Love this! 💯 They aren't tests, they're traps. They're designed to set men up for failure and then falsely interpret the results to reveal a character flaw. People are seriously letting these stupid "tests" literally blow up their relationships. And women are willfully setting these traps, gullibly believing that they are somehow dodging a bullet when their relationship implodes. Truth is the ones dodging the bullet are the men who are finding out their women are willing to be toxic instead of being a good partner. A toxic woman traps her man and sets him up for failure. A good woman supports her man and sets him up for success.
For real, though. As soon as the testing starts, I'm out. Relationships are not games to be won and lost, and I don't maintain relationships with people who think they are
R? Real life will throw plenty of tests at people, giving us the chance to see how others react. There is absolutely no need for any adult to be subjected to any test by any other person.
@@duitseles9687… I agree… However, a person has to be paying attention to the real world in order to see all of that evidence surrounding them. These people with their faces stuck to their screen will never see the plethora of information that’s just floating all around them. They are sort of creating their own “catch 22” situation, lol. Personally, I find it hard to remain engaged with any person who can’t ignore their phone for more than two minutes at a time 😂😂😂
Yep. Especially because the tests are stupid shite like the ketchup, or orange test, but with how social media is, I wouldn't be surprised if it were soon the "sleep with his best friend test".
While I agree relationships have always been little tests neither partner knew they were taking the only problem comes in when one person knows they are testing the other one and the other person doesn't
Yup. I had to have a talk with my gf. Her addiction was so bad she wasn't sleeping. She'd literally be up super late just scrolling. Luckily she actually listened to me and has deleted most social media.
Say it louder for the people in the back!! That doesn't mean there isn't a time and place for phones and social media, but if it is glued to your hand and he has to fight an inanimate object for your attention, then GTFO!
@SaryM29 well, the ideology specifically targets men and women's inflated traditional expectations of men. This kind of "pledge your loyalty and willingness to treat me like a princess" kind of thing is not something that goes both ways for the genders. The same way youre gonna be hard pressed to find a man that asks the "worm" question and gets upset at the answer. So this particular cultural phenomenon is pretty 100% anti-male and pro-female (in a way that enables toxic female behavior, not in a healthy way).
@@_Lumiere_ I've never seen anyone, man or woman, actually take the "worm" thing seriously, for me it's just universally agreed as ridiculous. It just gets Tiktok clicks
@@SaryM29 I'm assuming youre a woman. We men also tend to think that until we legit encounter it when dating straight women. It's definitely not just a tiktok thing lmao. There are a lot of things that you simply dont know about how women tend to be in relationships since you lack that perspective. I dont blame you for that, but please try not to dismiss things as fake without actually having that knowledge. A notable alternative that I've heard is "would you still love me if I was a puddle of water". You'd think it was just a joke, but there are many who get genuinely upset about your answer, similar to how the woman in the video fixates on him peeling an orange for her. Now, that you assume it is fake probably means that you dont act this way yourself. I commend you for that 😅
Hell a partner that would be willing to act like a pet and plaything I would happily peel oranges for! LOL WHen its all one way and some kind of idiotic game its wrong, though the hair is a clue also.
My ex tried to test me too, I packed her things and dumped them and her outside my house. Hope she learned something for the future, grown men don't have time for child's play we want mature women with self-awareness.
Damn...mic drop on that one. That one sentence is the perfect response to a female when she thinks being "difficult to handle" is a flex, like it's a good thing. Nope, not today sweetheart. Quit using difficult to handle as an excuse for being a shitty person. Just like someone who claims to be direct and honest and if you don't like it, you just can't handle the truth. No, you're justifying being a bad person who is extremely rude, inconsiderate...well a birch* to 'be honest', lol!! 😂😂😂
As a man who isn't a coward, if you can't talk through your problems in a relationship, especially such petty ones as "please don't give me tests like this it actually puts strain on the relationship," you are probably not mature enough to be in one.
To the land of faraway where there are swords, sorcery and monsters. Where they can find all the dads who made these womens mothers single moms and exact revenge for society. Seriously though that would be a baller movie.
I love it when they go online, asking where all of the men go and they go to Home Depot or sports bars, to seek them out. We're all at home, where it's safe, or we're at other guys' homes where it's safe, too. It's always some kind of plan or ploy with women. We're done with women.
My wife doesn't test me. I don't test her either. We just help each other as needed and communicate it when we need help. Maybe that's why we've been happy together for over 20 years.
My wife knows this by heart, I kid you not, I didn't pay her phone bills, 3 months later she was blocked, and I simply didn't give a shit, gave her cash and told her to buy a new number, now every phone bills goes to her name, she pays for it with her allowance or had to ask me to pay for it, every freaking month, to this very day. One time she put the bill on my desk without a word, I got home, teared it in half and threw it in the garbage. Of course the next month her bill doubled, she asked to pay, I only paid 1 month worth. I'm easy going, but don't test me on my bad day. Since she can't read a man behaviour, don't freaking test.
@@ajstyles5704 My wife is already trained well. It took me 5 long years. I paid for everything and what I got in return was only "No". 5 years later she started to pay for things because I told her I can't pay for everything no more. Many years later she's paying for everything and I only pay when she can't pay all by herself or when we buy something more expensive. She does some cooking, she does the laundry (the washing machine I did buy actually does the laundry). She's a good wife now and I like her more and more each day.
Don't worry. Just keep working on it and try to relax, if you can. You have time to figure it out. My first couple of relationships were incredibly hard, with tons of heartbreak. I couldn't understand what was going on half the time, there was a lot of pain and zero clarity. A constant fear of rejection, too. However, I kept at it, kept meeting people, kept trying to become more confident (my big problem was, and still is, making the first move... and every move after that). Eventually, I summoned up the courage to ask out the girl I've been dreaming about for a year. We've been together ever since, 14 years now. We both understand now just how toxic our previous relationships have been, how much misunderstanding, mind games and pointless drama we went through. But you can find someone who's on the same wavelength as you, who just genuinely wants to be happy together and who understands "happy together" the same way you do. It becomes so much easier with time - you start working together with your partner, you find warmth and encouragement and support in each other. So keep trying, and try not to get discouraged! Everything in life is a skill, and you can get better at it with practice. I wish you all the best, wherever you are!
