Stepdad Moved His Entitled Daughter Into My New House, Changed Locks. When I Called Cops Despite...
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- Stepdad Moved His Entitled Daughter Into My New House, Changed Locks. When I Called Cops Despite Mom's Trauma, She Disowned Me for Her "New Family".
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I remember there was another update to this story. The mom ended up divorcing the stepdad but still didn’t contact OP
Link please? People think it's AI.
Link!!!
Link!?
It’s on rgirlsrelationship we can’t post link on TH-cam anymore
yea clearly the mom would never admit she was wrong. it is impossibke for women to hold themselves accountable. that is a proven fact
The "DO THIS FOR DAN" vibes are strong in this story...
omg yes
Omg, the only reason I clicked on this video 😂
Fr😂
Omg, I'm so glad that story is a meme now
Regardless of how insane that story was, the final update was very nice. Dan finally figured out how to think for himself.
It's not the cops that are the problem but Mom's absolute garbage taste in men.
No, its the moms priority of not being alone over op
@@f687sNFM ze fuck? that mom is sevearly traumatized of cops bc of her ex bf and u think its about lonelynes in taking sides? this isnt a: take a side and i will not speak to u anymore situration. Like a, cheated with a brother or some other dealbreaking shit, but like that mom did not NEED to be like that tbh
@@DepleuerAct "traumatized" cuz she got dumped by one lol. She still hates her daughter cuz her daughter made a rift between her and her bed warmer
she was dumped by a cop who was a man but somehow isnt traumatized enough to stop dating men
@@natashamwangi4890 its irrational that's why. Remarried parents will often become biased to their new partners step kids since they want a firm grasp of keeping their bed warmer
The only thing OP did wrong is to even attempt to have relationship with this deadbeat mother, just forget them and move on OP you deserve better and fate will serve those 3 their karma.
Yeah I would have just sent her a message of telling her to delete herself
Well said 💪💪
You are objectively correct , but its just hard for people to cuts ties with abusers. We've all seen people stay with family or in relationships for all emotional reasons
Someone breaks into my home that I own, I am taking legal action. If mom didn't want to be traumatized, she shouldn't have let her stepfamily commit a crime against her child.
Besides that, the longer it took to get them out, they'd get closer to claiming squatting rights. You know they would have.
OP was the one traumatized. The stepdad and spoiled stepdaughter probably told a lot of lies about OP to her mother. How did they think they would get away with stealing OP's house with no consequences? The mind boggles.
@@user-kl8lo6rj5ithey were banking on the fact that the mom was traumatized by cops and tried using that to blackmail op
You know the really sad thing about this story is?
It isn’t all the crap that the entitled step family put Op through.
And its not even how much of an awful mother she has.
It’s the fact that, despite Op not doing ANYTHING wrong here, and all she did was try and hold that spoiled brat accountable for her actions…Op STILL thought somehow she was in the wrong.
Her mother must have ROYALLY messed her up for her to think that.
God i hate Op’s mother and step family.
Yeah they don't deserve to be happy
Your mother is a narcissist!! Keep away, she’ll always harm you so she can feel better about who she is. My mother is the same, she even spread sex stories about me, saying I sleep with other men, in reality I’ve slept with two men, one before marriage and my husband. She took me with her as a child when having lesbian orgies and affairs, so she could use me as an alibi. Now she has to ruin my reputation so if I tell no one will believe me. Used to hurt so bad, but not anymore, if people want to believe lies, so be it. I’m actually the white sheep of the family, but treated as the black sheep…. Haven’t talked to her in many, many years. I’m happy, they say LIVING WELL is the best revenge and trust me, it certainly is. I have love, real love, I have security, I have fidelity, I have people who like me for me, I have everything I ever dreamed of and more. I’m financially secure, I have safety, I am finally ‘me’. The best thing is she can no longer harm me as I simply won’t allow it anymore….. Do your worst, I don’t care….
OP's mother made clear where her priorities are. sadly it wasn't OP. and i don't think OP ever was
No she isn’t really sorry, she just want a reason when people asked where you are when you aren’t around 🤡
Op doesn't have a stepfather/stepsister problem. The mother has a history of choosing toxic men over her own child.
