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I was in the news interview. Breezy was my childhood best friend, my sister, the other half of my soul. Thank you so much for using your platform to bring awareness to breezy's story...It hurts her story is slowly losing momentum and Aaron is still on the run. Thank you again for putting her story out there, I am so grateful.❤️
We are thinking of you, and we hope you are all staying safe out there. Do you have any insight into how quickly their relationship moved.. was Breezy ever a bit turned off by his clinginess and constant displays of adoration? Thank you for stopping in and commenting, our community wraps you in a hug of support and love.
I am so sorry for your loss. Breanna seemed like an amazing person and wonderful mom. What happened to hear is so awful, my heart breaks for all of you who love her ❤
I can't imagine what you and her family are going through right now, and I wish I could give all of you a hug in real life. 🫂 Sending all the love and healing energy to you and Breezy's family, especially the kids.
I was about to comment the same. I had to back up and watch again. I thought surely I’m hearing what he said wrong. Unfortunately, I was not ! Stealing from homeless and so proud of it he made a video for all to see! Absolutely disgusting. The audacity to even comment,” this one dude was a veteran!” I was shocked !!! 🤬 He’s disgusting!!!!!!
Just wanted to pop-in because when you mentioned Aaron--I'm an Esthetician, and part of our training is to recognize domestic violence. One of the tell-tale signs is a spouse that insists on attending the appts with the client. That definitely perked my ears. This poor girl; it's a far too common tragedy.
Wow... I never thought about that but it definitely makes a lot of sense. Man is so possessive and untrusting that they can't let their partner out of their sight... and when they do, you best believe wild accusations will fly...
@@SilhouetteSEI’m not an esthetician, but based on how medical professionals etc. deal with that stuff, I’m guessing if there’s signs of bruising or other marks, and they have kids, then CPS could be called. Otherwise, if there’s signs of bruising or other marks, or something like evident verbal abuse, or even in the case of the abuser just being there at every appointment, watching the victim’s body language for signs of unease and fear, then possibly bringing the victim to a private room (making something up like that there’s only one person allowed in the room, women only room, etc.) and asking if abuse is happening and if they can do anything to help the victim. Unfortunately, if the victim is an adult and denies that it’s happening or denies help, there’s not much that can be done. Even if you called the police, the victim would likely lie to the police as well and could be put in an even more dangerous situation from their abuser retaliating.
I do to. I was mulling this over and thinking, even if she wanted to be together with him too - we should all practice discomfort, build resilience to every day situations which challenge us. She should have been encouraged by her partner to spend time alone and thrive.
I grew up with my next door neighbors as a kid. The children were mine and my siblings' best friends. Their parents were always so kind and seemed happy on the outside. We absolutely loved the whole family and were very close to them. Then we found out that the Mom had left and taken the children and the father was desperate to get them back. One night we heard a gun shot and it turned out that the father had taken his own life with a shotgun. We found out later that he was trying to get her to come back with the kids just for a visit that whole day and she was refusing. My parents who knew their dynamics better than I did as a kid absolutely believed with 100% certainty that if she had gone back and taken the children to visit- he would have killed them too. It really shook me and I really feel for the children in the story that you shared tonight. It is so important to have a sense of self outside of a relationship. One person cannot be your whole world and the reason you are living.
I agree with everything you said but there's no way of knowing he would have killed his ex wife and children too. Maybe not seeing them that night and them not giving him a chance is what sent him over the edge and he didn't want to live without them. Clearly she was right to trust her instincts and not go regardless but he was either depressed or mentally ill, just tragic all the way around. I'm so sorry for your loss ❤
I actually see Aaron's social media posts to be more sinister. I had a boyfriend who said and did all the "nice guy" stuff, but in reality he was controlling and narcissistic. When I tried to set boundaries in the relationship or voice my needs, he would completely disregard this and say things like, "I love that you're willing to do things my way even when you don't want to." He was a master manipulator and gaslighter, and actually never cared about me at all. It messed me up for a long time. I see such public endearments as a major red flag.
Yeah the soppy posts always signal to me they did something wrong at home and they are being performative about their love so everyone thinks they are a great husband/wife and the pressure on them increases to not say anything bad. In the mormons they have a ton of these sorts of posts because looking like you are eternally in love matters as they think they ra soulmates when they met at 17 or something.
The "control" factor of every analysis of data, scientific research etc. to prove an outcome is very important. In the case of public affection, if it is NOT for the reason of expressing genuine love to the other person, THEN the red flag goes up. Public affection itself is not a red flag.
It's very disturbing to me that he filmed/took photos of her in a vulnerable position. You can't really move when you're having your nails and hair done, it's uncomfortable psychologically.
It's amazing how Mormon men are excused for their actions. I live in SLC and a convicted sex offender moved back home after prison a block away from me, and I lived across the street from the school. He was outed by a neighbor and his wife went to the neighborhood Facebook page to complain and the number of people that stood up for him was incredibly disturbing. "Let he who is without sin throw the first stone." " we have all made mistakes" "you can get on the sex offenders list for peeing in public" (he was convicted of grooming a teenage girl online and SAing her) And the wife had the audacity to say she has suffered, too. She lost her SUV because they couldn't afford it anymore. You know after paying his lawyer and the breadwinner being in prison. It was infuriating. I was so happy we had already sold our house and was leaving the state.
ugh. That’s so gross but I have seen it in multiple communities! One of my best friends as a kid grew up and married this odd guy-gave me the creeps. They gave him 2.5 years for SA/molesting/raping a teen . She stood by him. The community was divided. But then it came out he did this with multiple other girls in a government program setting and took them across state lines so now he is a lifer in fed prison (thank goodness). But for the fact he crossed a state line he still would have had a slap on the wrist. The law doesn’t care about child victims so much as an imaginary line. She still defends him I think. idk why. At this point the community is not divided but I know one man who feels sorry for him. FoR HIM! Not for the poor kids! Tells me we have more than one creep.
I KNOW RIGHT ! I was raised Mormon(by my parents) and grew up with a boy who r*ped his 3 yr old cousin when he was 15 !!! He’s 29 now, married in the Mormon temple and has 2 daughters.. makes me sick to my stomach 100%
It's insane to me that so many religious communities protect abusers. To me it goes against everything religions (claim to) stand for, but what do I know
As a hairdresser It always catches my eye when a SO stays at the appointment, especially repeatedly. Having a SO call my salon looking for their wife/girlfriend. Big warning sign. After 19 years in the industry, I notice it all and have given local resources to help them out. I've learned the hard way that I can't personally help as much as I want to. It's definitely something our industry has been honing in on.
I have severe anxiety and I bring my fiance with me. I know the way we speak to eachother puts my hairdresser at ease because we joke and play a lot. I asked my stylist once and she said that yes it's usually a red flag but we're adorable lol
My huz wants me there. 20y married. It’s zero to do with insecurity and 100% to do with him requesting I come back vs stay up front. He has yet to describe what haircut he wants, relying on me for that info. I pay attention to the styling process so I can teach him to do it at home. And we both prefer a quiet appointment so we can chat together.
This is why, if you are married to a spouse like this is to plan your escape _quietly._ Don't let them know. Plan and leave when they aren't home. This is what I did with my abusive ex. He was out of town, I called him and left a voicemails telling him I was done and I was filing for divorce. Emails only, no talking via phone & no seeing me in person. He was SO manipulative, I couldn't handle it. Great podcast!!!! 💗 I also love being alone. I'm remarried to an amazing man and we both love our alone time 🥰
You are amazingly strong! Laura Richards, an expert on violence against women, has discussed how women are in extreme danger right when the marriage/relationship breaks up. Breanna probably didn’t realize just how much danger she was in…which is just heartbreaking.
That’s what I did also. Especially this is the safer option if you have children. I knew he had went on a trip to NYC. I had it all planned out to take everything I had purchased I had two trusted male family members pull up with a truck and we packed up everything in under an hr. I was working at that time and thank god he hadn’t financially abused me and I had money saved so I had even gotten a two bedroom apartment behind his back. I had taken all our important documents and had them stored at my mothers because he had already taken my and my daughters info once when I was trying to enroll in a training program for low income people. Your greatest protection in situations like this is secrecy. Them not knowing your next move. Even after you get away never let them know anything if at all possible. Thank god he lost interest for the most part because he found a pretty well off older woman to pursue and then marry. I’m sure he has also put her through hell but that is not our problem. Many years after and He has since apologized and told me it haunts him that he treated me that way. I told him I was past all that but better it haunt him than me. It was important for me that he knew he didn’t ruin me.
When you’re trying too hard to convince the world that your relationship is amazing, usually you’re trying to convince yourself too….I love your take on things!!!
Absolutely. When I was with my ex husband we always had to take photos and upload them to FB. When I look back at the photos you can see the sadness in my eyes. My current partner, we very rarely take photos as we are genuinely enjoying the moment and the time. I have less than 5 photos of him/us on my socials and we've been together for 6 years. We are genuinely happy and love every moment we spend with eachother. Ironically, when I left my ex, I was genuinely so happy as I was free of all the negativity and gas lighting etc. So I was posting up-beat happy posts. The ex had the audacity to tell me I was clearly NOT happy as happy people do not post about their happiness. Trust me they do, especially when they've gained control over their life again after 2.5 years. It's like a hallelujah "Dobby is Free" moment.
We used to see one of our fb friends posting glowing remarks & lovey pictures of her husband & bragged on how great he was & how much she loved him all the time. Then, all a sudden she posted a pic of her with her new husband!!! No explanation. Just suddenly now she’s married to a whole ‘nother guy!!!!
Thank you thank you thank you for addressing Mormon's in this. As an Exmormon I'm so thankful you're talking about the consequences of the teachings in the church and how they can become dangerous... Let's be mindful it's also not just men. There's been some very problematic women as well. But yes the men are a HUGE issue.
Lori Vallow, Kouri Richens, etc. It's not the doctrine in my opinion. It's the culture. It's why I won't live in Utah as a faithful member. If you're LDS you're expected to be cookie cutter. If you are LDS and not the same as them they don't know what to do with you.
This happened two towns over from me. I have a few mutual friends with Breezy and they’re absolutely devastated. Thank you for covering her case and bringing awareness, as it’s losing traction and search efforts are seriously slowing down. He needs to be found and brought to justice. Again, thank you. Those babies deserve justice for their beautiful mother.
This video transcended from crime tube to a very valuable Ted talk. Very important message. Losing my parents the trauma for the kids hit me the hardest. Crying here.
Omg thank you. I think you just nailed how dehumanizing it is to be put on a pedestal. It's just as bad as being put down. You're just not a person anymore; you're a thing that has no power or agency, just a decoration or status symbol in someone else's life.
She was one of my closest friends and of all the tik toks and TH-cams I have seen… you were spot on. Thank you for taking the time to get his face out there, thank you for not making speculations and claiming them as fact, thank you for honoring her. You were so spot on and did it in such a kind way.
So very sorry for your loss, loosing your best friend leaves a hole no one can understand and I wish you didn’t know that feeling . She seems like an absolutely beautiful person and I’m happy you were able to have a friend like her ❤ Stephanie always does a wonderful job making the victims her main priority. ❤
I'm so thankful you're covering this. Breezy was my older cousin's childhood friend and she was such a sweet spirit. Her friends and family are absolutely devastated.
our thoughts and love are with you, and we are all giving you a big hug. She seemed like such a beautiful person, so kind and probably such a big personality
I was in a relationship like that and I ended up leaving him. I was asked what my problem was and why I had done this to a wonderful man like him. Thank God my family, my shrink and my best friend were on my side.
really enjoying this free therapy session with Stephanie. I was married to a sociopath and thank God I got out alive but this is literally a word-for-word session I just had with my therapist.
Hi! Ex-Mormon from Utah here! I just wanted to say thank you for bringing awareness to the fact that women are extremely oppressed in that religion. I am still surrounded by many people that are Mormon, and I just wanted to say that they do all get married VERY young and after only knowing each other for under a year usually. And in the Mormon faith, it is believed that when you get married, it is for eternity, for this life and the next. I do agree with you that many Mormon men are using that fact to control their wives. It is very frowned upon to get a divorce in that religion. Thank you again for raising awareness to the many many issues woman face in this religion every day. I believe the cracks in this religion are starting to show in very scary ways. RIP Breezy ❤
Many years ago, I briefly dated a guy like Aaron. He told me he was "only happy" when I was happy and "was sad" any time I was sad. He also said I was his "angel who was sent to help" him. I was emotionally well and whole enough to see the red flags and RUN!! No one can be someone's everything. Beware if someone tries to make you that for them! Condolences to Breezy's family and friends! 💔
When I listened to that segment my mind went there right away, but I rejected the thought as too over the top. I listened with growing disbelief as it was revealed that I was right in the first place. What an asshole.
