How can you rise above the waters when you feel a disturbed family member may be, in fact, evil? See my live discussion here: th-cam.com/users/liveMcMvlD0AFVA?si=HhRo3xQrHSckehVV
Tysm for talking about confabulation and false memories- the false reality these people create and then try to force everyone to go along with under threat of massive tantrums. Over thanksgiving my mother accused me of stealing my deceased grandmothers things when she saw boxes of mine in the garage. I had just moved them from my storage unit in a different state. A lot of them were labeled with my name on it. One was even labeled “Dana’s Blankets” in my mother’s own handwriting. My dad and sister went along with her. My dad was screaming at me saying I need counseling and I always cause drama. Any evidence I gave them that they were mine made them angrier. I feel insane. But it was actually all of them going along with this false reality that was mentally disturbed. I’m very shaken. My therapists believe my mother has NPD.
Praise God! That's wonderful. And I am so grateful for Dr. Peck. I read this book People of the Lie in college so many years ago and it was all the validation I needed.
Very familiar with the word salad disturbed thinking. It's very sad and the family member does not want help, he feels superior to everyone. He is very ill and also a bully/abusive. Had to cut contact with this person, very dark and disturbing. History of drug/alcohol abuse and extensive criminal records as well. But in denial about toxic dysfunctional upbringing.
Never easy to deal with. I'm sorry you know this kind of person. Let me just say that not everyone like this feels superior. Those who do may have associated narccist tendencies. Sometimes these individuals are too disturbed to see themselves. But again, those who feel and act superior often have narccistic traits.
Yup! Guilt wound and fear of abandonment and betrayal trauma. Fir my entire life. Also carried shame and carrying fanily secrets and aelf blame, causes trauma. .... I was an eaay target. ( because i couldnt hide my anxiety and fear.) i am looking forward to fridays content. Thank you.
Good to know. I think half the channel will be able to relate, sadly. Such a tiring and exchausting mix of trauma. What makes this worse is that not everyone is going to see that disturbed family member as "disturbed." That makes this trauma and experience much worse.
oh my. I'm sorry😫 Not easy to deal. Thankfully, there are ways to manage these people. Join me live on Friday 6:30pm est. I will discuss this topic further then.
It is funny how you mentioned an uncle who flips out out of nowhere, to the point where you have to walk around eggshells around him at 13:45. That's my uncle to a 'T'.
Thank you for popping up when you did. I definitely need to book a session with you. I’ve been dealing with very evil toxic narcissistic family members 🙏
You just described mi Papa.😩 Yes, it does affects you. I ‘ m still overcoming and healing from the effects and trauma. Thank you for providing this great information and tips.🙏💕
😫I'm sorry. You're welcome. It can "follow you" if you're not careful. Trauma happens when you don't have the skills to manage the impact of that trauma. So many people end up here. I'll talk more on Friday!
Your channel is an eye opener. Your channel would help many ethnic families in western society. My parents fled from war and decided to have kids in a society they dislike.
Unfortunately, my sister who wants total control over my life, who do I talk to or connect with, how people see me, making sure she goes behind my back to create stories that will make me look less or even bad, all because she always felt less than me. She lies, manipulates to hide who she really is and makes sure that I won’t look better than her, loved or appreciated more than her, although my authenticity is the opposite to her total fakeness. A grandiose narcissist chasing popularity at all costs. Mad, uncontrolled, sneaky behavior, obsessed with my life.
That sounds like home. Both elder brothers are such, the second most viciously harmful backstabber repeatedly. Of course they tag me crazy, it is an investment - lest I speak about their shameless sadism and pettiness. Homicidal level of selfishness - I used to call it as a teenager, struggling to grasp how can siblings be so spineless and cruel. Had no idea back then that 30 years later I would still fear for my life when near them, and that I was so shockingly accurate. I have been saving my life from them my whole life...
You're welcome. Yes, I remember we discussed this a year or so ago. It's frustrating, disheartening, and even angering at times when a spouse is "imprisoned" to his or her family. It's like a cult-mindset to say the least.
