This is powerful. I am raising boys and this has opened helped me to see that I need to stop certain things as it may destroy them. I will definitely do better for my nephew's too. Bless you brother
This is why I am opposed to the people that say children are a blessing. They are a responsibility, they are my responsibility. If I want their life to be a blessing, I need the right skills. I need to understand what they require. Otherwise most children are dealing with childhood trauma, they are perpetuating the cycle of abuse as they don’t know better. How I wish they taught me such things when I was a child and in school.
Children are a blessing from the Lord.,so even if you oppose it, its the truth. Opposing it is opposing God. Psalms 127:3.Having children comes with responsibility. We are responsible for our children until they become an adult, whether 18 or 21. And they dont owe their parents anything. However, good children will help their children when they are aging.
@@oraltraditions6127 they are not a blessing from God they are a product of sex! All those children who will die of hunger today or other preventable causes, do you think God wanted them to die! Saying children are a blessing absolves parents from absolute responsibility from bringing children into the earth without planning.
Will not argue sweetheart, but I showed you scriptures, so if you doubt scriptures, no comment. However, I will say this: God blessed man and woman and told them to multiply and fill the earth. Genesis (1:28). Many people went out had sex outside of marriage and all these children suffer because of the disorder of man. God says marry a woman, not women, so polygamy is a breach. Having multiple women is wrong , having babies out side of the confines of marriage is a sin too. Although, the children are born outside of marriage or inside, they are still a blessed gift from God. Children die for hunger and diseases because of oppressers who oppress the poor. There is enough to ho around for the world to be sufficed, but some want to be superior, so the deprived a certain group. This world is unequal. We need open minds. We need to be objective rather than subjective. Cultures put people in bondage. Even if my children displease me, or God, they are still blessings from God. I cannot buy a child at the store. That child had to grow in a woman's womb.Do you know how the bones grow in the womb? My dear, God is involved. Speak life. Even if you are not convinced that they are blessings, please help me pray for our youngers all over the world who have lost hope. Tell God to change them from just being a product of sex, and make them a blessing so they can be used by God. One of the reasons why people have no regard for their fellowmen is because they dont see children as blessings, we see they as product of sex.Not to dismiss the process of the sexual act, but the end result is s beautiful life.
This young man went through the most but I am glad he went through a healing journey. These are the authentic stories that am inspired by. I really appreciate men who are bold enough to talk about their challenges and really seek to understand themselves. We need to normalize healing black men, men are not machines they are human beings with emotions hence there should be safe space for them to discuss their issues as well.
They were not wicked. They had no one to explain life issues. They were operating from a point of ignorance completely lost themselves. We can only forgive them and do a better job with our children. I promised myself not to raise my children the way l was raised.
God bless the host of this channel, we are learning alot. Really sorry about the pain you went through, but, you are determined to share and help other people, thank you...you are a very young man but wise ready to transform the society for the better. I think we should try to make our society a better and a safer place to be, if one feel that they are struggling mentally, good to ask for help, don't keep quiet.
"The Illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn" Alvin Toffler...we all need to unlearn and relearn something in our life to count ourselves literate nowadays.
I'm so proud of men who share their trauma in order to heal themselves as well as other men. Not enough work is done to help our young men deal with their emotions and mental health. What happened to him as a child was horrifying. All too often, children of abuse grow up to be very angry and depressed adults. Because this man decided to seek out, speak up and get help, he is now we'll adjusted and has a great outlook on life. Congtats to him on his journey to well-being.
This man is so true some men are so emotionally divided from their selves thanks for pointing out and making it clare that offen it has been beaten from them.
I went through childhood trauma as well physical, emotional and spiritual abuse. It affected my education too. I remember how on my birthdays i would go cry and my mum’s grave. My parents got married very young as well. As am listening to your story i realise your dad was a narrcisist, in the Bible i believe this is the Jezebel spirit and such people are not epathetic and not able to connect with emotions of others and many other wild characteristics they are actually very broken people inside but are not self reflective am glad you healed as i did and am also helping others as well. I have been listening to Lisa Romano a life coach she has great healing tips and finding self again. Am glad I have found God and found myself as well.I have been on the healing path for 15years now and am glad am free!! Thank you Erick for sharing your story!
Hallelujah! The best sharing I have watched my entire life. Having had a similar childhood which graduated into intense abusive relationships. Thank you so much Onyango. God Increase you exceedingly. My take home, Church should be everywhere one or two are, from family, friends, neighbors etc. Justus, your presentation of your guests is top notch! God bless you
You are a gift to human being. Those who have sense listen to this bright young man! I love your analogy of who human beings function. Please don’t stop🙌🏼
You are a blessing!!!! Am so sorry for all that pain you have gone through. Keep shinning and shedding light to these issues in our African culture. Silence is not the answer. 👍
You see men walking around looking normal, yet you don't know what scars they bear. Then they get married to a girl from a normal family and it just goes downhill coz they haven't dealt with their demons. I'm sorry this happened to you and glad you are healing.
This is what our society needs.Healing.A broken people and family leads to broken societies. You are brave to come out and speak of this issues.You went through that for a purpose and this is your ministry.May God continue to use you to help many.
I struggle with depression too and will one day tell my story and be a mental health advocate like you. Thanks for telling your story. Being positive and hopeful always helps.
WOW!!!! You are a pearl and a genius ! May God guide you to greater heights. You have learnt a lot and have been really inspirational. May He heal you from your past wounds. Let your light shine! You are talented and have a lot to offer! Thank you for sharing!
