Honest advice for surviving your 20's

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  • @leenanorms
    @leenanorms  3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    👋 Hello! Thanks for watching. Here's some more twenties videos to feast your eyes on:
    ○ Renting in your twenties: what they don't tell you: th-cam.com/video/xttMhm8CK_U/w-d-xo.html
    ○ Stop saying this in your twenties (and what to say instead): th-cam.com/video/_wxf2sDRCqo/w-d-xo.html
    ○ Being honest with my boyfriend: relationships in your twenties: th-cam.com/video/ZA2pfyRB7as/w-d-xo.html
    Or watch the full series: th-cam.com/play/PLb1-lu-abhnXUN45sj2ur8lmnY-s5YnQn.html

  • @ItsRadishTime
    @ItsRadishTime 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1288

    top tip i learned in my twenties: if you don't like a thing you're allowed to leave. Could be a job, a city, a relationship, a marriage (all of the above for me!) you're not doing anyone any favors by staying in a situation that makes you miserable. It may be hard, it may take some planning especially financially, you may disappoint people. But if you really want to leave, you're allowed to leave.

    • @PortraitofAsha
      @PortraitofAsha 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Amen. I suffered for five years in a hellish job and I'm still trying to forgive myself for doing so.

    • @beautybygita2917
      @beautybygita2917 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i love your videos, and currently in the process of leaving all three as well (my marriage, city and job) and it is very scary and hard, but i'm thankful to have finally given myself permission to make those decisions and very excited for what comes next.

    • @pinkunicornglitter
      @pinkunicornglitter 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What an excellent piece of advice.

    • @sahonysanchez392
      @sahonysanchez392 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow. Thank you. I needed to read this.

    • @givemeprimelaughter
      @givemeprimelaughter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      THIS !!!! Which is why I now live in a city and have forever left my tiny, small minded, hometown behind.

  • @chrissyreflects
    @chrissyreflects 5 ปีที่แล้ว +929

    Advice from an over 30:
    1. 30s are way more satisfying than 20s get ready to enjoy knowing who you are, what you want, and gaining confidence. Your 20s are like the foundation of learning. Your 30s are the pay out.
    2. I did this in my 20s but if you haven’t yet worked with a therapist do that. As soon as possible.
    3. Spend 1-10 years of your 20s dedicated to learning to love and attend to YOU. Take as long as you take because you’re worth the time and energy.
    4. Knowing someone a long time does not mean you have to keep giving them your time and energy. People ebb and flow. Friendships change. Relationships change. Let them go with as much grace and kindness as you can but leave the guilt.
    5. Don’t do the things you’ve learned you don’t like because of the fear of missing out. I do not and have not ever enjoyed clubbing,
    Bars, or night life. I spent so much of my 20s doing those things because I didn’t wanna miss out. Sometimes missing out is the RIGHT choice.
    And finally
    6. Life is not a to do list. You don’t have to own a home, have kids, get married, get a car, upgrade your job to get it done. Pursue happiness as you find it not a pre imposed status check list.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      YES, all of this is fab. Particularly like no 4. x

    • @smoothbrain3742
      @smoothbrain3742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Late to the party but I’m 22 and I think that last bit hit hard
      Someone’s cutting onions
      Thank you

    • @jelenag6112
      @jelenag6112 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      just turned 24 a week ago, I really appreciate this list. This years made me reevaluate my life in a big way, ty!

    • @sammysstart.8169
      @sammysstart.8169 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Woah🤯...that was good👏👏👏

    • @chrissyreflects
      @chrissyreflects 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Pauline Moira that was true for me and for many of the people I know and love which is why it was my number 1. Of course that may not be applicable to everyone. Take what serves you and leave the rest. ❤️

  • @IzzyInkpen
    @IzzyInkpen 5 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    'ignore your past self' oh boy this is a BIG ONE.

  • @dragonsgorawr1
    @dragonsgorawr1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +396

    Learn when to be selfish. Prioritising yourself is not a bad thing as you are the one person who’s guaranteed to stick with you in the long run. If you’re burning yourself out for others, reprioritise and question why.