NO, Do Not Bless her wicked / evil feminist, blackened heart. You can feel sorry for her if you want because she's confused & manipulated in her mind & emotions. She wants to be part of the LIE.
As someone who has and still struggles with insecurities when it comes to close relationships, she knows why he broke up w her. She's possibly struggling with manipulative narcissism and feels fully justified to 'test' a significant other. It takes q lot of work to get past that, but it doesn't take anything more than respect to realize human rights and healthy relationships.. It's a big issue for So many. And that's why its even harder when you do better, and outgrow people you used to id with. Either way, dodged a bullet, don't look back buddy.
No, don't bless her heart she doesn't deserve it she's being dishonest disingenuous and passing the buck blaming him for what essentially is all her doing she knows exactly why he left and instead of some time alone and some time to think about oneself and one's actions some alone time oh hell no she instead prefers to go to social media to spin some bogus story thus painting herself as the victim which unfortunately seems to be the fashion at the moment
WTF is a “partner”? If women were looking for “EqUaLs” then why do they get with taller and richer men? Go get with a shorter and poorer man THEN it’s a “partnership”! 😂
There's a very real chance that that man would have sacrificed his life to protect you from a real threat. And you lost him over peeling an orange. Let that sink in.
It's true, life will test a couple enough. People making up these "challenges" are putting unnecessary complications and strain on something that already takes a lot of work.
“Handle me” you’re exactly right. That phrase in itself makes me not want to deal with people in general much much less a woman as a potential girlfriend.. Imagine a man saying you can’t handle their attitude … you’re not a toddler ma’am. I’m just not going to handle you
Stop asking "would he peel an orange for me?" And start asking "would I peel an orange for him?" I guarantee this perspective shift would solve half of dating.
Thats a really good thought actually, cuz im sure it would solve alot of issues with ppl and dating..problem is with the state of thungs right now is its sht testing to see who holds more sway or power in the relationship.
You're the kind of woman we can no longer find in the younger age brackets. If you've been married that long, you're likely like my parents; true class acts. Seems these days men lack honor, and women lack class. Real shame.
Testing is one thing....I mean if u were building a rapport on him/her, then it's be a good tool. Say, meet at 7PM. U arrive at 7:10 intentionally, see how she'd react. Of course, u gotta make up for it. But pouring ketchup on the table n then tell him to clean it up....this is like a scene from slave movie...
In the context I think it makes sense(its "I am not gonna jump you with this question, I just wanna know what the hypothetical answer is"), but the whole thing is just ridiculous from the start anyway so it doesn't better the position anyway
@@TheStraightestWhitest Fair enough. Though I've been to Europe within the last decade and there weren't a lot of men complaining outside my circle of friends.
You can just go viral as a normal woman whi criticizes other women's insane behaviour because well, there is a lot to criticize and all men are tirednof this behaviour.
@@lennertcornette What's crazy is when you connect the dots and realize that these women have been working to destroy this country on the orders of another country and they're completely clueless as to why.
@@xouri8009Most people are so poor losing half isn't that big of a deal. The real problem is when they had kids together. Otherwise divorce isn't as big of a deal as it's made out to be.
@@maxpowers9129it's not that divorce is made as bigger deal than it should be, for me divorce is just in the right place now. The thing is marriage is the one being made as smaller deal than it should be, why not get to really know the man/woman first before marrying.
I've been finding a ton of channels like this all of the sudden, with a woman, speaking to other women logically about their actions and attitudes! First... thank you. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Is there a place where women wit similar veiws congregate? Maybe a dating site for women with similar veiws to find good and decent men, who want nothing more than to treat a woman right and to have that treatment reciprocated? I've been single for 20 years because I can't stand the idea of having to kowtow at the vaginal shrine of misery and belittlement that every woman seems to expect now days! I mean, SERIOUSLY!!! I JUST WANT A PARTNER AND A FRIEND!!! Why is it so hard to find that? I gave up a long time ago. I'm sure it's too late for me, but it does warm the cockles of my heart to see that there are still some women out there that realize how ridiculous the behavior of modern women can be! Thank you so much! A very lonely old dude!
I will preface this with I'm a 40 year old women that does not have TikTok or care about trends or viral tests. And I'm extremely thankful that I'm not part of that generation who cares. Do you know the biggest test I had when considering if my boyfriend was husband material? I looked how he interacted with my family, his family, and friends. My parents adored him from the beginning (we were 17 and 18), but the real clincher was my grandmother. She LOVED my boyfriend, who then became my husband. When my grandmother passed away my husband asked to take my place as a pallbearer for bringing her casket to the grave. And I agreed with that because their relationship was adorable and very special too. He considered her his grandmother. My husband is an amazing person and dad. We have been happily married for 15 years with 2 wonderful children. I don't need to "test" him. Because he is constantly there for his family. He has seen me at my worst, held my hand and supported me through the toughest times of my life. And I for him.
Your comment reminds me of what my wife told me confirmed that I was husband material. She saw how I was around children and knew I would be a good father. Her grandmother also loved me from the moment she met me. Crazily enough, her grandmother and my maternal grandmother were cousins and grew up together. The first time we ever met she called me son and welcomed me with a huge hug. Granted, my maternal grandmother passed away when I was a teenager and I didn’t really know her but I felt like I had a second chance at another grandmother. She would always smile and welcome me whenever I visited. She’s gone home to be with everyone else who went before her but I will always remember her. She loved me like I was her child. Growing up in a home where love was not shown and we were only as valuable as our productivity it was a stark change. She showed me the love of a mother I never knew I needed.
I’m 52. Been married for 30 years. I hold doors for my wife,wash her car,fill her gas tank at the end of the week. I make her lunch because I’m retired and she still has a bit of time left to work. It’s about doing things for a person you love and respect. All this “tictok” test crap is bizarre and I promise you young ladies and gents….its not getting you anywhere.
Absolutely love Tiktok! It has been indispensable for revealing to men how women really are. And the beauty of it all is that women were the ones who told and are telling on themselves. Priceless.
No man wants to be tested all the time, no man wants to fight for his woman all the time, no man wants to deal with your bad habits or bad attitude all the time. Man just want peace and support from their partner. If you are making the relationship harder than already is... It's a huge red flag and a really easy road that will lead to a break up
To be honest, both sexes "test" each other, almost on an instinctual level. Women generally want reassurance & attention, while men generally want compliance and appreciation. Obviously, women are told by modern society that they shouldn't satisfy male wants, and that trying to do so makes them less worthy.
