Having a Miscarriage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ก.ย. 2024
- With everything we've shared with you guys so far: our infertility, Jessi's endometriosis, our IVF... it felt appropriate to also share our miscarriage experience. It's another thing that so many people go through, yet there's a huge lack of information and support out there. It's always expected that these are things you must suffer through in silence, but we disagree. So we wanted to share our experience with you and let you know, if you're going through something similar, you are never, ever alone.
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I have had three miscarriages. all at the tenth week, all with curettage. it was devastating. I felt responsible for everything: yet I was in bed all the time, but my body rejected this little being in my uterus. my relationship has undergone many shocks, if it hadn't been for my partner who is very stubborn and madly in love with me, today perhaps I would be single and depressed. we decided not to try anymore. in August 2023 my partner says to me why don't you take a test before leaving for holidays? so out of nowhere. "It's fine" I tell him, to leave calmly but I never expected something positive. I didn't react well. I was afraid of losing him again, of suffering physically like the previous times. we didn't tell anyone because I didn't want people to look at me with pity after my fourth miscarriage. Today I'm 32 weeks. it's a real miracle, we still don't know why three pregnancies were lost and this one wasn't. but miracles sometimes happen. I hope that your heart can receive everything it desires. I pray for you and for your two little ones who await you ❤️ a hug from Italy
I cannot agree with you enough about telling people you are pregnant right away. The first time, I didn't tell anyone, and had to go through a miscarriage silently. The second time I did the same, but had severe hyperemesis... alone. For the third pregnancy I told all my closest friends and family right away, and it was so much better to have support.
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I had 11 miscarraiges and a full term stillbirth. I found out i have MTHFR. My daughter also has it andhas lost 3. Please look into MTHFR.
I wanted all the prayers and shared joy from the word go. And then the support when I miscarried our son. 😢
@@susansteele687I have this and don't hear a lot of people talk about it.
@@susansteele687I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome and lost my daughter at 36 weeks. I actually just wrote a long comment about it and how I blamed myself before knowing I had APS . I wish the tested everyone for clotting disorders. It could save so many lives
I love you saying that "this baby deserves to be celebrated no matter what happens ".❤
What a wonderful way to look at it. My Mom had at least 10 pregnancies-7 children. & 3 miscarriages ( she’s not sure-might have been more). Her Ob/Gyn told her that in a way it was a blessing, as perhaps the baby had a birth defect that would have been difficult. Our position as Catholics is that every child I’d a gift-there would have ever been. a decision to not go ahead with the birth. But maybe it was a small comfort. And the aftermath is still hard-her OB/Gyn 35 yrs experience told her to try to get pregnant asap
b/c 17:36 a woman goes thru the hormonal fluctuations as if still pregnant. He had a tremendous amount of experience in miscarriages to be a subject matter expert and it’s now been validated scientifically.
So it’s not only the psychological issues, communicating the loss to others, but also the hormonal changes beyond your immediate control .
I agree that announcing the pregnancy before 3 months is better than not telling…
Nothing to be ashamed.
I think it depends, really. I had a loss on my 4th pregnancy. I found out super early since i would test all the time. I announced with my older three wearing big sister shirts. I lost the baby a week later. I wish i wouldn't have told everyone just because i had people asking me how the pregnancy was going, and i broke down. Our 4 year old at the time would talk about the baby all the time. We didn't tell her we lost the baby since we were going to keep trying, and she didn't know how long a pregnancy was. We ended up telling her after our youngest was here and when she could understand more.
I am glad my close family knew, but I wish i had kept it at that. I think it just depends on the person.
True, really depends on who you will want to have the support specially after more than one.
I had 2 miscarriages and went through that alone.
I love that you don't talk over each other! You listen and let the other finish speaking. Respect!
I understand, I had 2 miscarriage. I was devastated. The physical pain was awful as well. I delivered at home. I was 4 months. The doctors office experience is awful as well. Separate rooms are necessary. The staff is insensitive too. But 3 years later I got pregnant again. They prepared me to lose the baby but I made it. Don't lose hope.
It's probably for the best .
Don't breeders understand the world is overpopulated ?