I understand you.I have an experience kinda related to yours and now at 22,I'm forever running, anywhere away from home because home is not my happy place.And like you,words always come to my rescue.I've always penned my painful experiences down and it's always a calming experience.
I Bless you Brother... thank You for cmng out because you are motivating others to speak out...I can't even.put mys3lf.in yur feet. that was horrible. I had a crazy Dad but I had a strong mother who protected us from.his drunk madness. its sad yur.mom was Weak n helpless. God bless you.
"We were separated from our emotions at a young age." That is so heart-breakingly true. Otieno we salute you for sharing your story and consciously choosing to be a better person than the blueprint you were given ✊🏾❤
Eric you are a special man that’s Why you were prepared to come and lead those hurting to heal and change their life into positive , emotional and happy man.Eric keep shining and man “it’s okay to be open to express your feelings “. Be blessed and lots of love🕊 🇰🇪❤️😘😘
The society is soo much concentrated on female empowerment and the male species are left aside.... Its high time we come together and stop toxic masculinity. Since they cant express themselves they become violent or sucidal......Great message big man!! 👏👏
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Hitting someone isn't masculine, in fact most child abuse is by mothers to their sons and daughters, i can show you the stats. These are just broken people taking their anger out on others, nothing to do with expressing emotions lol
suicide isn't about expressing emotions, use your brain. Suicide is when you have problems with no solutions... i can cry and say how sad i am as much as i want but if my problems are not solved it won't change anything i would still kill myself lol
@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE ww kwenda uko...use my brain vitu gani? Ww tumia yako uandike comment yako. It depends on how you view this story na ndo maana kuna watu watalike the video and others will dislike. There is toxic masculinity my guy na if you do a deep research on toxic masculinity u will get my point.....daah!
@@brie2545 a research written by stupid people. There is no such thing as gender based violence or toxic masculinity. Just stupid people . For example this man here used to write about gender based violence ??? What the hell is that ? When his dad faught his mother ? Didn't his dad beat him too ? What has gender got to do with anything ? It was simply a man hitting the thing that was closest to him. It sometimes was a woman and soemtimes a boy lol. Toxic masculinity doesn't exist.
@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE how can you call someone's research stupid?? Just because you haven't gone through sth doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Your soo much into calling people stupid and asking me to use my brain....mybe u r the those things and this is ur way of letting it out
This show is a look alike of a South African show called I have been through the most.... Good show people have a platform to inspire and transform keep it up
I am at 13th minute and I can't stop wondering if your mum witnessed this guy being burnt by his dad!! What did she think? What did she do to rescue her kid? It is at this point I say to men, and especially those who shame single moms. You don't know what options they had to choose from. If this mum chose her herself and her kids, this story would not be this sad. I wish you the courage to help others and success in life hero.
You have put it so well. We need to feel safe around people so that we don’t continue to replicate the pains we hold on other people. That’s the only way to stop the vicious cycle. Thank you
Sorry man! Continue on your healing journey bro. Those parents need healing too if ONLY they knew how sick they are, but it is sad that the people who were to parent you, abused you. Probably your parents were victims too, and can steal heal in order for the whole family to heal, otherwise the trauma continues. You are really strong bro! All the best❤
So so sad that a whole grown man unleashes his idiocy on a wife and kids Am disappointed! Thank you for sharing about effects of childhood traumas. Your dad is a perfect example of a Narcissist and thanks for learning to handle your situation.
Whoever is reading this may God protect u and ur family from depression and all form of sickness...May God release destiny helpers to you and double your prosperity ...Healing be your portion in Mighty Name
I listened to your story attentively.. I love you and God loves you too we both love you. You're brave, articulate and well spoken. I pray God gives you the strength and courage to move on. All blessings to you
Wow. I am glad this man is strong enough to share his story. I am so sorry you have to go through abuse at the hands of your father who is supposed to be your protector and guide. May God heal your heart so you can truly forgive your father.
Oh Yea! When you've had such an experience, you really learn to appreciate yourself. You learn to make life happen on your own. No connections, No charity, you just stick out your horns and break the Walls for life to move. I had to decide that I WAS NOTHING CLOSE TO WHAT MY DAD HAD LIVED TO DOOM ME TO. I had to frantically go on a search for who I really was. I've seen Therapists for YEARS until my psych stabalized. Until I broke free from The Grip of growing up in an Abusive home. I Frantically searched the Bible for what God thought of me and I decided to run with it like that. PERIOD. That's the only way My life moved. Otherwise I'd still be in such a Dark Hopeless Place. This Guy, YOU'RE JUST A HERO!
And yea, Mine was also a Church Guy who behind closed doors was like an absolute LUNATIC!🙆🙆Aki I was so confused! Luckily God revealed himself to me personally and I was able to separate between who God really was and what He was not. That kept me from Commiting suicide all the times I contemplated and even attempted. That helped me make it through coz Man! I could never have lived to tell the story.
Pole sana mdogo wangu. I feel your pain. So sad but yet so inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story, #You have inspired many, me as well. Halafu someone just commented that your delusional..?? Unbelievable! Yaani kwanza kanikasirisha sana hadi I have flagged and reported her comment as Negative in this community, youtu.be should block him/her... Negative comments towards an individual's personal story not acceptable, period!!!!