Dadvocate for the win - He broke up with you because he doesn't want to be with someone petty enough to think tests like these are valid or prove anything. No man wants to think they are constantly being tested like this. It's childish. And since you mentioned the ketchup test... My wife absolutely HATES it. She feels it is narcissistic and demeaning. I married a good one.
@@thecroc Well not really.....you can accept a test...but if your tested twice....then you might need a backbone to call out bullshit. Fool me once etc
@@skagenpige88I have no words for how dumb & demeaning that is. If a guy threw some trash on the ground & looked at his woman & said "pick that up," the whole internet would melt down. Social media is a plague.
A relationship is based on respect by both parties and of keeping the relationship between the two and not venting everything on Tik Tok or FB. This man was wise enough and dodged a bullet.
No, it's good to test people. Especially women. You trick them into showing their hand. If it's unexpectedly good, then consider something more. If you don't, women will keep it friendly, friend-zoned and nebulous and dangle you for their backup plan.
If she had just asked, dude probably would have done it, no drama, no fuss, and gone about his day. It is amazing how simple guys are. We are tested every day at work, we don't need this BS at home. If there's a problem that needs a solution, ask. If you need someone just to listen, say so. We're so down with collaborative relationship building because we're constantly expected to be dog eat dog out there that it's so nice to come home and just have things be straightforward.
Im so done with women expecting me to know what they want when themselves dont know either. My Ex is a Girl in a body of a 22yo woman, she will never grow up mentally cause she refuses to
To be fair she didn't say she expected him to peel an orange without her asking. She got dumped because she brought up the orange peel theory. From the words she said, she didn't do it, just brought up the subject. That was enough of a red flag to him. When she said, "I'm not gonna ask" she meant she would not have undergone the test. However, in the end, she said "I just wanna know that you would". Which means that even without an actual orange, she put him under the test. Dude was not gonna have it.
@@alanclarke4646 lolwut? I want a lady that's at least modestly skilled at charades. If my wife holds an orange out to me, my first assumption is she's offering it to me, and my second assumption is that she's concerned it might have gone bad and wants me to sniff it.
100% agree. Tests like this are red flags. I first noticed the trend on FB, where folks "test" whether you read their posts or not. If you don't respond in the way THEY specify, they threaten to un-FB-friend you. "Go for it" was always my response.
Can you imagine the shitstorm if a man said "I'm not gonna ask you to make me a sandwich, I just want you to make me a sandwich, is that too much to ask"?
She literally never said she /wanted/ her ex to do it, that's a whole new sentence. She said she wants to know that he /would/ if she did hypothetically ask him to. It's a respect thing, not an accountability thing. What are you guys even talking about??
100%. he saw she was not the type of woman that would introduce PEACE into his life, but drama and chaos and a drain both emotionally, mentally, and financially.
You couldn’t have said it better myself. This shit literally happened to me yesterday. I was vibin really well with the woman I was talking to but then she kind of out of nowhere pulled this out-of-pocket TikTok psychology shit and I was just like nah imma head out.
Thank you. I just got out of a toxic relationship where I was constantly having these issues cause she wouldn't stop scrolling TikTok in order to find reasons to break up with me. You're laying your phone facedown. That's what cheaters do stuff like that is all I heard. And constant tests to see if I truly love her. When i'm paying all her bills , feeding her making sure she get anything she needed or wanted at the sacrifice of things I needed but yet I'm the problem. No man would go to those lengths just to be questioned and made to feel less than and shouldn't.
What they don't realise is the test works both ways. It also tests how well the girlfriend deals with being told no. If she flips / wants to end the relationship over orange peel then you definitely dodged a bullet.
So here are some things that my wife and I do that shock the average person. I have said on several occasions “wife… make me a sandwich”. She will literally make me a sandwich and bring it to me. The first time I said it I figured she would ignore me. My wife has asked me to open things for the reason of “I don’t want to ruin my nails” and I open them. She started a Instagram with all the things we do that annoy people for some reason. The "wife… make me a sandwich" one has a massive amount of hatred towards me.
One of my exes once argued that the most powerful relationship is an open relationship, because if you're not being sexually exclusive, the only thing keeping the relationship together is mutual trust and communication. You're not relying on the other person wanting to maintain exclusivity with you, and you're not holding the threat of being caught cheating over their head*. No testing, no expectations--either you genuinely want to be with this partner and are willing to do your part of maintaining a healthy relationship, or the relationship simply stops existing because there's nothing else holding you together. *You still want to communicate _about_ the sex you're having in an open relationship, because STDs are a thing and honesty about who you're sleeping with is partially a health consideration for your partner. Lying about who you're sleeping with is still grounds for ending an open relationship, it's just that _the act of sleeping with someone else_ stops being a hard-line dealbreaker.
Testing is so important. Its one of the biggest reasons why so many ppl end up in situations where they're saying "omg I never thought theh were capable of this", "I never saw this coming". Its not that he couldnt handle being tested he just didnt wanna be there.
I spent way too long in a relationship with a woman who constantly played mind games and felt the need to test me because my devotion, caring, and overt love for her was just not enough. This was way before Tik-Tok and all these idiotic games that women seem to think they need to play. I stayed in that situation for much longer than I should have and the level of relief now that it's over is absolutely amazing.
What I think a lot of women aren't considering is that while they're thinking "If he can't even be asked to peel an orange for me he won't do anything for me" Men are thinking. "If she can't be bothered to peel her own oranges, what else am I gonna get stuck doing that she could easily do herself?"
Other than to be manipulative and controlling, unless you are physically incapacitated, there is no valid reason to ever ask someone to peel an orange for you
The weaponized incompetence men out here pressed over a significant other asking for a peeled orange. The bar is on the ground for men for a reason; stop crying over peeling an orange when there's a sizable population of men who say they can't cook, clean the house, or look after their own kid(s) etc & need a woman to do it. Even after just giving birth.
@@froggacuda1605Asking is fine. Asking is good. _Please_ ask if you want something! It's when you _expect_ someone to do something for you that it becomes a problem. Especially when that expectation comes without a request.
What really bothers me is that if the genders were reversed in the orange peel scenario, any man who tried the orange peel test on his girlfriend would be viewed as controlling and possibly as "abusive" in the future. Every woman knows this is true.
