Depression in the Philippines

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  • @scottbrown321
    @scottbrown321 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Mia. Beautiful, smart, kind. Pure gold!

  • @MarC-ot5gl
    @MarC-ot5gl 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    It is totally understandable Paul - As a professional who has worked his entire life, we often get defined by what we do and what we achieve and its hard to just stop. I am at a point where I could retire (financially) but I need to mentally prepare myself for the transition but I have so many hobbies and things to keep me busy that I doubt I will miss work. The only thing I dislike is our cold and snowy winters so I may escape for 3 months of the year to get away from the harshness so who knows, I may end up in the Philippines or another country to take a break from the winter - That is what hits me the hardest, the cold and short daylight hours we face. Hang in there and enjoy have your toes tickled by Mia (lol)

  • @intuitivesean443
    @intuitivesean443 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    I’m 56 years old retired to the Philippines over a year ago I’m x military and x law enforcement end of things the messy end of those jobs me retiring was the best thing I ever did

  • @jerryG-p3w
    @jerryG-p3w 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    13 months in the fills and it was the loneliest and most depressing time of my life. I was 43 and a little too active to be there. Very little green spaces and difficult to walk as there are no sidewalks. The gyms are very poor and if theyre good they will be packed to the rafters with people. If you are relatively young and athletic the guys there will hate on yhou big time.

    • @ShporkyBoof
      @ShporkyBoof 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Why they hate you rather than respect you?

    • @jerryG-p3w
      @jerryG-p3w 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@ShporkyBoof they hate people that are stronger and more athletic then them. I noticed if they see you working hard and focused they don’t like you. I thinks it’s envy as they feel inferior to those that have more money and athleticism.

    • @ShporkyBoof
      @ShporkyBoof 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jerryG-p3w that's wild. Do you think they're feeling insecure about you taking their women?

    • @sundvallen
      @sundvallen 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jerryG-p3w Dude what are u talking about? Im 37, been body building for 15 years, literally on steroids, the guys LOVE ME in the gym. The hell man? LMFAO

  • @upgrade5252
    @upgrade5252 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Happy Holidays Paul! Enjoy your honesty and insights. Missed your TH-cam when you were in Saudi. Glad you’re back.

  • @alfredopampanga9356
    @alfredopampanga9356 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    There are many foreigner- Filipina couplings but this is the only one I’ve seen that is not mostly transactional.
    Paul needs to share his formula for success in this critical area. Treat it like an engineering problem.

    • @XxxAoBaa-mg2xm
      @XxxAoBaa-mg2xm 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      why you think so ? who pays for all her expenditures

    • @alfredopampanga9356
      @alfredopampanga9356 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ Paul pays , of course. But in return she loves him That’s not a given. Plenty of foreigners pay but get sham love in return

  • @lumpialife
    @lumpialife 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for this! 🙏We ended up coming home (USA). I definitely miss it and hope to come back someday. Mental health is truly something that needs to be checked often. Amping always! 🤙

  • @garyjohn
    @garyjohn 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Wherever you go, there you are! No matter where your go, it’s important to have structure. No matter what that structure is! Some people find it in a job others find life purpose in other ways. Take care.

  • @kevinmooney-s7f
    @kevinmooney-s7f 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Retired people all over the world face the same issues. The transition can be rough. Some people just fail retirement. They aren’t able to move on and accept the fact that their job was only a means to an end. Men especially spend decades climbing the corporate ladder. It becomes more than a job…it actually starts to define who they are and why they are here.

  • @kmilton1593
    @kmilton1593 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That was a great walk, nice trees and landscape. ( I, too, worked in the oil patch for a consultant engineering firm (on the proposed 48" nat gas pipeline from Prudhoe Bay, down through Canada, to U.S. border) for 5 years 1971 to 76.) My question to you, Paul, is I think of engineering as mainly math and physics, with some application of chemistry and electrical: so would you be able to apply A.I. to your engineering challenges, or would it be 95% your own thinking to solve each project?

  • @drewnc6196
    @drewnc6196 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I have seen this article about Sweden where they created a way to turn garbage into electricity. Now they are running out of waste and have to import it. Finding a way to do that on a smaller scale and also the side effect is helping to clean up the trash piles. Falls into your history of working in the energy sector.

