I am a 53 year old SINK: single and childless. For a long time, I wanted to have children and be married so badly. Finally, I realized that I had a great amount of freedom and autonomy; therefore, I chose to stop dating in my 30s. I understood I did not have to have a life resembling that of my counterparts. One thing that I have realized in the past few years is this: I am caretaking for my senior parents, but I’m not sandwiched with caretaking for children at the same time. I think that would’ve been too overwhelming for me.
I ended my last relationship at 30 but always knew I didn’t want kids. I’ve met men that got several from different women, they are looking for an escape from their wife and life.
As a mother I respect their decision. Women need to take back their power and remind the world that life doesn't exist unless women decide to birth that life into existence. Treat women better
Omg I so love this comment . When it’s literally a man’s world but women get stuck with short end of the stick & now they finally can choose , yeah ummm no we’re not going have your babies & be treated like shit too.
One thing women don't have when it comes to having children is time. To not have children in one's prime childbearing years and to later regret that decision is one of the hardest challenges a woman can have. It can result in lifelong mental anguish. What is posted here and in the video is misleading to young women and not reality.
@@traceytuffuor7279 It is true. There are a TON of women who put it off and only realized when it was too late that they wanted children and it takes them years to come to grips with that reality.
We were dinks for 5 yrs before kids. It was fun. Post kids has been extremely fulfilling though tiring. Now they're adults and we're back to us. It's been the best of both worlds. I am so glad we have them in our lives as we grow older and that we will have grandkids. ❤❤
@@keynolivia if you have uncontrollable brats for kids sure. Outside of when they’re two and maybe three, they aren’t that difficult unless they weren’t properly disciplined or have a serious learning disability.
Nothing wrong with your decision, but you only see the bad side of parenting. The lows are low, but the highs are higher than any other high on this planet.
@turinturambar347 Nah I have 2 kids qnd the lows are super low. I feel being a parent is signing up to be like God. Consistently sacrificing, pouring love and everything into them and not getting anything back and even after everything they can still turn on you and rebel.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 Not getting anything back? I get lots of cuddles and kisses and snuggles back. When they aren’t throwing the occasional tantrum they’re fun and to see the world through their innocent eyes is a joy.
agree, i have one child and people are still angry that i only have 1 and no grandkids yet... women and men get pisst becuz they wish i made thier choices... people get angry becuz i have lots of freedom, time, rest, money and options!!!
@@vashtikelly6837 pissed? Nah. Sure, some people get pissed if you have kids some of you don’t. You can’t please everyone. Stop paying attention to the noise and do what you want.
some of them are becuz they wish we made thier choices.... i have one child and people still get angry that i only had one child and she has no kids herself yet....she is 30 and we both have plenty of freedom, money, rest and optins...... i am in my 50s and this is me on the pic.....people hate me becuz they want me to see myself in them and want to be like them!!! they can't turn back time on thier lives, but thier mad becuz we still have plenty of life left!!!
Lol but you have a beautiful family and you still have each other therefore y'all really love each other. The money will come again and who knows your children might run for president or become MVP. Plus think when you are old how big your family might be and besides by that time you will be DINKs again
@@infinitig37x84 that's a lot of people but everyone gets their just due/reward. Can't look at other people lives just live and be gate for your and what you have going on
Enjoy it now?? This statement is the issue lol enjoy it now because why? Kids might come later? That’s the whole point. To enjoy life….always. WITHOUT the kids.
Glad folks are celebrating their CHOICE to not have kids. Too many folks try to paint pictures of sad folks, cat ladies😅 , etc that choose to not have kids. Ina Garten and so many others have made that choice and lived happy lives without regret.
Honestly, id rather be a SINK (single with great income) Because eventhough there's no children involved, living with a man eventually becomes very iffy and I don't need or desire the headache men bring with them
THIS IS THE BEST OPTION, NOT JUS THE FINANCIAL ASPECT. OR THE FACT THAT THERES A SCHOOL SHOOTING OR SOME OTHER DEVASTATING CIRCUMSTANCES EVERY OTHER WEEK. OR THE CONSTANT WORRY AND UNEASINESS. WHO HAS TIME. ITS A GREAT FEELING TO KNOW YOUR ONLY CONCERN IS YOUR OWN WELL BEING.THE WAY THEY TREAT WOMEN AND MOTHERS IN GENRAL. IT WOULD BE A HARD NO FOR ME TOO. ❤ ESPECIALLY FOR BLACK WOMEN AND THE DISPARITIES IN THE HEALTHCARE SYSTEM. THE WAY THEY DONT CARE ABOUT WOMEN RIGHTS AND REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS .IT LITERALLY IS INSANE TO HAVE A BABY IN THIS CLIMATE. GOOD FOR THEM! VERY SMART!!!
But isn’t this what they want? For Black people/people of color to stop reproducing? That’s why Margaret Sanger created Planned Parenthood and placed abortion clinics in the hood (so that “undesirable” populations would stop having children). The United States has a long history of force sterilizing people of color. But with this DINK mindset, there’s no need for such measures. Instead of fighting for livable conditions, some would rather go along and give up the chance to have a family. There are so many other places on the verge of extinction (Korea, Japan, Europe) because of childlessness. I guess chosen extinction is the ultimate protest for high living expenses?
You need to spend less time online and go outside and touch some grass. When you doom scroll all day, you're going to be unneccessarily afraid of very unlikely things. You have a higher chance of being in a fatal car crash every time you step behind the wheel than you do of any of those other things ever happening to you.
