It’s just very saddening to know there are so many toxic, negatives and abusive people out there that go around literally draining and damn near killing good, loving people.
I’ve been going through this for 4 years on and off and TODAY I is the first step to healing . All he did was change his apology and added more tears , a different sob story . Moral of the story when they come back is not from a genuine place if there is no change behavior . It’s manipulation , breadcrumbing etc .
I needed this, I left 2 years ago and I still allow him to dabble even when I see the toxicity. I think it’s the comfort for me even when I’ve been treated so much better by others. I’m praying for the chains to be broken
No once you felt with a toxic person and they try to come back is "friends" Just know they will be just as "Toxic" in the friendship. Plus when you be friends with those types of people there is always an motive. You may have a certain motive but they will always have one hidden. Leave them alone and please don't look back They always come back!
I won't go back. He fucked up this time. If he's not 210% there's no way I even look his way. I deserve better. For everything I've done. I'm treating him like he died. Fk ghosting. U dead to me.
I walked away with only a suitcase of clothes left everything because he wouldn't leave me but was making it impossible for me to stay so I had to be the one to leave I only wish I would have done it sooner And yes he would always call me every bad name you could think of I literally thought I was going crazy Till I realized that it was him all along I've never been happier And I thank God he gave me the strength to leave it all behind
All I can say is thank you...this video put tears in my eyes! Sometimes you get so lost in the relationship you forget everything that made you strong. So glad I'm working on healing..God bless y'all ❤️
Yesssssss. Sounds like my past relationship. No Access, No Contact. Anytime you have to pray someone out of your life why would you want him back in. I stop looking at my feelings and started using my head (logic). The power comes from within (you) and not out (him). God Bless you Derek.
When I seperated, he was mean to me, made me doubt myself, when i always had confidence. He did not work on his shadows, and took it out on the world. Hes been emailing me and crying and begging. I cant go back matter how much he tries.
Damn! This resonates never going back, blocked and no contact - deflected and projected no accountability now u can hear my silence because you did not listen when I was around.
I left enough said ! I know my worth and I don’t have time for the games !!! That’s why I have discernment thank you Jesus , for protecting me and allowing me to stay strong . They will reap what they sow that’s why it’s important not to sow bad things it will come back on them . I have moved on !!! I’m good 😊
He lured me in with his clever monologues in front of me to heal, reflect, be in a healthy relationship only to pull suddenly and drastically away when he realized I'm hooked and 100 percent in. He waited patiently for me to get truly hooked, he invested and waited until convincing himself of this first before pulling away and leaving me on the ground... I was shocked and am still broken
My ex tried to kill me from the inside out! I went back so many times I lost count. All Derrick says he was is etc…two years away from him and I have grown so much xx
Wish I had watched this about 10 years ago . You literally just described my ex and the only way I could save my self is bu dumbing him 3 years later by not only cutting any kind of contact , blocking him and moving to a different county .
Yes all I needed was time to heal to not feel like I was betraying myself once again and he refused to give it to me because of his pride and his selfish needs and wants. He wanted me to recommit to him after the countless chances id already given him.
Wow everything you mentioned was actually the same thing I have been through .You just made me cry, because he Have done all of these things to me and I'm moving forward with my life. I'm creating a blessed life for me it still hurts but I take it day by day because I know God is in control and he will lead me on a path for his righteousness he knows what I've been through
I needed this video I was always going back and forth blocking and unblocking but like you said don’t wanna keep taking a sip of the poison It’s like u love them and want the best for them but just speaking to them have you feeling sick and dropping tears Just have to block them for good and let them figure themselves out
Amen brother theres nothing i wish more than never dealing with this emotional tormentor in my whole life again. However we have a young child together and he stills finds a way to break me down using our son as a pawn. God give me strength to put up with this crap for many years ahead.....