Or your kids will be without jobs thanks to AI
The " Luddites " where ahead of their times on these matters .😊
I'm praying for you! I lost my uterus at age 23 due to tumors. No chance of giving birth. In my late 30s, I decided to adopt a daughter. She just graduated with her Master's degree. Even if the IVF doesn't work, don't give up!
From one silent miscarriage couple to another still hoping for their first successful pregnancy, my husband and I are praying for you, in Jesus’ name
My parents (Italian dad and British mum) during their first 10 years of marriage had several miscarriages before I was born. They had almost given up hope that they'd ever have children. I have a close friend who went through the same thing before giving birth to two strong healthy children. Wishing you all the best on your journey towards parenthood. I know you'll make wonderful parents. ♥
Thank you, Jessi and Alessio! Being an old obstetrician in Sweden, I of course know about the medical background to miscarriages, but I think your video was very important for the sake of the general public. Insightful and very mature views you are promoting.
Yes, in Sweden, we say that around one pregnancy in five, when you knew you had been pregnant ends in a miscvarriage. And also yes, the by far most common cause are chromosomal abberrations (we think) - and thus a random thing that can happen to anyone. And the risk is always the same (unless you first do preimplantation diagnostics, which still is not a common thing).
In the same manner, the REAL frequency of conceptions not leading to a pregnancy presumably is around 50 % actually.
Interestingly enough, it's always more problematic getting pregnant the first time, as opposed to later on. Also, we have noted that people giving up, getting a dog or signing up for adoption have a tendency of getting spontaneously pregnant. Stress hormones surely plays a big role here.
My son and his wife had difficulties at the start, resorting to IVF and by now have two three year old twin boys (from one reimplanted egg).
However this January 5th they got their third son after a spontaneous pregnancy. And this is quite a common phenomenon.
So, all the best of luck to you both! You seem to be in extremely good hands!
Yes after 7years of 7 miscarriages my mother finally carried to full term. After that my mother had two more full term carriages. I guess your body remembers how to work after the first one.
Thank you, Doctor. I am no doctor just a superstitious old lady😂 My experience showed me that many times after adoption, foster parenting or just caring for a child that is not your natural born opens the door to spontaneous natural pregnancy. No American doctor would ever even mention that possibility.
2 things:
1. Alessio, your English is top tier!!!
2. You are AMAZING to tell people to drop their questions, and say maybe you can do a live with the expert. SO many people don't have the money, time, or opportunity to consult such an expert. God will bless you both for being open, helpful, and generous!
We are praying for you guys! We know that pain all too well. Have been trying for 3 years, also had a miscarriage. In my case, I had to deliver opening remarks for an art show at the Governor’s residence in front of hundreds of people while I was actively miscarrying and had been told by the doctor that morning that it was not a viable pregnancy after my progesterone dropped. I too, had told most people because it didn’t feel right to hide it or to have to be alone in that grief and I’m so glad we had that support. We are with you and wishing you strength in the journey ahead.
I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how hard that was. ❤
It’s so strange you say that because I was watching Teal Swan this morning and she was talking about the exact same situation happening to women and being told to keep a stiff upper lip and do the things they agreed to.
Awe. Love you guys. I have had miscarriages as well. Broke my heart for you guys! I am praying that you guys will soon have a beautiful tiny human. Maybe I'll pray you have twins. You will be wonderful parents! Sending you both love and positive energy.
Giving birth to twins is not a piece of cake.Twins are also a lot of work, especially in the first 4 years. 😦
I’m so sorry you went through that. I had two back to back miscarriages (one at 13 weeks December of 2019 and one at 8.5 weeks (twins) March of 2020). It was the worst time of my life but I now have my rainbow baby girl who will be three in June. I pray you all get your rainbow baby as well. Many blessing you all love you guys.
Your situation sounds like mine. I miscarried my first at 13 or 14 weeks.
My second was twins at 8 weeks. Thankfully my one twin survived. She’s definitely still a fighter.
