That’s the great thing about being retired, my job now is waking up, eat breakfast and play video games. I have nowhere to be, and no real responsibility anymore; except gaming.
For a long time i found this to be very true, but now i'm older and my body starts to get weak.. sadly this quote no longer is fitting/ good. You'll see.
Totally feel this, do I play a possibly very exciting new game and broaden my gaming horizons, or do I settle in to a comfort game and get some real chill time with a classic?
43 and still gaming. Challenges : Being to tired to game. Possible future decline in hearing and vision. Possible future health issues. Prefences change with age and no new games that meet your taste. Other life responsibilities. Time running out so whether to spend gaming or engaging real life.
Preference change really sneaks up on you. I must have beat DMC 3 like 20 times in 2005-6, but still haven't played DMC5 (and really have no interest). It scares me a bit because I wonder whether this is what finally makes you stop gaming.
I keep telling myself I'll go back on my OMAD Carnivore diet to help stave off the aging/try to recover my body some amount. I just love pizza so much, though.
43 too. Got the same issues with the preference change and the feeling of time running out and where to spend it on. Although, not really change of preference, but rather that other genres got popular, so your genre doesn't get made that often (by bigger studios). And because there is so much unnecessary stuff added to games, that it isn't a 'pick up & game' mentality anymore (while yet they do too much handholding in games). And although I have been unemployed for years now (because of reasons out of my hands), you would think I have all the time in the world to game. But there is where that 'being productive' kreeps in. I just can't enjoy gaming anymore, because I constantly feel guilty I should be doing something else. I used to have so much energy. I could really fill those 24 hours in a day to the brink and still find time to game, still have enough time to rest. Now I wake up and it already feels like half the day has gone.
In my late 30s now I often experience serious cases of "The mind is willing, but the flesh is weak" when I have time to play, but I just can't be bothered to get up, walk over to my PS5, sit down and play. What happens instead is that I just watch random TH-cam videos that are recommanded to me until it's too late or not even the mind is willing anymore.
64 here and have been gaming since video games were created. I play some 2-6 hours a day. No longer work and can play all I want. I have experienced every single thing mentioned but let me add a new one that only old players know. I often finish an awesome game and hear that a sequel is in the works, BUT realization sets in that I might not live long enough to see it.
My solution (and it has worked for years now) is to always have a gaming plan for the next few months. Currently i've started replaying the Dragon Age trilogy in preparation for The Veilguard (because i need to live in that world for maximum immersion :), and i'm looking forward to Dragon Age 2 and Inquisition (my favorite - i think i will be playing this one in VR this time). By my projections i will be ready to play Veilguard by Christmas, and that way give it some time for bug squishing and price reductions as well.
O😮ooh, thanks for pointing that out,Rob writes these things so incredibly interestingly, that I am sure I am , often missing out on lots of brilliant intricacies,in each episode I view. Folks like you help.
As a kid you have no money for games but plenty of time. Now, I have the money and no time. I've still got PS3 games in my backlog that "I'll totally get to one day."
I’m 72 My grandkids don’t come around as much. And I understand. Didn’t play a video game until I was 47. This generation don’t understand how good they have it.✌️✌️
52 here and have gamed all my life. It was Fallout 4 that kinda got me thinking, when I was playing for about an hour with the build stuff, and it made me think, "should be doing this for real", Lolol. Kinda put me off a bit... Lolol Fallout 3 was an atmospheric work of art, very few games ever capture. Flashback in the 90s and Another World captured that, "mystique", that makes a great game, a legendary game.
I did this for a few weeks when Horizon and Tears of the Kingdom came out since the release dates were so close together. I’d wait for my boyfriend to go to work around 10pm (he hates when I game for hours, doesn’t understand how I can “waste time” like that), then I’d play until about 5am, sleep for two hours, be up around 7am to get to work for my 9-5. I realized I had a problem when new games come out because there’s so much to do and I get caught up in it. “Just one more main mission/side quests”.
What works for me is to tell myself to start winding down at 9pm. My watch reminds me at 10pm to go to sleep. That results in me getting into pajamas around 10pm and playing a game until around 11pm or so. Reading would be a better way to wind down. I did that before I built a new gaming rig. Time to revisit reading !
I used to have +10 hours gaming sessions when I was younger and really loved a game, but now I get exhausted after a measly 3-4 hour session in my 30s, no matter how much I love the game.
For sure, I'm 33 too, sometimes the kids fall asleep reasonably quick in the evening so I get a bit cocky and think I can push past the tiredness...only to wake up at 3-4am, stiff all over, back annihilated, controller still in hand, bathed in the harsh glow of the "controller disconnected" screen, followed by the clumsy stealth stumble to bed, cos if you wake everyone up, you gotta get em back to sleep.
Right. It seems like a choir. Even animal crossing seems like a choir. You got to go to the shop before they close, collect all the items and animals before the season is over, etc. Too much work.
I’m 43 and I felt all these. I would add trying to do online sessions with your mates and having to fight the urge to sleep. “But Dude, it’s only 9 pm! Why do you have to go to sleep now?”
46 here. I also can confirm everything is true. Some of us have almost NO free time on weekdays or even during the weekends because the family wants to do family stuff, there are plenty of chores, the occasional social event etc. Free time comes after 11pm when everyone's asleep, which means staying up until 1am+ if you want to have a decent gaming session which in turn means you are dead tired the next morning. If you don't do at least that every couple of days, you feel like you didn't do anything fun and start to feel bad about it. So the choice is to be either physically or mentally exhausted... Edit: Yes, this is #7 from that previous Friday Feature :)
this video is so relatable, even the yelling from someone (most likely your significant other) to do something "important" while you're just trying to enjoy playing video games on a weekend....they will never understand
This happens to me too,it doesn't matter if you do the so called productive thing you Will still feel that you should not play video games because according to society it's bad. You should just do what you want without putting so much thought into it
My wife and I had a good laugh about that, except ours is less yelling and more "babe? what doing? Babe? Were you on the toilet? Babe?Look at this? Babe? are you ok? babe? What do you think about this? Babe? I need help? Babe?" It's good to be loved 😮💨😁
A few of these problems are made worse by a lot of people not considering gaming a hobby. I just don't understand why catching up with Eastenders is acceptable use of free time, but running a Mass Effect mission isn't.
