Why I quit my dream high paying tech job
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 มิ.ย. 2024
- I'm finally talking about why I walked away from my dream position as a frontend web developer. I really hope you enjoy this video and I appreciate you for being here and listening to my story!
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00:00 - intro
01:32 - why i quit
14:28 - what i've learned
27:45 - don't chase the tech money
30:38 - what now?
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I believe that the panic attacks and anxiety come from knowing that our livelihood is always at risk whenever we don't deliver every single time is what's hugely contributing to that heavy chest feeling we get. Everyone is replaceable and companies don't try to retain people anymore. There's always someone else willing to take someone's place in a second.
exactly
Not sure that’s correct otherwise everyone would have anxiety. It’s our beliefs and responses about the situation we are in. The pressures are sometimes external but also coming from within. The lady said she was hired to do the job and confident in her skills so there is no evidence to suggest that there was an expectation to be perfect. That was an internal feeling. If we say we are doing our best and that’s good enough, some of the pressure disappears.
The harsh reality is that this field pays so much for a reason. The VAST majority of people end up quitting the field because it's too difficult and requires constant learning in your free time. Big tech companies and bootcamps have done a good job marketing to the masses that "anyone can code". Sure, anyone can code.. but not many can do it professionally.
It doesn't require constant learning if you put your roots down at a certain company, learn their codebase inside out, and become valuable to them. Then you are pretty safe. You will be the last on the chopping block during layoffs, because the company knows your worth. The constant learning, that will be drastically cut down if you stay at ONE good company like I said. And it also helps to focus more on the backend server side dev than front end UI dev. Front end changes a LOT more than C#, C++ and Java.
Why is that front end changes much more than bsckend as someone who is just getting into coding?
@@batman-sr2px Front end sucks ass
You highlighted an issue that I see all too often in IT now. They expect you to walk in the door, sit down, and complete the work as if you worked there for 20 years. No shadowing of current workers, nor procedures given to you to follow. That's not IT. I saw a new IT co-worker make a serious mistake this week because of this. They fail to realize that each company runs their IT departments differently, and not only that, but IT is broad and each place uses either different things or uses things differently.
I'm glad you got out of it and I'm sure your life will improve.
Omg yes! You explained this perfectly! Thanks so much for watching and for your insight!
This is why i got out too. They must not want to keep women 🤷🏾♀️ i treat my $8 virtual assistants in the Philipines with more mentorship.
The good thing is, i started a business making twice as much, which has me early retired at 41. I hope everyone who leaves go on to be great
@@LisaSoulLevelHealing congrats to you! What type of business did you pivot to?
Im old school and started tech career 35 yrs ago...it's stressful and sink or swim situation..even on the business side of it. Unfortunately there is no training. Everyone goes through challenges, but people have to start realizing that we need mental rest too.
I was like that first 2 years of my career. With more experience, you become more confident, and there is nothing wrong if you don't know something or need help. Your colleagues expect you to be proactive; come and ask if you need them. Rest is important for productivity
Aww your Grammy 💔😩 I feel like agencies are the most toxic spaces to work for devs by default. I have pulled a toxic amount of all nighters trying to keep up. There’s never time to friggin know how to do something because it’s always due, it’s such a jumbled way to work 😮💨 You are so correct about rest!! Running oneself into the ground gets bad fast. Thank you for being honest about this! Too many dev videos glamorizing jobs & free coffee & lunch but aren’t being honest about day to day life. I know you have more stories to share, we here girl & Happy Mother’s Day ❤
Thank you so much Nicole! You are always there supporting me and I appreciate you! I agree, agency life is rough!! I've heard so many people say how much anxiety and stress they've had working in these environments. I pray you get through anything you are going through on your journey and know you are amazing! Thanks girl!
@@theminimaljessit's good to see at least young folks have the courage to quit before getting fully burned out which can take many many years to recover from. Us in the older generations are so brainwashed that we say just bear it but as you see all the physical or mental stress issues and many times that stress can destroy physical health very bad.
I will never go back to an agency. It’s not worth the stress.
