Korean adoptee raised in US met her Korean mother after 46 years
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 ต.ค. 2023
- A Korean adoptee sent to the U.S. when she was 11 years old remembered her mother's name for 40 years, hoping to one day return to Korea and find her mother. She dramatically met her Korean mother again 46 years later. She is now trying to make the memories with her mom that she didn't have for 46 years.
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Air date: Apr 10th, 2023
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Her husband is so supportive, coming to live in Korea so she can be near her birth mom. And having a house built in Korea is very expensive. She’s taking such good care of her mom, although she still has painful memories and she keeps tearing up. Such a courageous and loving daughter.
Seriously! Especially after finding out they have 4 kids and 7 grandkids! He must be a little lonely not really speaking the language and probably doesn’t have any friends.
Husband seems like such a good person
어쩜 이렇게 따스한 딸이 돌와 왔을까? 복이 많으신 어머니! 따님 훌륭하십니다! 남편분 really wonderful husband!
Wow, not many Koreans adoptees can speak Korean, I hope she can help other adoptees, she and her husband so set up a organization for that as well!
Wow I love Jami’s positive outlook on her life. Her mom and her have had a rough life and I’m so happy to see them back together. It really warms my heart. Jami’s husband is also a gem. Wishing this family lots of blessings!!! ❤❤
blessed she found her bio mom and still alive. May you all be abundantly blessed. beautiful magnolia tree and blooms outside mom's housing complex. what an amazing life partner accompanying her in her journey/
What a beautiful and although a marshmallow inside😅 so strong person! It took me almost 50 years to be proud to be a Korean, I hope one day i will find my mother to say 'mother or mommy' once in my lifetime. Im soooo happy for you and i feel your pain in little things. Your a very beautiful and special couple and wish your family with your mommy all the best!❤
What a legendary family she has to support this MASSIVE move, especially her husband 🥹 And also, how did her Korean stay so good after living here for so long? She’s amazing
Whew, alot of tears over here. Forgiveness is powerful. I understand why they say forgiveness is more about you, than it is about the other person. That little girl still lives inside of her. I wish them all the love, joy, and happiness for the rest of their days. Love for Houston, Texas❤
The most lovely couple ever. They're both so sweet🥺❤
Jami is so strong and loving and found the best partner in David. Wishing them the best.
Such a loving person. Your children are watching the progress. Keep going, don't lose hear.
I think I watched all parts of this story. How did Jamie retain her Korean language skills? Was that covered? Her husband seems phenomenal!
In my case, you never really forget it completely after age of 11 although the grammar and writing skills deteriorate a lot. The verbal skills stay, but not on fluent level. You could talk to me and I understand most of it, but it will be hard to have perfect speech.
David is 64?! Damn, he hit his mid 40s and stopped aging.
They both did!
He looks 54. I honestly think that's a typo mistake. I very much doubt he's 64. I believe they're the same age..both in their 50s.
@@shannonoconnell8954 agreed. if the mom is 72. No way the daughter is 64 lol.
왜 이렇게 눈물이 나냐…ㅠㅠ
어릴적 딸로 그때로 돌아가서 엄마와 좋은 시간을 보내고 싶은 딸..딸을 두고 나온 엄마는 죄책감에 .. 힘든 시간 만큼 닫혀버린 엄마의 마음… 시간이 너무 흐른거다. 둘 사이에… 남은 여생 서로에게 좋은 기억 추억 많이 만드시길 바랍니다. 인생 금방간다. 후회하고 미워하고 살기에는 너무 짧다.