Woman. How are you going to be my therapist and my true crime guru all at once? Having just left a very toxic relationship a few months ago after 14 years, I see so much of myself in Breezy and unfortunately so much of my ex in Aaron. I’m so grateful I got out when I did, even though we had our own traumatic end, but my heart is heavy for these 4 children who have now lost both parents. Thank you for covering this case, you always do an amazing job.
Proud of you for getting out! It is not easy as I was in one for 11 years many years ago. Take care of yourself. I hope you thrive and are happy. It takes time to recover from toxicity so be easy on yourself ❤
So sorry you had to go through that. Glad you got out in time! I'm wishing you all the best in your healing journey. My heart hurts for anyone that has experience with people like this. ❤
I am so glad you are covering the EPIDEMIC OF MORMAN FAMILIES KILLING EACH OTHER or going crazy…Lori Vallow was a woman. Ruby frank and Jodi hildabrandt aren women! I used to be Mormon and I have been watching this unfold in the true crime community the past few years… THANK YOU Stephanie!
Lori Vallow and Ruby Franke seem to have a mentor in common. (I was thinking of Julie Rowe, but apparently it goes much deeper: a book called _Visions of Glory,_ by someone named Pontius. I'm behind on my doomsday cults....)
My ex was a mechanic who could not spell it. Some people just can't spell. Maybe a disability, maybe laziness, maybe typing errors, maybe a language barrier. Why point it out to strangers, there are people in your own world you could be helping, instead of making a stranger feel bad over something that may be a disability, since you do not know them.
I was raised and lived in the LDS religion until fairly recently. Common in LDS marriages, Meet young, married soon and children quickly. Those quotes he posted were all from leaders in the Mormon church. Women are taught their entire worth is in being a wife and mother and serving others. LDS believe families are together forever and rather than lose his family she should die and then they can be together in elernity. Im sure he freaked because she was going to leave him so he killed her.
There is always a focus on people of color commiting heinous crimes but there seems to be a LOT of this kind of stuff going on in these religions that are predominately White. Like, why is nobody talking about what seems like an epidemic among these groups?!?!
They also believe murder is an unforgivable sin that won’t get you into heaven. No way Aaron thought if he killed his wife they could be together for eternity. This guy was angry and mentally ill. I don’t think his religion played a role
@@adoseofcare not quite true. You still have to ask for and obtain a temple divorce. Substance abuse is not considered a viable reason for a temple divorce. Murder, and adultery are. My mom could not get her temple divorce from my dad until she had another man willing to take her to the temple even though my dad had cheated on her and abused his own daughters and step daughter. Substance abuse is not a good reason (in their eyes) because it is possible to recover from it. Civil divorce is easy and requires no permission from general authorities, on the other hand a temple divorce is very hard for a woman to get.
My ex husband was like this, it got to the point where I couldn’t go to any beauty appointments or even doctors appointments because it took so much time away from him and that pissed him off. He controlled everything, my money, my life, who I could and couldn’t talk to including my own family. I’m happy to say I have been free from his abuse for almost 4 years now and I feel so bad for Breezy because she did not deserve this, her kids did not deserve this and I really hope her family gets the justice they deserve 💕 please stay safe out there guys!
Thank you for bringing up their faith, as touchy a subject as that is. I grew up in the Mormon church, and my father was violently abusive towards my siblings and me, and he to this day verbally and emotionally mistreats my mom, though she doesn't see it that way. In my experience, and from what I observed in other families and what I was taught at church services, women and children are expected to follow the man of the house with "exact obedience". If that man screwed up, it was written off as "a human mistake by a man who was trying to be like god, but we all fall short of His Glory, don't we?" My father was given multiple church callings, which is basically an assignment (and position of authority, if you're a man), which signaled to everyone else that he was a righteous and God-fearing man. The truth was he was beating his children almost daily, and only lightened up a little when my sister went to church with a black eye. Then verbal abuse became his go-to. This is not an isolated incident. Males in the church are told from infancy that they are meant to be rulers of Heaven and leaders in God's kingdom on Earth. At age twelve, they are given the Priesthood, which in the LDS faith means the literal power of god. *This religion encourages men to develop narcissistic traits while telling others to shut up, pray harder, and accept it.* As for the men, they are also given this double-edged sword of being responsible for their entire family's salvation. So the family doesn't really have a say in whether or not the man makes it to heaven, but he has to sho7ulder their salvation, and if they don't support him 100%, they are damned, even the children. Furthermore, youth in the church are expected to get married and start a family almost as soon as they graduate highschool. I was 23 when I married my spouse, and by that time I was already considered a spinster. imagine what that does to a person, never experience life outside their parents' home, and now they are saddled with the responsibility of a whole family in their early twenties. Is it any wonder women and men in this faith lose their shit and lash out?
As someone also raised half in and out of the church, I don’t view this as a Mormon problem. My father was excommunicated from the church for the things he’d done, and he never even put his hands on me. In my experience, predators & abusers use the technique of hiding in places that give the illusion their a good person. It’s the classic “wolf in sheeps clothing” tactic. It’s not that Mormons support that behavior, but rather they are so trusting that a “good” abuser can easily hide behavior from them. Like you said, once your sister got a black eye then your father had to lighten up because he KNEW he’d get caught and that they would not be accepting of that behavior. I’ve also been to MANY wards & branches across the country. Unfortunately, they are not all perfect representations of LDS teachings or beliefs. Rather they are usually people just doing their best to try and be better people. It is not their fault that a few abusers and predators weasel their way in, and it’s not their fault what someone does behind closed doors. I have always found it extremely interesting that the only time religion is SPECIFICALLY connected to a criminal case is when it’s mormons. Of all the thousands of cases I’ve studied in my short life, there’s never been an instance of “this catholic man killed his family, or this Protestant man killed his family or this baptist man killed his family, or even this atheist man killed his family.” And it’s not that there aren’t cases of people from these religions doing horrific things… rather that people do not connect their religion to their crime. Is it that more is expected of Mormons, or is it that it makes it easier for people to view Mormonism as a cult or evil faith? In my own experience, I’ve been around/witnessed a lot of things both inside & outside of the church…. And after everything I’ve seen, I can hands down say that the LDS church is the safest place I’ve ever been in my life. Even with all the mistakes I’ve witnessed, they were not even COMPARABLE to the life I suffered out side of the church. The nicest most caring groups of people I’ve ever met were in the church. And very few times have I ever seen scandal or someone getting away with acting evil.
Breezy was my little sister's best friend. I appreciate you covering this case and im helping get the news out there. Aaron is still either on the loose or dead im yhe woods. I will add, his "PTSD" is sheer bullshit. He was airforce, had an easy time in basic, and never saw conflict. Hes a monster that just snapped, plain and simple. He deserves worse than hell for the terror he put his family through and for what he did to Breezy. She was a loving mother and friend and he felt that if he couldnt have her, nobody could. There is so much more to this story that has not been made public. My heart hurts for my sister and BIL, for my sister's children that will likely never see their friends again, for their church family, for Breezy's children, amd for everyone else that knew and loved her. I pray Aaron is found sooner rather than later.
I really believe that most military (I say most because I know it's not ALL, but it's a lot) leave with some sort of mental or personality disorder.. it's very scary.
My LDS member Mom didn't get any support when she talked with her church leader about my father's infidelities. Men's entitlement is becoming a huge problem. I no longer consider myself part of the LDS church.
My ex husband was welcomed with open arms back into the ward after being charged with domestic battery. In addition a few years prior to our marriage he had cheated on me I went to our bishop who basically shrugged it like oh well you aren't legally married so it's not a big deal....yet. they convinced me it wasn't as horrible as it was and I should forgive him.
You describing your views on how he is in this relationship is spot on. I was in a controlling emotionally abusive marriage for 20+ years. We met at 15, and were married with 2 kids by 21. He really had me thinking it was just out of his love and everything you said. I just got remarried in June and my husband couldn't be more opposite from that. He shows me everyday how much I mean to him and how much he loves me, without being controlling and obsessive. It is amazing and I'm so glad I get to see now what I couldn't for so many years.
This gives me hope. I am a year free of nearly 30 years of the same stuff. While I’m content being alone for now, there’s hope nonetheless. I’m so happy you’re happy. And I have to ask, after you were out did it become clear as day to you all the abuse? Bc I was shocked at how little I realized being in it. Like someone cleaned the dirty window and I could see it clear as day. Anyway, thanks for this comment. ❤
@sarakirkpatrick6464 absolutely. As soon as he was gone it started to dawn on me how much I ignored and made excuses for. The younger they get their hooks in, the easier it is to get you to see things their way. My ex was the king of gaslighting to.
@@daniellecondra6243 I learned mine is a covert narcissist. So many people throw that word around aimlessly now. But those of us who’ve dealt with one know . And I agree. I was 18 when I met him. 45 when I left. While I know I’m still healing and learning to be alone and be happy, exactly like Stephanie mentioned, I have never felt more free.
When Stephanie talked about how in the beginning you’re full on ppl pleasing and just waiting for the other person to reciprocate, I felt that in my core. Never ever start a relationship just straight up pouring into someone receiving very little to nothing in return. The resentment will become catastrophic. Especially women. This is the worst thing you can do when starting a relationship. It’s not in most women’s nature to just give, give, give & not receive on a long term level. Save yourself and don’t do it.
Thank God he did not take the kids too. This is such a tragic story. I got married very young to a man I went to high school with. The night we “met” (because we did have mutual friends and saw each other before this night, but had never spoken before), he told me that he had silently loved me since the first time he saw me. As an 18 year old, I thought that was the most romantic thing I’d ever heard. We moved in together literally that night. We spent the next 11 years together, alternating between being completely and totally obsessed with each other and having the most horrific fights you can imagine. I’m glad I survived it.
As a Massachusetts native and having lived in Worcester county for 28 years, this case hits close to home. May her children find peace in this world, 😞
My daughter just had a guy break up with her over her Halloween costume who was religious and was saying stuff like the oh well, all those guys must have been looking at you all night. And her costume wasn't even that bad. She dodged a bullet I believe.
@DeeChambers-ci6cn Yes- that guy is a “no no”. Keep him at bay -and beware , bc it takes about a year for them to stop trying to get back w here. My high school sweetheart heart was the same way. I dodged a bullet to. They r too Insecure - at any age but a 15-25 that age especially.
This story is very, very sad. Tragic. I feel so sorry for all of her friends, family and children. But can I just say 1 thing? As truly terrible this is, can I say that I'm happy that he didn't do anything to physically harm their children? I don't want to take away from the tragedy that's already happened but I'm relieved that the kids are safe
Sad thing is we don’t know that he didn’t beat them or harshly punish. He may have emotionally abused them. That might have been the thing that pushed this loving mother to make plans to take them away from him.
@Valky 👏🏽👏🏻👏🏽👏🏻🤍🌈 Well stated, it took me awhile to understand this about myself. This girl really needs opportunities to recharge, often it is most restorative to do so solo.
This story is scary similar to a relationship I was in. It’s truly terrifying that something that seemed like love in the beginning can be all about control and power over someone.
I’ve been with my husband for 25 years, he has never been to my hair, eyebrow or pedicure appointments 😳 it’s suffocating. Nor do I need or want to be worshipped or idolized as a person. We each need our own lives in order to share the journey ❤
Right?!! I go get my hair done so I can chat with my hairdresser and have “my” time. I would be concerned if my BF wanted to start going to hair appointments.
My boyfriend has never come to a beauty appointment with me. But toxicity is so normalized. All of my boyfriends' friends can't believe that I don't get angry when he plays video games because ALL of their girlfriends do. Toxic.
You just know he also went into the room in all her doctor and gynae appointments. I know you have paying healthcare in the US. Here in the UK it's free and we just rock up to the doctor as needed. I often wonder how women in bad situations get abortions or birth control without their husband knowing, or how they get treatment without his permission.
WARNING IF YOU’RE NEW: Stephanie is highly addictive!!!! Fact finder, passionate advocate, great story teller, and you’ll never wonder what she is thinking, funny and blunt!!