This! So many people that criticize gaming will happily sit and watch sitcoms or game shows for a couple hours every night. I just prefer interactive entertainment instead.
@@desertsax4839I had this same conversation with a colleague just the other night, wasn't gaming though, it was WWE smackdown, she was going on saying "how can you watch this, it's fake", my reply was "how can you watch EastEnders, Hollyoaks and love island". I closed off the discussion by saying "did I ask you to watch it 😊", 10 points for logical discussion finishers, see playing MMOs taught me to always have a proper finisher in your rotation 😂😂
I'm aged 28 and almost experiencing everything the list has mentioned. Also love your videos. I have uninstalled TH-cam from my mobile due to productivity reasons and due to that, I enjoy your videos on a big TV screen. Thanks for making these!
This video is hurtfuly true. This is actually a real problem that leads to real-life stress. Especially the point about wasting the whole weekend thinking about gaming instead of just gaming...
just hit 60, and my wife is finally trained to the point that after coming home, kissing her, rubbing the pups head, and spending five minutes listening to how her day went she inevitably says “go ahead and play your game”…. … Life is Good!!!
What your wife would say: I finally have hubby (I assume) trained enough that when he comes home he spends a few minutes listening to how my day went and then buggers off so I can enjoy the rest of my evening in peace.
I’m blessed with the same type of wife. One reason I never wanted to get married haha. I figured I’d have to wake up in the middle of the night and sneak a few minutes of a huge game. Just to get a text asking where I am. But no, life is good. She scrolls through mindless shorts and memes, sitting beside me, while I do my thing. Only problem is not being able to get as fully immersed. But oh well.
I'm 40 this year and doing well for myself, while many of my peers are ruining their lives financially and otherwise, having children and complaining almost non-stop about them and the choices they have made. Not to mention the ones who don't know how to have healthy relationships. I'm SO glad I'm not them!
Oddly enough I CAN find the time to watch an endless stream of video’s about peers not being able to find the time for playing videogames🤯 You had me laughing out loud btw, so I subscribed!
These are spot on! Also, that desire to want to play a game you've already played, but time is so precious that you can't waste it on replays. As a kid you'd play the same games over and over.
But replaying a game is a known quantity/quality, you get exactly what you need/expect. Playing some new unknown game is a big risk if your time is precious. I tend to replay older games 80-90% of my time - still playing Unreal Gold and Quake regularly. :)
The solution is VR. Even better: you can play almost all (and in near future, all) flat games in VR with the help of tools like VorpX, SuperDepth3D, UEVR, and mods/ports from Team Beef, Praydog and Luke Ross.
53 and retired here. This is the first of your videos I've seen, and I thought it was fantastic. I was engaged and amused the whole way through. I actually put down my paint brush (painting toy soldiers is my other time suck) and paid attention! So much of what you said was spot on. The "didn't remember this cave or this armor (or these controls)" bit hit especially close to home, but that could easily be down to the vodka and beer. I used to crush games like Doom Eternal. Now I struggle to go two minutes without getting killed. These days things like Minecraft and Midnigt Suns (turn based!) are more my speed. It's not that I don't want to whip out the plasma blaster, speed potions, and jump packs, it's just that they are hard to use now without blowing myself up. Lol! Anyway, thanks for this video!
One problem that I've found about being a gamer and also being 43 years old: I've paid the bills, bought the kids' school supplies, bought groceries for the week, paid for the oil change in the car, put money into the savings for the vacation next summer, bought the curtains that the wife was in dire need of... and now I have enough money to buy a shovelware game that's on sale.
The amount of time I've wasted trying to figure out what game I want to play and flickering around the menu is probably enough time to have actually finished The Witcher 3.
I'm 32, I've been watching TH-cam since the ripe old age of 16 and let me tell you I have NEVER related to a video as much as I have with this one. I feel seen, Rob. Thank you
The one about going back to a game you haven't played in a while only to forget the controls, where you are, what you're doing, etc... yeah, i felt that one.
The older you get, the more you realize that money and owning stuff is less important, and enjoying your TIME however you choose to bring you a few moments of pure joy is priceless and cannot be replaced with anything material anyway.
I'm a 39 year old woman who is single and doesn't have kids so can't relate to most of these. However it means most of my friends don't game and conversations about what you were up to at the weekend can be a bit awkward 😄
I'm 46 years old, woman, single, no kids and yes downtime talk around friends become very very very interesting. I was at comic con and just being around the gaming section with fellow gamers was so much fun. I could talk bloody non stop 😂🤣 but around my friends I mostly listen and avoid speaking about gaming
I’m a 58, married, with kids, and I’m the main gamer. I have no other adult gaming friends because I’ve never found any other gamers in our town, especially females. I dragged my family to a gaming con last year. So yeah. Everyone imagines a man when they think gamer, including developers obviously. But we older/female gamers have money and passion.
I'm a 44 yr old single female and I am grateful to have found a kindred spirit 20 something who works at the local butcher. Most conversations start with "3lbs of bacon and how is Helldivers treating you?"
I'm 39f married with kids and I guarantee that if I ask you what you did this weekend it's to get the vicarious thrill of hearing about how much gaming you got done. 😂
My friend and I are in our mid-thirties, but he has kids. Whenever I manage to get him online, he goes to pieces when he realises that he has to do a tutorial before we can even begin. Then he falls asleep after an hour.