  • @Razzmatazzed
    @Razzmatazzed 5 ปีที่แล้ว +557

    I appreciate the various angles for my short attention span bless

  • @Ranuchi27
    @Ranuchi27 4 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    So listen I'll just leave this here to get it out of my chest. THE ADULTS DON'T DO BETTER THAN YOU. So as a younger version of myself I always thought that adults were so in control of stuff and had sooo much knowledge about everything. It turns out they're just trying their best like everyone else and that people you thought were so amazing are really not.
    So it doesn't matter which age are you really, everyone struggles with themselves in different degrees of course, but we all do. It may sound silly but it hit me so hard when I realized that no one have any fucking clue of what they're doing and we're all just trying to survive. So just chill, do the best you can and don't fight others people fights :)

    • @shockingheaven
      @shockingheaven 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Now that's something I really needed to hear

    • @sarasadiq6918
      @sarasadiq6918 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      As someone who turns 18 next month and feels like all my friends and older family members have got it together, thank you! I needed to hear this! And it makes a lot of sense

  • @ruthannhelen
    @ruthannhelen 5 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    “Don’t be beholden to your past self, they wanted the best for you” yes absolutely, this is it. This is the one. The pressure to think you have to do everything you’ve ever wanted to do?? Like we don’t change and grow as people and who you were when you were 16 is now a moment of the past. This was so important, and so well explained. You’re incredible x

  • @tmc4642
    @tmc4642 5 ปีที่แล้ว +595

    Joyously abandon with a sigh of relief the laughable notion that you'll ever feel "grown up."

    • @milaknowslight6307
      @milaknowslight6307 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      T MC beautifully written 😊

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      very very well said

    • @kristelfae5054
      @kristelfae5054 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      T MC So much yes !

    • @sentienttapioca5409
      @sentienttapioca5409 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Do you write for School of Life? Lmao

    • @Marie-jz1qw
      @Marie-jz1qw 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeeeesss! I'm turning 25 in a few weeks, I've been in a serious relationship for 3 years and we moved together more than a year ago, everything is going super well and yet I'm like "But I am still a kid... I'm clearly not an adult yet." ahah

  • @theuncommonviewer
    @theuncommonviewer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +338

    Advice:
    -If you like drinking alcohol, always intersperse every two drinks with a very quick glass of water. If you're too drunk it will save you from regret. If you're not too drunk it will hydrate you. Win win.
    - There are two parts to being good with money. Budget realistically: take 3 months (or less) to monitor your spending and document it. Then make a budget from that. It is important at this point not to judge yourself harshly for what you spent! Then use that spending as a baseline and stick to it.
    Small pieces of advice but i hope they help. Thanks for the great video!

    • @vallentinac9513
      @vallentinac9513 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      great advice!

    • @miiasiin
      @miiasiin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Truly second the budgeting topic, was a big one for me!

  • @OoohItSparkles
    @OoohItSparkles 5 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Nothing in the world makes me feel as great in my own skin as DANCING! I don't mean proper dancing, I mean putting on some banging tunes and dancing around the kitchen and wiggling as much as possible. Honestly, my life has improved so much since I discovered this.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      YES! Asante the Artist does a daily dance out on Instagram stories and I live for it. I should totally start doing that in the morning before everyone else wakes up x

  • @Zornroeschen90
    @Zornroeschen90 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I wish I had really understood that the pressure of becoming a 'finished person' by the end of your 20s is not only damaging - it's so fucking ridiculously WRONG! If you do life correctly and well, you will never stop growing as a person. Ever.
    I didn't have a clear plan for my future and for said reason never felt good enough for... well, life. But I tried my best to ignore the pressure from around me and finally got to a place where I can enjoy growing at my very own pace. IT IS EMPOWERING.

  • @elelder5
    @elelder5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +199

    I forgot that in England people call underwear pants and they call pants trousers so the tights tip had me very confused hahaha. Great advice all around though 👍🏻

    • @clover3124
      @clover3124 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      i imagined her wearing 2 pairs of jeans with tights in the middle and was also confused 😂

    • @heresalook
      @heresalook 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@clover3124 same here 😂😂 glad I found KatzRtheBest’s comment! lol

    • @katethegreat4918
      @katethegreat4918 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I totally forgot that as well and I’m so glad I found your comment so that I could understand.

  • @thingslaurasays9995
    @thingslaurasays9995 5 ปีที่แล้ว +285

    this whole phase an exercise of data collection is so hugely helpful to use as a framework or approach to these weird and scary years

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      haha yeah it's the phrase I whip out whenever anything goes wrong - 'IT'S RESEARCH, THIS IS FINE. NOTHING IS ON FIRE.'

  • @hallease
    @hallease 5 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    My top thing: everything is a negotiation until someone says that it's not (for them). Ask for what you need.

  • @Empress_Lisanne
    @Empress_Lisanne 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Something that I needed to learn in my twenties: it's okay to do nothing sometimes. Just sit, chill, drink tea. You don't have to be busy every minute of your existence.

  • @tessaviolet
    @tessaviolet 5 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    haha i needed to hear the first one

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Tessa Violet APART FROM I AM THINKING ABOUT YOU TESSA CUS YOU’RE WONDERFUL. X

    • @EngineeringAndGlitter
      @EngineeringAndGlitter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Samesies. I'm also thinking about you. Have I met you, no. Do I love you, absolutely.