I can’t watch anymore as she’s started adding video clips in so it’s not easy when you just listen, what with the adverts too. But she was the best and so unique at storytelling before. I still come to her videos and forward through to see if there’s video/audio clips and there is in this one.
@@emmajp_9385 she only has ads at the very start of the video 🤷🏻♀️ and she does it in a very straightforward way, no segways, no trying to shove it in her content - like many do. And as more of a listener than a watcher myself, I don’t mind the clips. They’re not excessive and I think they complement the storytelling perfectly. What I love most about Stephanie, besides her passion and the amount of thorough research that she puts into her videos.. it’s the way she presents the cases. She’s natural, shes fair and she’s truly compassionate with victims (human or animal). Unlike many true crime TH-camrs who sound more like TMZ presenters.
@@mariavc7421 I get ads, granted I’ve not listened to her videos for a while now. I’m in the UK, don’t know if that makes a difference. And I’m glad the video clips don’t bother you, they do me.
25:39 Thank you for addressing the problem. There are so many family annihilator cases and hopefully steps can be made to reduce the likelihood of that. 🖤
47:18 as someone that got married at 21 after 10 months of knowing my ex (engaged after 8 months), I can attest to that you don’t know someone after that short amount of time. I found out I was pregnant two days after we got married. I didn’t want to continue on in the marriage after a few months because my ex was an emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive person. But because I was pregnant I stuck around. After two years, we were in marriage counseling. After seven years, we were divorced. It was hard getting out once I was in. So PLEASE LISTEN TO STEPHANIE! It’s been almost 5 years since we’ve been officially divorced and I still have to deal with him because we co-parent our child. He’s an even worse person after I left. Especially after I started a new relationship got engaged 3 years later and got married a year after that. When you are young you are so blinded by love but you need to ask if it’s love that you feel or infatuation.
Thank you for being brave enough to speak on the potential link between the LDS church and these horrific crimes. I believe more research needs to be done on this connection.
I really believe it come down to the church preaching that women are just property - to be kept and dealt with at home. It's almost as of they have no personhood of their own.. which when religious texts were written was absolutely the case. But to still behave that way in "our year of the Lord" 2023- or 24 is unconscionable.
Him writing it out may have been out of excitement. Making it more real. Seems he feels he's relieving himself of what he perceives to be a burden. I am so tired of these murderous nuts hiding behind God.
This guy makes me think of 'splitting' - where someone sees people as all good or all bad. His wife was perfection, until it looked like she was going to leave him. Then he probably saw her as a horrible traitor. My heart is breaking for her children. 💔
Bpd symptoms, yes. I have a lot of symptoms of quiet bpd (I don’t lash out at others), but he does sound like he has very similar symptoms to bpd in general
It takes a lot to break something like that too. Even after years of therapy, I have to remind myself sometimes not to make quick judgements and be more grey than black or white. We can get better though, it can just take a bit because healing is like peeling an onion and you don’t always see the other problems til one day it just clicks for whatever reason. Whether he had it or not, I really wish he would have just gotten help instead of taking her down with him 😕. She didn’t deserve it and that’s no excuse anyway
@@MadeOfQuestions I’d just like to say people with bpd in general don’t end up murderers. So I’m thinking maybe there was also something else going on with him
It can be a very fine line between 'love' and obsession---- it took me a long time, personally, to recognise that partners I had did not _love_ me---- but were instead obsessed with me---- I've tried to understand why that's the deal I get.. and have tried to work on myself in order to find 'the real deal'---- the obsession thing---- is dangerous!!!
I LOVE that you talked about attachment styles in this video! I'm so glad it's going more mainstream. It's so important to understand our attachment style and our partner's.
Chuckling at Stephanie still pronouncing Worcester as “worster” after Derrick demonstrated how to say it the right way on crime weekly 💀😂 still love ya girl! Thanks for the upload ❤
Bit difficult at the moment, I'm thirty-nine and have been single for a while now. Last week a random girl fractured two of my ribs when I told her to get out of my flat after I caught her smoking heroin in my bathroom. I suppose things could always be worse.
I imagine if you fractured her ribs, you would be charged with ass3ult. I have rib spasms as part of an autoimmune disease and my heart goes out to you! That is an extreme and horrendous pain!❤
@@Leigh-Anne94 I was drunk and she knocked on my door looking for someone else (She was also drunk) and had wine with her. She asked to come in and I let her. Sitting around watching TV and then messing around a bit. She went to the bathroom and left the door wide open, I told her to leave, she got angry, punched me twice as hard as she could and then left. I never would have let her in had I been sober, moral of the story is don't let random girls into your flat at 3am while you've drank a liter of whiskey.
I so wish she could hear all these great points you are saying about how it's ok to not be ok, to not being squared away in your 20's, to need someone to help and listen to you. I'm sure Brianne would have really needed and appreciated this. ❤
No because I caved in and bought storage and now I feel like a sucka! A sellout! After years of sticking to not giving in. I gave in. I’m not worthy anymore 😢😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was married young and we were together for 23 years. The best thing I ever did was not remarry and concentrate on my children. I know a lot of women think or even been told that to be whole you need a man to complete you. Once you learn to love yourself you really find solitude truly blissful. We're expecting a new grandbaby soon and did it by ourselves.
I hope my friend realizes this soon. She spent 7 years alone after having 2 daughters back to back. In the last 2.5 years she has been in 2 relationships and they've both been losers who have/are using her. Both were moved in to her home within weeks of meeting them,both are alcoholics,hell the one she's with now isn't even here legally,I could go on and on. She knows how I feel about it,but doesn't care. I just wish she could go back to the way things were or find a man that is actually worth her time....
@@CaseyMarie11-11sorry, they aren't giving me notifications for replies or likes anymore. That's not good for your friend, I had a male friend tell me once, if you've got a guy love bombing you and wanting to move in ASAP they might be just out of jail or prison. They have to have a permanent address or the parole board will put them in a halfway house. They want a gullible/weak woman that they can control to continue their criminal activities. You can't break the law as easily in a halfway house. Please tell her if she insists on letting these guys live off her to at least get a background check. I had one do it to me and I came home from work to all my electronics and my son's games gone. I never let another one move in with me, we got our stuff back and he went back to jail.
My EX (not Mormon, but JW) would also post over the top public messages on Facebook. ESPECIALLY after a disagreement or after a blowout has subsided. It was just weird. Like he was so insecure of his position in our relationship that he had to project this image of "bliss" to random people in the internet.
I had a non religious ex do this too, always with suspicious timing, always used to publicly claim me or manipulate me in some way. He showed codependent, controlling and narcissistic traits in hindsight so it makes sense.
I grew up in a JW home and “investigated” the Mormons. I came to the realization that they’re pretty much the same thing. It was creepy how they’re clearly two different religions with different practices, but the techniques of control were soooo eerily similar. I said deuces to them soon after!
This one is kinda hard to hear. I spent 11 years with a man like that... He went to work with me bc "guys can slick talk you". I use to joke and say that the world wouldn't swallow me whole if I went out alone. Then he trapped me and the kids in a room. Took him leaving in an ambulance to get us out bc he fought when they came thru our front door to get us out... But I still loved him and hoped he'd change... Until I ended up in the critical care unit with multiple broken bones bc he ran over me with his truck... He made those cute FB posts but never said those things to me, it was all for show. Now, I don't date, I don't trust anyone anymore. I enjoy being alone bc I'll never hurt me like that... Men like that are scary!!!
I think Stephanie’s assessment of Aaron as being controlling and possessive was very true and it also shows in how he went with her everywhere…eyebrow appointments, pedicures, hair appointments. These are things my husband usually will just drop me off at, or I would do with a friend unless my husband was also getting his hair done or a pedicure. The fact that he felt the need to tag along with her literally EVERYWHERE she went, even to do the most menial and mundane things most guys wouldn’t really want to tag along to, shows he did not want her having any kind of life outside of him at ALL. he wanted to be by her side 24/7 and to a person who maybe hasn’t experienced abuse of this nature it may just seem like he enjoyed her company and liked to be around her but really it indicates even when she was doing things that should’ve been for herself and some kind of break from him he still felt the need to be there. It can be SUFFOCATING to be in a relationship like that. May she rest in peace, and I hope this man is put behind bars and rots forever for what he did to her.
My wife literally makes me go to every single appointment with her, like she'll actually get pissed off if I say I don't wanna go, so this could definitely go both ways, if a guy goes to every appointment with his wife because she wants him to, nothing wrong with that, if he goes because he's controlling that's different, people definitely shouldn't assume cause a guy us with his wife at appointments, that he's a crazy psycho killer. Nothing to do with your comment, just have seen tons of comments saying, if a guy is always with his wife he's an abusive psycho and she needs to get out...like tf?
@@cyberry813 pretty sure it’s just in the context of what happened to this woman that people find it as a possible sign of abuse. I wouldn’t necessarily see a random guy on Facebook doing this and instantly think abuse. However, if his wife ended up murdered and the police believed he was the #1 suspect, I’d certainly see that in a different light. And even though your wife may ask you to come to every appointment with her doesn’t make it something that’s very common for other married couples like myself and maybe some of the other commenters that you referenced, especially when there’s kids involved. If I’m going to an appointment like that, my husband usually will stay at home with the kids.
Thank you for touching on the potential influence of the Mormon Church in cases like this. My mom converted to it when she re-married decades ago, and these days even she will say that church gives *all* the power to men. I'm glad she's recognized this and pulled away from it. From what she says I can see how it can contribute to a man coming to have this type of mentality when they realize they actually can't control their wives. It's sickening. I 100% agree with Mormon women (and Mormon men who see this as a problem) should create their own unofficial leadership and support outlet.
I’m so thankful that the kids are still with us.. that’s not usually been the case in these scenarios & I know their mother is gone- they’ve lost both parents, but I’m thankful they still have a chance at fulfilling their lives 🙏♥️ Prayers for them and for their families. Great work as always, Stephanie!!
Aaron is the human embodiment of co-dependence. Very weird that he went to all her appointments. Such a sad story. I feel so bad for those kids and for Brianne and her loved ones. 💔
Yes, at their young ages and good physical health it’s weird. I ask my husband to come to mine because I am older and need his help with my physical condition. I want him to hear it directly and ask questions I may not be able to answer. In these situations the knowledge can make a huge difference in the outcome. Of course we’re retired and our situation is different. Losing my independence has been awful having been extremely independent since I was a working young teenager. I couldn’t stand to be around someone like Aaron and if my husband started to get that way I would have demanded he leave long ago! And he would have, trust me.
I was thinking the same thing. My husband would rather jump in front of a bus than sit in a salon while I get my hair done and my eyebrows waxed. Salon trips were always "Daddy and the kids hang out time". They'd drop me at the salon and then go wander through Target or whatever stores were nearby until I called to say I was done.
Stephanie....excellent work on this piece! I'm a certified attachment practitioner (and one of your biggest fans for YEARS now!!) - and you did a great job discussing attachment theory in the context of this case (even discussing enmeshment). I know you are well versed in psychology and human behavior, but haven't heard you dive into attachment theory before within the context of a romantic relationship - you hit the nail on the head! Although you were speculating on what could have been going on between Breezy and Aaron, your analysis was very plausible and well explained. I too am (a recovered!) fearful avoidant - and yes...the behavior that Aaron displayed could absolutely be triggering to an FA and make them run for the hills! Your point was very valid - what one person perceives as supportive and loving, can feel smothering and controlling to another! Love your work! Keep killing it. You're a terrific storyteller!
Thank you Stephanie for taking about your love for being alone! All my life I prefer a lot of alone time but would feel like i might be a “loner”. Friends would talk about “loners” like it was a bad thing. I would have teacher say “you’re so quite” like it was a bad thing. I feel better after spending time alone. As an adult I know that it’s healthy!
Yesss!!! Absolutely same! I can spend days upon days alone, with zero contact from literally anyone, and still never feel lonely. I just REALLLYYY love my solitude.
@Dale-jd4nj absolutely, yes!! Also gives you time to get your head space right, if you need to. I'm just a big believer that everyone could benefit from learning how to be happy in solitude. Then, they'll be able to give others a better version of themselves, if need be.
Ex Mormon wife here. Was active for 35 years. So yeah my ex is like this. He was doubting and we left the church and I started to say no to him. Mental illness and suicide attempts. Ideation of killing me and the kids sent him to psych wards. I was told to try harder to keep the marriage together. Told to not be to much and it’s not a big deal to say no to s*x if he wants it. My ex said we are still married because we are sealed in the temple. I’m still his property in his eyes. So many of my friends are living like this. Mormon men and family annihilations is starting to coincide, sadly.