I just turned 34 and I am DINK! My bf and I make almost 100k and this is before taxes. Once those taxes come out, we are still in trouble. How the hell can we have kids when it’s impossible to afford them?! I am, however, a little concerned of who will care for me once I’m old and decrepit 😢😂😂
I'm a 34 year old DINK and I have nieces and nephews that I'm involved with. I have no doubt that they'll make sure I'm fine, but I've planned to have enough money set aside for my own care. If you never plan to have kids and don't have any younger relatives thaf could help, I'd advise planning now.
@@kandancelomax I have no Nieces or nephews. Just a 17 year old brother. I’m pretty sure IF I don’t have them we will take care of each other! 😂 But really, our eggs have a little time left to think about it 😂if we really don’t want them or not
Here’s what you do; you keep yourself as healthy as you can, avoid lifestyle diseases like diabetes and obesity. You intentionally build strong friendships (especially with younger people) and you plan strategically regarding your finances for retirement and post retirement years.
Kids are not a retirement plan. They get sick too and often times pass away before the parents. The kids also don’t won’t to have to sacrifice their dreams/lives to take care of you. I’ve worked in a nursing home and many of them had kids who lived near by and didn’t come. There’s no guarantee that they will be taking care of you in old age.
100k isn’t enough between a couple. You guys need to be making at least 150k a year. That’s about the amount me and my partner make, and we need more! lol
I absolutely love being a mother. I adore seeing my legacy live on and knowing a piece of me will remain and live to change the world. I hope she decides to have children as well because I would love to have grandchildren one day and see what they do to leave their marks on the world. I would love to be blessed with another but in the meantime, She's the best and I couldn't be happier. In fact, I had a miserable day at work and came home to my child's smiling face and heard her calling me mommy and running over to me, every ounce of stress literally melted away. She is probably one of the greatest people to come into my life. When I lost my second child due to medical issues, I'm not sure how I would have gotten through it without her. She has the most cutest amazing personality and I can't wait to see how she will make her mark in this world. I know the world honestly is brighter because she's in it. She truly leaves an impression everywhere she goes. And I'm not saying that just because I'm her mom. It's because she's truly a joy. I don't understand how people can live life and not want that joyous feeling of having children and the only reason I'm getting a dog is to see her happy with it. And NO, I wasn't pressured to have a child. I just had a genuine desire to be a mom all of a sudden.
As a mother I respect their decision. Women need to take back their power and remind the world that life doesn't exist unless women decide to birth that life into existence. Treat women better
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Who can afford children? The older generation is out of touch with what we are experiencing. I’m not having children, and I don’t care what people think because I’m the one who has to take care of them.
I have the best of both worlds…. I had my son at their age. He’s 20 and in college. Now I am a SINK and young enough to travel and do all the kid-free things!
@@J_MMbecause human beings like community and so these folks belong to a community where they can relate with one another and feel proud about it amd that's fine but it's nothing to glorify over those who desire a family. Many people love family and want to create their own.
Im a mom of 1. Trying for another soon. I definitely understand their decision. If my husband and i didnt have great incomes, , i wouldnt want them either. The economy is too expensive. Its good not to have kids, if you know for sure you dont want them.
Growing up, my family always promoted this. If you get married, don’t rush to have kids. One, to see if the marriage will work and two, to enjoy married life before having kids.
So many couples are choosing not to have kids. I hope they don’t regret this decision later because our needs and priorities change when we get older. Freedom and getting to travel whenever they want might be a priority now but for many that won’t be a priority 30 years from now. Men can always find a younger woman and have biological kids even at 80, but that’s not the case for us women.
@@vashtikelly6837We also don't know everyones story and upbringing. One met people who wants no relationship with their parents/family. Yes many are in "homes" everyone's story is not the same. I'm a nurse tech, I've had thousands of conversations with patients.
This is nothing new. In the 1980s we called it "Double income No Kids." I'm glad we chose not to have children. I was married 34 years. Happily single and am happily enjoying my life. We traveled. We bought a house after being married for 1 year. We purchased cars that were paid off in 2 years. We had 2 dogs (1 passed away). Life is good. No regrets that U didn't have any kids.
Hmmm, its easy to say you are a DINK when you are still in your childbearing years and young. I'd accept this convo if the married couples were in their forties or fifties
I've never wanted kids. Ever. Almost 40 and havent given it a second thought. Don't want a husband either. No pets. Don't want anyone living in my house besides me 🎉
Im pro starting a young marriage as a DINK, then DINKWAD, then have a kid, see how that feels if you want more, raise them to be productive and peaceful members of society, let them go be adults and then you go back to being just you two with maybe the dog. You may even get to be supportive grandparents. DINK is wonderful for people who have reproductive issues though. A community where they can belong and not feel judged. No one should be judging anyway. If you change your mind, you can always foster or adopt. Life is so multifaceted, cant be all one thing or phase in life, IMO.
I think I was born to be a dink, because never in my life did I want a child, just a partner and 1 or 2 dogs, which I have. Just this weekend, my partner and I were at a restaurant, and when his sister, bro- in law and little nephews arrived to meet us…there first thing they did was find a the potted plant by the door, pick up the dirt, and threw it on the floor. Yeah, no thanks, we’re good 👍
So no one is going to point out that the husband in the show is... Nevermind. Glad they are choosing not to have kids. That would be terrible for her later down the line.
THERE ARE ALOT WOMEN WHO ARE NOT HONEST ABOUT THEIR DECISIONS OF MAKING CHILDREN. EITHER WAY ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS IF A MARRIED COUPLE OR A SINGLE WOMAN CHOOSE NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
No use in arguing at this point, let them do what they want. We'll see in a few years what the outcome of this will be🤷♀. Wisdom is proven right by her children.
