I got rid of a present that was nice and funny. But it was from an ex boyfriend who treated me so badly, so I decided to give it away. My room suddenly felt lighter and nice ❤️
I took apart a set of bowls that my grandparents used every time we visited and used in their lives every day. I used them while raising my own children. Then, I kept the two bowls and the other 3 bowls, I gave one to each of my 3 grown children when they left home to live on their own. This gave them each a necessary item to set up their first kitchen AND beautiful memories of their great grandparents and their own home together. The bowls are the only thing I took when they passed away. Others took enough boxes full to fill a garage. Those full boxes are still being stored in attics, garages , barns and storage facilities. It’s been 18 years. Most of the items are probably ruined by now.
Yes, I think many people experience that! I was especially surprised when I realized that I still felt bad for decluttering them which seems so unnecessary... ☺
Im so glad you've come into my life. I have watched alot of your video's and just found this one. This helps me with the things I got of my moms after she passed. Im only 39 but feel a lot older because of all of the extra weight of things I have. Next time i have a couple days off I'm going to start decluttering just my bedroom so i don't get overwhelmed which is very easy for me to do. Im also a horder which comes from having childhood trauma. I know this and that is half the battle to know I have a problem. Just have to remember to take it slow and easy and also to know when to stop and step away to breath. Thank you again you don't know how much you've helped me.
Excellent video. I have found decluttering sentimental items similar to you...I started with 8 large rubber maid bins...I'm now down to 4. One of the bins has only two items in it , it's just that they are larger...my childhood dollhouse and a very large childhood heirloom teddy bear. I took photos of my sentimental items and that is how I have been able to let go of a lot more. I'm on about round three , not ready to go again anytime ready soon but I do think the day will come where I can let go of more...but maybe not and I'm ok either way. I think it is so important to be slow and gentle and kind with myself. I'm so glad you acknowledged that sometimes the importance of the item is about actually touching or seeing or feeling the actual item. You are the first minimalist I know to acknowledge this ...most just say .." you will still have the memory" and I always want to say " ahh, no, not necessarily, the item itself helps me remember and feel the memories from the past like nothing else ever can or does". And I like that feeling, ability about keeping the actual item.
Finally, finally decluttering sentimental items after the deaths of my parents, grandparents, and friends was the HARDEST and also most PIVOTAL point in my minimalism journey. Thanks for sharing your process and a realistic philosophy. ❤️ You are right, it’s a process...
I can imagine! I do also think that for a lot of people it would be beneficial in the long run to think about and go through their sentimental items even if minimalism is not the goal. But I feel lime I learned so much about myself just by decluttering and thinking about keepsakes!
I hope you always feel this way because I'm much older than you and spent much of my life thinking I wasn't sentimental and didn't need those things so therefore I kept very very little. Now fast forward 30 years and as I look back and think about many of those things; I wish I had kept more.
That is so hard to determine sometimes... And it is sad if we end up regretting our earlier decisions. Even if I give it a lot of thought I will possibly end up in the same situation but I think just being mindful and paying attention to how I really feel about things can protect me from the worst of it ☺ because I also think it would not be a good solution if I just kept mountains of things where I wouldn't be able to appreciate the individual pieces and just be overwhelmed by the amount...
I decluttered a large number of sentimental items just before COVID. I was fine with what I had decided to declutter but my son got somewhat upset because I had given away something he had given me when he was a child - that would have been like 20 years ago. I felt bad for him that he felt bad but I wasn't personally unhappy about giving away the item. I hadn't used it in a long time and I felt someone else could use it more than me. I found it interesting how our feelings about that item differed.
I real enjoyed this. These are good tips even if someone is not minimalist. I am not minimalist but I’m decluttering and I find that I can adapt lessons for my own life from those who teach minimalism. ❤️
Lia, your mom sounds a darling having put your drawings into books and.... When I was a child we moved so much between countries to live. Meaning my family bought and sold furniture and goodness knows what. So I grew up not keeping sentimental items and guess I was a kind of Hippy minimalist if one can say that. Even now I only keep things I use and enjoy. Buy I live alone and in a nice studio apartment in Zurich. So there is a limit to my amount of things I can accumulate. But guess I am lucky. Enjoyed this video.