So glad my reformed Baptist church is full of Godly male leadership that recognizes abuse. They got me out of my marriage, came and moved my stuff, and paid for my storage fees, and moving truck. They constantly asked what I needed. THAT is how it should be. Men are called to lead. Women are not to be behind a pulpit but can have strong influence and roles within the church. My church also has multiple women Christian counselors.
I grew up in a heavily saturated LDS community and was forced to be a member of the church in my youth. I have long since left that church (which I consider a cult). The very worst men I've ever known in my life have been priesthood holders in the LDS church.
47:32 My parents were high school sweethearts. They were married in 1969, and still together and very much in love today. I’ve never heard them speak disrespectfully to each other, yell at each other, call each other names. I’m not delusional enough to think they have never had a fight, but they choose each other over any problems that arise. I can only dream of a relationship like theirs, and if it’s not, I don’t want it. ❤
Obviously love like this does exist, but yes I do believe that’s it’s a rarity in the world we live in today. In just my own opinion, some of the issues in the dating world today is that a lot of us treat others as disposable. With the internet and social media, it’s easy to believe that when you’re done with one person, the next is just a click away. People don’t fight for their relationships now and try to figure out what we issues they have, they just toss the whole thing and move on to the next. Not everyone obviously, but I see this a lot amount my peers.
As someone that grew up in Gardner, thank you for covering this! I moved out of Gardner about a year ago, but I still get the code red warnings to my phone, and I used to, and my parents still do, live fairly close to Camp Collier. (side note- Derek did you wrong, its pronounced wuh-stir, or wuh-stah if you're a local!) As sad as it is, the common consensus among Gardner locals is that he took his own life. I am fairly confidant that he ended up in the lake, and will either be found in the lake or will never be seen again. I'm glad I came across your video, I always feel far more informed after watching your take on the cases because you go into such detail, so thank you for being awesome! RIP Breezy, it is so sad that you were taken from your life and kiddos too early. Hopefully the kids are in a safe and stable environment now.
I'm from Fitchburg, and I definitely think he unalived himself too. My boss is right down the street from Camp Collier and has friends in the PD and they think he did too. It's so frustrating because he deserves to rot in prison
as someone who grew up in the lds church and has spent a lot of time around current members, it is very common for their relationships to move very quickly. it’s highly encouraged to get married young and start families early, and they’re taught that the family unit comes before everything. a lot of the church doctrine promotes codependency and unhealthy relationship dynamics. it’s so deeply concerning to me that so many cases like this have been popping up. my heart goes out to breezy, her children, and her family. hoping for some sort of justice and closure for them. ❤️
pisses me off, I found myself homeless as a teen, scared shite-less. The homeless community in my city welcomed me with open arms, they all looked out for us young ines, taught me safety and looked after me.
When a church values the purity of women and puts a high value on both parties waiting till marriage. It really shows how little experience these people get and how it hugely impacts their marriages. Dating is so important for gaining emotional maturity, communication skills, resolving conflicts, and independence.
This video/case is so hard because there are SO many points that dense people can qualify or argue or “be the exception” to. And its irritating because it’s counterproductive to the message we can all learn about domestic violence/abuse. But you have it right and I’m so glad you’re saying it!!! Thank you Stephanie! ❤ RIP Breezy 🤍
Thank You for All of your valuable insights❤ After my husband passed away, I thought being alone would be impossible…but I found out being alone is a true gift. I do what I want when I want. Of course I miss my late husband….but this alone thing is ok. I am ok❤
Thank you, Stephanie, for the articulate explanation of what co-dependence is/isn't as a psychological term. Hearing people misuse it to throw shade at close relationships is one of my pet peeves, as if supporting each other is something bad. I live with my sister/bestie and apparently as single women the fact we have no interest in living with our parents and depend on each other as an independent household is a sCaRy cO-dEpEnDeNcE (eyeroll).
Stephanie, your videos bring me so much comfort….in a weird way considering the content. 🥴 But anyway, thank you! ❤ Hope everyone watching has an amazing day. 💕💕
I think Stephanie is like the friend you can go to advice forward gives you a level headed response then can sit in silence feeling safe lol. She naied it about codependency.
Thank you for doing this! It’s the town next to me. I have hundreds of photos of my dog at camp collier and I’d go alone after work at 9am or so - Until I saw 2 huge mountain lions and I said OK maybe I shouldn’t be alone here so if he’s out there, I hope they ate him ALIVE! The FIRST thing I noticed was the Mormon piece tbh… it’s sad. I had no idea about 90% of this, though, so thank you!
I appreciate your perspective SO MUCH on this story. You are lending your opinion, but as a fellow woman, I agree 100% with what you said. You are providing such a human element to this case. On the surface it is crazy and wild, a LDS man shooting his wife in the head seems shocking, but once you take the time to analyze his social media and add your own human experience, it becomes more tragic. You can understand the burden Brianne felt for probably so long. It’s so sad.
I agree with you Stephanie, I do not post gushing posts about my husband. It’s taken me 20 yrs to get my husband to understand I can go days with minimal human contact.
Just for context, the survival training he would have taken is for a pretty specific purpose- being in hostile territory and surviving long enough for rescue or to navigate back to safety. Half of the course is focused on evading capture, surviving capture and detention, and resisting interrogation. It definitely does not prepare one for long term wilderness survival.
My husband and I don’t post about each other or our kids very often either Steph! Don’t know why I even have it outside of some shorts channels I enjoy and keeping up with family that lives out of town. You can tell when people are going through it in life and I agree, it is very strange that people use social media to blast their good times and it’s almost a low key competition with everyone to look flawless and perfect. Sometimes the people who have so many kind things to say about their spouses on socials are behind the scenes the unhappiest of people.
Same, I’ll admit when we first got married we were in our early 20s and I wanted to share with the world 😂but now, I’ve found that the less I share the happier we are. No one needs to know how our marriage is going, and I do believe people who overly post are compensating for something. When you’re busy being married, who has the time or energy to report it😂
I swear the guys who post their wife the most and is always like “ I LOVE HERRRR” are the ones cheating or flirting with young chicks and just acting weird when she ain’t around 😂 it’s like they are “making up “ for their bad actions and thoughts
That's why I don't use social media at all. It's all fake. If you want people to know something important, call them or tell them in person. If they're not someone that you wouldn't do that with, they're not really friends.
He's dead. Did himself in. That's what they do after they run into the woods with a gun. Those poor babies are my biggest concern. I hope they did not see or hear anything too traumatizing. Thanks for bringing this to our attention, Stephanie. Peace.
I’m 60 and I was with someone for just under 30 years who sucked my entire life out of me I Started with them when I was young, and I was too much of an empath ( a giver so pure ) to see it. By the time I was a decade into it there was nothing I could do about it I I was so damaged at that point it became a trauma based relationship I’m extremely lucky I had the unconditional love for my children that I had and was able to raise them well. It ended in divorce not any thing worse, but it was bad enough. I’ve reached a point where I’m pretty much back to myself just a lot tougher and I do not want any type of relationship - EVER ! I’m planning on spoiling myself and loving myself the way I should have always been loved 😉 It’s good to see someone as young as you With the heightened sense of knowing how to NOT let that happen. 😉
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I was in the news interview. Breezy was my childhood best friend, my sister, the other half of my soul. Thank you so much for using your platform to bring awareness to breezy's story...It hurts her story is slowly losing momentum and Aaron is still on the run. Thank you again for putting her story out there, I am so grateful.❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤
We are thinking of you, and we hope you are all staying safe out there. Do you have any insight into how quickly their relationship moved.. was Breezy ever a bit turned off by his clinginess and constant displays of adoration? Thank you for stopping in and commenting, our community wraps you in a hug of support and love.
I am so sorry for your loss. Breanna seemed like an amazing person and wonderful mom. What happened to hear is so awful, my heart breaks for all of you who love her ❤
I can't imagine what you and her family are going through right now, and I wish I could give all of you a hug in real life. 🫂 Sending all the love and healing energy to you and Breezy's family, especially the kids.
I'm so sorry. 🙏🏼
Hobo huts are occupied by very poor people, and he's stealing from them. Stealing everything of value they own. Pathetic.
And then he proudly made a video about it to post? Unreal.
My jaw dropped watching his video. " yeah, I'm robbing the homeless, look how cool I am"...wtf!?
I was about to comment the same. I had to back up and watch again. I thought surely I’m hearing what he said wrong. Unfortunately, I was not ! Stealing from homeless and so proud of it he made a video for all to see! Absolutely disgusting. The audacity to even comment,” this one dude was a veteran!” I was shocked !!! 🤬
He’s disgusting!!!!!!
The freakin anti Robin Hood
Lololol Sorry for what do you expect from a literal killer😭💔
Just wanted to pop-in because when you mentioned Aaron--I'm an Esthetician, and part of our training is to recognize domestic violence. One of the tell-tale signs is a spouse that insists on attending the appts with the client. That definitely perked my ears. This poor girl; it's a far too common tragedy.
Im glad you get trained in that!
Wow... I never thought about that but it definitely makes a lot of sense. Man is so possessive and untrusting that they can't let their partner out of their sight... and when they do, you best believe wild accusations will fly...
I can totally see how it would be super weird.
That's great, but what do you do with this info afterwards? How are you trained to act if you witness such behavior?
@@SilhouetteSEI’m not an esthetician, but based on how medical professionals etc. deal with that stuff, I’m guessing if there’s signs of bruising or other marks, and they have kids, then CPS could be called. Otherwise, if there’s signs of bruising or other marks, or something like evident verbal abuse, or even in the case of the abuser just being there at every appointment, watching the victim’s body language for signs of unease and fear, then possibly bringing the victim to a private room (making something up like that there’s only one person allowed in the room, women only room, etc.) and asking if abuse is happening and if they can do anything to help the victim. Unfortunately, if the victim is an adult and denies that it’s happening or denies help, there’s not much that can be done. Even if you called the police, the victim would likely lie to the police as well and could be put in an even more dangerous situation from their abuser retaliating.
I love being alone . I love my husband . They don’t cancel themselves out at all. This was so beautifully presented
I’m the same way. I love to be alone. I’m thankful my husband gives me a lot of space.
I do to. I was mulling this over and thinking, even if she wanted to be together with him too - we should all practice discomfort, build resilience to every day situations which challenge us. She should have been encouraged by her partner to spend time alone and thrive.
I grew up with my next door neighbors as a kid. The children were mine and my siblings' best friends. Their parents were always so kind and seemed happy on the outside. We absolutely loved the whole family and were very close to them. Then we found out that the Mom had left and taken the children and the father was desperate to get them back. One night we heard a gun shot and it turned out that the father had taken his own life with a shotgun. We found out later that he was trying to get her to come back with the kids just for a visit that whole day and she was refusing. My parents who knew their dynamics better than I did as a kid absolutely believed with 100% certainty that if she had gone back and taken the children to visit- he would have killed them too. It really shook me and I really feel for the children in the story that you shared tonight. It is so important to have a sense of self outside of a relationship. One person cannot be your whole world and the reason you are living.
I agree with everything you said but there's no way of knowing he would have killed his ex wife and children too. Maybe not seeing them that night and them not giving him a chance is what sent him over the edge and he didn't want to live without them. Clearly she was right to trust her instincts and not go regardless but he was either depressed or mentally ill, just tragic all the way around. I'm so sorry for your loss ❤
I actually see Aaron's social media posts to be more sinister. I had a boyfriend who said and did all the "nice guy" stuff, but in reality he was controlling and narcissistic. When I tried to set boundaries in the relationship or voice my needs, he would completely disregard this and say things like, "I love that you're willing to do things my way even when you don't want to." He was a master manipulator and gaslighter, and actually never cared about me at all. It messed me up for a long time. I see such public endearments as a major red flag.
I'm glad you realized that you love yourself more!!! 💕💕💕
Yeah the soppy posts always signal to me they did something wrong at home and they are being performative about their love so everyone thinks they are a great husband/wife and the pressure on them increases to not say anything bad. In the mormons they have a ton of these sorts of posts because looking like you are eternally in love matters as they think they ra soulmates when they met at 17 or something.