  • @littlemusic4x
    @littlemusic4x 5 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    I think jealousy is ok, but just because I'm jealous of someone doesn't mean I actually want to be them. I was in theater but couldn't get my foot in the door and when I see other people in plays or musical theater I'm terribly jealous but I'm not willing to make all the sacrifices I know they had to make. A lot of my friends struggle to finds jobs, are just hanging between gigs all the time and I just couldn't do that. Letting go of dreams is hard but sometimes you have to realize that maybe your dream is not working for you in the real world. And that's ok.

    • @margaretle8798
      @margaretle8798 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I think that if you’re jealous you want to do or be that thing BUT what you’re talking about I think is about whether or not you SHOULD put time and effort to chase that particular dream

    • @anab5248
      @anab5248 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thats me with ballet. Its gorgeous and majestic. But it physically hurts too much, there is way too much competition and its so stressful.

  • @laura__5544
    @laura__5544 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    As a 27 year old, I heartily concur with this advice EXCEPT regarding rice. Why is anyone still cooking rice in a pot when rice cookers are super cheap, fool proof, take less than a minute of work on your part, and are one of the great inventions of our time??!!
    I'll also add, stop putting off the things you really want to do or being the person you want to be until some vague future, because it'll never happen that way. Want to be a person who volunteers time with charities? Start now. Gets in shape? Start working on it now. Calls your parents regularly? Do it now. You'll be busy your whole life and never have unlimited time that makes it easy to do the things you want. You have to decide to make time for them.

  • @bookbingeingblogasmr8059
    @bookbingeingblogasmr8059 5 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    27, things I wish I knew:
    You won't have time do to everything you can do - prioritize.
    Not sharing is caring - does this info about a random fact/event help in any way anyone involved in this convo? No? Maybe silence helps more.
    Sugar will mess with your health in unseen ways. Take care of that intake and EXERCISE.
    Just because someone has flaws and they share them with you, don't expect them to accept the same flaws in you!
    Off-topic: been following since 'the space you take up' vid, long before setting up my own channel. I am always happy to see how your energy, and how comfortable you are with yourself, translate on camera.

  • @dinaklarisse
    @dinaklarisse 5 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    I'm 23 and on my second "big girl" job out of university--some things I've learned over the past few months:
    -Know my worth and value in all aspects: monetary, emotional, mental, etc. If I am putting more into something than I am getting out of it, reevaluate why I'm doing what I'm doing and if I think it's worth staying.
    -Just because something is meant for pleasure, does not mean it should be a no-effort ordeal. Traveling, creative pursuits, and food all take a bit of effort and grit.
    -Know when you're being the toxic one. This is hard and something I'm constantly working on.
    The biggest challenge of my 20s so far is maintaining the balance between being a good daughter to my traditional Filipino-Catholic family and staying true to my individual values. I am trying to find ways to communicate with my parents on my own beliefs when it comes to religion and traditions and am constantly struggling to communicate myself in a way that they understand (with cultural, language, and generational barriers) so any advice would be amazing!

  • @angelicvoice1729
    @angelicvoice1729 5 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Beat laziness by starting working/studying etc. You have to start somehow. I wish I knew that

    • @rebornvenus
      @rebornvenus 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      needed to see this, currently procrastinating right now yikes

  • @TheSingingPeople
    @TheSingingPeople 5 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    im turning 23 this week and this was a nice reminder to be reflective. One thing I'm learning in my 20s is that my friends/other people around me are growing at different rates than me and obvi trying to figure out who they are (just like me) and that it's not always going to be cohesive. I have some friends still in uni, some are working, im living in a different country currently, etc, and people are v much influenced by their environments and new friend groups in their early 20s so tdlr I don't feel close to a lot of my closest friends from school rn but that's fine and I'm sure it will make more sense to me someday.

  • @slena
    @slena 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    WASH YOUR RICE sorry for the capslock but please wash your rice and also get a rice cooker they're not that expensive and will save your life

  • @kittynekocat
    @kittynekocat 5 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    My top tip: Invest in a rice cooker 🙌 1 part rice (rinse it first), 2 parts water, press the on button, perfection every time 😍

    • @kaddelicious
      @kaddelicious 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      And you don't have to worry abot timing, as the rice cooker keeps the rice warm and fluffy if the rice is done but the rest of the meal isn't yet :-)

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      I don't know anyone that has a rice cooker, I can't get my head around having an appliance that can only make one thing, but I'm willing to open my mind lol x

    • @kittynekocat
      @kittynekocat 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@leenanorms I guess it's only worth it if you eat rice on a very regular basis. I'm living in Japan atm (side note: Lex was in my city a few days ago!!!!!!!😄) and every household has one because most people eat rice at least once a day 😊

    • @sugarcanelemon
      @sugarcanelemon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@leenanorms I have one and it has truly changed my life. You don't only make rice in it that's the beauty of it!!! I make my morning porridge in it and yes, rice of course, but they often come with a top shelf bit thing that you put vegetables in to steam them yay! you don't have to put rice at the bottom if you don't want to just put water and voila your veg is steamed. So it is a rice cooker/steamer/porridge maker !