    • @alfredopampanga9356
      @alfredopampanga9356 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I think it’s garbage into heat , not electricity. That’s more relevant in cold Sweden than Philippines

  • @frankmazzie4855
    @frankmazzie4855 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    NO MATTER WHERE YOU GO THERE YOU ARE..ITS A SPIRITUAL CONDITION..MY THOUGHTS

  • @stevemorris3544
    @stevemorris3544 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great to see you here again. Happy Holidays. I saw a photo with you at Seans with Gio. Smiles.

  • @walkerskii
    @walkerskii 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thx Paul & Maya honest, even vulnerable content. God created you with an emptiness deep in your soul, which can only be filled with Jesus. This is indeed about not working, not being a productive contributor to society, but not engineering, rather obeying God, loving your Creator, through showing love to other people, by serving them, such as volunteer work through a local service organization or church. You're focused too much on Paul, while Living for Jesus is the only way to find fulfillment, living for yourself will keep you in a state of emptiness & eventually depression

  • @foreignerescapestothephi-lj3ls
    @foreignerescapestothephi-lj3ls 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What your experiencing friend is retirement regret syndrome! That is why it is CRITICAL to have an AFTER retirement PLAN! So now you are like a chicken with its head cut off! Jumping and bouncing around wildly wondering what to do next! A word of advice. Fight doing ANYTHING that resembles what you did BEFORE you were retired! Separate from your past! And start a NEW chapter in your life! Your engineering mind is screwing you over right now! I guarantee it! Good luck and God bless! 😊🙏🏻

  • @Freedom-33
    @Freedom-33 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The meaning of life is to constantly chase your insatiable desires and to please your ego. Nothing less, nothing more

    • @steveahalverson1532
      @steveahalverson1532 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      you should probably read some books...

    • @Freedom-33
      @Freedom-33 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ 🤦

  • @billlloyd9755
    @billlloyd9755 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am 61. I’m looking to be in your shoes next year retirement.

  • @josephbrown5187
    @josephbrown5187 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Try taking a deep dive into understanding "Bitcoin", Paul.
    It's a decentralized network with a capped supply. Used in place like Boracay, also known to some as Bitcoin island.

  • @globaldynamite
    @globaldynamite 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What ever country you decide to retire in, whether it's in your own country, you have to figure out what to do on a daily basis before you can retire. Before retiring you must first visit that country many times to figure out a daily routine otherwise you will be bored and depressed. Some of the most depressed people in the world are retirees . Especially if you don't have a daily routine

  • @JohnS-zq8ks
    @JohnS-zq8ks 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hey Paul, maybe online consulting could be a viable endeavor or online teaching in a petroleum engineering course or perhaps research and writing for an industry rag or creating and operating a non-profit with the goal of extending a university community development program into applied areas. Seems like the incoming US president's agenda will promote energy independence for the US, which provide some online opportunity for a man with your abilities.

  • @dirtyharry8629
    @dirtyharry8629 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Merry Christmas to you both!

  • @MegaBladerunner007
    @MegaBladerunner007 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Woohoo this reminds me of the old walk and talks...Nice! ;)

  • @geoferyunsworth3562
    @geoferyunsworth3562 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Agree mate i left 9 mths ago ..i observed lot of xpats very bored over 13 yrs i seen heap leave new ones move in after 2,or 3 yrs they leave new lot arrive its never ending

  • @tinotino9952
    @tinotino9952 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Well Paul, the vibe of your video is that you need to get productive again. As I’ve said before, I don’t understand why a high income, high driven man quits a great, well-paid job in Saudi to go back to PH. Makes no sense to objective thinking minds. Retirement? You are too young my friend, enjoy life while doing something meaningful, don’t languish in Duma. BTW, tell Mia to get an education, she’s too smart to waste her mind doing NOTHING.

    • @mrrobert177
      @mrrobert177 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      To each their own dude... You don't know what someone else's life should look like

    • @tinotino9952
      @tinotino9952 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@mrrobert177 I see your point Robert, but it’s undeniable that he has many doubts regarding getting a job or travelling around the world or retirement in Dumaguete. He’s having a hard time giving his life some sense or porpoise.

