally unstable compleately and so you tend to think back to past, because we could not talk about it with how it went, when you feel like you were misunderstood there and so you also feel anger to that person there and hatred, because that person put you then to so much through suffering and misery, that the hatred for that person has not yet vanished, when you cant sometimes get sleep for 2-3 hours, because you imagine beating the shite out of that person and thats why many can live in past, because most of their emotions and unconcious mind and personality is there, so you cant live without emotions, but you try get your emotions in stable formation and that always cause you think about that bad thing in the past and that can be preatty miserable existence where thoese painful emotions try come out of your unconscious mind, but holding them back would make you have not much emotions at all then. Im not myself anxious about future at all, when simply do not much care about the future that much, when already been bit depressed, so I hope I can be happy in future, while simply do not much care what happens there and im also not anxious about present, when not much bad things happening, when im just trying to survive with my brain, that has too much pain in it.
@@ColeHastings you are a bit wrong about things that happened in the past. You can do a lot to fix them by trying again let's say by applying for the same job a month later and every month till you get it. This is how I got my dream job and also my current girlfriend. She had a boyfriend when I first met her so I asked her every month if she is still with him and after a year she was free and wanted to meet me...
You can control your brain. Your brain is throwing thoughts in your head for possibilities. It's looking out for you. What goes on in your mind matters. Use it well.
Lockdown has made me feel like I'm losing control mentally. The massive change around the world and around, I thought I could have been strong enough to handle it because I'm normally a person who likes change, but it turns out that I'm suffering like the rest all of us around the world.
@@akshyatankur I'm glad there are others who are feeling that way. I know that we are all mentally hurt in some way but it is different from person to person
Dude, you've really helped me a lot. My self esteem has been going up and my dislike for myself has been declining. You've put a lot of things in perspective and have been a big inspiration for my self improvement. Thank you, man.
@@ColeHastings same bro thank you so much man. Content like this is changing my life. I've been approaching women at work for the first time and my self esteem is taking off! You're a literally hero changing the lives of men
I was having a panic attack and totally calmed me down. Brought me back to reality! I’m saving the link to this video in my notes for future panic attack use 😝 thank you !!
@@ColeHastings I feel better knowing I myself am no longer in a toxic relationship. I felt like I had to walk on eggshells 24/7 because of her and her family and it caused me to overthink a lot and feel paranoid around them. I no longer feel the same way now that I'm single again. Ended up getting dumped for another guy but not much I can do about it, just gonna let myself feel this pain and continue moving forward cause there's no way to go but forward.
@@Lieblingsmensch-un1bv that's great, its totally different if you were in a toxic relationship. But if you're constantly stressed in a relationship for no reason, that's definitely not good
@@ColeHastings yeah, I agree on that thats a deeper issue that can take root in someone just because of how they are or mental related trauma. Not gonna say I was perfect with her cause I sure as shit wasn't but eh
Hey Fade RVA, hope you are well 😀 overthinking is the thief of the present moment. It comes in and take away the moment the only thing we have. Below I share my experience of overthinking and how I overcame it. Hope it helps you 💓 th-cam.com/video/Bziq1wwYpQI/w-d-xo.html
Best advice that i could give to overthinkers to overcome that thing is to just repeat in your head "i don't care" that's all you have to do. Your subconscious after a couple of days will start to make you think that you actually don't care. I've used this strategy in order to overcome my overthinking problem
Hey cole. I’ve been watching your videos for about 4/5 months now and two weeks ago my 2 years relationship ended. After the first days of sadness I rewatched your videos about relationships and it helped me a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, you certainly helped me go into the right direction instead of being depressed
@@ColeHastings You are amazing dude! I know I'm some random person on the other side of the screen but you're out here changing lives for the better man!!
Once you fully understand that shit happens is when you set yourself free of disappointment and it becomes easier to move on and focus on the what next.
Years of self harm through overthinking, developed in to anxiety. Terrible childhood and sickly body, my Lord. It's like yesterday, i feel like i wont ever be healed. Thank you to the faith and these free videos, i can finally feel like my younger self. No worries and just goes through life without hesitation. I thought im irreparable at this point.
