"Only some men will want to learn what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you. Admit they do not have the answers they thought they would by now." Damn that's gorgeous
@@pleaseenteryournamehere9593 It is actually pretty common to use metaphors when talking about women. The most common one I have seen is calling a woman an "angel" or a "princess". While the intent is usually to bring up a woman, make her feel treasured and loved, it can often time lead to a sense of unworthiness. Being an angel means being blameless and pure, and we are just as capable of making mistakes as men. Being a princess implies being proper, and beautiful, and polite and many of us fall short of that standard. When it seems like the people around you see you like this amazing, surreal being of beauty, it can make you feel like a fraud. Like you don't live up. When she says "you are not made of metaphors", she is saying that the metaphors people use for you do not define you. You can be messy. You can be imperfect. You are so much more than an "angel" or a "princess". You are real, skin and bones, hair and sweat.
Proof that you can deliver a truly moving and beautiful slam poem without screaming at the top of your lungs. It's almost more poignant and powerful being quiet and humble as it is.
Hey guys I've been writing for a couple of years as a hobby and I'm just starting to upload my stuff to a poetry blog. It's very amateur stuff at the moment but hopefully with a few pointers and some feedback I can get better. I would love all feedback positive and negative. If you'd like to check it out here's the link pandorapoetry.blogspot.com.au/. Thanks :)
JEEVY193 Poetry is about self expression; you are not one to police people's emotions. If someone wants to shout it is no less powerful or wrong then when someone speaks quietly.
Myishen Haines Oh of course, I'm not saying people shouldn't shout at all, sometimes the nature of the piece demands it. I'm just saying I appreciate the peacefulness of this particular one.
Comparing love to an ocean is the best way I could ever describe it. It is salty and it burns, but it is beautiful. When you are in the ocean if you stay still and don't fight the current you float, but if you rush you go under, your eyes sting, and you step out of the water. *snapping*
Daniel Hobgen I kinda agree, but I have a feeling that 'salty' rather refers to sweat and 'gasping' to heavy breathing after an orgasm. I think the deeper meaning is sexual, but in a meaning of women discovering herself sexually. Plus the only place (or at least the only one I've seen doing it) in which ejaculating on her face can be called 'ceremonially finishing sex' is porn. It doesn't fit in the picture in my opinion
Aga396, I didn't interpret this poem as sexual or as being explicitly about sexual metaphors. I do not believe that that is Sarah Kay's style based on the poems she has performed. Everyone can have their own opinion and interpretation though, that is one of the things that makes the world go around. Regards, Sam Sutlive.
I like this poem very much but this line - it sounds good but what does it mean? Of course a woman's body is not made of metaphors. But that body has always been the stuff of metaphors and metaphors have always been the stuff of poetry.
@@elainedenuevo2011 What I interpret this to mean is that you shouldn't just fall for the sweet talk and the poetry, 'You are not made of metaphors' is like saying you are more than what they say you are. Being a woman is more than what they think. But that's just my interpretation and if you don't enjoy that line it's fine :) Hope this helped in some way?
@@elainedenuevo2011 I take it to mean that women are made of more than just the sweet fluff that everyone tells them they are. It seems like she is calling women to appreciate every part of themselves from the most beautiful to the most grity parts and realize the idea that women are just sweet and soft and beautiful is not the real them. It sounded like she was calling women to take an honest look at themselves and the fake ideals others put on them and realize that those ideals aren't real. At least that was my take and I personally love the imagery.
This poem has raised me. Heard it for the first time at 18, and every year I've had experiences that has led me exactly back to this point - I have always been the place.
@@tshegimore3587 this poem has raised me too! I’m so glad someone said this I’ve been watching it ever since I was 15 and I still find myself here! Such a powerful message for the truly introspective 💯
Women deserve to realise that we aren't only a body that has to be looked at and not the only thing a person can explore is our bodies. Explore our mind, our facial features, our personality traits. A compliment on a rare quality is more special than a comment on how our body looks in a dress that we are wearing.
