I'd pack my bags and let her sort her crap out! I've been married 20 years and if I found this out, I'd end it the same day! Dating or married would make NO difference to me. I've never cheated, I never would, and I would NEVER tolerate that it had EVER happened............PERIOD!!
The wife has given him no reason to doubt her love for him all these years, therefore, her infidelity is forgivable. While some would say, "get rid of her, once a cheater always a cheater", most people are different from when they were young; in this case 16 years ago.
While his emotions are justified, it's almost amusing how his feelings are written to be over embellished. If I got story straight, they were just dating in 2008, so it wasn't a betrayal of marriage. Also, he didn't know the other guy, so his betrayal only comes from a girlfriend who had cold feet about their relationship but eventually chose him. All they needed was a serious talk. No marriage counseling needed. Get over yourself, dude.
@dcfmkyn so it's ok that he was her second choice. 16 years or 16 minutes is irrelevant. Especially since she knew it was wrong and wrote about leaving him for the guy. Fidelity doesn't only apply after marriage. They were in a long distance RELATIONSHIP not a friends with benefits situation. His feelings are justified. Hopefully he can forgive her. But trust like a mirrior or a heart once broken can be repaired but the reflection will never be the same or as trust as pure.
He's right ,for him the wound is fresh .... If he is to move forward he will need time.
I'd pack my bags and let her sort her crap out! I've been married 20 years and if I found this out, I'd end it the same day! Dating or married would make NO difference to me. I've never cheated, I never would, and I would NEVER tolerate that it had EVER happened............PERIOD!!
You was her second choice. Her first choice did not want her for anything but zex. The memories of that guy is bitter sweet for her.
If she cheated again or many more times she would keep it from him.
I heard him
Going on about his emotions. The story would been better to move on to the counseling sessions.
The wife has given him no reason to doubt her love for him all these years, therefore, her infidelity is forgivable. While some would say, "get rid of her, once a cheater always a cheater", most people are different from when they were young; in this case 16 years ago.
While his emotions are justified, it's almost amusing how his feelings are written to be over embellished. If I got story straight, they were just dating in 2008, so it wasn't a betrayal of marriage. Also, he didn't know the other guy, so his betrayal only comes from a girlfriend who had cold feet about their relationship but eventually chose him. All they needed was a serious talk. No marriage counseling needed. Get over yourself, dude.
I mean everybody is different, don't you think? I think that hurt him, and that's ok.
@dcfmkyn so it's ok that he was her second choice. 16 years or 16 minutes is irrelevant. Especially since she knew it was wrong and wrote about leaving him for the guy. Fidelity doesn't only apply after marriage. They were in a long distance RELATIONSHIP not a friends with benefits situation. His feelings are justified. Hopefully he can forgive her. But trust like a mirrior or a heart once broken can be repaired but the reflection will never be the same or as trust as pure.