I digitized many of my sentimental items as well. Shutterfly is a company you upload photos to and they print them in a hardcover book in your choice of size and pages. It's a fabulous way to keep drawings and photographs protected but in one lightweight small book.
You show wisdom beyond your years, yes, everyone is different and everyone develops differently as they get older, also it will always depend on your past and how it has affected you. I began decluttering and minimising at age 34 with a busy family around me. Now 56 and a grandmother, I am still decluttering and minimising and it's been a long journey - I'm still not "there" and may never be. However, it has taught me so much and it has made room for things that really are important to me. I was brought up to appreciate my family history and older family members, as was my husband. Over the years we have integrated FIVE other households into ours, each time having to choose what we preferred to keep and what was less important to us. Our home has plenty of stuff in it, but it's all things we use regularly and enjoy looking at (it's probably more than some people have and less than others!), and if I wasn't going through the process all the time, I wouldn't be able to have any of it to appreciate. It's wonderful (for us!) to have a home where everything has a story and a memory and we in fact don't have much from our own childhoods just everything is personal. Which made me think that every person will define "sentimental items" differently, too... Whereas our relatives often had very static homes where nothing ever changed (and that may have given us stability), our own home is constantly evolving and we have the pleasure of the history. That is the main thing that makes me sad about young minimalists, who frequently aren't interested in general or family history, it seems pretty short-sighted to me because history is who we are and where we come from - but again, people are different. Of course, if by "sentimental items" you mean a box that is never opened or used, that is different. Or just junk or things that are clutter and a mess - by all means get rid of the superfluous and superficial!! Where I do have a problem is digitising - to me, it is far from permanent. In the last 40 years there have been so many changes in technology that we were told were permanent, I don't for a moment believe that digitising will make things accessible for more than a few years. If I didn't have the physical photos of my great-great grandmother in 1895, I would have nothing. I currently have 40000 photos on my laptop, of which probably 10000 I would be so sad to lose - even with back-ups, cloud, external hard-disks etc. there is no guarantee that I will still be able to access them in 5-10-15 years, so much technology is already obsolete within a couple of years - unless I print them out and keep them physically. I have lost several years of digital photos in the past from older systems and it's a real hole to have no visual cue for that period of time. At the end of the day, whether you're 20, 50 or 80, you will have a different story and different object memories and I thought you did very well in this video!
Love this video! I have reduced my keepsakes down from nine banana boxes to one shoe box. I have found I now look through my keepsakes more often as they are more accessible and therefore I gain a lot more enjoyment from them ✨
I just severely decluttered my sentimental items and it's made me sad but also soooo much lighter, and it freed up so much space for me to actually use to create new things! Thank you for this video it was perfect timing in my life!
I had to distinguish between sentimental items that I treasure and things that are just old and from an earlier part of my life that I have carried with me all these years. In many instances I have carried and stored many items from earlier days simply because I did not feel like I could or should let go of them. Once I realized that, the process became easier.
Thank you lia for sharing your perspective... I also had many drawings from my chindhood, my parents were never interested in them it was me who kept all these drawings for almost 20 years(as they were the only good memories of my childhood). But last year after becoming a minimalist I realised that these drawings could no longer add value to my life and collecting dust in my house. So I decided to let go of all these emotions and donate my drawings to a orphanage. I still have memories of these items but they are not bounded to any physical things.😊
That sounds beautiful! And it is so true that often even if it is hard and there are a lot of emotions, things and memories are not the same and sometimes it Is more beneficial to just let go of the objects from the past..
Ja.sentimentales kommt noch dran. Vor jahren habe ich das buch "happyness projekt" gelesen.danach habe ich die kindergarten und schulzeichnungen und papierbasteleien fotografiert und für jedes kind ein dünnes fotobuch gestaltet.kam megagut an bei den jungs.besondere bilder hatte ich laminiert z.b. ein gemalter schneemann der kam dann im winter als deko an den küchenschrank. Thanks for your video.
I have the same thoughts as you do. I’m working on my sentimental items now and it’s not easy. I have digitized many items and the digital images do bring back the same memories for me.