Well said. I predict that, 1: OP will not only cut off contact with her mother, but also sell her house, and move to another town, 2: Marry a man who treats like royalty, one moment, and the next, controls and abuses her (verbally emotionally mentally and worse, physically, to the point where cops and EMTs show up at the door) and fall pregnant, when her husband traps her, 3: Flee to another state, with the help of cops and DV social workers, stay at a women's shelter, find a cheaper, but nicer apartment in a safe neighborhood, and have to rely on neighbors as her new support system, because she won't have her bio-dad, her friends, or other relatives in her new state to help out; the only family OP and her kid will have is each other. 4: To avoid making the same mistakes the mother is making, OP will need to keep potential boyfriends/husbands, and stepkids at arm's length, concentrate on her career, getting therapy for herself, raising her kid, creating a stable and safe home environment, and being the best single mom he's so proud to have.⚠️
@@danacarter9147 if jumping to conclusions was a sport you'd be an olympic medalist
@@danacarter9147your fantasy world is beyond nuts
Mom should have trauma about her boyfriends treating her like garbage, but instead she has trauma over police. What a crock. Sounds to me like mom just wanted OP gone. Your husband tries to -quite literally- steal your daughter's house and you take the husband's side?
Were I the OP, I'd have not reached out. When people show me how they feel about me, I believe them. Good luck with your new, insane family, mom. I'm sure they won't abuse you or leave you the moment you don't capitulate to their insanity.
Nah I’m going to sound like a asshole to some people but I completely agree.That’s like saying since I had a boyfriend that physically abused me and he was a teacher I would just never go near any professors or teachers again.I don’t know how his job is relevant
Instead of feeding into that they should have told her that she was being worried over nothing
@@sliqyplayz8072 I even understand not liking a profession because you've had bad experiences with people in that profession before. And if him being a police officer was a factor in his abuse towards her, which I hear is often the case in those situations because cops don't like to arrest fellow officers, I can totally get her not liking/trusting the police. But the mother isn't interacting with police officers here at all. It's ridiculous to cite your bad experiences with police when you're not even involved, it's a situation where police obviously needed to be called, and nothing bad happened as a result of the call. At that point, you're just weaponizing your trauma.
So were there just no legal consequences for stepdad and stepsister for literally breaking and entering and changing locks?
Usually the people that come up with these fake sob stories have no understanding of the legal system. Or even common sense to be honest.
If they didn't charge them during the arrest, they probably got let off with a warning.
the mom really choose the best men ever everytime ...
edit end of the story ...
yeah so she think she can do a do over familly with a 22 y old stepdaugther who is selfish and spoil ?
she will be alone in 10 y and i hope OP will stay NC, she deserve to be alone for the rest of her life .
The "I'm finally ready to be a mother" and she's doing that with an adult. Yeah, she doesn't want to be a mother, just wants to be called Mom and obviously got a rich husband.
@@Olimar92 a rich husband who have to leech op house for his daughter ? don't even think soo .
but yeah agree ... i think the mom is simply somone who need to be abuse now ... the ex, the new stapfather and the new stepdaugther abuse her and she like it .
So, the mother was so traumatised by being forced into isolation by her ex that she refuses to even call the cops
BUT has decided to be with a man who also isolates her. He and his daughter openly bully OP.
If the mum is struggling her past so much that she is willingly putting herself and others in danger she needs therapy.
She doesn't deserve that cuz that gives her a chance of being happy
„You didn’t even give letting her live with you a chance!“ bruh, changing the locks isn’t moving her in, it’s trying to literally steal OP‘s home. Like how did they think it was gonna end? OP just let her live there and keep paying the mortgage and bills?
And he doesn't have to he doesn't like her would you share your house with someone you don't like
Op mom will come around and Apologize and try to play happy family to op once her " new family " leave her in the dust once that happens op needs to just shut the door in her face..
Op come on you cant be this dense your mom is a sociopath and hates you..
