Why Do People Stare At You In Public
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completely dressed up more than usual and with a camera following you around "why do people stare at me??" 😆
There's some egomaniac mongoloid who does this in Soho in NYC and then posts people's reactions on Tiktok.
They're not staring at you, they're staring at why the short Asian dude is following you around with a camera.
If I ever see her in real life, I'm calling her out.
you do not not everyone is aware of the camer and it could be a small spy camera?
you people think he is holding a 3 foot tall gigantic 50 kg cinema movie star hollywood camer
asif she is chased by a movie crew fliming team?
relax people dont look at a tiny camera
and you dont know if the camera men is standing close to her or not
yes like, would someone not be staring at you ? lol
I've had people stare at me when I'm dressed for interviews and I'm not a particularly attractive person. I stare at people that dress well too, it makes me wonder where they're going, who they are, etc.
She isn't so attractive that people will look at her like that in a street. She must have had a poster, look at me.
its important to note that just because a person looks at you for a half second, that doesnt mean they are staring.
I need this reality check for myself
In that case then I never stare at anyone, I would look at people for a few seconds and quickly look at something else because I'm afraid I will look suspicious lol
Thank you for clarifying. I can confirm… people be staring. Gonna try to not be anxious about it tho and use it to my advantage
Can you tell me what does it mean if people stare for long periods of time with glares/ mean looks on they’re faces and they don’t stop staring even when you look back at them?..
@@evansplace7021 possibly you are dealing with prejudice people. I'm sorry if that is your current situation
Everything you say is true, and I don't disagree. The people are staring at the woman because she is attractive, but they could also be staring at the cameraman who is following her while she walks seductively, wondering what she is filming. This experiment should be conducted without the cameraman being visible.
Exactly, also among the 100s of people she walked by that day, obviously some looked at her, it ain’t special, everyone get looked at at some point, if you make a compilation out of it, ofc it will make it look like everyone is staring
They wouldn't stare at a fat girl with green hair even if she had 10 cameras following
@@heeeq0 people will stare wherever there are stimuli, you don’t have to be attracted by something to look at it
More people will stare at the green haired fat girl just to see what kind of shenanigan is she up to.
@@7embersVeryOwn no ones staring at an average person, unless they're doing something that intrigues you, people stare at the extremes on this scale, staring is different from a glance
The look of awe for attractive people versus the look of pity for unattractive people. People want to be friends with those who look good, people naturally gravitate to more pleasant looking humans than unpleasant ones, since childhood. I saw this myself with my nephews and nieces, they were around 3/4, and they didn't want to say hi back to someone, almost started crying, because they looked "scary"(I know the person, super nice and friendly, but facially he has a disproportionately large head and protruding eyes), while this really good looking man got their attention while waving at them, asking their names, and they weren't scared at all. Your looks and physique and skin tone, will shape how you see the world. The world's reaction to you is who you are, at least in your developing years. Yes individually someone may like you as a person, but in a general sense, your likeability is completely dependent on how you look. Life's game is rigged indeed.
It can get you in the door but doesn't keep you there if you don't develop your finer qualities whereas somebody less attractive can grow on you . I personally gravitate towards less attractive people to befriend and date because they seem less high maintenance and intimidating .
Couldn't agree more ❤
Women HATE beautiful lean women. Men sexually harass beautiful women. Only ugly people can't see the downsides.
"The world's reaction to you is who you are," You phrased it very well. And this is what i always felt and i shaped my personality in response to the reaction of the people towards me.
Sounds very black pilled
Thanks Qoves for helping us understand the great mystery as to why attractive people get attention in public. Because I was definitely confused about this before.
Honestly ugly people ger also stared
Lmao
how can you be confused with something like that..
And there’s one called autism
@@jaguarsparkle8788 my point exactly
In India everyone stares at everyone. It gets confusing why people are staring at you. Do they find you attractive or staring at you out of disgust or they stare because what they do or find you suspicious.
Exactlyyyyyyyyyyy
Alot of the videos on this channel are based on western minds. Most things dont play out in others cultures. Beauty standards for one
Yo literally at my gym there as an Indian lady, 35 years old, I guess, and she just stared at me, a guy, 19 years old. I felt super uncomfortable.
thats hillarious
@@Bob-xg9yb they've mentioned a couple of times how female beauty standards are different in the east vs the west. They're not completely ignored.
So people have negative sentiments about unattractive people? Now it all makes sense why my coworkers threw me down a flight of stairs last year.
they did WHAT
@@lefroste6370 we threw him down a flight of stairs last year
@@thisisntmarko2111 this man be ruthless material😂😂
Holy shit
Did you sue??
Body language and fashion plays a lot into that: I made an experiment in a club:I was well groomed and dressed in a fitted semi-formal outfit with a nice watch and necklace, with my shoulders slightly back, open body language and moving slowly, as if I was the owner checking everything. I got a lot of stares, girls surrounding me and guys greeting me, starting conversations, etc.