    • @mrrobert177
      @mrrobert177 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@tinotino9952 yeh.. it takes time to change from corporate drone to living the life you want..some are to institutionalized to realize that working for the man until one is to old to enjoy life isn't necessarily your best life..some can't really afford it and i have no idea his finances... I retired at 49 and moved to PH and i haven't looked back in the 2 years so far. But it definitely can take time to find what u want after decades of long hours and chasing the dollar... He's not been educating educating disadvantaged children, he has been working to make multi billion dollar oil companies richer...nothing wrong with that, just maybe if he gives it some time he will find a purpose or pursuit that fulfills him more, then again, maybe not? To each their own. For me retiring from my own busy law practice at 49, best decision i ever made so far. I do agree though the education for a young Filipina woman is something that will enrich her life and future in so many ways, that to not pursue education and the learning, growth and confidence building is almost always a mistake if getting the education isn't a huge burden on yourself or family.

    • @nightguy5796
      @nightguy5796 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      There is more to life then working sport. You keep working till you wake up dead.

    • @ariefraiser140
      @ariefraiser140 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      He's in his 50s. This is the last decade before health issues starts creeping in around his 60s. This is most people's last stop of healthiness and relatively decent energy level. I doubt when Paul is on his death bed he's going to regret choosing to spend his 50s with his partner rather than making a little bit more money he doesn't need.

  • @raywelch6954
    @raywelch6954 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Don't feel depressed Paul. I would trade places with you.

  • @hanksandoval3466
    @hanksandoval3466 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    OK then Paul, I think we should keep track of Mia's Progress, Next Year. 👍

  • @saintluke2nd
    @saintluke2nd 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    real life -- I love it

  • @danitzm
    @danitzm 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I am not going to ask why you are not parents but why don’t you volunteer at a local school. Start a chess club or tutor math.

  • @OneJuanWon
    @OneJuanWon 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Having something to focus on that either keeps your brain active or some social engagement is the healthy thing to do. Some may need it daily, others a few times a week. As someone who enjoys the company of dogs, I would volunteer at an animal shelter or help with rescue efforts so these companions can find a good, loving home. Writing is another activity I enjoy, but not all the time. Devote a couple days a week to just free form out my thoughts or ideas. I've always created a better idea or formulated more complete thoughts when writing on paper vs tapping away at a keyboard.

    • @mikefay100
      @mikefay100 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I love these comments! Thank you

  • @enzos711
    @enzos711 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ask the universe "who am I, what is my purpose, how can I help, what do I want" ..

  • @damncars2618
    @damncars2618 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Retirement is an adaptation of many things. Cooking, gardening, travel, Arduino, and baby making fill my days now. It's a rough life but someone has to do it. Do you feel sorry for me?😂

  • @alfredopampanga9356
    @alfredopampanga9356 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Note to Paul …..stop looking for your purpose in life. There isn’t one The question of life purpose is a little pretentious and an exaggerated self assessment

  • @novak4594
    @novak4594 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Source a local engineering university in the PP and mentor students. Free and rewarding

  • @markmeenaghan934
    @markmeenaghan934 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It looks beautiful there,but if not busy- I have same problem

  • @JohnTaylor-yk9hl
    @JohnTaylor-yk9hl 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You can work on line as consultant in your field

  • @FritzBerlin
    @FritzBerlin 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    It's great to take early retirement so soon, but you should know that you are now in your prime time for career progress with Energy. Don't get me wrong, it's ok not to work. But 15-20 years from now you will never be able to do what you could do today. The momentum shifts, and your drive diminishes over the years! I wish you the right decisions.

  • @Roadwarrior1953
    @Roadwarrior1953 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You can do a lot now that you can't do at 70. People dont think about that the years they spend just making money. Maybe you can find a mixture of adventure and also work a side gig while doing your channel

  • @roadtothephilippines8644
    @roadtothephilippines8644 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Paul… give Mia a chance to speak 😅😅😅.
    Okay ok. Later in the video she spoke more 😅❤❤

  • @neilmarsden6765
    @neilmarsden6765 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    good video down to earth

  • @neilgunns8391
    @neilgunns8391 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    As a lifelong health nut I’ll warn you. Sleep is probably the most important thing for your health. It’s foolish to not get it if you’re able to make your own hours. I understand you’re reason, but it’s not wise, and that’s an understatement.

    • @neilgunns8391
      @neilgunns8391 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Lack of energy and brain fog from lack of sleep isn’t gonna help your mood either.