They are young, want to travel and be established in their careers I see nothing wrong with that. Plus whose having children in this economy? We can barely afford rent, groceries and gas much less live.
D.I.N.K.ism has been happening since before 2000! It's _been_ a sociological term 😅, ask me I'm a Sociologist 🙋🏾♀️👩🏾🦲📚👩🏾💻📊. I'm legit surprised people are acting so brand new about it 🤔🧐 👀...
I guess things from academia or the practice of certain human-centered fields make their way into common discourse. Same with the word "gaslighting," which has been around for decades. People love that word nowadays, even though most people I hear saying it misuse it.
I was so surprised by the research that came out. People who have children live LONGER! They age slower. I was shocked. I guess kids literally keep you young and fun😂
@@Lex2034-f7y nope. Go to Google. Search "women with children versus no children longevity." The first several results, "women with children tend to live longer than women without children:, especially in old age. Journal of epidemiology and community health. Time magazine 2017 show women who had two to four children were likely to live longer than women with one. Harvard Health says a new research study finds that people who have at least one child or more likely to live a bit longer than people who are childless. New York Post found that women who give birth to babies later in life have a greater chance of living longer due to increased genetic material. Population Europe found that childless men and women have an overall higher mortality than adults with children, meaning that they die earlier.
How will the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood be able to survive if more couples/women keep choosing not to procreate. The effects of more couples/women that keep choosing not to procreate could cause the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood to be at a risk of no longer existing anymore. The existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood are all very important things for the future because 1. Humans (including women) were created to reproduce in order to keep the human race existing for many years to come. 2. Humans have gotten the chance and ability to create and invent so many unique and useful things ever since the human race began. 3. Public establishments were meant to allow humans to have access to them and were only meant to be operating in an environment where humans are around. 4. Parenthood was meant to be seen and created as something that is beautiful, delightful, rewarding, important, fulfilling and meaningful for a married couple to choose to experience. Since the existence of public establishments are included, Here are different types of public establishments that could be affected which are 1. How places of business (like jobs, companies, corporations, and manufacturers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at businesses, companies, corporations and manufacturers and the amount of new people that buy items from manufacturers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 2. How places of education (like schools, universities/colleges and tutoring services) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as teachers/professors by teaching new students at schools and universities/colleges, the amount of new students that choose to go to universities/colleges and the amount of new children that need to go to schools and tutoring services to get an education keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 3. How places of healthcare (like hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as doctors/healthcare workers by recovering new patients at hospitals and medical centres/clinics, the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as dentists by recovering new patients at dental clinics and the amount of new people that need to get treatment at hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 4. How places of retail (like malls, shopping centres/districts, stores and e-commerce retailers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to visit malls and shopping centres/districts, the amount of new people that choose to shop at stores and retailers in-person and from online and the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at stores and for e-commerce retailers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 5. How places of transportation (like airports, subway/LRT stations, and bus stations) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need or choose to use airports, subway/LRT stations and bus stations to go their destination keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 6. How places of sports (like recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres, parks and playgrounds) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need to exercise or choose to spend time at recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres and parks and the amount of new children that go to playgrounds keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 7. How places of tourism (like museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to go to museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate. 8. How places of hospitality (like restaurants/food establishments, hotels/resorts, and daycares/childcare facilities) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to dine at restaurants/food establishments, the amount of new people that need or choose to stay at hotels/resorts, and the amount of new children that need to go to daycares/childcare facilities keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
Equilibrium will find its way. Rudimentarily speaking, less people leads to less demand which may lead to more affordable prices due to oversupply thereby translating into greater affordability and more disposable income along with less need for hours worked which frees up the Human Resources to have have more kids. And those kids will come from more stable homes and we all may be better off for it. I’m glad 20 somethings are not having kids. Once past your twenties, you realize how little you knew. I honestly believe having kids later is better (not necessarily elderly but not straight out of college or hs).
I am from India and it's this kind of stupid thinking ingrained in our culture that has caused a population explosion in our country. People are having children without thinking if they can afford to have them or if it's good for the child. There is so much unemployment and corruption already because of over-population. The value of labour is so minimised due to over supply . And don't forget the thousands of orphans without anybody to care for them. To add more problems companies everywhere are investing in automation to eliminate human labour. The future seems bleak at this point. Not to mention the number of agricultural lands we are destroying to build more houses , consumerism and pollution is on a rise. We hardly get to enjoy any nature in big cities and the destruction is spreading to small towns too. Personally I wish people in my country thought like the west. I have visited western nations and I was shocked at the amount of beautiful parks and other recreational spaces there are even in major cities . I envy it. Meanwhile children in my country don't even have decent parks to play in, I felt bad for them. But people in my country are not aware of how much they are missing out on because of the over- population. That's why people need to be more responsible about every life they bring into this planet. Natural resources and jobs are limited , there is no point in giving birth to a future generation if they are not going to be happy, it's unfair to them.
Maybe population decline in the west coupled with immigration from their world kinda brings in an equilibrium around the world, but it's still not enough, I think every country should be equally responsible about their population and how it affects the world and quality of human life in general.
