These are the regular lives lived within large families. I am the oldest and had 4 brothers and 6 sisters. We put on shows, played sports and were extremely creative. Every dinner was like most normal families Thanksgiving. No dishwasher until i was in college. I got a scholarship because we had such a big family and good grades.
This is definitely a problem. I got told this so many times in elementary school when I would consult a teacher and the only thing they would ever do is tell me they have a crush on me. This is a problem, and made me realize that teachers will not help you in a bully situation.
I saw someone say this on tik tok and I think its true. They said stop saying that when a girl or boy is mean to you it means they like you because its normalizing domestic violence. ITS SO TRUE because if you tell a young child that when people are mean to you it means they like you they will start to interpret signs of violence as love. "Oh that boy is so mean to me it must mean that they like me" Those kids will go their entire lives believing that violence is a way to express your affection and it will take so much time to unlearn it.
Erik is showing those LA casting directors that he can rock several diff looks. I’m loving it. Personally? This one is a fave. Erik, if you’re reading - I say keep the glasses! 🙌🏼
I 100% feel Coleen's pain when she used to have anxiety when sleeping over at other people's houses. I remember having a great time but once the lights went out I would FREAK out. I think it's just certain ages where if we are away from our parents we can feel scared or we just don't trust the friend's parents enough.
My parents were super strict and never ever allowed me to sleepover at friends until after I graduated from college.. I was 22 and I went away with my bf and his friends to place far from home and I had a panick attack the first night and felt anxious the entire trip... Its a weird feeling being away from your comfort zone but now I'm comfortable with staying out
I used to call my mom to come get me at 12am. It would annoy everyone. Couldn't help it though. And yeah, all was well until it was time to go to sleep. 😬
I hate staying at someone elses house! It's so uncomfortable! I usually stayed at people's houses that had animals and I would be up all night with a runny, stuffy, itchy nose 😭
I have diagnosed anxiety and I wonder if I did the same thing I wasn’t much to have sleepovers tho. My mom and I don’t get along now (her choice) but as a kid I did have separation anxiety from her. So I know I had some factor of anxiety of being away from her home when I went w my dad (he was never mean or anything. Just loved my mama)
Bullies are just insecure about themselves and project it on you. Once this girl told me I had a big nose and then got a nose job a year later...so it really wasn't about me
Bullying irl still exists in school but also in the workplace... some bullies grow out of it but some stay bullies for life... maybe less physical bullying but mental abuse/manipulation/making up rumors/making someone feel like the odd one out. And yeah also some people are bullied by their ''Friends'' and don't realize it.
I’ve been watching haters back off and as Patrick the way he’s dressed in his clothes and next to the other characters he appears pretty tall actually.
Yes! And when the victim (finally) stands up to the bully, the victim is punished! This happens so/too often! Which is so incredibly wrong. Do they not notice the real bullies? Especially if the victim finally stands up to them after a long time.. Do the teachers and school in general, not notice all the bullying that went on before this moment? How do they just only happen to see the moment the victim stands up for themselves and thus punish the victim? And not let the victim explain. Or let them explain and still punish. I really don’t understand. How can they not notice? I know bullies can be very sneaky, but still!And even if the bully is not sneaky, this still happens!.. Unbelievable!
The more I hear about Flynn, the more I'm CONVINCED he's a highly sensitive person, and I wouldn't be surprised at all if multiple members of their family also are since it is genetic! Colleen & Erik, if you see this and haven't heard of this already, really would recommend looking into it and perhaps even checking out the book written by the leading researcher on this (The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron). Hugely informative and interesting!!
@@swaglieri Yup! Empath is one way people often describe it. Highly sensitive person is the more academic term attached to research about people who take in a lot of sensory input and are highly empathetic!
My ex used to laugh at my pinky toe, and in fits of laughter say " _WHATS THE POINT IN IT_ ??" To be fair it is bloody tiny, and looks like its passed out because it kind of slants when I'm stood on it...
Am I the only one who thinks that colleen is genuinely beautiful? She’s so pretty and on top of that she has a big pure heart which makes her even more beautiful in my eyes , I know sometimes the things that people say can stick with you but colleen don’t you ever think that its true or that somethings in your appearance are ugly , you’re gorgeous mama , look at you ! you’re tired and sick and pregnant with TWINS yet you’re glowing on screen everyday , your nose , forehead , hair , laugh they are all perfect and make you colleen our special unique sister , never ever forget that 🤍
Im a jr high teacher and trust me in person bullying still exists but i think there is much less passive bullying. Less kids that are "joking around" and accidently hurting peoples feelings. Because there is much more awareness nowadays.
Colleen. I always agree with Erik when you say “I feel like everyone would say the same thing,” but I love you so much for how intensely you believe your experiences are universal.
I am 33 and I have Cerebral Palsy and i must say that i was NEVER bullied to my face during my school years (probably behind me back though 🤷♀️ but i never heard about it).. AND that makes me sooo proud of my particular Public Schooling System for teaching right and wrong behaviour ❤️
My biggest bully was someone I saw as a best friend. She did not see me as one and treated me like crap. Like the way she treated me was way different then how she treated others. She was an awful person. It took me forever to realize how toxic she was
@@tanyamcclinton843 I met her in 2nd grade and we went our separate ways in 6th because she was in different classes and didnt care to stay friends. I confronted her in highschool about all she did to me.