@@DavidFrost9992 Exactly. If a man tried something like this, women would respond, "I'm not your mother, I'm not your therapist, I'm not your maid, I'm not your chef..." and on and on.
@@kylemacdougall8355 Yeah, only one response to them going off like that. "Then (with your minor requests) never expect me to help you again." Boundaries, equality, and whatever the fuck this "equity of outcome" thing is.
Doubt itd be seen as abusive, and if it was, id be annoyed because abuse is actually serious not some orange weird test, but it definitely would still be annoyinh
@@ki.44524 Things men do to women are often magnified and jazzed up to something they are not. Things that are merely inappropriate then quickly become called "abusive", while things women do to men aren't seen as that serious.
That, and men having preferences and standards are totally inacceptable to lots of them nowadays for some obscure and twisted reasons with the word sexist out in it somewhere
@zBorderPatrol that runs the gamut, though. Some men want to be their SO's only while others want her to know what she's doing in that regard. Due to this, it is very unrealistic to lump all men together.🤷
@@oz_jones If you're going to quote lines from 'Monty Python and the Holy Grail', the least you could is quote it correctly. "Listen. Strange women lying in ponds distributing swords is no basis for a system of government. Supreme executive power derives from a mandate from the masses, not from some farcical aquatic ceremony." ^ some peasant dude
Good one. You probably copied it from somewhere but yeah ok, it's funny enough. This woman is still a hypocrite though. She "explains" the whole larger tiktok sphere. Meanwhile she's pandering to us men with the same shit. Go to the gym, read the stoics. We have no use for shitty "content" like this. You can be strong. Be strong. Good luck, brother.
She really was pushing it Wonderful video on exactly what she did wrong Unfortunately, those who do this constant testing and pushing the relationship also will never listen to anyone's actual critique on what they did wrong.
Deserves the ban its getting imho, even without the anti-western propaganda that site is doing nothing but harm to its users. Facebook and twitter should be next.
If you test me, that's not love. That's intellect without empathy. Empty. Purpose-driven but without the other person in mind. Only yourself. If you test me, I'm out.
In the 70s, we called this sort of thing Head Games. And we shamed those who tried to play. Today.... I see it more than ever. Play stupid head games, "win" by losing.
The real test is seeing if you're mature enough to just ask them not to do it, abandoning the relationship because you don't know how to have a hard conversation shows you're not actually ready for one.
My wife is handicapped. There's a lot of normal things that she physically cannot do. Sometimes it does bother me but I have to remind myself that she is not testing me. She try to do things herself but when she can't she has to ask me. When my wife wants an orange, she gets a knife and peels it herself.
Seeing you respond like that might be a sign that also you might need to step away from social media every once in a while, as the brain rot is also affecting you.
@@owendejong9711 respond like what? I'm old and sick of women's crap. It's funny to see them prove they need to be alone. I don't hate them or even dislike them. It's a cultural incompatibility dilemma. And I'm fine with that.
@@owendejong9711 Totally right to try not let people get to you, I just got dumped for really dumb reasons, not mad at women just her. Important to remember that fact when dealing with shitty people
@@theonlyamergeddon A shame you had to go through that breakup. Only thing you can do really is to reflect like "Is there anything I would have done differently?" and try to improve for next time, or just move on entirely. Indeed its not all women 👍Plenty of nice people out there!
Im still in awe that women can genuinely sit there and wonder why a man does not want to come home from a stressful job to their own partner and have their integrity doubted to the point that they're being tested. Thank gos im surrounded by women with common sense because 90% of the ones i see on social media and streaming platforms are an embarrassment to the rest of them and the ones that fought and died for the rights they take for granted
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She dodged accountability. He dodged a bullet.
He needs to reevaluate himself because that hair alone should’ve been the red flag to avoid
Pretty sure he dodged a rocket, not a bullet.
Not a bullet, not a rocket, a whole ass Death Star blast
Haha his life is already better
Bro dodged a supernova
Would I walk through a minefield for my partner? Absolutely… but not if she’s the one laying down the mines
Love this! 💯 They aren't tests, they're traps. They're designed to set men up for failure and then falsely interpret the results to reveal a character flaw. People are seriously letting these stupid "tests" literally blow up their relationships. And women are willfully setting these traps, gullibly believing that they are somehow dodging a bullet when their relationship implodes. Truth is the ones dodging the bullet are the men who are finding out their women are willing to be toxic instead of being a good partner.
A toxic woman traps her man and sets him up for failure.
A good woman supports her man and sets him up for success.
Well said
Bars will use that in the future.
god this just shook something loose in my that's what it was it was the tests not whether or not I loved her
Oh that's absolutely perfect.
For real, though. As soon as the testing starts, I'm out. Relationships are not games to be won and lost, and I don't maintain relationships with people who think they are
R? Real life will throw plenty of tests at people, giving us the chance to see how others react. There is absolutely no need for any adult to be subjected to any test by any other person.
@@duitseles9687…
I agree…
However, a person has to be paying attention to the real world in order to see all of that evidence surrounding them.
These people with their faces stuck to their screen will never see the plethora of information that’s just floating all around them.
They are sort of creating their own “catch 22” situation, lol.
Personally, I find it hard to remain engaged with any person who can’t ignore their phone for more than two minutes at a time 😂😂😂
Yep. Especially because the tests are stupid shite like the ketchup, or orange test, but with how social media is, I wouldn't be surprised if it were soon the "sleep with his best friend test".
While I agree relationships have always been little tests neither partner knew they were taking the only problem comes in when one person knows they are testing the other one and the other person doesn't
Agreed. She must be bored if she wants to antagonize her boyfriend with that rubbish.
Social media addiction is quickly becoming the biggest red flag for men.
Yep almost every feminarcissist is addicted to anti-social media.
YEP !!
I agree.... Tiktok trends, Insta promiscuity, OF and body counts.... quality women are harder to find.
Yup. I had to have a talk with my gf. Her addiction was so bad she wasn't sleeping. She'd literally be up super late just scrolling.
Luckily she actually listened to me and has deleted most social media.
Say it louder for the people in the back!! That doesn't mean there isn't a time and place for phones and social media, but if it is glued to your hand and he has to fight an inanimate object for your attention, then GTFO!
"...sphere of relatioship killing anti-male ideology."
This is the most accurate description of that bs I have ever heard.