Apparently in an update, the mom divorced the stepdad… and still isn’t talking to OP
@@dimsufferer9951 sooooo op birthgiver is just making herself misreable just because??..
@@Ohiofelonstate I’m pretty sure she’s just too stupid to realize that she’s the problem
@@dimsufferer9951oh so now she's just alone but still doubles down I would have a lot harder choices of words with that woman
Weirdly enough this is one of the few story that sound relatively believable
The sheer nonsense of it is far more realistic than all those stories about an abusive step family that are comically devilish
Not to mention the paradox of her mom thinking that she's changing as a person and doing better for her new family when really her impulse to run away from the mistakes she made with OP is the same selfish impulse that drove her to be a bad mother in the first place. She's able to stay the same selfish, flawed person by convincing herself she's actually working on herself and doing better the second time. AI would never write something like that and I don't think most creative reddit writers are smart enough to cook that up.
The only mystery here is why op gaf about her mother.
That's what I'm saying, she's in her 30s and even admitted that her mother shows favoritism to step daughter, so why bother? She's probably single and childless so she doesn't have anyone else
Bcs its her mom?
@@Streepie21 and???
@Streepie21. That woman doesn't deserve to be called a mother, she is just an egg-donor.
The mom deserves her awful new family. I mean her husband and his daughter had the nervel to use her trauma as a tool to manipulate OP and she doesnt even get mad at them at all. OP is better of without her.
She is the type thats scared to be single and changes to the fit any new guy she meets. Even if that means treating her actual daughter like crap.
It makes no sense for the mother to distrust all cops because of one bad cop, especially when it doesn't seem like he used his job to ab-se her... what, if he'd been a taxi driver, would the mother be afraid of all taxi drivers?
The more I listen to this, the more I'm convinced that the mother just wanted an excuse to go no contact...
EDIT: yeah, egg donor proved me right in the end.
If her Ex was using his position as a Cop to abuse power, I could understand. But the moron was just being a dick. Sounds more like she doesn't want to see the bastard.
I figured mom had had a bad experience with an arrest, or something.
But nope, the actual reason is “I have a shit taste in men, and one of them happened to be a cop.”
That's stupid my mom chose a bunch of violent black men as her boyfriends doesn't mean I distrust all black people I just distrust my mother because she has bad taste in men she always Dragged In some stray dog looking bum
Think I heard this elsewhere. Basically the dad leverages the mothers trauma to steal, the mother over compensates to appease her new family and not be abandoned instead of setting boundaries
That woman (the mom) will alway allow someone to isolate her from everyone she “loves” and she’ll realize it when it’s too late. Only after she’s successfully pushed everyone who could have helped her away because she was chasing after people who was only using her.
she'll be old worthless and dried up
This feels like a case where someone uses their trauma as a reason for everything that goes wrong with their life but they don't do anything to fix their trauma. Also the fact that the boy from was a cop was not the problem it's the problem that the mother seems to have very crappy taste in men. Because her current partner is just as much an abuser as the cop but in different ways.
Her only reason to cut off contact with OP is to continue not taking accountability even when she has realized she is entirely at fault. Selfish and childish to the core
"I had a traumatic experience with law enforcement, therefore clear violations of your rights should just be talked out as if that wasn't the first fucking thing humanity tried before settling on laws and their enforcement. Also, you should've given these people the chance to show you who they are even though they just did that by breaking into your house."
-A totally intelligent person
Carson and Vanessa should both be up on charges for Breaking & Entering.
Mom should filter her whole 'now I'm ready to be a family' vibe through having to clear contact with her 'family' through prison visitation.
OP should invite her friends to a wake, in memorandum of her mother. Give herself a sense of closure and then move on with her life.
Op is definitely NTA for protecting themselves and their home from that crazy stepdad and Vanessa. Seriously those two are completely crazy thinking it’s okay to break in, change the locks and claim the home as theirs. Such a shame the mom made her choice. It’s sad the mom knew how she was treating her daughter and the fact the mom was aware: says all you need to know.
EGG DONOR "mom" must have known when Vanessa was packing what they were up to and been okay. OP PLEASE PLEASE LIVE A HAPPY LIFE without those people.