The "control" factor of every analysis of data, scientific research etc. to prove an outcome is very important. In the case of public affection, if it is NOT for the reason of expressing genuine love to the other person, THEN the red flag goes up. Public affection itself is not a red flag.
You NAILED this one! I’m with you - don’t come to my pedicure or hair appointment! That’s MY time.
right? Dude, go get some friends, go get a hobby lol
Absolutely, would not be allowed to come!
I actually made an audible "wha..." when Stephanie mentioned he was at her appointments. 1st off, my time, but 2nd my husband would rather die😂
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It's very disturbing to me that he filmed/took photos of her in a vulnerable position. You can't really move when you're having your nails and hair done, it's uncomfortable psychologically.
It's amazing how Mormon men are excused for their actions. I live in SLC and a convicted sex offender moved back home after prison a block away from me, and I lived across the street from the school. He was outed by a neighbor and his wife went to the neighborhood Facebook page to complain and the number of people that stood up for him was incredibly disturbing. "Let he who is without sin throw the first stone." " we have all made mistakes" "you can get on the sex offenders list for peeing in public" (he was convicted of grooming a teenage girl online and SAing her)
And the wife had the audacity to say she has suffered, too. She lost her SUV because they couldn't afford it anymore. You know after paying his lawyer and the breadwinner being in prison.
It was infuriating. I was so happy we had already sold our house and was leaving the state.
ugh. That’s so gross but I have seen it in multiple communities! One of my best friends as a kid grew up and married this odd guy-gave me the creeps. They gave him 2.5 years for SA/molesting/raping a teen . She stood by him. The community was divided. But then it came out he did this with multiple other girls in a government program setting and took them across state lines so now he is a lifer in fed prison (thank goodness). But for the fact he crossed a state line he still would have had a slap on the wrist. The law doesn’t care about child victims so much as an imaginary line. She still defends him I think. idk why. At this point the community is not divided but I know one man who feels sorry for him. FoR HIM! Not for the poor kids! Tells me we have more than one creep.
I KNOW RIGHT ! I was raised Mormon(by my parents) and grew up with a boy who r*ped his 3 yr old cousin when he was 15 !!! He’s 29 now, married in the Mormon temple and has 2 daughters.. makes me sick to my stomach 100%
It's insane to me that so many religious communities protect abusers. To me it goes against everything religions (claim to) stand for, but what do I know
That is absolutely wild !
It’s disgusting how they’re excused
As a hairdresser It always catches my eye when a SO stays at the appointment, especially repeatedly. Having a SO call my salon looking for their wife/girlfriend. Big warning sign. After 19 years in the industry, I notice it all and have given local resources to help them out. I've learned the hard way that I can't personally help as much as I want to. It's definitely something our industry has been honing in on.
Yes! Fellow hairstylist here.
I have severe anxiety and I bring my fiance with me. I know the way we speak to eachother puts my hairdresser at ease because we joke and play a lot. I asked my stylist once and she said that yes it's usually a red flag but we're adorable lol
@@rhiannonf1997 there are always exceptions to the rule and we can usually detect that pretty quickly. Your fiancé sounds precious!
My huz wants me there. 20y married. It’s zero to do with insecurity and 100% to do with him requesting I come back vs stay up front. He has yet to describe what haircut he wants, relying on me for that info. I pay attention to the styling process so I can teach him to do it at home. And we both prefer a quiet appointment so we can chat together.
@@bellajoy411love that
This is why, if you are married to a spouse like this is to plan your escape _quietly._ Don't let them know. Plan and leave when they aren't home. This is what I did with my abusive ex. He was out of town, I called him and left a voicemails telling him I was done and I was filing for divorce. Emails only, no talking via phone & no seeing me in person. He was SO manipulative, I couldn't handle it.
Great podcast!!!! 💗
I also love being alone. I'm remarried to an amazing man and we both love our alone time 🥰
You are amazingly strong! Laura Richards, an expert on violence against women, has discussed how women are in extreme danger right when the marriage/relationship breaks up. Breanna probably didn’t realize just how much danger she was in…which is just heartbreaking.
You did the right thing and are an inspiration 👏 it's best to do it that way. ❤
That’s what I did also. Especially this is the safer option if you have children. I knew he had went on a trip to NYC. I had it all planned out to take everything I had purchased I had two trusted male family members pull up with a truck and we packed up everything in under an hr. I was working at that time and thank god he hadn’t financially abused me and I had money saved so I had even gotten a two bedroom apartment behind his back. I had taken all our important documents and had them stored at my mothers because he had already taken my and my daughters info once when I was trying to enroll in a training program for low income people. Your greatest protection in situations like this is secrecy. Them not knowing your next move. Even after you get away never let them know anything if at all possible. Thank god he lost interest for the most part because he found a pretty well off older woman to pursue and then marry. I’m sure he has also put her through hell but that is not our problem. Many years after and He has since apologized and told me it haunts him that he treated me that way. I told him I was past all that but better it haunt him than me. It was important for me that he knew he didn’t ruin me.
@@yogamomny I hope you are proud of yourself because you are amazing 👏 💖
@@emmalouise7884 As are you!! 🥰 thank you so much ☺️
When you’re trying too hard to convince the world that your relationship is amazing, usually you’re trying to convince yourself too….I love your take on things!!!
I’ve seen it myself…people posting pics with “true love”, etc. and you know things aren’t good.
Absolutely. When I was with my ex husband we always had to take photos and upload them to FB. When I look back at the photos you can see the sadness in my eyes.
My current partner, we very rarely take photos as we are genuinely enjoying the moment and the time. I have less than 5 photos of him/us on my socials and we've been together for 6 years. We are genuinely happy and love every moment we spend with eachother.
Ironically, when I left my ex, I was genuinely so happy as I was free of all the negativity and gas lighting etc. So I was posting up-beat happy posts. The ex had the audacity to tell me I was clearly NOT happy as happy people do not post about their happiness. Trust me they do, especially when they've gained control over their life again after 2.5 years. It's like a hallelujah "Dobby is Free" moment.
We used to see one of our fb friends posting glowing remarks & lovey pictures of her husband & bragged on how great he was & how much she loved him all the time. Then, all a sudden she posted a pic of her with her new husband!!! No explanation. Just suddenly now she’s married to a whole ‘nother guy!!!!
Thank you thank you thank you for addressing Mormon's in this. As an Exmormon I'm so thankful you're talking about the consequences of the teachings in the church and how they can become dangerous...
Let's be mindful it's also not just men. There's been some very problematic women as well. But yes the men are a HUGE issue.
Lori Vallow, Kouri Richens, etc. It's not the doctrine in my opinion. It's the culture. It's why I won't live in Utah as a faithful member. If you're LDS you're expected to be cookie cutter. If you are LDS and not the same as them they don't know what to do with you.
Lori Vallow
Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt.
This happened two towns over from me. I have a few mutual friends with Breezy and they’re absolutely devastated. Thank you for covering her case and bringing awareness, as it’s losing traction and search efforts are seriously slowing down. He needs to be found and brought to justice. Again, thank you. Those babies deserve justice for their beautiful mother.
There was a grid search today at meadowbrook so hopefully that means they have some sort of info or lead they are going off of 😕
@@RaidingRainbow I saw that actually. I really hope so!
I'm 20 minutes down the road. This heartbreaking case is truly too close to home.
This video transcended from crime tube to a very valuable Ted talk. Very important message. Losing my parents the trauma for the kids hit me the hardest. Crying here.
Hugs. I agree. I had to share on my social media because everyone needs to see this.
Heck no she has her opinions but that’s just it, opinions.
@@snicole042hahahaha...
@@snicole042and all her opinions stated were valid … unless your on the side of the monsters?
@@snicole042 what did she say that was wrong?
Omg thank you. I think you just nailed how dehumanizing it is to be put on a pedestal. It's just as bad as being put down. You're just not a person anymore; you're a thing that has no power or agency, just a decoration or status symbol in someone else's life.
She was one of my closest friends and of all the tik toks and TH-cams I have seen… you were spot on. Thank you for taking the time to get his face out there, thank you for not making speculations and claiming them as fact, thank you for honoring her. You were so spot on and did it in such a kind way.
So sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for your loss 😔💜
I’m so sorry for your loss.
So very sorry for your loss, loosing your best friend leaves a hole no one can understand and I wish you didn’t know that feeling . She seems like an absolutely beautiful person and I’m happy you were able to have a friend like her ❤ Stephanie always does a wonderful job making the victims her main priority. ❤
I'm glad she did this justice and brought comfort to those close to her---so many sensationalize stories like this. ❤
I'm so thankful you're covering this. Breezy was my older cousin's childhood friend and she was such a sweet spirit. Her friends and family are absolutely devastated.
our thoughts and love are with you, and we are all giving you a big hug. She seemed like such a beautiful person, so kind and probably such a big personality
That’s so close to your front door. I feel awful and will keep you all in my prayers 🙏🏼
I was in a relationship like that and I ended up leaving him. I was asked what my problem was and why I had done this to a wonderful man like him. Thank God my family, my shrink and my best friend were on my side.
I feel this..
Same sis. Sending so many hugs to you! ❤❤❤
@@SassyShell13 Thank you, I wish you all the happiness in the world. 💜💜💜
I also left a relationship like this. I lost my best friend because they thought I was an evil person to do this to such a “wonderful man”.
@@jessicawagner2326 I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you have a better new best friend who deserves you now.
really enjoying this free therapy session with Stephanie. I was married to a sociopath and thank God I got out alive but this is literally a word-for-word session I just had with my therapist.
Hi! Ex-Mormon from Utah here! I just wanted to say thank you for bringing awareness to the fact that women are extremely oppressed in that religion. I am still surrounded by many people that are Mormon, and I just wanted to say that they do all get married VERY young and after only knowing each other for under a year usually. And in the Mormon faith, it is believed that when you get married, it is for eternity, for this life and the next. I do agree with you that many Mormon men are using that fact to control their wives. It is very frowned upon to get a divorce in that religion. Thank you again for raising awareness to the many many issues woman face in this religion every day. I believe the cracks in this religion are starting to show in very scary ways. RIP Breezy ❤
Many years ago, I briefly dated a guy like Aaron. He told me he was "only happy" when I was happy and "was sad" any time I was sad. He also said I was his "angel who was sent to help" him. I was emotionally well and whole enough to see the red flags and RUN!! No one can be someone's everything. Beware if someone tries to make you that for them!
Condolences to Breezy's family and friends! 💔
Glad you got out
@@StephanieHarloweThanks, Stephanie, me too! Thanks for all you do to bring light to these tragic and senseless cases!!
Good for you to share, sometimes that kind of intensity can seem flattering. Clearly, you are emotionally intelligent to see this quickly.
The “hobo hutz” thing is absolutely DESPICABLE. This guy has always had evil in him.
When I listened to that segment my mind went there right away, but I rejected the thought as too over the top. I listened with growing disbelief as it was revealed that I was right in the first place. What an asshole.
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it was so horrible, it took me a minute to get my head around it
@@GGiblet right?! Same!!!
Not just that he broke in, look at the hand movements when he says "organizing their stuff", he _stole_ stuff from homeless people.
Woman. How are you going to be my therapist and my true crime guru all at once? Having just left a very toxic relationship a few months ago after 14 years, I see so much of myself in Breezy and unfortunately so much of my ex in Aaron. I’m so grateful I got out when I did, even though we had our own traumatic end, but my heart is heavy for these 4 children who have now lost both parents. Thank you for covering this case, you always do an amazing job.
I’m glad you got out, truly ❤️
Proud of you for getting out! It is not easy as I was in one for 11 years many years ago. Take care of yourself. I hope you thrive and are happy. It takes time to recover from toxicity so be easy on yourself ❤
So sorry you had to go through that. Glad you got out in time! I'm wishing you all the best in your healing journey. My heart hurts for anyone that has experience with people like this. ❤
This is why I love Stephanie. The insight is top tier. I've been here and oh it's so insightful.
I am so glad you are covering the EPIDEMIC OF MORMAN FAMILIES KILLING EACH OTHER or going crazy…Lori Vallow was a woman. Ruby frank and Jodi hildabrandt aren women! I used to be Mormon and I have been watching this unfold in the true crime community the past few years… THANK YOU Stephanie!
Lori Vallow and Ruby Franke seem to have a mentor in common. (I was thinking of Julie Rowe, but apparently it goes much deeper: a book called _Visions of Glory,_ by someone named Pontius. I'm behind on my doomsday cults....)