Peel your own danm orange and be greatful for what you have. Because of the stupid test your now single. How did the test work
Almost, but not really, because I bet that would kill any relationship, having a male in it or not 😂
@SaryM29 well, the ideology specifically targets men and women's inflated traditional expectations of men. This kind of "pledge your loyalty and willingness to treat me like a princess" kind of thing is not something that goes both ways for the genders. The same way youre gonna be hard pressed to find a man that asks the "worm" question and gets upset at the answer. So this particular cultural phenomenon is pretty 100% anti-male and pro-female (in a way that enables toxic female behavior, not in a healthy way).
@@_Lumiere_ I've never seen anyone, man or woman, actually take the "worm" thing seriously, for me it's just universally agreed as ridiculous. It just gets Tiktok clicks
@@SaryM29 I'm assuming youre a woman. We men also tend to think that until we legit encounter it when dating straight women. It's definitely not just a tiktok thing lmao. There are a lot of things that you simply dont know about how women tend to be in relationships since you lack that perspective. I dont blame you for that, but please try not to dismiss things as fake without actually having that knowledge.
A notable alternative that I've heard is "would you still love me if I was a puddle of water". You'd think it was just a joke, but there are many who get genuinely upset about your answer, similar to how the woman in the video fixates on him peeling an orange for her.
Now, that you assume it is fake probably means that you dont act this way yourself. I commend you for that 😅
Nailed it. That’s exactly what us men think.
I refuse to date women over 25 that still use social media. It's a sign of deep insecurity and immaturity to me.
Meanwhile, that's where I meet women.
I was going to say- what is it with women in their late 20s and beyond acting like High School kids when on Tiktok? It's not attractive.
@@FreedomTalkMedia yet you're still single
"Ugh, why wont my partner... my equal... just be my pet and play thing for ammusement??? I dont understand why he left."
THIS
Seconded THIS! Treating your partner like a lab rat sounds like a great way to build a solid relationship.🙄
And don't forget being her ATM...
Exactly
Hell a partner that would be willing to act like a pet and plaything I would happily peel oranges for! LOL WHen its all one way and some kind of idiotic game its wrong, though the hair is a clue also.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes!
This is exactly what I was gonna say
Ask idiot questions get idiot answers
I'm just glad this goes on, if the guys would finally drop their pink glasses towards women. Let us update our understanding of our counterpart.
Classic! Never gets old
Yup. Man made the correct choice.
My ex tried to test me too, I packed her things and dumped them and her outside my house. Hope she learned something for the future, grown men don't have time for child's play we want mature women with self-awareness.
100 %. Good men won’t stand for it too long, especially when respect is their #1 turn on.
As a man, i feel safe speaking for all men with this. Its not that a man cant handle you. Its that a man dont want a woman he has to handle.
Well said. I want a partner who loves me, not a supervisor who hits me with performance reviews.
@@Wveth And BOOM....there you have it.
Agreed!!
Damn...mic drop on that one. That one sentence is the perfect response to a female when she thinks being "difficult to handle" is a flex, like it's a good thing. Nope, not today sweetheart. Quit using difficult to handle as an excuse for being a shitty person. Just like someone who claims to be direct and honest and if you don't like it, you just can't handle the truth. No, you're justifying being a bad person who is extremely rude, inconsiderate...well a birch* to 'be honest', lol!! 😂😂😂
As a man who isn't a coward, if you can't talk through your problems in a relationship, especially such petty ones as "please don't give me tests like this it actually puts strain on the relationship," you are probably not mature enough to be in one.
"Where have all the good men gone?"
Away from these women. Far, far away.
LMAO 😂😅🤣😆
To the land of faraway where there are swords, sorcery and monsters. Where they can find all the dads who made these womens mothers single moms and exact revenge for society. Seriously though that would be a baller movie.
I love it when they go online, asking where all of the men go and they go to Home Depot or sports bars, to seek them out.
We're all at home, where it's safe, or we're at other guys' homes where it's safe, too. It's always some kind of plan or ploy with women. We're done with women.
“And where are all the gods..?”
To the coffee shops to get their soil
Modern women dodging accountability??? Unheard of!
I thank life itself there are people like you willing to dispell the bullshit that people are being put through for no reason
My wife doesn't test me. I don't test her either. We just help each other as needed and communicate it when we need help. Maybe that's why we've been happy together for over 20 years.
Same. I'm married now for 16 years. We just came home from a hike together. We genuinely appreciate one another.
Same, for better and worse, in sickness and health.
Well said! If there is any stress in a relationship, it should come about naturally, not deliberately.
Well said and good for you
Wake up to reality - We know its cap
I've heard it said: "you're allowed to test someone. They're allowed to hate you for the test."
^^ This is gold!
My wife knows this by heart, I kid you not, I didn't pay her phone bills, 3 months later she was blocked, and I simply didn't give a shit, gave her cash and told her to buy a new number, now every phone bills goes to her name, she pays for it with her allowance or had to ask me to pay for it, every freaking month, to this very day. One time she put the bill on my desk without a word, I got home, teared it in half and threw it in the garbage. Of course the next month her bill doubled, she asked to pay, I only paid 1 month worth. I'm easy going, but don't test me on my bad day. Since she can't read a man behaviour, don't freaking test.
Amen brother
@@ajstyles5704 My wife is already trained well. It took me 5 long years. I paid for everything and what I got in return was only "No". 5 years later she started to pay for things because I told her I can't pay for everything no more. Many years later she's paying for everything and I only pay when she can't pay all by herself or when we buy something more expensive. She does some cooking, she does the laundry (the washing machine I did buy actually does the laundry). She's a good wife now and I like her more and more each day.
"The problem with testing your partner is that you might fail theirs."
This woman is a breath of fresh air.
Bless you for speaking facts.
I am glad at least one woman points these things out. It has been so difficult hoping to avoid whatever was going to make a woman reject me.
Don't worry. Just keep working on it and try to relax, if you can. You have time to figure it out.
My first couple of relationships were incredibly hard, with tons of heartbreak. I couldn't understand what was going on half the time, there was a lot of pain and zero clarity. A constant fear of rejection, too.
However, I kept at it, kept meeting people, kept trying to become more confident (my big problem was, and still is, making the first move... and every move after that). Eventually, I summoned up the courage to ask out the girl I've been dreaming about for a year. We've been together ever since, 14 years now.