Hi am from Namibia I went through the same thing nice documentary just a bit emotional I excetlly know how that guy feel coz I went through the same nice one
Every home should be a church. Every home should be a safe space! Thank you for sharing your story Eric. I will gladly share this. Justus we are always grateful.
I would actually take it back to our grandparents some of the stories my mum shares you wonder how she did not replicate what was done to her and by extension the colonial machine which introduced this corporal punishment where parents were being beaten infront of their children and women being raped infornt of their husbands for defiance collectively as melananted people we have all endured trauma in some way shape or form others have broken the cycle others continued because they never knew any better you cant do what you have not seen...
I have really enjoyed listening to you. I felt like you were talking about my life and giving me tips on how I should have gotten out of the mess. Thanks
That's my childhood, I never miss them,mum and dad,,they weren't there physically, were never supportive,,my dad was way worse,he made me believe I wasn't capable,was not even enough for anything or anyone,,and here I am having done a teaching course and even though something tells me I can stand in a classroom and teach,,some other voice puts me off that I can't really deliver in a class,,and since 2014 after graduating I haven't even gained the confidence to search for a teaching job,,I try to convince myself everyday that am okey,am normal like any other person and can do anything,,, but there is that other side of me that was instilled by my ungrateful father,,but I don't let it drive me,,I try everyday to think positive about myself and after I get some money am planning to at least try counseling,, may God be our strength, Amen
@Christine Kawira you are your own person now. Your success is not pegged on that painful past. Much as it clouded your identity, it did not change it. I believe you have everything it takes to be anything you dream about. Shake it off and go after the desires of your heart. May God lead you through to one day be a testimony for many.
Thanks for sharing my husband was abusive but later on I tried to check on his background I found out that was what his father used to to be violent and abusive. The pattern was repeating itself For real men are struggling from their past and they can't find way out of the situation though the solution is reprograme our mind so that we can be free from the trauma
Have been a victim of trauma too. Really appreciate this talk. It is only when I started working in a mental health organization that I realized I had been struggling with depression. It affected my academics, was questioning my existence too. To a point a had suicidal ideations. To this day I struggle with relationships especially my mum, all the trauma has been caused by her.
I find it interesting that he has accepted every little indignity meted upon him with a certain quiet contemplation,like a lesson that should be learnt.....free from emotion yet still able to convey his feeling on all the things that happened to him and move on with life.
Violence family and toxic parents can be really tormenting and traumatizing to a child. This story is like mine. I never forget to thank God for my mom to finally gather the courage to leave that marriage. It's been years now ever since we left but the memories of the beatings still hurts me to-date. Kwanza umetaja iyo "nyahunyo" nikaskia mwili umetetemeka, coz that's what dad used to beat us with 😭😭
Weldone for taking your power back and curving out your recovery journey. You have been through alot and I empathise with you. It seems God used your pain and translated it into your purpose in helping others find their voice and to start their own recovery journies too.
I think you can be so useful in counseling and psychology. You'd change so many lives out here and be a blessing. Maybe you went through all that for a purpose. I relate with you in so many ways. Growing up was not easy. Though in mine there was no physical violence there was too much emotional abuse.
Your story is really inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story. I am happy you have come out to talk about your life experiences and how you have overcome your pains.
You shall live and not die. You are on your way to recovery. Your situation us God's opportunity. Hold on to Jesus. God bless you my son. My last child is 36 yrs, so could have been my grandson. I have a granddaughter age 27
Quite educative and encouraging. I would like to get his contacts to help someone very close to me. We didn’t know his condition until we listened to onyango. Thank you for the wonderful show
Went through the same thing with my mother and father, but mother was more abusive. All the frustrations and bad things happening to the family were my fault as the eldest. Her abuse was physical, mental and emotional and covert at the same time. No one outside should know. I think she knew she was abusing us because she used to say that no one should speak about what happens at home and that family secrets should be kept within the family. Refused friends or any other person being close to us. Now i look back and think she didn’t want anyone finding out how she made our lives hell at home when no one was watching. I think she went through the same abuse and she didn’t know better. Generational curses are real, i walked away and promised to do better. It messes people up. But am glad i left far away from that abuse.
Why are the women commenting , men come out and speak of it !!!!!!!! Lets stop it please stop it we are losing smart, intelligent men !! PTSD is real . I am praying for all the men in my country
Thanks for sharing your testimony. This was so hard to hear.......I hope that your dad does not put you off God because He is real. If you ask God to come into your life, He will heal you and wipe away all those hurtful memories of your past. Your dad was just one of those people who had no clue of who God was and was not operating under no God but anger and his own issues who he selfishly took out on you. I really hope that God restores you completely. You sound like a really nice person. I hope and pray that your life now will make up for the past pains and hurts and live a happy and loving life for evermore.......
There some huge important points that I have never heard from any other movitational speaker. Thank you. At first when I started watching your vedio i didn't take it seriously, I am glad that I was chatting with another phone so I didn't interupt the video as time goes i started now picking up nice teachings. I have learned alot from this video. I might not have crum everything you've talked about but the little points that I have mastered I am going to share them with some of my friends. Once again thank you...be blessed.
Your story is familiar to my husband's. Boy, he had a hard life and I got the blunt of his pain, but I've learned to understand his position. He just does not know how to show love. He only thinks about himself. He's in survival mode. I trust God to help him see that his parents and culture had done him a disservice.
