I did and still do, but then weeks, months, sometimes yeears later they ALL have tried to come back. My thing is if you didn't want me then, you definitely CAN'T have me NOW!
So true and women dont realize that or they refuse to accept that so they will try and try to change his mind bcuz they can't accept a man isnt interested in them especially when they feel that they're a good catch its just best to accept it and move on dont stay where you're not wanted
I swear to god, the next time I hear a man say, "Lets just enjoy each other's company..." Ladies, RUN! I have heard this stupid line more times than I can count and it just means he's enjoying your company, and Sarah's company, and Mary's company and Lisa's company and all of those women think they're the only one too.
Ladies the key is confidence. He’s lucky to even get a chance. Don’t be so available. Don’t be desperate. Make him work for it. If he doesn’t work for it, then he isn’t worth the time. Don’t lose yourself for a man.
If he ain't ready, you get ready to take your LEAVE. Don't let him explore other options on your time. You'll save yourself a lot of wasted time & grief in the long run.
Been seeing this guy for maybe 8 months or so anyway he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship so instead of staying friends with him and to give him the benefit of having access to me. I removed myself from his life. He wasn’t ready for a relationship so he doesn’t even deserve my presence. Removed him on social media and now I’m content knowing he wasn’t the one for me. The right guy wouldn’t put you in a position like that.
@@kimalex9945 That's the behaviour of a desparate woman. Why do you want to tie a man to you that doesn't want you! That behaviour is not the behavior of a stable person.
7 months of dating?????? Chile I think not. Like Tony said before “ A man knows what he wants to do after the first 30 days”. If he isn’t making it official by then girl you are wasting your time 🙄 NEXT CALLER
Tony so true on the in home dates. Seems like most of these grown boys want to chill in the home and not take us on proper dates in public or creative ones.
When someone shows you who they are , believe them the first time! Cut it off before you end up " on the fence " waiting around to see if someone wants you! If they wanted you , you'd never be stuck wondering because they're actions would show you! I learned this the hard way , so I speak from experience! Value yourself more than that!
Where was Tony when I was 16 lol we all lucky now to be blessed with his wisdom and I know for sure that self love most be 1st then everything will fall into place ❤️
Nowadays you have to sit back and feel energy and listen to what they say. from experience there are men whose actions are in line with what women want.... they are gifters, goodlooking, spiritual, charismatic, blah blah..oh and get this, they only want you to be a real life teddy🧸, literally to cuddle with not even Sex because they have a variety of women to get it from. Lol. It’s a cold game out here. They want a team, remember bench warmers still get a check 😂. Watch that energy because your feelings will get you hurt.
The two things that I have seen fail in my friends relationship is 1. chasing the man without him showing actual interest and 2. not being abstinent. God knows what we are doing and even tells us not to do that - but still we seem to go against that smh
I did and still do cut a man off when he makes that infamous statement, but then weeks, months, sometimes yeears later they ALL have tried to come back. My thing is if you didn't want me then, you definitely CAN'T have me NOW!
" IF A MAN ISN'T READY FOR A TRUE,REAL,GROWN, GOOD WOMAN!" THEN U BE READY TO LEAVE HIM BEHIND! AND "U MOVE FORWARD ON!" DON'T LET ANY KIND OF MAN HAVE OTHER WOMEN! AND" HAVE U TOO!" ON YR TIME! " IT ISN'T RIGHT FOR HIM TO" WINE AND DINE " ANOTHER ONE WHEN HE IS SUPPOSED TO HAVE U! " LET HIM GO! MOVE ON!" THE CHAPTER OF THIS BOOK IS FINALLY CLOSED! IT'S ENDED!
All you can do is learn from your mistakes and dont make the again. No good to playing the victim when you get different results but really men already place you in a category when the first meet you. So he wasnt planning on making you his wife from the beginning. I had lower my standards and wasted time over nonsense. Now I know that I need to set boundaries and ask questions to know where I stand .
Where were you 20 years ago??! I've never heard such an indepth synopsis of this subject. Certain things I knew just from getting older but the male perspective...you can only get that from an honest man. Sheesh that was remarkable. I'm def not one to gas anyone up. I admire and respect what God has given you and I hope you, and those around you including your followers never take the gift for granted. It's dangerous times as we approach the end times, the hearts of people are waxing colder everyday.