I have not watched your videos since before the virus. Since then I started an entirely new life and just last night started throwing out sentimental stuff from my old life because I realized the negativity it created. Long ways to go yet, though. Still love your channel! 🙂
I am glad you liked the video! I love to use the time I have at home for decluttering and getting to know my needs and my relationship with stuff better ☺
Hey Lia! love your videos because they are really inspiring me to begin my journey with minimalism. And i’m really curious to know what you do to protect your skin from to much sunlight, do you use any kind of sunscreen? Thank you for always sharing new visions about life!
It is amazing how much junk most of my neighbours have in their Swiss cellars. As you know it is very difficult to find a place in CH, so people stay put where they are. One neighbour only has cardboard boxes in hers. Asked her why she keeps them, as I would class this as a possible fire hazard. She said she might need them one fine day. After all she might need them if..... But those boxes can be bought so cheaply at IKEA or in another place. This hoarding mentality of one day if..... story baffles me. But as you say each one to their own.
Yes, I think so many people keep things they don't need... Actually right now our cellar has some junk in it as well... Our old washing machine which stopped working a few months ago and some other stuff that needs to go to a recycling facility... But with covid and without a car we couldn't go there ao I am glad I have our basement to put these things... ☺ for old boxs, I gave them away for free and people picked them up for moving ☺
@@ecofriendlia Your basement sounds horror of horrors Lia 😃😃😃😃 In Germany is there no recycling place that you can contact and ask them to take away the stuff for a fee. In CH, you can contact a company. Book a time and date plus pay maybe CHF 50 - 60 and they remove the stuff very efficiently. All you have to do is contact them, put the stuff on the pavement at 08.00 in the morning or a given time, it is all collected and you then just pay the bill. Hey pronto. But maybe things are easier in CH than in Germany. I do not know.
I'm still holding onto toys from childhood. My parents got rid of most of my baby things because we moved a lot. My husband didn't keep a lot of his sentimental items but his mom had some of his baby clothes. We have two small bins that we fit in the closet. Most of my friends in the US still keep their childhood belongings with their parents but we do not have that luxury. Thankfully, because I have been working towards minimalism and decluttering we have room in our small NYC apartment to hold these physical items since renting a storage space is also costly. I feel we won't declutter these items fully until we have children and see what they are most drawn to. Maybe they won't like any of our childhood belongings. 😂
I think it is somehow normal to keep sentimental items at the parent's house but I am glad my mom sId I should take mine with me then I moved out. It is important to me to be in control of my stuff and I don't get any benefits from keeping sentimental things if I don't have access to them... ☺
I do like this video, it is so timely for me. I ll start a new round of sentimental declutter. I am also a mum of one son. He's 9. How much of your son's drawings and stuff do you keep. Do you make him photo albums? Since being a mum I am not so attached to my sentimental items, but I kinda want to keep everything that is his. How do you decide there? Thanks, and I love your channel. You are a true minimalist. A lot of minimalists as I see kinda advertise a lot of sustainable.. Eco and so on products and clothes.. You inspire me to be satisfied with what I have instead. I find it beautiful. Thanks and all the best.
I think there is no clear right or wrong way to do it. I know I am very happy that my mom kept a lot, but still, I decluttered most things now but the difference is that it is my decision. I have kept a few things for my sons like his first pair of shoes, a blanket, and some other clothes. I have not made photo albums yet, but I took a ton of pictures and have them well organized on harddrives. I think at one point I want to print some for an album or print an album but somehow we just haven't done that. But in the future, my son can help decide which pictures should be in there and the same goes for his drawings. I usually keep everything he wants to keep first and after a while, we go through it again to decide if he really wants all of it. For now, he has a lot of sentimental items but maybe this will change since he is a collector in general hat his age of seven years and I remember I was similar. And if not, it is his choice. I just try to involve him so he can learn how to take responsibility for his belongings ☺
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I got rid of a present that was nice and funny. But it was from an ex boyfriend who treated me so badly, so I decided to give it away. My room suddenly felt lighter and nice ❤️
happy for you ♥️
I want to do the same thing :) wish you the best ❤️
I took apart a set of bowls that my grandparents used every time we visited and used in their lives every day. I used them while raising my own children. Then, I kept the two bowls and the other 3 bowls, I gave one to each of my 3 grown children when they left home to live on their own. This gave them each a necessary item to set up their first kitchen AND beautiful memories of their great grandparents and their own home together. The bowls are the only thing I took when they passed away. Others took enough boxes full to fill a garage. Those full boxes are still being stored in attics, garages , barns and storage facilities. It’s been 18 years. Most of the items are probably ruined by now.