I’m so sorry for your losses. And thankful for your rainbow baby. Those littles definitely hold a different place in your heart. ❤️
I am sitting here sobbing, one of my best friends has been trying IVF and just had a positive pregnancy test and found out yesterday she's miscarrying again because of her levels and I live across the country and I just want to hug you both so much. I don't know if anyone has told you how important these stories are, to bond women, to make us women stop blaming our bodies, to talk about the unspoken stupidity of having these "unwritten rules" or methods. I have followed you guys since your silly olive garden outing and I hope you know I am praying and rooting for you. I am SO SORRY you had this experience, especially with medical you have the right to have a painless experience- and as someone who's worked in healthcare having a separate space/area makes so much sense. There's so many easy ways to accommodate this even in small offices.
You two have everyone rooting for you! Absolute strangers are pouring love and hopeful wishes and good karma your way! I imagine your future child watching these videos one day and feeling incredibly loved and wanted and so special ❤️
My Sicilian Grandma was always upset if we announce before 3 months. Thank you for sharing! God Bless you for your vulnerability in sharing your lives
I love that you’re using your channel to get the word out about miscarriages and infertility. I have four children but it was a very difficult road to have them. I lost six pregnancies and had four children over a 10 year period of time. My body finally said you’re done having babies and I had a hysterectomy a couple of years ago. My doctor said that having miscarriages was a type of infertility that is not talked about enough. Thank you for sharing your story.
I was diagnosed with PCOS. We were trying for 1,5year to stay pregnant. I found a good doctor that told me that I was misdiagnosed and I have endometriosis. I stayed pregnant naturally 1 month before starting treatments! My boy is 9years old now. My doctor helped me a lot during my pregnancy. I had vaginal hormones during the first months of pregnancy to “keep” the baby. I thank him from my heart. When I saw the positive test first I told my husband and my mother! Sometimes I believe it is a dream!!
I was too.
How do I know for sure if it's PCOS or not.
1. I never had inconsistencies with my period 2. I had very painful periods 3. My cysts were not filled with fluid and were not dissolve naturally. I had 2 labaroscopic surgeries, in the second surgery we did a biopsy that confirmed I had endometriotic cyst.
After going to 5 doctors the last one told me from the first 5 minutes that this is endometriosis!!! I had the surgery after the birth of my child that confirmed his was right. Find a good doctor!!
I also have pcos. and I now have a beautiful 25 year old daughter. and unfortunately she also has pcos, luckily she can deal with it well. Her husband did allow himself to be helped, because the doctor told me that my daughter does not want children because of PCOS, it is hereditary. and because she has autism and developmental delays. I asked my GP and the doctors at the hospital and it is indeed hereditary. I'm not going to be a grandmother, but I don't mind that, as long as my daughter is happy, so am I.
I was diagnosed with cervical cancer and after many treatment methods I was cleared, but I have to return to the gynecology department every 5 to 6 years for a check-up.
@@silentscreams2842 discuss this with your GP and ask for a full examination in hospital. I have known about it for about 10 years now because I had cervical cancer, this also seems to be part of it. PCOS involves hair on the face, legs and abdomen, etc., diabetics, inability to lose weight or very difficult to lose weight, no or almost no period and if you do, a lot of pain and bleeding, no eggs on your ovaries but fluid blisters. and there are even more indications of PCOS. I can recommend that you visit your doctors quickly. much success and strength
Please note that every body is different and every woman has different symptoms. i.e. your PCOS is different from mine or any other woman's.
Praying for the both of you! i have had 2 miscarriages both at 5 months. After the first a very wise older lady told me not to put a question, where God put a period. This helped me tremendously in not playing the blame game. I have two wonderful daughters, today and I wish you all the best!
Oh man is this tigger in all my feelings from 34 yrs ago. This month of June the 26th I had my miscarriage. I know what you are talking about…the pain the guilt the loss… I remember lying on my couch in pain then okay then in pain again over and over until it was done. Back up to earlier that day after a week of the dr saying maybe maybe not wait and see then seeing my baby’s heartbeat on an ultrasound in the morning only to miscarriage that evening. I want to say this…even when it seems over it’s not over. Knowing the route you are taking currently I want you to know there are always avenues open. My story didn’t end 34 years ago I adopted my daughter 9 yrs ago. 9 years ago! Don’t ever give up hope!