At 36 I have two kids and a wife. Most of my weekly free time is playing games with the kids or watching movies with the wife. Friday night's are set in stone, games usually start around 11pm and me and a few buddies get on discord and play until 4-5am. And it's awesome.
That's the thing isn't it!? You finally get free time and then feel like there's no point anymore because it's late. This gets worse when you actually had the whole day to play, but spent the time either deciding what to play, or on distractions like youtube.
You forgot, we don't have time to play long games anymore. I actually get excited when a game is 20hrs or less and on rails because I will be able to finish it!
I was above average at COD. Had a group we had at one point a 200 win streak going on one of them. Then I hit like 33 and noticed a drop in reflexes and didn't have the desire to rage anymore. I have stopped playing all online games since then.
I mean, don't argue. I get it, got into a disagreement with some idiot whining about a tutorial bit being too easy. When he called it 'bad game design', i just thought, you're not worth talking about this with'.
Rob might be getting worse at videogames, but he just can't stop getting better and better as a writer. He should have a side hustle indeed: his own channel!
Being 40 this speaks to me. The thinking about playing instead of actually playing is absolutely real. The saving grace is Actually laundry. While the clothes are washing, my gaming set up is not too far away. So while i'm waiting for the wash, I play the game, then put it in the dryer and wait for that.And that's me, gaming for the day or that time😅
For like a year, a playthrough of Stardew Valley made my laundry done more efficiently. I could time how many farm days is needed for the dryer to finish.
One of my favourite thing about this community is how a lot of us are older and have kids or jobs or other responsibilities that prevent us from playing games 100% of the time
i really needed to hear number 1 comment. i constantly feel guilty when i play when i just want to enjoy playing. even though i keep up with work and daily chores. hate the feeling
Oh that final entry just hurts! My friends and I have basically taken to emailing each other our weekly schedules, subject to change, in order to program online gaming sessions and only for a 2hr gaming session at that.
I'm 29 right now and I know exactly what you mean. Between cooking, watching dishes, trying to stay in shape, looking after my aging parents and supporting my siblings all the while I barely have time to play games anymore. Those blessed moments when I do are so much appreciated.😊
I'm loving this new round of Friday features. Not that I didn't love the earlier one but the fact that content for and about older gamers is being made is absolutely amazing. Gaming for partners, parents and now this! Rob gets me. Period.
All of these plus the "all my friends no longer game so I just play single player games" or the classic "i dont have room for a new game because my 8yo's games take up all the space" 😅
Great video Rob and the team, having just turned 40 and still gaming obsessed with 2 kid's, every point just hit right at home haha. Top class!! I would add 1 more thing, not having the time to play something myself and gaming vicariously through you guy's live stream vods and let's plays a half an hour at a time at 11pm or 10 minutes sitting in the fortress of solitude, the bathroom! 😁
Really glad I chose to click on this video. I love your sense of humor. Liked and subbed. That problem where you can't even remember how to play the game after stopping for a few weeks happens to me all the time :P
The choice paralysis is so real. 😭 Especially as disposable income increases, but time to play games decreases. I have literally close to a 100 games in my backlog across PS4, PS5, Switch and PC.
This actually really helps in some ways. I'm that annoying person in their 30s that still goes out and does things. Certain people want to be invited, but also never bother showing up. Now I video game, but it's later at night. I've completely given up on gaming with others online as again it's just too hard to sync up! Great video!
I really can't believe I haven't gotten a notification for you guys. I love these videos and for some reason TH-cam has decided I have to look to find them.
These lists have been so accurate to my life these past few months. Great work as always team. The choice paralysis one in particular I'm awful for. Even when I've chosen something I find myself not fully enjoying it because I'm thinking "... what if I'd be having more fun with that other game"
Hi Mr.Pearson (Dad?) , I wanted to formally say that this is my favourite episode of Friday features I've ever seen, and I'm pretty close to having seen them all, and considering the fact that I am 45 years young, have very little "free" time, as well. I laughed and I considered thinking about crying,all in a matter of 13 and a half minutes time, I'd say that emotionally Rob, that is a very good use of said,so called "free" time. Thanks for this little bit of yours and keep on making me consider crying,in the future of this magnificently written (Rob) series.
I think two that could be added. 1) You go through your game list to a game you played only for a few hours and do not remember why you stopped playing the game 2) You have an ever growing list of game you have bought but have not played yet and in some cases have not even downloaded because you don't have the time to complete a game before a sale pops up and you have bought the next game
Right? I don't have time to spend 2 hours on a game to feel like I've made 0 progress. I don't have time to get frustrated doing something that I'm supposed to be enjoing.
Just want say say thanks to Rob and the crew for the Friday features. You kept me laughing and motivated through platinuming DS I,II, soon to be III, and plat'ing Bloodborne. You're all awesome! P.S. I can't wait to get into armored core!
39, retired, living in the Philippines, playing ps5 with my fancy shmancy psvr2 and beaches only minutes away when I grow weary of gaming. I've arrived.
Yes. Very relatable. I'm in my mid 50's and been gaming since the days of the Speccy. Nowadays trying to get some me time to spend a bit of time escaping into a game for a bit is difficult as there is always something else to do. Not planning of getting rid of my PS5 as I want to see what GTA6 is like.
Love this video. Last one is so unfortunate. Also what I would add: Your about to play a game (or playing) and you get an 'urgent' call from a familiy member😂
The last one hits too hard for me lol. Been cancelling various multiplayer subscriptions, Xbox, ps plus etc because I just don't use them. Everyone's got kids, or dogs, or jobs. Might get one person free but 3 or 4 is a miracle
I'm 42 and I envy the kids how passionate people are about games, somewhere during the process of getting older the games somehow lost their substance for me. However seeing that spark in my kids do make me smile 😊
Don't have a second child. It's a trap. You just need to get your daughter safely off to college, and you get to relive your gaming 20s. Wow, Rob. You really understand my life. Games and chores.