Now if I had just worn random baggy clothes, ugly shoes and standing in the corner with my beer, slouched and hand in my pocket, I would´ve been invisible, even as an attractive guy. There is much more in your control than you think.
Amen
Exactly. Well said. I experienced this myself. I’m a girl. It’s confidence, how you move, hair style. Also with girls well done make up matters.
Bingo. Put a bit of work in your attire and how you look. Most people are a 6 who can fake being an 8.
baggy clothes are attractive though lol
That is a great social experiment
That woman and any of the people doing these "people staring at me" videos... they are staring because you have a camera following you and you are dressed up walking around dramatically. I'm sure people would also look at them for their beauty too, but willing to bet the main reason is out of curiosity. Anytime I'm taking pictures or videos in public people always look. People also stare when you're dressed weird, acting strange, or unconventionally attractive.
I bet if there wasn’t a camera she would get the same amount of stares lol she’s gorgeous…
@@halobaby0331 ehh … you’re reaching. She’s got a really good blow dry done and good clothes… other than that there’s nothing special about her physical looks. Just another everyday white girl
@Abc Defgh what a retarded analogy lmfao
@@halobaby0331 oh im absolutely not saying shes not attractive, but honestly not to the level of staring at like her video portrays. She looks like a normal nice woman and I definitely wouldn’t be gawking if I passed her in public, but I also just think staring is rude and hate when people do it to me.
@@halobaby0331no not really. There's many attractive girls in the world, they don't all get stared at like that.
As a woman I stopped wearing cute clothes because people stare, then I realised men stare no matter what you wear. I’ve noticed women be rude or pass snarky remarks esp if I dressed cute.
I understand the male gaze, I just don’t understand women being mean to other women, my girl gang and I appreciate beautiful men and women for eg. would remark how cute a girl is.
Women appreciating women is the truest compliment you can receive because men would f a pole. Women need to realise another women’s shine doesn’t dull yours. Being rude and mean makes your personality ugly and unattractive.
Its usually due to jealously or some superiority complex they have.
I'm a man, I don't find poles f'able, I would love to stare at woman if they were less hostile to it. We're not doing harm just admiring, instead I have to time my glance and worry I'll get in trouble for looking too long.
@@FSXairpilot how would you feel if intimidating women who you weren’t attracted to came up to you and just stared at you
@@baby.nay. So its okay, if you are attracted to them? lol
@Nay I had this happen before actually, usually I just leave and try not to make eye contact. I dont like hurting others feelings so i sometimes end up acting socially unaware, i agree that it's a complicated matter.
Clothes definitely matter, when I wear a top or a cute dress people definitely stare more, when I dress plainly I blend in. So I guess the body thing you talked about
I catch people staring at me in public often. They usually look away guiltily and i never know whether it's cause they think I'm attractive or i just have spinach in my teeth 😒. I rate myself a 6.5. And when i catch them staring a second time, that's when it starts to feel weird 🤨
Your face isn't beautiful. You look average. Of course a dress stands out, because only a very little number of women wesr dresses or look feminine at all.
depends if body shape is visible i guess
@@youknowme1475
Amen to that
Are your tits out? Could also be a reason why they're staring...
The most I ever got harassed on a single walk, I was walking to the doctors while sick. I was completely covered by loose, plain, dirty clothes with unbrushed hair, looking objectively unattractive.
I walked the same path I’d pass every day, usually looking good, hair done, nice outfit and unbothered by strangers.
Yet this time, I was hit on verbally 3 times on top of stares. It still confused me a bit, but my mom told me it’s because these people are looking for vulnerability
Yeah i notice I get hit on when I'm wearing plain clothes than when I have a nice outfit on. I think when you are done up you look more "intimidating".
I think I’ve mastered the “don’t fucking look or talk to me” vibe. That or I just look constantly pissed.
That’s so weird! I have the complete opposite reactions - I get harassed when I wear makeup and I get left alone and pretty much ignored when I’m not wearing any.
why would they be looking for volnutability? That happens to me as well . I get approached when I'm at my worst and dressed down with no makeup and mostly when I look completely tired and exhausted or very sleepy. Men stare like predators and they try to abroach me and women look and smile When I'm dressed well and put together with make up and feeling comfident men make. a quick stare and move away and women give me evil stares...
The only time a guy was creepy towards me it was when I was in dispair (personal reasons), so my body language became vulnerable. He quickly left me alone after my body language perked back up to how it usually is though. I found that really interesting.