I relate to what you describe so much. I’ve been in my role for 1 year and 7 months and I know the feeling of feeling anxiety, heart palpitations, working all thru the night to ensure everything is done, that physical feeling of just being sick at the thought of the assignments and workload. I also struggle to ask ?s sometimes. It’s encouraging that you had the courage to resign and I’m glad you gained clarity post experience and spoke about the necessary mindset shifts
Hey Jess! I recently started my code and software engineering journey and found your page its really helped me out thank you! I hope its ok i just want to send you a little prayer. Dear father I pray for jess and any fears or anxiety she has. I pray that you protect her from any lies that the enemy or even her self that she's been listening to and that you just tell her how smart and talented she is! I pray for her finances, for her family for her children! I pray that you bless her 100 times more then she's blessed me! I pray for mind, her body and her spirit Father and I just say this prayer not in any pastors name, or any teacher but I say this in the name of Jesus! Amen! Thank you again Jess! :)
Amen! Thank you for this prayer! You have no idea how much this means to me. I pray over you and your family and that your journey not only in tech but in life is full of peace and joy! Thank you!
I'm getting back into coding. I felt everything you shared. I did it all wrong my first time around. I remember the late nights and not asking for help. This time I'm going to enjoy all the challenges and victories. You gain an new sub. I felt like we just had a conversation. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this. There’s a lot of super important takeaways from this video. And not just for people who wanna work in tech, but any job. Seriously, thanks for being open and honest about your experience at this job. I’ve dealt with anxiety and panic attacks before too, it sucks and it can really make things harder. I’m glad you’re working through it and I know you’re gonna be alright. Appreciate the video. 🙏🏼
I subscribed because you were brave enough to show the emotions you had about your Grandma. Thank you for your transparency.
Thank you so much!! It was one of the toughest things I’ve ever gone through. Thank you for being here!
I also quit my job it was a toxic environment but I quickly realized is that growing a TH-cam channel is hard, I am still with 93 subscribers since last year however quiting is not an option. Thank you for sharing
Relatable. Thank you for sharing. Life is a gift and I believe we deserve to have a career where our mental health thrives. Go you for prioritizing you. I quit too
As a beginning coder with anxiety and is neurodivergent i really appreciate your insight. It helped me see the negative impacts of front end development, but this video made them feel less scary. I feel like your video gave me a glimpse into what it would be like to do this for a living. Thank you for sharing your experience and empowering me a little bit.😊
As a software dev with 5 yrs of experience with anxiety as well and a suspicion of having Asperger's, I really just want to pass on a tip I realized to relieve the stress - the source of the stress is usually to do with not having enough knowledge to feel confident that you'll be able to figure out new tasks as you receive them. So the solution is to take THOROUGH notes every time you solve a new problem, and actively study the documentation of whatever language or framework you're working with. Not to try to be the best developer in town, but just to reduce the uncertainty you'll feel each time you get a new task. It's the only thing I've found that helps with the anxiety, and now I'm finally able to show up to work and feel confident when I don't know something because I know what keywords to Google or what page in the doc I'll need to read to figure it out
This video resonated with me so much. The imposter syndrome, the just being thrown into tasks or being given a vague task and trying to figure it out. Making good money and working with good people and good company culture but the stress and pressure I'm feeling ugh. I too did not go into the interview lying but the role I'm in varies by company on top of me being one of the only black people in the department. I'm really debating on if the salary is worth the anxiety I have and if I can afford to quit.
I really pray you get through all the stress! This is such a rewarding, interesting and fun field but it's so important to take care of yourself first always! You will know what's right for you and things will work out perfectly for you. Take this time to learn all you can in the process! You got this!
