It's true, the memories become vague and foggy but scary and traumatic. It affects you, you can't have that thing happen to you again or you'll have a panic attack. (Or something similar) And I've been struggling with self loathing and or/ self hatred as treatment. And it's something deep, because even if you can't physically explain your trauma you'll always be able to tell someone how terrifying it is to relive that trauma.
She came to me in the sleeping hours And she sang to me in the moonlight: "Where did you dance when you baffled our chance, And when did the motley bells chime?" I summoned a verse from a chorus of blame, But it drowned in the ghost of her song. He came to me in the sleeping hours And he called to me in the moonlight: "Why does the fold now weep to behold, And how does it feel to be free?" I tendered the words from the tears of the same, But they dried as the dawn came upon. They came to me in the sleeping hours And they whispered to me in the moonlight: "What did you reap when you floated the keep, And whom did you trust with the key?" I buried my head in a cushion of shame - And I woke to find them all gone.
I like to hurt myself and become nihilistic when I take a break from smoking weed. Is that a self defense mechanism I’ve come up with to get myself smoking again?
I can’t help but I can relate. 5 months off weed and it has been hard dealing with nihilism but I would say that it takes the feeling centres of the body a while to recalibrate if you’ve been smoking daily for a while. Which I did for about 5 years. How have you been coping since? Have you stayed off the weed? I’d love to know if it gets any better :)
Yes I think often it's frequency and constancy of feeling unsafe or I'm chaotic environments can cause the fogged memory, the hypervigilence, the shame. Causing the fearful avoidant or dismissive avoidant attachment. PDS Thais Gibson explains this all so well.
Same. Ive got very clear memories of traumatic events and ive never been able to forget them... they play out like old films in my head when a similar situation has occurred.
@@KarmasAbutch As you grow, through life, these memories may become easier to hold, there will be more space, as you grow the memories do not necessarily become less painful, but they may exist alongside your new dreams, possibilities, and aspirations.
@@KarmasAbutch Sorry to hear that buddy. I had five years of weekly individual and group therapy, the encouragement and challenge I received made life a bit easier. I studied philosophy, psychology, religions, and counselling, I managed to get a different perspective on my own trauma. I hope you can find what works for you.
What she clearly knows, but did not explicate is that it is the body's reaction to "an event" or a wound, and, the trouble is that there was nobody there to keep us present and regulate our nervous systems, nor to help us to integrate. I get where you're coming from, but having been exposed to Dr. Fisher enough, this is a short clip, and this woman knows that to minimize our experiences is not alright nor accurate.
Eric is absolutely right. Read her books. Not only will you realise that she would never minimise trauma, they will also likely help you. She calls it "just an event" because she understands that what could only be worse than that event is having to live the event inside your body every day for years or decades. Those are the symptoms she's talking about, the "legacy" as she calls it.
A true scholar, a lovely teacher and no doubt a lovely and wonderful woman. God bless from down under.
It's true, the memories become vague and foggy but scary and traumatic. It affects you, you can't have that thing happen to you again or you'll have a panic attack. (Or something similar) And I've been struggling with self loathing and or/ self hatred as treatment. And it's something deep, because even if you can't physically explain your trauma you'll always be able to tell someone how terrifying it is to relive that trauma.
The hard part is fitting your trauma related feelings into day to day life. Its hard trying to fit into society.
I cried at the end 😞
She came to me in the sleeping hours
And she sang to me in the moonlight:
"Where did you dance when you baffled our chance,
And when did the motley bells chime?"
I summoned a verse from a chorus of blame,
But it drowned in the ghost of her song.
He came to me in the sleeping hours
And he called to me in the moonlight:
"Why does the fold now weep to behold,
And how does it feel to be free?"
I tendered the words from the tears of the same,
But they dried as the dawn came upon.
They came to me in the sleeping hours
And they whispered to me in the moonlight:
"What did you reap when you floated the keep,
And whom did you trust with the key?"
I buried my head in a cushion of shame -
And I woke to find them all gone.
Can you tell me who the author of this is? It's wonderful.
I like to hurt myself and become nihilistic when I take a break from smoking weed. Is that a self defense mechanism I’ve come up with to get myself smoking again?
I can’t help but I can relate. 5 months off weed and it has been hard dealing with nihilism but I would say that it takes the feeling centres of the body a while to recalibrate if you’ve been smoking daily for a while. Which I did for about 5 years. How have you been coping since? Have you stayed off the weed? I’d love to know if it gets any better :)
Who is the speaker
What about CPTSD
Yes I think often it's frequency and constancy of feeling unsafe or I'm chaotic environments can cause the fogged memory, the hypervigilence, the shame.
Causing the fearful avoidant or dismissive avoidant attachment. PDS Thais Gibson explains this all so well.
If I had this level of decorum I might've stayed in therapy.
I have symptoms and memories but they don't happen simultaneously.
Same. Ive got very clear memories of traumatic events and ive never been able to forget them... they play out like old films in my head when a similar situation has occurred.
@@KarmasAbutch As you grow, through life, these memories may become easier to hold, there will be more space, as you grow the memories do not necessarily become less painful, but they may exist alongside your new dreams, possibilities, and aspirations.
Agren Nath I’m in my 50’s... and that has not been my experience.
@@KarmasAbutch Sorry to hear that buddy. I had five years of weekly individual and group therapy, the encouragement and challenge I received made life a bit easier. I studied philosophy, psychology, religions, and counselling, I managed to get a different perspective on my own trauma. I hope you can find what works for you.
@@KarmasAbutch How do you cope Butch?
Omg. I relate
Someone who hasn't experience trauma can call it "just an event" obviously it is more than that or we wouldn't be having symptoms
What she clearly knows, but did not explicate is that it is the body's reaction to "an event" or a wound, and, the trouble is that there was nobody there to keep us present and regulate our nervous systems, nor to help us to integrate. I get where you're coming from, but having been exposed to Dr. Fisher enough, this is a short clip, and this woman knows that to minimize our experiences is not alright nor accurate.
Eric is absolutely right. Read her books. Not only will you realise that she would never minimise trauma, they will also likely help you. She calls it "just an event" because she understands that what could only be worse than that event is having to live the event inside your body every day for years or decades. Those are the symptoms she's talking about, the "legacy" as she calls it.
NAMI probably discourages this - unless it's in war vets.
Her voice irritates
It did me too so I shut it off the first time. I am glad I went back and listened to her message. Very insightful!
@@michaelkerr8785 She is the best, maybe we can ask her to sing her message? Lol.
I think her voice is actually very soothing and friendly and warm.
I like the song of her voice its like i have water in my ears and its cool af
Andi_S I thought the same weird how some get irritated but everyone is different. I know I get Pissed of by the most mundane things lol.