I borrow money from my sister and the next week I payed it back in doubled. I think it really depends on the person. If you can trust them like that. You have to know each person to know what limitations there are in each boundaries you set.
My dad always said “When you lend money to a friend, you lose the money and the friend. You’re better off keeping the money and losing the friend”. I always keep that in mind. It’s foolish to take a double L.
And really it’s a triple L because you lose the money, your friend, and a little bit of self respect due to the shame of being so gullible and trusting that person
Lend vs give. I think it’s better to give without expectation of getting paid back IF you can afford to and IF you want to. Relationships only break down when expectations are unmet
Nah bro what if my boy really struggling tho? I know he would do the same to me. Fuck that money at the end of the day I hope it don’t come back either. I love my homies
I agree, cuz If I was down bad struggling to the point I ask for money I’d hope my close friends would look out because I sure would look out for them.
@@lildatboy196hey I get what you're saying I'm in a situation like that too, but if it comes some point they keep constantly ask you for money then cut ties with them. I'm about running out of what I got saving and I'm currently unemployed. Your friends quote on quote really needs help themselves or where do you need to go and try to better not to rely on anybody. If anything, if you're they're true friends like you say. Then tell him like it is and what they need to do.
You can be charitable but that’s not the point. In that situation you’re friend would be lying to you so you can loan him the money. Why should you be “charitable” to someone who thinks you’re a fool?
In 1992 I lent a friend of mine RS10K, few months down the line he asked me for more, when I refused and asked him to return 10k, he refused. Now we become strangers!
A real friend keeps their word. Every circumstance is different. There are still people with integrity who struggle and still will work hard to pay back what they borrowed on time. There are still friends who will have your back come rain or snow. Just because they ask me for help does not mean that friends devalues our relationship. It just means they are human going through a down moment. The issue is not lending money, the issue is lending to the right person.
So true because also keep in mind that your friends will take advantage of your niceness so never let that happen and make sure to set boundaries for yourself
😂... FYI if you let your friends borrow money and they don't pay it back they were never your friends to begin with.😮 If any of my friends needed help or money I would offer it in a heartbeat. But then again I have a great collection of friends so I might just be the exception.🤷🏿
Bruh I’ve lent money to atleast 100 friends and acquaintances. Half pay back mostly late but they pay back and we move on with life because money is just an object you can earn. The other half that didn’t pay back; YES, we weren’t friends afterwards but it was mostly because of their guilt they quit calling me over $40 lousy dollars. I’ve wonky lent out 100 plus ten times and bever cares once about payment ppls guilt will take care of it
I never lend money. I only give reasonable amounts when I’m asked (which is rare) without the expectation of getting it back. It has to be fora legitimate reason though. If I do, great; if not, what I gave won’t break me.
Bro what kind of friends u b having😢? A dude gotta kno who his friends are honestly. Cuz if my boys are in need best believe I'm helping them and trust they'll pay back. As a matter fact I don't lend out money I'm not afraid of losing! Let that sink in
I have been in situation where i needed money to borrow. I paid it back before the time that I had promised to pay it back . If one of my friends was in a situation where he needed money to borrow I would happy to help him out
I try to think objectively same way a bank would. I lend small amounts to see if they pay that back and how long they took. if they got a good history of paying me back i dont mind lending out more and even upping the amount. certain amounts ill never go over though
What's the point of having it if you don't spend it and I could Careless if my homie takes 20 years to pay me back or doesn't pay me back at all money isn't hard to make #ifigotitweallgotit
This message just hit me right in the heart. My homie been asking me for money for like the last couple of months. 20 here 60 here 200 here and now he owes me about 1100 and he never calls me for anything else except to ask for money. I just cut him off and to be honest he can keep it because i know im not getting it back😊
Most of the time if they have to ask you for money they can't pay you back. The best thing to do is evaluate your relationship and just give them the money if you can afford it,
I never ask for money with anyone even if I desperately need it. But my frnZ take money from me but they never return, after a long gap they do the same again... People are really bad.. They take advantage of goodness..
Me personally I’ve lended money to friends and they’ve always paid me back. Ya just don’t have real friends fr. And tbh depending on how much money it is I wouldn’t even trip on getting it back if they actually needed it. Whats the point of have friends if you can’t rely on them? Ppl I don’t trust their word I wouldn’t be a friend of mines.