Hi Jess, I'm really sorry about the loss of your grandmother. I hope you continue to find peace in life. I lost my grandmother back in 2021 and it is a loss that is difficult to describe and is the worse pain I have ever felt. It is funny that you said "why am I crying?". It is rough....my eyes are glazing over right now. Sometimes I cry and other times I laugh. It is part of the grieving process and I appreciate you sharing this video and your transparency and vulnerability. I related to how you felt at your job.....while I didnt have panic attacks I would at times have GI stress or start crying before having to go to work (not even on the most stressful days....just on a regular day). The stressful days feel like do or die and I just enter a thug mode (even though I am dying inside). I remember one time though early on in my current job that I couldnt figure out something basic and left work cause I was about to start crying. Now I can do that thing with my eyes closed. It is amazing how much me let certains voices run wild. I had a feeling what bootcamp you were alluding to. I'm currently doing that bootcamp. Anyhoo I subscribed and I'm excited to see where we end up in our journeys. 🎉
Thank you for sharing your story with us!!
Thank you for watching!
I ran into this video on here and it was very helpful, Thank you for the insight.
I know that feeling so well. I am happy you made the decision to walk away. Sundays are the worst day for me. I feel like I go through a personality change exactly at 4:00 p.m. on Sunday. A part of my anxiety came from the workload the team pushed on me and with very little support which caused me to burnout. I plan to walk away from my role in 2 weeks. Sending lots of love and peace to you ❤
Wow...we are in the same boat. That's how I feel on Sundays too 😢 I can't quit yet, though... I am in the middle of life...in so many different ways, but I wish I could comfortably resign 😢
Absolutely amazing video! Thank you
First, my condolences for your loss. Second, i love your videos. I appreciate your honesty and giving your side of working in tech. Please keep it up. Just started my journey in coding. I've gotten the basics of HTML, CSS, and am currently working on Python
Thanks for sharing. It's refreshing to hear your story and transparency of working in the tech space. You are a gem and very inspiring. You remind me to keep pushing at my own pace and know when to stop and REST. I can't wait to hear about the free bootcamp you found. Take care!!
Thank you so much! You are so sweet and this means a lot to me. You got this! I just posted about the bootcamp on my channel! th-cam.com/video/39y6MOrWXRA/w-d-xo.html
Thank you so much for that. Really. I've been feeling the same also because of the nature of my job. Thank you for sharing!🙏
Your well being is definitely important And kudos to you for putting you first! I definitely want to try software engineering and so far the exposure has been so much fun 🤩
Some very insightful lessons! Thank you for sharing ❤
Thanks for watching!!
Thank you for your transparency. I’m glad you were able to realize that you needed to step away and are about to do so.
In terms of freelancing, when did you know you were ready to take on clients? I feel as if I don’t know enough and that’s stopping me + figuring out a rate and how to get clients
This is exactly how I feel right now working on tech company. I’m not even a dev but I can feel your pain. 😢
I graduated with a computer science degree in 1999 tech changes so much and if you’re ready for the race then have it it can be lucrative but constant
Thought this video would discourage me but no, you've given great advice, I appreciate you!! Thank you
Awww I’m so happy! You got this keep going! Thank you for watching!
makes so much sense that you're taking your time to do it at your own pace, and having that discipline to show up daily for yourself to learn, grow, and apply what you're actively learning along the way. And also thank you for sharing your journey with us! So awesome what you're doing and being a wonderful example for your kids to follow your passion/dreams
Thank you so much Ciara! This means so much to me. I pray for continued success, peace, love and joy for you! You are amazing and I'm so proud of you!
Thanks for sharing. I'm sure you'll help a lot of people with your testimony. This is exactly why I'm not rushing to leave what I'm doing right now for money. Mental health is SO important to me. Glad you did what was best for you.❤
Thank you do much! Yes mental health is always more important than money!
I respect your transparency a lot. Tech is changing people’s lives because of the money, money, money, but how are these people really feeling and what are you going through mentally everyday. This info helps to know what to expect and how to manage the pros and cons that come with the job.
I agree!! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!
Thank you for sharing and being so honest and open about your experience. You spoke about so many things that I think we all face at some point or another during our careers. I'm exploring options for roles within tech, and having this perspective is by no means discouraging, but very enlightening, so much appreciated. 🙏🏾 Wishing you all the best on your journey as I'm sure you'll continue doing great things!✨
Thank you so much!!