My experience with psychotic people, mainly homeless women. I had been attacked by a few women I didn't cross a word with and they didn't give a sign to me before I was attacked. Schizoids are somehow attracted to me but although none have tried to hurt me, there's something like a thin line to them I know a word, whichever unknown word I don't know, can trigger them. Both are disturbing but what I am familiar with is passive aggression and cluster B personalities that, although they look most normal, they can switch from Doctor Jekyll to Mister Hyde without a warning... those are the most disturbing because there are no previous signs. I grew up in a narcissistic family and now I can spot an overt narcissist miles ahead but convert ones know how to play the long game. Still, sometimes they get on the verge of delusions and paranoid behavior but not often and their disturbing delusional thinking doesn't show up in public settings. I had a sister raising hell for no reason, except something happened to her she needed to dump it in a familiar setting, since they are so worried about their outside look and she was blaming me for something I had no fault but in the middle of her tantrum, she stopped and another voice inside her said: "you stood by me in my worst moment" but like a ray of sun in a cloudy day it disappeared and she kept on barking at me. That's disturbing and scary because they look most normal but I can't help to think that narcissistic personalities are fighting against psychosis continually. People with cptsd can get so out of touch with reality but their fears I find them authentic and I say it because of my aunt. She married a psycho and was nullified by everyone but I understand that kind of fear... they can't name it most of the time because they know they won't believe her but their fears are real. Usually they are burdened by a lifetime of abuse, subtle, invisible but consistent. They are right but have lost the capacity to calmly describe it because they are deep in learned helplessness.
It can be both, depending on what you are dealing with and the "criteria" met. In other words, "disturbed" doesn't mean that person would meet the criteria needed to be diagnosed with anything. Narcissistic means that the individual has a clinical disorder.
Can they tell me why they choose to do what they doing.? What did they want me to do? Let them write it down in a clear message about what they want me to do.....
How can you rise above the waters when you feel a disturbed family member may be, in fact, evil? See my live discussion here: th-cam.com/users/liveMcMvlD0AFVA?si=HhRo3xQrHSckehVV
“ Disturbed people disturbed you .” 😩
Tysm for talking about confabulation and false memories- the false reality these people create and then try to force everyone to go along with under threat of massive tantrums. Over thanksgiving my mother accused me of stealing my deceased grandmothers things when she saw boxes of mine in the garage. I had just moved them from my storage unit in a different state. A lot of them were labeled with my name on it. One was even labeled “Dana’s Blankets” in my mother’s own handwriting. My dad and sister went along with her. My dad was screaming at me saying I need counseling and I always cause drama. Any evidence I gave them that they were mine made them angrier. I feel insane. But it was actually all of them going along with this false reality that was mentally disturbed. I’m very shaken. My therapists believe my mother has NPD.
I read a book many yr ago"People of the Lie", Evil breeds in families. I came from such a family. God saved my mental health!
Praise God! That's wonderful.
And I am so grateful for Dr. Peck. I read this book People of the Lie in college so many years ago and it was all the validation I needed.
Very familiar with the word salad disturbed thinking. It's very sad and the family member does not want help, he feels superior to everyone. He is very ill and also a bully/abusive. Had to cut contact with this person, very dark and disturbing. History of drug/alcohol abuse and extensive criminal records as well. But in denial about toxic dysfunctional upbringing.
Never easy to deal with. I'm sorry you know this kind of person.
Let me just say that not everyone like this feels superior. Those who do may have associated narccist tendencies. Sometimes these individuals are too disturbed to see themselves. But again, those who feel and act superior often have narccistic traits.
Yup! Guilt wound and fear of abandonment and betrayal trauma. Fir my entire life. Also carried shame and carrying fanily secrets and aelf blame, causes trauma. .... I was an eaay target. ( because i couldnt hide my anxiety and fear.) i am looking forward to fridays content. Thank you.
Good to know. I think half the channel will be able to relate, sadly.
Such a tiring and exchausting mix of trauma. What makes this worse is that not everyone is going to see that disturbed family member as "disturbed." That makes this trauma and experience much worse.
Thank you for taking on this topic. I have a family member like this, and stalker like this.... Confabulation is my new favorite word.
😂🤓 Absolutely. You're welcome. I'll be talking more about it Friday. It's a very broad topic, especially confabulation!
@@TherapistTamaraHill That will be a good chat! 😌
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WOW! You just described my oldest brother with one million percent accuracy!!! My brother has every single one of these destructive ways.
oh my. I'm sorry😫 Not easy to deal. Thankfully, there are ways to manage these people. Join me live on Friday 6:30pm est. I will discuss this topic further then.
It is funny how you mentioned an uncle who flips out out of nowhere, to the point where you have to walk around eggshells around him at 13:45. That's my uncle to a 'T'.
Thank you for popping up when you did. I definitely need to book a session with you.
I’ve been dealing with very evil toxic narcissistic family members 🙏
😊It sounds like this was helpful. I'm glad it was.
That was then - this is now. They are fully informed.
"What is happening?" Been in my head for years.