We both understand now just how toxic our previous relationships have been, how much misunderstanding, mind games and pointless drama we went through. But you can find someone who's on the same wavelength as you, who just genuinely wants to be happy together and who understands "happy together" the same way you do. It becomes so much easier with time - you start working together with your partner, you find warmth and encouragement and support in each other.
So keep trying, and try not to get discouraged! Everything in life is a skill, and you can get better at it with practice. I wish you all the best, wherever you are!
Bless her heart. She actually thinks that’s why he broke up with her.
Bless her shriveled up tiny heart.
It’s the green hair
NO, Do Not Bless her wicked / evil feminist, blackened heart. You can feel sorry for her if you want because she's confused & manipulated in her mind & emotions. She wants to be part of the LIE.
As someone who has and still struggles with insecurities when it comes to close relationships, she knows why he broke up w her. She's possibly struggling with manipulative narcissism and feels fully justified to 'test' a significant other. It takes q lot of work to get past that, but it doesn't take anything more than respect to realize human rights and healthy relationships.. It's a big issue for So many. And that's why its even harder when you do better, and outgrow people you used to id with.
Either way, dodged a bullet, don't look back buddy.
No, don't bless her heart she doesn't deserve it she's being dishonest disingenuous and passing the buck blaming him for what essentially is all her doing she knows exactly why he left and instead of some time alone and some time to think about oneself and one's actions some alone time oh hell no she instead prefers to go to social media to spin some bogus story thus painting herself as the victim which unfortunately seems to be the fashion at the moment
DON'T TEST YOUR PARTNER! It's so narcissistic!!!
But only if the man does it, remember that.
The only time you should test your partner, is in games. Games of wit, games of strategy, games of cards.
WTF is a “partner”? If women were looking for “EqUaLs” then why do they get with taller and richer men? Go get with a shorter and poorer man THEN it’s a “partnership”! 😂
Women will always test men. It's a subconscious thing. It's biologically who they are. But just don't do these stupid viral ones that make zero sense
Yep, The last straw for me with my BM was a relationship test. Literally gave up on having the dream life with my fiance and 3 kids because it.
There's a very real chance that that man would have sacrificed his life to protect you from a real threat. And you lost him over peeling an orange. Let that sink in.
Women are TALL children. ALL OF THEM.
He is a very smart man. He read the story without having to go through the time, effort and disconnected of reading a horrible book.
yes, its too much. Men are tested every day, we don't need that from our SO.
Isn't that what women do... like constantly testing men
And that's why they're single@@kekeke1201
@@kekeke1201 Not if they plan on keeping us around they don't.
It's true, life will test a couple enough. People making up these "challenges" are putting unnecessary complications and strain on something that already takes a lot of work.
I've been tested by life, zero healthcare and the worsening economy for 30 years. Trust me I have ENOUGH character by now, no more tests.
The dude could smell that nonsense a mile away and it smelled like oranges
Reminds me of a joke I once heard: If you say "gullible" reeeeaaally slowly it sounds like "oranges"
@@n.l.4626really? 😮
Or citrus of ANY KIND
crusty musty oranges
Blood and Oranges.
“Handle me” you’re exactly right. That phrase in itself makes me not want to deal with people in general much much less a woman as a potential girlfriend..
Imagine a man saying you can’t handle their attitude … you’re not a toddler ma’am.
I’m just not going to handle you
Well, maybe not a toddler, but definitely a child.
Well our future is in good hands!! I remember we used to avoid test now everyone's trying to make up a test😂
Stop asking "would he peel an orange for me?" And start asking "would I peel an orange for him?"
I guarantee this perspective shift would solve half of dating.
They couldn't get past hearing it. The instant you even suggest it, they'll go "I'm not his mother or his servant." Or some similar shit.
Would never work. People will immediately say theyre fine with the reverse until theyre literally put to the grinder on the matter
We peeal oranges for each other all the time.. especially with dirty fingers and laugh
Both have to have that mentality, peel for each other and everyone gets their orange peeled
Thats a really good thought actually, cuz im sure it would solve alot of issues with ppl and dating..problem is with the state of thungs right now is its sht testing to see who holds more sway or power in the relationship.
40 years of marriage and not once have I felt the need to test my husband’s love or loyalty. This stuff is ridiculous.
You're the kind of woman we can no longer find in the younger age brackets. If you've been married that long, you're likely like my parents; true class acts.
Seems these days men lack honor, and women lack class. Real shame.
Same here, and my husband has been so supportive and caring, to our daughter and myself. Testing him from a tik tok silly challenge is ridiculous.
Hence why i dont date 😂 woman of my generation have lost it😂 God Bless
❤
God bless you both, no sarcasm.
I’m a dude and I will never in my life date a woman like this. The boyfriend had it right and your analysis is spot on.
Just the 30 seconds of hearing her speak was enough for me to break up. 🤣👍🏻
The "tests" need to stop. Women don't know when to stop.
A real woman doesn't shit on men based on her tiktok addiction.
When they get tired of losing that's when they stop
@@mrceadaccountability = woman kryptonite
women will happily be single before they stop testing men
@@mrcead When they get tired of losing, they dump you and play the victim of your "narcissism" or "abuse..."
Testing your spouse is a great way to end up single 😊
Testing is one thing....I mean if u were building a rapport on him/her, then it's be a good tool.
Say, meet at 7PM. U arrive at 7:10 intentionally, see how she'd react.
Of course, u gotta make up for it.
But pouring ketchup on the table n then tell him to clean it up....this is like a scene from slave movie...
Yeah but it works so beautifully.
Right on. We are tired of the crap.
She dodges accountability like how I dodge taxes
The orange peel test is the saving so many men from unstable women.
Actually yes, maybe it IS a good test! Just not the way these women think it is.
Right???
She says "I'm not gonna ask" as if that's a positive. No, if you want something from a man, please ask!
And if we give you a stupid look, yes, it probably was a stupid question
In the context I think it makes sense(its "I am not gonna jump you with this question, I just wanna know what the hypothetical answer is"), but the whole thing is just ridiculous from the start anyway so it doesn't better the position anyway
They don't "ask" to peel the orange. They say "I'm hungry" holding an orange. It's a manipulation, not a request.
They don't "ask" to peel thr orange though. They say "I'm hungry". So when she says "I wouldn't ask, she's being disingenuous.