    • @kittynekocat
      @kittynekocat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@leenanorms I am back a year later, having discovered that rice cookers can also be used as a general hot pot 🙌 So you can make stews, curries, mac&cheese, pulled pork etc in it too 😄

  • @TheInspirefly
    @TheInspirefly 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    As a still-twenties that's working through severe sh*t: perfectionism is often a defense mechanism. You're trying to control the outcome because if you are imperfect, you are vulnerable. If you are feeling unsafe to be imperfect, seriously think about what needs to change to make you feel safe and supported, other than "I just need to do better"
    My perfectionism arose from heavy emotional isolation and disconnection, as well as suddenly having way more responsibility and things I needed to manage, and managed to turn an already unhealthy tendency to obsess and spiral and freak out into a severe anxiety disorder that almost lost me my job and had severe physical health ramifications.

  • @yvetishere
    @yvetishere 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    "just because you don't like reading fiction books, doesn't mean you'll never read any books" i've never reallly been into books but recently selfhelp books and psychology books are really my thing and i power through them. whereas fiction books take me months

  • @freyamallard3313
    @freyamallard3313 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    would love a video about what to do when you've just finished uni! to beat the post grad blues, move out of home, make steps towards a career etc xx

  • @gerrihayward1919
    @gerrihayward1919 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Loved all of the advice, think it should be obligatory for everyone to watch thison their first day of uni/first year of their twenties. Being nearly 25 (😭) my advice would be:
    1. Only YOU can live YOUR life. 2. Thoughts are just thoughts - they don't actually mean anything unless you act upon them
    3. Try and stay in the present not the past or the future 😎

  • @NB-xe6yd
    @NB-xe6yd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I am 30! About to turn 31, which is oddly more scary. I loved the video, I was laughing for most of it. When I turned 30 I thought something would change for me, like I would transform somehow but nope... It's a bit of an anticlimax 😂 Maybe that is what I wish I had known - you are always you, you always have good moments, crap moments, revelations etc so you may as well live life now because you won't get to a higher lifeform state and you will always learn and improve (I won't lie, I hoped 30 year old me would be calm, sophisticated and glam 😂). The other thing I wish I had known was 'don't people please' - I spent so much of my 20s trying to be what everyone else wanted and, for a start, you can't, but also... You don't need to. Once people know you are who you are and you have standards and limits and will stand up for yourself, they tend to stop trying to force you to be things you don't want to be.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      YES that is such a good point - state yourself and people will leave you alone. Hopefully x

  • @musicsummer129
    @musicsummer129 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    As a 22 year old who is so indecisive and passionate about so many things and dreaming and thinking about what to do next in this world, I feel so happy and thankful to have found your channel today! 💕

    • @catarinalauralaranja1326
      @catarinalauralaranja1326 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm 19 and feeling the same! Glad to know I'm not alone, seems like everyone knows what they want and I I'm the only one indecisive

  • @Jojo13Lorin
    @Jojo13Lorin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    The Relationship one yes! I've been a high school teacher, and I'm always wanting to tell my teenagers how overrated having things in common with a potential partner is. I think the traits you listed are super important.

  • @roxannejoncas
    @roxannejoncas 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    My favourite video on this platform in 2019. I agree with ALL of this. Especially the future thing. I was offered the "dream" marketing job in the "dream" city/country with all expenses paid to move there and I didn't want it. And that's okay. Past me, wanted that, but now me doesn't. And so instead, I'm doing things for free and that makes me happier! And, I told no one about it until it was happening, so they had no say :)

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      SO WISE, WE STAN ROXANNE x

  • @montannatilton9114
    @montannatilton9114 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am 23 and I found all of this valuable but THE TIGHTS SUGGESTION!! Life changing. If you're concerned about people seeing your undergarments, black spandex shorts layered over black tights is a pretty good combo imo!

  • @anushabansal267
    @anushabansal267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    I would love to see a more in depth video about how you use trello!

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      On it!

    • @roxannejoncas
      @roxannejoncas 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@leenanorms And Google Keep!

  • @SpiriBethLove
    @SpiriBethLove 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    When it comes to people I love, I've learned the hard way that being brave does not mean not to be scared. It means to be scared and be honest with them anyway. Trust on their own capacity to understand your side instead of 'protecting' them from the truth. It sounds almost stupid when I write it down, but it's waaaaaay easier said than done.