I have never experienced more guilt and shame in my life. The affect of the soul tie is still affecting my heart and I just found out the real reason for my problems. I was just an experimental zebra being fed , and when I started acting up as a lioness, (as I was heavily misled and manipulated into believing we were exclusive) I was getting cut off. Luckily I turned up the the tables well within time and saved myself. But to this day I am finding it so hard to forgive myself for being so childish and unaware. If you ever read this comment, please try to make a video on- 'how to forgive yourself'. It's hard to breathe with the shame ,despite being just 22.
I'm not Black nor am I Christian. But I must say, Tony, you speak home truths every single time. I enjoy watching your videos with your special brand of humor, common sense and wisdom. I have learned a lot about men, relationships and life just by listening to you. Thanks Tony!
MY GOODNESS!!! ok, ladies. he dropped a LOTTTTT of 'gems' in this one i would strongly suggest you listen to this several times to makes sure you not only heard everything he said but that you LISTEN carefully to retain all this awesome info. i can't even touch on 1 particular point that resonated more than another -- because ALL his points resonated with me. even if you (like me) are a little "longer in the tooth" (LOL!) than many of his other listeners, you still (like me) can gain from being REMINDED not to make those awful mistakes again that you made in your "backslidin' days", when you were young & dumb, hahaha! LISTEN TO IT AGAIN -- Blessings to all
All of this is so true. Seen it and dealt with a lot of this. Make sure that you’re not just a fantasy to a man. Especially, if you are attracting the opposite race. A man is going to be a man! Thank you Tony and be blessed.
I never heard it explained like this. My father was biracial my mother was dark skinned. I identify as black, but I have attracted both black and white men! Thanks for describing this gro a man's point of view
Tony truth's on point tonight. This whole color thing runs so deep. I have learned alot of this living in Ohio but not so much in Brooklyn. The way Tony explained this tonight is excellent and informative. Basically, what I got out of this tonight, is that if you love yourself and keep your standards, you going to see right through the foolishness of men who want you for the wrong reasons. Thank you Tony! Exceptional video 💯👏🏼👏🏼
Blessed Day!- Tribe Please ladies - Just keep Focus - On “ YOU”!!! - Do NOT chase the man!! May as well run in circles and loose weight.. A Queen knows her worth.. Vice versa for a man!!
That's what a man does for a zebra 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... this was a great analogy. Seriously, a man will give us what we settle for. Set standards, stick to them, and let a man's character be his currency.
I think this goes a lot deeper than just a man not wanting a relationship. He wants a relationship with the finer things in life. and because of his mental stability and illusions in his mind, he sees women of color as a struggle bus. Not knowing he is also on the struggle bus and yt ppl see him just as damaged. But he is willing to sacrifice himself as well as his own kind to get what he wants if he ever gets it.
You’d do well to believe him. Most men want a relationship so when a guy tells u this generally they don’t want one with you. I’d bet if a women he liked came around he’d get his act together and be with her. Don’t take it personal you won’t always be someone’s cup of tea and someone won’t always be yours respect peoples personal decisions this guy is doing u a favor and not trying to waste your time. Move on speaking from experience
I agree I learned that the hard way as well I didn't want to believe that he wasnt ready for a relationship bcuz his words I fell for but I had to look at his behavior that was a clear indication that he didnt want one and when I made the decision to move on of course im viewed as the wrong one smh ppl will waste your time only if u allow them to be willing to see the truth even though it might be disappointing but u will get over that disappointment bcuz u saved yourself from heart ache and pain
Spot on. They will not change their mind. Usually they have a rotation and don’t really like any if the women involved in it but can’t stand to be alone.
@@Livelearnapply rather than going after someone they really want, they waste their time on multiple midrange women they see no future with. They waste their own years. Wish women understood this.
Great video Tony, as always. As a 23 year old woman I am learning from you a lifetime wisdom for my future that no one ever told me. I’’ve been watching your videos for a year and a half now. Thank you for doing what you are called to do🕊God bless everyone and greetings from Poland 🇵🇱♥️
Off topic. But The more he speaks of his wife, the more I fall in love with what she represents. I wish like really wish, she popped in more. Y'all dont drag me but seeing on her on the cover got me to read a womans influence. I'm catching up on the other books though. Aight y'all can drag me now😂
Girl you’re not the only one. The more he talks about his wife I wanted to get to know her and hear her perspective. You get to hear that in the book. I watched their live a few times just so I can see her personality 😂
Wow!! Tony Gaskins, you described me!! I'm that "Women in a whole another class".That's why my man left me!!I I was not available. My intuition /sprit kept telling me he wasn't the Man God had planned for me.🙏🏾 Lol!!.God bless you brother Tony and your beautiful wife and children
Exactly. Only in US multi-ethnic/biracial ppl identify as black. Makes no sense, the one drop rule is a racist concept so it's weird that ppl still adopt this rule. Just identify as multi-/biracial if you (generally talking) feel the need to categorize yourself. Just like Tony said if a man is a male h** he'll screw whoever.