This video is spot on. The only part I am envious of is having a whole weekend to even contemplate which game to play! At this point I would take even a couple of hours!
This video gazed directly into my soul. Especially the scrolling through the PS5 home screen and never actually playing anything. Why is it so hard?!??!
That’s the great thing about being retired, my job now is waking up, eat breakfast and play video games. I have nowhere to be, and no real responsibility anymore; except gaming.
You deserve it man! Enjoy life! Get platinums! Do it for us! 😂
Absolutely! Living the dream!
The DREAM!😍
Lucky you, I won't be able to retire for atleast 40 years😂 Least GTA 6 might be out though
Lucky basterd. Enjoy.
One of my all time fave quotes is by George Bernard Shaw.
"We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing."
And how old was he when he said it?
So a 90 yo grandpa can play Rugby ?
@@FatJackedNerd There are athletes in their 100's. 90yr's absolutely could play rugby with each other.
For a long time i found this to be very true, but now i'm older and my body starts to get weak.. sadly this quote no longer is fitting/ good. You'll see.
Yeah, I'm still playing alright. But, I'm not getting any younger.
the scrolling through the PS5 home screen considering which game to play and never actually getting round to any meaningful play time is so real.
Ughh yesss!
I'll start a game, all the while thinking "while I'm playing this game, I'm not playing that other game, which might be better than this game"
That one sort of hurt it was so real.
Totally feel this, do I play a possibly very exciting new game and broaden my gaming horizons, or do I settle in to a comfort game and get some real chill time with a classic?
I’ve transcended this by not evening turning on my PS5 and having the debate to actually play a game when I actually have free time.
Im 37 now and probably spend more time watching videos about old games and stuff than i do actually playing games.
Same age,same habits😅
I'm a D&D fan and I spend my time watching people play, rather than playing.
36 ... but Same... always waste time on youtube instead of playing D;
I used to do the same then I rebought consoles and older games because games today just feel like they're trying to force a way on me
yuup
43 and still gaming.
Challenges :
Being to tired to game.
Possible future decline in hearing and vision.
Possible future health issues.
Prefences change with age and no new games that meet your taste.
Other life responsibilities.
Time running out so whether to spend gaming or engaging real life.
Preference change really sneaks up on you. I must have beat DMC 3 like 20 times in 2005-6, but still haven't played DMC5 (and really have no interest). It scares me a bit because I wonder whether this is what finally makes you stop gaming.
I keep telling myself I'll go back on my OMAD Carnivore diet to help stave off the aging/try to recover my body some amount.
I just love pizza so much, though.
@@Aetheroth I can relate, just grateful for the opportunity and ability to game now, lots of fond memories, live long and game🙏❤️
43 too. Got the same issues with the preference change and the feeling of time running out and where to spend it on.
Although, not really change of preference, but rather that other genres got popular, so your genre doesn't get made that often (by bigger studios). And because there is so much unnecessary stuff added to games, that it isn't a 'pick up & game' mentality anymore (while yet they do too much handholding in games).
And although I have been unemployed for years now (because of reasons out of my hands), you would think I have all the time in the world to game. But there is where that 'being productive' kreeps in. I just can't enjoy gaming anymore, because I constantly feel guilty I should be doing something else.
I used to have so much energy. I could really fill those 24 hours in a day to the brink and still find time to game, still have enough time to rest. Now I wake up and it already feels like half the day has gone.
I work night shift so not like there's much real life to engage with when you're in your 40s and the only one awake at 3am.
In my late 30s now I often experience serious cases of "The mind is willing, but the flesh is weak" when I have time to play, but I just can't be bothered to get up, walk over to my PS5, sit down and play. What happens instead is that I just watch random TH-cam videos that are recommanded to me until it's too late or not even the mind is willing anymore.
I’m 33 and sometimes I just don’t have the energy and I do the same watch a billion you tube shorts lol
@@ryans413 Yeah, although it's less of no energy, but more of I don't wanna actively do something. Just watching a movie is good enough.
Doing that right now.
@@TonyRivera0206 Best way to spend a lazy sunday 👍
Yeap. Doing that right now, but my ps5 is on. It's just kinda sitting on the home screen 😂
64 here and have been gaming since video games were created. I play some 2-6 hours a day. No longer work and can play all I want. I have experienced every single thing mentioned but let me add a new one that only old players know. I often finish an awesome game and hear that a sequel is in the works, BUT realization sets in that I might not live long enough to see it.
Looking at you Elder Scrolls 6 and Fallout 5
😳😳😳
Ooooooo that's deep bro
That hits hard …
LMAO
My biggest obstacle is having enough energy to stay awake to play after taking care of work and home obligations 😴
I heard that
Big facts!
100%
Could not agree more... I gotta drink fresh pots for my one dedicated night of gaming on a Friday
💯💯💯
Choice paralysis is my nemesis, shuffling through a big game library and then resorting to just watching youtube :D
Oh, same! In fact it’s what I’m doing right now.
totally, watching reviews and gameplays is gaming 😂😅
My solution (and it has worked for years now) is to always have a gaming plan for the next few months. Currently i've started replaying the Dragon Age trilogy in preparation for The Veilguard (because i need to live in that world for maximum immersion :), and i'm looking forward to Dragon Age 2 and Inquisition (my favorite - i think i will be playing this one in VR this time). By my projections i will be ready to play Veilguard by Christmas, and that way give it some time for bug squishing and price reductions as well.
I'm retired and still game at 63, lol. I also find time to exercise, cook my meals, sleep and everything that I enjoy doing.
🫡 Respect due, sir. I’m a mere 52 and have no intention of giving up my favourite pastime.
Nice
Marriage, children?
"Stop being productive and start being." Words to live by.