Love you guys! I'm SO touched by your willingness to share your intimate & personal experiences in your IVF journey. I hope & pray we'll all be celebrating your "little lion 🦁" in the coming months! ❤
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I will light a candle for you two in church. 🕯️🕯️🕯️
Oh, gosh... This is a hard journey. I remember having ours.. After second miscarriage and years of trying to conceive my husband and I were just.. broken. But we kept trying, and now we are blessed with a baby-boy we dreamt of❤ I do remember though feeling like it would never happen to us! We've learnt from this to stay patient and never lose hope.
I will pray for you❤
Aww I am so sorry you guys had to experience the loss of a pregnancy. I can’t imagine what you both went through!
Hopefully, this IVF journey will be successful and you don’t have to endure another loss.❤🤞🏽
I agree about letting people know, too! It isn't just your loss, it is a loss to your family. People tend to go on quickly, but at least initially you aren't going through it alone. No one should grieve alone. Also, it was amazing how many women with the same experience came out of the woodwork to tell me they'd been through it. Community and not feeling alone is vital.
You two have thousands of people praying for you! You are not alone in this journey, may God Bless you with a precious child! ✝️🙏❤️
MY daughter got pregnant, 6 weeks after her first surgery!!!!! Gabriella is 3, and my daughter Jennifer is pregnant with Mateo💕 I am praying with you🙏🏽
Thank you guys for sharing your beautiful story of commitment to each other and your journey in creating a family together-in both the moments of joy and pain-your love for each other shines thru it all and your videos never fail to touch my heart. May God continue to Bless You in Your Lives Together 🙏🏻
With my 2nd pregnancy I thought I was going to miscarry, cramping and spotting. I went to the Dr right away. He suggested I have a DNC but I wanted a 2nd opinion for whatever reason. I saw another Dr that same day. She examined me, she told me to go home stay in bed, no lifting no housework NOTHING. The symptoms subsided 7mos later I delivered a healthy baby boy. I was lucky and blessed. You will also be blessed with a child. 🙏🙏
Aw, praying for you both! I can see the pain and emotion on your face, Jessi. I had a miscarriage almost 16 years ago. I think about that little one still, but not as often as I used to. The pain does fade. And I know I will meet that baby one day and he/she will be with Jesus until then. Same goes for yours. ❤
My heart goes out to you. Having experienced 10 miscarriages myself, I know the heartache you go through. Keeping both of you in my prayers.
100% agree! 😭❤ beautiful words from Alessio - there’s life there, a part of him and a part of you, Jessi! Praying for you both as well, sending love from northern AZ
This post is monumental. This is so important. So many people need to know this. Because SO MANY PEOPLE GO THROUGH THIS....and they feel so alone and isolated and afraid when it happens to them.
And it is not discussed enough, so many of the people who go throught it think it is only them :-(
We had to try for 3 years for a successful pregnancy. Had 9 early miscarriages in between. I was always so glad when other people shared their experiences and happy endings. It made me feel like there is still hope for us. We conceived and carried a healthy baby boy in 2023. ❤ it will happen for you. I know it 😊
I agree with telling those you want to celebrate with early, also those are the same I needed when I experienced my miscarriage. Thank you for sharing your journey, I’m praying for you during touring your journey.
The waiting room comment is real, and painful! 😢 Had two miscarriages myself before we had my beautiful daughter. We had given up completely no Doctors, planned a trip to Greece and here she came. My progesterone levels were low, so they had me taking some to improve my levels for a short time. Hope you both the best of luck in the future.
I'm so sorry you went through all of that, Jessi, especially on the day your family was gathering for your grandmother.
I've had a miscarriage too. I gotta tell you, from my experience, should it happen to you again, get the D&C. Physically, it is so much easier and makes the process not last as long.
While it does stink to lose the pregnancy, you now know that your uterus can handle implantation. Hopefully, that can give you both a little peace of mind when it is time for the embryo transfer.
My prayers and fingers are crossed for y'all. Thank you both for sharing this challenging journey. I think it really does help many couples who are struggling with similar situations and don't have a good support system or can't share their battles with those around them.
My husband and i conceived our first try. I got a positive test a week before my birthday. 2 weeks after my birthday i had a miscarriage. I would not wish the feeling on anyone.