Rebecca Riley or maybe just not a thing to be explored, body or mind. We don't have to be 'something' for 'someone'.we can just be. ... or I understand it that way 🤓❤️
It’s been years since this poem came out, i listen to it every year since i was 18, every year it teaches me something new. Explains a lot. The older i get the more i understand it
"It is hard to stop loving the ocean, Even after it’s left you gasping, salty. So forgive yourself for the decisions you’ve made, The ones you still call mistakes when you tuck them in at night,"
This poem means so much to me, and one line in particular stuck out to me, "You are not made of metaphors." I finally decided to get it tattooed on my arm and I am so much happier to have these powerful words on my body. Thank you Sarah.
Also to me it means, you are not a concept, or an idea. You are not a poem, or a stylistic device to be used by the men in your life to provide them with depth or meaning. You are a human being, you are a woman.
My interpretation for the mirror part is that they are not your reflection, you are not them - they are who they are and you are who you are. Do not see yourself in them. They may be familiar but they are not the same. The windows part got me into two moods. One, using them to reach out somewhere else, someplace better, someone better. Two, they are like an escape when all the doors are locked, going through them and seeing the light, finding a way, gasping for fresh air after suffocating in a closed house (as in a way out of depression). Would love more input!
The way I understand is taken from "Eyes are windows to the soul", they - the eyes of men - are thought to reflect their lust, but this may not be true, as men may look to adore a beauty, and that only.
I think this is my favourite poem. I cannot tell how many times I've played this video over the past few years. I feel like this poem saved my life, and it's still saving it.
I Didn't Know What To Write Here Just because you love someone doesn't mean they love you. Just because someone loves you doesn't mean they're loving you in the way you need.
I Didn't Know What To Write Here Love does that, it's not perfect or guaranteed, and not everyone will get it, but love sometimes is real so it's not always a sad thing.
Spoken word matters because I'm pretty sure I have this in her book, No Matter The Wreckage but it is absolutely different and touching when the poet speaks it.
She came to my school and recited this poem, along with a love letter from a tooth brush to a bicycle tire, private parts, and Montauk. She was honestly so fantastic and I had the chance to talk to her after... She's such a wonderful and inspiring person. I'm so grateful I had that opportunity.
+Daniel Felix basically she's telling women they don't have to be anything for a man/partner. you can be beautiful and sexy and let them love you but that doesn't define you. what they think about you doesn't define you as a woman. or at least that's what I think she's saying
love sarah kay (and phil kaye too!) her delivery is always on point-- she doesn't have to yell to be heard, and she always sounds like an old friend, speaking directly to you.
“you are not the answer” is hurting but what’s hurting is when “you are no longer the answer”.. it hurts a lot when we lost something that’s so dear for us for so long
I love this poem. And this poet. If I hadn't seen her TED Talk in 2011, I might never have learned about spoken word, and would never have thought that maybe I could write it. And now I've written almost fifty poems (39 in 2014, 7 so far in 2015). And for that I am eternally grateful. I'm still trying to find my voice and how best to go about performing my poems, but this channel and the varied voices in it make all the difference. And Sara Kay's voice is the one that started it all for me.
I consider myself to be a film fanatic. I've watched a lot of deep, emotional, Oscar-winning movies, and never shed a tear. But two minutes into this, I was just gone
I've spent half an hour searching for this poem just because this "it is hard" part was stuck in my head and I wasn't sure where I heard it. Honestly I could listen to it on repeat. The entire performance is so calm yet so strong and full of emotions. I love it.
I love the image created when she says, "Only some men will want to know what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you." I love how not only does it go along with the idea of men evolving and how hard it still feels to stand up straight, but also how it plays along with the line saying how they want to hold you like the answer. The whole poem was just full of beautiful structured lines. Just wow; I loved it.
This moved me to tears. Im going to listen to this whenever I feel like cutting... because it reminds what it means to be a woman. And it makes me feel like its time to start building again. Thank you for exsisting... thank you.