Colleen, separation anxiety from a parent when you’re a child can be a symptom of ADD/ ADHD ❤️ I was the exact same way as you described with having trouble going to sleepovers etc and when I was diagnosed with ADD the specialist explained that that is a pretty common thing.
i’m in high school and to answer the questions -there are still many in person bullies that will slam lockers and cuss you out bc you looked at them -people still sag their pants -and verbal abuse is very heavy at my school to the point where there are multiple guidance counselors on hand for people who get bullied
I just turned 18 and I was also bullied in-person all up until high school. Sometimes it was because I didn't have very many friends and sometimes it was because people didn't like the sound of my voice. There was also a time when I got bullied because of who I liked. I've never experienced cyber bullying but that might just be because I've had private accounts my entire time on social media.
Got BULLIED by some teachers. one told me I’d make my mom get cancer again from my attitude. My attitude was not liking her critic of my art🙄 but the worst bullying I had was from people I thought were friends. I went from having a lot of friends to no friends from these two girls I thought were my friends. They turned everyone against me (except my now fiancé. We were friends then and he didn’t leave me) i hung out with these friends for years before this whole thing. And joking comments can hurt even if they aren’t supposed to. My fiancé is a big teaser and I get sensitive lol
I’m an elementary teacher, and unfortunately bullying is still a problem!! It’s important to teach kids that they need to tell an adult about the bullying! Teachers are there to help!!
Hey both! Great episode as always :)) FUN FACT: sagging pants was a trend that originated within prison culture/gang culture. In prison, belts are taken away (for obvious reasons) and men would often have to wear assigned trousers that were too big. This translated to “the streets” and rap culture, then became a trend picked up by a wider crowd (including kids), often not probably not knowing the origins of the fashion! Sending love to you all from London! X
Yes there are still bullies in school now- coming from a 12 year old girl, I get bullied in school and they don't do it directly to my face, but I can hear them talking about me and making fun of me, they will do it to my face like once a day but I just ignore them hope that helped!
I definitely grew up more like Erik. Tried to invisible all the time. Still live my life that way actually. Just bought a couch I absolutely hated because I didn’t want to inconvenience the person that had carried it to their drive way for me to see
Colleen talking about the abandonment issues and not being able to stay at someone else’s house as a kid, was so relatable, literally me in a nutshell!
I’m 16 & in person bullying is HUGE at my school i deal with it atleast everyday. I relate to you Colleen it’s usually guys making comments abt my appearance. So yes it’s still a thing & most likely always will be.
Colleen, it means a lot to me to know that you also couldn't spend the night at people's house. I struggled with it for my entire adolescence and was bullied constantly, even by people I thought were my closest friends. I'm sorry you experienced that but you certainly are not alone.
I *LOVE* that you brought up sibling bullying!!! Me & my sister are 1 Y & 6M apart (she's older) and she used to bully me *a lot* when we were younger (on top of the kids at school bullying me. She & I are close but only in a "family way", not in an emotional way (if that makes any sense) but I'm okay with our relationship now even though she wishes we were closer I was bullied all throughout school but it was @ it's worse during high school! I agree with this new age of bullying is a whole different world, especially being online. Shit is crazy! Thank you so much for brining this topic up this episode!!!!
I totally relate to everything you said about the sleepover anxiety Colleen. Thought I was the only one that thought like this... glad I’m not the only one.
The topic of bullying and haters hits home with so many people. Too many, IMO. It’s sad to think about people bringing others down for whatever reason. It definitely helps when you have a good, positive support system. ❤️
the friends being bullies thing is SO TRUE. i had one friend in middle school talk about how we both have such fat thighs" and i spent the next 25 years of my life thinking my thighs were fat :( unfortunately family can do the same thing - so sad that you never know the impact until much later
I saw someone say this on tik tok and I think its true. They said stop saying that when a girl or boy is mean to you it means they like you because its normalizing domestic violence. ITS SO TRUE because if you tell a young child that when people are mean to you it means they like you they will start to interpret signs of violence as love. "Oh that boy is so mean to me it must mean that they like me" Those kids will go their entire lives believing that violence is a way to express your affection and it will take so much time to unlearn it.
I've left school a couple years ago now but I was bullied through all my years at school and when I got a phone it became 10x worse. It just meant that I didnt get a break when I got home, got bullied to my face in school and then online when I got home as well as online in school, which is one reason why we weren't allowed phones in school but it wouldn't stop it from happening. Since leaving school, I just ignore people online and just try and live my best life ❤️
My bully had been my best friend for 3 years then all the sudden she decided she hated me and started spreading rumors amongst our friend group and other people at school, had random people call me and leave me really nasty voicemails, posts online, making rude faces and gestures in class, etc. Tormented me for a year and a half or so. And here’s the kicker, now she’s a high school counselor 🤣
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca I sincerely hope so. I hope she has grown up and matured. I haven’t heard from nor seen anything of her since I left high school except the one post I saw about her becoming a counselor. I have forgiven her and I do hope she is in a better place with herself.
I completely relate to you Coleen about your friends being bullies!! I didn't even realize and thought it was normal when I was in High School! But when I got to college and had good friends I realized no, it's not normal or okay
As a person currently in high school yup there are definitely people who still bully each other but it’s a lot more serious than ‘butt-head’ it’s literally more like go ‘unalive’ yourself and a lot of slurs and assault verbally and physically
I completely relate to the friends saying stuff that would scar you for life. My hair, my teeth, my weight. A few were friends who are still my friends to this day and have acknowledged and apologized for that. But a few were people that never cared for me just like you said. It's super hard. I understand Colleen!!