@@CASPBbut, the holding out of the orange IS asking, just without using words.
Ladies, men even detest hearing "If you love me, you'll do XYZ."
This is the emotional version of "i dOn'T unDeRstAnD wHY tHeY'rE sO mAD OvEr 5 bUcKs" 😂
"Relationship-killing anti-male ideology." Uftt! I felt that. Hard
Men throughout the US have been feeling that for going on 40 years now.
@@user-yg4ci2js4e The US? Try anywhere that isn't the middle east.
@@TheStraightestWhitest Fair enough. Though I've been to Europe within the last decade and there weren't a lot of men complaining outside my circle of friends.
You can just go viral as a normal woman whi criticizes other women's insane behaviour because well, there is a lot to criticize and all men are tirednof this behaviour.
@@lennertcornette What's crazy is when you connect the dots and realize that these women have been working to destroy this country on the orders of another country and they're completely clueless as to why.
Dude, exactly like my ex wife. Soon as Narcisism became the trend it became really really ....dumb. Divorced!
did you lose half your shit or were you lucky?
@@xouri8009Most people are so poor losing half isn't that big of a deal. The real problem is when they had kids together. Otherwise divorce isn't as big of a deal as it's made out to be.
My dad in a nutshell. Mom got out of that too late.
Same! Tiktoxic was a factor in ending my marriage for sure. My ex fell for all the bs feminist influence
@@maxpowers9129it's not that divorce is made as bigger deal than it should be, for me divorce is just in the right place now. The thing is marriage is the one being made as smaller deal than it should be, why not get to really know the man/woman first before marrying.
I've been finding a ton of channels like this all of the sudden, with a woman, speaking to other women logically about their actions and attitudes! First... thank you. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Is there a place where women wit similar veiws congregate? Maybe a dating site for women with similar veiws to find good and decent men, who want nothing more than to treat a woman right and to have that treatment reciprocated? I've been single for 20 years because I can't stand the idea of having to kowtow at the vaginal shrine of misery and belittlement that every woman seems to expect now days! I mean, SERIOUSLY!!! I JUST WANT A PARTNER AND A FRIEND!!! Why is it so hard to find that? I gave up a long time ago. I'm sure it's too late for me, but it does warm the cockles of my heart to see that there are still some women out there that realize how ridiculous the behavior of modern women can be! Thank you so much!
A very lonely old dude!
“I want someone who wants to peel an orange for me.”
And we want women who don’t secretly test us at every turn.
I will preface this with I'm a 40 year old women that does not have TikTok or care about trends or viral tests. And I'm extremely thankful that I'm not part of that generation who cares.
Do you know the biggest test I had when considering if my boyfriend was husband material? I looked how he interacted with my family, his family, and friends. My parents adored him from the beginning (we were 17 and 18), but the real clincher was my grandmother. She LOVED my boyfriend, who then became my husband. When my grandmother passed away my husband asked to take my place as a pallbearer for bringing her casket to the grave. And I agreed with that because their relationship was adorable and very special too. He considered her his grandmother.
My husband is an amazing person and dad. We have been happily married for 15 years with 2 wonderful children. I don't need to "test" him. Because he is constantly there for his family. He has seen me at my worst, held my hand and supported me through the toughest times of my life. And I for him.
Underrated comment.
More people need to read this comment.
Your comment reminds me of what my wife told me confirmed that I was husband material. She saw how I was around children and knew I would be a good father.
Her grandmother also loved me from the moment she met me. Crazily enough, her grandmother and my maternal grandmother were cousins and grew up together. The first time we ever met she called me son and welcomed me with a huge hug. Granted, my maternal grandmother passed away when I was a teenager and I didn’t really know her but I felt like I had a second chance at another grandmother. She would always smile and welcome me whenever I visited.
She’s gone home to be with everyone else who went before her but I will always remember her. She loved me like I was her child. Growing up in a home where love was not shown and we were only as valuable as our productivity it was a stark change. She showed me the love of a mother I never knew I needed.
If you can't handle me at my best then you don't deserve me at my worst
Every time I see comment like this that’s like “my husband is so great!”, I just wish I could ask the guy if he feels the same about her.
I’m 52. Been married for 30 years. I hold doors for my wife,wash her car,fill her gas tank at the end of the week. I make her lunch because I’m retired and she still has a bit of time left to work. It’s about doing things for a person you love and respect. All this “tictok” test crap is bizarre and I promise you young ladies and gents….its not getting you anywhere.
its mostly ladies.
@@charliemcintyre6902 Almost exclusively*
@@charliemcintyre6902Any MALE(?) that would do anything like this is suspect.
Retired at 52 sounds like either lots of money or an interesting story...
Either way your relationship sounds very healthy and happy 😁
@@psyckwhoever4197 Maybe he was a cop, or something else where he could retire after 20-30 years.
Absolutely love Tiktok!
It has been indispensable for revealing to men how women really are.
And the beauty of it all is that women were the ones who told and are telling on themselves.
Priceless.
I think it is mostly 21st century, American raised women who have adopted this anti-relationship, men hating ideology.
No man wants to be tested all the time, no man wants to fight for his woman all the time, no man wants to deal with your bad habits or bad attitude all the time. Man just want peace and support from their partner. If you are making the relationship harder than already is... It's a huge red flag and a really easy road that will lead to a break up
If someone is tiktok brained I'm not interested.
Good rule for keeping your sanity.
if the men started testing the women, the women would cry about it
To be honest, both sexes "test" each other, almost on an instinctual level.
Women generally want reassurance & attention, while men generally want compliance and appreciation.
Obviously, women are told by modern society that they shouldn't satisfy male wants, and that trying to do so makes them less worthy.
My test is if they cancel a date. If they are too busy they aren't interested and I move on.
we test women all the time and most of the time...they fail...its simply called the 'honesty test'...as in..."can you be honest with me or not?"
I do test them. They're just inadequately intelligent to detect it.
@@L.oo.cia. they aren't a pick me they just aren't an idiot
You are absolutely correct!!!!! And thank you!!!
The irony of testing people all the time is that you end up being the one who fails the test.
He broke up with her because she is ridiculous.
Yes. Thank you.