These people clearly have not seen Idiocracy (2006). They sound just like the couple at the beginning of the movie: th-cam.com/video/sP2tUW0HDHA/w-d-xo.html
I am single Man with two income and my girlfriend call me a DINK the other day. All my kids are grown and moved out on their own. I travel internationally four times per year and I am able to enjoy the finer things in life. Its a good thing I had all my kids when I was young. So I guess I lucked out and get the best of both worlds.... And that made me an Old School DINK....🙂
You’ll never be a dink. Trust me I’m in a few sink/dink groups and parents always get corrected. You’re an empty nester but will never be a dink because you had kids. You need to join empty nester groups not sink/dink groups, our lived experiences are not the same.
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I'm a single childfree woman, and it's the right decision for me.
I am a 53 year old SINK: single and childless. For a long time, I wanted to have children and be married so badly. Finally, I realized that I had a great amount of freedom and autonomy; therefore, I chose to stop dating in my 30s. I understood I did not have to have a life resembling that of my counterparts. One thing that I have realized in the past few years is this: I am caretaking for my senior parents, but I’m not sandwiched with caretaking for children at the same time. I think that would’ve been too overwhelming for me.
I ended my last relationship at 30 but always knew I didn’t want kids. I’ve met men that got several from different women, they are looking for an escape from their wife and life.
I am right there behind you a 52-year-old SINK: Single and childless.
Same. I'm 3 mos shy of 55. My mother was my priority until her passing.
Most of them are in their 20s and probably will change their minds in their 30s or maybe even 40s
Good for you for taking the time to think through your life and make decisions based on what’s best for you. I pray for your continued happiness. ❤
As a mother I respect their decision. Women need to take back their power and remind the world that life doesn't exist unless women decide to birth that life into existence. Treat women better
Yes, treat women better and make life more affordable.
💯 SHUT IT DOWN
Omg I so love this comment . When it’s literally a man’s world but women get stuck with short end of the stick & now they finally can choose , yeah ummm no we’re not going have your babies & be treated like shit too.
Period ❤
At least we dont suffer with a fat gut for 9 month 😂😂😂
Glad to see people embrace child free living. So many people didn't realize it was an option. Good to see it's being amplified
Awww we got a segment on Tamron Hall! I’m a proud SINK.
Lol I didn’t know this was a term.. 😂😂 I guess my husband and I are Dinks! 8 years married and decided not to have any kids 😂
Leave it up to social media right🙄😂 I been this way for 24 years not having them.
Right now ya'll just need a pooch lol
@@KimontheWeb lol I don't even want that... lol 😂
You can always revisit your decision. Changing your mind doesn’t make you a bad person. Not changing your mind doesn’t make you a bad person.
You can't always revist the decision to have children as women. Time is not on our side.
You are right
@@littlebytes7578 Yes, there is a time limit.
One thing women don't have when it comes to having children is time. To not have children in one's prime childbearing years and to later regret that decision is one of the hardest challenges a woman can have. It can result in lifelong mental anguish. What is posted here and in the video is misleading to young women and not reality.
@@traceytuffuor7279 It is true. There are a TON of women who put it off and only realized when it was too late that they wanted children and it takes them years to come to grips with that reality.
We were dinks for 5 yrs before kids. It was fun. Post kids has been extremely fulfilling though tiring. Now they're adults and we're back to us. It's been the best of both worlds. I am so glad we have them in our lives as we grow older and that we will have grandkids. ❤❤
this is adorable, blessings to your family. i love how you respect both worlds! we need more ppl like you
This is the attitude I have & exactly what I aim for. I wholeheartedly believe children are a blessing.
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No kids is a smart decision. I Applaud these people. Parenthood is stressful, traumatic and unhealthy to a woman’s mental health.
Good point ☝️
This!
@@keynolivia if you have uncontrollable brats for kids sure. Outside of when they’re two and maybe three, they aren’t that difficult unless they weren’t properly disciplined or have a serious learning disability.
Sad but not a.lie
Yes, I agree. Childbirth is hard on the physical body...don't talk about postpartum, yikes!
I’m in my 40’s with no kids. STILL no regrets as I watch my friends go through hell with teenagers lol.
Nothing wrong with your decision, but you only see the bad side of parenting. The lows are low, but the highs are higher than any other high on this planet.
@turinturambar347 Nah I have 2 kids qnd the lows are super low. I feel being a parent is signing up to be like God. Consistently sacrificing, pouring love and everything into them and not getting anything back and even after everything they can still turn on you and rebel.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 Not getting anything back? I get lots of cuddles and kisses and snuggles back. When they aren’t throwing the occasional tantrum they’re fun and to see the world through their innocent eyes is a joy.
agree, i have one child and people are still angry that i only have 1 and no grandkids yet...
women and men get pisst becuz they wish i made thier choices...
people get angry becuz i have lots of freedom, time, rest, money and options!!!
@@vashtikelly6837 pissed? Nah. Sure, some people get pissed if you have kids some of you don’t. You can’t please everyone. Stop paying attention to the noise and do what you want.
Beautiful couple. Happy Anniversary to them!!
Love 2 see this. Do what makes you and your partner happy. Not what family & social media says you should 💯
Folks are moving past the myth that parenthood equates to happiness. For some it truly does; for many others, it doesn't.
The problem is sh*t is too expensive 😂
Exactly! 😂
Not really. Many people like myself just don’t want kids. Even if things were to be free, we still don’t want them 🤣
@ the day to day responsibilities of parenthood are really taxing hey? 😅😂😂
Ladies be careful though. You'll be 53 and he could go on and have a football team. So just make sure it's your decision for real.
34 year old dink! Absolutely love my life ❤
That’s me and my boo! We’re DINKS. lol. Loving our lives.
I love traveling with my children and showing them the world.
I do too, but can’t wait to just travel with my husband ❤😍
Good for you! Do that. 😂
@@TheBellePerspectiveTV No need to be mean.