Um, so it was ok to Mom that her husband and STEP-daughter broke into her daughter's home. No, good call going to the cops. NTA
I'm getting frustrated with how much of a coward OP is with their mother. By their own admission she wasn't a good mother and it was clear from the get go that she planned the whole thing with her ex an Vanessa, yet still she is acting completely spineless with her.
This storys title reminded me of the dan story
“Do it for dan”
That story still replays in my head often because I have a brother that is the "Dan" of our family.
Scapegoating cops and making that her last straw when really it was just the guys she picks...
So you never had the step dad and sister arrested and charged for breaking and entering, and theft of a high value item???
What??
Mom is a true lioness! Allowing her new mate to "eat" her old offspring
I can't believe the gall of these people. It is insane that they think they can break into her house and change her locks
So the cop boyfriend made the mom isolate from everybody and now the current husband is doing the same. Op doesn't realize how bad his mother is.
Imagine so delusional that you think you can teach a thirty year old man a "lesson" by breaking into someone's house and changing the locks
If i was OP I would say "Mom, I know u have truama butttttttttttt
DID I CALL THE POLICE ON YOU".😊
Literally 0 chance this is real. Honestly pretty bad even for AI compared to some of the recent stuff that's come out.
To be fair, terrible people exist.
Breaking into a house is illegal no matter what the situation is.
@@greendiamond2604 people who turn up at your house, replace the locks and expect you to not call the police because... your mom that isn't even there had an abusive boyfriend? And then those guys apparently don't suffer any legal consequences?
No chance.
Nope. Terrible people do exist. My family is one of them.
@@blue3532skill issue
I feel so bad for OP. I had this mom. Only my parents didn't divorce. When mother died I was so upset. What's funny is I knew I didn't love her. She had spent 45 years making it abundantly clear she didn't love me so she stamped out love in all of her children. But I realized I was mourning what I should have had. The relationship I saw others have. I just wanted a kernel of love and kindness. That wasn't possible for her. She only loved herself and plants. She loved gardening. I realized the lack wasn't me it was her. I wrote a letter. I read it to her in private at the funeral because her death was sudden. And if you tried to speak to her about any slight, she'd just walk away go in a room, lock the door and turn on very loud music. So I read to her that she was never a mom to me. She never loved me. She should have been better. And now I forgive it all. I release it. The hurt and all of it I release it. To find peace. That's what OP has to do. Just release it and find her own peace. Otherwise it will eat at her. It's not worth it. I released all of that but I still remember.
In all honesty OP deserves a better Mum and truly did the right thing.
step dad made the point that they broke in and tried to steal her home because OPs Mum would disown her if OP called the cops.
OP you are better than the way your mother treated you, my mum made it very obvious her second family ( my much younger brother and sister and step dad) was much more important and that she loved them more
OP. some women just don't have it in them. Your mom is one. The take- away here is Be a better mother to your children than she is to you. Do the exact opposite than she did. Thats the best thing you could do for your own family.
OP’s mother is TA of this story. Her husband and his daughter broke into her house, changed her locks, and were comfortable breaking the law so egregiously, because they thought OP wouldn’t call the police. OP’s mother should take a good look at exactly how she was played here. Her husband pulled this BS, leveraging her distrust of police to get one of the outcomes he wanted. If his daughter couldn’t move in, well he still drove a wedge into OP’s relationship with their mother.
OP should have got a lawyer and sued for stepdad trying to annex the house.
NTA - The mother, husband and stepdaughter are in the wrong.
DO IT FOR DAN!!!!!
OP really held on to that relationship with her mother through all the abuse, neglect, and abandonment. The fact that it took the mother dumping OP for the stepdaughter for OP to realize her mother never loved nor wanted her speaks volumes on how terribly low OP's sense of worth is. I fear for OP in any romantic relationship bc she clearly doesn't understand when to let go for the betterment of herself. She's kind of pathetic.