Wow I’m going thru this & he called me not too long ago and this video came on it’s like he already knows what’s been going on with my situation!! Thank you 🙏🏾 💜💜
2:55 you can’t downgrade a relationship down to a healthy friendship because this person still has to be worthy of even being your friend: you need to go no contact, no friendship, no sex no nothing If you drank something and it was poison how much contact would you want with it going forward
Yes you are so right I just walk away from a so call relationship after 3 years and then he told my one of my co worker that I was mood No I’m not mood just got tired of the BS and the betrayal
When a woman leaves FOR HER SELF, she won’t be back!
Amen!
I left for God and my dignity I won't be returning to nobody that tried to intentionally hurt me
It was hardest thing I ever did, I regretted it too but I had to leave to save myself
I know that’s right
@@sanjmalik6282
Why did u regret
Your self respect has to be stronger than your feelings.
Yessssss 💯
Boston
This‼️👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼
Amen
Definitely
When someone is Toxic, leave! Let them hit rock bottom and let them fix themselves. Your mental health and well being is far more important.
Yesssss good ness
Amen
I shed a tear
Exactly 💯
💯
This saved me today! Deleted his social media. Deleted his text messages and blocked him. I picked my crown back up
Same
❤️AMEN SISTA❤️💯
It’s just very saddening to know there are so many toxic, negatives and abusive people out there that go around literally draining and damn near killing good, loving people.
Isnt it just.
They will reap what they sow.💯
You are speaking the truth!
@@kierstencreates958 Yes they will.
...while asking why they can't find a good person
***DON'T EVER GO BACK..IT COULD MEAN YOUR LIFE***** 🏃 🏃 🏃 🚫
If only so many of these women who end up dead after dealing with toxic men in their lives knew their self worth and never went back to their abusers
@@ctgal9698 IKR .... 😵scary
It can kill us because the depression kills . Many women who commit suicide
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
I Hear You by Michael Singer
@@ctgal9698 Very true.
They will call you crazy cuz you see them for who they are
- Derrick
I’ve been going through this for 4 years on and off and TODAY I is the first step to healing . All he did was change his apology and added more tears , a different sob story . Moral of the story when they come back is not from a genuine place if there is no change behavior . It’s manipulation , breadcrumbing etc .
Amen 🙏 stay safe and prayed up and know you are beautiful and you better than just a breadcrumb…. Save your energy for someone that deserve you😇
Stay strong sis
@@chynabarnescb thank you doll 💕 learned the hard way . Stay safe and blessed ♥️🙏🏻
@@osolvholts thank you 😊
Big facts‼️‼️
I am at this point right now. Some people we have to love them from a distance. We have to forget about what we want and remember what we deserve. 💯
That part!!
On the real! period 💯
They don't even deserve to be loved from a distance.
I needed this, I left 2 years ago and I still allow him to dabble even when I see the toxicity. I think it’s the comfort for me even when I’ve been treated so much better by others. I’m praying for the chains to be broken
Amen 🙌🏽 🙏🏼
Watch some RC Blakes
🙏🏽 know your worth and own it or nobody will 💯
Chrissy, now that you know the facts in this video, you can change any of your behavior that lets the wrong ones in to your life! 😉
@@chrissy3684 Trauma bond…. love u 1st 🙏
Once you leave toxicity relationship don't contact that person at all work on yourself an love yourself first and god will do the rest
God
Yes He does!
You've 100% right!
Block him also...for a time, or maybe for ever.
I always talked about my mental health and he made me look crazy to everyone,I told him I will leave he just never thought I would.
No once you felt with a toxic person and they try to come back is "friends" Just know they will be just as "Toxic" in the friendship. Plus when you be friends with those types of people there is always an motive. You may have a certain motive but they will always have one hidden. Leave them alone and please don't look back
They always come back!
I won't go back. He fucked up this time. If he's not 210% there's no way I even look his way. I deserve better. For everything I've done. I'm treating him like he died. Fk ghosting. U dead to me.
Yes! I just said the same thing. I told him he is dead to me at this point.
Hi Derrick I watch all your videos and I agree with everything you said I was in a situation just like that but I'm absolutely done with him for good
BOOM. Exactly what I told him.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
I Hear You by Michael Sorenson
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Indeed. I relate. Dead to me.