I'm affected to date, I pray that GOD will help me out ,I'm fighting and I know I will overcome. Thanks Eric for speaking out for many. Mum and her sister made my life a living hell ,I have never known what motherly love is but anyway I'm old now, I don't need her love anyway. So long as I'm breathing and I'm not sick aaand I can manage my life each day one day at a time, I'm good to go.Buuut I still love her down deep in my heart ,I have forgiven her but going near her is a no .
@@victoreddie9552 oh yes , and I really thank GOD I came across the video, I know its not an easy road especially when no one understands you and that you are always the bad one .
Hey Monica.. everything in this world happens with a reason,some reasons affect us positively and some negatively, be strong and be the hundreds of voices that doesn't speak,do it on their behalf. I'll really like to hear your side of story privately..best regards..
@@stargate356 It doesn't matter what you went through, what should be the important is how you can find away to overcome it bounce back and moreso important is to how to impact the lives of other people that have gone the side situation positively.
To imagine that there were grown ups in this house who could no protect this child from an irrational psycopath parent. Including the Mom... So heart rending.
JUSTUS, WAOW YOUR STORY IS VERY MOVING, YOU'VE GONE THROUGH A LOT. I WENT THRU SIMILAR CHILDHOOD VERY HARD TO EXPRESS THIS WHEN SOMEONE WHO NEVER EXPERIENCE THIS KIND OF LIFE. I WANTED TO WRITE BUT BCOS OF MY OTHER SIBLINGS I HELD BACK. BUT THIS EMOTIONAL IMPART IS VERY STRONG, IN FACT MENTALLY AFFECTS YOU. PEOPLE ARE GOING THRU A LOT. WELDONE FOR BUILDING UP A SETTING TO HELP PEOPLE. MY SISTER AND I ALWAYS WANTED TO SET UP A CHARITY TO SUPPORT PEOPLE. DON'T GIVE UP KEEP ENCOURAGING AND YOU MIGHT FIND PEOPLE TO HELP WITH INNER PEACE. YOU'VE DONE GOOD!
eeh how can someone go through so much! I help domestic violence victims but this child abuse was of another level cheeeee!!!!!Look at the bright side of life. God has had you all this time. All that you went through prepared you for NOW. Now is the time for you to enjoy God's blessings. God has been there all along
Wow we have the same story though mine was different I was treated sooo bad by my mum and her family no one loved me coz I was a bastard, I escaped many rapes and deaths but God rescued me from my evil family I really suffered as a girl i started dating at age of 15 just to have shelter my story is too long And bitter now I leave in Europe in a quiet place thank you lord 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Your father is just like my father, the only difference is he never drunk alcohol,but beatings for real,we had it rough.we had a permanent nyaunyo well kept we were told it's the tail of a hippo,it's a long story
Wow this came on time, I actually confronted my mum yesterday abt my childhood trauma she caused,,, she told me she won't apologise because I approached her wrongly,I should've brought it up while we were talking about something else... I am healed at least I got all out of my system which was like chained....
This is powerful. I am raising boys and this has opened helped me to see that I need to stop certain things as it may destroy them. I will definitely do better for my nephew's too. Bless you brother
This is why I am opposed to the people that say children are a blessing. They are a responsibility, they are my responsibility. If I want their life to be a blessing, I need the right skills. I need to understand what they require. Otherwise most children are dealing with childhood trauma, they are perpetuating the cycle of abuse as they don’t know better.
How I wish they taught me such things when I was a child and in school.
Children are a blessing from the Lord.,so even if you oppose it, its the truth. Opposing it is opposing God. Psalms 127:3.Having children comes with responsibility. We are responsible for our children until they become an adult, whether 18 or 21. And they dont owe their parents anything. However, good children will help their children when they are aging.
@@oraltraditions6127 they are not a blessing from God they are a product of sex! All those children who will die of hunger today or other preventable causes, do you think God wanted them to die!
Saying children are a blessing absolves parents from absolute responsibility from bringing children into the earth without planning.
Children must be planned for
Will not argue sweetheart, but I showed you scriptures, so if you doubt scriptures, no comment. However, I will say this: God blessed man and woman and told them to multiply and fill the earth. Genesis (1:28). Many people went out had sex outside of marriage and all these children suffer because of the disorder of man. God says marry a woman, not women, so polygamy is a breach. Having multiple women is wrong , having babies out side of the confines of marriage is a sin too. Although, the children are born outside of marriage or inside, they are still a blessed gift from God.
Children die for hunger and diseases because of oppressers who oppress the poor. There is enough to ho around for the world to be sufficed, but some want to be superior, so the deprived a certain group. This world is unequal. We need open minds. We need to be objective rather than subjective. Cultures put people in bondage. Even if my children displease me, or God, they are still blessings from God. I cannot buy a child at the store. That child had to grow in a woman's womb.Do you know how the bones grow in the womb? My dear, God is involved. Speak life. Even if you are not convinced that they are blessings, please help me pray for our youngers all over the world who have lost hope. Tell God to change them from just being a product of sex, and make them a blessing so they can be used by God. One of the reasons why people have no regard for their fellowmen is because they dont see children as blessings, we see they as product of sex.Not to dismiss the process of the sexual act, but the end result is s beautiful life.
Just because they bring responsibilities doesn’t mean they are not a blessing from God. They are such blessings!
This young man went through the most but I am glad he went through a healing journey. These are the authentic stories that am inspired by. I really appreciate men who are bold enough to talk about their challenges and really seek to understand themselves. We need to normalize healing black men, men are not machines they are human beings with emotions hence there should be safe space for them to discuss their issues as well.