  • @badmemoryneko
    @badmemoryneko 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    you started saying the whole "you ARE 'that' person" and i started sweating in the million of cabin life videos i've watched this year

  • @hershie7669
    @hershie7669 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I JUST TURNED 20, and i'm kind of terrified, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS GIFT!

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hhaha GOOD LUCK, you're gunna have so much fun, your twenties are the best x

  • @unicornsparkles6601
    @unicornsparkles6601 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Leena: Pair of tights, pair of pants, pair of tights
    Me, an American: Uhhhhhhh sounds uncomfortable but okay?

  • @hanichiwa3944
    @hanichiwa3944 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    today a slightly older lady who i used to work with at our local corner shop came knocking on our door while leafletting (for the labour party, bonus points) just to ask if she could pull her tights up because they were falling down and the first thing my mum said was "do you want to borrow an extra pair to keep them up?" so this is a mother approved theorem

  • @PauuOtero
    @PauuOtero 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    One more excellent reason to get a kindle if like me you're studying a foreign language (Native Spanish speaker studying English): If you press a word you don't know you get its meaning, translation or Wikipedia article. That feature saved my life in my literature courses. Also, Google Keep is the best thing ever. I'm still halfway through my twenties so it's good that I'm already doing some of these.

  • @EndlesslyDestructive
    @EndlesslyDestructive 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    That I didn’t procrastinate just because I was lazy and I didn’t worry I had anxiety because I wanted attention- I had anxiety and life might have been easier if I’d found help sooner

    • @hanzib31
      @hanzib31 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This resonates so hard. ❤️

  • @WriterNinja
    @WriterNinja 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The "jealously is useful" transition is a cinematic masterpiece

  • @thesimplifestyle2022
    @thesimplifestyle2022 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The recognition of brazilian rice rubs my brazilian ego so much. Just a note, "wash" the rice before cooking.

  • @madaffi2434
    @madaffi2434 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The one about curiosity as a thing in relationships hit so hard for me. I just remember feeling like I was in a prison with my boyfriend. Like he took my wings and broke them, because every time I wanted to fly and take him with me, he'd hold me and stop me from doing that instead 😭

  • @Mia-zx7nn
    @Mia-zx7nn 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow, these were actually useful! So happy to see an advice video that doesn't start with 'drink water' and 'meditate' aha. I'm entering my 20s soon and honestly don't know what is to some, both excited and scared to death

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      hahah I hate that advice too. I would assume that if people have made it to 20 they at least know how to drink some water ;) x

  • @KRLEEQ
    @KRLEEQ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Best advice I’ve gotten....don’t compare yourself to anyone or anything. Comparison is the thief of joy.

  • @oz4648
    @oz4648 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The jealously thing doesn't ring for me because jealousy isn't a huge emotion for me. But the other thing is that for me it's super important to be happy and excited for other people and not make everything a competition.

  • @GingerRootss
    @GingerRootss 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    This back to back with the unicorn store is A LOT OF 20 SOMETHING EXISTENTIAL CRISIS CONTENT

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      YES, loved the Unicorn Store, a proper gem of a film.

  • @leenanorms
    @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    TELL ME THE THINGS YOU WISH YOU'D KNOWN IN YOUR TWENTIES, let's make this comment section an extensive catalogue of top-notch advice.

    • @mahavishnustravinskij
      @mahavishnustravinskij 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Have you seen StarPuppy's videos?

    • @lindseymp6897
      @lindseymp6897 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      About checking out library ebooks and putting them onto Kindle and sending PDFs to the Kindle - LIFE CHANGED. My mom got me a Kindle for my birthday this past year as she knows I want to read more. I wasn't sure how much I would use it because I'm currently in college and don't exactly have money to buy all the books I want. I had no idea you could put library books on the Kindle!!!! I'm so glad you added this in the video!

    • @madelineanderson96
      @madelineanderson96 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Just because you seem happy at the moment, doesn't mean that this is you at your happiest, making the best decisions for yourself E X A M I N E

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      xxxx

    • @zoe4706
      @zoe4706 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Please add to the tool kit a video on making friends as an adult!

  • @iliveonacl0ud
    @iliveonacl0ud 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    would like to say a huge huge thank you for this! I'm 19 & i fully expect all of this advice to come in very handy in the future, but more immediately, I'm at uni & that kindle trick is life-changing! Thank you so much !!

  • @maeganmurphy2096
    @maeganmurphy2096 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have just stumbled across your channel and omg is it golden! I'm binging my way through videos and not only are you wildly delightful, you have some of the most thoughtful and genuinely useful advice I have ever heard! Thank you so much!!!