@FITXFEARLESS you make a really great point but what if anyone of your small circle of high value male friends asks you to front the bill for them while you’re out with them or dining out & they have a “consistent” history of paying you back any money they borrowed from you the very next day. Do you still believe they shouldn’t be given a loan?😳😳😳🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤔🤔🤔💭💭💭……
Don't forget family. They may say they "love you" because they're your family, but they can be just as bad as your so-called "friends." Never trust anybody in general when it comes to money. Let them find their own way of getting money.
Any homie that I’ve lended money to, or borrowed money from, the money has been paid back💯 this dude don’t have real homies if they don’t pay him back. Bro advises not to lend a friend money in need, and also advises every man gets a manicure/pedicure weekly, buy a $3000 LV bag, and hire a maid to clean your house, what in the actual 😂😂😂
The worst part is after 3months asking about the money they owe, and they give you the "oh i forgot all about that"...subtracted very good friends because of that. And that point, i didnt bother and just walked away from that friendship. You feel guilty if you dont borrow money, you gotta say no, and that also can destroy that friendship, its a losing battle on both sides
I have a friend asking for 20k for paying rent, utility. I told him I'm willing to give him 5k don't need to pay me back. But he insists he want 20k. I stop replying to his messages. Dude I'm not a bank. Maybe I should block him on FB. Sorry I have bad experience same scenario 3rd time. But 4th time I asking for trouble. Don't do it.
"They never plan on paying it back." Then they're not real friend PERIOD. What is more important, money or friendship? That's the question you should ask. When I lend money or buy things for my friends, I say "Don't worry about paying me back."
Best way to see the real person is to lend them like 20 bucks and see if they give it back, if they dont you know from the beginning what kind of a person he/she is
Not only will you lose your money and your friend but you will lose a lot of people too because you will demand your money, your friend will guilt trip you and falsely say you're abusive and tell everyone what a horrible person you are and you lose everyone.
This is bad advice, I’ve borrowed Balani from friends before during difficult times where the rent was due. If I didn’t pay it in two days, I would get evicted shit like that and my real Homies came through for me and helped me out and I paid them as soon as I could. It’s all about you surround yourself with if you both mutually respect the relationship, then you’ll do right by each other. And I never give money and expect it back.
I believe it’s not true that whoever is going to ask your money isn’t you friend and stuff like that. I’m not judging but still not lending money to anyone.
Thing is if you’re my friend 9 times out of 10 the money I’m giving you is tied with me saying I don’t want you to pay me back. You’re paying me back in friendship and if that were to ever fall apart thing it was a gift. You still don’t owe me anything. What kind of friend/ family can have more than enough money to help family/friends even just a little sits there and watches
If you really wanted to help don’t expect that money back in time can afford to wait don’t give them if they can’t give you back think of it like you given sathakka …. Teachings of prophet mohammed (may peace be upon him)
When I reject to lend money he probably abuse physically and emotionally. This is the second time and I am planning to leave but I was staying as he said this hard time (over 1.5 years) I am the only one who supported him and all of his friend and family ran away. He said if I left he would jump off the building to end his life. He’s father of our 1-year-old son I don’t know what to do.
If you move with people that are like you you have no worries and guess what they don't have to ask we're that close I know and you won't have to ask for it back....
I'm a little older and I have to disagree with that you can't loan everybody money. That's true but for the most part the people that you know needed and a good foot. You either do it for them not expecting it back for you. Do it with the understanding that they do pay it back once they don't pay it back scratch off the list
I see your point but dont completely agree. Sure a lot of the time they dont pay back. But I believe in only giving money and nlt expecting it back. Because it may ruin the relationship let it go.
I see your point now it’s okay if someone asks you for money once a while but as long as they don’t do it too often then that’s fine but at the end of the day, they should find a job to make their own money.
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I don’t ask nobody for shit. And I make damn sure I pay someone for helping me. Nothing in life is free. Pops taught me that.
100%
Doesn’t change the fact that it’s normal to get yourself in tight situations and you may need to resort to doing something like that.
If you lend someone $20, and you never see them again, it was probably a great investment.
The people he’s describing were never your FRIENDS just high class acquaintances.
Facts and never let a girlfriend borrow money. She surely ain't going to pay you back 💯
1 of my ex GF before asked for help on her rent. I told her
"Naw, i already help you enough on orher things"
What if she’s trustworthy and does pay people back?
Cap. My ex paid me back in full tbh.
@@Adam-de8yithat's more of a minority vs. Majority thing.
I borrow money from my sister and the next week I payed it back in doubled. I think it really depends on the person. If you can trust them like that. You have to know each person to know what limitations there are in each boundaries you set.