I remember bullying growing up and all of the adults just brushed it off saying it was a part of life and boys to stand up for themselves and fight. I stood up for myself in elementary school and it stopped but you’re right, when we were growing up it was all about D.A.R.E. And the food pyramid.
My sister had a friend that wasn’t really her friend and she didn’t realize it. I always tried to talk to her about even tho at the time she hated it and thought I was wrong. Then she realized and I was right by her side standing up for her💜
There is absolutely in person bullying but I definitely think it's more damaging when they bully in social media because they usually just tend to leak videos, photos, and messages.
I was also bullied by a teacher in Adult ED school...the teacher's main source of test taking was "Verbal", so he would call you to his desk and ask you the test questions outloud and not just quietly, but loudly and then you would answer and in the event that you got the answer wrong, he would make fun of you AND encourage your fellow classmates to assist him in making fun of you for not knowing the answer.... I remember my last time in his class-- he made me feel very stupid for not understanding something and he said to me LOUDLY "Are you kidding me? You don't know this?" And he asked a fellow classmate "You know this right?" And the classmate laughed and said yeah and the entire class and the teacher laughed at me and one classmate called me stupid....and I started crying and he then told me if I didn't like his way of test taking then I can leave and so I picked up my things and left for good his class....
Okayyyyy guys.. Only some of the eggs at McDonald's are microwaved lol I used to work there. Unless something has drastically changed in the last 7 years which is possible. The sausage egg mcmuffin and egg mcmuffin have real eggs cracked into a circle on the grill. The egg white delight is carton egg whites. The microwaved eggs are the folded eggs on the biscuit items and the mcgriddles. Long story short ask to sub round egg on every sandwhich to get fresh eggs! "Round egg" is a fresh cracked egg that is cracked into a "mold" on the grill as mentioned above😊
Dental assistant here! There are two types of brackets, twin and ones with doors such as H4. Twin needs the elastics to keep the wire in place. The ones with doors do not.
I think the worst thing for me when I was being bullied as a kid was being told don’t be a tattletale by teachers! It made me feel like I was unsafe at school because I had no one to confide in or help me stop the bullies 🤷🏽♀️
I am in my first year of high school (in Australia high school in grade 7 to 12) and there are people who don’t call you a butt head but call you cuss words and just pick on you and always look for something to tease you about, that’s a bully in real life not on the internet. Here’s the answer to your question I hope this helped and guys please get this to the top so Colleen can see it and understand. Make Colleen see it guys ❤️❤️
okok something that would throw me into PANIC ATTACKS as a kid…. being on time. like if i had softball practice at 5pm and my mom rolled up at 5:02 i was like near tears
Colleen! Very relatable. My biggest insecurities are the things my friends joked with me about as a teen. Never thought of it that way… Love listening to these podcasts. It’s like hanging with friends.
I think Erik could have been joking here but at 24:03 when Colleen mentions that someone who bullied her in school dumped her in a trash can once, Erik says “maybe he had a crush on you.” I think this is a very skewed way of thinking that erases/excuses toxic masculinity. We have to remove the idea that men behave rudely with women that they are interested in. This kind of thinking allows us to excuse men’s inappropriate behaviour.
1:12 I love Colleen for saying this. Had a family member start a HUGE family drama that blew up just because they took something my spouse said to them in the wrong way and chose not to wonder if maybe he was going through something or having a bad day…which he was.
My husband is 5’10” (I’m 4’10”) and says he is. My dad and father in law were/are both 6ft and are actually 6ft. Erik is looking FIIIIINE and his stories are so relatable.
Omg I was the same with sleepovers. And YES to the blockbuster. Also picking out my ONE candy from the candy rack by the register. Sour punch straws was my favorite.
It was so interesting to see Colleen admit she bullied her younger sister. My older sister is probably the worst person I know and she bullies me everyday and my parents don't really care. I can't even see her in my life in the future
I was the same way with my older brother. I never wanted to be in the same room with him. It started once he was 12 and I was 9. He moved out last year and we are finally getting along. He’s 25 and I’m 21 now so we’ve finally matured a little bit but still fight. It might take a while but hopefully you guys get along some day
I think bullying is actually far better now, in spite of the internet factor. It used to be completely normal for kids to get the absolute crap beaten out of them, all of the time. Adults would never help, other kids would never befriend the bullied kids. That just isn't the norm anymore at all. Cyber bullying definitely sucks but things are much better now than they used to be.
I think the physical bullying is probably less accepted in many places, but the fact that the bullying doesn't end when school does and follows you home day and night, on the weekends, on the school breaks etc for sure has an impact on the mental state of young people now days.
I had two friends in high school that didn’t bully me really but would make the comments about my mental issues, and how I wasn’t smart, etc. 5 years later, I’m dealing with a lot of self confidence issues and it was just pointed out to me recently that they were awful friends. Crazy to see how things were years later. I was in a toxic relationship with them and I just realized. Luckily I haven’t talked to them since we graduated and I’m a bit happier.
My kids still deal with bullies and I did in school as a kids all through school, but my dad also taught me to defend myself but never start it, and always stick up for others.