It's hard to stop overthinking. Because that's become part of my identity. Am not sure that control is at the root. For me that sounds to specific. I think the base of overthinking is fear. Fear of not being in control is just one of them. You mention: You can not change the past. True. But my past and my past interpretations of the past has also defined me. All this overthinking is not necessarily a bad thing. It brought me high self-awareness and the ability to put the present into perspective. Anyhow, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
2:50 That's the missing piece I've been looking for! Thank you very much! I've come to a place where I am able to accept intrusive thoughts. I am starting to understand that if I don't engage with it, anxiety goes away. I'll be focusing more on this. Thanks a lot!
Spot on, man. It's great you split it into three different overthinking perspectives (past, present, future). I find myself in the camp of overthinking the present - but I've definitely gone through phases of each one at different times in my life. Cheers.
This is exactly how I overcame my anxiety. You have a choice in your thoughts and emotions. Sadly only the people who put in the work everyday and believe this will succeed. Many stubborn people out there
It is scary how accurate these videos are in relation to what I’m going through in my life over the past few months. Amazing channel I look forward to your next video !
People would always tell me I'm too hard on myself and I never knew what they meant. But after going to therapy and working on past trauma, i really have accepted myself like cole was saying and that's such a wonderful feeling. I think a certain person has come to into your life to make you realize this, another reason to get out there and be yourself so shit can happen and help you grow, ya know
Struggling with depression and OCD since I was a kid. I will add your films to my therapy. It will be really helpfull, I am sure of it! Good luck and all the best, thank you.
Nothing against my therapist, she’s amazing, but watching your channel reminds me how I learned so much more on TH-cam than in school, but with therapy 🤣
"The people who overthink the least, allow themselves to overthink the most." - Cole Hastings This is literally so true I think a lot throughout the day and often overthink some specific topics and by that I don’t overthink that much. It sounds weird bit it is true for me
One of my favorite topics! I had to learn to STOP OVERTHINKING. I realized I was either in the future or n the past , but when I come back to the present and be more mindful, I feel so much better and so much more focus. Another thing I do is shout 🛑 STOP ✋ to myself when I notice I’m on overthinking mode. The thoughts are becoming a passion of mine, and being aware of thoughts is sooooo key to actually stop and change them. So, from now on, I CAN and I WILL achieve my dreams, no doubt 😃😃😃
This is so true, saying as overthinker! I know I am actually control freak who wants to control everything that happens, and it's the most frustrating thing because it's impossible! Weird thing is, no matter how much I plan something it NEVER EVER happens the way I planned it.
When you mentioned how you have to stop deciding on who you are that really opened me up. I think sub conciousnessly I was constantly thinking about what kind guy I am, and what I'm presenting to people. But that line made me realize that I simply dont have to be anything, I can just be
I've been seeing all kinds of stuff online about not listening to my inner monologue the past few days. The algorithm and timing of your video makes it feel like the world is trying to tell me something.
Needed to hear this today. Grateful for your insight. I like how you broke it down into past, present, future. I can really relate to this as I’ve let overthinking ruin past friendships, opportunities, etc. I’ve slowly been trying to get my life back together and your videos are seriously such an inspiration cause I’ve struggled with severe depression. What your doing can’t be appreciated enough and idk how else to thank you. You’ve definitely made me look at certain aspects of life differently. Blessed to be able to listen to your content, thanks man.
Thanks for this advices, as a thinker person I know exactly what means overthinking, the needs to have all under control, to predict the future, to think always what is best to do, to say, and so on... And the answer it's just what you said, learn to relax and let the thing happen without thinking too much, I know that sound like an obvious thing, but it's not easy like might seem, like many other things, practice is the only way to manage this problem, there's no other way. When you start to not think too much you discover that things are not so hard like you thinked and when you talk, the right words comes from themself, it's just a matter to be in the present as much as we can and doing things without care too much. Greetings and hugs to all the overthinker, anxious, and shy people, I know it's hard, but we can make it.