This is a good advice. Lend the money when you know the person's character
I think family is different
My dad always said “When you lend money to a friend, you lose the money and the friend. You’re better off keeping the money and losing the friend”.
I always keep that in mind. It’s foolish to take a double L.
Your father is a wise man
And really it’s a triple L because you lose the money, your friend, and a little bit of self respect due to the shame of being so gullible and trusting that person
Lend vs give. I think it’s better to give without expectation of getting paid back IF you can afford to and IF you want to.
Relationships only break down when expectations are unmet
Really good
Ok will do that now 😂
I learned this the hard way 😂😂😂
Same bro, same. Better late than never tho right?
For me it only cost me $400…small price to pay. I was in my early 20s and naive about the ways of the world.
Same here
same. That lesson costed me $14k though.
Nah bro what if my boy really struggling tho? I know he would do the same to me. Fuck that money at the end of the day I hope it don’t come back either. I love my homies
Sometimes Mr Fitx plays tough guy
I agree, cuz If I was down bad struggling to the point I ask for money I’d hope my close friends would look out because I sure would look out for them.
@@lildatboy196 yes sir, I agree! I think Mr Fitx should do a video about what he considers a true friend.
@@lildatboy196hey I get what you're saying I'm in a situation like that too, but if it comes some point they keep constantly ask you for money then cut ties with them. I'm about running out of what I got saving and I'm currently unemployed. Your friends quote on quote really needs help themselves or where do you need to go and try to better not to rely on anybody. If anything, if you're they're true friends like you say. Then tell him like it is and what they need to do.
The give it to him without expecting anything back. Trust me, i lost my best friend. It’s been 3 years now. Money ruins relations.
better advice. be charitable to those in need. Keyword is “charitable” if you give money you must be willing to never get it back.
Yes sir
Nah lol
❤
You can be charitable but that’s not the point. In that situation you’re friend would be lying to you so you can loan him the money. Why should you be “charitable” to someone who thinks you’re a fool?
All dude was saying is to not let anyone play you 💯💯💯💯
I lend my “homie” $300 which he was supposed to give back in a week!! it’s been 2 months
In 1992 I lent a friend of mine RS10K, few months down the line he asked me for more, when I refused and asked him to return 10k, he refused. Now we become strangers!
🤣
A real friend keeps their word. Every circumstance is different. There are still people with integrity who struggle and still will work hard to pay back what they borrowed on time. There are still friends who will have your back come rain or snow. Just because they ask me for help does not mean that friends devalues our relationship. It just means they are human going through a down moment. The issue is not lending money, the issue is lending to the right person.
You are describing a parasite, that's not a true friend, if you were real friends you would be able to help each other.
This is exactly it.
I started off agreeing with him, but in the end, I was like "nah"
Facts, me and my friends have always paid eachother back when we say so
Yup. When I used to have to borrow money, I’d even add interest and pay extra. People need better friends
Guys what about not taking the risk like no asking for money between us is better right
Or friend should help each other financially
There was very very few times I had to actually ask a freind for money. I pay no later than a week. Every real man keeps his word
If I’m givin money I’m givin it to give I’m not doin it for it in return unless Dey say Dey gon pay back dem ima hold ‘em to it
I agree
You have good character
@@renegade595 Ty bro
Give me some money bro... I'll pay you back 😉
@@Tweakkkkkk😂😂😂
Facts, they at times don’t plan on paying it back or they’ll give you half of it back
So true because also keep in mind that your friends will take advantage of your niceness so never let that happen and make sure to set boundaries for yourself
And that's why I never ask for money from anyone.
Tell them to borrow money from the bank.
I did that bro he was really angry 😅.
@habte8281 LOL he shouldn't actually. It's a smart advice 👌🏾
😂... FYI if you let your friends borrow money and they don't pay it back they were never your friends to begin with.😮
If any of my friends needed help or money I would offer it in a heartbeat. But then again I have a great collection of friends so I might just be the exception.🤷🏿
Going through this right now and it’s hell to get it back
even when u do pay em back and a lil interest. they still respect u
I have given friends money with the mindset of I don't want the money back.
Bruh I’ve lent money to atleast 100 friends and acquaintances. Half pay back mostly late but they pay back and we move on with life because money is just an object you can earn. The other half that didn’t pay back; YES, we weren’t friends afterwards but it was mostly because of their guilt they quit calling me over $40 lousy dollars. I’ve wonky lent out 100 plus ten times and bever cares once about payment ppls guilt will take care of it
Nothing in life is free. No good deed goes unpunished..