I was surprised when I noticed that some of my sentimental items actually made me feel bad. They brought up bad memories and feelings
Yes, I think many people experience that! I was especially surprised when I realized that I still felt bad for decluttering them which seems so unnecessary... ☺
Me too.
pro tip: you can watch movies on instaflixxer. I've been using them for watching all kinds of movies during the lockdown.
@Alvin Jamir yea, I have been using InstaFlixxer for months myself :)
The more we do it it's true you really strengthen your declutter muscle.💪
Im so glad you've come into my life. I have watched alot of your video's and just found this one. This helps me with the things I got of my moms after she passed. Im only 39 but feel a lot older because of all of the extra weight of things I have. Next time i have a couple days off I'm going to start decluttering just my bedroom so i don't get overwhelmed which is very easy for me to do. Im also a horder which comes from having childhood trauma. I know this and that is half the battle to know I have a problem. Just have to remember to take it slow and easy and also to know when to stop and step away to breath. Thank you again you don't know how much you've helped me.
Excellent video. I have found decluttering sentimental items similar to you...I started with 8 large rubber maid bins...I'm now down to 4. One of the bins has only two items in it , it's just that they are larger...my childhood dollhouse and a very large childhood heirloom teddy bear. I took photos of my sentimental items and that is how I have been able to let go of a lot more. I'm on about round three , not ready to go again anytime ready soon but I do think the day will come where I can let go of more...but maybe not and I'm ok either way. I think it is so important to be slow and gentle and kind with myself. I'm so glad you acknowledged that sometimes the importance of the item is about actually touching or seeing or feeling the actual item. You are the first minimalist I know to acknowledge this ...most just say .." you will still have the memory" and I always want to say " ahh, no, not necessarily, the item itself helps me remember and feel the memories from the past like nothing else ever can or does". And I like that feeling, ability about keeping the actual item.
Finally, finally decluttering sentimental items after the deaths of my parents, grandparents, and friends was the HARDEST and also most PIVOTAL point in my minimalism journey. Thanks for sharing your process and a realistic philosophy. ❤️ You are right, it’s a process...
I can imagine! I do also think that for a lot of people it would be beneficial in the long run to think about and go through their sentimental items even if minimalism is not the goal. But I feel lime I learned so much about myself just by decluttering and thinking about keepsakes!
I hope you always feel this way because I'm much older than you and spent much of my life thinking I wasn't sentimental and didn't need those things so therefore I kept very very little. Now fast forward 30 years and as I look back and think about many of those things; I wish I had kept more.
That is so hard to determine sometimes... And it is sad if we end up regretting our earlier decisions. Even if I give it a lot of thought I will possibly end up in the same situation but I think just being mindful and paying attention to how I really feel about things can protect me from the worst of it ☺ because I also think it would not be a good solution if I just kept mountains of things where I wouldn't be able to appreciate the individual pieces and just be overwhelmed by the amount...
I decluttered a large number of sentimental items just before COVID. I was fine with what I had decided to declutter but my son got somewhat upset because I had given away something he had given me when he was a child - that would have been like 20 years ago. I felt bad for him that he felt bad but I wasn't personally unhappy about giving away the item. I hadn't used it in a long time and I felt someone else could use it more than me. I found it interesting how our feelings about that item differed.
I real enjoyed this. These are good tips even if someone is not minimalist. I am not minimalist but I’m decluttering and I find that I can adapt lessons for my own life from those who teach minimalism. ❤️
Lia, your mom sounds a darling
having put your drawings into
books and.... When I was a child
we moved so much between
countries to live. Meaning my
family bought and sold furniture
and goodness knows what. So
I grew up not keeping sentimental
items and guess I was a kind of
Hippy minimalist if one can say
that. Even now I only keep things
I use and enjoy. Buy I live alone and
in a nice studio apartment in Zurich.
So there is a limit to my amount of
things I can accumulate. But guess
I am lucky. Enjoyed this video.