Thankful to see that God has kept you Eric. Childhood trauma is extremely difficult but God makes us overcomers. 🌺
Some of those old parents were wicked people with no fear of God. Religious hypocrisy is what they had. May we all heal from childhood traumas
They were not wicked. They had no one to explain life issues. They were operating from a point of ignorance completely lost themselves. We can only forgive them and do a better job with our children. I promised myself not to raise my children the way l was raised.
they are not wicked even parents have traumas in them...remember hurt begets hurt.
I agree. Some parents are wicked. We don't speak enough of them because of how our culture programs us. Many of them hide behind religion.
They also had their own trauma from their upbringing
God bless the host of this channel, we are learning alot.
Really sorry about the pain you went through, but, you are determined to share and help other people, thank you...you are a very young man but wise ready to transform the society for the better.
I think we should try to make our society a better and a safer place to be, if one feel that they are struggling mentally, good to ask for help, don't keep quiet.
The very first 2 minutes are already so PROFOUND. WOW! Breaking Generational Curses. Well Done bro. So PROUD of you 👏🏽
"Every home should be a church." Thank you, dear Otieno O. You are a generous gift to us.
"The Illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn" Alvin Toffler...we all need to unlearn and relearn something in our life to count ourselves literate nowadays.
Whoah, that saying cuts deep!
I'm so proud of men who share their trauma in order to heal themselves as well as other men. Not enough work is done to help our young men deal with their emotions and mental health. What happened to him as a child was horrifying. All too often, children of abuse grow up to be very angry and depressed adults. Because this man decided to seek out, speak up and get help, he is now we'll adjusted and has a great outlook on life. Congtats to him on his journey to well-being.
This man is so true some men are so emotionally divided from their selves thanks for pointing out and making it clare that offen it has been beaten from them.
I went through childhood trauma as well physical, emotional and spiritual abuse. It affected my education too. I remember how on my birthdays i would go cry and my mum’s grave. My parents got married very young as well. As am listening to your story i realise your dad was a narrcisist, in the Bible i believe this is the Jezebel spirit and such people are not epathetic and not able to connect with emotions of others and many other wild characteristics they are actually very broken people inside but are not self reflective am glad you healed as i did and am also helping others as well. I have been listening to Lisa Romano a life coach she has great healing tips and finding self again. Am glad I have found God and found myself as well.I have been on the healing path for 15years now and am glad am free!! Thank you Erick for sharing your story!
I understand you completely sis.
Hallelujah! The best sharing I have watched my entire life. Having had a similar childhood which graduated into intense abusive relationships. Thank you so much Onyango. God Increase you exceedingly. My take home, Church should be everywhere one or two are, from family, friends, neighbors etc. Justus, your presentation of your guests is top notch! God bless you
You are a gift to human being. Those who have sense listen to this bright young man! I love your analogy of who human beings function. Please don’t stop🙌🏼
You are a blessing!!!! Am so sorry for all that pain you have gone through. Keep shinning and shedding light to these issues in our African culture. Silence is not the answer. 👍
You see men walking around looking normal, yet you don't know what scars they bear. Then they get married to a girl from a normal family and it just goes downhill coz they haven't dealt with their demons. I'm sorry this happened to you and glad you are healing.
True
To be honest ; lots of our parents were frustrated individuals, some of them behaved like a sociopaths!!
Talk of being raised by a toxic masculine abusive step-father and narcissistic mother..
My mum was a psychopath
This is a refreshing interview. Happy to see men stepping out of toxic societal norms and becoming emotionally healthy 👏🏾
This is what our society needs.Healing.A broken people and family leads to broken societies.
You are brave to come out and speak of this issues.You went through that for a purpose and this is your ministry.May God continue to use you to help many.
I struggle with depression too and will one day tell my story and be a mental health advocate like you. Thanks for telling your story. Being positive and hopeful always helps.
Power to you.
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You are brave man!!you learn everything by yourself self.God bless you.
Wow, I love your authenticity and your healing journey Onyango Otieno. May men arise and speak
WOW!!!! You are a pearl and a genius ! May God guide you to greater heights. You have learnt a lot and have been really inspirational. May He heal you from your past wounds. Let your light shine! You are talented and have a lot to offer! Thank you for sharing!
I understand you.I have an experience kinda related to yours and now at 22,I'm forever running, anywhere away from home because home is not my happy place.And like you,words always come to my rescue.I've always penned my painful experiences down and it's always a calming experience.
I Bless you Brother...
thank You for cmng out because you are motivating others to speak out...I can't even.put mys3lf.in yur feet. that was horrible. I had a crazy Dad but I had a strong mother who protected us from.his drunk madness. its sad yur.mom was Weak n helpless. God bless you.
"We were separated from our emotions at a young age." That is so heart-breakingly true. Otieno we salute you for sharing your story and consciously choosing to be a better person than the blueprint you were given ✊🏾❤
You spoke straight to my heart.Thank you for your patience in all you went through
I was ironing my pillow cases and I heard, you know I have innocent eyes. I had to look 😂.
Yes you do sir!
God bless you!
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Eric you are a special man that’s Why you were prepared to come and lead those hurting to heal and change their life into positive , emotional and happy man.Eric keep shining and man “it’s okay to be open to express your feelings “. Be blessed and lots of love🕊 🇰🇪❤️😘😘
The society is soo much concentrated on female empowerment and the male species are left aside....