It’s exactly what i needed to hear because i almost got myself into a verbal fight with a (woman) ,and than said to myself that it’s not worth it because arguing doesn’t achieve anything good in life
you. I dont know you personally, but this video helps so many people that you were illustrating in this. so thank you. I hope you never get tired of sharing your thoughts,insights, and how you deal/dealt with it. have a great week cole thanks for making my wednesday morning and for making me smile
I would love to hear you perspective on overstimulation. And thank you so much for your videos. I feel like self help is a growth process and your allowing your viewers (me and others) to grow with you!
No problem. I've kind of talked about overstimulation briefly in many different videos. Long story short: it's bad, and people should go out in nature more
I overthought about losing a girl and my job and I possible my job and the house I was living in practically in the same day. Don't overthink you could lose everything.
Feeling this right now. Leaving my current job for a better one. Been overthinking my decision but I know it’ll be the right thing. Honestly this can all be taught in therapy too (currently in therapy) and I’m glad your spreading this message man. Thank you for what you do.
a thing my grandma always says is "people die and you worry so much of these little things?" always relieved me from my headache and made me care a lot less of stupid things like a embaressing moment in 2012
I have a really really bad overthinking problem, and it's really agonizing. Every day, every minute, and every second my heartbeat is really high constantly. I can't even sleep well, my mind just invade my dreams to keep in this state of torture.
I wish I knew how to stop my mind torturing me over an unavoidable event with negative connotations fast approaching. Although the outcome is uncertain it's something I cannot run from and this terrifies me! Why must we torture ourselves like this? Why can't my thoughts leave me in peace?
Cole you are so amazing, you are saving so many lives and making us feel were not alone. I hope the univers could return you all the favor that you had given your audiences. You are such a grace for doing this all so gracefully.I haven't even watched the video yet but i know it would be another great content that you have crafted. Please stay safe and god bless you because the world need more people like you .
today i was overthinking and i asked myself "how can i fix this?" happily this video came out lol. now i see that i cant fix fully but i can fix the outcome and that would help 99% of the thought thanks again cole...happy 180k you deserve 820,000k more
I'm not sure how many female subscribers you have but I'm definitely one that watches all of your videos - someone that can talk sense, be concise in doing that and who uses their real experiences is something I really look for in a youtuber so thank you for your videos man, they're great!
this video was in my recommendations since yesterday, but ironically i didn't even read the title because my brain was busy overthinking a serious mistake that i made yesterday, and i was just scrolling on my phone to reduce the stress, i should've watched it before having a night without sleep XD
Such a good timing.. literally just these past days have been so bad with me overthinking the future because I'll start writing my thesis soon and I'm also really worried about the whole c0r0na situation :( I hate having to let go of control and I'm an excessive planner as well so I really found what you said to be true and it makes a lot of sense the way you describe it! So thanks a lot for helping me to calm down firstly and probably helping me to be more calm in the future as well .. ill probably start writing a diary to track my thoughts a bit and maybe see what triggers me to get these annoying thoughts so I can then take measures to let go and be more free :)
Honestly Cole, I've unsubbed from a lot of self development channels due to overconsumption, but you are one I never fail to watch almost every single video. Almost every video you've put out has been relatable to me, and I would feel would be relatable to many people, and that sort of connection and relation really comes alive when watching these videos. Keep up the content man!
Thank you for this video. I didn't know how much I needed to hear these things. Still, overthinking is a thing for me but I'm more aware of me overthinking things now. Thank you
i come from germany and watch almost all of your videos. I think too much about everything and keep making myself stupid thoughts. I'm currently separated and my ex hangs out with my best friends every day, I really wonder if they are friends who do that at all, it's really hard to trust people when the head is on the nerves all the time. I really wish I could sometimes just switch off my head with these negative thoughts, but unfortunately it doesn't work. i work a lot on myself and am currently trying to get the best version of myself. your videos help a lot, carry on as you are you are a role model for all of us. 🙏
I'm an overthinker by heart.. i always end up feeling so disappointed when things dont go well as planned.. so i tried worrying less and just let it be... and now, im living a happy life. sometimes i lose control over my priorities but the point is i tend to worry less so i can live more...
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It is freeing to realize how irrelevant we are compared to the most of the world, like how it feels liberating to recognize how us humans have little to no control of what's about to happen.
After watching this it felt like my brain got lighter. Idk if anyone else felt that, but I just felt more acceptable if the fact that life is some crazy shit, and to just keep moving on. My brain thanks you kind sir!