I walked away with only a suitcase of clothes left everything because he wouldn't leave me but was making it impossible for me to stay so I had to be the one to leave I only wish I would have done it sooner And yes he would always call me every bad name you could think of I literally thought I was going crazy Till I realized that it was him all along I've never been happier And I thank God he gave me the strength to leave it all behind
All I can say is thank you...this video put tears in my eyes! Sometimes you get so lost in the relationship you forget everything that made you strong. So glad I'm working on healing..God bless y'all ❤️
I'm glad you're working on healing as well. I've been there and made it through. So will you.
I can definitely relate❤
God has you covered ❤🙏🔥👑🔥🙏❤
A million applause Amen
It sucks being completely alone but it’s better than being with the wrong one
Yesssssss. Sounds like my past relationship. No Access, No Contact. Anytime you have to pray someone out of your life why would you want him back in. I stop looking at my feelings and started using my head (logic). The power comes from within (you) and not out (him). God Bless you Derek.
When I seperated, he was mean to me, made me doubt myself, when i always had confidence. He did not work on his shadows, and took it out on the world. Hes been emailing me and crying and begging. I cant go back matter how much he tries.
Damn! This resonates never going back, blocked and no contact - deflected and projected no accountability now u can hear my silence because you did not listen when I was around.
I left enough said ! I know my worth and I don’t have time for the games !!! That’s why I have discernment thank you Jesus , for protecting me and allowing me to stay strong . They will reap what they sow that’s why it’s important not to sow bad things it will come back on them . I have moved on !!! I’m good 😊
Amen 🙏. It’s ironic I literally was thinking about unblocking someone. Thank you. God is always on time ❤️
Amen He is!
They also say that the other women is not you and make it sound as though you are better than but he still stays with that other woman
He lured me in with his clever monologues in front of me to heal, reflect, be in a healthy relationship only to pull suddenly and drastically away when he realized I'm hooked and 100 percent in. He waited patiently for me to get truly hooked, he invested and waited until convincing himself of this first before pulling away and leaving me on the ground... I was shocked and am still broken
Derrick you speaking to my soul.
I'm not going back I went to hell for trying to love him hard like never before he didn't apologize at all .
10 years and I'm am finally remembering who I AM!! Thank you!!!
My ex tried to kill me from the inside out! I went back so many times I lost count. All Derrick says he was is etc…two years away from him and I have grown so much xx
Wish I had watched this about 10 years ago . You literally just described my ex and the only way I could save my self is bu dumbing him 3 years later by not only cutting any kind of contact , blocking him and moving to a different county .
I went through the exact same thing 😮
When a dog goes back to its own vomit 🤮
Whenever I went back they hurt you 10 times worse than did the last time..
It never gets better
This spoke to me on so many different levels!
Yes all I needed was time to heal to not feel like I was betraying myself once again and he refused to give it to me because of his pride and his selfish needs and wants. He wanted me to recommit to him after the countless chances id already given him.
Wow everything you mentioned was actually the same thing I have been through .You just made me cry, because he
Have done all of these things to me and I'm moving forward with my life. I'm creating a blessed life for me it still hurts but I take it day by day because I know God is in control and he will lead me on a path for his righteousness he knows what I've been through
Ur so right Derrick this is why I'm still single and loving it I'm in a much better place state of mind ☺️❤️
This video tears 😢 tears 😲 omg I was broken all the way down
Trauma bonded memories! Spot on 💯
I needed this video
I was always going back and forth blocking and unblocking but like you said don’t wanna keep taking a sip of the poison
It’s like u love them and want the best for them but just speaking to them have you feeling sick and dropping tears
Just have to block them for good and let them figure themselves out
I thought I was the only one who blocked and unblocked apart from that I was doing things like changing my number and then giving it to the person
I literally just texted him at 9:14 and you post this😩😩😩. Thanks so much , I truly needed this!!!
I’m feel yah x
You don't need him baby!
U are definitely talking to ME!!!!!