YES! too many times I want to fit into the type of woman a man looks for, someone beautiful, educated, talented, careful. But I am not those things or i am those things but in my own right. No man can define me, I can only define myself... that is what they mean by you can only find love if you truly love yourself.
i love watching such a recent performance of this poem. sarah's rendition is now more mature and it makes you appreciate what she may have gone through since, or just generally her improvement as a performer.
Ha, just coming back to this poem after having referred to it in a conversation with my friend. Seeing I love it just as much as the 9 years ago when i first posted a comment that says, "LOVE"
If you grow up the type of woman men want to look at, You can let them look at you. But do not mistake eyes for hands or windows or mirrors. Let them see what a woman looks like. They may have not ever seen one before. If you grow up the type of woman men want to touch, You can let them touch you. Sometimes, it is not you they are reaching for. Sometimes it is a bottle, a door, a sandwich, a Pulitzer - another woman. But their hands found you first. Do not mistake yourself for a guardian or a muse or a promise or a victim or a snack. You are a woman - skin and bones, veins and nerves, hair and sweat. You are not made out of metaphors, not apologies, not excuses. If you grow up the type of woman men want to hold, You can let them hold you. All day they practice keeping their bodies upright. Even after all this evolving it still feels unnatural. Still strains the muscles, hold firms the arms and spine. Only some men will want to learn what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you, Admit they do not have the answers they thought they would by now. Some men will want to hold you like the answer. You are not the answer. You are not the problem. You are not the poem or the punch-line or the riddle or the joke. Woman, if you grow up the type men want to love, You can let them love you. Being loved is not the same thing as loving. When you fall in love, it is discovering the ocean after years of puddle jumping. It is realizing you have hands. It is reaching for the tightrope when the crowds have all gone home. Do not spend time wondering if you are the type of women men will hurt. If he leaves you with a car alarm heart, you learn to sing along. It is hard to stop loving the ocean even after it has left you gasping - "salty." So forgive yourself for the decisions you've made. The ones you still call mistakes when you tuck them in at night and know this: Know you are the type of woman who is searching for a place to call yours. Let the statues crumble. You have always been the place. You are a woman who can build it yourself. You are born to build.
I first watched this five years ago and it has stayed with me ever since. Recently I found myself watching videos of Sarah's spoken word poetry again and tonight I decided to watch this. It's amazing how this becomes more meaningful as time goes by. I hope every woman gets to watch this to remind them how amazing they are. 💙💙💙
Some people, very few mind you can really write Sarah is one of those few that is gifted in the art of allowing language to bloom into something lovely touching and at times quite unexpected.
Her words are full of wisdom and courage, you can see through her eyes the power of the poem. In my opinion the poem it's really about the love and how it rules us.
.... I listen to this poem on repeat every night to go to sleep. The sentences "You are NOT the answer!" and "You are THE place - you have always been the place." make me brave. If you are reading this and know how to download this, please let me know!
Hi, i think there is a download web in google where you can donwload a youtube video. Just copy the link, and then go to Google. And write something like: convertor youtube to mp4. Put the link and enjoy:)
I love this. Being a woman is not just being successful or strong or stoic. It is about knowing to be vulnerable, to be trusting, accepting, and caring. It is about loving someone and accepting you can get hurt and still move on when you need to. And continue to believe in your own identity as unique, present, and special.
By far one of my favorite . Sarah kay is amazing her voice and the way her speech flows but. the ways she talks with her hands . is what interest me. Thank you Sarah Kay
How do I reach her to personally tell her how much her poetry has inspired me. And how amazed I am because she explained everything that I couldn't put in words in 4 minutes.
I must say I needed to her this today, my first introduction to Sarah was 'when love arrives' , and that seems a lifetime ago but she's amazing and her writing just gets better 😍 thank you!
"It is hard to stop loving the ocean even though it has left you gasping, salty"
damn. i cried.
army errrrrrwere
same
Man how did you even recognise the photo, the picture is so tiny x)
RhythmAddictedState bc Army's recognise bts stuff instantly 😂😂😂
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Her voice is so relaxing. She's my favourite. Can't get enough.