I've never been able to decide if I'm attractive or unattractive and it has caused me a lot of internal turmoil, but I treat everyone with respect and politeness and I can promise you that matters a lot more than being conventionally attractive. A cheap product can look real nice until you try to use it
Whether you’re conventionally attractive or unattractive by society’s standards, also remember to treat yourself with respect. At the end of the day I honestly don’t know whether I’m attractive or not either, but I know 2 things for sure: 1) my physical appearance will never be able to please everyone (so why try?) 2) i’m stuck with my body and face for a lifetime, so i might as well learn to genuinely love and appreciate them without the outside influence and acceptance of others
Same here and yet people find me pleasant through my attitude
@@CeCe1066 Thank you a lot for those words
@@CeCe1066well said
If women you don’t know compliment your appearance you’re attractive, if they don’t you’re not. Tinder is a good way to judge too as it’s very much based on aesthetics
Because I'm so profoundly ugly i warp the very fabric of reality around me, it's very hard for people not to stare when children and pets that look up at me are atomising as their innocence is confronted with the lovecraftian horror that is my visage.
Same lmao
Same lmao
As sad as this comment is, the description gave me a good laugh so thank you
Aphex Twin profile picture and references to Lovecraft, those are attractive traits (in my books at least lol). Chin up, friend 😊
We got a poet up in here goddamn
Then there’s some people who are very socially awkward. They think any form of eye contact is “staring” no matter how brief it is.
Most people can tell the intention of the person who looks at them.
@@CordeliaWagner no they actually can’t. If so then tell me
@@CordeliaWagner thats utter bs
@@CordeliaWagner No, you yourself think you can tell the intention of people who look at you, but you're naïve and have no clue if the intentions you're picking up are real
@@CordeliaWagnerNah staring can mean anything. Ive looked and subconsciously stared at people for all sorts of reasons.
As a tall woman (175cm) I often felt like people were staring at me for no reason other than me being taller than them. Especially older people lol. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I hate it. I envy people who can blend into a crowd more easily when they want to. I dont always want to be a focal point.
God no. Same height. Own it. I wear heels. Welcome to my world.
Same. I simply wear even bigger clothes and slack my posture a bit. It helps. People find me intimidating/arrogant sometimes when I'm dressed up. Can be exhausting. It's like to have a pedestal attached to your feet. I can't see where heels would help. When I look more like them I look human.
Same. They look at my feet and shoes a lot too. Super weird.
@@leonore3349lol they're probably wondering if youre wearing heels
@@lolololololollol4793 I thought the same:)
"Why do people stare at you?"
1. You are physically attractive.
There you go, save some of your time watching this video.
Not correct, people stare creepy looking and scary looking people more than attractive
Don’t be bitter. I want to know why in more detail why people stare at me. That’s why we watch these videos. Your so so soooooo smart for cutting to the chase 😒
Nah. It could be cuz of pity
i mean you might also look different...
@@dudedude-su7ptyou stare at creeps? That’s weird
As someone with paranoia issues, getting more attractive made me feel investigated lmao!
The eyes are staring you
just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they aren't after you!
@@thats_odd 🤣🤣🤣
They are in your walls
I’m just an average man, with an average life.
I work from 9-5, and I know I pay the price.
All I wanna do is left alone, in my average home.
But why do I always feel like I’m in the twilight zone and
I always feel like…Somebody’s watching me 🎶
I sometimes have anxiety in public places and having the feeling people look at me makes me more nervous and it changes the way I walk too. Few years it was so bad, that I wanted to go home as soon as something ‘hit’ me😭 and sometimes I’m fairly confident about my looks. I once walked in suit in downtown Toronto and I got complimented all day long 😭 I like how the vid goes into anthropology as well! Lovely as always.
I feel you, my walk starts to feel goofy af if I feel people looking at me 😭
@@bethtoniccool4676 OMG YES!!!! it feels numbing or something 😭
Yes I can absolutely relate. I get fidgety if people stare. I tend to dress down now because when I dress in the diva type of style that I like, it causes too much attention.
I have anxiety in public places cause I’m ugly and already have a negative sentiment against me because of my lack of attractiveness.
@@unmaskedparkerpeter1680 I’m so sorry to read this and idk why because I don’t even know you, but I really hope you’ll find the spark that you need to walk in public with confidence 🤍 I know how it feels like to be nervous in public :/ it can be really debilitating!
Attractiveness certainly is a factor. Also, I've noticed, the days when I've put effort into my hair, clothes, etc are the days my confidence is up and I'm just feelin' myself in general. Confidence is magnetic and very attractive to people in general. When I'm feeling good and confident, I know it shows in other ways, too, such as the way I that I walk and maintain eye contact.
There is a beauty backlash also. I read from Daniel Mackler a former therapist has observed the opposite of pretty privilege in counseling attractive women. They experience a lot of pain and depression bc ppl automatically think that they steal their men and mothers are jealous of their attractive daughters and treat them with contempt. I’ve experienced this myself from my mother in my formative years. Subsequently I’ve suffered from depression bc the way ppl have treated as a young woman. I’m older now and am more comfortable with being less attractive.