OMG I’m sorta shook right now…Erik sang the intro song the same way I sing it lol!! Like randomly I’ll start singing the song out of nowhere and I ALWAYS sing it like “you can relax, Colleen and Erik have a f***ing podcast”!!! 😂😂😂😂
In my experience people still bully in person. Before high school and covid, in middle school about two years ago now I got bullied still, people were awful, and a bunch of people who I thought were my freinds at the time got intensely bullied. I'm sure it's still happening, so pray for me this year...love the podcast, Colleen
Those moments in class being called on we’re terrifying but as an adult I can see the value in it. It gives you the experience to handle similar situations when your older.
I had an awful science teacher. This one day he announced we would be disecting frogs. I had frogs as pets back then. So the thought of cutting this poor thing had me in tears. The thing that upset me most was that all of those frogs were still living that morning. There were 35 frogs killed that day in the name of science?? When I started to get really upset he (my teacher) told me 'if I would quit being a little baby then we could get this over with." I told him there is no way I'm cutting into that frog. He said get out then! Go to talk to the dean's office. I grabbed all of my stuff and left as quickly as possible. It gets worse... My friend that stayed in class said that a few of the frogs still had beating hearts. 💔🐸💔🐸💔
My amazing husband is 5'8" and bald who shaves his head, and he is very attractive, funny, smart, and an amazing musician and singer. Short men are underrated.
I remember the video rental stress. I felt like there were just too many choices so I usually just went home with the same movie every time lol. Drop Dead Fred was the best😆
I’m 51 and when I was 6 in Detroit in January with several feet of snow on the ground my parents forgot me at school for 4 hours after…everyone left me even the principal and I was left outside…
The teacher flipping desks over reminded me of my 4th grade teacher who would throw school supplies across the room if she caught you playing with them and one time she threw two meter sticks across the room and one hit my face and gave me a black eye but she was still allowed to be a teacher and I feel so bad for the kids in that class everyday
Y’all talking about teachers who bullied you guys reminded me about how some of my classmates would bully the teachers… and they were BRUTAL. Teachers don’t get enough credit for dealing with mean kids… I have stories where the teacher would be crying in class for how bad they were getting bullied
Erik has the ability to look like a totally different person EVERY episode
Ikr lmao
He should be an actor! LOL.
@@karenhunter8095 he is tho
@@karenhunter8095 he is an actor he has been in movies
@@aestheticbunnies5402 It's a joke
Colleen: "Don't talk about feet. Gross!!"
Also Colleen: "I made a puddle of spit on the floor so my sister would step in it."
Also Colleen: searching in wikifeet for her husband's feet
hahahaha
These are the regular lives lived within large families. I am the oldest and had 4 brothers and 6 sisters. We put on shows, played sports and were extremely creative. Every dinner was like most normal families Thanksgiving. No dishwasher until i was in college. I got a scholarship because we had such a big family and good grades.
Let’s stop normalising “he probably likes you” when a guy is a jerk
This is definitely a problem. I got told this so many times in elementary school when I would consult a teacher and the only thing they would ever do is tell me they have a crush on me. This is a problem, and made me realize that teachers will not help you in a bully situation.
I saw someone say this on tik tok and I think its true. They said stop saying that when a girl or boy is mean to you it means they like you because its normalizing domestic violence. ITS SO TRUE because if you tell a young child that when people are mean to you it means they like you they will start to interpret signs of violence as love. "Oh that boy is so mean to me it must mean that they like me" Those kids will go their entire lives believing that violence is a way to express your affection and it will take so much time to unlearn it.
Exactly! "Orrrr he's just a jerk 😒"
Yes. Yes yes yes.
YES PLEASE!!!!!
Erik is a different character in every Podcast
Today he's the nerdy guy who's in love with the mc but never got the gut to tell them
Hes channeling his inner ✨ Usnavi ✨
Yesss
Soooo Patrick from haters back off?
@@nicolenilsen EXACTLY!
Yes
theres definitely still in person bullies. they just don’t say things like “butthead” anymore lol
Frr it’s a lot more vile if anything 😭
Or air punch 😂😂
Facts!
Yep, I get told a lot of homophobic comments. It's like the song "Beautiful"
Erik is showing those LA casting directors that he can rock several diff looks. I’m loving it. Personally? This one is a fave. Erik, if you’re reading - I say keep the glasses! 🙌🏼
I 100% feel Coleen's pain when she used to have anxiety when sleeping over at other people's houses. I remember having a great time but once the lights went out I would FREAK out. I think it's just certain ages where if we are away from our parents we can feel scared or we just don't trust the friend's parents enough.
My parents were super strict and never ever allowed me to sleepover at friends until after I graduated from college.. I was 22 and I went away with my bf and his friends to place far from home and I had a panick attack the first night and felt anxious the entire trip...
Its a weird feeling being away from your comfort zone but now I'm comfortable with staying out
I used to call my mom to come get me at 12am. It would annoy everyone. Couldn't help it though. And yeah, all was well until it was time to go to sleep. 😬
I hate staying at someone elses house! It's so uncomfortable! I usually stayed at people's houses that had animals and I would be up all night with a runny, stuffy, itchy nose 😭
I have diagnosed anxiety and I wonder if I did the same thing I wasn’t much to have sleepovers tho. My mom and I don’t get along now (her choice) but as a kid I did have separation anxiety from her. So I know I had some factor of anxiety of being away from her home when I went w my dad (he was never mean or anything. Just loved my mama)
"We are our biggest bullies to ourselves."