You are privileged because most can’t afford kids they’re just too expensive.
@@INFJ_9 Thank you
There’s nothing wrong with being married and don’t want to have kids🤷🏽♀️
People who are married with kids seem angry and jealous of people who choose to be single and free
Not true, one bit. I could care less if a person had kids or not. Not my business
I’ve noticed this narrative too! It’s so weird! Oh well! I’ll continue loving my DINK life lol 🤷🏻♀️
@@samanderson4413 that’s just you, so you can’t say “not true” you can choose to not agree.. that is their opinion
It definitely seems that way to me too
some of them are becuz they wish we made thier choices....
i have one child and people still get angry that i only had one child and she has no kids herself yet....she is 30 and we both have plenty of freedom, money, rest and optins......
i am in my 50s and this is me on the pic.....people hate me becuz they want me to see myself in them and want to be like them!!!
they can't turn back time on thier lives, but thier mad becuz we still have plenty of life left!!!
My husband and I were DINKs. Damn, we had so much money. 17 years and 2 teenagers later we are broke, lol.
Lol but you have a beautiful family and you still have each other therefore y'all really love each other. The money will come again and who knows your children might run for president or become MVP. Plus think when you are old how big your family might be and besides by that time you will be DINKs again
That’s me smh
@@infinitig37x84 that's a lot of people but everyone gets their just due/reward. Can't look at other people lives just live and be gate for your and what you have going on
Same here 😂! But I love my kids no regrets they're amazing humans I'm honored to raise ❤
@@brianal7143 that's luv
It's important to be and feel free.
They're young. They have lots of years to revisit. Live your lives and enjoy it now.
Enjoy it now?? This statement is the issue lol enjoy it now because why? Kids might come later? That’s the whole point. To enjoy life….always. WITHOUT the kids.
I am a SINK trying be a DINK.
Likewise.
Look at my lil cousin! Live your life kiddos and enjoy your journey!!
Great for them! Deciding on what's best for them must be a great feeling.
Love this because i can almost bet their relationship lasts longer lol
Glad folks are celebrating their CHOICE to not have kids. Too many folks try to paint pictures of sad folks, cat ladies😅 , etc that choose to not have kids. Ina Garten and so many others have made that choice and lived happy lives without regret.
The first time I heard of this was in the nickelodeon series Doug . Remember Mr. and Mrs. Dink ?
So true !!! Wow 😂
The Fairly OddParents too, remember the Dinklebergs?
I thought they had a kid who went to college.
I'm a S.I.N.K (Single Income No Kids) and no partner either and I'm happy!
Single Income No Kids makes the utmost sense.
Love this! lol
I love this so much for everyone who is intentional about it. Enjoy yourselves.
Honestly, id rather be a SINK (single with great income) Because eventhough there's no children involved, living with a man eventually becomes very iffy and I don't need or desire the headache men bring with them
THIS IS THE BEST OPTION, NOT JUS THE FINANCIAL ASPECT. OR THE FACT THAT THERES A SCHOOL SHOOTING OR SOME OTHER DEVASTATING CIRCUMSTANCES EVERY OTHER WEEK. OR THE CONSTANT WORRY AND UNEASINESS. WHO HAS TIME. ITS A GREAT FEELING TO KNOW YOUR ONLY CONCERN IS YOUR OWN WELL BEING.THE WAY THEY TREAT WOMEN AND MOTHERS IN GENRAL. IT WOULD BE A HARD NO FOR ME TOO. ❤ ESPECIALLY FOR BLACK WOMEN AND THE DISPARITIES IN THE HEALTHCARE SYSTEM. THE WAY THEY DONT CARE ABOUT WOMEN RIGHTS AND REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS .IT LITERALLY IS INSANE TO HAVE A BABY IN THIS CLIMATE. GOOD FOR THEM! VERY SMART!!!
But isn’t this what they want? For Black people/people of color to stop reproducing? That’s why Margaret Sanger created Planned Parenthood and placed abortion clinics in the hood (so that “undesirable” populations would stop having children). The United States has a long history of force sterilizing people of color. But with this DINK mindset, there’s no need for such measures. Instead of fighting for livable conditions, some would rather go along and give up the chance to have a family. There are so many other places on the verge of extinction (Korea, Japan, Europe) because of childlessness. I guess chosen extinction is the ultimate protest for high living expenses?
You need to spend less time online and go outside and touch some grass. When you doom scroll all day, you're going to be unneccessarily afraid of very unlikely things.
You have a higher chance of being in a fatal car crash every time you step behind the wheel than you do of any of those other things ever happening to you.
Exactly lol I ain’t got time or money
Its ok not to have children.
This isn't new. It used to be called double income no kids
Yep.👍🏿 I remember that.
its just abbreviated...
I never knew it was a thing apparently from way back when and it even has a name to it
That’s what it means. Either Double or Dual.
I just turned 34 and I am DINK! My bf and I make almost 100k and this is before taxes. Once those taxes come out, we are still in trouble. How the hell can we have kids when it’s impossible to afford them?!
I am, however, a little concerned of who will care for me once I’m old and decrepit 😢😂😂
I'm a 34 year old DINK and I have nieces and nephews that I'm involved with. I have no doubt that they'll make sure I'm fine, but I've planned to have enough money set aside for my own care. If you never plan to have kids and don't have any younger relatives thaf could help, I'd advise planning now.