Darline _ox exactly. People are so brainwashed with the whole extr. categories and division tactics they don't even comprehend the most basic words and definition of "biracial". Bl.. your mind
She is wasting her time... he wants someone white a mixed female is not good enough for him because he looking for a specific type... these NFL black men and regular black man most are not trying to date no black women that looks like their mother or the other women in the family..she should just move a long and Black women need to just start dating interacial or black men from other countries... in NYC I get talked to by white/Hispanic men more than black guys which is crazy to me but I have accepted it because you have to go where you’re appreciated sad to say it’s looking foreign or white .
When I was sixteen my friend mom who is lighter skin told me , because I'm brown skin I won't get a black man. I'm older now with no kids and never been married or engaged. In my 30s I'm starting to think she was right. All of my friends who are lighter or non black are all married. I wanted her to be so wrong but maybe she was right
@@tashamorris6475 Do Not Think like this! I have two Sons, they are bi-racial, my Beautiful daughter in law is African American and darker than my son. My older son dates, and he prefers darker skin African American women. You are just not meeting the right man. In time you will. Stay positive Beautiful Queen. Sometimes we let what people say penetrate into our minds not realizing that we are creating a blockage within ourselves to believing this nonsense! I am 53 now. I wish I had this young man right here speaking all this knowledge and wisdom into my heart and mind. Continue to listen and apply Tony Gaskins. I HIGHLY recommend him!!
So interesting Tony, keep dropping gems for us 🔥 My mother is biracial and my dad is very dark, they attracted each other. Thanks for being a blessing to women.
Ma'am....NFL....you can forget it....they live for that life....he eat, sleep, and breathe women....don't fool yosef....he's not close to ready for one woman....he on the prowl for notches....save yosef some time...bow out !
Yikeasss this is such an eye opening class. I always stayed away from guys who played sports until I met my ex husband ( him being a Christian ) I have him a chance. Lord I was wrong....most of them have a lot of issues
@@kaleema1987 Tony is so hilarious. When I do decide to get back into the dating game I'm gonna be something else. But I gotz to work on the three Bs first.
1# Perhaps his preference is white girls she said she's half and half 2# sounds like this guy was enjoying the moment I didn't say he wanted a relationship she apparently got caught up 3# she need to move on and let it go 4# he's still looking that's a sign that she's not the one!
Serena Williams’ husband, Alexis Ohanian was born in USA to a German mother and Armenian father. I won’t generalize but if the last name ends in (ian) it’s indicative of Armenian ancestry. I’m Eastern European but my great grandmother was full Armenian.
I miss Tony, I had been watching this other person that somethings he was had some depth to it but other things in his character that turn me off I said let me go to what I know this man of God..Thank you for all you do Mr Gaskin
I gotta comment!!! I'm here for the comments! SO this guy asked for my number, the first day I gave him my number he texted and called right away, everyday. Then, the texts/calls only seem to come when he's in crisis and need me to "talk things through", next thing I know, he's asking me to cook dinner and introducing me to his family as his "friend" (over the phone) and telling me he wants a WIFE. My intuition told me if he wanted you to be wifey, he would introduce you as such. I told him you don't get the benefit of my time and being there for you emotionally without a title. His reply was "I'm not ready to be in a relationship." I say to myself, you sure aren't, goodbye! So glad I stuck to my guns on this, everything confirms that my intuition was right to let him go! Pain is still fresh though.
You’re not alone. However, the situationship teaches us what We don’t want and sets the way for standards in the future. Take the lesson and do better next time.
If a man ever says he's not ready for a relationship, abort mission & run.
Exit!
When a man says he not ready for a relationship, He means just that, just want to use you sexually than discard.
I did and still do, but then weeks, months, sometimes yeears later they ALL have tried to come back. My thing is if you didn't want me then, you definitely CAN'T have me NOW!