  • @melintheskywithdmns
    @melintheskywithdmns 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Who trained me to say I'm not that kind of person, who says what kind of person I'm, why do I have this imprinted idea of what I'm, that so far contradicts what I like and I'm interested in, because what is a self if is not your interests and passions. I make decisions in the person and the moment that I'm in not because the person who I think "I'm".
    - Leena Norms
    That was epic I think that was what I needed to hear right now, I'm a work in progress and not a finished work, thank you very much Leena ❤️

  • @charlottestephensonpainter
    @charlottestephensonpainter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just rewatched this video and as a student I honestly cannot thank you enough for the emailing PDF's to a kindle tip!

  • @Bandanathebanana
    @Bandanathebanana 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    The advice on not telling people about your future plans to avoid criticism is one the best advice I have been given, and now started using it. THANK YOU.

  • @laurenscott2600
    @laurenscott2600 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Ok, I had to watch this twice to help myself fully take it in. Jealousy and you're not that sort of person really got me. I'm 22 now and you always seem to be dropping these videos right when I need them. Life is weird and confusing but this helps :)

  • @fridaherbst719
    @fridaherbst719 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks so much for this video! Even though I'm just 18, I'm moving out of my parents' house for university in the next weeks and it feels like this were proper guidelines for the next years. Honestly, please never stop making content.

  • @julianacaceresguana4988
    @julianacaceresguana4988 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    it is incredible how I come back to these videos every time I feel lost. 5 years ago I was 21, full of hopes but lost. Today I have less hopes and I feel less lost but entering my 26 year on this planet has shaken me a lot. I just want to say GRACIAS Leena for this list of videos I came back to. Im enjoying the year of make and do a lot too. Hugs from Colombia.

  • @bend1916
    @bend1916 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    As a 19 year old, this is v much appreciated (particularly your rice cooking tips bc I swear I do it differently every time)

  • @thebugbear
    @thebugbear 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Number 13: children are exempt from this, I cut my hair and had multiple kids tell me it was better before (I worked at a school).

  • @davidshead1323
    @davidshead1323 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    As someone who's a few years into my twenties and having learned this helped me a lot was I would say in terms of being attractive to other people, your height and body type doesn't matter, if you click with someone then it won't matter to anyone involved, if you find people do care about that or put you down for that then take that as a red flag and address it, if it's something they can't get past then cut them out. On dating apps i know from women on the other side some men say they're taller than they are and it's better just to broadcast it like I'm 5'7 and I'm only gunna match with people that are fine with shorter guys. I'm not saying having your own insecurities about your height and body type can just go away but it's something that you have to deal with yourself and confront and it's a separate thing to what someone else is going to find attractive. If anything I've found things I've previously thought were flaws in my appearance were things people found attractive.

  • @theotherbrief
    @theotherbrief 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    The rice thing though- I feel attacked and seen. I am still not convinced there is anything between burnt or soggy. Except maybe burnt AND soggy???

  • @silkyrox73
    @silkyrox73 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I burst into tears when you said that you shouldn’t be beholden to your younger self, your younger self doesn’t exist, and that it’s who you remember you were, not really you. I don’t know why, but I think I really needed to hear that.

  • @mcriche
    @mcriche 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Your videos are always comparable to my 5 star reads on Goodreads that I tag "should reread all the bloody time". Hope that compliment translates.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It does and comparing me to books is the best compliment x

  • @kaitieskates
    @kaitieskates 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    34 and working on it. The biggest ones I have learned as of late are 1. Panic attacks suck...ask for help when you need it. You can only do so many things at once before your brain goes POP! 2. Admit the hard and ugly truths about yourself. Maybe to yourself or maybe to someone else. Admitting them is the first step as the old adage goes. It's unpleasant, you may cry or get angry at yourself or try to deny it but it's the truth about yourself that you need to face head on. Mine was that I was overweight, unhappy about it, feeling uncomfortable in my own skin, and not doing anything to fix it. Had to change. 3. Be kind to yourself! The things you say to yourself are terrible! You wouldn't call your friends certain names in certain situations or yell at them for something minor, why are you doing that to yourself!? You are with yourself 100% of the time, give that person a little bit of grace.
    All that being said, all of your advice, Leena, is still very applicable and helpful. Going on holiday by yourself is weird but glorious. It may feel selfish or indulgent but it's also nice to only have to think about yourself. Speaking particularly as a retail pharmacist, you will suffer fools and you will want to yell at them so much, but it doesn't fix anything and if you do, you will usually feel worse. Maybe consider bare knuckle boxing instead. Continue to decide who you are and what you like--it's ongoing and ever changing. Be the housemate you wish others were...this applies even when you live alone. Slovenly you is generally going to piss you off later, so even just doing minor things to keep things orderly will make future you much happier.
    I'm sure I could ramble on for ages...I think you bring this out in me, but that's what I've got for now. I hope it helps some of you.