Its high time we come together and stop toxic masculinity. Since they cant express themselves they become violent or sucidal......Great message big man!! 👏👏
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Hitting someone isn't masculine, in fact most child abuse is by mothers to their sons and daughters, i can show you the stats. These are just broken people taking their anger out on others, nothing to do with expressing emotions lol
suicide isn't about expressing emotions, use your brain. Suicide is when you have problems with no solutions... i can cry and say how sad i am as much as i want but if my problems are not solved it won't change anything i would still kill myself lol
@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE ww kwenda uko...use my brain vitu gani? Ww tumia yako uandike comment yako. It depends on how you view this story na ndo maana kuna watu watalike the video and others will dislike. There is toxic masculinity my guy na if you do a deep research on toxic masculinity u will get my point.....daah!
@@brie2545 a research written by stupid people. There is no such thing as gender based violence or toxic masculinity. Just stupid people . For example this man here used to write about gender based violence ??? What the hell is that ? When his dad faught his mother ? Didn't his dad beat him too ? What has gender got to do with anything ? It was simply a man hitting the thing that was closest to him. It sometimes was a woman and soemtimes a boy lol.
Toxic masculinity doesn't exist.
@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE how can you call someone's research stupid?? Just because you haven't gone through sth doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Your soo much into calling people stupid and asking me to use my brain....mybe u r the those things and this is ur way of letting it out
This show is a look alike of a South African show called I have been through the most.... Good show people have a platform to inspire and transform keep it up
I am at 13th minute and I can't stop wondering if your mum witnessed this guy being burnt by his dad!! What did she think? What did she do to rescue her kid? It is at this point I say to men, and especially those who shame single moms. You don't know what options they had to choose from. If this mum chose her herself and her kids, this story would not be this sad. I wish you the courage to help others and success in life hero.
You have put it so well. We need to feel safe around people so that we don’t continue to replicate the pains we hold on other people. That’s the only way to stop the vicious cycle. Thank you
Sorry man! Continue on your healing journey bro. Those parents need healing too if ONLY they knew how sick they are, but it is sad that the people who were to parent you, abused you. Probably your parents were victims too, and can steal heal in order for the whole family to heal, otherwise the trauma continues.
You are really strong bro! All the best❤
Yes
True👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
So so sad that a whole grown man unleashes his idiocy on a wife and kids
Am disappointed! Thank you for sharing about effects of childhood traumas. Your dad is a perfect example of a Narcissist and thanks for learning to handle your situation.
Wow those are unique guy friends u got there son. Your story is inspirational. Clouds of blessings.
Man this story just stired some emotions in me.i feel like you just told my whole story.
Whoever is reading this may God protect u and ur family from depression and all form of sickness...May God release destiny helpers to you and double your prosperity ...Healing be your portion in Mighty Name
Amen.
I listened to your story attentively.. I love you and God loves you too we both love you. You're brave, articulate and well spoken. I pray God gives you the strength and courage to move on. All blessings to you
Wooh! I'm so proud of you. I need your courage to speak out. I'm tired of the cycle. I don't know where to begin 😕
Please reach out.
Pole brother , may God favor u
As a lady not a minute I will allow my husband to overdiscipline my child
Normal discipline is enough
Wow. I am glad this man is strong enough to share his story. I am so sorry you have to go through abuse at the hands of your father who is supposed to be your protector and guide. May God heal your heart so you can truly forgive your father.
Oh Yea! When you've had such an experience, you really learn to appreciate yourself. You learn to make life happen on your own. No connections, No charity, you just stick out your horns and break the Walls for life to move. I had to decide that I WAS NOTHING CLOSE TO WHAT MY DAD HAD LIVED TO DOOM ME TO. I had to frantically go on a search for who I really was. I've seen Therapists for YEARS until my psych stabalized. Until I broke free from The Grip of growing up in an Abusive home. I Frantically searched the Bible for what God thought of me and I decided to run with it like that. PERIOD. That's the only way My life moved. Otherwise I'd still be in such a Dark Hopeless Place.
This Guy, YOU'RE JUST A HERO!
And yea, Mine was also a Church Guy who behind closed doors was like an absolute LUNATIC!🙆🙆Aki I was so confused!
Luckily God revealed himself to me personally and I was able to separate between who God really was and what He was not. That kept me from Commiting suicide all the times I contemplated and even attempted. That helped me make it through coz Man! I could never have lived to tell the story.
You are a great guy. I am happy you are doing this. You are a blessing to the human race. God bless you.
You are doing an awesome job Justus. I’m in San Francisco. How do I get in touch with you? Very timely platform.✌🏽💕🙏🏽
Thank you @CeShakara my email is sharedmoments.tv@gmail.com
i went through the same at the hands of my mom,am slowly healing from depression as a result, happy for you that you came through this
Pole sana mdogo wangu. I feel your pain. So sad but yet so inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story, #You have inspired many, me as well.
Halafu someone just commented that your delusional..?? Unbelievable! Yaani kwanza kanikasirisha sana hadi I have flagged and reported her comment as Negative in this community, youtu.be should block him/her...
Negative comments towards an individual's personal story not acceptable, period!!!!
A lesson of love ❤
Thank you Mr. Otieno!
I know Erick so well,after the burn he was brought to my house and he lived with us for 1 year.This is a real life experience.
Hi am from Namibia I went through the same thing nice documentary just a bit emotional I excetlly know how that guy feel coz I went through the same nice one
I am Namibian I went through similar situation too
Every home should be a church. Every home should be a safe space!