Love your transparency
Thank you so much for your kind words!
you're my biggest inspiration! I'm trying to break into this field now and you are encouraging me, thank you
Thank you so much for your kind words! You got this!
I'm sorry for your loss. Stay up, something great is coming!
Thank you so much for your kind words and support!
Happy Mother’s Day 🌻! Thank you for sharing your experiences and I’m sorry for your loss. You are describing me at my current job😩. Anxiety and panic attacks and in my case, leads who have lied about how long it takes me to turnover tasks (and I have addressed this with the liars professionally lol) but now, I hate the place LOL. Also, I’m the first to tell people: 5pm, shut off the laptop and go live life. Anyway, I’m glad you’re doing well and I feel so proud of you. Take care Jess!
Happy Mother's Day! Thank you so much! I am so sorry you are experiencing what you are going through and I pray that you find an environment that works for you that you love!! Yes! work is done when it's done lol. I appreciate you so much!
Open and honest you are in this video thank you so much for this I really learned a lot just by watching your experience you're helping so many of us that I'm very smart gifted and able
You a such a star! I just went to your website, SWEEEET!... You very talented and real, jus luv ya. I'll be calling😅
Thank you so much!! I appreciate you!!
It sounds like you were going through a lot 🥲 I hope you’re feeling a bit better. Your journey is so inspiring and I appreciate the transparency about the stress of the job. I want to break into tech and I’m currently learning html and css, but I’m worried about that hustle culture that seems to be the norm in a lot of tech jobs. Do you think it’s possible to freelance as a front end dev? I deal with chronic illness so I know a stressful work environment is a no-go for me. Either way, kudos for putting your mental health first and I wish you all the best! 🥰
Thank you so much for your kind words! There are definitely stressful jobs however there are jobs that are a lot less stressful so recommend doing any research on a company you can when you start interviewing for your role.
Freelancing is 100% an option! A lot of developers freelance. There are tons of resources available and as I learn more about it I’ll be sharing on my platform!
I’m in a totally diff field but totally relate to this. Thank you for your honesty.
Thank you so much for watching! It's always interesting to hear that others experience this in other fields. I pray you are doing well. You will get through all you are going through!
i felt like that pulling yourself for work and lots of pressure plus the anxiety of demanding tech world😅.. thank you for sharing this..❤
Thanks for the video, you’re beautiful inside out. Keep motivating others, God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for these kind words and encouragement!! Blessings to you and your family 💕💕💕
I deal with Bi-Polar disorder. It is hard for me. I have my good days and bad. I'm rooting for you.
Also, self taught web developer here.
YES GIRL. THIS IS YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!! YOU HAVE TO LIVE IT!!!!
Hi Jess, firstly thank you for sharing your journey so far and also my deepest condolences for your loss, i wish you peace and blessings 💐 im so fortunate that ive found your channel because im also working towards becoming a frontend developer after studying UX design recently and realised after adding HTML and CSS to my skillset that Ive fallen in love with coding and actually enjoy it more than designing! Thankfully, ive got my foot in the door of tech working as a tech support for a software company here in Melbourne, Australia and have worked my way up to a slightly more seniour role where im helping to custom build solutions for our clients. This is mostly built inside our internal builder that was made by our development team some time ago, although the role has meant that ive had to learn some HTML, CSS and some SQL as well. I have just LOVED learning all three so far and im hungry to learn more. I would love to have a 30 min call with you sometime, you seem so nice, very smart and someone who has a warm heart and empathy for others 😊 I also relate to your faith and how youre leaning into that, it can be a real comforter in times of need! Im Greek Orthodox and so i share your Christian faith too :) blessings to you and I hope we can speak sometime soon!
Sophie from Australia 😁
Hi Sophie!! Omg thank you so much for your words. I really appreciate you! Your journey seems so amazing and is really inspiring. I would love to set something up with you. Please send me an email (in description box) as that is the best way to connect with me. I forget to check my IG Dm's sometimes for requests lol. Hope to hear from you soon!! 💕
@@theminimaljess thanks Jess I've just emailed you now :) speak soon!