  • @DaveHowTo
    @DaveHowTo 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    For me the best cure for depression or to ward it off and overthinking is prayer. The Philippines has a deep level of Christian faith everywhere you go here. Why not tap into it. We often lack that in the West. The sheer joy of sharing Mass with thousands of people over Xmas

    • @monkessj469
      @monkessj469 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Jesus cured my depression!

  • @LunaMiel186
    @LunaMiel186 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The Philippines is a great place to go for 2 weeks for vacation, or to retire when you’re 70. Paul you still have a good mind and you’re too young to retire in the Philippines due to lack of stimulation. I think your mental well-being would be better served if you continued working for several more years. Continuing on your current glide path will result in mental deterioration, crankiness, and a general sense of malaise. Strongly recommend you keep yourself stimulated through your engineering profession, and vacation in the Philippines twice a year. Over to you! 💪🙏

  • @XxxAoBaa-mg2xm
    @XxxAoBaa-mg2xm 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    the " beauty " of a woman gets old pretty fast in a relation - so what remains is her character and woman are just too different to be a good compagnion to a man - a man needs a challenge in his active mode - and the freedom in his passive mode including sexual freedom

  • @Qima1
    @Qima1 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    You are one conflicted man. I don't think you have depression as much as anxiety issues.

  • @elizabethlandry1691
    @elizabethlandry1691 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dude, just decide to give up being a type A personality, give yourself permission to relax. I used to work as RN, RN’s have to be type A or people die. Just help the society near you.

  • @orvillelb
    @orvillelb 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    And tea.

  • @TRICK-OR-TREAT236
    @TRICK-OR-TREAT236 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I THINK YOU NEED MORE JOGGING NOT VLOGGING. JOGGING IS GREAT FOR BOTH THE MIND AND BODY. JUST DON'T DO IT ON A TREADMILL. IT'S A REAL ENERGY HIGH.

  • @bobwelo
    @bobwelo 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

  • @SunRise-ul7ko
    @SunRise-ul7ko 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Australia is stuffed.

    • @sirdino6967
      @sirdino6967 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      why is it stuffed ?

  • @ronaldtrunk7944
    @ronaldtrunk7944 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    you won't find opportunities for high level conversations living there as an expat. mainly because finding people of the same education level you are compatible with is difficult. being with a girl who is many years younger, you won't have the same views or see things from the same stage in life. you cannot discuss politics or religion with anyone. there are no sports teams anyone is passionate about. most people there are in survival mode. does anyone there read books for fun? after awhile you will miss the high level conversations

    • @mikefay100
      @mikefay100 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Oh my God, spot on! I’m curious Ronald, are you somewhere in the Philippines?

  • @eagleeyes9112
    @eagleeyes9112 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    For your mental and physical health, you need a 15-km long continuously protected jogging / biking path along a clean river with fresh air, lush mangrove patches, beautiful flower gardens, relaxing sceneries and exercise equipments here and there. And maybe find some nice restaurants along the way. You can have it only at the Iloilo Esplanade, Iloilo City, Philippines

  • @hanksandoval3466
    @hanksandoval3466 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Honestly, I wish you the Best. But it sounds like you're short on cash.

  • @LegalAutomation
    @LegalAutomation 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are not alone Paul. Men find true meaning in work.

  • @EverylittlethingStephane
    @EverylittlethingStephane 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow an other day you admire a beautiful flower in valancia not on thoose days you see plastic bottles 😂if you look very carefully again the video you could see that there was a plastic bottle on the tree next to the flower but you didn’t mentioned may be you didn’t see

  • @orvillelb
    @orvillelb 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Quite the coffee for ever. 😂

  • @jonathancoffman4311
    @jonathancoffman4311 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Join the gym
    Travel a little
    Enjoy your kid bride

  • @paulgriffin6256
    @paulgriffin6256 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You need a routine, and to build a life away from your wife.

  • @john_sparks
    @john_sparks 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Paul, I suggest a new solution to end your boredom. I believe like you, I am in a good financial position. Not rich, but comfortable.
    However, after two years here in Cebu City with my wife and son, I could feel myself losing interest. I was recently retired before coming over and I realized the thing I always did best was make money.
    So I took on something new: forex trading. It's difficult and high risk. But there are people who succeed.
    I'm profitable now after a few months trading cash. More importantly, I am excited to get up every morning and look at the charts. Best of all, I can spend just three or four hours trading or go for 8 hours if I'm seriously on a run.
    I'm also adding to the future wealth of my son, so I feel incredibly gratified.