Amen
It’s so sad to think some mothers are that way.
I never considered mothers being jealous of their daughters beauty but I could totally see that.
God, imagine having the person responsible for your livelihood just burn and seeth with jealousy towards you, what a nightmare.
@@Aaron-kj8dv My mother constantly putted me down all my childhood while complimenting my little sister and I was so hurt because I couldn't understand why.
Her constant bashing made me feel so ugly and I couldn't understand what I did to deserve this treatment compared to my sister.
One day when I confronted her, she told me : "People are always saying how pretty you are and not your sister so I treat her better so that it's more balanced".. hearing that from my mother was worse than a punch in the stomach.
I would have traded compliments from strangers anytime for feeling loved and appreciated by my mother
@@EIIy nah bro your mom is just a narcissist 🤷♀️. She probably chose your sister as her golden child while you're the scapegoat.
It's not always the good looks that catches attention. It may be fancy clothes, hair, or other specific things that may interest us.
Simply she's tall, striking and elegant. Also it takes confidence in your appearance to pull of her fashion sense which in her case being attractive and tall helps. Most people dress like npcs to avoid standing out due low self esteem
I agree with most of what you said except for the last part. I don't understand where you get the correlation that with, "most people dressing like npc because they have low self esteem." In my experience is just that fashion is usually the last thing people think about, you know they're more important than your appearance. Even though I considered myself to be fashionable, I understand people have other things to worry about other than your shoes matching with your outfit.
I like the western style eye contact stand off xD so I usually dress really well (button shirt, black jeans, partially black glasses (you can still clearly see where I'm looking), etc. People say I look like an FBI agent or a bodyguard) or really badly (my work clothes, torn up, greased, etc).
I love the "really badly" dressed cause I get overlooked and it makes my introverted senses feel more at ease (less feelings of "I'm being watched" or "someone will want to talk to me", idk when I'm not "prepared to socialize" I just can't xD otherwise I'm such a good speaker that I've represented my college twice already)
I've also noticed introverted women dress in non-striking and just kinda pretty clothes or just "normal" clothes.
It's definetely my detection as well 👌
@@andergarcia4953 I think he meant exactly what you said
Last part is the dumbest thing ever, sorry. I knew a lot of girls who're at least pretty and believe me, they know they're pretty, but after some time got tired of annoying attention, and chose to dress more modestly and greyishly I guess? I'm rambling right now, cause it's not the first time I'm seeing overusing the phrase low self esteem
the problem with all this is that u can't figure out whether u are very ugly or very pretty because both of them people stare at you, and if u ask people u know they just say "nooo ur not ugly", but im pretty sure im ugly but im just tall so people stare cause i stand out
im ugly af. y people gotta stare at me tho
Doubt it. Why would people wanna stare at something repulsive? Unless you have like a major flaw that’s noticeable
@@CertifiedTyronefor the same reason why people look at gore
@@deemah3602 oh no😂😂😂😂😂
@@deemah3602 I don’t think that’s a good comparison lol.
Me personally I have a hard time keeping my eyes on “ugly” people. It triggers my brain to cringe
maybe you're not actually ugly
Look, there's no doubt that attractive people get attention but it seemed like the woman in the first video got attention because she was walking around like she was on a runway, exaggerated hand movements and showed some skin while most of the people wore jackets so she might have stood out for other reasons than her attractiveness.
Yeah I saw a similar reel where a woman was doing this in another country as a foreigner so ofc people would be curious and look especially with someone following you and being dressed way differently than the normal person
Yeah she was definitely putting on a show so she could attract attention
when i go out all cute and dressed up people are soo nice and sweet whereas when im in my hoodie sweatpants no makeup they be so rude😔✋
It's bad knowing you are ugly, because sometimes I just want to stare at such beautiful people in awe and I don't want them to feel disgusted with me.
I’ve stared more at people that look strange than attractive, you never know .
Or most likely looking at your goofy clothing which is more common now.
so your an appearance person
and not a person person
its the looking at peoples bodies clother etc
Hater jkjk 😂
Yep I'm the same. If anything i will glance attractive people but then dont give them attension cause i dont want em to know i find em attractive. One thing i hate is when people stare at my shoes. I always try to have nice shoes but people always staring at em.
@@jamiemohan2049 lol you dont want them to know lol
Isnt that what they all say
my insecurities immediately comes out when people stare at me in public. i don't think i'm unattractive nor attractive though. HELP I REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHY DO PEOPLE STARE EVERYTIME I GO OUT
Make a video on how high or low pretty privilege is for both genders in different countries and regions across the world
The halo effect is worldwide and transcends time. It’s a human psychological phenomenon, so I can’t imagine there are concrete levels depending on location 😕
@@MISSMADISONMEDIA there are, depending on the place and cultural norms being pretty might make you be treated better or it might put you at higher risk of sexual violence
@@akatsukidarwin5557 well u are more likely to get away with sa women if ur an attractive men
at clubs etc
@@Moesie Why would you need to get away with that? Just don't do it
@@akatsukidarwin5557 the point is he won’t know it was sa if the woman convinced herself that it wasn’t due to his attractiveness
I’m very tall, 5’11 180cm
People stare because I’m tall. Women are just surprised/interested. Men are trying to decide if I’m taller than them and want to see if I’m wearing heels.