Thank you so much for this great video. I'm in the same phase, and I'm going to resign next week. Your talk helped me a lot to feel that I'm not alone and know that I'm going to get better and more successful ❤
You got this!! Thank you for your kind words!
oh man this is my EXACT experience with product design. Like EVERYTHING you said. Down to losing a loved one and going thru so many changes in my personal life. Ive been in my first role for about 1.8yrs and i still feel incompetent. I hate it. The people and the company are fine but the level of anxiety, stress and frustration that i have daily is unhealthy. I often cant sleep bc im worried about work so i think thats my sign. Maybe ill try a diff company but i genuinely feel like my desire in ux design has been completely obliterated
great video explaining what it takes to be a software engineer, people talk about the high paying job part but no one talks about the huge mental compute involved in the filed and what we go through mentally. the job requires so much thinking endlessly over and over again especially when the company is making stupid and senseless decisions, even make things worse having to deal with garbage work that challenges our brains for no reason other than company/team being stupid
may the best be ahead for you in this new journey in entrepreneurship and your faith continue to guide you in this journey
Thank you so much beautiful! You are one of my inspirations and I appreciate you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! 🍀
I could totally relate when you said that sometimes all you need to do to be able to solve a coding problem that you've been struggling on for so long is by actually taking a break from it.
I'm still 1.5 months in, learning from HTML and now to Javascript, and I have a full-time job too. I really want to quit my current job by the end of this year, so I've been cramming like crazy, waking up early, then study 3 hours before and after work, and during weekend I would spend 6-8 hours studying, it sucked my energy so fast 😂😂
1-2 week of doing that, I got really burned out and ended up making a slower progress learning. It was harder for my brain to solve a problem, but once I changed my routine and be kinder to my brain, it's not as draining anymore and my learning progress is getting better. Like what they said, something that is too much is never good, and the same thing applies to coding/working too.
Also, I'm so glad that you talked about how we shouldn't be afraid to ask when we don't know something.
Tbh, that's one of my fears of changing my current job too, because I also don't have a CS background, and since I'm not a fresh graduate anymore, I feel like it'll be harder to ask questions, especially because your job is not a school/college, and people won't be able to hold your hand to guide/ teach you stuffs. But hearing you say that, I feel less anxious now, so thank you!
Sorry for the long comment! I really enjoy your videos, and looking forward for the next ones.
Hope you have a wonderful weekend! ☺
I love your comment so much I can relate to this big-time
I'm glad I came across your page. I started a 100 days of coding course on Udemy, and I'm looking forward to seeing where it goes. thank you for sharing your journey.
You expressed so greatly what many are feeling ❤
This means a lot! I always want people to know they aren’t alone 💕
@@theminimaljess God bless
You 🩷
I had the same exact feelings of anxiety hanging over my head for the last 20 years as a frontend dev. I got a web development job at 19, straight out of school. I’m 41 now and just quit a very nice remote tech job last October to FINALLY take a break. I always called developer jobs a “mindf**k” but you’ve put it much more eloquently! This video is so great, and I feel like you’ve read my mind.
Now that I’ve quit, I feel like myself again. I don’t know who that other girl was. She didn’t really have hobbies, happiness, or outside interests. I would work at night to make up for “not being as good as the other developers.” If I was going to worry about not being able to solve the problem, and lose sleep over it, I might as well be working on it, right? There was always a dark cloud hanging over my head…and I too, struggle to ask for help. I’m glad to hear you talk about how asking for help isn’t a bad thing.
I hardly ever showed visible signs of anxiety, and even got used to it as my default setting. I think everyone else thought I really had my s**t together and even thought of me as a dev lead! It feels really good to feel sane and normal again, while being detached from that world for the first time in my adult life. I’m loving this video and feel like I’m looking in a mirror, so of course I subscribed. I love frontend development and hope I can use this break to learn how to manage these feelings of inadequacy if/when I return to the industry.