Really needed to hear this. I made a huge mistake re work and i cant stop worrying about losing my job, being kicked out of my house and never finding another job
I hear you, Roland. I heard someone talk about this catastrophising and they encouraged people to ask, “What proof do you have that these thoughts are true or likely?” I guess it is that we should call out these thoughts for being irrational and driven by fear. Hang in there…
No matter how many times I hear that most things are out of your control, even though I know this for a fact to be true, I *Just. Can't. Accept it.* for some reason I'm just *ABSOLUTELY* bull headed on this one, even though it's *obvious.* I hate feeling like I'm just a leaf in the wind, but letting go of this need to feel like there's anything I can do has been one of the most difficult things of my life.
this guy is literally free therapy......
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@Swiller we all like Cole, but apparently some do more than others 😅
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“Don’t ruin a new day by thinking about yesterday. Let it go.” - Unknown
I am afraid of approaching a girl in love with. Overthinking stops me every time ((
Well said
This is very true 👍
@@johnny2598 not trying to be rude but why are you in love with her if you've never even talked to her/get to know her? You sure you don't just have a crush? Love is a very specific and explicit feeling.
@@-ABC- Yeah maybe its a crash, but a strong one.
Overthinking might really range among the biggest hindrances people face nowadays
So true
I realize when I have anxiety it’s always thoughts I have no control over. Control what you can people, let the universe do the rest of the work.
I couldn't agree more. Control what you can and leave the rest to God. I also recently shared a video about this
th-cam.com/video/Bziq1wwYpQI/w-d-xo.html
Isent anxiety feeling you can naturally get, if you feel your stalked or followed too much to your home, so its not nice to live in anxiety with waking everyday having sence of anxiety. As child I used to mot have anxiety, when felt like nobody cared much about me, than anybody else, but as teenager you can get a lot anxiety, if your followed a lot to home.
Overthinking + living in the past, kept me stuck in life for the longest time. It’s not easy to stop something you do naturally but over time you notice how you change your mindset and actions, it’s best to dive in instead of talking yourself out. Great video bro❤️
Thanks man
Same, it all started for me from when I turned into a teen, the stress is unbearable at times
Wait until you turn into an adult haha.... teens are unbelievably easy compared to adulthood
Sometimes some people think about the past, because there was so horrible experience, that after it left you emotionally unstable compleately and so you tend to think back to past, because we could not talk about it with how it went, when you feel like you were misunderstood there and so you also feel anger to that person there and hatred, because that person put you then to so much through suffering and misery, that the hatred for that person has not yet vanished, when you cant sometimes get sleep for 2-3 hours, because you imagine beating the shite out of that person and thats why many can live in past, because most of their emotions and unconcious mind and personality is there, so you cant live without emotions, but you try get your emotions in stable formation and that always cause you think about that bad thing in the past and that can be preatty miserable existence where thoese painful emotions try come out of your unconscious mind, but holding them back would make you have not much emotions at all then. Im not myself anxious about future at all, when simply do not much care about the future that much, when already been bit depressed, so I hope I can be happy in future, while simply do not much care what happens there and im also not anxious about present, when not much bad things happening, when im just trying to survive with my brain, that has too much pain in it.
@@ColeHastings you are a bit wrong about things that happened in the past. You can do a lot to fix them by trying again let's say by applying for the same job a month later and every month till you get it. This is how I got my dream job and also my current girlfriend. She had a boyfriend when I first met her so I asked her every month if she is still with him and after a year she was free and wanted to meet me...
Needed to hear this! Great video bro
Thank you my g
Ayeee, verified, like I care, actually I do, actually I don't, but I do but I act like i don't... AaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
@@ColeHastings yeah same here it’s almost creepy lol 😆
Hello there
You can control your brain. Your brain is throwing thoughts in your head for possibilities. It's looking out for you. What goes on in your mind matters. Use it well.
Good point
Thank you🫂
Overthinking is the tradeoff when you have an internal locus of control.
What do you mean?
Depression is thinking about the past.
Anxiety is thinking about the future.
Happiness is being in the present.
I have 2 of the 3 guess which one I'm missing...
No - depression is a mental illness.
