There is a duality with this topic that is never discussed. If you are doing 20yrs you are and have been a professional soldier. We in SOF learn how to compartmentalize the wear a tear on the brain and the body. The family does not. There is a life after the military but the spouse specifically has to understand themselves and the contract you signed. The reality is if you are turning and burning and deploying it’s all based off your timeline. And it’s not an easy pill for the significant other to swallow. The military is indentured servitude. Even if you make the time you will eventually be made a liar because you follow orders. The ripple of the GWOT has yet to be seen regarding the true effects on the family and those that served.
NEVER get married in the Military. Jody is real. Plus some spouses just pray for you to get deployed and worse. Its not worth being able to move off post. My ex cheated while I was traveling for business, with my Platoon Sgt no less. I etsed got divorced and he got sent to Korea right after he got married. Karma is real. Stay single invest your money no strip clubs, new cars or other "wants" you can retire dam well off and get a job with the private or Gov. sector.
It’s a tough gig. I’m on number 2 and hopefully never deploy again. I blame leadership. There is absolutely positively no reason to deploy people for longer than 60 days and there has got to be a way to balance training needs (TDYs) with the fact that nobody wants to be a monk. We want as normal a life as we can have. There is a reason nobody wants to join.
If you’re going to get married and you’re in the military in general, date and see how that relationship looks during a long deployment 3-6 months or longer…. If yall still together and for the most part they kept their shit together then maybe consider getting married. But if every few days it was meltdown city cause they’re co-dependent AF or they cheat then you know to cut’em loose
It’s about finding a woman that will be within your masculine frame and not demand that you to be in her feminine frame which is almost impossible these days. A woman’s mission is always to support her man’s mission regardless of what it is understanding there’s things much bigger in play than she may see in the moment.
@@Marteeen261 not at all. Perhaps you need to revisit our history as human beings. Who was made first and what our underlying purposes were because it certainly wasn’t for the woman to have her own mission and the man have his. Sex made you two into one and the man led while the woman followed. Her mission is to support the man’s mission, nothing narrow minded about that, it’s been like that since our inception. Women have gone astray from that pursuing their own mission which is why so many of them are lost today.
@@traypatterson5523 One day you will learn for the better, there is hope for you my friend Males and females aren't bound to simple ideologies, societal rules, or theology. We are given free will to pursue what we must and what interests us. Free will for all, men and women
@@traypatterson5523 You`re referring to the bible and religion which is all man made and some of it is untrue. Some women want to give up their identity and life to be with a man at his side and support him and others don`t. It`s true that if a woman marries into the military that she has to give up her own ambition and support her husband and children. Soldiers have never made good husbands and fathers on the whole as divorce rates are very high. A real marriage requires a true partnership and if the husband is away all the time, he is simply not there for his wife and children - he is simply supporting them financially and a sperm donor. It is the wife that is bringing those children up not the soldier.
@@traypatterson5523 Amen! Im a follower of Jesus and my future husband is at selection for special forces. I was predestined to be his helpmate (Genesis 2:22). So the Lord has been helping me to support his mission. I am anointed to be able to support and encourage him in his calling. My main mission on this earth will be loving and supporting my husband .
There is a duality with this topic that is never discussed. If you are doing 20yrs you are and have been a professional soldier. We in SOF learn how to compartmentalize the wear a tear on the brain and the body. The family does not.
There is a life after the military but the spouse specifically has to understand themselves and the contract you signed. The reality is if you are turning and burning and deploying it’s all based off your timeline. And it’s not an easy pill for the significant other to swallow.
The military is indentured servitude. Even if you make the time you will eventually be made a liar because you follow orders. The ripple of the GWOT has yet to be seen regarding the true effects on the family and those that served.
Well said
Just in time. I greatly appreciate you brotha.
May the Most High bless you and yours forevermore
The Quality is booming brotha 🤙🏼
I know an attorney in Pulaski County Missouri who is very wealthy focusing on military divorces and orders of protection.
NEVER get married in the Military. Jody is real. Plus some spouses just pray for you to get deployed and worse. Its not worth being able to move off post. My ex cheated while I was traveling for business, with my Platoon Sgt no less. I etsed got divorced and he got sent to Korea right after he got married. Karma is real. Stay single invest your money no strip clubs, new cars or other "wants" you can retire dam well off and get a job with the private or Gov. sector.
Outside any Military installation, there are husband-hunters running amok.
Bro, please release the full interview!
It’s coming
Drop the whole podcast please
Come soon
Then don’t listen to him then
This dude is not African American, Jake you are ADOS, this army guy is Haitian or Haitian American.
It’s a tough gig. I’m on number 2 and hopefully never deploy again. I blame leadership. There is absolutely positively no reason to deploy people for longer than 60 days and there has got to be a way to balance training needs (TDYs) with the fact that nobody wants to be a monk. We want as normal a life as we can have. There is a reason nobody wants to join.
@ex_asperated I am SOF…
You weren’t built for this life.
31 still young
If you’re going to get married and you’re in the military in general, date and see how that relationship looks during a long deployment 3-6 months or longer…. If yall still together and for the most part they kept their shit together then maybe consider getting married. But if every few days it was meltdown city cause they’re co-dependent AF or they cheat then you know to cut’em loose
Fire vid
Military is a singletons game.
RAD!
It’s about finding a woman that will be within your masculine frame and not demand that you to be in her feminine frame which is almost impossible these days. A woman’s mission is always to support her man’s mission regardless of what it is understanding there’s things much bigger in play than she may see in the moment.
Rather narrow minded of you. I hope you change your view of roles for the better
@@Marteeen261 not at all. Perhaps you need to revisit our history as human beings. Who was made first and what our underlying purposes were because it certainly wasn’t for the woman to have her own mission and the man have his. Sex made you two into one and the man led while the woman followed. Her mission is to support the man’s mission, nothing narrow minded about that, it’s been like that since our inception. Women have gone astray from that pursuing their own mission which is why so many of them are lost today.
@@traypatterson5523 One day you will learn for the better, there is hope for you my friend
Males and females aren't bound to simple ideologies, societal rules, or theology. We are given free will to pursue what we must and what interests us. Free will for all, men and women
@@traypatterson5523 You`re referring to the bible and religion which is all man made and some of it is untrue. Some women want to give up their identity and life to be with a man at his side and support him and others don`t. It`s true that if a woman marries into the military that she has to give up her own ambition and support her husband and children. Soldiers have never made good husbands and fathers on the whole as divorce rates are very high. A real marriage requires a true partnership and if the husband is away all the time, he is simply not there for his wife and children - he is simply supporting them financially and a sperm donor. It is the wife that is bringing those children up not the soldier.
@@traypatterson5523
Amen!
Im a follower of Jesus and my future husband is at selection for special forces.
I was predestined to be his helpmate (Genesis 2:22). So the Lord has been helping me to support his mission. I am anointed to be able to support and encourage him in his calling. My main mission on this earth will be loving and supporting my husband .
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