@@cemplygloria6261 amen!
@@cemplygloria6261 amen! They always come back I know this guy I was seeing came out not even a whole month later 😂😂
“You gotta go where you are celebrated not where you are tolerated.” TG
That's a good one!
absolutely
Yaaaas!!!!
He’s ready for a relationship but just not with you. That’s what this means.
Pretty much
Period
So true and women dont realize that or they refuse to accept that so they will try and try to change his mind bcuz they can't accept a man isnt interested in them especially when they feel that they're a good catch its just best to accept it and move on dont stay where you're not wanted
yup...thats what it means
Yup
I swear to god, the next time I hear a man say, "Lets just enjoy each other's company..." Ladies, RUN! I have heard this stupid line more times than I can count and it just means he's enjoying your company, and Sarah's company, and Mary's company and Lisa's company and all of those women think they're the only one too.
Yes code for I am about to "situationshiped" your entire existence 😩😩😩
Facts.
Faaaacts🤣🤣🤣
💯
Translation. You're really not my type. But I'm attracted to you "physically". I'm going to use you until I meet a Woman... I really like. 😉
Ladies the key is confidence. He’s lucky to even get a chance. Don’t be so available. Don’t be desperate. Make him work for it. If he doesn’t work for it, then he isn’t worth the time. Don’t lose yourself for a man.
Thank you sometimes we have to remind ourselves of this
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👏🏾❤️
If he ain't ready, you get ready to take your LEAVE. Don't let him explore other options on your time. You'll save yourself a lot of wasted time & grief in the long run.
So true. I never looked at it that way
Been seeing this guy for maybe 8 months or so anyway he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship so instead of staying friends with him and to give him the benefit of having access to me. I removed myself from his life. He wasn’t ready for a relationship so he doesn’t even deserve my presence. Removed him on social media and now I’m content knowing he wasn’t the one for me. The right guy wouldn’t put you in a position like that.
He says he's not ready...believe him!! He may change...but not for you!
“High value” doesn’t equal “high character”... I felt that one!
Same here! Character is real currency!
@@kimalex9945
That's the behaviour of a desparate woman. Why do you want to tie a man to you that doesn't want you! That behaviour is not the behavior of a stable person.
@@audreywright7788 I been seeing her and others like her comment under other people’s comments on different channels
Amen sis! I’ll be glad when they stop getting this confused.
7 months of dating?????? Chile I think not. Like Tony said before “ A man knows what he wants to do after the first 30 days”. If he isn’t making it official by then girl you are wasting your time 🙄 NEXT CALLER
“When a man breaks up with yooou, that means he has determined you are not a wife, you are not his wife.” TG
@@CaramelCuban Then you're definitely not his wife...
@@CaramelCuban the message still applies...
@@jasminecristelle I don’t recall asking you
@@CaramelCuban My answer still remains hun chill out
@@jasminecristelle you answer STILL REMAINS irrelevant good day
"You gotta go where you are celebrated not tolerated" you betta preach!
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Tony so true on the in home dates. Seems like most of these grown boys want to chill in the home and not take us on proper dates in public or creative ones.
Refuse to go on those dates. I tell them I don’t do home dates when they suggest that.
Or they wait till it’s real dark take you to a fast food place and having a date in his car just to have sex in the car 😂😂😂
@@genxx2724U KNOW U GOT IT RIGHT! !
When someone shows you who they are , believe them the first time! Cut it off before you end up " on the fence " waiting around to see if someone wants you! If they wanted you , you'd never be stuck wondering because they're actions would show you! I learned this the hard way , so I speak from experience! Value yourself more than that!
Very well said! I learn the hard way too and it cuts deep
@@mayasheartdesiire 🤗
I hate the term “high value man”. It makes me crinnngggeee 😬
Right lol either you’re a good man or not
Especially since a lot of people use it loosely, more than half the time their equating high value to bank account.
Only on YT 🤦🏽♀💀..who tf uses such terms in real life?
I'm happy to see this comment
If you have to say you are high value then you are not .....
Men who say they want an exotic woman have psychological issues or are bums. What the hell you want your woman to have wings and fly. Gthoh
😅😅😅
Lol!!
Dont let the door hit where the good lord split those type of so called men can leave and never return.
I am weak at your comment lol!
And they still cheat on them !!