THAT IS SO TRUE!
i hate people who say something rude and then say "it's just a joke" when someone confronts them
Yesss 🙌
There's always a little truth behind every "just kidding"
😭😭 i hate this toooo! I had a toxic family!
ikr, same T_T
ERIK LOOKS LIKE A DIFFERENT PERSON EVERY SINGLE TIMEE
ikr! his style is everything
Literally copied another comment
@@fionacranley LMAO I LITERALLY COMMENTED BEFORE THEM
@ALEXANDRA ORTIZ i noticed this too!
Hearing Erik sing makes me realize Flynn has the most talented parents in the world.
Hugs from a fellow TH-camr 😊
Bullies are just insecure about themselves and project it on you. Once this girl told me I had a big nose and then got a nose job a year later...so it really wasn't about me
wow there you go! the proof is in the pud
“You got beef?” Eric: “why is he asking me about meat?” Lmao 🤣
Omg 😂 lol (I’m reading this before I got to this part of the podcast and this is how i know it’s going to be a good one!)
everything colleen says about bullying is so relatable especially now a days everyone’s “friends” end up being their biggest bullies :/
yea
Bullying irl still exists in school but also in the workplace... some bullies grow out of it but some stay bullies for life... maybe less physical bullying but mental abuse/manipulation/making up rumors/making someone feel like the odd one out. And yeah also some people are bullied by their ''Friends'' and don't realize it.
Erik is 6 feet tall?? I always imagined him being shorter
Wait same!!
SAMEEE
I’ve been watching haters back off and as Patrick the way he’s dressed in his clothes and next to the other characters he appears pretty tall actually.
Sameeeeeee
I was more shook by Colleen cause last time I was measured I was like 5'1 and a half so I was like damn she taller than me
schools seem to care more about the bully and their improvement than the well-being of the victim/victims
Yes! And when the victim (finally) stands up to the bully, the victim is punished! This happens so/too often! Which is so incredibly wrong. Do they not notice the real bullies? Especially if the victim finally stands up to them after a long time.. Do the teachers and school in general, not notice all the bullying that went on before this moment? How do they just only happen to see the moment the victim stands up for themselves and thus punish the victim? And not let the victim explain. Or let them explain and still punish. I really don’t understand. How can they not notice? I know bullies can be very sneaky, but still!And even if the bully is not sneaky, this still happens!.. Unbelievable!
@@Melon_Cloud exactly, schools claim to be anti bullying then do nothing/ side with the bully when something happens
The more I hear about Flynn, the more I'm CONVINCED he's a highly sensitive person, and I wouldn't be surprised at all if multiple members of their family also are since it is genetic! Colleen & Erik, if you see this and haven't heard of this already, really would recommend looking into it and perhaps even checking out the book written by the leading researcher on this (The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron). Hugely informative and interesting!!
I agree
My twin boys are definitely highly sensitive along with me so I’ll have to check out that book! Thx
That book changed my life.
like an empath?
@@swaglieri Yup! Empath is one way people often describe it. Highly sensitive person is the more academic term attached to research about people who take in a lot of sensory input and are highly empathetic!
EriK needs to relax in front of the twins!!! Potty-mouth Stocklin!😂😂😂😂
Idk why I heard Colleens voice saying this when I read it 😂
@@ashleyrussell5699 I definitely typed it in her voice!!😂😂😂
It is sad how I didn’t notice things til my friends pointed them out and then they became my biggest insecurities
anyone missing flynn’s truck of the day??😭😭
Yeeessss🥰🥰🥰🚛🚚🚒🚙
My boyfriend laughs at my pinky toe nail because it’s so small that it’s almost non-existent😂😂😂😂 so yeah... relax
There is a Facebook support group called “tiny toe nail trauma ” 😂😂 for real
@@007janerussell omg really? 😂
My ex used to laugh at my pinky toe, and in fits of laughter say " _WHATS THE POINT IN IT_ ??"
To be fair it is bloody tiny, and looks like its passed out because it kind of slants when I'm stood on it...
My husband calls mine my "hide-a-toe" 😂
@@007janerussell I must join this group 😂
Am I the only one who thinks that colleen is genuinely beautiful? She’s so pretty and on top of that she has a big pure heart which makes her even more beautiful in my eyes , I know sometimes the things that people say can stick with you but colleen don’t you ever think that its true or that somethings in your appearance are ugly , you’re gorgeous mama , look at you ! you’re tired and sick and pregnant with TWINS yet you’re glowing on screen everyday , your nose , forehead , hair , laugh they are all perfect and make you colleen our special unique sister , never ever forget that 🤍
Im a jr high teacher and trust me in person bullying still exists but i think there is much less passive bullying. Less kids that are "joking around" and accidently hurting peoples feelings. Because there is much more awareness nowadays.
Colleen. I always agree with Erik when you say “I feel like everyone would say the same thing,” but I love you so much for how intensely you believe your experiences are universal.
Erik and Colleen: every day I wake up grateful that I never have to go to school again.
Me, a teacher: 👁💧👄💧👁
“why you gotta cuss in it”😂
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I am 33 and I have Cerebral Palsy and i must say that i was NEVER bullied to my face during my school years (probably behind me back though 🤷♀️ but i never heard about it).. AND that makes me sooo proud of my particular Public Schooling System for teaching right and wrong behaviour ❤️
My biggest bully was someone I saw as a best friend. She did not see me as one and treated me like crap. Like the way she treated me was way different then how she treated others. She was an awful person. It took me forever to realize how toxic she was
Me too
Same here. I stayed friends with her until my early 20s. She was so horrible to me.
@@tanyamcclinton843 I met her in 2nd grade and we went our separate ways in 6th because she was in different classes and didnt care to stay friends. I confronted her in highschool about all she did to me.