Yup
heh
Lockdown has made me feel like I'm losing control mentally. The massive change around the world and around, I thought I could have been strong enough to handle it because I'm normally a person who likes change, but it turns out that I'm suffering like the rest all of us around the world.
Same here bro I thought I am ready for the changes but after the lockdown it doesn’t seem like it.
@@akshyatankur I'm glad there are others who are feeling that way. I know that we are all mentally hurt in some way but it is different from person to person
I like changes and even these lockdown things taught me a lot of new stuff, I was being positive about it for almost the whole time:)
Dude, you've really helped me a lot. My self esteem has been going up and my dislike for myself has been declining. You've put a lot of things in perspective and have been a big inspiration for my self improvement. Thank you, man.
Love to hear it Nick
@@ColeHastings same bro thank you so much man. Content like this is changing my life. I've been approaching women at work for the first time and my self esteem is taking off! You're a literally hero changing the lives of men
I was having a panic attack and totally calmed me down. Brought me back to reality! I’m saving the link to this video in my notes for future panic attack use 😝 thank you !!
I fucking genuinely love you bro. I watch all of your content, it means so much to me. Thank you brother ❤❤
Love you too bro
I remember when i was in a relationship, I was overthinking constantly and I was so stressed. Now that I am single, I'm much more free.
That's a sign of a deeper problem
@@ColeHastings I feel better knowing I myself am no longer in a toxic relationship. I felt like I had to walk on eggshells 24/7 because of her and her family and it caused me to overthink a lot and feel paranoid around them. I no longer feel the same way now that I'm single again. Ended up getting dumped for another guy but not much I can do about it, just gonna let myself feel this pain and continue moving forward cause there's no way to go but forward.
@@Lieblingsmensch-un1bv that's great, its totally different if you were in a toxic relationship. But if you're constantly stressed in a relationship for no reason, that's definitely not good
@@Lieblingsmensch-un1bv similar situation for me bro
@@ColeHastings yeah, I agree on that thats a deeper issue that can take root in someone just because of how they are or mental related trauma. Not gonna say I was perfect with her cause I sure as shit wasn't but eh
This morning I searched how to stop overthinking and now this guy uploaded a video about it, it's a sign!
Hey Fade RVA, hope you are well 😀 overthinking is the thief of the present moment. It comes in and take away the moment the only thing we have.
Below I share my experience of overthinking and how I overcame it. Hope it helps you 💓
th-cam.com/video/Bziq1wwYpQI/w-d-xo.html
Best advice that i could give to overthinkers to overcome that thing is to just repeat in your head "i don't care" that's all you have to do. Your subconscious after a couple of days will start to make you think that you actually don't care. I've used this strategy in order to overcome my overthinking problem
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But for me, that switches to "you should care"
Hey cole. I’ve been watching your videos for about 4/5 months now and two weeks ago my 2 years relationship ended. After the first days of sadness I rewatched your videos about relationships and it helped me a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, you certainly helped me go into the right direction instead of being depressed
Very happy I could help. Time and growth will heal you 👍
@@ColeHastings You are amazing dude! I know I'm some random person on the other side of the screen but you're out here changing lives for the better man!!
Once you fully understand that shit happens is when you set yourself free of disappointment and it becomes easier to move on and focus on the what next.
Years of self harm through overthinking, developed in to anxiety.
Terrible childhood and sickly body, my Lord.
It's like yesterday, i feel like i wont ever be healed.
Thank you to the faith and these free videos, i can finally feel like my younger self.
No worries and just goes through life without hesitation.
I thought im irreparable at this point.
JUST DO IT DON'T LET YOUR DREAMS BE DREAMS!
It's hard to stop overthinking. Because that's become part of my identity.
Am not sure that control is at the root. For me that sounds to specific.
I think the base of overthinking is fear. Fear of not being in control is just one of them.
You mention: You can not change the past. True. But my past and my past interpretations of the past has also defined me.
All this overthinking is not necessarily a bad thing. It brought me high self-awareness and the ability to put the present into perspective.
Anyhow, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
2:50 That's the missing piece I've been looking for! Thank you very much! I've come to a place where I am able to accept intrusive thoughts. I am starting to understand that if I don't engage with it, anxiety goes away. I'll be focusing more on this. Thanks a lot!