Only 1% is the exception. Know the person for a long time before you lend someone the money
Give them money and you won’t ever have to see them again. You can pay off a lot of people with $100.
Lol I gifted a friend of mine 11K 😂😂😂 now I feel like they're using me and I'm thinking to end our friendship
I never lend money. I only give reasonable amounts when I’m asked (which is rare) without the expectation of getting it back. It has to be fora legitimate reason though. If I do, great; if not, what I gave won’t break me.
Facts!!! Man now a dayz when i get someone I don't hear from lately. Sometimes ayy bro can lend me dis much. I just be saying I got bills to pay
They might “axe” you
I disagree with that if someone asks for money they’re not a true friend but if they don’t pay it back then that’s questionable
Bro what kind of friends u b having😢? A dude gotta kno who his friends are honestly. Cuz if my boys are in need best believe I'm helping them and trust they'll pay back. As a matter fact I don't lend out money I'm not afraid of losing! Let that sink in
I have been in situation where i needed money to borrow. I paid it back before the time that I had promised to pay it back . If one of my friends was in a situation where he needed money to borrow I would happy to help him out
Includes family , cousins etc
I lent $500 to help someone get their car out of the shop, and when I asked them for my money back months they blocked me.
I try to think objectively same way a bank would. I lend small amounts to see if they pay that back and how long they took. if they got a good history of paying me back i dont mind lending out more and even upping the amount. certain amounts ill never go over though
Been waiting 2 years 😂
I have given money to people who have been struggling and never wanted it back
Bout to send this to my cousin 😂
What's the point of having it if you don't spend it and I could Careless if my homie takes 20 years to pay me back or doesn't pay me back at all money isn't hard to make #ifigotitweallgotit
You sound like a solid guy
@@mzwetlovequeen thank you
My brother and Me (adopted) don't borrow money from eachother if one of us got it we both got it. We all we got.
This message just hit me right in the heart. My homie been asking me for money for like the last couple of months. 20 here 60 here 200 here and now he owes me about 1100 and he never calls me for anything else except to ask for money. I just cut him off and to be honest he can keep it because i know im not getting it back😊
Most of the time if they have to ask you for money they can't pay you back. The best thing to do is evaluate your relationship and just give them the money if you can afford it,
Such a good video, straight facts and to the point
Don’t give away anything you can’t afford to lose.
It's okay because now you know...
I never ask for money with anyone even if I desperately need it.
But my frnZ take money from me but they never return, after a long gap they do the same again...
People are really bad.. They take advantage of goodness..
Me personally I’ve lended money to friends and they’ve always paid me back. Ya just don’t have real friends fr. And tbh depending on how much money it is I wouldn’t even trip on getting it back if they actually needed it. Whats the point of have friends if you can’t rely on them? Ppl I don’t trust their word I wouldn’t be a friend of mines.
Congrats hun!
@FITXFEARLESS you make a really great point but what if anyone of your small circle of high value male friends asks you to front the bill for them while you’re out with them or dining out & they have a “consistent” history of paying you back any money they borrowed from you the very next day. Do you still believe they shouldn’t be given a loan?😳😳😳🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤔🤔🤔💭💭💭……
Don't forget family. They may say they "love you" because they're your family, but they can be just as bad as your so-called "friends." Never trust anybody in general when it comes to money. Let them find their own way of getting money.
Facts
Thanks for the amazing content FIT
Cap choose your friends wisely and you’ll be rich forever
Any homie that I’ve lended money to, or borrowed money from, the money has been paid back💯 this dude don’t have real homies if they don’t pay him back. Bro advises not to lend a friend money in need, and also advises every man gets a manicure/pedicure weekly, buy a $3000 LV bag, and hire a maid to clean your house, what in the actual 😂😂😂
That's exactly what I'm thinking every time one of my old classmates ask me for money
Big facts. Cut a lot of homies off cuz of that. Like yeah bruv keep that 1k but we not good Nomore ✌️
I agree but your teeth are AMAZING!
If one has light in himself, is traitfully kind, he is the one who to be kind back to 😊😊
I don’t even need 3 reasons 😂 just two words It’s mine
The worst part is after 3months asking about the money they owe, and they give you the "oh i forgot all about that"...subtracted very good friends because of that. And that point, i didnt bother and just walked away from that friendship. You feel guilty if you dont borrow money, you gotta say no, and that also can destroy that friendship, its a losing battle on both sides
That's real. I never looked at it like this. However I look at it like how much do they need. That will determine if I'm willing to help out or not.