She will regret it when they leave with nothing but her self
OP”s mom needs to consider: Mom has acted so poorly that her daughter would rather put up with cops, than trust mom to do the right thing. OP honestly didn’t think her mom would corral step-dad and step-sis. So she called the cops. Is that OP’s fault, or her mom’s?
Disheartening, but she can't hurt or disappoint you anymore, unless you let her.
The truth is they didn't wanna be bothered with the stepdaughter and tried to pawn her off on OP 😢
1) Buy them a weekend vacation.
2) Change their locks.
3) Hand out keys to homeless people.
4) Watch mom disown new family.
5) Point.
6) Laugh.
Im baffled how anybody id think they could legally get by with that trying to steal a house like that i wonder if it be legal to break the lock in said situation and force them out
OP's mother was just better off saying that she never loved her. . .
why she didnt press charges is beyond me....
So let me understand real quick: the mom is sorry she couldn’t be a better mother in OPs childhood, so she should be a worse mother to them so she can be a better mom to someone else’s kid? Yeah, great love that.
She can tell her mother that when she has a child, she will give her the love, attention, and care that she could have given her in the past and she will never get the chance to see or connect her grandchild since she made the mistake of not reconnecting or never being there for her old family.
This. THIS is why we call “pick me women” dangerous! Look what she’s done to her own child!!!!
Mother is going to throw a hissy fit when hee daughter doesn't invite her to her wedding or to see her grandchildren. 😅
Mom: Truamatized by a cop who isolated her from people
Also mom: Let's her new husband and stepdaughter convince her to cut her daughter out of her life.
If she's so ardent on not calling the police, at all, even if a crime has occurred, OP was better off cutting contact because there's no telling what else she'd have allowed.
Unfortunate who the previous ex was and what happened, she should've gotten professional help over still pursing trash and cutting off OP so easily when she wasn't in anyway wrong here for rightfully calling the Police.
She made her choice. You just need to accept it and move on. She'll realize one day what she lost.
Why wouldn't they have pressed charges for breaking and entering, destruction of property (removing and replacing locks) and maybe even attempt theft. This story makes no sense.
Do you OP. Honor her wishes no matter how hard it may be. Save your peace of mind. Because she is claiming hers. I'm so sorry. Go and live your bestest life ever. 😊 and be of good cheer!
To hell with her piece of mind she's a terrible person
So OP's mom would rather let her husband and stepdaughter break into her daughter's house and not let her in, than to have her daughter call the cops on them simply because her toxic ex happened to be a cop
i would’ve called the cops on the mother as soon as she got home to her new family. told them there was a child neglected in the house. THEN i would’ve moved on 🤷🏾♂️
I understand her fear of Police because I have it too but there's no excuse for what they did...
I doubt that was the only reason why that deadbeat mom hates the cops
It's so hard to come to terms with the fact that ones parents/parent are garbage.
"I don't understand why my mother is taking this so hard...." Are we meant to believe this frankly preposterous story? OP's mother marries Carson, advocates for Vanessa, and then OP is completely blindsided by her mother's subsequent poor judgement calls. Yeah, right.
Trauma sucks. But that doesn't give anyone the right to use it as a weapon to try to bend others to their will. Been there, definitely not going back.
Whole story does sound pretty fishy to me. But to be fair: people are _fkn crazy_ man. I once woke up to find that my ex had literally crawled into my house through a window, had my phone in his hand, and was trying to guess the password. Obviously I grabbed it and immediately called the police on his ass (although he at least managed to see through the crazy for long enough to hightail it outta there before they could arrive).
OP needs to stop trying to salvage a relationship that was never there with her mom. Based on the update comments to this story even after mom divorced stepdad she still didn’t contact op so that speaks volumes. She was never sorry and always just never liked her own daughter.
The moment she said "your new husband is not the type of person I want in my life"
I could understand if she thought she had to put up with a terrible step daughter but the husband was no prize either. Why even marry him?
THEY involved the police by breaking and entering not your home. You did what you had to do. Tell your mother that SHE is cut off for their stunt.