I can second that!
Fantastic.
Tear.
Cassie Maay ZOMBIESCEKS yes, and she performs beautifuly and her poems are all so touching and.. just lovely
Cassie Maay ZOMBIESCEKS I KNOW THE POEM WASNT EVEN THE MAIN THING I LOVED IT WAS HER VOICE!!
I was just saying this then I looked at the comments
"Only some men will want to learn what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you. Admit they do not have the answers they thought they would by now." Damn that's gorgeous
Laura B agree!!!!!
Laura B Read this comment as she was saying it.
I heard this poem years ago and slowly forgot most of it, but that line was always what stuck with me the most
Hey, can you please explain it?
@Anna Fisher Thank you Anna
"you are not metaphors." man, I wish someone had told me this while I was growing up.
I don't get it.....
+Emine Gündüz you're not compared to. Metaphors and similies compare things to other things.
Belinda Sacco well who told you are a metaphor? Wth
Katrina Caluza is this a girl issue? Im confused
@@pleaseenteryournamehere9593 It is actually pretty common to use metaphors when talking about women. The most common one I have seen is calling a woman an "angel" or a "princess". While the intent is usually to bring up a woman, make her feel treasured and loved, it can often time lead to a sense of unworthiness.
Being an angel means being blameless and pure, and we are just as capable of making mistakes as men. Being a princess implies being proper, and beautiful, and polite and many of us fall short of that standard. When it seems like the people around you see you like this amazing, surreal being of beauty, it can make you feel like a fraud. Like you don't live up.
When she says "you are not made of metaphors", she is saying that the metaphors people use for you do not define you. You can be messy. You can be imperfect. You are so much more than an "angel" or a "princess". You are real, skin and bones, hair and sweat.
The day she starts narrating books is the day I will never put down my headphones. ❤️
Beautiful
Yes
She speaks so softly, i will never understand how she does that with her voice❤😂
She has her poetry book "No Matter the Wreckage" on Audible. I feel the same way, and immediately purchased it. I could listen to her all day.
Much needed
Proof that you can deliver a truly moving and beautiful slam poem without screaming at the top of your lungs. It's almost more poignant and powerful being quiet and humble as it is.
Hey guys I've been writing for a couple of years as a hobby and I'm just starting to upload my stuff to a poetry blog. It's very amateur stuff at the moment but hopefully with a few pointers and some feedback I can get better. I would love all feedback positive and negative. If you'd like to check it out here's the link pandorapoetry.blogspot.com.au/. Thanks :)
JEEVY193 Poetry is about self expression; you are not one to police people's emotions. If someone wants to shout it is no less powerful or wrong then when someone speaks quietly.
Myishen Haines Oh of course, I'm not saying people shouldn't shout at all, sometimes the nature of the piece demands it. I'm just saying I appreciate the peacefulness of this particular one.
i agree, she is my favourite
Imagine how humble it would be if it was just on the page
Comparing love to an ocean is the best way I could ever describe it. It is salty and it burns, but it is beautiful. When you are in the ocean if you stay still and don't fight the current you float, but if you rush you go under, your eyes sting, and you step out of the water. *snapping*
You should write and post your creations! beautiful words...
Daniel Hobgen I kinda agree, but I have a feeling that 'salty' rather refers to sweat and 'gasping' to heavy breathing after an orgasm. I think the deeper meaning is sexual, but in a meaning of women discovering herself sexually.
Plus the only place (or at least the only one I've seen doing it) in which ejaculating on her face can be called 'ceremonially finishing sex' is porn. It doesn't fit in the picture in my opinion
+Aga396 I don't think that if the deeper meaning of the poem was sexual that she would preform it in schools.
Aga396,
I didn't interpret this poem as sexual or as being explicitly about sexual metaphors. I do not believe that that is Sarah Kay's style based on the poems she has performed. Everyone can have their own opinion and interpretation though, that is one of the things that makes the world go around.