The whole exotic convo has always been weird & childish to me lol. Soon as a man starts speaking like that, just run.
Agreed!!!
Exactly! They ain’t looking for love. They want arm candy that’s all about stroking their ego.
Facts
These are the lessons that will save women from heartache & pain in the future!! Let’s let’s & grow ladies 🙌🏼🙌🏼💖💖
Where was Tony when I was 16 lol we all lucky now to be blessed with his wisdom and I know for sure that self love most be 1st then everything will fall into place ❤️
I wasted 12 years in a situationship. It’s been 13 years since the breakup and I’m still not completely healed.
@@mmxw2294 yassss absolutely girl 🙏🏼 I found him in 2018. And I’m just grateful for all the lessons ♥️
@@kcornejo44 😔🤗
@@kcornejo44 wow what I story! I pray that you will continue to do the work & God will continue to heal your heart ❤️
Nowadays you have to sit back and feel energy and listen to what they say. from experience there are men whose actions are in line with what women want.... they are gifters, goodlooking, spiritual, charismatic, blah blah..oh and get this, they only want you to be a real life teddy🧸, literally to cuddle with not even Sex because they have a variety of women to get it from. Lol. It’s a cold game out here. They want a team, remember bench warmers still get a check 😂. Watch that energy because your feelings will get you hurt.
If the energy off move on your spirit will never guide you wrong sometimes your spirit is protecting you from the trauma visually
Great comment
The two things that I have seen fail in my friends relationship is 1. chasing the man without him showing actual interest and 2. not being abstinent. God knows what we are doing and even tells us not to do that - but still we seem to go against that smh
I did and still do cut a man off when he makes that infamous statement, but then weeks, months, sometimes yeears later they ALL have tried to come back. My thing is if you didn't want me then, you definitely CAN'T have me NOW!
I agree they usually do those sudden pop ups to check your temperature examining if they still have a chance to waste your time no sir
" IF A MAN ISN'T READY FOR A TRUE,REAL,GROWN, GOOD WOMAN!" THEN U BE READY TO LEAVE HIM BEHIND! AND "U MOVE FORWARD ON!" DON'T LET ANY KIND OF MAN HAVE OTHER WOMEN! AND" HAVE U TOO!" ON YR TIME! " IT ISN'T RIGHT FOR HIM TO" WINE AND DINE " ANOTHER ONE WHEN HE IS SUPPOSED TO HAVE U! " LET HIM GO! MOVE ON!" THE CHAPTER OF THIS BOOK IS FINALLY CLOSED! IT'S ENDED!
“Get off ya back” kills me every time
😂😂😂😂😂
I love when he says it too
Yes!! True value is determined by your character, not your bank account
“It’s not about what you want, it’s about what you need.” 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I have to listen to Tony 4 5 times to let that concrete sink in💔
Let’s learn the lessons 🙌🏼💖
2:00 AM in The Netherlands but we up. Lets get this here knowledge 💪🏿
Let’s goooo!!!!!
Happy Holidays ❤️
Same here.. hey landgenoot.. alleen maar wijsheid hier bij toni. Go girllll
Hai, Amsterdam.
Ik kijk hem nu om 7u 🤣
All you can do is learn from your mistakes and dont make the again. No good to playing the victim when you get different results but really men already place you in a category when the first meet you. So he wasnt planning on making you his wife from the beginning. I had lower my standards and wasted time over nonsense. Now I know that I need to set boundaries and ask questions to know where I stand .
I genuinely look foward to watching talks with tony. Makes me feel safe and comforts my spirit.
Thts bcuz his message is coming from the right place..he does this cuz he genuinely cares..
Where were you 20 years ago??! I've never heard such an indepth synopsis of this subject. Certain things I knew just from getting older but the male perspective...you can only get that from an honest man. Sheesh that was remarkable. I'm def not one to gas anyone up. I admire and respect what God has given you and I hope you, and those around you including your followers never take the gift for granted. It's dangerous times as we approach the end times, the hearts of people are waxing colder everyday.
@@kimalex9945 you're a whole witch. I rebuke you Satan!!!
I have never experienced more guilt and shame in my life. The affect of the soul tie is still affecting my heart and I just found out the real reason for my problems. I was just an experimental zebra being fed , and when I started acting up as a lioness, (as I was heavily misled and manipulated into believing we were exclusive) I was getting cut off. Luckily I turned up the the tables well within time and saved myself. But to this day I am finding it so hard to forgive myself for being so childish and unaware. If you ever read this comment, please try to make a video on- 'how to forgive yourself'. It's hard to breathe with the shame ,despite being just 22.