You were Mormon but can't spell it? I'm confused😂
@@boogiebessiehuman error!! Just like there instead of their, your instead of you're 😂😂😂😂.
@@boogiebessie dyslexia? Autocorrect being incorrect? In this case, probably fast typing. There are lots of reasons why people might spell funny.
My ex was a mechanic who could not spell it. Some people just can't spell. Maybe a disability, maybe laziness, maybe typing errors, maybe a language barrier. Why point it out to strangers, there are people in your own world you could be helping, instead of making a stranger feel bad over something that may be a disability, since you do not know them.
Stephanie out here telling true crime and giving us all lessons in relationships. Absolutely love your content
I was raised and lived in the LDS religion until fairly recently. Common in LDS marriages, Meet young, married soon and children quickly. Those quotes he posted were all from leaders in the Mormon church. Women are taught their entire worth is in being a wife and mother and serving others. LDS believe families are together forever and rather than lose his family she should die and then they can be together in elernity. Im sure he freaked because she was going to leave him so he killed her.
Lds is a major cult led by the devil himself. I don’t understand why people that are a part of it are so blind to this deception. Wake up and get out!
There is always a focus on people of color commiting heinous crimes but there seems to be a LOT of this kind of stuff going on in these religions that are predominately White. Like, why is nobody talking about what seems like an epidemic among these groups?!?!
They also believe murder is an unforgivable sin that won’t get you into heaven. No way Aaron thought if he killed his wife they could be together for eternity. This guy was angry and mentally ill. I don’t think his religion played a role
@@aprilvilliar7907yes because religious people NEVER cherry-pick what they believe is and is not a sin/amoral 🙄
@@adoseofcare not quite true. You still have to ask for and obtain a temple divorce. Substance abuse is not considered a viable reason for a temple divorce. Murder, and adultery are. My mom could not get her temple divorce from my dad until she had another man willing to take her to the temple even though my dad had cheated on her and abused his own daughters and step daughter. Substance abuse is not a good reason (in their eyes) because it is possible to recover from it. Civil divorce is easy and requires no permission from general authorities, on the other hand a temple divorce is very hard for a woman to get.
My ex husband was like this, it got to the point where I couldn’t go to any beauty appointments or even doctors appointments because it took so much time away from him and that pissed him off. He controlled everything, my money, my life, who I could and couldn’t talk to including my own family. I’m happy to say I have been free from his abuse for almost 4 years now and I feel so bad for Breezy because she did not deserve this, her kids did not deserve this and I really hope her family gets the justice they deserve 💕 please stay safe out there guys!
Thank you for bringing up their faith, as touchy a subject as that is. I grew up in the Mormon church, and my father was violently abusive towards my siblings and me, and he to this day verbally and emotionally mistreats my mom, though she doesn't see it that way. In my experience, and from what I observed in other families and what I was taught at church services, women and children are expected to follow the man of the house with "exact obedience". If that man screwed up, it was written off as "a human mistake by a man who was trying to be like god, but we all fall short of His Glory, don't we?" My father was given multiple church callings, which is basically an assignment (and position of authority, if you're a man), which signaled to everyone else that he was a righteous and God-fearing man. The truth was he was beating his children almost daily, and only lightened up a little when my sister went to church with a black eye. Then verbal abuse became his go-to.
This is not an isolated incident. Males in the church are told from infancy that they are meant to be rulers of Heaven and leaders in God's kingdom on Earth. At age twelve, they are given the Priesthood, which in the LDS faith means the literal power of god. *This religion encourages men to develop narcissistic traits while telling others to shut up, pray harder, and accept it.* As for the men, they are also given this double-edged sword of being responsible for their entire family's salvation. So the family doesn't really have a say in whether or not the man makes it to heaven, but he has to sho7ulder their salvation, and if they don't support him 100%, they are damned, even the children.
Furthermore, youth in the church are expected to get married and start a family almost as soon as they graduate highschool. I was 23 when I married my spouse, and by that time I was already considered a spinster. imagine what that does to a person, never experience life outside their parents' home, and now they are saddled with the responsibility of a whole family in their early twenties. Is it any wonder women and men in this faith lose their shit and lash out?
Beautifully said. It happens in Baptist & Evangelical churches, too 😢😖🤯
yes yes and yes!! I also grew up LDS and left in 2019.
I was a member of the Gardner Ward in the 1980's. Everything OP is saying is 100% true. It feels like an old bad memory to hear this.
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As someone also raised half in and out of the church, I don’t view this as a Mormon problem. My father was excommunicated from the church for the things he’d done, and he never even put his hands on me. In my experience, predators & abusers use the technique of hiding in places that give the illusion their a good person. It’s the classic “wolf in sheeps clothing” tactic. It’s not that Mormons support that behavior, but rather they are so trusting that a “good” abuser can easily hide behavior from them. Like you said, once your sister got a black eye then your father had to lighten up because he KNEW he’d get caught and that they would not be accepting of that behavior. I’ve also been to MANY wards & branches across the country. Unfortunately, they are not all perfect representations of LDS teachings or beliefs. Rather they are usually people just doing their best to try and be better people. It is not their fault that a few abusers and predators weasel their way in, and it’s not their fault what someone does behind closed doors.
I have always found it extremely interesting that the only time religion is SPECIFICALLY connected to a criminal case is when it’s mormons. Of all the thousands of cases I’ve studied in my short life, there’s never been an instance of “this catholic man killed his family, or this Protestant man killed his family or this baptist man killed his family, or even this atheist man killed his family.” And it’s not that there aren’t cases of people from these religions doing horrific things… rather that people do not connect their religion to their crime.
Is it that more is expected of Mormons, or is it that it makes it easier for people to view Mormonism as a cult or evil faith? In my own experience, I’ve been around/witnessed a lot of things both inside & outside of the church…. And after everything I’ve seen, I can hands down say that the LDS church is the safest place I’ve ever been in my life. Even with all the mistakes I’ve witnessed, they were not even COMPARABLE to the life I suffered out side of the church. The nicest most caring groups of people I’ve ever met were in the church. And very few times have I ever seen scandal or someone getting away with acting evil.
Breezy was my little sister's best friend. I appreciate you covering this case and im helping get the news out there. Aaron is still either on the loose or dead im yhe woods.
I will add, his "PTSD" is sheer bullshit. He was airforce, had an easy time in basic, and never saw conflict. Hes a monster that just snapped, plain and simple. He deserves worse than hell for the terror he put his family through and for what he did to Breezy. She was a loving mother and friend and he felt that if he couldnt have her, nobody could. There is so much more to this story that has not been made public. My heart hurts for my sister and BIL, for my sister's children that will likely never see their friends again, for their church family, for Breezy's children, amd for everyone else that knew and loved her. I pray Aaron is found sooner rather than later.
I really believe that most military (I say most because I know it's not ALL, but it's a lot) leave with some sort of mental or personality disorder.. it's very scary.
His PTSD is bullshit you can't say that about someone else do not judge someone till you walk a mile in there shoes
I grew up Mormon and still have Mormon parents and family members and I can tell you that you hit every point you made right on the nose
The lds church is horrible very cult like
SAME!!
Same!
My LDS member Mom didn't get any support when she talked with her church leader about my father's infidelities. Men's entitlement is becoming a huge problem. I no longer consider myself part of the LDS church.
My ex husband was welcomed with open arms back into the ward after being charged with domestic battery. In addition a few years prior to our marriage he had cheated on me I went to our bishop who basically shrugged it like oh well you aren't legally married so it's not a big deal....yet. they convinced me it wasn't as horrible as it was and I should forgive him.
I love Harloween but coffee and crime music got me excited this morning. Can’t wait to hear your take in this case.
Me tooooo
I can't help but to sing along every time 🙂
@@girlonfire8855 it's comforting in a way 🫶🏼✌️
You describing your views on how he is in this relationship is spot on. I was in a controlling emotionally abusive marriage for 20+ years. We met at 15, and were married with 2 kids by 21. He really had me thinking it was just out of his love and everything you said. I just got remarried in June and my husband couldn't be more opposite from that. He shows me everyday how much I mean to him and how much he loves me, without being controlling and obsessive. It is amazing and I'm so glad I get to see now what I couldn't for so many years.
He will really have you thinking there is something wrong with you because you can’t accept “his love”
This gives me hope. I am a year free of nearly 30 years of the same stuff. While I’m content being alone for now, there’s hope nonetheless. I’m so happy you’re happy. And I have to ask, after you were out did it become clear as day to you all the abuse? Bc I was shocked at how little I realized being in it. Like someone cleaned the dirty window and I could see it clear as day. Anyway, thanks for this comment. ❤
@sarakirkpatrick6464 absolutely. As soon as he was gone it started to dawn on me how much I ignored and made excuses for. The younger they get their hooks in, the easier it is to get you to see things their way. My ex was the king of gaslighting to.
Congrats!
@@daniellecondra6243 I learned mine is a covert narcissist. So many people throw that word around aimlessly now. But those of us who’ve dealt with one know . And I agree. I was 18 when I met him. 45 when I left. While I know I’m still healing and learning to be alone and be happy, exactly like Stephanie mentioned, I have never felt more free.
This is so tragic! I Am am so glade he didn’t harm the kids like many other cases like this I’ve seen!
That's all I could think too... was at least he didn't kill the kids and that's so sad that's where we are as a society.
When Stephanie talked about how in the beginning you’re full on ppl pleasing and just waiting for the other person to reciprocate, I felt that in my core. Never ever start a relationship just straight up pouring into someone receiving very little to nothing in return. The resentment will become catastrophic. Especially women. This is the worst thing you can do when starting a relationship. It’s not in most women’s nature to just give, give, give & not receive on a long term level. Save yourself and don’t do it.
Thank God he did not take the kids too. This is such a tragic story.
I got married very young to a man I went to high school with. The night we “met” (because we did have mutual friends and saw each other before this night, but had never spoken before), he told me that he had silently loved me since the first time he saw me. As an 18 year old, I thought that was the most romantic thing I’d ever heard. We moved in together literally that night. We spent the next 11 years together, alternating between being completely and totally obsessed with each other and having the most horrific fights you can imagine. I’m glad I survived it.
Me too. Well done for getting out ❤
As a Massachusetts native and having lived in Worcester county for 28 years, this case hits close to home. May her children find peace in this world, 😞
Same ❤
My daughter just had a guy break up with her over her Halloween costume who was religious and was saying stuff like the oh well, all those guys must have been looking at you all night. And her costume wasn't even that bad. She dodged a bullet I believe.
@DeeChambers-ci6cn
Yes- that guy is a “no no”.
Keep him at bay -and beware , bc it takes about a year for them to stop trying to get back w here.
My high school sweetheart heart was the same way. I dodged a bullet to.
They r too Insecure - at any age but a 15-25 that age especially.
Sounds like they both dodged a bullet
This story is very, very sad. Tragic. I feel so sorry for all of her friends, family and children. But can I just say 1 thing? As truly terrible this is, can I say that I'm happy that he didn't do anything to physically harm their children? I don't want to take away from the tragedy that's already happened but I'm relieved that the kids are safe
Sad thing is we don’t know that he didn’t beat them or harshly punish. He may have emotionally abused them. That might have been the thing that pushed this loving mother to make plans to take them away from him.
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The need to be alone and have alone time is an empath trait. We absorb all the energy around us, and it's extremely exhausting.
Yes.... This....
Yes
Probably why I am still single lol introvert, empathic and independent
@@DragonQueen78 definitely why. You probably love your own company much more than anyone else's.
@Valky 👏🏽👏🏻👏🏽👏🏻🤍🌈 Well stated, it took me awhile to understand this about myself. This girl really needs opportunities to recharge, often it is most restorative to do so solo.
This story is scary similar to a relationship I was in. It’s truly terrifying that something that seemed like love in the beginning can be all about control and power over someone.
I’ve been with my husband for 25 years, he has never been to my hair, eyebrow or pedicure appointments 😳 it’s suffocating. Nor do I need or want to be worshipped or idolized as a person. We each need our own lives in order to share the journey ❤
Right?!! I go get my hair done so I can chat with my hairdresser and have “my” time. I would be concerned if my BF wanted to start going to hair appointments.
Exactly! I don’t want to go to my husband’s appointments and he’s not interested in mine. We all need our own time and space.
My boyfriend has never come to a beauty appointment with me. But toxicity is so normalized. All of my boyfriends' friends can't believe that I don't get angry when he plays video games because ALL of their girlfriends do. Toxic.