Regards,
Sam Sutlive.
Sometimes you can love and be loved, and sex is secondary to human connection.
I like how I don't understand every line, and yet still leave feeling stunned by the message.
"You are a women. Skin and bones. Veins and nerves. Hair and sweat. You are not made of metaphors."
I like this poem very much but this line - it sounds good but what does it mean? Of course a woman's body is not made of metaphors. But that body has always been the stuff of metaphors and metaphors have always been the stuff of poetry.
@@elainedenuevo2011 What I interpret this to mean is that you shouldn't just fall for the sweet talk and the poetry, 'You are not made of metaphors' is like saying you are more than what they say you are. Being a woman is more than what they think. But that's just my interpretation and if you don't enjoy that line it's fine :) Hope this helped in some way?
@@elainedenuevo2011 I take it to mean that women are made of more than just the sweet fluff that everyone tells them they are. It seems like she is calling women to appreciate every part of themselves from the most beautiful to the most grity parts and realize the idea that women are just sweet and soft and beautiful is not the real them. It sounded like she was calling women to take an honest look at themselves and the fake ideals others put on them and realize that those ideals aren't real. At least that was my take and I personally love the imagery.
@@jasminreyes1278 yes! I think you described it beautifully :)
This is about the contradictions of existence.
When she said 'forgive yourself' I just broke down. Thank you for this it's beautiful.
This poem has raised me. Heard it for the first time at 18, and every year I've had experiences that has led me exactly back to this point - I have always been the place.
@@tshegimore3587 this poem has raised me too! I’m so glad someone said this I’ve been watching it ever since I was 15 and I still find myself here! Such a powerful message for the truly introspective 💯
Same.
I could listen to her voice until I die.
She has a soothing voice like an ocean wave drifting over me.
Women deserve to realise that we aren't only a body that has to be looked at and not the only thing a person can explore is our bodies. Explore our mind, our facial features, our personality traits. A compliment on a rare quality is more special than a comment on how our body looks in a dress that we are wearing.
Rebecca Riley or maybe just not a thing to be explored, body or mind. We don't have to be 'something' for 'someone'.we can just be. ... or I understand it that way 🤓❤️
It’s been years since this poem came out, i listen to it every year since i was 18, every year it teaches me something new. Explains a lot. The older i get the more i understand it
so amazing that you have a poem you keep coming back to this year after year ❤️🩹
"When you fall in love it is discovering the ocean after years of puddle jumping." God damn.
I come back to this video every few years. I think it’s still my favorite poem to this day.
"It is hard to stop loving the ocean,
Even after it’s left you gasping, salty.
So forgive yourself for the decisions you’ve made,
The ones you still call mistakes when you tuck them in at night,"
This poem means so much to me, and one line in particular stuck out to me, "You are not made of metaphors." I finally decided to get it tattooed on my arm and I am so much happier to have these powerful words on my body. Thank you Sarah.
Hey, I am planning to get one too! Can I see yours?
What does that mean? I wanna relate too!
lolipopscandy62 Metaphors are things compared to other things. So I think it's saying that you shouldn't be compared to other people. :)
Also to me it means, you are not a concept, or an idea. You are not a poem, or a stylistic device to be used by the men in your life to provide them with depth or meaning. You are a human being, you are a woman.
yes I agree with your interpretation much more
My interpretation for the mirror part is that they are not your reflection, you are not them - they are who they are and you are who you are. Do not see yourself in them. They may be familiar but they are not the same. The windows part got me into two moods. One, using them to reach out somewhere else, someplace better, someone better. Two, they are like an escape when all the doors are locked, going through them and seeing the light, finding a way, gasping for fresh air after suffocating in a closed house (as in a way out of depression). Would love more input!
Your interpretation gets to me so much. "Do not see yourself in them". Thats what I would always do, until I couldn't separate myself from them :(
The way I understand is taken from "Eyes are windows to the soul", they - the eyes of men - are thought to reflect their lust, but this may not be true, as men may look to adore a beauty, and that only.