@@kandancelomax I have no Nieces or nephews. Just a 17 year old brother. I’m pretty sure IF I don’t have them we will take care of each other! 😂
But really, our eggs have a little time left to think about it 😂if we really don’t want them or not
Here’s what you do; you keep yourself as healthy as you can, avoid lifestyle diseases like diabetes and obesity. You intentionally build strong friendships (especially with younger people) and you plan strategically regarding your finances for retirement and post retirement years.
Kids are not a retirement plan. They get sick too and often times pass away before the parents. The kids also don’t won’t to have to sacrifice their dreams/lives to take care of you. I’ve worked in a nursing home and many of them had kids who lived near by and didn’t come. There’s no guarantee that they will be taking care of you in old age.
100k isn’t enough between a couple. You guys need to be making at least 150k a year. That’s about the amount me and my partner make, and we need more! lol
I absolutely love being a mother. I adore seeing my legacy live on and knowing a piece of me will remain and live to change the world. I hope she decides to have children as well because I would love to have grandchildren one day and see what they do to leave their marks on the world. I would love to be blessed with another but in the meantime, She's the best and I couldn't be happier. In fact, I had a miserable day at work and came home to my child's smiling face and heard her calling me mommy and running over to me, every ounce of stress literally melted away. She is probably one of the greatest people to come into my life. When I lost my second child due to medical issues, I'm not sure how I would have gotten through it without her. She has the most cutest amazing personality and I can't wait to see how she will make her mark in this world. I know the world honestly is brighter because she's in it. She truly leaves an impression everywhere she goes. And I'm not saying that just because I'm her mom. It's because she's truly a joy. I don't understand how people can live life and not want that joyous feeling of having children and the only reason I'm getting a dog is to see her happy with it. And NO, I wasn't pressured to have a child. I just had a genuine desire to be a mom all of a sudden.
I love that they know what they want and stay open to revisiting the discussion.
I've heard of it before but forgot there was a term. I guess I'm a S.I.N.K...since I'm single and childless. That is hilarious.
The movie Idiocracy foretold all of this. In retrospect that movie was more prolific than I originally gave it credit for.
As a mother I respect their decision. Women need to take back their power and remind the world that life doesn't exist unless women decide to birth that life into existence. Treat women better
Idiocracy (2006)
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Officer Collins has been spearheading one of the US Army's most secretive experiments to date: the Human Hibernation Project. If successful, the project would store its subjects indefinitely until they are needed most. Their first test subject, Joe Bauers, was not chosen for his superiority. Instead, he's chosen because he's the most average guy in the armed services. But scandal erupts after the experiment takes place: the base is closed and the President denies any knowledge of the project. Unfortunately, Joe doesn't wake up in 1 year but in 500. During that time, human evolution has taken a dramatic downturn. After waking up, Joe takes a prison-assigned IQ test and finds that he's the smartest guy alive. Awaiting a full presidential pardon if he can solve one of the country's biggest problems--the dwindling plant population--Joe races against time to solve this problem, but he alienates half the country in the process. Can he make things right and escape a bizarre execution?
www.imdb.com/title/tt0387808/plotsummary?item=ps0877705
It is not meant for everyone to have kids or get married whatever path you choose enjoy it not everyone wants kids or wants to e married
My man and I are DINKs ❤
Who can afford children? The older generation is out of touch with what we are experiencing. I’m not having children, and I don’t care what people think because I’m the one who has to take care of them.
So they basically to have a different kind of child😂😂😂
Dogs dont' live long. Plus, they can send their dogs to their kennels when they want some alone time. You can't do that with actual children.
I guess they never heard of Babysitters and Nannys.
Shoulda gotten a cat.
DINKs has been around for a long time! Keep that money. Live that life. It's a different life than having kids. But its a GREAT life!
They're so charming, they kind of look alike. Lol!
Dinks i love it 🙏💙🗳️ and i have a son teenager who raise my.blood pressure everyday 😂🙏
I have the best of both worlds…. I had my son at their age. He’s 20 and in college. Now I am a SINK and young enough to travel and do all the kid-free things!
SINK? All this time, I’ve been referring to myself as OINK 🐷😂🤡
Enjoy life
I’m a DINK! We both have great jobs, buy ourselves expensive things, travel wherever we want, and spoil our dog rotten. Life is great❣️
I guess there’s a name for everything now lol.
Dink...sounds crazy as hell this is why we're divided cause all these dang labels
Exactly! This has to be some Gen z stuff cuz this topic is beyond stupid. Like why is this worth a tv show discussion
@@J_MMbecause human beings like community and so these folks belong to a community where they can relate with one another and feel proud about it amd that's fine but it's nothing to glorify over those who desire a family. Many people love family and want to create their own.
@@J_MMit’s not a gen z thing, it’s more of a millennial thing, and I say that as a young millennial.
THIS IS WISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im a mom of 1. Trying for another soon. I definitely understand their decision. If my husband and i didnt have great incomes, , i wouldnt want them either. The economy is too expensive. Its good not to have kids, if you know for sure you dont want them.
The Economy on Display!
Thanks Billionaires!
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He seen that way
Growing up, my family always promoted this. If you get married, don’t rush to have kids. One, to see if the marriage will work and two, to enjoy married life before having kids.
Somebody said being a parent is traumatic and bad for a woman's mental health...yeah, no.
It is if she's doing it alone or in abuse
that person should ask thier own mother that question....
@@vashtikelly6837I've seen all your comments and you seem angry, why?
@@LivingOnPurpose1 I made plenty of comments on TH-cam, which one are you referring too??
@@vashtikelly6837 just the ones under this video. If I'm incorrect I sincerely apologize, I could be misunderstanding your comments and responses.
Sick of all the silly names for things that aren’t new.