Thank you for sharing your story Eric.
I will gladly share this.
Justus we are always grateful.
Church? No. A home should be just a home; safe, warm, loving, joyous, encouraging... Should be beautiful
I would actually take it back to our grandparents some of the stories my mum shares you wonder how she did not replicate what was done to her and by extension the colonial machine which introduced this corporal punishment where parents were being beaten infront of their children and women being raped infornt of their husbands for defiance collectively as melananted people we have all endured trauma in some way shape or form others have broken the cycle others continued because they never knew any better you cant do what you have not seen...
@@wycliffelevigan6702 Truth comments👏👏👏👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I have really enjoyed listening to you. I felt like you were talking about my life and giving me tips on how I should have gotten out of the mess. Thanks
That's my childhood, I never miss them,mum and dad,,they weren't there physically, were never supportive,,my dad was way worse,he made me believe I wasn't capable,was not even enough for anything or anyone,,and here I am having done a teaching course and even though something tells me I can stand in a classroom and teach,,some other voice puts me off that I can't really deliver in a class,,and since 2014 after graduating I haven't even gained the confidence to search for a teaching job,,I try to convince myself everyday that am okey,am normal like any other person and can do anything,,, but there is that other side of me that was instilled by my ungrateful father,,but I don't let it drive me,,I try everyday to think positive about myself and after I get some money am planning to at least try counseling,, may God be our strength, Amen
@Christine Kawira you are your own person now. Your success is not pegged on that painful past. Much as it clouded your identity, it did not change it. I believe you have everything it takes to be anything you dream about. Shake it off and go after the desires of your heart. May God lead you through to one day be a testimony for many.
I think you will be okey because you know that it was not your fault what happened to you .
Thanks for sharing my husband was abusive but later on I tried to check on his background I found out that was what his father used to to be violent and abusive. The pattern was repeating itself
For real men are struggling from their past and they can't find way out of the situation though the solution is reprograme our mind so that we can be free from the trauma
Without God we are nothing.
Have been a victim of trauma too. Really appreciate this talk. It is only when I started working in a mental health organization that I realized I had been struggling with depression. It affected my academics, was questioning my existence too. To a point a had suicidal ideations. To this day I struggle with relationships especially my mum, all the trauma has been caused by her.
It shall be well. Keep on the path
I find it interesting that he has accepted every little indignity meted upon him with a certain quiet contemplation,like a lesson that should be learnt.....free from emotion yet still able to convey his feeling on all the things that happened to him and move on with life.
You're brave, bold and strong 💪🏽
Eiiiiigh God is faithful glory and honor be to God 🙏
Violence family and toxic parents can be really tormenting and traumatizing to a child. This story is like mine. I never forget to thank God for my mom to finally gather the courage to leave that marriage. It's been years now ever since we left but the memories of the beatings still hurts me to-date. Kwanza umetaja iyo "nyahunyo" nikaskia mwili umetetemeka, coz that's what dad used to beat us with 😭😭
I'm so sorry darl. May you continue to heal.
Happy for you no child should endure such pain,they never ask to be brought into this world. Hehe and we share names also ruo
Weldone for taking your power back and curving out your recovery journey. You have been through alot and I empathise with you. It seems God used your pain and translated it into your purpose in helping others find their voice and to start their own recovery journies too.
I think you can be so useful in counseling and psychology. You'd change so many lives out here and be a blessing. Maybe you went through all that for a purpose. I relate with you in so many ways. Growing up was not easy. Though in mine there was no physical violence there was too much emotional abuse.
Young man you are on the right track keep going.All the best.
Rix Nyonyango, "They gave me this, I'm giving them this" sure thing, you should choose the kind of man you give the world. Strong!
Listening to him is healing in itself.sometimes you are abused but don't even know it because it's a norm in our culture.
Am here....unatuonjesha Tu Justus,eeei...will be waiting,I've set a reminder
Very good.
I feel you. 😭 Been there. The whole horror of it. Been there.
My brother God you. I thank you for helping a lot of people .
Your content always inspiring 👌👌
Your story is really inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story. I am happy you have come out to talk about your life experiences and how you have overcome your pains.
My dad never hit me, but my mother my scars tell it all. RIP daddy. I will forever be grateful for the life we shared 🥰
You shall live and not die. You are on your way to recovery. Your situation us God's opportunity. Hold on to Jesus. God bless you my son. My last child is 36 yrs, so could have been my grandson. I have a granddaughter age 27
Quite educative and encouraging. I would like to get his contacts to help someone very close to me. We didn’t know his condition until we listened to onyango. Thank you for the wonderful show
Went through the same thing with my mother and father, but mother was more abusive. All the frustrations and bad things happening to the family were my fault as the eldest. Her abuse was physical, mental and emotional and covert at the same time. No one outside should know. I think she knew she was abusing us because she used to say that no one should speak about what happens at home and that family secrets should be kept within the family. Refused friends or any other person being close to us. Now i look back and think she didn’t want anyone finding out how she made our lives hell at home when no one was watching. I think she went through the same abuse and she didn’t know better. Generational curses are real, i walked away and promised to do better. It messes people up. But am glad i left far away from that abuse.
I'm at the verge of losing my house due to arrears but I'd rather die homeless than seek refuge at my father's house.
To add salt on it, my mother can't say a word. As matter of fact, being a narc, she would have none of the shame.
This is a great story, what we do to our children shapes their future indeed...