Why beat yourself up for wanting love and connection? You’re human. Go easy on yourself. Learn the lesson and take that into your next experience♥️
Stop living in shame. You are holding yourself hostage.
I'm not Black nor am I Christian. But I must say, Tony, you speak home truths every single time. I enjoy watching your videos with your special brand of humor, common sense and wisdom. I have learned a lot about men, relationships and life just by listening to you. Thanks Tony!
When they say, just looking for friendship and see what happens...Leave that alone, too, if you are looking for more.
I'm going to listen to the full ads today without skipping because I like your shirt
Lol.
As they say cheating is a rich man's sport!
MY GOODNESS!!!
ok, ladies. he dropped a LOTTTTT of 'gems' in this one
i would strongly suggest you listen to this several times to makes sure you not only heard everything he said but that you LISTEN carefully to retain all this awesome info. i can't even touch on 1 particular point that resonated more than another -- because ALL his points resonated with me. even if you (like me) are a little "longer in the tooth" (LOL!) than many of his other listeners, you still (like me) can gain from being REMINDED not to make those awful mistakes again that you made in your "backslidin' days", when you were young & dumb, hahaha! LISTEN TO IT AGAIN -- Blessings to all
All of this is so true. Seen it and dealt with a lot of this. Make sure that you’re not just a fantasy to a man. Especially, if you are attracting the opposite race. A man is going to be a man! Thank you Tony and be blessed.
Talks with Tony should have a 6 month update show. I love update shows!
“It ain’t about what you want, it about what you need” 💯💯💯
Thanks for opening my eyes!
This be the same men ready for the p on the first night ughhh
Right girl!!!!
Lol yes indeed ...they want the rewards with out putting in any work thats why we have to be aware of it and walk away
Just say, and be who you are. There’s no need to compare yourself to anyone.
" HE TOOK YR TIME"! AND " CHASE ANOTHER"!" U WERE JUST HIS LOVER"! AND " NOW IT'S OVER"! " U TWO WERE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS!
I never heard it explained like this. My father was biracial my mother was dark skinned. I identify as black, but I have attracted both black and white men! Thanks for describing this gro a man's point of view
I identify as biracial 😊
Tony truth's on point tonight. This whole color thing runs so deep. I have learned alot of this living in Ohio but not so much in Brooklyn. The way Tony explained this tonight is excellent and informative. Basically, what I got out of this tonight, is that if you love yourself and keep your standards, you going to see right through the foolishness of men who want you for the wrong reasons. Thank you Tony! Exceptional video 💯👏🏼👏🏼
Blessed Day!- Tribe
Please ladies - Just keep Focus -
On “ YOU”!!! - Do NOT chase the man!! May as well run in circles and loose weight.. A Queen knows her worth.. Vice versa for a man!!
Hope everyone is having a good night ☺ HAPPY FRIDAYYY🙌
Thank You
Men like variety in women and women like variety in food. Yup I could never think like a man 😂.
Girl 🤣 it’s annoying but it’s better to know tha truth lol
@@mmxw2294 exactly sis.
You ain’t never lied!!!
That's what a man does for a zebra 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... this was a great analogy. Seriously, a man will give us what we settle for. Set standards, stick to them, and let a man's character be his currency.
Smh
I had to listen to this twice...so very well broken down. 🙌🏽💫
I think this goes a lot deeper than just a man not wanting a relationship. He wants a relationship with the finer things in life. and because of his mental stability and illusions in his mind, he sees women of color as a struggle bus. Not knowing he is also on the struggle bus and yt ppl see him just as damaged. But he is willing to sacrifice himself as well as his own kind to get what he wants if he ever gets it.
You’d do well to believe him. Most men want a relationship so when a guy tells u this generally they don’t want one with you. I’d bet if a women he liked came around he’d get his act together and be with her. Don’t take it personal you won’t always be someone’s cup of tea and someone won’t always be yours respect peoples personal decisions this guy is doing u a favor and not trying to waste your time. Move on speaking from experience
I agree I learned that the hard way as well I didn't want to believe that he wasnt ready for a relationship bcuz his words I fell for but I had to look at his behavior that was a clear indication that he didnt want one and when I made the decision to move on of course im viewed as the wrong one smh ppl will waste your time only if u allow them to be willing to see the truth even though it might be disappointing but u will get over that disappointment bcuz u saved yourself from heart ache and pain
@@letrice2892 it’s hard. I learned the hard way too, just glad I moved on and not wasting anymore of my time
Spot on. They will not change their mind. Usually they have a rotation and don’t really like any if the women involved in it but can’t stand to be alone.