I digitized many of my sentimental items as well. Shutterfly is a company you upload photos to and they print them in a hardcover book in your choice of size and pages. It's a fabulous way to keep drawings and photographs protected but in one lightweight small book.
there is a saying: "anything i left behind, would probably be left behind forever"! :)
You show wisdom beyond your years, yes, everyone is different and everyone develops differently as they get older, also it will always depend on your past and how it has affected you.
I began decluttering and minimising at age 34 with a busy family around me. Now 56 and a grandmother, I am still decluttering and minimising and it's been a long journey - I'm still not "there" and may never be. However, it has taught me so much and it has made room for things that really are important to me. I was brought up to appreciate my family history and older family members, as was my husband. Over the years we have integrated FIVE other households into ours, each time having to choose what we preferred to keep and what was less important to us. Our home has plenty of stuff in it, but it's all things we use regularly and enjoy looking at (it's probably more than some people have and less than others!), and if I wasn't going through the process all the time, I wouldn't be able to have any of it to appreciate. It's wonderful (for us!) to have a home where everything has a story and a memory and we in fact don't have much from our own childhoods just everything is personal.
Which made me think that every person will define "sentimental items" differently, too... Whereas our relatives often had very static homes where nothing ever changed (and that may have given us stability), our own home is constantly evolving and we have the pleasure of the history. That is the main thing that makes me sad about young minimalists, who frequently aren't interested in general or family history, it seems pretty short-sighted to me because history is who we are and where we come from - but again, people are different.
Of course, if by "sentimental items" you mean a box that is never opened or used, that is different. Or just junk or things that are clutter and a mess - by all means get rid of the superfluous and superficial!!
Where I do have a problem is digitising - to me, it is far from permanent. In the last 40 years there have been so many changes in technology that we were told were permanent, I don't for a moment believe that digitising will make things accessible for more than a few years. If I didn't have the physical photos of my great-great grandmother in 1895, I would have nothing. I currently have 40000 photos on my laptop, of which probably 10000 I would be so sad to lose - even with back-ups, cloud, external hard-disks etc. there is no guarantee that I will still be able to access them in 5-10-15 years, so much technology is already obsolete within a couple of years - unless I print them out and keep them physically. I have lost several years of digital photos in the past from older systems and it's a real hole to have no visual cue for that period of time.
At the end of the day, whether you're 20, 50 or 80, you will have a different story and different object memories and I thought you did very well in this video!
Love this video! I have reduced my keepsakes down from nine banana boxes to one shoe box. I have found I now look through my keepsakes more often as they are more accessible and therefore I gain a lot more enjoyment from them ✨
I experience the same! I didn't have nine, but maybe three or four banana boxes worth of keepsakes ☺
I just severely decluttered my sentimental items and it's made me sad but also soooo much lighter, and it freed up so much space for me to actually use to create new things! Thank you for this video it was perfect timing in my life!
I had to distinguish between sentimental items that I treasure and things that are just old and from an earlier part of my life that I have carried with me all these years. In many instances I have carried and stored many items from earlier days simply because I did not feel like I could or should let go of them. Once I realized that, the process became easier.
Thank you lia for sharing your perspective... I also had many drawings from my chindhood, my parents were never interested in them it was me who kept all these drawings for almost 20 years(as they were the only good memories of my childhood). But last year after becoming a minimalist I realised that these drawings could no longer add value to my life and collecting dust in my house. So I decided to let go of all these emotions and donate my drawings to a orphanage. I still have memories of these items but they are not bounded to any physical things.😊
That sounds beautiful! And it is so true that often even if it is hard and there are a lot of emotions, things and memories are not the same and sometimes it Is more beneficial to just let go of the objects from the past..
I don’t think I ever let such an item let go and I feel regret. Life is so much about moving that we might not even remember them!!!
Ja.sentimentales kommt noch dran. Vor jahren habe ich das buch "happyness projekt" gelesen.danach habe ich die kindergarten und schulzeichnungen und papierbasteleien fotografiert und für jedes kind ein dünnes fotobuch gestaltet.kam megagut an bei den jungs.besondere bilder hatte ich laminiert z.b. ein gemalter schneemann der kam dann im winter als deko an den küchenschrank. Thanks for your video.
Thanks for this! Been looking for advice on this specific topic. Love your videos!