45 years I left Korea for a wonderful family. I dreamed of finding my birth family
can you imagine being the equivalent of a SIXTH grader and losing your culture and language?? and i thought this adoptee who was 7 years old at the time of adoption that i met had it bad...he was able to retain his korean language to the point of being conversational but still lacking grammar and vocabulary. this woman shows me that those 4 extra years make a MASSIVE difference i mean her korean is better than some gyopos in the states. thats crazy. but whats even crazier is that he has the EXACT SAME ACCENT as her. intonation, diction, everything. the ONLY difference is the vocab and grammar. he had lots of memories of his birthplace and i got to visit it with him and he was so filled with joy and happiness to be back. but also very bittersweet. these things always remind us as adoptees of what we lost. you dont even have to have memories to feel it either. so imagine actually remembering it all. so haunting.
This is how my wife is. I am Korean American and she is from Spain. Different worlds, different cultures. She supports anything I do, will move anywhere, will adapt her own life.... for me. All she asks is that we are always together. So even though I could double or triple my salary in another job (with travel + more hours) to buy that bigger house and afford the high end private education for the kids, I stay put so I can accomodate HER needs. That's a marriage. Ultimately, it is a compromise. This couple is a lovely example of that.
Wonderful
This is love.
I hope the other 2 children can watch this and have that reunion
Yea lovely couple
She was fortunate to get adopted at an older age of 11 yrs. Didn’t the orphanage check the missing children report? There are other documentaries where the adoption agency intentionally had children adopted who weren’t orphans. They knew they had a living parent but for the money, had them adopted. Basically it was human trafficking.
Yes, and also she was fortunate to be adopted by a good family in the US. The circumstances could have been very different for her if she had gotten to live in an abusive situation. I think there is a documentary in this channel on the unethical/illegal adoptions that took place in South Korea in the 70s and 80s.
Such beautiful spirits. An important contextual factor to understand is at that time in S. Korea fathers were given custodial rights, so when women divorced they typically could not take their children with them.
How in the world did she retain her korean language? On another note, Im 48 and still call my dad 아빠
At eleven years old, your language skills are pretty well developed and ingrained I think. Also, she may have had Korean friends or attended Korean school/church to keep up her language. But good on her for retaining the language as it allows her to get closer, faster to her Korean mom.
Most traditional older Korean families do not have adult children who call their father “Appa”. It’s considered immature and inappropriate for adults children. But younger modern families seem to be changing traditions slowly.
@@chaisepomme4070 I have a korean friend who was adopted at 14 years old. He's in his early 50s now and doesn't know barely any Korean.
@@NHJDT Yes, of course it's possible to forget just about all your first language even starting out at 14 from disuse. I wonder though if your friend if he actually started some Korean classes now may pick it up again a lot more easily than a non-Korean.
@@NHJDT I immigrated from South Korea to Canada with my family when I was six and I sort of retained a six year old's handle of the language even though I never took Korean classes (one in university) or had any Korean friends/contact growing up. I can pick up about 20% of a Korean show/movie without looking at the subtitles. I'm rapidly approaching 60 and even in my advanced age I think if I studied a bit more I can probably pick up more of the language and the writing.
It took me 46 years to meet my mother again.
I sorry u were treated bad. I saw some kids that were adopted & the mom wold tell them that the place they lived with her was not their house, but hers and don’t forget it. She was a mean lady. I remember the kids playing with my kids and they would come to our house and then they didn’t want to leave. They wanted to stay there with me and my kids and I told them you guys have to go back home because I can get in trouble. They can call the police on me. Their adopted mother was a doctor. That’s what I was so upset about.
Can someone link part 2? 🙏
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Where is the rest of the documentary?
these are normally old documentaries you can find
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That David is a good man.
한국말이 저리 남아있을 정도로 다 커서 미국에 갔으면 한국에 대한 기억도 다 가지고 살아갔을텐데 정말 그 힘든 여정이 상상도 안되네요. 암튼 해피스토리가 되어 너무 다행입니다.
15:40 회화연습해야하는데 이분께 배우고싶다.
Is she grateful to the people who adopted her and gave her a good life so that now she can leave everything behind and do this?!
The video stated that Jami didn't dare to do this while her adoptive parents were still alive. I see nothing wrong with what she is doing... her children are grown and have lives of their own.