You just know he also went into the room in all her doctor and gynae appointments.
I know you have paying healthcare in the US. Here in the UK it's free and we just rock up to the doctor as needed. I often wonder how women in bad situations get abortions or birth control without their husband knowing, or how they get treatment without his permission.
@@CanadianGirlRevengeasking him to go with you and you not having a choice in whether he goes or not is completely different hun
WARNING IF YOU’RE NEW: Stephanie is highly addictive!!!!
Fact finder, passionate advocate, great story teller, and you’ll never wonder what she is thinking, funny and blunt!!
I can’t watch anymore as she’s started adding video clips in so it’s not easy when you just listen, what with the adverts too. But she was the best and so unique at storytelling before. I still come to her videos and forward through to see if there’s video/audio clips and there is in this one.
I am addicted ❤
@@emmajp_9385 she only has ads at the very start of the video 🤷🏻♀️ and she does it in a very straightforward way, no segways, no trying to shove it in her content - like many do.
And as more of a listener than a watcher myself, I don’t mind the clips. They’re not excessive and I think they complement the storytelling perfectly.
What I love most about Stephanie, besides her passion and the amount of thorough research that she puts into her videos.. it’s the way she presents the cases. She’s natural, shes fair and she’s truly compassionate with victims (human or animal). Unlike many true crime TH-camrs who sound more like TMZ presenters.
She is indeed.
@@mariavc7421 I get ads, granted I’ve not listened to her videos for a while now. I’m in the UK, don’t know if that makes a difference. And I’m glad the video clips don’t bother you, they do me.
25:39 Thank you for addressing the problem. There are so many family annihilator cases and hopefully steps can be made to reduce the likelihood of that. 🖤
47:18 as someone that got married at 21 after 10 months of knowing my ex (engaged after 8 months), I can attest to that you don’t know someone after that short amount of time. I found out I was pregnant two days after we got married. I didn’t want to continue on in the marriage after a few months because my ex was an emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive person. But because I was pregnant I stuck around. After two years, we were in marriage counseling. After seven years, we were divorced. It was hard getting out once I was in. So PLEASE LISTEN TO STEPHANIE! It’s been almost 5 years since we’ve been officially divorced and I still have to deal with him because we co-parent our child. He’s an even worse person after I left. Especially after I started a new relationship got engaged 3 years later and got married a year after that. When you are young you are so blinded by love but you need to ask if it’s love that you feel or infatuation.
Thank you for being brave enough to speak on the potential link between the LDS church and these horrific crimes. I believe more research needs to be done on this connection.
I really believe it come down to the church preaching that women are just property - to be kept and dealt with at home. It's almost as of they have no personhood of their own.. which when religious texts were written was absolutely the case. But to still behave that way in "our year of the Lord" 2023- or 24 is unconscionable.
Him writing it out may have been out of excitement. Making it more real. Seems he feels he's relieving himself of what he perceives to be a burden. I am so tired of these murderous nuts hiding behind God.
This guy makes me think of 'splitting' - where someone sees people as all good or all bad. His wife was perfection, until it looked like she was going to leave him. Then he probably saw her as a horrible traitor. My heart is breaking for her children. 💔
Exactly
Bpd symptoms, yes. I have a lot of symptoms of quiet bpd (I don’t lash out at others), but he does sound like he has very similar symptoms to bpd in general
It takes a lot to break something like that too. Even after years of therapy, I have to remind myself sometimes not to make quick judgements and be more grey than black or white. We can get better though, it can just take a bit because healing is like peeling an onion and you don’t always see the other problems til one day it just clicks for whatever reason. Whether he had it or not, I really wish he would have just gotten help instead of taking her down with him 😕. She didn’t deserve it and that’s no excuse anyway
@anastasiahudson2919 that's what I was thinking he might have quiet bpd or more people probably would have caught on...
@@MadeOfQuestions I’d just like to say people with bpd in general don’t end up murderers. So I’m thinking maybe there was also something else going on with him
Damn Stephanie, you really hit the nail on the head about people pleasing… made a lightbulb go off in my mind, thank you.
we all need that lightbulb once in a while
It can be a very fine line between 'love' and obsession---- it took me a long time, personally, to recognise that partners I had did not _love_ me---- but were instead obsessed with me---- I've tried to understand why that's the deal I get.. and have tried to work on myself in order to find 'the real deal'---- the obsession thing---- is dangerous!!!
I LOVE that you talked about attachment styles in this video! I'm so glad it's going more mainstream. It's so important to understand our attachment style and our partner's.
Hi Stephanie❤! Everyone here loves YOU and appreciates your hard work.
I want to hug you allll!
Chuckling at Stephanie still pronouncing Worcester as “worster” after Derrick demonstrated how to say it the right way on crime weekly 💀😂 still love ya girl! Thanks for the upload ❤
one day... one day lol
I can't say it right either. 😂😅
Wuhstuh! 😂
Came here to see if anyone else pointed that out 😂
My Husband grew up there and I have a Southern accent, his family love to hear me trying to say it.
Bit difficult at the moment, I'm thirty-nine and have been single for a while now. Last week a random girl fractured two of my ribs when I told her to get out of my flat after I caught her smoking heroin in my bathroom. I suppose things could always be worse.
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Wat?
I imagine if you fractured her ribs, you would be charged with ass3ult. I have rib spasms as part of an autoimmune disease and my heart goes out to you! That is an extreme and horrendous pain!❤
@@Leigh-Anne94 I was drunk and she knocked on my door looking for someone else (She was also drunk) and had wine with her. She asked to come in and I let her. Sitting around watching TV and then messing around a bit. She went to the bathroom and left the door wide open, I told her to leave, she got angry, punched me twice as hard as she could and then left. I never would have let her in had I been sober, moral of the story is don't let random girls into your flat at 3am while you've drank a liter of whiskey.
are you okay???
I so wish she could hear all these great points you are saying about how it's ok to not be ok, to not being squared away in your 20's, to need someone to help and listen to you. I'm sure Brianne would have really needed and appreciated this. ❤
The iCloud run off rant was the most relatable thing I’ve heard in awhile. 😂😂
No because I caved in and bought storage and now I feel like a sucka! A sellout! After years of sticking to not giving in. I gave in. I’m not worthy anymore 😢😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was married young and we were together for 23 years. The best thing I ever did was not remarry and concentrate on my children. I know a lot of women think or even been told that to be whole you need a man to complete you. Once you learn to love yourself you really find solitude truly blissful. We're expecting a new grandbaby soon and did it by ourselves.
I hope my friend realizes this soon. She spent 7 years alone after having 2 daughters back to back. In the last 2.5 years she has been in 2 relationships and they've both been losers who have/are using her. Both were moved in to her home within weeks of meeting them,both are alcoholics,hell the one she's with now isn't even here legally,I could go on and on. She knows how I feel about it,but doesn't care. I just wish she could go back to the way things were or find a man that is actually worth her time....
Congratulations on the new grandbaby 💕
@@CaseyMarie11-11sorry, they aren't giving me notifications for replies or likes anymore. That's not good for your friend, I had a male friend tell me once, if you've got a guy love bombing you and wanting to move in ASAP they might be just out of jail or prison. They have to have a permanent address or the parole board will put them in a halfway house. They want a gullible/weak woman that they can control to continue their criminal activities. You can't break the law as easily in a halfway house. Please tell her if she insists on letting these guys live off her to at least get a background check. I had one do it to me and I came home from work to all my electronics and my son's games gone. I never let another one move in with me, we got our stuff back and he went back to jail.
@@CaseyMarie11-11February 28 is when they induce, it's been 18 years since my first grandson was born. Thank you
My EX (not Mormon, but JW) would also post over the top public messages on Facebook. ESPECIALLY after a disagreement or after a blowout has subsided. It was just weird. Like he was so insecure of his position in our relationship that he had to project this image of "bliss" to random people in the internet.
I had a non religious ex do this too, always with suspicious timing, always used to publicly claim me or manipulate me in some way. He showed codependent, controlling and narcissistic traits in hindsight so it makes sense.
I grew up in a JW home and “investigated” the Mormons. I came to the realization that they’re pretty much the same thing. It was creepy how they’re clearly two different religions with different practices, but the techniques of control were soooo eerily similar. I said deuces to them soon after!
This one is kinda hard to hear. I spent 11 years with a man like that... He went to work with me bc "guys can slick talk you". I use to joke and say that the world wouldn't swallow me whole if I went out alone. Then he trapped me and the kids in a room. Took him leaving in an ambulance to get us out bc he fought when they came thru our front door to get us out... But I still loved him and hoped he'd change... Until I ended up in the critical care unit with multiple broken bones bc he ran over me with his truck... He made those cute FB posts but never said those things to me, it was all for show. Now, I don't date, I don't trust anyone anymore. I enjoy being alone bc I'll never hurt me like that... Men like that are scary!!!
I’m so so sorry. My story is nowhere near that traumatic but I can very much relate.
I'm so glad you made it out alive ❤
Sending you hugs 💜
I’m so sorry this happened to you 😢 I’m glad got out safely and I hope you’re in a better place now 💗
Sorry to hear .. sad bc none of us truly know who is capable of doing things . ❤
Oh Stephanie! I don’t know what is the purpose of Facebook, if not to communicate to our competitors how much more blessed we are! 😮
Lmaooo
I think Stephanie’s assessment of Aaron as being controlling and possessive was very true and it also shows in how he went with her everywhere…eyebrow appointments, pedicures, hair appointments. These are things my husband usually will just drop me off at, or I would do with a friend unless my husband was also getting his hair done or a pedicure. The fact that he felt the need to tag along with her literally EVERYWHERE she went, even to do the most menial and mundane things most guys wouldn’t really want to tag along to, shows he did not want her having any kind of life outside of him at ALL. he wanted to be by her side 24/7 and to a person who maybe hasn’t experienced abuse of this nature it may just seem like he enjoyed her company and liked to be around her but really it indicates even when she was doing things that should’ve been for herself and some kind of break from him he still felt the need to be there. It can be SUFFOCATING to be in a relationship like that. May she rest in peace, and I hope this man is put behind bars and rots forever for what he did to her.
My wife literally makes me go to every single appointment with her, like she'll actually get pissed off if I say I don't wanna go, so this could definitely go both ways, if a guy goes to every appointment with his wife because she wants him to, nothing wrong with that, if he goes because he's controlling that's different, people definitely shouldn't assume cause a guy us with his wife at appointments, that he's a crazy psycho killer. Nothing to do with your comment, just have seen tons of comments saying, if a guy is always with his wife he's an abusive psycho and she needs to get out...like tf?
@@cyberry813 pretty sure it’s just in the context of what happened to this woman that people find it as a possible sign of abuse. I wouldn’t necessarily see a random guy on Facebook doing this and instantly think abuse. However, if his wife ended up murdered and the police believed he was the #1 suspect, I’d certainly see that in a different light. And even though your wife may ask you to come to every appointment with her doesn’t make it something that’s very common for other married couples like myself and maybe some of the other commenters that you referenced, especially when there’s kids involved. If I’m going to an appointment like that, my husband usually will stay at home with the kids.
Thank you for touching on the potential influence of the Mormon Church in cases like this. My mom converted to it when she re-married decades ago, and these days even she will say that church gives *all* the power to men. I'm glad she's recognized this and pulled away from it. From what she says I can see how it can contribute to a man coming to have this type of mentality when they realize they actually can't control their wives. It's sickening. I 100% agree with Mormon women (and Mormon men who see this as a problem) should create their own unofficial leadership and support outlet.
I’m so thankful that the kids are still with us.. that’s not usually been the case in these scenarios & I know their mother is gone- they’ve lost both parents, but I’m thankful they still have a chance at fulfilling their lives 🙏♥️ Prayers for them and for their families. Great work as always, Stephanie!!
Aaron is the human embodiment of co-dependence. Very weird that he went to all her appointments. Such a sad story. I feel so bad for those kids and for Brianne and her loved ones. 💔
he went to all her appointments because he’s a control freak and a narcissist
Yes, at their young ages and good physical health it’s weird. I ask my husband to come to mine because I am older and need his help with my physical condition. I want him to hear it directly and ask questions I may not be able to answer. In these situations the knowledge can make a huge difference in the outcome. Of course we’re retired and our situation is different. Losing my independence has been awful having been extremely independent since I was a working young teenager. I couldn’t stand to be around someone like Aaron and if my husband started to get that way I would have demanded he leave long ago! And he would have, trust me.