O😮ooh, thanks for pointing that out,Rob writes these things so incredibly interestingly, that I am sure I am , often missing out on lots of brilliant intricacies,in each episode I view. Folks like you help.
As a mid 40's lifelong gamer, I feel this video deep down inside.
Exactly the same here! 😆
We're fighting a losing uphill battle! Sir. 😢
Same here 😅
It hit your сеrviх, huh?
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As a kid you have no money for games but plenty of time. Now, I have the money and no time. I've still got PS3 games in my backlog that "I'll totally get to one day."
Too true.
I'm still buying PS3/PSVita games too, I'm glad to see more people are on older PlayStation consoles.
I'll go back to finish Darksiders. Eventually...
I don’t remember typing this comment 😅
I just cranked up my 360 and realized my to do list is significant!
45 years old here. This guy hit the nail on the head perfectly! So true with every point!
My thoughts also. Started the video, thinking I wonder if I can relate to what he'll say. Left the video thinking, "Get out of my head." LOL
Don't agree with them all. Especially the skill one. I'm much better now than I was as a teenager.
I’m 70, love playing video games, especially Fallout 4, Witcher 3 and Elden Ring, just considering exchanging my PS4 for a PS5.
I’m 72 My grandkids don’t come around as much. And I understand. Didn’t play a video game until I was 47. This generation don’t understand how good they have it.✌️✌️
Do it ❤
52 here and have gamed all my life. It was Fallout 4 that kinda got me thinking, when I was playing for about an hour with the build stuff, and it made me think, "should be doing this for real", Lolol. Kinda put me off a bit... Lolol
Fallout 3 was an atmospheric work of art, very few games ever capture. Flashback in the 90s and Another World captured that, "mystique", that makes a great game, a legendary game.
Witcher 3 and Elden Ring, respect.
Yeah the PS5 is a must have now that there are finally great games for it.
Just turned 37 this month. Yes to everything you mentioned plus if I played way past my bedtime until the morning, it takes me 48hours to recover 😂😂😂
Wait! You can recover?
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I did this for a few weeks when Horizon and Tears of the Kingdom came out since the release dates were so close together. I’d wait for my boyfriend to go to work around 10pm (he hates when I game for hours, doesn’t understand how I can “waste time” like that), then I’d play until about 5am, sleep for two hours, be up around 7am to get to work for my 9-5. I realized I had a problem when new games come out because there’s so much to do and I get caught up in it. “Just one more main mission/side quests”.
i don’t dare dip my toes into that one…😂 and when i’m online with friends we end up chatting and instead of gaming 😅
What works for me is to tell myself to start winding down at 9pm. My watch reminds me at 10pm to go to sleep.
That results in me getting into pajamas around 10pm and playing a game until around 11pm or so.
Reading would be a better way to wind down. I did that before I built a new gaming rig. Time to revisit
reading !
I used to have +10 hours gaming sessions when I was younger and really loved a game, but now I get exhausted after a measly 3-4 hour session in my 30s, no matter how much I love the game.
For sure, I'm 33 too, sometimes the kids fall asleep reasonably quick in the evening so I get a bit cocky and think I can push past the tiredness...only to wake up at 3-4am, stiff all over, back annihilated, controller still in hand, bathed in the harsh glow of the "controller disconnected" screen, followed by the clumsy stealth stumble to bed, cos if you wake everyone up, you gotta get em back to sleep.
I think that's a healthy, normal development however, as one can simply have too much of a good thing. Moderation is key.
@@cptsteele91single and in my 20s but I still feel this comment, especially the groggy awakening bathed in blue menu light and stealth return to bed
Right. It seems like a choir. Even animal crossing seems like a choir. You got to go to the shop before they close, collect all the items and animals before the season is over, etc. Too much work.
This is good as well.
I’m 43 and I felt all these. I would add trying to do online sessions with your mates and having to fight the urge to sleep. “But Dude, it’s only 9 pm! Why do you have to go to sleep now?”
Because I sat back in my chair to stretch a little and realised how uncomfortable I am and how inviting my comfy bed looks
add timezones to the mix and things get dicey
Or having your wife tell you to vacuum the living room the second time since you start playing
Or being able to stay up, but having competing sleep schedules.
Or trying to do anything that has FOMO, I just spent each day dealing with tight schedules, I don't want to do it during my relax time.
46 here. I also can confirm everything is true.
Some of us have almost NO free time on weekdays or even during the weekends because the family wants to do family stuff, there are plenty of chores, the occasional social event etc. Free time comes after 11pm when everyone's asleep, which means staying up until 1am+ if you want to have a decent gaming session which in turn means you are dead tired the next morning.
If you don't do at least that every couple of days, you feel like you didn't do anything fun and start to feel bad about it.
So the choice is to be either physically or mentally exhausted...
Edit: Yes, this is #7 from that previous Friday Feature :)
Planning to play games on your day off, end up just "sleeping in" on that planned day.
This 👆 I remember I had a long weekend, planned which games to play, ended up sleeping 😅
Falling asleep at the menu screen has been the newest challenge lately
On the player stats menu... _"Just gonna do a really slow-blink here because my eyes feel a little powdery..."_
Is that the actual game menu or the console/pc menu? These games have too many menus.
@@souldom99 both haha
@@honah47lol… same! Also falling asleep during cut scenes or extended dialogue with NPCs.
lol I’m 33 and that’s me sometimes. I once fell asleep holding the controller never got past the main menu lol
this video is so relatable, even the yelling from someone (most likely your significant other) to do something "important" while you're just trying to enjoy playing video games on a weekend....they will never understand
If it's important then do it
@@rochie4865 my bad, that thing to do is something "important", meaning not actually important
How significant can this 'other' be if they won't let you play video games in peace I wonder?
This happens to me too,it doesn't matter if you do the so called productive thing you Will still feel that you should not play video games because according to society it's bad.