"leave everything behind" pretty sure her kids are full grown adults now with their own lives. why does it matter so much to you whether or not shes grateful? are you grateful you were born and not aborted? are you grateful you can use the internet? are you grateful you weren't a starving child in a poor country? why do you people ONLY ask these dumba** questions to adoptees when these are FULL GROWN adults with their own damn agency. not to mention this woman was ELEVEN YEARS OLD like she literally has full blown memories and obviously has a strong attachment to the woman who raised her for 7 years and then haunted for 4 more years after by the loss of her. adoption doesn't make her obligated to do sh*t or feel sh*t. thats simply something that HAPPENED to her, it doesn't define who she is.
The husband is giving up a lot . I do feel a bit sad for him. He is leaving behind his family grandkids friends. Hope it works out for them . But now I have grandkids I could not leave them
how did she learn korean if she lived in the US all her life?
maybe her adopted parents send hr to korean school
I think she mentioned that she left Korea at 9 years old. It seemed that her adopted parents were also open to her keeping many aspects of who she was.
Wait are they eating sweet potato bread?!
yo mama
Abandoned 35+ years ago. No way in H would i go back looking for bio parents.
She wasn’t abandoned by her mother, her father chased her mom out by beating her. It sounds like he wanted a new wife and step mom for his children. This was common back then, as laws for child support and child custody were non existent back then. Even today, it’s not uncommon for the children to stay with father in case of divorce. Korean women do not change their last names, there is no such thing as married name. They are the “outsider” as children are given fathers last name. At 11, she must have remembered and had memories that she was loved by her mom. Her mother had a difficult life, it was a blessing for her to be adopted to to a loving family in the USA. Life in Korea would have been very difficult for her even if she had stayed with her mom instead of her father.
There is no right or wrong decision here. This woman's decision to reconcile with her birth mother would give her peace for the rest of her life. I'm sure she harbored the anger in her for many years. After her adoptive parents died, I think she thought it would be better living with happiness than anger. She knew her birth mother was struggling with poverty and had problems with her birth dad. Her adoption, in a way, gave her a better life that her birth mother could not have given her. Also, I'll play the devil's advocate in defending the birth mother. South Korea was extremely poor in the 1960's, not like what we see today of a developed and modernized country. The birth mother had a very difficult life and I don't know if this woman would be better off had she stayed. If the birth mother had abandoned her as a baby on the streets of Seoul, then this could be a different story how she reacted.
If I were abandoned by my birth mother as a baby on the streets, then got adopted and grew up to be a productive member of society. I would want to look for my birth mother and ask why? The answer, good or bad, would give me a closure. I don't know if I would reconcile with her right away. But, I think with time, the pain would alleviate and forgiveness would take over for me to reconcile because after all this woman was the one giving birth to me that meant life.
Each person has freewill choices to make. I totally understand why abandoned or adopted children never want to seek out their biological parents. In my opinion, a better choice is to seek out. I want to know why and live in peace instead of harboring that anger until the day I die.
and its funny how literally everyone who says stuff like this ISN'T ADOPTED THEMSELVES so how tf would you know what its like. how tf would you know the reason why adoptees search. and even if you did, she was fking eleven for christ sake. those memories probably HAUNTED tf out of her if she didnt do it. at 11 years old, you are almost at the point in life where you develop your own identity. that is a literal sixth grader. she called this woman "omma" for 11. whole. years. 7 years when she was with her, and 4 more years in the orphanage. and clearly her omma cares about her. childhood is when you develop an attachment to your family. that woman was the only person in her childhood who she may have had fond memories of from korea out of all the dozens of bad ones. who wouldnt search for her.
Poor thing...The American diet is ruining her health. :(
That's what you took out of this?? Uncalled for and rude. Quit generalizing too! Also, she and her mother even said she gained weight while being in Korea in part 2.