😂😂
I have five daughters. I love being a father.
OLD!!! DINK is an old slang from the 80’s!!!
So many couples are choosing not to have kids. I hope they don’t regret this decision later because our needs and priorities change when we get older. Freedom and getting to travel whenever they want might be a priority now but for many that won’t be a priority 30 years from now. Men can always find a younger woman and have biological kids even at 80, but that’s not the case for us women.
..i know plenty of old ppl in homes who have grown kids who don't take care of them or give a shit about them in old age...
Focus on the people who have kids and treated them poorly, not those who don’t have/want kids.
@@Lex2034-f7yThat’s not the topic under discussion though. I just shared my thoughts on the topic being discussed, that’s all.
@@vashtikelly6837We also don't know everyones story and upbringing. One met people who wants no relationship with their parents/family. Yes many are in "homes" everyone's story is not the same. I'm a nurse tech, I've had thousands of conversations with patients.
I would do it temporary because I want our family tree to grow.
I’ve raised my kids so I have the best of both worlds
Well you’re just an empty nester nor a sink or dink. That term is exclusive for people without any children.
This is nothing new. In the 1980s we called it "Double income No Kids." I'm glad we chose not to have children. I was married 34 years. Happily single and am happily enjoying my life. We traveled. We bought a house after being married for 1 year. We purchased cars that were paid off in 2 years. We had 2 dogs (1 passed away). Life is good. No regrets that U didn't have any kids.
It just cost alllooott when you have a child. Especially education fees are getting expensive more and more every year !!
Aren't they cute!
Hmmm, its easy to say you are a DINK when you are still in your childbearing years and young. I'd accept this convo if the married couples were in their forties or fifties
They’re gorgeous
I've never wanted kids. Ever. Almost 40 and havent given it a second thought. Don't want a husband either. No pets. Don't want anyone living in my house besides me 🎉
THIS!
Kids are expensive
Im pro starting a young marriage as a DINK, then DINKWAD, then have a kid, see how that feels if you want more, raise them to be productive and peaceful members of society, let them go be adults and then you go back to being just you two with maybe the dog. You may even get to be supportive grandparents.
DINK is wonderful for people who have reproductive issues though. A community where they can belong and not feel judged. No one should be judging anyway.
If you change your mind, you can always foster or adopt. Life is so multifaceted, cant be all one thing or phase in life, IMO.
I think I was born to be a dink, because never in my life did I want a child, just a partner and 1 or 2 dogs, which I have. Just this weekend, my partner and I were at a restaurant, and when his sister, bro- in law and little nephews arrived to meet us…there first thing they did was find a the potted plant by the door, pick up the dirt, and threw it on the floor. Yeah, no thanks, we’re good 👍
So no one is going to point out that the husband in the show is... Nevermind. Glad they are choosing not to have kids. That would be terrible for her later down the line.
THERE ARE ALOT WOMEN WHO ARE NOT HONEST ABOUT THEIR DECISIONS OF MAKING CHILDREN. EITHER WAY ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS IF A MARRIED COUPLE OR A SINGLE WOMAN CHOOSE NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
In the 90s it was called Double Income No Kids. Same thing
America is becoming less and less family-oriented and I don't like it. They'll invest into a dog tho smh
They do have a dog. 😂
No use in arguing at this point, let them do what they want. We'll see in a few years what the outcome of this will be🤷♀. Wisdom is proven right by her children.
We don’t care about families. F that patriarchal nonsense. Who wants to have kids and risk ruining their body 🤮🗑️
They are young, want to travel and be established in their careers I see nothing wrong with that. Plus whose having children in this economy? We can barely afford rent, groceries and gas much less live.
I'm a sink with no dogs i can't afford that either 😅
Is; Children of Men...starting to take place?😮 Holy Prayers
No it’s not.
D.I.N.K.ism has been happening since before 2000!
It's _been_ a sociological term 😅, ask me I'm a Sociologist 🙋🏾♀️👩🏾🦲📚👩🏾💻📊. I'm legit surprised people are acting so brand new about it 🤔🧐 👀...
I guess things from academia or the practice of certain human-centered fields make their way into common discourse. Same with the word "gaslighting," which has been around for decades. People love that word nowadays, even though most people I hear saying it misuse it.
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The lifestyle
I was so surprised by the research that came out. People who have children live LONGER! They age slower. I was shocked. I guess kids literally keep you young and fun😂
😂 sure
It’s the exact opposite. Women who get married and have kids age faster and get sick. Women without kids and without husbands have healthier outcomes.
@@Lex2034-f7y nope. Go to Google. Search "women with children versus no children longevity." The first several results, "women with children tend to live longer than women without children:, especially in old age. Journal of epidemiology and community health. Time magazine 2017 show women who had two to four children were likely to live longer than women with one. Harvard Health says a new research study finds that people who have at least one child or more likely to live a bit longer than people who are childless. New York Post found that women who give birth to babies later in life have a greater chance of living longer due to increased genetic material. Population Europe found that childless men and women have an overall higher mortality than adults with children, meaning that they die earlier.
They're going to change their mind in 8- 10yrs for sure and that's ok too.
I’m a DINK
Yeah from fairly odd parents
How will the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood be able to survive if more couples/women keep choosing not to procreate.
The effects of more couples/women that keep choosing not to procreate could cause the existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood to be at a risk of no longer existing anymore.
The existence of humanity, the existence of public establishments and the existence of parenthood are all very important things for the future because
1. Humans (including women) were created to reproduce in order to keep the human race existing for many years to come.
2. Humans have gotten the chance and ability to create and invent so many unique and useful things ever since the human race began.