Great video thanks. ❤
Thank you for your support!
i wish you all the best beautiful, you've been an inspiration! GOD'S got you!
Thank you so much! Blessings to you!
I think as developers we should press back on the product team and say we cannot do this in this timeframe.
Thank you for sharing your experiene
Awesome insight.
Thank you for watching!
Thank you so much for this video. You have no idea how much it helped me. In more than one way. I'm still struggling with taking things into my own hands and not allowing God enough time to lead me in the right direction and the money of the tech industry is really alluring. I'm ready to switch roles but just not sure which one to pursue and when i tell you i felt like God was speaking through you. I just wanna say thank you 🙏❤
So sorry to hear about your dear grandma, Jess. May God kindly grant her eternal bliss in Heaven and may you find solace in all the beautiful memories you shared together. 🙏🕊🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words!! I really appreciate you! 💕
Im doing a Data Science bootcamp and girl 6months in i already want out😭 its so hard my mind is always burning😔 when im done im gone take that that certificate and throw it where i can never find it im going back to my physical demanding job atleast i had sanity 😟😭
I feel you, had the same experience, and agree that no amount of money is worth the stress and sacrifice to your mental health..
Good material. thx
Thank you so much!
Great story
Thank you for watching!
Im so glad I've had jobs since 2018 that were fully remote. For my last in-office tech job, my anxiety was so bad and was continually getting worse as more people quit and workloads were way too high. Everyone was doing the work of 2-3 people. Management kept saying they would do mass hiring to backfill the open positions. That job refused to let anyone work from home no matter the reason. Literally people crying in the bathrooms or just physically shaking while sitting at their desks trying to make it through the day to complete projects with impossible deadlins. I basically was sitting under my cubicle desk with my laptop or in the empty stairwell since everyone took the elevators. Like i needed quiet and wanted a bit of seclusion to really be able to think but headphones of any kind weren't allowed and eventually they wanted people in their cubicles. Management did not care even though they could see the mental health decline. Turnover was so high and they were micromanaging like crazy. God that place was horrid.
Your story is inspiring, I am struggling to understand if web dev is for me as I currently work at a media agency planning ad campaigns for huge client and it does kill me mentally. There is no joy whatsoever in that work I thought I would switch to web development and did a bootcamp to realise I was not "Job ready" Just down a rabbit hole and feel so low at the moment that man death seems like a better option. But helping people always resonated with me and the last few minutes really stuck with me. I have always tried to help someone else before I help myself but I feel like I am losing the plot cause I need to find a way to help myself....
Hey! Death is NOT a better option. You are needed and you are loved. You got this. A lot of times we get low. Trust me, I know. But to keep going and see what God has made for us is the best thing we can do. You have purpose and it’s not always clear to us what our purpose is but the purpose is just being here and being you. There are so many ways you can help others even if it’s just talking to someone. Don’t let outside noises make you feel like you should be somewhere at a certain time in life or like you’re not doing enough. You got this! Praying for peace, calm, joy, and guidance over you. If it helps, I posted a video about a free bootcamp called #100devs. I think it can help fill in the gaps and give clarity if you still want to go the developer route. Reach out to me anytime!
You are special and unique in and your loved ones devastated if you we're not around
I love the transparency! I know you said you're going to do freelancing but do you also intend to work in another field while freelancing or just do the freelancing? I only ask because. I'm on a similar journey and still bringing in an income is a big worry of mine before deciding to jump head into being a freelancer/entrepreneur
Hello! Thank you for your kind words! I do not plan on working in another industry. I will be freelancing and creating content for the time being. This is a big decision and I definitely recommend figuring out the path right for you. I know a lot of people work their jobs until they begin freelancing until freelancing brings in the income. Blessings on your journey! You got this!
@@theminimaljess thank you for the quick response and I forgot to say I’m sorry for your loss
@@tyannashaye5584 Aww thank you so much girl! I appreciate you 💕
It sounds like you have imposter syndrome, try practicing meditating, I'm a self tough Frontend web developer, and to get through I use meditation, take care of your health, and keep pushing on you got this.