Thanks Dr.peac for the link.its was so helpful
Why are the women commenting , men come out and speak of it !!!!!!!! Lets stop it please stop it we are losing smart, intelligent men !! PTSD is real . I am praying for all the men in my country
Highly intelligent and spiritually awoke man
Thanks for sharing your testimony. This was so hard to hear.......I hope that your dad does not put you off God because He is real. If you ask God to come into your life, He will heal you and wipe away all those hurtful memories of your past. Your dad was just one of those people who had no clue of who God was and was not operating under no God but anger and his own issues who he selfishly took out on you. I really hope that God restores you completely. You sound like a really nice person. I hope and pray that your life now will make up for the past pains and hurts and live a happy and loving life for evermore.......
There some huge important points that I have never heard from any other movitational speaker.
Thank you.
At first when I started watching your vedio i didn't take it seriously, I am glad that I was chatting with another phone so I didn't interupt the video as time goes i started now picking up nice teachings.
I have learned alot from this video.
I might not have crum everything you've talked about but the little points that I have mastered I am going to share them with some of my friends.
Once again thank you...be blessed.
Your story is familiar to my husband's. Boy, he had a hard life and I got the blunt of his pain, but I've learned to understand his position. He just does not know how to show love. He only thinks about himself. He's in survival mode. I trust God to help him see that his parents and culture had done him a disservice.
Leave him. What is the purpose of being with someone who can't love? Men who are unable to love should live alone
Why are you still in the marriage?
I think warunge too can be given chance to express himself..why did he made such a tough choice?
My brother i can relate may you continue to find healing .Ameen
I'm affected to date, I pray that GOD will help me out ,I'm fighting and I know I will overcome. Thanks Eric for speaking out for many. Mum and her sister made my life a living hell ,I have never known what motherly love is but anyway I'm old now, I don't need her love anyway. So long as I'm breathing and I'm not sick aaand I can manage my life each day one day at a time, I'm good to go.Buuut I still love her down deep in my heart ,I have forgiven her but going near her is a no .
Hi Monica I guess from this video you must have got some remedies that will help you overcome some of the effects that you went through.
@@victoreddie9552 oh yes , and I really thank GOD I came across the video, I know its not an easy road especially when no one understands you and that you are always the bad one .
Hey Monica.. everything in this world happens with a reason,some reasons affect us positively and some negatively, be strong and be the hundreds of voices that doesn't speak,do it on their behalf. I'll really like to hear your side of story privately..best regards..
@@stargate356 It doesn't matter what you went through, what should be the important is how you can find away to overcome it bounce back and moreso important is to how to impact the lives of other people that have gone the side situation positively.
@@victoreddie9552 im not ready to talk about it because I dont know where to start. No i don't wanna talk about it.
This one is making me feel so stressful waiting for it
To imagine that there were grown ups in this house who could no protect this child from an irrational psycopath parent. Including the Mom... So heart rending.
Having the courage to express yourself is another thing.
JUSTUS, WAOW YOUR STORY IS VERY MOVING, YOU'VE GONE THROUGH A LOT. I WENT THRU SIMILAR CHILDHOOD VERY HARD TO EXPRESS THIS WHEN SOMEONE WHO NEVER EXPERIENCE THIS KIND OF LIFE. I WANTED TO WRITE BUT BCOS OF MY OTHER SIBLINGS I HELD BACK. BUT THIS EMOTIONAL IMPART IS VERY STRONG, IN FACT MENTALLY AFFECTS YOU. PEOPLE ARE GOING THRU A LOT. WELDONE FOR BUILDING UP A SETTING TO HELP PEOPLE. MY SISTER AND I ALWAYS WANTED TO SET UP A CHARITY TO SUPPORT PEOPLE. DON'T GIVE UP KEEP ENCOURAGING AND YOU MIGHT FIND PEOPLE TO HELP WITH INNER PEACE. YOU'VE DONE GOOD!
His name is Onyango Otieno, Justus is the host.
I understand you every bit! African families can have such baaaaad things happening. From your story, now I know what to do.
I needed to hear this.
eeh how can someone go through so much! I help domestic violence victims but this child abuse was of another level cheeeee!!!!!Look at the bright side of life. God has had you all this time. All that you went through prepared you for NOW. Now is the time for you to enjoy God's blessings. God has been there all along
Wow what an enlightened strong fighter you are. Thank you for your healing story
Wow we have the same story though mine was different I was treated sooo bad by my mum and her family no one loved me coz I was a bastard, I escaped many rapes and deaths but God rescued me from my evil family I really suffered as a girl i started dating at age of 15 just to have shelter my story is too long And bitter now I leave in Europe in a quiet place thank you lord 🙏🏾🙏🏾
May the lord continue to heal you
Girls are not bastards
I have learnt alot....keep the comtent coming Jus
Be blessed, well presented, truly experiential.
My first time watching your blog it's something in the past but I felt so sorry for you, but thank God through it all you're standing love from London
You successfully broke the generational cycle of abuse and abundonement.
The opening is like reading Chimamandas Purple Hibiscus
Your father is just like my father, the only difference is he never drunk alcohol,but beatings for real,we had it rough.we had a permanent nyaunyo well kept we were told it's the tail of a hippo,it's a long story
Wow this came on time, I actually confronted my mum yesterday abt my childhood trauma she caused,,, she told me she won't apologise because I approached her wrongly,I should've brought it up while we were talking about something else... I am healed at least I got all out of my system which was like chained....
Wow!
Parents please be real parents