Colleen, separation anxiety from a parent when you’re a child can be a symptom of ADD/ ADHD ❤️ I was the exact same way as you described with having trouble going to sleepovers etc and when I was diagnosed with ADD the specialist explained that that is a pretty common thing.
i’m in high school and to answer the questions
-there are still many in person bullies that will slam lockers and cuss you out bc you looked at them
-people still sag their pants
-and verbal abuse is very heavy at my school to the point where there are multiple guidance counselors on hand for people who get bullied
I can’t believe it’s already episode 23! I feel like just last week I was excited for episode 1!
@ALEXANDRA ORTIZ why do you always put so many spaces in your sentences.
Loving the new song!
Wow who else here right as they uploaded. 👍
Toxic friends are such a real thing. I definitely think my worst experience with bullying is from someone I thought was a friend.
I'm 17 and can confirm that there are still in-person bullies. I got bullied in middle school and high school face to face; not on the internet.
I just turned 18 and I was also bullied in-person all up until high school. Sometimes it was because I didn't have very many friends and sometimes it was because people didn't like the sound of my voice. There was also a time when I got bullied because of who I liked. I've never experienced cyber bullying but that might just be because I've had private accounts my entire time on social media.
Me too
@ALEXANDRA ORTIZ aww that sucks but isnt that different from texting lmfao?
I got bullied so much and it ruined me so bad
There are still bullies. It doesn’t stop at high school. There are bullies in the workplace. Every company has at least one.
Got BULLIED by some teachers. one told me I’d make my mom get cancer again from my attitude. My attitude was not liking her critic of my art🙄 but the worst bullying I had was from people I thought were friends. I went from having a lot of friends to no friends from these two girls I thought were my friends. They turned everyone against me (except my now fiancé. We were friends then and he didn’t leave me) i hung out with these friends for years before this whole thing. And joking comments can hurt even if they aren’t supposed to. My fiancé is a big teaser and I get sensitive lol
I’m an elementary teacher, and unfortunately bullying is still a problem!! It’s important to teach kids that they need to tell an adult about the bullying! Teachers are there to help!!
Hey guys this is called the 32nd one I'm almost certain it's supposed to be the 23rd‼️‼️
1st thing I noticed too 😂😂 also I love your profile pic!! 😍😍😍
@@mondler107 i got scared i was like wait has there really been that long already??
and thank you it's brittany snow 😭
@ALEXANDRA ORTIZ well maybe they're more interested in the rest of the title
@ALEXANDRA ORTIZ damn maybe we're just observant
@@mondler107 SAME!
Hey both! Great episode as always :)) FUN FACT: sagging pants was a trend that originated within prison culture/gang culture. In prison, belts are taken away (for obvious reasons) and men would often have to wear assigned trousers that were too big. This translated to “the streets” and rap culture, then became a trend picked up by a wider crowd (including kids), often not probably not knowing the origins of the fashion!
Sending love to you all from London! X
Who else thinks Colleen's got one of the cutest noses ever?!
Same Colleen. I STILL can’t sleepover at others houses. We didn’t know why when I was smaller but now we know it was anxiety.
"My posture was bad because I was tall and didn't want to be"
As a 5'10 woman I FEEL THIS.
Yes there are still bullies in school now- coming from a 12 year old girl, I get bullied in school and they don't do it directly to my face, but I can hear them talking about me and making fun of me, they will do it to my face like once a day but I just ignore them hope that helped!
I know how you feel girl, hang in there. It gets better after college lol
Just remember not to let there words define your worth💗💅you are beatful and amazing! I get it as a newly 13 year old😜😘
yep this is how bullying basically is currently, and i understand you fellow human. hang in there babe ❤️ it’ll get better
I definitely grew up more like Erik. Tried to invisible all the time. Still live my life that way actually. Just bought a couch I absolutely hated because I didn’t want to inconvenience the person that had carried it to their drive way for me to see
Colleen talking about the abandonment issues and not being able to stay at someone else’s house as a kid, was so relatable, literally me in a nutshell!
I’m 16 & in person bullying is HUGE at my school i deal with it atleast everyday. I relate to you Colleen it’s usually guys making comments abt my appearance. So yes it’s still a thing & most likely always will be.
Colleen, it means a lot to me to know that you also couldn't spend the night at people's house. I struggled with it for my entire adolescence and was bullied constantly, even by people I thought were my closest friends. I'm sorry you experienced that but you certainly are not alone.
This talk about bullies and fake friends, even as adults, makes me feel a little more ok with being friendless in my mid-thirties
I *LOVE* that you brought up sibling bullying!!!
Me & my sister are 1 Y & 6M apart (she's older) and she used to bully me *a lot* when we were younger (on top of the kids at school bullying me. She & I are close but only in a "family way", not in an emotional way (if that makes any sense) but I'm okay with our relationship now even though she wishes we were closer
I was bullied all throughout school but it was @ it's worse during high school! I agree with this new age of bullying is a whole different world, especially being online. Shit is crazy! Thank you so much for brining this topic up this episode!!!!
I totally relate to everything you said about the sleepover anxiety Colleen. Thought I was the only one that thought like this... glad I’m not the only one.
