I disagree with your bias against coffee dates, Carrie ! Coffee dates are a great prelude to determine if a second date is warranted ! No alcohol, no smoking, no sex, no drugs…. I’ve had great coffee dates to decide if a person is worth pursuing…
@@CoffeewithCarey in my case nothing that ended in marriage because I’m still single… but I’ve had some good , fun second dates after the initial coffee date…
Online dating can be horrible! That said, I met someone online and couldn't be happier! I finally found someone who has the same world views as me. Someone who is straight-forward and willing to ask direct questions and give direct answers. She doesn't make me "guess" what she's thinking. We met for breakfast as a first date which was refreshing. Other dates wanted me to take them to a five star restaurant on the first date! She's 69 and I'm 63 and thrilled!
Well done doing breakfast on a first date! ---- A first date should be somewhere quick and cheap like a coffee and donut shop, certainly not an expensive meal at a posh restaurant. Within less than an hour you should be able to work out if a second date is on the cards. If you have at least one interest or hobby in common, have similar values and plans for the future and there are no dealbreakers have date number two. Even if they are not your usual type or you don't find them sexually attractive that can change so have a second date where you are both doing something you like. Finally the guy should pay for this first inexpensive date otherwise he'll be labelled cheap. If there are further dates the couple should pay alternately.
I am all for coffee dates. Simple. Easy. No worry about food getting stuck in my teeth. Enjoying one of my daily pleasures… coffee. Easy going conversations. 😊☕️
What's the matter with a coffee date? Sometimes you know very quickly when meeting someone in person for the first time that the chemistry, physical and/or interpersonal, isn't there, so why waste time and money on something more elaborate?
@@CoffeewithCarey Actually, one of my best and most compatible relationships started that way. Unfortunately, I was much younger, commitment-phobic, and lacking in emotional intelligence, so I she bailed on me. Regarding expense, that is a factor but the main one is my original point.
At 53 I've almost given up on internet dating. I accept that a large percentage of people meet through apps now but my preference would be to meet someone naturally. Having said that have been on a few dates with an older woman (58) who approached me through an app. My issue is my radar has always been aimed at women my own age or a few years younger. I know it sounds silly, but as I feel so young inside, it just feels a little strange dating someone nearly 60.
Give that lady a chance bro ! --- I do think we men over 50 are foolish for only pursuing younger women because doing that means we miss out on dating ladies our own age who are interesting, accomplished, sexy and even glamorous ?
I can assure you she feels young for her age too, as I’ve yet to have any e in their 50s tell me that they feel old for their age. Not sure I consider five years as an “age difference”. To me, you’re the same age, so that’ll be on you to figure out how you feel about this woman.
Ì love cafes so have, so far, ignored your advise on them. However I have to admit a first time coffee date has never led to a second. And one where i had revealed to much prior to coffee date was totally cringe worthy! Whatever had possessed me to reveal a fantasy i had about signaling a date was going well! He immediately told me he was watching for the "secret signal"! 😳 So that reinforces another one of your "rules". Not too much sharing of info before hand. Especially if you are someone like me whose mouth runs away with them! Sometimes, I need saving from myself! 😊
Over 50 you are batting over average and your strikes against are going to probably going to bench you very often ! Occasionally you will surprise yourself and hit a Grand Slam ! 🇨🇦😂
People whose children have already left home often don’t want to date people who still have younger children at home. I wouldn’t say baggage, but I would say different stages of life.
Not re-evaluating your "standards" is probably one of the reasons you're dating over 50. Keep it up and you'll be dating over 60 and over 70. And when you're 80 and alone, well at least you can be content with your high standards. And BTW, if you don't know what someone's standards ARE, then how would you possibly know whether or not they are unrealistic? Oh, never mind.
@@Liz-c7d Ha ha, ooooh that hurts. I don't mind that it will take some time for my previous comment to pan out. It will for women who've convinced themselves that they're a "catch" or a "prize". That mentality is self-defeating. But it can be avoided through self-reflection and a willingness to compromise. Forget about the perfect man and focus on that which really matters in the long run.
@@johnroberts3824 Oh wait, you're back? But you said "never mind." You have no idea why a woman would want to date later in life and your thinking that you do and ordering women to self-reflect and lower their standards reveals your lack of emotional intelligence, among other things. Pro tip: if you want a relationship with a woman, don't go harassing them, telling them to "re-evaluate" their standards. I'm sure you thought you were being helpful, but your words were not kind or delivered in a way that is empathetic to what is being discussed. Women respond to kindness, not bullying.
I disagree with your bias against coffee dates, Carrie ! Coffee dates are a great prelude to determine if a second date is warranted ! No alcohol, no smoking, no sex, no drugs…. I’ve had great coffee dates to decide if a person is worth pursuing…
Very good point. Thanks!
And I ask you to honestly share with me how many of those coffee dates have turned into passionate romances?
@@CoffeewithCarey Next week marks ten wonderful years with the man with whom I first went on a coffee date.... so yeah, it happens!
@@CoffeewithCarey in my case nothing that ended in marriage because I’m still single… but I’ve had some good , fun second dates after the initial coffee date…
You've got the right gut idea!