I have the same thoughts as you do. I’m working on my sentimental items now and it’s not easy. I have digitized many items and the digital images do bring back the same memories for me.
I have not watched your videos since before the virus. Since then I started an entirely new life and just last night started throwing out sentimental stuff from my old life because I realized the negativity it created. Long ways to go yet, though. Still love your channel! 🙂
I am glad you liked the video! I love to use the time I have at home for decluttering and getting to know my needs and my relationship with stuff better ☺
Hey Lia! love your videos because they are really inspiring me to begin my journey with minimalism. And i’m really curious to know what you do to protect your skin from to much sunlight, do you use any kind of sunscreen? Thank you for always sharing new visions about life!
It is amazing how much junk
most of my neighbours have
in their Swiss cellars. As you
know it is very difficult to find
a place in CH, so people stay
put where they are. One neighbour
only has cardboard boxes in hers.
Asked her why she keeps them, as
I would class this as a possible fire
hazard. She said she might need
them one fine day. After all she
might need them if..... But those
boxes can be bought so cheaply
at IKEA or in another place. This
hoarding mentality of one day if.....
story baffles me. But as you say
each one to their own.
Yes, I think so many people keep things they don't need... Actually right now our cellar has some junk in it as well... Our old washing machine which stopped working a few months ago and some other stuff that needs to go to a recycling facility... But with covid and without a car we couldn't go there ao I am glad I have our basement to put these things... ☺ for old boxs, I gave them away for free and people picked them up for moving ☺
@@ecofriendlia Your basement
sounds horror of horrors Lia
😃😃😃😃 In Germany is there
no recycling place that you can
contact and ask them to take
away the stuff for a fee. In CH,
you can contact a company.
Book a time and date plus pay
maybe CHF 50 - 60 and they
remove the stuff very efficiently.
All you have to do is contact them,
put the stuff on the pavement at
08.00 in the morning or a given
time, it is all collected and you
then just pay the bill. Hey pronto.
But maybe things are easier in
CH than in Germany. I do not
know.
I'm still holding onto toys from childhood. My parents got rid of most of my baby things because we moved a lot. My husband didn't keep a lot of his sentimental items but his mom had some of his baby clothes. We have two small bins that we fit in the closet. Most of my friends in the US still keep their childhood belongings with their parents but we do not have that luxury. Thankfully, because I have been working towards minimalism and decluttering we have room in our small NYC apartment to hold these physical items since renting a storage space is also costly. I feel we won't declutter these items fully until we have children and see what they are most drawn to. Maybe they won't like any of our childhood belongings. 😂
I think it is somehow normal to keep sentimental items at the parent's house but I am glad my mom sId I should take mine with me then I moved out. It is important to me to be in control of my stuff and I don't get any benefits from keeping sentimental things if I don't have access to them... ☺
How would you recycle photos? I don't think they could go with the paper recycling.
I do like this video, it is so timely for me. I ll start a new round of sentimental declutter. I am also a mum of one son. He's 9. How much of your son's drawings and stuff do you keep. Do you make him photo albums? Since being a mum I am not so attached to my sentimental items, but I kinda want to keep everything that is his. How do you decide there? Thanks, and I love your channel. You are a true minimalist. A lot of minimalists as I see kinda advertise a lot of sustainable.. Eco and so on products and clothes.. You inspire me to be satisfied with what I have instead. I find it beautiful. Thanks and all the best.
I think there is no clear right or wrong way to do it. I know I am very happy that my mom kept a lot, but still, I decluttered most things now but the difference is that it is my decision. I have kept a few things for my sons like his first pair of shoes, a blanket, and some other clothes. I have not made photo albums yet, but I took a ton of pictures and have them well organized on harddrives. I think at one point I want to print some for an album or print an album but somehow we just haven't done that. But in the future, my son can help decide which pictures should be in there and the same goes for his drawings. I usually keep everything he wants to keep first and after a while, we go through it again to decide if he really wants all of it. For now, he has a lot of sentimental items but maybe this will change since he is a collector in general hat his age of seven years and I remember I was similar. And if not, it is his choice. I just try to involve him so he can learn how to take responsibility for his belongings ☺
@@ecofriendlia thank you :)
thank you so much ♥♥
I am glad you liked it! ☺
There’s another saying.... you can’t take it with you.