I definitely have imposter syndrome! I need to try meditating more and just finding ways to reroute my thoughts. Thank you so much!
I quit my 170k a year high tech job. Too stressed, no work life balance, no respect for boundaries, racist and misogynistic coworkers!
It's ok to cry. You don't need to rationalize it or apologize for it to anyone. Healing vibes for your pain~
I appreciate you so much!
I haven’t quit my job, but I will be. I’m an Data Analyst. The management at this company is horrible! I was happy for the first year, but after that the work environment turned toxic.. I’m actively applying for new roles. Valleys build character for sure. Keep your head up and continue to inspire. Also, you have yourself a new subscriber.
Hi Jess, I'm into 2 decades of IT career, a software developer, and I still feel that impostor syndrome almost everyday esp. at night to the point that I only have a few hours of night sleep because of anxiety and worry about not delivering at work. This is my problem too, my mental health is suffering and I really want to leave the IT industry now but I don't know what to do, this is the only job I know. If I can go back in time, I would choose a different industry, not software dev. There are nights that my left chest feels like it's palpitating too much that I'm thinking I'm gonna have a stroke or something, so now I've been listening almost every free hour of my time listening to motivational videos about anxiety at work, esp. Michael Singer's Enjoy the Journey video, to alleviate my impostor syndrome suffering. I'm thinking of quitting in 6 weeks, depending on the stress level, with nothing lined up. I applied for 4 roles but just rejection after rejection, so maybe I'll just take a break until I get that motivation again, to pay for the bills or do IT work again.
Thanks for your video, you're okay, you're doing okay, stay strong!
Omg I’m so so sorry you are experiencing this!! I remember during my time working this job I had the chest pains at night and thought for sure I was going to have a heart attack smh. No one should feel this and I’m am praying you get through all of this. You got this! You are amazing and like you told me , you’re ok. I am sending all the virtual hugs and love your way. Keep going and know that whatever happens it will all be worked out and you will be ok even if it doesn’t seem that way now. You got this! Praying for the perfect situation for you! 💕🙏🏽
@@theminimaljess ❤
6:04 Your safe place. Makes perfect sense. 🙂
I definitely been there I use to lose sleep trying to figure out my job.
Do you mind sharing the name of the bootcamp you were talking about?
Hey! I just posted a video on my channel going over it. Hope it helps! th-cam.com/video/39y6MOrWXRA/w-d-xo.html
Man you explain my feelings and I’ve been doing this for 12 years or so! Constant anxiety of thinking you can’t do the job being asked. Worrying about picking up a new project because you don’t know if you have the skills to do it. It’s an awful sinking feeling and feel like you can’t focus on anything else. I’ve got kids and my salary pays the bills so I just keep going but it’s so hard! Fair play for quitting and bettering your mental health!
How about if you would try do work as a freelancer? Maybe you could pick you projects and set your time boundaries? I have seen some developers quit companies and start working as a freelancer, doubling and trippling the income. I remember one of them being fired for being too slow, but he does just fine as a freelancer, obviously. And working at night as a freelancer you know it all goes into your pocket and you could hire help or outsource to someone at times.
I felt every single word. Subscribed and binging.
Thank you sooo much!! 💕
This is why I recommend all employers with developers have work from home days. It’s truly better for the developer you will get more from the dev. Win win!
im exact same, engineer here. i got panic attacks on weekly basis, i cant quit though, i got mortgage and car payments lol, im just a hampster in wheel
Thank you for sharing. After working so hard to get a fancy coding job (and getting laid off after years of struggle) I don’t know if I want to go back. I used to be resilient. I’m not sure if it’s me, the industry or working remote, but it took it out of me majorly. Right now I could get several diagnosis: ADHD is one, but they’re the result of the work/culture/lifestyle. I’m not healthy. And money isn’t enough of a motivator. 😢
So what do u do?