The Book People of the Lie/excellent book
I read yrs ago says evil is in families. I came from such a family, but God saved my mental health.
You just described mi Papa.😩 Yes, it does affects you. I ‘ m still overcoming and healing from the effects and trauma. Thank you for providing this great information and tips.🙏💕
😫I'm sorry. You're welcome.
It can "follow you" if you're not careful. Trauma happens when you don't have the skills to manage the impact of that trauma. So many people end up here. I'll talk more on Friday!
Your channel is an eye opener. Your channel would help many ethnic families in western society. My parents fled from war and decided to have kids in a society they dislike.
Thanks so much!! I truly hope this is helpful to as many people as it can be.
Unfortunately, my sister who wants total control over my life, who do I talk to or connect with, how people see me, making sure she goes behind my back to create stories that will make me look less or even bad, all because she always felt less than me. She lies, manipulates to hide who she really is and makes sure that I won’t look better than her, loved or appreciated more than her, although my authenticity is the opposite to her total fakeness. A grandiose narcissist chasing popularity at all costs. Mad, uncontrolled, sneaky behavior, obsessed with my life.
That sounds like home. Both elder brothers are such, the second most viciously harmful backstabber repeatedly. Of course they tag me crazy, it is an investment - lest I speak about their shameless sadism and pettiness. Homicidal level of selfishness - I used to call it as a teenager, struggling to grasp how can siblings be so spineless and cruel. Had no idea back then that 30 years later I would still fear for my life when near them, and that I was so shockingly accurate. I have been saving my life from them my whole life...
❤thank you lovely. My husband 💯 he grew up in a family like this. So sad because it almost destroyed our marriage
You're welcome.
Yes, I remember we discussed this a year or so ago. It's frustrating, disheartening, and even angering at times when a spouse is "imprisoned" to his or her family. It's like a cult-mindset to say the least.
Wow, you are right on time, or I'm right on time catching your live. ❤
“ According to statistic, one person out of five is disturbed. If there are four people around you who seem normal, that’s not good.”🤔
Why don’t we just record everything or just meet people in public
Hello Tamara. Thanks for the impromptu video. ✌🏾🤎💫
What to do when you have been sexually asaulted as a child by your former stepfather and noone belives me ,especially my mom.(aka the 2nd abuser.
My experience with psychotic people, mainly homeless women. I had been attacked by a few women I didn't cross a word with and they didn't give a sign to me before I was attacked. Schizoids are somehow attracted to me but although none have tried to hurt me, there's something like a thin line to them I know a word, whichever unknown word I don't know, can trigger them.
Both are disturbing but what I am familiar with is passive aggression and cluster B personalities that, although they look most normal, they can switch from Doctor Jekyll to Mister Hyde without a warning... those are the most disturbing because there are no previous signs.
I grew up in a narcissistic family and now I can spot an overt narcissist miles ahead but convert ones know how to play the long game.
Still, sometimes they get on the verge of delusions and paranoid behavior but not often and their disturbing delusional thinking doesn't show up in public settings.
I had a sister raising hell for no reason, except something happened to her she needed to dump it in a familiar setting, since they are so worried about their outside look and she was blaming me for something I had no fault but in the middle of her tantrum, she stopped and another voice inside her said: "you stood by me in my worst moment" but like a ray of sun in a cloudy day it disappeared and she kept on barking at me.
That's disturbing and scary because they look most normal but I can't help to think that narcissistic personalities are fighting against psychosis continually.
People with cptsd can get so out of touch with reality but their fears I find them authentic and I say it because of my aunt. She married a psycho and was nullified by everyone but I understand that kind of fear... they can't name it most of the time because they know they won't believe her but their fears are real. Usually they are burdened by a lifetime of abuse, subtle, invisible but consistent. They are right but have lost the capacity to calmly describe it because they are deep in learned helplessness.
Thank you so much, do you still go live Friday and Saturday at 6:30 PM EST?
You're welcome!! Yes, absolutely. :) Join me this weekend!
Is that narcissistic or disturbed?
It can be both, depending on what you are dealing with and the "criteria" met. In other words, "disturbed" doesn't mean that person would meet the criteria needed to be diagnosed with anything. Narcissistic means that the individual has a clinical disorder.
What happens when therapists believe the false memories
What happens if all the things happen u have evidence but people are in verbal denial do to consequences and legal and otherwise?!?!
Can they tell me why they choose to do what they doing.? What did they want me to do? Let them write it down in a clear message about what they want me to do.....
Gd evening 💐🌹🪖🫡
Good evening to you too.