I think this is my favourite poem. I cannot tell how many times I've played this video over the past few years. I feel like this poem saved my life, and it's still saving it.
Do not mistake eyes for hands or mirrors
She has another poem called hands
I'll check it out thanks
tylerrjoseph do that it's great
what does it mean? hands as in... hands reaching out to help you. mirrors to the soul?
Majda Lemon I think so yeah, idk what it means to her but I basically made my own meaning
When you fall in love, it is discovering the ocean after years of puddle jumping.
"you are not the answer. you are not the problem." this is something i wished i was told when i was younger
we are so glad you are here!!
"If he leaves you with a car alarm heart, you will learn to sing along."
MissPandaYeya ♡♡♡♡ yessss
Whats you instagram account ? You look so beautiful i dont wanna miss this beauty
Definitely felt this line!
"there is a difference between loving and being loved." I get that
I didn't quite get this part very well - could you elaborate?
I Didn't Know What To Write Here
Just because you love someone doesn't mean they love you. Just because someone loves you doesn't mean they're loving you in the way you need.
Fayedrea Rose2
That makes me very sad:(
I Didn't Know What To Write Here
Love does that, it's not perfect or guaranteed, and not everyone will get it, but love sometimes is real so it's not always a sad thing.
Fayedrea Rose2
Do you think true love exists?
Spoken word matters because I'm pretty sure I have this in her book, No Matter The Wreckage but it is absolutely different and touching when the poet speaks it.
"being loved is not the same thing as loving"
She came to my school and recited this poem, along with a love letter from a tooth brush to a bicycle tire, private parts, and Montauk. She was honestly so fantastic and I had the chance to talk to her after... She's such a wonderful and inspiring person. I'm so grateful I had that opportunity.
she twists words like no other... so simple to send chill down to ur spine ...
she makes me listen to her more n more... 👍👍👍
but what does it meannnnnn???!!?
+Daniel Felix basically she's telling women they don't have to be anything for a man/partner. you can be beautiful and sexy and let them love you but that doesn't define you. what they think about you doesn't define you as a woman. or at least that's what I think she's saying
+haily mitchell She wrote this poem for a friend who was in an abusive relationship, hope this gives some extra context!
This poem came to mind the other day, about 7 years after I first heard it and 5 since I last. It still makes me cry. Thank you Sarah Kay for this
love sarah kay (and phil kaye too!) her delivery is always on point-- she doesn't have to yell to be heard, and she always sounds like an old friend, speaking directly to you.
This poem almost made me cry. So beautiful.
yeah me the same
“you are not the answer” is hurting but what’s hurting is when “you are no longer the answer”.. it hurts a lot when we lost something that’s so dear for us for so long
I comeback to this piece of art after years from secondary school to just finished university, as a girl this is the most beautiful thing i have heard
Sarah Kay - Digital healer =)
@@ButtonPoetry omggg that is so true with such a poetic channel
Her children will never get tired of her voice. So beautiful and soothing
This has been one of my favorite poems for years now, but this year. . .right now it has new meaning to me and I can't stop crying.
I love this poem. And this poet. If I hadn't seen her TED Talk in 2011, I might never have learned about spoken word, and would never have thought that maybe I could write it. And now I've written almost fifty poems (39 in 2014, 7 so far in 2015). And for that I am eternally grateful. I'm still trying to find my voice and how best to go about performing my poems, but this channel and the varied voices in it make all the difference. And Sara Kay's voice is the one that started it all for me.
Sarah Kay inspired me to start performing poetry too! She has a very special way with her words.
i discovered slam poetry with her tedtalks video as well!
I'll never get tired of Sarah Kay. Ever. She's been a favorite of mine since I first heard "Hands."
Whenever I feel that my world is crushing down, I always find myself watching this.
"You can let them look at you" - I love the way she delivers the second line. Fascinating.
Her voice is so soothing and her words are so powerful. The contrast helps me fall asleep at night.