I don’t think it has anything to do with attractiveness. There’s lots of reasons people stare.
If your profile pic is you, they are also staring because you're very attractive lmao.
And more importantly tall. Believe me there is no shortage of pretty girl out there
@@hiddenmutant 🤍
Yeah "to compare themselves."
To the people (especcially females) who feel uncomfortable for being stared at, dont worry, its mostly instinctual and when not, usually its just a person being like, "huh, what a nice looking person" and not them thinking in creepy ways, in fact, a lot of times its subcontious and you dont notice it
Thanks for the clarification. ;)
Yep i find myself staring a lot but don't mean anything by it.
It's unconfortable anyway. Difficult to feel safe when there are always people looking at you.
@@dsoul1305 if anything you should actually be safer, if more people are paying attention to you and something bad happens you have more witnesses.
@@rxndini usually what happens are males being disrespectful quietly and people really witness and do nothing, so...
I have been waiting for this
I loved today's video !!! Your the best QOVES!!!😁🔥😆
Thank you for this. I have never clicked so fast on any video 😅
People in India generally stare at other people. I am a guy and not at all attractive nor do I try to stand out in public but still people gaze like quite hard. Maybe its inbuilt Indian quality. I personally get uncomfortable looking at other people if they look back at me.
2nd comment I’ve read on here that said that about India.
I'm like this too. I have Indian background but never been there. It's interesting actually, like I look at everyone, sometimes it's considered staring and most the time, it actually has nothing to do with the person i'm looking at. For example, at work, I was looking into a distance and the girl next to me said I was "looking at her outfit", when the reality was I looked at her outfit for maybe 0.5th of a second. But i've always had a tendency to gaze hard and get distracted so maybe it really is a lesser-know Indian quality :)
@@s.s6499 could be.
when I was less attractive, and before my ''glow up'' I didn't realize how badly I had taken care of myself, but people made me feel almost invisible, really people straight out ignored me, it was as if I did not exist, they would acknowledged my friends but not me in small talk, especially men.
now people smile, and in general are more pleasant. it is a sad thing but biological I suppose, I learned not to put my value in outside validation. also health comes a long way, I had only addressed some health issues (hormonal) and my ''glow-up'' was apparent enough to warrant stares.
Could you please explain which hormonal issues they were? It's interesting to know about it
this video was something I didn't realise I needed and apparently I didn't but still cool to play in the bg while I study, the person's voice is soothing
its actually made me so socially anxious literally whenever i walk into class everyone stops and stares at me and it's like thank you i woke up 3 hours before schools starts to look this good... but at the same time... holy shit.
pfp twins! I got scared bc I thought this was my comment that I never wrote 😅
I know I'm ugly. Stop staring at me 😭
I feel you 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Over
I was at a packed club in Jamaica and noticed this beautiful woman (who was with her significant other) giving me the evil death stare. I mean, if looks could kill I’d be burnt toast. So I walked up to her and told her she was so pretty and this gorgeous smile shot onto her face and she told me I was pretty too and let me get in front of her at the bar. And everyone clapped. Jk, but it reminded me of the movie Love Potion #9, where men will look at you with lust, but women will look at you as if you’re a threat. I’ve become less of a hater as I got older, and can appreciate beauty in both genders. I also notice I get a lot of looks, but not as much compliments. Give more compliments peeps, you never know who needs one!! ❤
that's rare, I would love to see or be part of something like that
Thanks alot to quote I learned alot and know what to improve on Thanks for your efforts in video ❤❤❤❤
I feel if people look at me, they look at me because of disgust. Acne is bad but it slowly improves
Quit sugar and dairy.
@@CordeliaWagner I guess it depends on the person, quitting sugar and dairy didn't work for me. What did work was Acne Cream, Benzoyl peroxide to be exact. My skin became much clearer after a couple of months.
@@CordeliaWagner okay, dermatologist 🙄
use tepezcohuite soap
It has become my pet peeve and it really makes me uncomfortable when people (regardless of whether they're aesthetically appealing for me or not) stare at me for like more than a few seconds like I killed their family member or something; like "bro/ma'am, I'm not worthy to be stared at 😭😭😭"
Basically they might be looking at you becuase maybe you look like a goblin or you look mejestic
Thank you for my Ted talk😂
Amazing work and videos
I once heard women stare at other attractive women for long to find a flaw in order to feel better about themselves lol
Had something like this happen recently. My younger brother graduated high school a few days ago and so I got dressed up for the actual ceremony (wore makeup which I don’t really do, wore a pretty dress etc.). We’re standing outside our car and I’m helping him put on his gown and cap, when a girl gets out from the car parked next to us and she gives me the most nasty and disgusting look. The worst thing about it was that she simply would NOT look away. If that happened to me a few years ago I immediately would have just driven back home since that’s how bad my social anxiety used to be.