You should just do what you want without putting so much thought into it
My wife and I had a good laugh about that, except ours is less yelling and more "babe? what doing? Babe? Were you on the toilet? Babe?Look at this? Babe? are you ok? babe? What do you think about this? Babe? I need help? Babe?"
It's good to be loved 😮💨😁
A few of these problems are made worse by a lot of people not considering gaming a hobby. I just don't understand why catching up with Eastenders is acceptable use of free time, but running a Mass Effect mission isn't.
This! So many people that criticize gaming will happily sit and watch sitcoms or game shows for a couple hours every night. I just prefer interactive entertainment instead.
@@desertsax4839I had this same conversation with a colleague just the other night, wasn't gaming though, it was WWE smackdown, she was going on saying "how can you watch this, it's fake", my reply was "how can you watch EastEnders, Hollyoaks and love island". I closed off the discussion by saying "did I ask you to watch it 😊", 10 points for logical discussion finishers, see playing MMOs taught me to always have a proper finisher in your rotation 😂😂
Bloody fantastic point
All my friends don’t play games. I’ll I do is play games in my spare time . I love it . Gaming isn’t really popular at all tbh
People think gaming is fifa and COD that’s it
“I guess we’re starting from the beginning again.”
This is me whenever I come back to a game I haven’t played in I don’t even know how long. 😅
I'm aged 28 and almost experiencing everything the list has mentioned.
Also love your videos. I have uninstalled TH-cam from my mobile due to productivity reasons and due to that, I enjoy your videos on a big TV screen. Thanks for making these!
This video is hurtfuly true. This is actually a real problem that leads to real-life stress. Especially the point about wasting the whole weekend thinking about gaming instead of just gaming...
just hit 60, and my wife is finally trained to the point that after coming home, kissing her, rubbing the pups head, and spending five minutes listening to how her day went she inevitably says “go ahead and play your game”….
… Life is Good!!!
What your wife would say: I finally have hubby (I assume) trained enough that when he comes home he spends a few minutes listening to how my day went and then buggers off so I can enjoy the rest of my evening in peace.
Man as a female gamer, she's a keeper
My wife and I have a nice setup. We come home, watch local news, have dinner followed by an hour of videogames for me while she reads. Life is good!
I’m blessed with the same type of wife. One reason I never wanted to get married haha. I figured I’d have to wake up in the middle of the night and sneak a few minutes of a huge game. Just to get a text asking where I am. But no, life is good. She scrolls through mindless shorts and memes, sitting beside me, while I do my thing. Only problem is not being able to get as fully immersed. But oh well.
Only 28 years to go. I can do it
I'll be 41 this month.
It's all true. Every word. Every scenario.
Rob once again proving to be my spirit animal.
As a fellow 41 this month, I 100% agree. Happy Birthday when it gets here.
@@ff8fan266 Happy birthday to you, too!
Happy birthday 🎉 41 as well. Isn’t it great?!
im 41 this 25th 🎉 happy 41th birthday everyone
41 squad here. I level up in December again 🎉
I'm 40 this year and doing well for myself, while many of my peers are ruining their lives financially and otherwise, having children and complaining almost non-stop about them and the choices they have made. Not to mention the ones who don't know how to have healthy relationships. I'm SO glad I'm not them!
Oddly enough I CAN find the time to watch an endless stream of video’s about peers not being able to find the time for playing videogames🤯
You had me laughing out loud btw, so I subscribed!
These are spot on!
Also, that desire to want to play a game you've already played, but time is so precious that you can't waste it on replays. As a kid you'd play the same games over and over.
But replaying a game is a known quantity/quality, you get exactly what you need/expect. Playing some new unknown game is a big risk if your time is precious. I tend to replay older games 80-90% of my time - still playing Unreal Gold and Quake regularly. :)
Spending more time thinking about playing (or starting various games and deciding that I'm just not feeling it) than actually playing hits hard! 😅
The biggest post-30s problem I’ve had is getting chronic back/neck/hand pain just from sitting too long 😅😢
I get tired I can only game for like 4 hours a day
This is my reality and I am a soon to be 37 year old woman.
The solution is VR. Even better: you can play almost all (and in near future, all) flat games in VR with the help of tools like VorpX, SuperDepth3D, UEVR, and mods/ports from Team Beef, Praydog and Luke Ross.
53 and retired here. This is the first of your videos I've seen, and I thought it was fantastic. I was engaged and amused the whole way through. I actually put down my paint brush (painting toy soldiers is my other time suck) and paid attention!
So much of what you said was spot on. The "didn't remember this cave or this armor (or these controls)" bit hit especially close to home, but that could easily be down to the vodka and beer.
I used to crush games like Doom Eternal. Now I struggle to go two minutes without getting killed. These days things like Minecraft and Midnigt Suns (turn based!) are more my speed. It's not that I don't want to whip out the plasma blaster, speed potions, and jump packs, it's just that they are hard to use now without blowing myself up. Lol!
Anyway, thanks for this video!
One problem that I've found about being a gamer and also being 43 years old: I've paid the bills, bought the kids' school supplies, bought groceries for the week, paid for the oil change in the car, put money into the savings for the vacation next summer, bought the curtains that the wife was in dire need of... and now I have enough money to buy a shovelware game that's on sale.
You forgot the ever looming... I can finally play X game, "Game requires an update, Estimated time remaining, four hours..." Because it's 60gb.
I just got WWE 2k24 it’s loading the online servers every time I boot the game up
Yep. For me this game is Vermintide 2.
Friends got me to play Ark. 😳
Even though I have auto updates enabled! So annoying
It only takes you 4 hours to download 60gb? That’s like 12 for me 😭. Forget waiting a few hours, an entire day is gone waiting for updates.
The amount of time I've wasted trying to figure out what game I want to play and flickering around the menu is probably enough time to have actually finished The Witcher 3.