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I came here some months ago,just to "pratice" my english and now I'm in a long journey to be a better version of myself.Thank you!
Spot on, man. It's great you split it into three different overthinking perspectives (past, present, future). I find myself in the camp of overthinking the present - but I've definitely gone through phases of each one at different times in my life. Cheers.
Cheers bro
needed this. once you realise you can't control other people or their actions their is less anxiety.
This is exactly how I overcame my anxiety. You have a choice in your thoughts and emotions. Sadly only the people who put in the work everyday and believe this will succeed. Many stubborn people out there
You don’t have idea how much you helped me
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The only solution to break free from overthinking is to question: Who is the thinker ?
This actually works. Thank you 🙏🏻
@@Fillup82 welcome dear.
“Whose thoughts are these?” Love it
People would always tell me I'm too hard on myself and I never knew what they meant. But after going to therapy and working on past trauma, i really have accepted myself like cole was saying and that's such a wonderful feeling. I think a certain person has come to into your life to make you realize this, another reason to get out there and be yourself so shit can happen and help you grow, ya know
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your channel has just been on the money lately for all my problems lol
Struggling with depression and OCD since I was a kid. I will add your films to my therapy. It will be really helpfull, I am sure of it!
Good luck and all the best, thank you.
This is what feels living with anxiety
Hey I send you peaceful vibes today and always ✨
Exactly!!!🤯👆
Nothing against my therapist, she’s amazing, but watching your channel reminds me how I learned so much more on TH-cam than in school, but with therapy 🤣
Rarely say this - u earned urself a subscriber.
Thank you
"The people who overthink the least, allow themselves to overthink the most." - Cole Hastings
This is literally so true I think a lot throughout the day and often overthink some specific topics and by that I don’t overthink that much. It sounds weird bit it is true for me
Thanks man. You look like Luffy in your profile picture
@@ColeHastings hahaha awesome, I didn't watch One Piece until now, but it's still a nice compliment
One of my favorite topics! I had to learn to STOP OVERTHINKING.
I realized I was either in the future or n the past , but when I come back to the present and be more mindful, I feel so much better and so much more focus.
Another thing I do is shout 🛑 STOP ✋ to myself when I notice I’m on overthinking mode.
The thoughts are becoming a passion of mine, and being aware of thoughts is sooooo key to actually stop and change them.
So, from now on, I CAN and I WILL achieve my dreams, no doubt 😃😃😃
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This is so true, saying as overthinker! I know I am actually control freak who wants to control everything that happens, and it's the most frustrating thing because it's impossible! Weird thing is, no matter how much I plan something it NEVER EVER happens the way I planned it.
When you mentioned how you have to stop deciding on who you are that really opened me up. I think sub conciousnessly I was constantly thinking about what kind guy I am, and what I'm presenting to people. But that line made me realize that I simply dont have to be anything, I can just be
I was trying really hard to control my life, but life is the most uncontrollable phenomenon. Things rarely go as planned. This made my day bro 😊
I've been seeing all kinds of stuff online about not listening to my inner monologue the past few days.
The algorithm and timing of your video makes it feel like the world is trying to tell me something.
I overthought about clicking onto this video b/c I wanted to not believe it's what I need to hear but, I have to say this insight really paid off
Needed to hear this today. Grateful for your insight. I like how you broke it down into past, present, future. I can really relate to this as I’ve let overthinking ruin past friendships, opportunities, etc. I’ve slowly been trying to get my life back together and your videos are seriously such an inspiration cause I’ve struggled with severe depression. What your doing can’t be appreciated enough and idk how else to thank you. You’ve definitely made me look at certain aspects of life differently. Blessed to be able to listen to your content, thanks man.
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Thanks for getting me to overthink you mad man
Thanks man I've been overthinking alot recently. You have no idea how happy it makes me when you upload!