@@cocob0l0 she was looking for that flaw lol. Glad u stood your ground and didn't bother. People don't become jealous of what they're not uncomfortable with or challenged by.
That is a fact
nah i stare at attractive women bc im gay
@@robin-dx2zd that's diff you're a man we're talking about why some women stare at women hard and long
I'm not personally that good looking (or at least that's what I believe) but people still stare at me in public because I'm always well dressed,put together and walk with poise. Sometimes it's not even only looks,it's more.
thanks for the info bro 😍😍
The last sentence kinda blew my mind. The commandment to both men and women in the quran (Muslim scripture) is literally to lower your gaze. Since objectifying people is wrong, you have to overcome your biological compulsion by lowering your gaze. This is the first step of modesty. There's also the way you dress, speak, and behave.
Before I watch this video I'll give my answer: its because of my posture. My horrible posture. I'm so insecure about it. Also the spot light effect where if we believe we have a flaw (could be something insignificant like a stain on our shirt) every one has seen it and it feels so embarrassing. When in truth it's not as big of a deal as we're making it to be. Yes it's a stain and people have seen it but it's not that bad. (I just read about this spotlight effect long ago and it came to mind while I was typing this comment)
I feel like people look at me but not in a "she's pretty" kinda of way, but in a way that's uncomfortable and I feel like I have a very particular look, I'm really pale, have eye bags, dark hair and often I look like I'm about to faint or kill someone, a few occasions i caught old women looking at me and the problem for me was that they kept looking at me once I saw them, and it would never be a nice look, its always that side eye, I dont know if my anxiety is so much that people can also feel it
Give them a wave and a smile!
Nooo legit this!! You phrased this so well. Exactly how I feel… I noticed that too, that people tend to give me a side eye and I feel like I don’t do anything in particular for it. I have natural black hair, but the tips are pink (dipped dyed) and I’m also poc, but fair skinned and I am very tiny. I weigh about 95lbs and am 5’1, but I’m not sure if that has anything to do with it. I also have an rbf face I guess
I used to date a man who told me it was irresponsible for me to go for walks because I would “cause car accidents” 😊 I always thought that was funny and now here Is Qoves saying it’s true 😏
I was the man
I’m just an average man, with an average life.
I work from 9-5, and I know I pay the price.
All I wanna do is left alone, in my average home.
But why do I always feel like I’m in the twilight zone and
I always feel like…Somebody’s watching me! 🎶 and I have no privacy
Great song!
I get alot of stares when I go out when I'm overall average. My body is overweight but my face is pretty and clear, I wear makeup that looks good on me, I'm tall and I also walk with confidence.
Cool 👍 Happy for you. And thanks for sharing. 😂
I’m confusion fat body skinny face how it works you’re build like a snowman ?
Why don't you care enough to eat healthy and work out?
@@CordeliaWagner I have eating disorder I over eat and compensate by under eating or not eating at all. I'm currently trying to recover. My metabolism is wrecked so even when I eat very little I don't lose weight because my body doesn't get food consistently so it holds on to the fat even more. I need to be confident in my larger body first to be able to get healthy.
Because that is sustained effort and not accomplish within a day. If you believe in astrology, it's due to Taurus & water sign (especially Cancer) influence in your chart. My sister is a Taurus rising have a curvy plus size body (fat gather at her chest then thighs first) but a more harmonious face that don't get bloated often. Cancer just get bloated all over like the Venus of Waldorf.
I understand it might be mainly looks but I also think your energy has to do with it. So having a lot of charisma / sex appeal which isn’t only looks. And the way you carry yourself/ your posture etc. 😊
It's 90% looks though
Real
@@BitchChill if you’re hot but have hunchback posture no one is going to be looking I GUARANTEE you that.
@@ruby8718 If you'rr ugly but has a perfect posture, there isnt a difference
People can't see energy.
beauty is soo important
Masterpiece✨
There is also a guttural gaze that you forgot to talk about, It's usually in the form of extreme eye contact, almost predatory looking.
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Since, so many asked, I had to clarify,
It's an eye to eye locked on gaze, similar to how one can exchange eye contact with a territorial feral cat, and it doesn't seem that it can be good.
I give that one to anyone who looks at my eyes in public.