Every time it gets to the end I cry. “Let the statues crumble. You have always been
The place.”
Her voice is poetry in itself...
Yessss
her voice is so calming. i love it
I consider myself to be a film fanatic. I've watched a lot of deep, emotional, Oscar-winning movies, and never shed a tear. But two minutes into this, I was just gone
She is truly a living Master of poetry - so much of quality, dignity and integrity. Loving her and her art so much
I've spent half an hour searching for this poem just because this "it is hard" part was stuck in my head and I wasn't sure where I heard it. Honestly I could listen to it on repeat. The entire performance is so calm yet so strong and full of emotions. I love it.
2023 and I'm still amazed by her performance.
2023 and she is still amazing =) Makes sense!
@@ButtonPoetry Indeed. One of my go to video during the pandemic era. Sarah Kay is a Hero. ❤️
Her voice is so soft... Wow. Great poem.
I love the image created when she says, "Only some men will want to know what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you." I love how not only does it go along with the idea of men evolving and how hard it still feels to stand up straight, but also how it plays along with the line saying how they want to hold you like the answer. The whole poem was just full of beautiful structured lines. Just wow; I loved it.
Love how I feel the expression from the depths of her every time she speaks. Thank you for every word you speak Sarah Kay.
This moved me to tears. Im going to listen to this whenever I feel like cutting... because it reminds what it means to be a woman. And it makes me feel like its time to start building again. Thank you for exsisting... thank you.
YES! too many times I want to fit into the type of woman a man looks for, someone beautiful, educated, talented, careful. But I am not those things or i am those things but in my own right. No man can define me, I can only define myself... that is what they mean by you can only find love if you truly love yourself.
i love watching such a recent performance of this poem. sarah's rendition is now more mature and it makes you appreciate what she may have gone through since, or just generally her improvement as a performer.
"It is hard to stop loving the ocean, even after it has left you, gasping, salty".
Ha, just coming back to this poem after having referred to it in a conversation with my friend. Seeing I love it just as much as the 9 years ago when i first posted a comment that says, "LOVE"
"It is difficult to stop loving the ocean even if it has left you gasping." That hit hard
& I will forever come back to this when I feel overwhelmed 🙏🏾🥹❤
ah, sarah Kay. my first slam poetry love.
She is one of my favorite spoken word poets. Her words are beautiful and I love how she performs the poems, with that relaxing voice
She's so soft speaking it amazing
Peachy Cheeks fuck you!!!!
You liked me!!!!
whats a better way to celebrate national poetry day than to listen to one of your favourite poems. Gotta love sarah kay!!
Favorite line: "It is hard to stop loving the ocean, even after it has left you gasping..." So deep thank you Sarah ❤️
❤
*snaps alone in bedroom at 12 am while binge watching Sarah Kay’s poetry slams*
Joya Trif MOOD
I love when poets recite poems at ease 😭❤
I have loved this poem since it came out 9 years ago. But it's taken on new meaning for me since I broke up with an abusive girlfriend a week ago
If you grow up the type of woman men want to look at,
You can let them look at you.
But do not mistake eyes for hands or windows or mirrors.
Let them see what a woman looks like.
They may have not ever seen one before.
If you grow up the type of woman men want to touch,
You can let them touch you.
Sometimes, it is not you they are reaching for.
Sometimes it is a bottle, a door, a sandwich, a Pulitzer - another woman.
But their hands found you first.
Do not mistake yourself for a guardian or a muse or a promise or a victim or a snack.
You are a woman - skin and bones, veins and nerves, hair and sweat.
You are not made out of metaphors, not apologies, not excuses.
If you grow up the type of woman men want to hold,
You can let them hold you.
All day they practice keeping their bodies upright.
Even after all this evolving it still feels unnatural.
Still strains the muscles, hold firms the arms and spine.
Only some men will want to learn what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you,
Admit they do not have the answers they thought they would by now.
Some men will want to hold you like the answer.
You are not the answer.
You are not the problem.
You are not the poem or the punch-line or the riddle or the joke.