Online dating can be horrible! That said, I met someone online and couldn't be happier! I finally found someone who has the same world views as me. Someone who is straight-forward and willing to ask direct questions and give direct answers. She doesn't make me "guess" what she's thinking. We met for breakfast as a first date which was refreshing. Other dates wanted me to take them to a five star restaurant on the first date! She's 69 and I'm 63 and thrilled!
Love this! ♥️
If a woman wanted me to take her to a 5 star restaurant on an initial date I would run 🏃🏿♀️.. congratulations 🎈!
Well done doing breakfast on a first date!
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A first date should be somewhere quick and cheap like a coffee and donut shop, certainly
not an expensive meal at a posh restaurant. Within less than an hour you should be able to work out if a second date is on the cards. If you have at least one interest or hobby in common, have similar values and plans for the future and there are no dealbreakers have date number two. Even if they are not your usual type or you don't find them sexually attractive that can change so have a second date where you are both doing something you like.
Finally the guy should pay for this first inexpensive date otherwise he'll be labelled cheap. If there are further dates the couple should pay alternately.
I am all for coffee dates. Simple. Easy. No worry about food getting stuck in my teeth. Enjoying one of my daily pleasures… coffee. Easy going conversations. 😊☕️
And yet they never lead to romance. 🤷🏻♀️
What's the matter with a coffee date?
Sometimes you know very quickly when meeting someone in person for the first time that the chemistry, physical and/or interpersonal, isn't there, so why waste time and money on something more elaborate?
You ever fallen in love with somebody whom you took on a coffee date as your first date? Didn’t think so.
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And I didn’t say anything about it, needing to be expensive! It could be free…
@@CoffeewithCarey Actually, one of my best and most compatible relationships started that way.
Unfortunately, I was much younger, commitment-phobic, and lacking in emotional intelligence, so I she bailed on me.
Regarding expense, that is a factor but the main one is my original point.
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At 53 I've almost given up on internet dating. I accept that a large percentage of people meet through apps now but my preference would be to meet someone naturally. Having said that have been on a few dates with an older woman (58) who approached me through an app.
My issue is my radar has always been aimed at women my own age or a few years younger. I know it sounds silly, but as I feel so young inside, it just feels a little strange dating someone nearly 60.
Give that lady a chance bro !
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I do think we men over 50 are foolish for only pursuing younger women because doing that means we
miss out on dating ladies our own age who are interesting, accomplished, sexy and even glamorous ?
I can assure you she feels young for her age too, as I’ve yet to have any e in their 50s tell me that they feel old for their age. Not sure I consider five years as an “age difference”. To me, you’re the same age, so that’ll be on you to figure out how you feel about this woman.
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Ì love cafes so have, so far, ignored your advise on them. However I have to admit a first time coffee date has never led to a second. And one where i had revealed to much prior to coffee date was totally cringe worthy! Whatever had possessed me to reveal a fantasy i had about signaling a date was going well! He immediately told me he was watching for the "secret signal"! 😳 So that reinforces another one of your "rules". Not too much sharing of info before hand. Especially if you are someone like me whose mouth runs away with them! Sometimes, I need saving from myself! 😊
Better late than never. 👍
I’ve been doing this for a lot of years so there’s a lot of data here, Dawn. Might as well just take my advice. Lol.
Over 50 you are batting over average and your strikes against are going to probably going to bench you very often ! Occasionally you will surprise yourself and hit a Grand Slam ! 🇨🇦😂
I don’t know, but I’ve never been benched. 🤷🏻♀️
Raising kids is "baggage" or a flaw to be placed in the same category as divorce? Ridiculous.
People whose children have already left home often don’t want to date people who still have younger children at home. I wouldn’t say baggage, but I would say different stages of life.
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Got it, thanks for the reply. Fun video!
Not re-evaluating your "standards" is probably one of the reasons you're dating over 50. Keep it up and you'll be dating over 60 and over 70. And when you're 80 and alone, well at least you can be content with your high standards. And BTW, if you don't know what someone's standards ARE, then how would you possibly know whether or not they are unrealistic? Oh, never mind.
Wow, you’re talking as if you know who you’re speaking to. And I don’t think you know any of us. 🤔
@@CoffeewithCarey Don't want to either
@@johnroberts3824 So you came here to express your bitter broken heart. Did it make you feel better?
@@Liz-c7d Ha ha, ooooh that hurts. I don't mind that it will take some time for my previous comment to pan out. It will for women who've convinced themselves that they're a "catch" or a "prize". That mentality is self-defeating. But it can be avoided through self-reflection and a willingness to compromise. Forget about the perfect man and focus on that which really matters in the long run.
@@johnroberts3824 Oh wait, you're back? But you said "never mind." You have no idea why a woman would want to date later in life and your thinking that you do and ordering women to self-reflect and lower their standards reveals your lack of emotional intelligence, among other things. Pro tip: if you want a relationship with a woman, don't go harassing them, telling them to "re-evaluate" their standards. I'm sure you thought you were being helpful, but your words were not kind or delivered in a way that is empathetic to what is being discussed. Women respond to kindness, not bullying.
Coffee Dates. Are throw away. Lol
Low effort low cost, even lower payoff. 👍