@@GeeksGumbot I’m freelancing, teaching outdoor education, property managing, learning new skills and reassessing. 🥴
Being a computer programmer doesn't require constant learning if you put your roots down at a certain company, learn their codebase inside out, and become valuable to them. Then you are pretty safe. You will be the last on the chopping block during layoffs, because the company knows your worth. The constant learning, that will be drastically cut down if you stay at ONE good company like I said. And it also helps to focus more on the backend server side dev than front end UI dev. Front end changes a LOT more than C#, C++ and Java.
Glory hallelujah... amen! Turn on your radio with the Holy Ghost instrumental or worship music. It will bring peace and change your atmosphere in God's love. Speaking from experience. Thanks for being transparent. Blessings and joy!
Panic attacks suck!!! I got on meds Helped
This vid is a lesson in everything not to do while working in tech.
All high paying work has high expectations of you. That just goes with the territory.
This was confirmation ❤Ty
It sounds like part of the decision to quit was related to the job itself because you spoke about the complexity of the tasks and the questions from managers impacting on you. Grief is definitely not easy to manage, being a parent is a lifelong task and children always take priority. The only thing you had some level of control over was the wedding date and the planning of it. It sounds like you made the right decision for you.
Thank you so much for this! I agree and truly appreciate your kindness and encouragement!
I understand.
I give my $5 an hr vurtual assistants more guidance, operational guides, amd mentorship than they did at my 6 figure tech position. Left for my side buiness, which earned me twice as much within 2 years.
Hit subscribe because this video really helped me a lot emotionally. Thanks for letting me know I am not alone.
Thank you so much!! 💕💕💕 we are in this together you got this!!
This is why most people who no computer science background struggle doing software engineering/development, it strives from the lack of earned discipline over 3-4 years in a disciplined environment.
Yeah she did mention she was self taught in another vid.
I studied Biomedical Sciences for 3 years. I'm now looking into a career change through a 4 month bootcamp in data science. I've not done a 3-4 year degree in computer science, but I can tell you I've gone through the discipline of a university degree. Some people may have had the discipline but in a different subject.
Would you have the oppourtnity to work from home every day if you wanted as in they would let you?
At the job I was referencing in this video, no. They were a 100% in office job 💕
Wow that’s crazy I actually also have the same thing (anxiety, general anxiety disorder) and also going for a web developer job (front end). However I’ve been using this technique that’s cured MASSIVE amounts of my anxiety, I had to if I want to continue on this journey, otherwise I really can’t function properly. Basically it’s called “letting go”. Where you practice letting go of the certain OCD type thoughts that are causing you the anxiety. First you observe the thought that’s causing you the anxiety in that moment, sometimes it takes while to find the thought, then you practice letting it go. It’s incredibly hard at first, but with practice you get better, then the OCD thoughts disappears, and then the anxiety also starts to disappear. Later the OCD thought comes back, but that’s why you keep practicing until it’s gone permanently. It’s incredible really. I still have a long ways to go in healing but it’s already helped so much. I found out about the technique from actualized.org, I’ll send a link to the video. I think you should really watch it, it can really make a difference in healing you and that’s not an understatement.
Grrr it doesn’t let me send links 😂. It’s on TH-cam called “The power to letting go” by Actualized.org
have u read bhagwat gita book by srila prabhupada .It helps me in web development how it work for u also.
I have not heard of this book. I will check it out! Thank you!
Exactly why I left ❤
Hey great to see you again. There's so much I want to say about this video but honestly can't find the words, except, thank you so much. You're transparency is a gift to world full of phonies. So glad you're trusting Him more. It's certainly the right ticket. Peace and continual blessings to you and your family. Father I pray in Jesus name that whatever she puts forth her hand to do prospers in the name of Jesus Christ to the glory and praise of our God.👍❤️
Thank you so much for your encouragement! I appreciate it more than you know. I pray for all the blessings over you and your family!
@@theminimaljess You're so welcome sis.
You need a fully remote job I had a non tech job and hated coming to the office
Yes I do miss being 100% remote. Right now I am 3 days in the office 2 days out but I miss that fully remote flexibility and space!
you got a real nice crib congrats
Thank you!!
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