Don't think. Just Do!
You need to buy more games
Or less😂😂
😂😂 Same here
I'm 32, I've been watching TH-cam since the ripe old age of 16 and let me tell you I have NEVER related to a video as much as I have with this one. I feel seen, Rob. Thank you
I’m 33 don’t you love aging
We the same person except I’m 33
The one about going back to a game you haven't played in a while only to forget the controls, where you are, what you're doing, etc... yeah, i felt that one.
The older you get, the more you realize that money and owning stuff is less important, and enjoying your TIME however you choose to bring you a few moments of pure joy is priceless and cannot be replaced with anything material anyway.
The older I get the more important my 401k balance gets! I paid it no attention in my 20s.
I'm a 39 year old woman who is single and doesn't have kids so can't relate to most of these. However it means most of my friends don't game and conversations about what you were up to at the weekend can be a bit awkward 😄
I'm 46 years old, woman, single, no kids and yes downtime talk around friends become very very very interesting. I was at comic con and just being around the gaming section with fellow gamers was so much fun. I could talk bloody non stop 😂🤣 but around my friends I mostly listen and avoid speaking about gaming
I’m a 58, married, with kids, and I’m the main gamer. I have no other adult gaming friends because I’ve never found any other gamers in our town, especially females. I dragged my family to a gaming con last year. So yeah. Everyone imagines a man when they think gamer, including developers obviously. But we older/female gamers have money and passion.
Not awkward to me at all.
I'm a 44 yr old single female and I am grateful to have found a kindred spirit 20 something who works at the local butcher. Most conversations start with "3lbs of bacon and how is Helldivers treating you?"
I'm 39f married with kids and I guarantee that if I ask you what you did this weekend it's to get the vicarious thrill of hearing about how much gaming you got done. 😂
I saw this notification and was instantly like “oh I gotta watch this” and yup! It’s totally worth it and soooo relatable
That cold open... it's too real.
This is so true
My friend and I are in our mid-thirties, but he has kids. Whenever I manage to get him online, he goes to pieces when he realises that he has to do a tutorial before we can even begin.
Then he falls asleep after an hour.
I'm 24, I understand all of these too well. I miss being a teenager.
The problem I constantly face is after I have done all my chores and other life stuff it's 10pm and that is much too late to be playing a video game
10 pm is when I usually wake up to be at work by 11 pm
At 36 I have two kids and a wife.
Most of my weekly free time is playing games with the kids or watching movies with the wife.
Friday night's are set in stone, games usually start around 11pm and me and a few buddies get on discord and play until 4-5am.
And it's awesome.
That's the thing isn't it!? You finally get free time and then feel like there's no point anymore because it's late. This gets worse when you actually had the whole day to play, but spent the time either deciding what to play, or on distractions like youtube.
That's when I get off work so it's literally when I start playing
Lol I sometimes START playing at midnight 😂
Staring at the home menu and spending way too long deciding which game to play hits really close to home
You forgot, we don't have time to play long games anymore. I actually get excited when a game is 20hrs or less and on rails because I will be able to finish it!
10 hour games are were it’s at. If it’s more then 20 hours I just don’t have the time required it take me forever
So true...I actually love shorter games now.
This exposition could not have been more on the nose for those of us north of our 30's or 40's or 50's!
I was above average at COD. Had a group we had at one point a 200 win streak going on one of them. Then I hit like 33 and noticed a drop in reflexes and didn't have the desire to rage anymore. I have stopped playing all online games since then.
Absolutely love Rob's wedding planner voice - could be a side hustle for him if only he had the time! 😂
I would add arguing with tryhard teens who think difficulty is more important than general enjoyment
I mean, don't argue.
I get it, got into a disagreement with some idiot whining about a tutorial bit being too easy. When he called it 'bad game design', i just thought, you're not worth talking about this with'.
Git gud 😂
Rob might be getting worse at videogames, but he just can't stop getting better and better as a writer.
He should have a side hustle indeed: his own channel!
Being 40 this speaks to me. The thinking about playing instead of actually playing is absolutely real. The saving grace is Actually laundry. While the clothes are washing, my gaming set up is not too far away. So while i'm waiting for the wash, I play the game, then put it in the dryer and wait for that.And that's me, gaming for the day or that time😅
For like a year, a playthrough of Stardew Valley made my laundry done more efficiently. I could time how many farm days is needed for the dryer to finish.
"Letting my brain have a screen-saver moment"...thats awesome, and Im gonna use it.
The 'staring into the middle distance' line was genius
33 years old here and this is totally relatable
Amen
34 fck me😢
I’m 33 and I fell asleep once holding the controller
@watgaming8941 this guy gets it
One of my favourite thing about this community is how a lot of us are older and have kids or jobs or other responsibilities that prevent us from playing games 100% of the time
Wait. My goal isn’t to play games 100% of the time! There are other hobbies for sure.
But I’d be happy with 1% over my current 0%.
i really needed to hear number 1 comment. i constantly feel guilty when i play when i just want to enjoy playing. even though i keep up with work and daily chores. hate the feeling
I'm so glad these Friday Features are back. Rob is always fantastic on the channel, but the FF is where he really shines.
The mind can think it but the thumbs can no longer cooperate is definetly a feeling i got with Ghostrunner.
Over 50 myself. reactions gone. no gaming friends. little time. but love games
You can get reactions back on god lvl
shiiieeeeet. Im 31 now. Crazy that I've been watching these vids since 2014
You're getting old
@@martini668 everyone is
I'm over 40 and enjoyed the truth in this way too much ... Great video! 👍🏽
9:24 Absolutely nailed this segment! 😂
I can relate.
I find myself standing in the middle of leyndell capital watching the town folks as I t pose near a cliff
"Nagging Rosie" was impressively annoying, in Monty Python character-ish way.