DJ!!!!!!!U r really a blessing. A true big brother looking after ur Big n young Sis(sies). Keep up the good work Buddy.❤
Santa Barbara, California & Chicago ❤
Thank you 🙏
Am going through this today but I promise you this will be the last day
I’m in the same situation rn, thank u for ur positive words on today
Listen to him I did it !!! Living my best life💯❤️
Absolutely on point!!! Love ya Babe!!!
Amen brother theres nothing i wish more than never dealing with this emotional tormentor in my whole life again. However we have a young child together and he stills finds a way to break me down using our son as a pawn. God give me strength to put up with this crap for many years ahead.....
That's exactly how I was feeling. Thank you for the reminder!! 💚
This video is a blessing.
He tried to break me time and time again and have control. 2 1/2 years of this shi*. I’m just about ready to lace up my running shoes.
I needed to hear this RIGHT NOW! thank you more than you know
❤❤❤❤ Statesboro Ga 🙏 Thank You
You know the problem is that some woman stay and go back because they think they don't deserve better !
You right Derrick!! Learnt this the hard way
It was me 🙋🏽♀️, I needed to hear this!! Thank you, Jesus, for leading me here.
Came across your video for the second time. Now I know why I need to disappear so he will not be able to have access to me ever again.. ❤🙏🔥👑🔥🙏❤
Amen to that,I had to learn that myself the hard way and I found out that it's the best sanity your mind can ever endure🙂
He ain't gonna ruin it for me again,or Noone else is either.they just might as well go the crap on.
Wow I’m going thru this & he called me not too long ago and this video came on it’s like he already knows what’s been going on with my situation!! Thank you 🙏🏾 💜💜
Amen this is so true.
You are the best preacher I’ve ever listened to. Thank you for your service, it’s such a blessing.
Amen ! Everything you are saying I went thru & trying to get my sanity back ….Didn’t know a person could ever go thru something like this …….
Thank you DJ!! I’m so very glad you are BACK!! You are a blessing.
Saving this in my watch list and listening to it everyday until it sinks in‼️‼️
Ty 🙏❤️ I needed to hear this truth
I was her Thank God for supernatural strength and power 🙏💕
Amen I receive that we will be 10x better!! It's possible because with god all things are possible!! 🙏
Thank you for this powerful reminder of what God can do!!!🙏
I was mentally abused by my husband (separated).no contact
Your definitely correct thank you
Don't go back to hell just because you forgot your purse
That’s a good one.
Get a new 👛
@@mcole8594 like 👍🏽
I'm listening 🙂 thank you!
Out with the bad, in with the good.
Amen 🙏
Thank u so very much for all this.❤
Thank you for this 👏👏👏
Needed to Hear this Monalisa from South Africa
Cincinnati Ohio. Thank you for your videos.
Amen and thank you for this powerful message and validation!🙏🏽
Thank u ur heaven sent God bless u
Facts very much needed today
“Das poison”…I felt that!
Thank you Derrick and God Bless you. I heard the Lord speak to me loud and clear through you.......I now have NO DOUBTS love to all 💕
Foley Alabama
Chicago
You heard him Mrs Derrick! Get gone stay gone
Yes Yes. That's true
Thank you, I’m seriously considering this.❤️❤️❤️
Jealousy and control is all they want
Thank you I really needed this message today .God Bless You
Right on time. I need this type of speech. Thank you🙏
Derrick you are speaking facts. What you are saying is so true. Thank you.
I needed this
I can hear and see you clearly. 🎉
I needed to hear this.
Great commentary 💚❤🧡💜💙💛🤎🤍🖤
Colorado
I needed this 🙏🏾
2:55 you can’t downgrade a relationship down to a healthy friendship because this person still has to be worthy of even being your friend: you need to go no contact, no friendship, no sex no nothing
If you drank something and it was poison how much contact would you want with it going forward
Very true statement your right
Flint mich👍👍👍
Thank you for being you
Yes you are so right I just walk away from a so call relationship after 3 years and then he told my one of my co worker that I was mood No I’m not mood just got tired of the BS and the betrayal
Thank you so much ♥️ much needed for my journey to heal an leave