  • @amyrandles390
    @amyrandles390 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love love love this. I'm approaching my 20th birthday and FrEaKiNg OuT but knowing this makes me feel a tiny bit more prepared. Especially the ignore your past self stuff, because I always thought people had their shit together by 20. I WILL NOT and DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE my shit together by September.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      no, 20's is when you START getting your shit together, this is a no panic zone, you need not panic, you are fine x

  • @talia4239
    @talia4239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i bought a kindle when in a nervous breakdown glad to know i didn't waste the money

  • @kezla
    @kezla 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm 36 in June, and don't like rice so have never attempted to cook it, however, my boyfriend does, so THANKYOU for outlining your method!
    I think the only things I'd add to this are money and health related.
    *Make a budget, transfer your disposable income into a separate bank account and only use that card. Oh, and automate your savings! Even if your savings is £10 a month...just set it up...now.
    *And make more of an effort to look after both your physical and mental health (this looks different for different people) for me it's alternating cocktails with a non alcoholic beverage, spending as much time as I want alone even when people comment on it being "weird" and cooking myself meals at home and just sucking it up that that means more washing up.
    *I think the notion that thoughts aren't facts was a big one for me, especially when it comes to my thoughts about myself, who I am, what I look like etc etc. Just because I think something, doesn't mean it IS.
    Honestly...the biggest thing is the "people aren't thinking about you" thing ! 🤗

  • @katie7728
    @katie7728 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    this tights thing is legit gonna save my life

  • @salma-amlas
    @salma-amlas 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm 19 and it's so hard for me to accept most of the points in this video. The "no one is watching you" and "let go of what your past self wanted" especially. Great video though, agreed with other points like not telling people what you're gonna do until it's done is such a neat trick!

  • @trulyfirefly
    @trulyfirefly 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm sure that all the other tips will one day resonate, but as a 25 y/o the portion about rice is now something I will carry with me forever! I now know how to cook rice and do it often, thank you soo much!!

  • @helle9075
    @helle9075 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really need to stop asking for people's opinions 😭 I have struggled with anxiety for quite some time and asking for acceptance and validation really boosts my anxious thoughts. I have tried to live by the gutfeeling over anxiety idea, that usually I do already know what is right for me and there is no need to go in the direction of what makes me anxious. If my gut tells me something is right it is most likely right. But, validation really is an addiction that is hard to get rid of, not gonna lie 😭

  • @xochitllamora4756
    @xochitllamora4756 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ive sort of gotten a reputation for being impulsive but truth is I think about my decisions for months, I just don't tell anyone about them lol

  • @jeannareadsbooks8475
    @jeannareadsbooks8475 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I've had a kindle for years and didn't know the convert thing. That would have saved me SO MUCH TIME opening things in Notepad and getting rid of all the spaces ugh

  • @reann4233
    @reann4233 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wouldn’t usually get this personal in a comments section, but as a someone w ADHD I find all of your optimizing your life-type vids to contain some of the *most helpful* advice I’ve ever received to thrive w adhd whether it was intentional on your part or not. Just wanted to thank you so much for taking the time to share your knowledge big & small with us!! It’s seriously helped me, and I’ve learned to enjoy parts of my life I hadn’t even noticed before because of you

  • @borschtomnom
    @borschtomnom 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Really appreciate your content, it is so well thought out and just thought provoking enough without being at all preachy! Thank you so much, been looking forward to every video lately!
    My advice would be to not worry about being boring, most likely it is not you but the people around you making you feel that way! Forcing any interests or hobbies will just stunt your natural personal development and delay you from being the person you truly want to be.

  • @claudiajade624
    @claudiajade624 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so much more genuine and actually helpful compared to pretty much every other video like this I have ever seen 🙂 On the rice thing - I bought a second hand rice cooker. Changed my life

  • @imid3440
    @imid3440 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this- I’m turning 20 this year and so scared about this vital stage of life

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      there's a great book called The Defining Decade by Meg Jay if you're worried x

  • @yotimusic
    @yotimusic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Found this channel yesterday and I am enjoying it a lot. So much useful information :0 I'm grateful people put their experiences/knowledge out there like this so we can learn from them

  • @tessac775
    @tessac775 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So glad you’re here to hold my hand through life, Leena. You’re like the very cool, slightly mad aunt I never had ❤️

  • @FriendJamie
    @FriendJamie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    By far the best video I’ve seen this year! I don’t know a single person who doesn’t need to hear this 🙌🏻

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aw thank you Jamie that means a lot x

  • @rosettagrey2851
    @rosettagrey2851 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm 30 years old and "forget your past self" is the best fucking advice I've heard about anything in life, holy shit. I'll print this and staple it to any surface I come across.