I was thinking the same thing. My husband would rather jump in front of a bus than sit in a salon while I get my hair done and my eyebrows waxed. Salon trips were always "Daddy and the kids hang out time". They'd drop me at the salon and then go wander through Target or whatever stores were nearby until I called to say I was done.
THANK YOU, he was not dependent on her, it's all about himself
@@mrsgunsage01 same with my husband.
Stephanie....excellent work on this piece! I'm a certified attachment practitioner (and one of your biggest fans for YEARS now!!) - and you did a great job discussing attachment theory in the context of this case (even discussing enmeshment). I know you are well versed in psychology and human behavior, but haven't heard you dive into attachment theory before within the context of a romantic relationship - you hit the nail on the head! Although you were speculating on what could have been going on between Breezy and Aaron, your analysis was very plausible and well explained. I too am (a recovered!) fearful avoidant - and yes...the behavior that Aaron displayed could absolutely be triggering to an FA and make them run for the hills! Your point was very valid - what one person perceives as supportive and loving, can feel smothering and controlling to another! Love your work! Keep killing it. You're a terrific storyteller!
WOW you have gift for putting things into perspective. Logical, realistic, with wisdom, clarity & common sense. Thank you!
Wow, thank you!
This is so heartbreaking for EVERYONE involved. Those poor kids
Bless those babies. ❤️🩹
Thank you Stephanie for taking about your love for being alone! All my life I prefer a lot of alone time but would feel like i might be a “loner”. Friends would talk about “loners” like it was a bad thing. I would have teacher say “you’re so quite” like it was a bad thing. I feel better after spending time alone. As an adult I know that it’s healthy!
Yesss!!! Absolutely same! I can spend days upon days alone, with zero contact from literally anyone, and still never feel lonely. I just REALLLYYY love my solitude.
@@LucyShea81 - 👍 It gives you time to research and learn things, and time to work on projects until you accomplish a goal. 🙂
@Dale-jd4nj absolutely, yes!! Also gives you time to get your head space right, if you need to. I'm just a big believer that everyone could benefit from learning how to be happy in solitude. Then, they'll be able to give others a better version of themselves, if need be.
@@LucyShea81 - I totally agree, and thank you for commenting on this subject ♥️
l totally agree, and thank you for commenting about this subject. ♥️
Thank God he didn't hurt the children. Poor Breezy...such a beautiful woman ❤
Ex Mormon wife here. Was active for 35 years. So yeah my ex is like this. He was doubting and we left the church and I started to say no to him. Mental illness and suicide attempts. Ideation of killing me and the kids sent him to psych wards. I was told to try harder to keep the marriage together. Told to not be to much and it’s not a big deal to say no to s*x if he wants it. My ex said we are still married because we are sealed in the temple. I’m still his property in his eyes. So many of my friends are living like this.
Mormon men and family annihilations is starting to coincide, sadly.
I’m so sorry about this. I can’t imagine the stress you’re constantly under. Stay strong, momma!
So glad my reformed Baptist church is full of Godly male leadership that recognizes abuse. They got me out of my marriage, came and moved my stuff, and paid for my storage fees, and moving truck. They constantly asked what I needed.
THAT is how it should be. Men are called to lead. Women are not to be behind a pulpit but can have strong influence and roles within the church. My church also has multiple women Christian counselors.
“and, you know, he’s telling me to put the lotion.. on … the skin” I haven’t laughed so loud in a long time!! ❤❤
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I grew up in a heavily saturated LDS community and was forced to be a member of the church in my youth. I have long since left that church (which I consider a cult). The very worst men I've ever known in my life have been priesthood holders in the LDS church.
I 100% agree. My X and his family were members...the entire building of the LDS church is culty
I'm sorry. I'm glad you got away.
Yes!! And they continue to have the worse because when the good men see it, they end up leaving the church.
47:32 My parents were high school sweethearts. They were married in 1969, and still together and very much in love today. I’ve never heard them speak disrespectfully to each other, yell at each other, call each other names. I’m not delusional enough to think they have never had a fight, but they choose each other over any problems that arise. I can only dream of a relationship like theirs, and if it’s not, I don’t want it. ❤
It's good & smart to be picky regarding finding a mate. Don't settle 😊
I find it difficult to believe such a relationship even exists. Mine have certainly been nothing like this. If only!
@@MsSilverTulip I believe it exists but as a rarity
Same
Obviously love like this does exist, but yes I do believe that’s it’s a rarity in the world we live in today. In just my own opinion, some of the issues in the dating world today is that a lot of us treat others as disposable. With the internet and social media, it’s easy to believe that when you’re done with one person, the next is just a click away. People don’t fight for their relationships now and try to figure out what we issues they have, they just toss the whole thing and move on to the next. Not everyone obviously, but I see this a lot amount my peers.
As someone that grew up in Gardner, thank you for covering this! I moved out of Gardner about a year ago, but I still get the code red warnings to my phone, and I used to, and my parents still do, live fairly close to Camp Collier. (side note- Derek did you wrong, its pronounced wuh-stir, or wuh-stah if you're a local!) As sad as it is, the common consensus among Gardner locals is that he took his own life. I am fairly confidant that he ended up in the lake, and will either be found in the lake or will never be seen again. I'm glad I came across your video, I always feel far more informed after watching your take on the cases because you go into such detail, so thank you for being awesome! RIP Breezy, it is so sad that you were taken from your life and kiddos too early. Hopefully the kids are in a safe and stable environment now.
I'm from Fitchburg, and I definitely think he unalived himself too. My boss is right down the street from Camp Collier and has friends in the PD and they think he did too. It's so frustrating because he deserves to rot in prison
as someone who grew up in the lds church and has spent a lot of time around current members, it is very common for their relationships to move very quickly. it’s highly encouraged to get married young and start families early, and they’re taught that the family unit comes before everything. a lot of the church doctrine promotes codependency and unhealthy relationship dynamics. it’s so deeply concerning to me that so many cases like this have been popping up. my heart goes out to breezy, her children, and her family. hoping for some sort of justice and closure for them. ❤️
Imagine admitting on the internet that you stole from homeless folks as a teenager🙃
right?? cannot relate, man..
pisses me off, I found myself homeless as a teen, scared shite-less. The homeless community in my city welcomed me with open arms, they all looked out for us young ines, taught me safety and looked after me.
When a church values the purity of women and puts a high value on both parties waiting till marriage. It really shows how little experience these people get and how it hugely impacts their marriages. Dating is so important for gaining emotional maturity, communication skills, resolving conflicts, and independence.
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This video/case is so hard because there are SO many points that dense people can qualify or argue or “be the exception” to. And its irritating because it’s counterproductive to the message we can all learn about domestic violence/abuse. But you have it right and I’m so glad you’re saying it!!! Thank you Stephanie! ❤ RIP Breezy 🤍
I can’t believe he still hasn’t been found.
Thank You for All of your valuable insights❤ After my husband passed away, I thought being alone would be impossible…but I found out being alone is a true gift. I do what I want when I want. Of course I miss my late husband….but this alone thing is ok. I am ok❤
Thank you, Stephanie, for the articulate explanation of what co-dependence is/isn't as a psychological term. Hearing people misuse it to throw shade at close relationships is one of my pet peeves, as if supporting each other is something bad. I live with my sister/bestie and apparently as single women the fact we have no interest in living with our parents and depend on each other as an independent household is a sCaRy cO-dEpEnDeNcE (eyeroll).
Stephanie, your videos bring me so much comfort….in a weird way considering the content. 🥴 But anyway, thank you! ❤ Hope everyone watching has an amazing day. 💕💕
I completely get that! Thank you so much for being here!
I think Stephanie is like the friend you can go to advice forward gives you a level headed response then can sit in silence feeling safe lol. She naied it about codependency.
There should only be so many coincidences until it really needs be questioned... These crimes should prove that. This is heartbreaking.
Thank you for doing this! It’s the town next to me. I have hundreds of photos of my dog at camp collier and I’d go alone after work at 9am or so - Until I saw 2 huge mountain lions and I said OK maybe I shouldn’t be alone here so if he’s out there, I hope they ate him ALIVE!
The FIRST thing I noticed was the Mormon piece tbh… it’s sad.
I had no idea about 90% of this, though, so thank you!
Mountain lion or Sasquatch 😏
Every time I watch a Stephanie video, I always feel like I've been to the most valuable therapy session of my life. Thank you for all that you do!
New videos are a great way to make Mondays feel less Monday-ish. Thanks!!
Although it's Tuesday! ❤
@@PaganPunk i subscribe to her Patreon so we got it on Monday
@@juanitabell9768same ❤ one of only 2 creators I will actually pay Patreon for 💕
I appreciate your perspective SO MUCH on this story. You are lending your opinion, but as a fellow woman, I agree 100% with what you said. You are providing such a human element to this case. On the surface it is crazy and wild, a LDS man shooting his wife in the head seems shocking, but once you take the time to analyze his social media and add your own human experience, it becomes more tragic. You can understand the burden Brianne felt for probably so long. It’s so sad.
I agree with you Stephanie, I do not post gushing posts about my husband. It’s taken me 20 yrs to get my husband to understand I can go days with minimal human contact.
Ha! Same here!
Just for context, the survival training he would have taken is for a pretty specific purpose- being in hostile territory and surviving long enough for rescue or to navigate back to safety. Half of the course is focused on evading capture, surviving capture and detention, and resisting interrogation. It definitely does not prepare one for long term wilderness survival.
Im so relieved to hear that Im not the only one who enjoys her alone time!! I truly need it from time to time.
Omg Steph, I sing your intro song every morning when I’m making coffee lol thanks for the video!! Perfect timing.
I love that for us!
That’s adorable 🥰
@@Loratube***coffee drips***
My brain: 🎶 she’s like a sickness in my braaaiiin 🎶
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It's always a good day when Stephanie uploads a videoooo! Love your detailed and compassionate way of telling the story
thank you for being here, love!
My child’s father went to prison two years ago, and I’ve been alone since. Soo peaceful and I’ve learned soo much about myself and got closer to God.
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Literally makes me think of my tattoo in my collar bone. It's done in my writing and says,'Love for yourself is greater than love from others'
My husband and I don’t post about each other or our kids very often either Steph! Don’t know why I even have it outside of some shorts channels I enjoy and keeping up with family that lives out of town. You can tell when people are going through it in life and I agree, it is very strange that people use social media to blast their good times and it’s almost a low key competition with everyone to look flawless and perfect.
Sometimes the people who have so many kind things to say about their spouses on socials are behind the scenes the unhappiest of people.
yeah. why not just say it to the person, no need to share it with everyone you know
Same, I’ll admit when we first got married we were in our early 20s and I wanted to share with the world 😂but now, I’ve found that the less I share the happier we are. No one needs to know how our marriage is going, and I do believe people who overly post are compensating for something. When you’re busy being married, who has the time or energy to report it😂
I swear the guys who post their wife the most and is always like “ I LOVE HERRRR” are the ones cheating or flirting with young chicks and just acting weird when she ain’t around 😂 it’s like they are “making up “ for their bad actions and thoughts
That's why I don't use social media at all. It's all fake. If you want people to know something important, call them or tell them in person. If they're not someone that you wouldn't do that with, they're not really friends.
He's dead. Did himself in. That's what they do after they run into the woods with a gun. Those poor babies are my biggest concern. I hope they did not see or hear anything too traumatizing. Thanks for bringing this to our attention, Stephanie. Peace.
Stephanie, the way you broke everything down, and narrated this horrible story, was AMAZING AND ON POINT!! ❤ 👏 ❤
I’m 60 and I was with someone for just under 30 years who sucked my entire life out of me
I Started with them when I was young, and I was too much of an empath
( a giver so pure )
to see it.
By the time I was a decade into it there was nothing I could do about it I
I was so damaged at that point it became a trauma based relationship
I’m extremely lucky I had the unconditional love for my children that I had and was able to raise them well.
It ended in divorce not any thing worse, but it was bad enough.
I’ve reached a point where I’m pretty much back to myself just a lot tougher and I do not want any type of relationship - EVER !
I’m planning on spoiling myself and loving myself the way I should have always been loved 😉
It’s good to see someone as young as you
With the heightened sense of knowing how to NOT let that happen. 😉
I left my husband who is ex military 2 years ago and I see so many parallels here. I'm so glad I got out because my children deserve a mother.