Thanks for this advices, as a thinker person I know exactly what means overthinking, the needs to have all under control, to predict the future, to think always what is best to do, to say, and so on... And the answer it's just what you said, learn to relax and let the thing happen without thinking too much, I know that sound like an obvious thing, but it's not easy like might seem, like many other things, practice is the only way to manage this problem, there's no other way. When you start to not think too much you discover that things are not so hard like you thinked and when you talk, the right words comes from themself, it's just a matter to be in the present as much as we can and doing things without care too much. Greetings and hugs to all the overthinker, anxious, and shy people, I know it's hard, but we can make it.
It’s exactly what i needed to hear because i almost got myself into a verbal fight with a (woman) ,and than said to myself that it’s not worth it because arguing doesn’t achieve anything good in life
you. I dont know you personally, but this video helps so many people that you were illustrating in this.
so thank you. I hope you never get tired of sharing your thoughts,insights, and how you deal/dealt with it.
have a great week cole thanks for making my wednesday morning and for making me smile
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TH-cam recommendations know what i need better than the people around me
Feel like you are describing my current situation, like you are talking to me. I think it will give me a final push to start uploading. Thanks Cole
Hit that upload button!
This advice is gold! Chronic overthinker here, I can vouch for meditation and gratitude being major helps for slowing things down.
Cole thank you so much for posting these videos you really motivate and help me on this self-development journey :)
Glad to help you
Thank you so much. I'm a prime example of overthinking
I don’t think I ever felt a yotuber help me more then this guy
I would love to hear you perspective on overstimulation. And thank you so much for your videos. I feel like self help is a growth process and your allowing your viewers (me and others) to grow with you!
No problem. I've kind of talked about overstimulation briefly in many different videos. Long story short: it's bad, and people should go out in nature more
I overthought about losing a girl and my job and I possible my job and the house I was living in practically in the same day.
Don't overthink you could lose everything.
Even while watching this video I was simultaneously thinking about 3 other different things..
Haha oh no
Feeling this right now. Leaving my current job for a better one. Been overthinking my decision but I know it’ll be the right thing.
Honestly this can all be taught in therapy too (currently in therapy) and I’m glad your spreading this message man. Thank you for what you do.
a thing my grandma always says is "people die and you worry so much of these little things?"
always relieved me from my headache and made me care a lot less of stupid things like a embaressing moment in 2012
I have a really really bad overthinking problem, and it's really agonizing. Every day, every minute, and every second my heartbeat is really high constantly. I can't even sleep well, my mind just invade my dreams to keep in this state of torture.
I wish I knew how to stop my mind torturing me over an unavoidable event with negative connotations fast approaching. Although the outcome is uncertain it's something I cannot run from and this terrifies me! Why must we torture ourselves like this? Why can't my thoughts leave me in peace?
Cole you are so amazing, you are saving so many lives and making us feel were not alone. I hope the univers could return you all the favor that you had given your audiences. You are such a grace for doing this all so gracefully.I haven't even watched the video yet but i know it would be another great content that you have crafted. Please stay safe and god bless you because the world need more people like you .
today i was overthinking and i asked myself "how can i fix this?" happily this video came out lol. now i see that i cant fix fully but i can fix the outcome and that would help 99% of the thought thanks again cole...happy 180k you deserve 820,000k more
I see that Berserk poster behind you. Another man of the culture.
Such insightful content man. Also big respect for that Guts wallpaper!
Thanks man
i love the amount of efort u put in every story outhere, so calm and peacefull
In resume: Turn on the "fuck it!", live the present moment, and JUST DO IT!
You can't prevent yourself from overthinking but you can definitely prevent yourself from being lonely
I'm not sure how many female subscribers you have but I'm definitely one that watches all of your videos - someone that can talk sense, be concise in doing that and who uses their real experiences is something I really look for in a youtuber so thank you for your videos man, they're great!