Change your circle to those who are HENRYs who don’t ask for money
This guy is the f******g truth haha this shit happens worldwide I'm from New Zealand 🇳🇿 and I've seen this shit here
Facts , straight facts
Usually when a friend asks for money I never think of returns because I know that money is Gone
If someone ask You for money, most likely they are not in a position to pay back, their bills and personal stuff will come first , before yours.
I have a friend asking for 20k for paying rent, utility. I told him I'm willing to give him 5k don't need to pay me back. But he insists he want 20k. I stop replying to his messages. Dude I'm not a bank. Maybe I should block him on FB. Sorry I have bad experience same scenario 3rd time. But 4th time I asking for trouble. Don't do it.
"They never plan on paying it back." Then they're not real friend PERIOD.
What is more important, money or friendship? That's the question you should ask.
When I lend money or buy things for my friends, I say "Don't worry about paying me back."
Best way to see the real person is to lend them like 20 bucks and see if they give it back, if they dont you know from the beginning what kind of a person he/she is
Not only will you lose your money and your friend but you will lose a lot of people too because you will demand your money, your friend will guilt trip you and falsely say you're abusive and tell everyone what a horrible person you are and you lose everyone.
This is bad advice, I’ve borrowed Balani from friends before during difficult times where the rent was due. If I didn’t pay it in two days, I would get evicted shit like that and my real Homies came through for me and helped me out and I paid them as soon as I could. It’s all about you surround yourself with if you both mutually respect the relationship, then you’ll do right by each other. And I never give money and expect it back.
True i still haven't given back the 10 thousand
I believe it’s not true that whoever is going to ask your money isn’t you friend and stuff like that.
I’m not judging but still not lending money to anyone.
Facts tho they usually broke to
Thing is if you’re my friend 9 times out of 10 the money I’m giving you is tied with me saying I don’t want you to pay me back. You’re paying me back in friendship and if that were to ever fall apart thing it was a gift. You still don’t owe me anything.
What kind of friend/ family can have more than enough money to help family/friends even just a little sits there and watches
I asked my friend for money but I have stuff I’m gonna give her for it bc nothing in life is free
If you really wanted to help don’t expect that money back in time can afford to wait don’t give them if they can’t give you back think of it like you given sathakka …. Teachings of prophet mohammed (may peace be upon him)
Dam more facts from FitX
When I reject to lend money he probably abuse physically and emotionally. This is the second time and I am planning to leave but I was staying as he said this hard time (over 1.5 years) I am the only one who supported him and all of his friend and family ran away. He said if I left he would jump off the building to end his life. He’s father of our 1-year-old son I don’t know what to do.
I've had to remind my brother to pay me back. Did he? Yes, but the disrespect to forget is not something I forget
I gave 5k to my friend and its been 8 month and she is not returning my money. Guys don’t give money to anyone.nowadays u cant trust anyone.
Correct I made this Mistake In “Good Faith” Lost 750
Some end up in the grave. Not good to play with peoples hard earned money
Facts!
Also why we don’t give CREDIT in Shops because the Customers never Come Back and go elsewhere because they owe money!!
I shared with one of my freinds we where born in the same hospital we knew eachother since we where 2 so I Trish her we are 11now I Trish her
If i borrow im not buy bro a drink im paying interest🎉
Facts
If you move with people that are like you you have no worries and guess what they don't have to ask we're that close I know and you won't have to ask for it back....
I'm a little older and I have to disagree with that you can't loan everybody money. That's true but for the most part the people that you know needed and a good foot. You either do it for them not expecting it back for you. Do it with the understanding that they do pay it back once they don't pay it back scratch off the list
They want money then they graft for it or get a loan from bank. Some credit cards do interest free if paid back in enough time .
I think any friend who does this should feel very ashamed of this because if you do this your not my friend no more
I see your point but dont completely agree. Sure a lot of the time they dont pay back. But I believe in only giving money and nlt expecting it back. Because it may ruin the relationship let it go.
He's saying I am worth it and you are not
So true
I hope you never fall on hard time because you might have to retract this video.
Realest
I dont lend but i give and help them
Negro
I need $5
If ppl don’t give it to me, they were never a friend ✨☀️
Depends on the relationship. Not always true
I see your point now it’s okay if someone asks you for money once a while but as long as they don’t do it too often then that’s fine but at the end of the day, they should find a job to make their own money.