I hope you guys are doing good and wish you all the best and baby dust on your ivf journey ❤
You have such a healthy attitude. Thank you for sharing. Well done for doing the emotional and spiritual work to be in that place. May God bless you in this season.
I’m so sorry your doctor wasn’t more sympathetic. Shame on them . The second miscarriage we were out of town for Christmas and on Christmas eve I started bleeding. So I had to go to the Er. I was so sick because of my hormones I guess and crying until I threw up over and over. I’ll never forget the compassion that the nurse showed me at the hospital. I was about to throw up and she handed me that tiny kidney shaped bowl . I took off running down the hall to the bathroom. She ran after me, came in with me, shut the door and held my hair back for me. After hours of this - she wheeled me out to the car and I asked her , her name. She said,” I’m Mary .” 😮- she was such a blessing to me 🙏🙏
I know exactly how Jessie was feeling when you were waiting in that doctor's office during your miscarriage. There were so many times during our infertility journey that I sat amongst happy pregnant couples and it was tough on my heart. I didn't begrudge their happiness, but the struggle with all the issues we had was so tough mentally and emotionally. No one talks about it or prepares you for what you will endure. You both are amazing for sharing your stories and your journey. 💜
I hope to see a little one soon. All in the Lords time. I had two miscarriages due to endometriosis and now have two grown sons .
💕💕🙏🙏🙏for you!!
I appreciate the fact that you two share so much and I know it will help others; I think it also helps you to be honest, especially with your family. Their support and love is the best. I’m hoping for the best in a few months.
Been there, such a heartbreaking experience! Luv on ya’ll and good luck!❤️
My sincere thoughts. My wife and I suffered a miscarriage and believe me it was the worst day in my life. We were very fortunate in that shortly afterwards she conceived again and we didn’t tell anyone until she was deep into the pregnancy. Keep trying you’ll be great parents
Thank you so much for sharing your physical and mental woes… we are here to pray and listen
Just dropping in to share that you are not alone. I totally can relate. I've been through almost 10 times IVF, after 5 years of trying I finally got pregnant for the first time and we were very happy, excited and felt surreal. Then, I lost "my baby" once we hit 8 weeks. It was soooo painful the first time (contractions), my 2nd miscarriage wasn't as painful. I'm still trying. Let's do it. 💪💪
I‘m in a very similar situation, 10 years trying, 14 IVF, 6x positive test, 3 lost after positive test, one week 6, week 8 and week 10. Regrettably, all ended in the hospital due to so sever bleeding, that I was losing conciousness. The first was very painful, physically and mentally. The other 2 was rather physically painful.
There's a huge amount of bravery here from both of you, to share all of this so openly. Thank you. Good luck to you both xx
I wish you both all the best and send prayers for you throughout this process. I couldn’t have children, but I ended up with an amazing stepson and fostered two wonderful boys that filled my heart with joy.
Been there, very awful thing to experience, I lost my son when I was 4.5 months along, and lost another early on. Wouldn’t wish this heartache on ANYONE!!! Hope you’re doing okay
I am incredibly sorry for your loss. I have had two miscarriages (only been pregnant twice) and it is the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. Wanting and praying for something for so long...and then going through something so terrible. I wish more people spoke about about it. It is such an isolating and painful experience.
Just wanted to say a massive thank you for talking so honestly about your experience. My husband and I are going through our own IVF journey and about to start our second cycle your videos have given me so much support. I cannot agree more to celebrate every positive moment and not let them pass by with fear of the unknown. Wishing you all the best on your IVF journey x
Thank you so much for being willing to share your miscarriage journey with others. I’ve had 3 miscarriages myself, 7, 10 & 27 weeks along. Each one is so painful in different ways. Having the support of family and true friends is so vital. Much love to you guys from a perfect stranger 😊💕
More of us need to share our stories to make miscarriage less mentally and emotionally stigmatizing. I never knew how many mommas around me have experienced miscarriages as well.