3. Public establishments were meant to allow humans to have access to them and were only meant to be operating in an environment where humans are around.
4. Parenthood was meant to be seen and created as something that is beautiful, delightful, rewarding, important, fulfilling and meaningful for a married couple to choose to experience.
Since the existence of public establishments are included, Here are different types of public establishments that could be affected which are
1. How places of business (like jobs, companies, corporations, and manufacturers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at businesses, companies, corporations and manufacturers and the amount of new people that buy items from manufacturers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
2. How places of education (like schools, universities/colleges and tutoring services) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as teachers/professors by teaching new students at schools and universities/colleges, the amount of new students that choose to go to universities/colleges and the amount of new children that need to go to schools and tutoring services to get an education keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
3. How places of healthcare (like hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as doctors/healthcare workers by recovering new patients at hospitals and medical centres/clinics, the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs as dentists by recovering new patients at dental clinics and the amount of new people that need to get treatment at hospitals, medical centres/clinics, dental clinics and pharmacies keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
4. How places of retail (like malls, shopping centres/districts, stores and e-commerce retailers) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to visit malls and shopping centres/districts, the amount of new people that choose to shop at stores and retailers in-person and from online and the amount of new people that choose to apply for jobs at stores and for e-commerce retailers keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
5. How places of transportation (like airports, subway/LRT stations, and bus stations) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need or choose to use airports, subway/LRT stations and bus stations to go their destination keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
6. How places of sports (like recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres, parks and playgrounds) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that need to exercise or choose to spend time at recreation/leisure/aquatic centres, gyms, fitness centres and parks and the amount of new children that go to playgrounds keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
7. How places of tourism (like museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to go to museums, movie theatres/cinemas, entertainment centres/venues, amusement parks/carnivals and water parks keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
8. How places of hospitality (like restaurants/food establishments, hotels/resorts, and daycares/childcare facilities) could be at a risk of no longer existing anymore if the amount of new people that choose to dine at restaurants/food establishments, the amount of new people that need or choose to stay at hotels/resorts, and the amount of new children that need to go to daycares/childcare facilities keeps decreasing because of more couples/women choosing not to procreate.
Equilibrium will find its way. Rudimentarily speaking, less people leads to less demand which may lead to more affordable prices due to oversupply thereby translating into greater affordability and more disposable income along with less need for hours worked which frees up the Human Resources to have have more kids. And those kids will come from more stable homes and we all may be better off for it. I’m glad 20 somethings are not having kids. Once past your twenties, you realize how little you knew. I honestly believe having kids later is better (not necessarily elderly but not straight out of college or hs).
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I am from India and it's this kind of stupid thinking ingrained in our culture that has caused a population explosion in our country. People are having children without thinking if they can afford to have them or if it's good for the child. There is so much unemployment and corruption already because of over-population. The value of labour is so minimised due to over supply . And don't forget the thousands of orphans without anybody to care for them. To add more problems companies everywhere are investing in automation to eliminate human labour. The future seems bleak at this point. Not to mention the number of agricultural lands we are destroying to build more houses , consumerism and pollution is on a rise. We hardly get to enjoy any nature in big cities and the destruction is spreading to small towns too.
Personally I wish people in my country thought like the west. I have visited western nations and I was shocked at the amount of beautiful parks and other recreational spaces there are even in major cities . I envy it. Meanwhile children in my country don't even have decent parks to play in, I felt bad for them. But people in my country are not aware of how much they are missing out on because of the over- population. That's why people need to be more responsible about every life they bring into this planet. Natural resources and jobs are limited , there is no point in giving birth to a future generation if they are not going to be happy, it's unfair to them.
Maybe population decline in the west coupled with immigration from their world kinda brings in an equilibrium around the world, but it's still not enough, I think every country should be equally responsible about their population and how it affects the world and quality of human life in general.
It’s a woman’s duty to procreate but not a man’s? Men can just live child free enjoying life? We women don’t care. We’re not having kids b.
I feel sorry for that man ...
These people clearly have not seen Idiocracy (2006). They sound just like the couple at the beginning of the movie: th-cam.com/video/sP2tUW0HDHA/w-d-xo.html
Austin’s gayyyyyy
Before I even seen the video and I saw the photo of them.. I clocked his tea
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Or trans
Who's going to tell the gf? 😂
Yeah pets require money, time too and they don't grow up and out!!
No… they die
And dogs are a third of the cost. No way I’m spending over a million dollars on a dog in its lifetime
2:19 Dat part!!! 😂😂😂 And a lot more other things that comes with having an animal to "raise" 😂! In retrospect, you still not totally "free" either 😊.
Yup, you have to do EVERYTHING for pets. At least with a kid you can tell them to find the remote or take out the trash😅
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I respect their decision too but lowkey sad because they are such a beautiful couple and I know their kids would have been so adorable.
This isn't a new thing.
He's good looking
FTK 🙌🏽🤗
just have some pets and u good
I am single Man with two income and my girlfriend call me a DINK the other day.
All my kids are grown and moved out on their own.
I travel internationally four times per year and I am able to enjoy the finer things in life.
Its a good thing I had all my kids when I was young.
So I guess I lucked out and get the best of both worlds.... And that made me an Old School DINK....🙂
Not a Dink if you have children even if they are grown.
You’ll never be a dink. Trust me I’m in a few sink/dink groups and parents always get corrected. You’re an empty nester but will never be a dink because you had kids. You need to join empty nester groups not sink/dink groups, our lived experiences are not the same.