  • @EricB07
    @EricB07 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Easy...make a baby 😂....and build a home. You be busy years to come.

  • @Islandwaterjet
    @Islandwaterjet 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    So his big plan is to become a vlogger. Some men are very resourceful they will find a way to guarantee their own failure. Sorry my friend do not mean to disparage you here but... come on now you cant be serious. Unsubscribed because I do not want to see your inevitable crash and burn.

  • @gaboristvankiska7655
    @gaboristvankiska7655 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Nice to see you again Paul and Mia. I don't want to give advice but the best would be to have a baby for you guys and than you will never feel bored again. Are you planning to buy a car for convenience purposes or you still have your beautiful motorcycle the Ninja?

  • @wjebel
    @wjebel 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You should get into crypto, learning how to farm and get air drops, trading. You're smart enough and have the time.

  • @mirceacluj6539
    @mirceacluj6539 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Get Mia and come to Spain man...life is cheaper here than in the Philippines! Good medical care, quality food, cheap properties, 1st world country! The only reason to come back to the Pi is to find my Mia!😂😂😂

    • @mikefay100
      @mikefay100 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Spain sounds interesting. I’ve been in Cebu City for past 1+ years. Finally at my mental end with the craziness 😮 where in Spain I wonder and Filipina visa hard to attain? Would love your feedback.

  • @listerine414
    @listerine414 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I'm Cebu city right now wow what a dump. Jesus this is like Honduras. I could have flown 6 hours to see run down central America instead of 15. Cebu is a filthy dump....I'll now go see Dumaguete and see more vloggers lies ?

    • @nitrowheel
      @nitrowheel 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I also feel deceived by vloggers. Cebu was marked as cleaner with less traffic than Manila.. BS. Duma’s the same. Try Panglao Bohol: cleaner air and decent beaches.

    • @listerine414
      @listerine414 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @nitrowheel I'm going to Bohol now. Thanks. Then I will at least go see Dumaguete. And Valencia. Prob another disappointment ahead

    • @actsofkindnessinspiredhelpingo
      @actsofkindnessinspiredhelpingo 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      We spent 3 years at Fort Bonifacio BGC a clean and beautiful City. Problem was IT was missing the coastline “Beaches”
      So then we moved to Cebu, Mactan Lapu Lapu Punta Engano area. Oh my what a disappoinment. Everyone described Cebu as a beautiful place! They forgot to mention the hurrible traffic, conjestion, and trash every where.
      Finally moved to Masbate away from the rat race. No traffice, less people, less facilities, less stress.
      Boardem, depression, difficult time adapting depends on the person. Not easy getting use to less Choices in life but can easily be adoptive in time. A person needs to be pro active to be happy.
      Seems like no matter where we choose there Will always be CONs.
      Lets see!
      Big places, big oppertunities, over populated , expensive, traffic, crime, more complainig.
      Smaller City, simular situation. Inevidable before same problem accure.
      Number #1 PRO OF the Philippines in my opinion are the people!
      Pros and cons no Matter where you choose.
      No matter where we choose to live in the world, your Pros must out weigh your Cons.
      Think the number one most important in my opinion is for a person to have the funds, preferably a pension enough to live happy.
      For US we are happier with Less people! Seems like more people means more problems. The farther away for US means less trash, and noise polution. We like our SPACE, in the Middle OF no where ON the coast, sounds OF the waves, Windy, with vegitation Cocunut, mango, and banana, and Palm tres, view OF the Ocean. Very Peaceful.
      When you Find your Heavin, is when you sleep well waking UP in the Morning feeling refresh.
      We all growing OLD enjoy what time you have left.
      Most importently make wise chioces that meet your expectations in order for you to be happy.
      Different strokes for different folks

    • @Eric-ff3cy
      @Eric-ff3cy 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      The only Vlogger I’ve seen being truthful about the condition of things in the Philippines is actually Paul 👍
      Not any kind of “ Paradise “ like many of the other vloggers describe the place, but of course it’s over 7400 islands so some are better and some worse …

  • @yusra12
    @yusra12 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I think its time to have a little girl

    • @mikefay100
      @mikefay100 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😮😂