Dont give me hope
Can you be more specific in what you mean? I know that sometimes (like once every 2 moths) I just can not stop looking into someones eyes for some reason and they can not stop looking in mine and it's weird af. Not about attraction (I'm hetero and this happens with women and men and even older people, but older people usually just stare it's not the weird switching between stare and looking away). Is that what you mean?
what do you mean by guttural gaze?
@@Marina-wi3rs deep and harsh
people stare at me because I'm 4'10 and my head is the size of a balloon 😂😭
Thanks for answering my stressful "late night I should sleep it's 4 am" -question.
You don't have to follow beauty standard to be pretty tbh. just dress well and be confident with yourself can make you attractive.
Hell people stare at me regardless haha, i think it's just the way we carry ourselves, the energy we give off, we humans are very leaky and some people just have a particularly interesting leak i guess.
Now explain why random people stop me to start a conversation or ask for directions when I walk around looking like a deer in headlights?
literally lmao
Is it more likely that people stare because I’m looking abnormal or very ugly ? I get extremely uncomfortable when strangers stare and I’m also extremely insecure- there’s no way people are staring at me because they think im attractive.
U look cute from your photo
girl i just looked at ur profile and they’re staring cause ur pretty
If you travel your bound to meet someone who thinks your attractive
@@selans what a sweet thing to say 😭 I’m terrible at taking compliments but I hope you know that I appreciate it
@@madallas_mons wow thank you 😳 I was not expecting that
I experience this phenomena, it's not just in my head, people really do stare at me in public, it can be outright absurd, doesn't matter where i go, people stare, I've seen people bring up their smartphone and holds it up facing me, people that i know say that it's my energy, could also be part due to my really long curly blond nordic hair, it makes me feel really uncomfortable at times when people wont stop.
I believe you, I've experienced this too on public transport, it's awful. The picture taking I mean
Same, it is very uncomfortable. No matter where i go i see people starring at me for atleast a min.. i don’t think it’s in my head but it’s reality
I think it's also the way she walks with alot of confidence. Just like marilyn monroe had a walk that made her more attractive.
When I go out, people stare at me because I look mixed. I look like a Eurasian and I’m taller than the average woman here. I’m also a well-dressed person. I believe they stare because they’re curious. However, it’s only a brief stare, not that type of rude and hostile stare. And I find that strangers like to be around me and some would go out of their way to interact with me, maybe because I have a kind and an innocent looking face.
Good video. I have to say though I find those people who film themselves getting looks from people utterly pathetic 😭
This video just taught me why we men tend to prefer a pretty face in women we perceive has good long term partners instead of just a hot body (obviously the two would be the best deal) as the face gives the queues to personality.
Wtf are you smoking
I agree with you. I prefer pretty face with average body over a bombshell body with average or unattractive face.
@@gudduentertains I agree but only if we are talking about long term. If its just a fling, I prefer a better body if I really have to choose
Faces give cues to personality???
@@CordeliaWagnerhaha apparently, and somehow he learned that from the video lol. Jokes aside he probably meant face gives bias to personality
Lol the „ugly guy” 2:23 has such a typical polish/slavic face. I swear he looks like a mix of my collegues and friends, and possibly because its familiar I dont find him that bad
Right?! I'm Romanian and I think the same. I'd understand if that was considered average but unattractive seems like an exaggeration
I am saying this as a russian, I really don't like our genetics, I personally think that we are really ugly, specifically because of our fat faces and wide nostrils. It's probably my personal problem but I find every second person on the street disgusting as hell, both for women and men
@@gorilla_2282 mongol
@@vklnew9824what? I literally typed some comments on this channel on russian
You know what quoves? Try this experiment with extremely attractive person with hidden camera. Then we'll see what will happen
Xual harrassment. Men approaching her. Men yelling at her.
@@CordeliaWagner or just looking...
I'd watch that. Also do it with attractive men.
I get stared at alot. Especially in my face. People in public places stare at me harder when they hear me speak. Some people say I have an uncanny valley aesthetic look or I look weird
You do but it's not because you're good looking.
It's because you look strange.
Sim, eu olhei sua cara e fiquei encarando, estranho. Mas acho que o que muda é o jeito que a pessoa te encara, se ela faz alguma careta ela te acha estranha.
Save yourself from watching this video. Why do people stare?
1. Because they think you're attractive.
2. Because you look different.
3. Because you look like a famous person or like someone they know
4. Because they are suspicious of you or crazy and watching you.
5. Cultural differences
"Lower your gaze" wise words if you have a partner. I'm single and if a girl looks me in the eye and smiles as I walk past she is almost always single. So we look as a kind of offering. I see you, do you see me? If they don't then march onward. If you're married you should not be looking and smiling at all. Just playing with fire.
Is it possible for everyone to be attractive? Or will we become more sensitive to subtle differences if surgery/looksmaxing becomes more prominent?