The topic of bullying and haters hits home with so many people. Too many, IMO. It’s sad to think about people bringing others down for whatever reason. It definitely helps when you have a good, positive support system. ❤️
the friends being bullies thing is SO TRUE. i had one friend in middle school talk about how we both have such fat thighs" and i spent the next 25 years of my life thinking my thighs were fat :( unfortunately family can do the same thing - so sad that you never know the impact until much later
I saw someone say this on tik tok and I think its true. They said stop saying that when a girl or boy is mean to you it means they like you because its normalizing domestic violence. ITS SO TRUE because if you tell a young child that when people are mean to you it means they like you they will start to interpret signs of violence as love. "Oh that boy is so mean to me it must mean that they like me" Those kids will go their entire lives believing that violence is a way to express your affection and it will take so much time to unlearn it.
the best part of my day is when colleen posts
I've left school a couple years ago now but I was bullied through all my years at school and when I got a phone it became 10x worse. It just meant that I didnt get a break when I got home, got bullied to my face in school and then online when I got home as well as online in school, which is one reason why we weren't allowed phones in school but it wouldn't stop it from happening. Since leaving school, I just ignore people online and just try and live my best life ❤️
My bully had been my best friend for 3 years then all the sudden she decided she hated me and started spreading rumors amongst our friend group and other people at school, had random people call me and leave me really nasty voicemails, posts online, making rude faces and gestures in class, etc. Tormented me for a year and a half or so. And here’s the kicker, now she’s a high school counselor 🤣
Oh god... let's hope that was a temporary life crisis taken out on you and grown from... Because...otherwise I feel for those kids!
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca I sincerely hope so. I hope she has grown up and matured. I haven’t heard from nor seen anything of her since I left high school except the one post I saw about her becoming a counselor. I have forgiven her and I do hope she is in a better place with herself.
I’m so sorry that happened to you
I completely relate to you Coleen about your friends being bullies!! I didn't even realize and thought it was normal when I was in High School! But when I got to college and had good friends I realized no, it's not normal or okay
As a person currently in high school yup there are definitely people who still bully each other but it’s a lot more serious than ‘butt-head’ it’s literally more like go ‘unalive’ yourself and a lot of slurs and assault verbally and physically
I completely relate to the friends saying stuff that would scar you for life. My hair, my teeth, my weight. A few were friends who are still my friends to this day and have acknowledged and apologized for that. But a few were people that never cared for me just like you said. It's super hard. I understand Colleen!!
I remember bullying growing up and all of the adults just brushed it off saying it was a part of life and boys to stand up for themselves and fight. I stood up for myself in elementary school and it stopped but you’re right, when we were growing up it was all about D.A.R.E. And the food pyramid.
My sister had a friend that wasn’t really her friend and she didn’t realize it. I always tried to talk to her about even tho at the time she hated it and thought I was wrong. Then she realized and I was right by her side standing up for her💜
There is absolutely in person bullying but I definitely think it's more damaging when they bully in social media because they usually just tend to leak videos, photos, and messages.
I was also bullied by a teacher in Adult ED school...the teacher's main source of test taking was "Verbal", so he would call you to his desk and ask you the test questions outloud and not just quietly, but loudly and then you would answer and in the event that you got the answer wrong, he would make fun of you AND encourage your fellow classmates to assist him in making fun of you for not knowing the answer.... I remember my last time in his class-- he made me feel very stupid for not understanding something and he said to me LOUDLY "Are you kidding me? You don't know this?" And he asked a fellow classmate "You know this right?" And the classmate laughed and said yeah and the entire class and the teacher laughed at me and one classmate called me stupid....and I started crying and he then told me if I didn't like his way of test taking then I can leave and so I picked up my things and left for good his class....
Loving the glasses on Erik... he looks more like a dad.
Okayyyyy guys.. Only some of the eggs at McDonald's are microwaved lol I used to work there. Unless something has drastically changed in the last 7 years which is possible. The sausage egg mcmuffin and egg mcmuffin have real eggs cracked into a circle on the grill. The egg white delight is carton egg whites. The microwaved eggs are the folded eggs on the biscuit items and the mcgriddles. Long story short ask to sub round egg on every sandwhich to get fresh eggs! "Round egg" is a fresh cracked egg that is cracked into a "mold" on the grill as mentioned above😊
Totally agree with you Colleen best friends always end up to be the bullies. So strange how that happens. 🤔
i am only 18 years old and i vividly remember vhs and video stores and i miss them SO MUCH and selection was very stressful.
I mean... my dad would call me a stupid insignificant child. While I took over his responsibilities of parenting my younger sisters sooooo
I'm sorry you had to deal with that in your child hood at least you know you raised some good siblings.
Dental assistant here! There are two types of brackets, twin and ones with doors such as H4. Twin needs the elastics to keep the wire in place. The ones with doors do not.
I loved changing the bands on my braces! Also, I think I was an anomaly because I loved everything about my braces and wish I had them longer 😩
I love that this podcast feels like your sitting in the room chatting with them. Discussing normal issues.
WHY IS ERIK SO HANDSOME
Literally!!!!!!!
right… my gay is quaking
@@briancosta2265 ew
@@anae29 Please be respectful.
I think the worst thing for me when I was being bullied as a kid was being told don’t be a tattletale by teachers! It made me feel like I was unsafe at school because I had no one to confide in or help me stop the bullies 🤷🏽♀️
My dad has been measured at the doctor all his life as 6 foot never below or higher.
or so he says...