@@skyfall1481 facts. They definitely keep girls in rotation
@@Livelearnapply rather than going after someone they really want, they waste their time on multiple midrange women they see no future with. They waste their own years. Wish women understood this.
Wow. 1K views in 20 minutes. Talks with Tony is lit!
Great video Tony, as always. As a 23 year old woman I am learning from you a lifetime wisdom for my future that no one ever told me. I’’ve been watching your videos for a year and a half now. Thank you for doing what you are called to do🕊God bless everyone and greetings from Poland 🇵🇱♥️
So many nuggets of wisdom and layers of self help in this one. Thank you 😊
Listening to Talks with Tony is my vice... 🙏 🙏 🙏
Off topic. But The more he speaks of his wife, the more I fall in love with what she represents. I wish like really wish, she popped in more. Y'all dont drag me but seeing on her on the cover got me to read a womans influence. I'm catching up on the other books though. Aight y'all can drag me now😂
why drag you? she seems to be a cool lady! I enjoyed when they did that Q&A.
No, no, you are right. They are so cute together and their relationship seems really sweet!
Why should anyone drag you for that?
Girl you’re not the only one. The more he talks about his wife I wanted to get to know her and hear her perspective. You get to hear that in the book. I watched their live a few times just so I can see her personality 😂
Wow!! Tony Gaskins, you described me!!
I'm that "Women in a whole another class".That's why my man left me!!I I was not available. My intuition /sprit kept telling me he wasn't the Man God had planned for me.🙏🏾
Lol!!.God bless you brother Tony and your beautiful wife and children
right bc biracial doesn't = fully black, that's the problem with being both and only identifying as one. you're both.
Exactly. Only in US multi-ethnic/biracial ppl identify as black. Makes no sense, the one drop rule is a racist concept so it's weird that ppl still adopt this rule. Just identify as multi-/biracial if you (generally talking) feel the need to categorize yourself. Just like Tony said if a man is a male h** he'll screw whoever.
@Chinua Achebe you cant just identify as one if your parents aren't...if you add milk to your black coffee, your coffee isn't fully black anymore...
People seem to forget the definition of biracial.
Darline _ox exactly. People are so brainwashed with the whole extr. categories and division tactics they don't even comprehend the most basic words and definition of "biracial". Bl.. your mind
Truth hurts but we need it..thanks Tony
"The mo' money you make,the less you want your food cooked".😂 TG
Sweet Tayden with his award 🏆
Be blessed 💯
And I was just about to sleep.. not no more!
She is wasting her time... he wants someone white a mixed female is not good enough for him because he looking for a specific type... these NFL black men and regular black man most are not trying to date no black women that looks like their mother or the other women in the family..she should just move a long and Black women need to just start dating interacial or black men from other countries... in NYC I get talked to by white/Hispanic men more than black guys which is crazy to me but I have accepted it because you have to go where you’re appreciated sad to say it’s looking foreign or white .
Social Media has these "men" (grownboys) confused. 🙁
True facts
When I was sixteen my friend mom who is lighter skin told me , because I'm brown skin I won't get a black man. I'm older now with no kids and never been married or engaged. In my 30s I'm starting to think she was right. All of my friends who are lighter or non black are all married. I wanted her to be so wrong but maybe she was right
@@tashamorris6475 Do Not Think like this! I have two Sons, they are bi-racial, my Beautiful daughter in law is African American and darker than my son. My older son dates, and he prefers darker skin African American women. You are just not meeting the right man. In time you will. Stay positive Beautiful Queen. Sometimes we let what people say penetrate into our minds not realizing that we are creating a blockage within ourselves to believing this nonsense! I am 53 now. I wish I had this young man right here speaking all this knowledge and wisdom into my heart and mind. Continue to listen and apply Tony Gaskins. I HIGHLY recommend him!!
Turn to God, beloved. Don’t worry with these worldly men. God may have somebody for you.