Everyone can become attractive and then people will focus more on people with more exotic and unique features
@god tuna There is a relative and objective component to beauty. If everyone is objectively beautiful, people will be less excited by beauty but will still find other people attractive. Exotic features will become exciting because they are more rare and unique
If you're average looking like me, contextual reasons are probably the majority of the reason why people stare. In the past two to three months I noticed way more people staring, both men and women. Then I realized I often wear mirror-like reflective sunglasses and they're probably just noticing the reflection.
Come to the South Asian countries. Here everyone stares everyone, specially if you're a woman. Doesn't matter what you were
nope they do it when they remain suspicious of someone
Im the movie Malena, Monica Bellucci is stared at constantly. I recommend looking into it (many excerpts on TH-cam) a sad story about the negatives of being remarkably beautiful and sexism. A+
I am sure the clip was inspired by that movie.
What I've learned from this channel are there are way too many studies about hot people
If I had no social contact from when I was born, I'd be staring at all them waists all day long 🤣 Admiring art!
I would like to see a breakdown of the look of some classical statues like michelangelo's david
I wouldn't know
I'm just average, but when I do my hair like in my profile, and dress classy like her, I get the same attention. If I dress down, or just don't put in the same amount of effort, guess what? It's like I'm not even there. I don't wear layers of makeup because of skin sensitivity (and the ingredients in most products,) so I have to be nearly bare face all the time. No makeup transformation for me.
Another time I thought I was looking good cause everyone kept staring.
Went home and saw my tears had frozen on my eyelashes so I looked like I was crying
Runway effect? Are you sure it’s not because I look like a swamp ogre who’s just emerged from his 10,000 year hibernation?
happier, yeah right
I am someone who gets stared at a lot. It's mostly because of my nice physique; but also because they are confused. I have the proportions of a very tall person, but at second glance, I am actually only 5'4. And while my facial features are not conventionally attractive (I have a fairly large nose and an ethnically ambiguous face), people can't help but look because I think they are, at the same time, attracted to my body and confused by my face, so they are trying to calculate in their heads to try to figure out what category of "attractiveness" to place me at.
Lol
The internet is amazing because me tooo woahhhhh 🫨
Same girl that's the same with me and I'm 5'4 too
I don't think people really care too much about how strangers look. You guys need to touch grass... quickly.
@@tessy28 Who said we said they care? I just said they stare and why
I don't know if people stare at me because I look good or that I look goofy
The face of the first lady with glasses 🤣 that's my exact reaction to pretty people
Interesting... either I don't notice, or I have if ever been stared at, and usually if I notice and look back, they look away.
I mean, I stare at people I find attractive but also those that stand out negatively (doing something weird, interesting clothes, unattractive, etc.).
This would've been a better video if you contrasted the TYPES of looks people give and how to identify them. It feels like a lot of people stare with neutral expressions, but it could be that we just aren't reading it correctly.
Wear interesting clothes is a negative thing for you?
@@dsoul1305 When I say interesting, I don't mean fashionable. I mean weird things like shirts with inappropriate logos or something that looks like an attempt at fashion but failing (shoulder pads, men in padded boots, etc.). Nothing inherently wrong with it, but it comes off as a negative more than positive at a glance.
I feel like "attractive" is a very loose term. Fashion plays a huge role in what we perceive as attractive. Its why alternative fashion can be so jarring to most. If I did my hair, my makeup, and dressed in a socially acceptable way; I would be perceived as attractive. If I dawned a more alternative look, say 1990s Japanese Ganguro. I would highly doubt anybody in western society would say I look attractive. This is why I think attractiveness based on facial or body structure, is a bunch of baloney.
Conventional attractiveness is a thing tho. There's a base standard of someone being universally good looking vs having to dress certain ways, do hair differently, layers of make up etc. You can tell when someone just got lucky with really good features at a base layer. Doing all the other things just enhances yourself a bit into a maybe unconventional attractive category
Staring I don’t mind. What I’m sick of is being followed by men after they stare me down. It’s like they want to be sure I am as uncomfortable as possible before then approaching.
I get looks and I'm not quite sure why, I've been told I'm attractive but it gets kinda hard to believe that when I stand at 5'6 barefoot. The only person I ever asked for clarification for this is a work friend and she said that I have the "cute good boy" look or the "boy next door" type look to people at first glance before they get to know me.
Maybe it’s as my mother once kindly put it “you’re not special, people stare at you if you stare at them first”
Cos I'm awkward, and my legs tangle up whenever I walk cos my brain forgets how exactly to walk😭😭😭
When I see someone who looks like my friends, I know I will stare at them and follow their socials every time souly on looks. I know its dumb and superficial, but they look like my FREN!
Lol, I love how @ 4:33, he says "objectifying gaze" right as a 1/10 makes a disgusted look at the hot girl. I didn't know jealousy was a facial expression.
Everywhere I go, literally everybody is staring at me.
I'm starting to get really suspicious looks from local law enforcement.
Should I put on pants?