Dear Jessi and Alessio, you are terrific examples of hope and courage. Both of you are giving us life lessons through your actions and relationship♥️ Wishing you every possible positive outcome 🥹♥️
I have just recently started watching your videos and I have enjoyed them so much! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. If I was given the option to either never exist, or to not be able to live life here on this earth but to enjoy eternity and everlasting Love, to only know heaven I would choose heaven. I know how hard it is….. I will be praying for the two of you as I would for my own brother and sister! Much love!!!
Hugging y’all with my heart . Yall are so sweet .
Praying and hoping yall have a blessed year .
❤❤
I’ve been following you both on Facebook since the beginning and I love your videos. I just wanted to say that I really wish and hope the absolute best for you both and I’m always sending positive thoughts your way.
Thank you so much! ❤️
I just can't put into words how amazing and inspiring and uplifting you two are .
Best advice I can give you guys,actually to Jesse, after having baby misscaried, and blaming myself thinking I am not healthy enough is to make a mindset in your head that nothing is wrong with you, you are perfectly healthy and perfectly capable of caring a child, your body is healthy and prepared for a baby. When that clicked in my head, when I started telling myself that everyday,actually when I started beliveing in that, I became pregnant right away naturally, eventhough the doctors told us only IVF will work. 4 years later 2 healthy boys naturally conceived.
I love how loving and kind you both are, and how you view the unborn baby as an important life worth celebrating and mourning over. I had 2 miscarriages, and with the 2nd one I was put in the hallway of the maternity ward. My baby had just miscarried, and I had to lie there all by myself listening to newborn babies cry. It was emotionally painful. The Lord gave us 4 children to raise after all. Will be praying for you both. God bless you and keep you!
Praying for you! It’s a blessing you are being so open with your journey; happiness and pain. I’m so sorry you have gone through this. I’m excited for you and your new journey. 🙏🏻
Oh, you guys. Thank you for sharing. I had a missed miscarriage in July and chose to complete it naturally at home too. I can't begin to describe the heartbreak. My little baby should have been due next week. And earlier this week I found out I'm expecting baby #2 - it's an anxious time but I agree with you about celebrating this new little life for however long they're here. Praying so hard for a smoother journey for you both from here on. 🙏💕
You are a spectacular couple. It's a learning curve you guys are going through. Don't forget, no matter what, you have your love, that is the beginning and sense of everything. Don't feel 'compelled' to accomplish, if it happens it will be a blessing, if not, you are in love and you are a family. I think that mindset will help you a lot. Best of luck on your project :)
Big prayers, thoughts and love are with you, Jessie and Alessio. ❤😊
I starting watching your videos because I'm half Italian and you guys made me laugh.
It's after a while that I realized you were going through the same battles I did for conceiving.
I feel for you so much.
I've been through several miscarriages as well and IVF too. All what you said is so true (being in the same room than pregnant women, the coldness of most of the doctors, being alone at home "waiting" for the miscarriage to happen with all the physical and emotional pain that it brings with it, the people surrounding you that don't know what to say, the fact that everyone says you have to wait to tell when I never did (for the same reasons you have) and I could go on and on...
Actually I published my 2 journeys, for baby 1 and 2 (2 books, even if I have one child) and what I realise is that we all go through the same feelings during infertility.
What is so beautiful with you guys is the love, understanding and support you have from one another. In my experience it isn't always the case, as the matter of fact my partner and I drifted away from one another during/after all these baby struggles...
I wish you all the best for the future and send you guys lots of love. Fingers crossed.
Ohhh, Jessi & Alessio...
I felt this post to my core! It took me back to all the emotions I felt when I went through my miscarriage. It was one of the toughest times in my life.
I'm praying that this time around, after freshly having your surgery, I pray that you will have a blissful experience with a beautiful little one to share your abundant love with. That precious baby will be sooooo loved!!
Thank you for sharing your journey. 🥰
I’ve had two miscarriages and I totally agree that sharing the pregnancy and celebrating that life from the beginning is so important! We are praying for you during this time and asking for a successful pregnancy ❤
It’s wonderful for you to share your story and best wishes. But to all the women out there, You don’t need a kid to make you happy, you need to be happy period. To all the couples out there you don’t need a kid to complete you. And to all the women who don’t believe in IVF or can’t afford it, you don’t need a kid to make you happy. Live life and be happy and make the best life with or without a kid. Trust God.❤
I will being praying for you and your journey. One of my 4 pregnancies was a miscarriage, so I empathize with what you went through. It is one of the worst things I’ve gone through and the grief is indescribable. But you are correct that you are not alone and we should be able to process our grief and sadness with other humans who have suffered the same. I am wishing you a textbook safe and healthy pregnancy, labor, and delivery and praying that you get to experience the joy as you create the new addition to your family. Much love to you both.