You Always Speak " The TRUTH" Tony
So interesting Tony, keep dropping gems for us 🔥 My mother is biracial and my dad is very dark, they attracted each other.
Thanks for being a blessing to women.
Thank you for this word 🙏🏾
Ma'am....NFL....you can forget it....they live for that life....he eat, sleep, and breathe women....don't fool yosef....he's not close to ready for one woman....he on the prowl for notches....save yosef some time...bow out !
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Mais uma excelente lição. Obrigada 🙏🏾 Be blessed.
Yikeasss this is such an eye opening class. I always stayed away from guys who played sports until I met my ex husband ( him being a Christian ) I have him a chance. Lord I was wrong....most of them have a lot of issues
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Did Tony just say, "You getting nailed to the headboard?" 😅😅😅😅😂😂😂
@@kaleema1987 Tony is so hilarious. When I do decide to get back into the dating game I'm gonna be something else. But I gotz to work on the three Bs first.
Wow this is crazy. I never thought of it like this. The more “money” the more “grown boy” they are 🙄🙄🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Happy holidays to you and your family Mr.Gaskins Be blessed
Once again, thank you for your video!! The end of the video was real 🔥
This is a very emotional subject
Tony, you teaching this thang.
1# Perhaps his preference is white girls she said she's half and half 2# sounds like this guy was enjoying the moment I didn't say he wanted a relationship she apparently got caught up 3# she need to move on and let it go 4# he's still looking that's a sign that she's not the one!
most of NFL and basketball players are just players and cone with a lot of baggage look all the women that are in relationships with them
Serena Williams’ husband, Alexis Ohanian was born in USA to a German mother and Armenian father. I won’t generalize but if the last name ends in (ian) it’s indicative of Armenian ancestry. I’m Eastern European but my great grandmother was full Armenian.
✨🙏🏽✨ Gratitude for the wisdom.
It’s not right how he did you. Like Tony says, all we can do is extract the lesson and grow.
Black women get some SELF WORTH! a date is not you cooking! Stop bringing men to your house! You see how you been played as the HELP! LEVEL UP!
Tell the truth about our black man Tony!! Thank you
When he brought up the group chat with the white girls, I was shocked 😳😂.
Preach Tony, it’s a hard truth!!
I clicked so fast to watch talks with Tony 📝📝📝👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽!!!!!
Let’s goooooo
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Thanks for the lesson TG!
“I don’t match make no mo” 😂😂😂😂
Tony G!! I've never been first! Ready to take notes 📝
Let’s gooooo
I miss Tony, I had been watching this other person that somethings he was had some depth to it but other things in his character that turn me off I said let me go to what I know this man of God..Thank you for all you do Mr Gaskin
I'm the same way! I honestly don't trust other relationship coaches. They'll mention God and in the same breath curse and be profane.
Thank you Uncle Tony !!
Good video Tony. Be blessed
I gotta comment!!! I'm here for the comments! SO this guy asked for my number, the first day I gave him my number he texted and called right away, everyday. Then, the texts/calls only seem to come when he's in crisis and need me to "talk things through", next thing I know, he's asking me to cook dinner and introducing me to his family as his "friend" (over the phone) and telling me he wants a WIFE. My intuition told me if he wanted you to be wifey, he would introduce you as such. I told him you don't get the benefit of my time and being there for you emotionally without a title. His reply was "I'm not ready to be in a relationship." I say to myself, you sure aren't, goodbye! So glad I stuck to my guns on this, everything confirms that my intuition was right to let him go! Pain is still fresh though.
So proud of you!
Here here! Looking forward to this TWT!
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Me
I will never date another 25 year old male 🙄
I'm with you on that 🙂
🤣🤣 mind you I’m 23 and immediately I heard his age my mouth just turned the other way. A 25 yr old man has never been in the running for me.
And Another one and I am here for itttttt!!! Periodt!!
Thank you for explaining Tony.
Hi Tony! love your videos and your southern accent.
He said the more money you make the more uncooked you want your food. WHAT??!! 😆😆😆
That was hilarious😂🤣🤣! Tony is a mess😆!!!!!
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That's nasty
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Happy Friday TG.....bring it 👋
Be Blessed 🙏🏼
This makes me wanna cry bc I have been doing things wrong.
You’re not alone. However, the situationship teaches us what We don’t want and sets the way for standards in the future. Take the lesson and do better next time.
Interesting Topic!!