Girl's mom ignores ALL the red flags
Despite telling her at the party party wasn't gonna happen, you didn't want your step sister or your step dad at the party, no matter how many times you gotta let your mother know you didn't want step sister to live with you, she still didn't give a shit and listen or to respect your boundaries. You are an adult, you can make your own choices and you have grounds. She didn't respect you, she doesn't care for you and wanted you to lie down for her "new family" and put you last. That isn't a relationship you need. You should have yelled at the mother and told her that she knew this because you told her already at the party and then address every problem you've had with her.
It doesn't matter about the past if your biological daughter is having being abused by your husband and his daughter you put your daughter first end of.
I really hate western Marriage problems.... only people who get hurt are the children, even after they grow up.... like why can't they judge a person better and than get committed..... I hope this issue resolve with the new generation.
“You should have just called me and I would have put an end to this”, like she put an end to it when you made it perfectly clear you wouldn’t even entertain the idea?
OP should sue Carson for B&E
Ok first off, if my mom ever said I should let my ENEMY move in with me, I would tell her she's tweaking and needs to stay off of whatever crack she's smoking, and the fact they broke in and thought that was okay shows they need to be in a mental hospital, I seriously hope this story is a joke...
OP did nothing wrong, mom is gross for that emotional manipulation and choosing her entitled family over her own child
Your mom lost you the moment she sided with your stepdad when they broke into your house. Its not a matter of your mom's trauma, but the fact your stepdad is willing to break the law and harm your well being and even so she would side with him.
I was thinking to myself "Talk to your grandparents" but OP's Maternal Grandparents seeing how much of a failure their daughter is already wrote her dumb-self out of their will. So, she can have Vanessa as much as she wants. OP most likely getting everything.
She wanted to be a mother now that shes likely in late 50's? Really? Thats not how life works
So OP has mommy issue?
Hope OP get over this problem for her own piece.
Should have made a public post about all this
I doubted this could be real because who tries to move into someone else's home.
However, i've heard horror stories about squatters.
Seems like the mom promised her daughter would let his daughter move in and when she had to tell them "she changed her mind"
he decided it would not be a big deal if they forcefully moved her in and then "teased" her by kicking her out of her own house. Didn't seem like they expected her to be kicked out for long, just that she would have to be nice to them if she wanted them not to lock her out every day.
OP is a doormat
It’s not easy to have to cut off your own mother, but she did, in spite of everything and the sadness she knew it would cause both of them. That’s one of the least doormat things you can do if it means standing up for yourself. Trying to stand tall while still mending that relationship doesn’t mean she bent over backwards for her
@@karlwittenburg5868 i disagree. trying to mend a failed relationsip is a waste of time and energy.
Crocodile tears mean nothing without the actions that prove change.
Grandparents force teenage granddaughter into having the baby but neither they nor the parents teach her or the boys about safe sex?
who would want to talk to your crazy mother
were they arrested ? If not Why not ???
Esh.
That was too far.
But he is also a AH for his treatment of his daughter.
DO IT FOR VAN(essa)!!
The mom is bananas
Stop hoping your mum comes around like WTH… sorry but it’s not on your mums new family, it’s your mum herself doing all of this. We need to stop enabling narcissistic people even when they are family.
OK I’m thinking this is the Philando Castile situation, where she watched the cops execute her past boyfriend or something. No she was just in a toxic relationship with a cop. I mean don’t get me wrong that’s bad but to literally be robbed at gunpoint and refuse to call the cops and file a report for is pretty extra. And now she’s sitting here isolating herself from her only daughter, cutting her off for basically traumatizing her like what the fuck?
Jesus Christ… “you should have just called me”
No YOU should have just let it go and not broken into your daughters house (your husband anyway)
I'd like to know, how do people rationalize just moving into another adult's house and just lock them out? Tell me by what statute or decree they think they can do this?
30 year old woman and the step dad is "punishing her." Yeah fuck that. If the mother won't stand up for her bio daughter then the daughter is better off without her
uh, the mom has a point. I would not have called the cops first, last resort only for sure.. ESH
What other option did OP had? Let them stay and claim squatters rights? Sleep in the streets? complain to reddit and be homeless?