Amazing Jesse!! Celebrate your journey!!! 🤍 I have been on your journey! I tell people if you could tell yourself 5, 10, 15 years ago where you are today. You wouldn't have worried. . Bc you knew everything turned out okay. I know the tests, the loss, the journey. . But i also know that HE is not finished with you!! You will triumph! For HE has plans to prosper you. . Not to harm you. And you sharing of your journey is going to touch sooo many peoples lives. One day when you get home you will no only be reunited with those babies but you will get to see the ripple effect of allllll the lives you two are touching, effecting, educating. And you would do it all again. .
I pray for the peace that passes allll understanding. . And i pray that you two have the most amazing experience. 🫂🙌🤍🙏
Just to add some context. . We got pregnant not trying too.. we were dancing and dreaming about this life change. . And we lost him/ her. So we went through months of tests and trying and failing. So I understand not even wanting to look at the test. I took one and didn't even look. . And my husband ran outside (bc I was looking at a full blue moon) and yelled is positive it's positive! I couldn't believe it! We went through all 9 months. . And 2 weeks before I had him I found breast cancer in my right breast that had spread to my lymphnodes. (Triple negative the most deadly type) Had a healthy boy and have been going through chemo, radiation, double mastectomy, and am having my second surgery Tuesday. As far as they can tell I do not have any cancer left! Sooo I say all that to say (close to the end of the journey) that I wish I wouldn't have worried as much as I did. I tortured myself with fear. . And here I am. Here is my little boy. I just wanted to tell you I understand. And when the fear comes. . Comfort each other. . That you are not alone. . And that you are there for each other. I pray for your journey! 🫂🙌🤍🙏 I understand the fear, pain, and frustration. But those words do not define you Jessie. They are feelings. . That you have come. . And you tell them NOT TODAY! NOT ME! Draw close to me Lord! I need you. Knock and the door will be open, seek and you shall find when you search for Him with your whole heart. I'm saying these things from love sweet sister in Christ. I believe you will be blessed! 🙏🤍
You two are such lovely people and I know you will make great parents-your blessings to have children will come. Love you guys! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I totally agree on sharing a pregnancy earlier rather than later. It builds your support group that way. Also, what a raw and heartfelt video. Thank you for sharing.
You two are really brave and level-headed about this process. Wishing you the best from Oregon!💖
For a moment I thought you had a miscarriage now, after the transfer...... Thank you for sharing openly, acknowledging real feelings and giving healthy ways to deal with them ❤ I wish you both a wonderful process with the transfer, and the very best outcome for all of you involved. ❤
I agree- because I tried to get pregnant for most of last year, finally did after 2 months of letrozole. I couldn't wait to tell a few close people because of course it's so exciting! I knew I would have support if anything bad were to happen.
It's so nice to share your experience with others. I work in medical field and see these situations every day and always have been aware of what can happen with pregnancy. Love the honest, mature approach- Keep going, Keep trying.
I had three miscarriages in the second trimester and two living children from the only two pregnancies I had that were to term. Many years later when I had a hysterectomy for uterine adenomyosis the OBGYN said I had a tilted uterus and they contributed to my multiple miscarriages. It was wild to find that out so many years later. Sending you good vibes!
I’m sorry, it can crush your soul, been there. Seeing your husband support I know he will see you through it, just like you will him. You will never forgot this little one. Some doctor do separate, even my doctor back mid 70’s on different floors.
Thankfully you had each other to hold, love, and cry together. Blessings to you both when you do welcome a little one into your life. ❤
Thank you for your perspective on sharing the pregnancy early so people can celebrate “that baby deserves to be celebrated”. I’ve never thought of it this way and I love that.