  • @beadc7627
    @beadc7627 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    WHAT A WISE WOMAN YOU ARE, LEENA. THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM WITH US. ❤

  • @daisymoon8
    @daisymoon8 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Would also recommend "surviving your 20's " by StarPuppy :)

    • @bethblr
      @bethblr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you! 💕

  • @Katiesaysstuff
    @Katiesaysstuff 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    OMG that tights strategy is life changing! Also I would recommend that if you sufferer with dyslexia like me just give up telling people about it, they're going to get bored of correcting your spelling mistakes much quicker than you are going stop getting mad when they just don't understand or realise how much of an issue it is

  • @Mwarihelp
    @Mwarihelp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this, I also struggled to cook rice.
    Advice wise, for people who struggle to read books like me, try audio books from your library or something like audible.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes audio books are amazing!

  • @beckschofield4888
    @beckschofield4888 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Leena, you’re so close to being 30, flirty and thriving 💃🏼

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hahah thank you

  • @zBellarrr
    @zBellarrr 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    As someone in the middle of a complete relationship crossroads, would really appreciate the unpacking of that point. I am mid 20s and learning to actually work out how I feel when I'm not being upfront with myself has been my biggest learning curve to date.

  • @lauralella7075
    @lauralella7075 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed you in my life! Ignoring my past self and the plans I made for myself when I was younger is the hardest part, I feel like I failed not keeping that promise, not reaching that goal.
    Thank you ❤️

  • @K_Bakes
    @K_Bakes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m in the US and I was real confused for a moment about the “pants tights pants” and then I realized that what I call underwear you call pants, what I call pants, you call trousers 😂

  • @jenniferlucyfletcher
    @jenniferlucyfletcher 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved this video. I'm 35 and much of it resonated, especially the bit about not worrying about what people think of you. I'd love a similar video from someone in their 30's/40's to deal with the part of your life where everyone is pairing off, careers, families etc.

  • @TeeyaaGraisone
    @TeeyaaGraisone 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    That kindle hack has changed my life! Why did I not know this?! 😯 THANK YOU! xx

  • @agl8689
    @agl8689 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can’t believe more people haven’t seen this. I literally FEEL my life changing having heard these things - my own perceptions confirmed, challenged,, enlightened!!!!

  • @camillecope9960
    @camillecope9960 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fantastic advice! I'll try to remember it as I'm turning 36 next month 🤣💃

  • @mckenziemyers7165
    @mckenziemyers7165 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    13:20 I really needed to hear that, thank you so much!!

  • @elianenieder3382
    @elianenieder3382 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i turned 20 about 2 months ago and this made my day thank u for being helpful and not preachy and thoughtful and real :)

  • @hanaashraf828
    @hanaashraf828 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really love the way you speak and your energy. You seem like a really nice person. ❤

  • @hanzib31
    @hanzib31 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm 24 atm and going through a bit of a crisis. I feel like I made choices at 16 (what A Levels to do, what degree to do etc) that have now got me stuck on a path I don't like. This video was really apt. I know I just need to take the plunge and jump off this path but I feel like my past self put in so much effort to get here (I have a good degree from a good university and am now finishing my masters) and I owe it to my past self to keep going. But I suppose I owe it more to my future and present self to do something I actually enjoy and makes me happy. Thanks Leena. Always killing it with the big sister advice. I also loved the book comment. I feel like in the Internet age so many younger people have forgotten that there's a wealth of knowledge in books that you wouldn't necessarily find on Google. ❤️

    • @siobhan223
      @siobhan223 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was in a similar position up until recently. I took the plunge and left the career I decided was my dream when I was 12 and I feel so much better now that I've done that. I'm still working out where I want to be but the scariest part is leaving what you're past self wanted behind. I'd highly recommend Michelle Obama's book if you haven't read it yet as she talks a lot about her decision to leave her job as a lawyer in search of something more fulfilling.

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      xxxxx

  • @sarahgardiner4929
    @sarahgardiner4929 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I only recently discovered your channel and have been working my way through your videos. I LOVE YOUR FLIPPIN’ CHANNEL! You are so lovely and I really enjoy hearing what you have to say about everything. You’re just a very interesting person to listen too - keep making your wonderful content ❤

  • @LucyGem98
    @LucyGem98 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm 21 so I feel like I really needed to hear things like this from someone older and wiser. Kind of feels like an older sister or a mum giving me advice

    • @leenanorms
      @leenanorms  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I WILL TAKE OLDER SISTER ;) x