I am in my first year of high school (in Australia high school in grade 7 to 12) and there are people who don’t call you a butt head but call you cuss words and just pick on you and always look for something to tease you about, that’s a bully in real life not on the internet. Here’s the answer to your question I hope this helped and guys please get this to the top so Colleen can see it and understand. Make Colleen see it guys ❤️❤️
okok something that would throw me into PANIC ATTACKS as a kid…. being on time. like if i had softball practice at 5pm and my mom rolled up at 5:02 i was like near tears
Colleen! Very relatable. My biggest insecurities are the things my friends joked with me about as a teen. Never thought of it that way…
Love listening to these podcasts. It’s like hanging with friends.
I think Erik could have been joking here but at 24:03 when Colleen mentions that someone who bullied her in school dumped her in a trash can once, Erik says “maybe he had a crush on you.” I think this is a very skewed way of thinking that erases/excuses toxic masculinity. We have to remove the idea that men behave rudely with women that they are interested in. This kind of thinking allows us to excuse men’s inappropriate behaviour.
1:12 I love Colleen for saying this. Had a family member start a HUGE family drama that blew up just because they took something my spouse said to them in the wrong way and chose not to wonder if maybe he was going through something or having a bad day…which he was.
My husband is 5’10” (I’m 4’10”) and says he is. My dad and father in law were/are both 6ft and are actually 6ft. Erik is looking FIIIIINE and his stories are so relatable.
Omg I was the same with sleepovers. And YES to the blockbuster. Also picking out my ONE candy from the candy rack by the register. Sour punch straws was my favorite.
It was so interesting to see Colleen admit she bullied her younger sister. My older sister is probably the worst person I know and she bullies me everyday and my parents don't really care. I can't even see her in my life in the future
I love how she admits it also totally agree with u
I was the same way with my older brother. I never wanted to be in the same room with him. It started once he was 12 and I was 9. He moved out last year and we are finally getting along. He’s 25 and I’m 21 now so we’ve finally matured a little bit but still fight. It might take a while but hopefully you guys get along some day
Omg i have waited for Eriks version of the intro!!! And it was more than I could ever imagine!
I think bullying is actually far better now, in spite of the internet factor. It used to be completely normal for kids to get the absolute crap beaten out of them, all of the time. Adults would never help, other kids would never befriend the bullied kids. That just isn't the norm anymore at all. Cyber bullying definitely sucks but things are much better now than they used to be.
I think the physical bullying is probably less accepted in many places, but the fact that the bullying doesn't end when school does and follows you home day and night, on the weekends, on the school breaks etc for sure has an impact on the mental state of young people now days.
I had two friends in high school that didn’t bully me really but would make the comments about my mental issues, and how I wasn’t smart, etc. 5 years later, I’m dealing with a lot of self confidence issues and it was just pointed out to me recently that they were awful friends. Crazy to see how things were years later. I was in a toxic relationship with them and I just realized. Luckily I haven’t talked to them since we graduated and I’m a bit happier.
Omg Erik looks so handsome in here😍😍 i mean as usual haha and you’re a Queeennn Colleen💞 Love you both
My kids still deal with bullies and I did in school as a kids all through school, but my dad also taught me to defend myself but never start it, and always stick up for others.
OMG I’m sorta shook right now…Erik sang the intro song the same way I sing it lol!! Like randomly I’ll start singing the song out of nowhere and I ALWAYS sing it like “you can relax, Colleen and Erik have a f***ing podcast”!!! 😂😂😂😂
In my experience people still bully in person. Before high school and covid, in middle school about two years ago now I got bullied still, people were awful, and a bunch of people who I thought were my freinds at the time got intensely bullied. I'm sure it's still happening, so pray for me this year...love the podcast, Colleen
So excited for the twins! Luv ya guys 🥺
Those moments in class being called on we’re terrifying but as an adult I can see the value in it. It gives you the experience to handle similar situations when your older.
I had an awful science teacher. This one day he announced we would be disecting frogs. I had frogs as pets back then. So the thought of cutting this poor thing had me in tears. The thing that upset me most was that all of those frogs were still living that morning. There were 35 frogs killed that day in the name of science?? When I started to get really upset he (my teacher) told me 'if I would quit being a little baby then we could get this over with." I told him there is no way I'm cutting into that frog.
He said get out then! Go to talk to the dean's office.
I grabbed all of my stuff and left as quickly as possible.
It gets worse... My friend that stayed in class said that a few of the frogs still had beating hearts. 💔🐸💔🐸💔
My amazing husband is 5'8" and bald who shaves his head, and he is very attractive, funny, smart, and an amazing musician and singer. Short men are underrated.
I remember the video rental stress. I felt like there were just too many choices so I usually just went home with the same movie every time lol. Drop Dead Fred was the best😆
I’m 51 and when I was 6 in Detroit in January with several feet of snow on the ground my parents forgot me at school for 4 hours after…everyone left me even the principal and I was left outside…
Wow, that must have been so scary!
As a young high schooler, there are less in person bullies but they do still exist and they say MUCH worse than buttface
Truth.
I agree, growing up in today’s world is extremely hard. I’m young and I seriously cry myself to sleep every night.
The teacher flipping desks over reminded me of my 4th grade teacher who would throw school supplies across the room if she caught you playing with them and one time she threw two meter sticks across the room and one hit my face and gave me a black eye but she was still allowed to be a teacher and I feel so bad for the kids in that class everyday
Y’all talking about teachers who bullied you guys reminded me about how some of my classmates would bully the teachers… and they were BRUTAL. Teachers don’t get enough credit for dealing with mean kids… I have stories where the teacher would be crying in class for how bad they were getting bullied