this video was in my recommendations since yesterday, but ironically i didn't even read the title because my brain was busy overthinking a serious mistake that i made yesterday, and i was just scrolling on my phone to reduce the stress, i should've watched it before having a night without sleep XD
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Bro you are a literal genius the way that you think, makes the possibility of anything happen. God tier knowledge
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@@colehastings3889 what do u mean exactly by that sir
thank u brother, ive been trying to solve this problem for so long, finally i fount the cure
Such a good timing.. literally just these past days have been so bad with me overthinking the future because I'll start writing my thesis soon and I'm also really worried about the whole c0r0na situation :(
I hate having to let go of control and I'm an excessive planner as well so I really found what you said to be true and it makes a lot of sense the way you describe it! So thanks a lot for helping me to calm down firstly and probably helping me to be more calm in the future as well .. ill probably start writing a diary to track my thoughts a bit and maybe see what triggers me to get these annoying thoughts so I can then take measures to let go and be more free :)
Honestly Cole, I've unsubbed from a lot of self development channels due to overconsumption, but you are one I never fail to watch almost every single video. Almost every video you've put out has been relatable to me, and I would feel would be relatable to many people, and that sort of connection and relation really comes alive when watching these videos. Keep up the content man!
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Yo, I literally just found you randomly. Crazy how much i can relate
I struggle with over thinking about my pass, I also struggle with thoughts of revenge & anger, which leads to excessive drinking. It's bad man.
This is a great video,i always overthink since i was a child...and now it's very hard to stop overthinking.
This really will help me, Thanks!
This video help my mental state more than my parents ever had
I've been having such a bad time with this that i had to look for some advice. Thanks for your help man
After watching your videos i felt so much more confident and happy. Thanks so much for the help.🙏
Thank you for this video. I didn't know how much I needed to hear these things. Still, overthinking is a thing for me but I'm more aware of me overthinking things now. Thank you
i come from germany and watch almost all of your videos. I think too much about everything and keep making myself stupid thoughts. I'm currently separated and my ex hangs out with my best friends every day, I really wonder if they are friends who do that at all, it's really hard to trust people when the head is on the nerves all the time. I really wish I could sometimes just switch off my head with these negative thoughts, but unfortunately it doesn't work. i work a lot on myself and am currently trying to get the best version of myself. your videos help a lot, carry on as you are you are a role model for all of us. 🙏
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Ich hab' früher auch immer alles kaputt gedacht - heute habe ich das hinter mir gelassen und mir geht es blendend. :-)
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I like this dude. He has a really good heart.
I'm an overthinker by heart.. i always end up feeling so disappointed when things dont go well as planned.. so i tried worrying less and just let it be... and now, im living a happy life. sometimes i lose control over my priorities but the point is i tend to worry less so i can live more...
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How has anybody disliked this? This is actually gold man
this why I subscribed to your channel, its like your a therapist I've never had.
Este y Otro Canales De TH-cam me Han Ayudado hacer La Mejor Version De Mi, Sin Control, Sin Miedos, Solo Yo. quiero Ser La Mejor Version de Mi y Asi Hasta que Parta de Este Mundo
It is freeing to realize how irrelevant we are compared to the most of the world, like how it feels liberating to recognize how us humans have little to no control of what's about to happen.
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Ive been on a spree of watching your videos you are truly spectacular thank you so much for all your help
this video helped me more than you can imagine. thanks❤
After watching this it felt like my brain got lighter. Idk if anyone else felt that, but I just felt more acceptable if the fact that life is some crazy shit, and to just keep moving on. My brain thanks you kind sir!
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its crazy how good he is at explaining the feelings we feel and find solution, like your great personal therapist, great video as usual
Really needed to hear this. I made a huge mistake re work and i cant stop worrying about losing my job, being kicked out of my house and never finding another job
I hear you, Roland. I heard someone talk about this catastrophising and they encouraged people to ask, “What proof do you have that these thoughts are true or likely?” I guess it is that we should call out these thoughts for being irrational and driven by fear.
Hang in there…
one of the most elaborate and eloquent video out there on overthinking! thank you so much
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No matter how many times I hear that most things are out of your control,
even though I know this for a fact to be true,
I *Just. Can't. Accept it.*
for some reason I'm just *ABSOLUTELY* bull headed on this one, even though it's *obvious.*
I hate feeling like I'm just a leaf in the wind,
but letting go of this need to feel like there's anything I can do
has been one of the most difficult things of my life.
Dude, thank you so much really, you have no idea how much your content is helping me go through each day right now.
Love you dude. It gets better, just keep moving forward
Thanks!
Thank you Drake!
I just needed this video, i don't know if you have the idea that you're literally saving lifes of a lot of people, thank you so muuuuch ♡
Dude, you have just described my whole life.