Thank you so much for sharing your lives with us. You both are in our prayers! 💖🙏🏻
I agree, I always tell my friends and new moms to share your pregnancy right away with anyone who would support you in a loss.
If someone you tell tries to shame you for it, look dead in their eyes and say "I assumed you would support me should anything happen and I assumed you would be happy for me." If they react negatively to that, they dont need to be in your life.
Praying for your new family of three with blessings and perfect health ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are so brave to share this with us! It’s so hard! When we were starting out, I had two miscarriages before our daughter was conceived! I’m still praying for you two!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you for talking about it. You are helping normalize this experience, amd take the stigma away. If everyone was so brave and open, then we could support one another and it wouldn't be so isolating in a time where someone needs love and support the most.
Some doctors really have no business in being in healthcare. Compassion is a necessity. Wishing you the best for IVF.
Praying for you. We went through infertility time. My twins now turning 17. Keep faith.
❤️ I am so sorry you went through this, Jessi. I know how you have felt. 🥺
You both are so nice, guys, I'm hoping for the best and praying. A hug from Treviso. 🥰
Jessie, your advice to share from the beginning is wonderful advice. ❤️ We pray for you.
I went through
5 pregnancies
3 miscarriages 🥲😢😢
2 beautiful fabulous daughters
who have blessed me with 4 awesome grandchildren
Yes the loses were extremely difficult and I mourned each one but celebrated my 2 happy healthy pregnancies and I continue to celebrate thru my grandchildren
You will be blessed
God bless you both
I announced all my pregnancies basically as soon as I found out. I wanted to celebrate my babies and figured if I did miscarry then they would have been celebrated and I'd have people to lean on.
Wishing you all the best in your journey.
Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life with us. Every step is planned by our heavenly Father.❤❤❤
My first pregnancy 32 years ago that resulted in a miscarriage still resonates with me. We told everyone we knew as soon as we were pregnant. The loss of that pregnancy was painful and traumatic. I blamed myself for going for a jog. The support I received from people I knew that had experienced the same type of loss was surprising and comforting. We went on to have an uneventful pregnancy for my oldest son. But for my second son’s pregnancy 7 years later we waited till the second trimester to tell anyone due to first trimester issues that might have meant another loss. I applaud you Jessi & Alessio for being so open with your journey and wish you only the best.
My heart and prayers are with you both. My daughter had the same experience and had miscarried twice but now has two beautiful children. We thank you for sharing this precious journey in your lives with us and know you too will be blessed with a precious little angel of your own ❤❤❤ God Bless you both!
My heart is with you guys. I have many friends who miscarried several times before having their babies and it’s heartbreaking. I’m thankful that you guys are being so open and vulnerable during this process. I think you’ll be helping a lot of women and couples who are going through this or have been through this. My best wishes to you both. Grateful to keep following along this journey with you both. Love!
You are two so cute and loving together ❤ good luck to you!!! Everything is going to be fine, just relax and trust the process 😌
Jessi, your comments about telling family before 3 months were really insightful. I'm sorry you learned it the hardest way, but you will be blessed for sharing your painful experience to help others.
I can completely empathize. I had 3 miscarriages-first with twins and 2 singletons after being told that I couldn’t have a child naturally. It was a lot of physical, emotional and mental pain with a lot of blame and guilt. It was taking a toll on me and my marriage. Prayer and hope kept me from going to a dark place. My rainbow baby is now 8 years old. My heart goes out to you and my prayers continue to be with you during this journey. Much love and I am excited for you and your future family. 🙏🏼♥️
Be encouraged. I was told I couldn’t get pregnant. But at age 31 I got pregnant for the 1st time. Long story short, I have 5 beautiful children spaced out over 16 years. I have had 4 miscarriages in between each live birth. You truly have gone through the most heartbreaking experience. But do not give up. Many people are praying for you! I believe God will bless you with children because that is His heart. ❤️
I hope you guys will feel better soon❤😢
You are so brave and honest to share of this journey here. You don’t have to do this but by doing it you are helping so many people. Wishing you and everyone watching that is sharing the same journey love, hugs and prayers (please substitute whatever you need to if prayers are not part of your life). They’re part of mine and they’re all I could think to offer you from far away. ❤️🙏🇨🇦🤗