Oh that final entry just hurts! My friends and I have basically taken to emailing each other our weekly schedules, subject to change, in order to program online gaming sessions and only for a 2hr gaming session at that.
I'm 29 right now and I know exactly what you mean. Between cooking, watching dishes, trying to stay in shape, looking after my aging parents and supporting my siblings all the while I barely have time to play games anymore. Those blessed moments when I do are so much appreciated.😊
I'm loving this new round of Friday features. Not that I didn't love the earlier one but the fact that content for and about older gamers is being made is absolutely amazing. Gaming for partners, parents and now this!
Rob gets me. Period.
All of these plus the "all my friends no longer game so I just play single player games" or the classic "i dont have room for a new game because my 8yo's games take up all the space" 😅
Great video Rob and the team, having just turned 40 and still gaming obsessed with 2 kid's, every point just hit right at home haha. Top class!! I would add 1 more thing, not having the time to play something myself and gaming vicariously through you guy's live stream vods and let's plays a half an hour at a time at 11pm or 10 minutes sitting in the fortress of solitude, the bathroom! 😁
I turn 29 next week so I’m glad I have a heads up for what’s to come.
Turned 31 two weeks ago. Its all downhill from here friend.
Doesn't make it any easier
Happy early birthday!!!! I turned 29 recently, too!
Happy early burthday:)
@@Dragonfury3000 it can never be easy
Really glad I chose to click on this video. I love your sense of humor. Liked and subbed. That problem where you can't even remember how to play the game after stopping for a few weeks happens to me all the time :P
The choice paralysis is so real. 😭 Especially as disposable income increases, but time to play games decreases. I have literally close to a 100 games in my backlog across PS4, PS5, Switch and PC.
This actually really helps in some ways. I'm that annoying person in their 30s that still goes out and does things. Certain people want to be invited, but also never bother showing up. Now I video game, but it's later at night. I've completely given up on gaming with others online as again it's just too hard to sync up! Great video!
I usually game at night too I’m hardly ever gaming before noon. 3pm to 10pm sometimes later are the times I’m gaming
Rob has officially entered “Too Real” territory for me 😂
The video should’ve been called “enjoy your gamer time young Padawans, this is what future looks like for you” 😈😈😈😈😈😈
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I really can't believe I haven't gotten a notification for you guys. I love these videos and for some reason TH-cam has decided I have to look to find them.
The 'guilt of doing nothing' problem hit hard. Every single point you made resonated and yet I will continue regardless.
4 or 5 times a year I think Rob is myself😂
These lists have been so accurate to my life these past few months. Great work as always team.
The choice paralysis one in particular I'm awful for. Even when I've chosen something I find myself not fully enjoying it because I'm thinking "... what if I'd be having more fun with that other game"
Hi Mr.Pearson (Dad?) , I wanted to formally say that this is my favourite episode of Friday features I've ever seen, and I'm pretty close to having seen them all, and considering the fact that I am 45 years young, have very little "free" time, as well. I laughed and I considered thinking about crying,all in a matter of 13 and a half minutes time, I'd say that emotionally Rob, that is a very good use of said,so called "free" time. Thanks for this little bit of yours and keep on making me consider crying,in the future of this magnificently written (Rob) series.
Number 6: now I have a reason to purchase gamer guides that I never had before.
I think two that could be added.
1) You go through your game list to a game you played only for a few hours and do not remember why you stopped playing the game
2) You have an ever growing list of game you have bought but have not played yet and in some cases have not even downloaded because you don't have the time to complete a game before a sale pops up and you have bought the next game
38 & can only play/stream at night time depending on which day I need to work.....The struggle is real 😅
I really wish i had the patience for a From Software games, i want to love them but honestly they annoy me to no end
Right? I don't have time to spend 2 hours on a game to feel like I've made 0 progress. I don't have time to get frustrated doing something that I'm supposed to be enjoing.
True I tried ds3 for the third time but no its ridiculously annoying. Delete.
Thanks for this. It feels nice to know that I'm not alone in trying to be alone.
Just want say say thanks to Rob and the crew for the Friday features. You kept me laughing and motivated through platinuming DS I,II, soon to be III, and plat'ing Bloodborne.
You're all awesome!
P.S. I can't wait to get into armored core!
39, retired, living in the Philippines, playing ps5 with my fancy shmancy psvr2 and beaches only minutes away when I grow weary of gaming. I've arrived.
Yes. Very relatable. I'm in my mid 50's and been gaming since the days of the Speccy. Nowadays trying to get some me time to spend a bit of time escaping into a game for a bit is difficult as there is always something else to do. Not planning of getting rid of my PS5 as I want to see what GTA6 is like.
Love this video. Last one is so unfortunate.
Also what I would add: Your about to play a game (or playing) and you get an 'urgent' call from a familiy member😂
If u dont answer, is it urgent? Quite the schrodingers cat senerio there lol
The last one hits too hard for me lol. Been cancelling various multiplayer subscriptions, Xbox, ps plus etc because I just don't use them. Everyone's got kids, or dogs, or jobs. Might get one person free but 3 or 4 is a miracle
I'm 42 and I envy the kids how passionate people are about games, somewhere during the process of getting older the games somehow lost their substance for me. However seeing that spark in my kids do make me smile 😊
Brilliantly written monolog!! I was having so much fun listening to it good job rob!
Don't have a second child. It's a trap. You just need to get your daughter safely off to college, and you get to relive your gaming 20s. Wow, Rob. You really understand my life. Games and chores.
I’m 42 and all of this is 100% correct. Rob saying the quiet parts out loud.
I've literally never felt so seen. The choice paralysis is the worst.
This video is spot on. The only part I am envious of is having a whole weekend to even contemplate which game to play! At this point I would take even a couple of hours!
This video gazed directly into my soul. Especially the scrolling through the PS5 home screen and never actually playing anything. Why is it so hard?!??!