Woman, if you grow up the type men want to love,
You can let them love you.
Being loved is not the same thing as loving.
When you fall in love, it is discovering the ocean after years of puddle jumping.
It is realizing you have hands.
It is reaching for the tightrope when the crowds have all gone home.
Do not spend time wondering if you are the type of women men will hurt.
If he leaves you with a car alarm heart, you learn to sing along.
It is hard to stop loving the ocean even after it has left you gasping - "salty."
So forgive yourself for the decisions you've made.
The ones you still call mistakes when you tuck them in at night and know this:
Know you are the type of woman who is searching for a place to call yours.
Let the statues crumble.
You have always been the place.
You are a woman who can build it yourself.
You are born to build.
I first watched this five years ago and it has stayed with me ever since. Recently I found myself watching videos of Sarah's spoken word poetry again and tonight I decided to watch this. It's amazing how this becomes more meaningful as time goes by. I hope every woman gets to watch this to remind them how amazing they are. 💙💙💙
Some people, very few mind you can really write Sarah is one of those few that is gifted in the art of allowing language to bloom into something lovely touching and at times quite unexpected.
All these years, and still this poem brings the same emotions.
I remember the first time u heard this poem. I had really didn't like but ever since then when I heard it I started to understand more and more...
"it is HAARD to stop loving the ocean"
The emotion dripping from that word is incredible
Her words and delivery are so beautiful.
I love Sarah Kay. Her quiet assurance is so different from anything else out there right now. It demands space without dominating it.
Her words are full of wisdom and courage, you can see through her eyes the power of the poem. In my opinion the poem it's really about the love and how it rules us.
I was in tears at 3:00. Her voice is soothing yet powerful. I felt like she was speaking to my life lol
"Forgive yourself for the decision you have made. "
Ily Sarah! ❤️
I have come back to this poem so many times through the years and each time it speaks to me differently.
.... I listen to this poem on repeat every night to go to sleep. The sentences "You are NOT the answer!" and "You are THE place - you have always been the place." make me brave. If you are reading this and know how to download this, please let me know!
Hi, i think there is a download web in google where you can donwload a youtube video. Just copy the link, and then go to Google. And write something like: convertor youtube to mp4. Put the link and enjoy:)
I love this. Being a woman is not just being successful or strong or stoic. It is about knowing to be vulnerable, to be trusting, accepting, and caring. It is about loving someone and accepting you can get hurt and still move on when you need to. And continue to believe in your own identity as unique, present, and special.
I love her voice and her poem
I haven't heard this poem in about two or three years, it's restored some faith in me coming across it again feeling disconnected with myself
I’m reading The Type from the book and listening to her soothing voice... this is so peaceful
And she is still one of my favorite poets ever. Absolutely wonderful.
her voice is so calm and soothing
By far one of my favorite . Sarah kay is amazing her voice and the way her speech flows but. the ways she talks with her hands . is what interest me. Thank you Sarah Kay
Her voice and poetry are beautiful, I could listen to this all day
I am just captivated every time Sarah Kay recites poetry.
Still here after these years, listening to this beautiful piece.❤️
I've recently discovered Spoken Word as a freshman in high school. This is a new passion that I can't seem to get enough of. Thank you Sarah
You get to really understand and feel this poem when you have officially hit rock bottom.
I love how she always starts with "You can...". Points out that it should always be consensual.
How do I reach her to personally tell her how much her poetry has inspired me. And how amazed I am because she explained everything that I couldn't put in words in 4 minutes.
2023 I’m still coming back here 🥰
**melts**
her voice. i'd love to hear it every day. for the rest of my life. god, i'm crying.
Some interesting lines in this piece.
what does it mean?
“sometimes it is not you they are reaching for” 🙌
When I need to calm down I always come to Sarah Kay's poetry.
She is so amazing!!
I must say I needed to her this today, my first introduction to Sarah was 'when love arrives' , and that seems a lifetime ago but she's amazing and her writing just gets better 😍
thank you!