Dadvocate for the win - He broke up with you because he doesn't want to be with someone petty enough to think tests like these are valid or prove anything. No man wants to think they are constantly being tested like this. It's childish. And since you mentioned the ketchup test... My wife absolutely HATES it. She feels it is narcissistic and demeaning. I married a good one.
Honestly if you wipe up the ketchup you fail the test. Because the test is to see if you have backbone enough to call out bullshit right?
@@thecroc Well not really.....you can accept a test...but if your tested twice....then you might need a backbone to call out bullshit. Fool me once etc
Wth is the ketchup test?
@@cicin9313 While recording, a woman squirts a glob of ketchup on her kitchen counter, then asks her male partner to clean it up.
@@skagenpige88I have no words for how dumb & demeaning that is. If a guy threw some trash on the ground & looked at his woman & said "pick that up," the whole internet would melt down.
Social media is a plague.
A relationship is based on respect by both parties and of keeping the relationship between the two and not venting everything on Tik Tok or FB. This man was wise enough and dodged a bullet.
My wife is allergic to oranges, and I'm allergic to orange peels. We're a match made in heaven. 😂
Leave any partner that uses "shit testing" manipulation on you. They are a horrible person and not worth your time
Anyone who disagrees that testing isn’t manipulation is WRONG.
No, it's good to test people. Especially women. You trick them into showing their hand. If it's unexpectedly good, then consider something more. If you don't, women will keep it friendly, friend-zoned and nebulous and dangle you for their backup plan.
You just contributed to another one.
The "shit test" is going viral as we speak, in more ways than one.
My ex in a nutshell
She wants an orange peeled, but she's "not gonna ask".
Good luck finding a mind reader.
If she had just asked, dude probably would have done it, no drama, no fuss, and gone about his day. It is amazing how simple guys are. We are tested every day at work, we don't need this BS at home. If there's a problem that needs a solution, ask. If you need someone just to listen, say so.
We're so down with collaborative relationship building because we're constantly expected to be dog eat dog out there that it's so nice to come home and just have things be straightforward.
Im so done with women expecting me to know what they want when themselves dont know either. My Ex is a Girl in a body of a 22yo woman, she will never grow up mentally cause she refuses to
To be fair she didn't say she expected him to peel an orange without her asking.
She got dumped because she brought up the orange peel theory. From the words she said, she didn't do it, just brought up the subject. That was enough of a red flag to him.
When she said, "I'm not gonna ask" she meant she would not have undergone the test.
However, in the end, she said "I just wanna know that you would". Which means that even without an actual orange, she put him under the test.
Dude was not gonna have it.
The holding out of the orange IS asking, just without words.
@@alanclarke4646 lolwut?
I want a lady that's at least modestly skilled at charades.
If my wife holds an orange out to me, my first assumption is she's offering it to me, and my second assumption is that she's concerned it might have gone bad and wants me to sniff it.
You deserve an really high value man.
Thanks for making this.
A lot more people should thank you for making those videos.
I never heard of any of these things, but I'm never too old to be educated.
100% agree. Tests like this are red flags. I first noticed the trend on FB, where folks "test" whether you read their posts or not. If you don't respond in the way THEY specify, they threaten to un-FB-friend you. "Go for it" was always my response.
"I'm not gonna ask you to, I just want you to do it, is that too much to ask?"
Red flag right there too.
"and when I don't ask and then get upset with you for not knowing I wanted you to do it, I'll make out like you're a bad boyfriend".
Can you imagine the shitstorm if a man said "I'm not gonna ask you to make me a sandwich, I just want you to make me a sandwich, is that too much to ask"?
Most men would peel a orange for a stranger. too.
She literally never said she /wanted/ her ex to do it, that's a whole new sentence. She said she wants to know that he /would/ if she did hypothetically ask him to. It's a respect thing, not an accountability thing. What are you guys even talking about??
@@maxbaugh9372 lol if that hadn't been status quo for the last 100year you might have an argument
I love this lady she speaks so much truth DAILY !!
100%. he saw she was not the type of woman that would introduce PEACE into his life, but drama and chaos and a drain both emotionally, mentally, and financially.
You couldn’t have said it better myself. This shit literally happened to me yesterday. I was vibin really well with the woman I was talking to but then she kind of out of nowhere pulled this out-of-pocket TikTok psychology shit and I was just like nah imma head out.
Best start heading to the church my dude.
Most women now are losing it.
I ain't playing games, too busy trying to live!
We need more women speaking up and standing up for men. Thank you. ❤
Wow, someone didn't watch the video.
Thank you. I just got out of a toxic relationship where I was constantly having these issues cause she wouldn't stop scrolling TikTok in order to find reasons to break up with me. You're laying your phone facedown. That's what cheaters do stuff like that is all I heard. And constant tests to see if I truly love her. When i'm paying all her bills , feeding her making sure she get anything she needed or wanted at the sacrifice of things I needed but yet I'm the problem. No man would go to those lengths just to be questioned and made to feel less than and shouldn't.
Keep it up ladies. We guys are starting to look outside the US. I know I did, best thing I ever did.
The level of immaturity and insecurity by that ex-girlfriend is palatable.
"I would like highly motivated servants to anticipate my needs and meet them. Is that too much to ask?" Yes.
Not even cats act in a such entitled way,
What they don't realise is the test works both ways.
It also tests how well the girlfriend deals with being told no.
If she flips / wants to end the relationship over orange peel then you definitely dodged a bullet.
Amen smart ladie❤ what u said is spot on.100 as a man with a set and a fishing pole ur right!
That dude dodged a nuclear bomb. Well done ex boyfriend. Well done brother.
This lady makes a great point. People in general (not only females) are allowing internet trends and fad ideologies supercede reason.
Been together for 30 years. It has never crossed either of our minds to test the other. We are just happy together.
Adults often are. Children, like in the clip, are full of weird and self serving games.
Same here. Met my wife back in high school in 98. No "tests," no games, just genuine mutual love, respect, communication and support
So here are some things that my wife and I do that shock the average person. I have said on several occasions “wife… make me a sandwich”. She will literally make me a sandwich and bring it to me. The first time I said it I figured she would ignore me. My wife has asked me to open things for the reason of “I don’t want to ruin my nails” and I open them. She started a Instagram with all the things we do that annoy people for some reason. The "wife… make me a sandwich" one has a massive amount of hatred towards me.
@@rjgaynor8 You are a team? What kind of disgusting behavior is that?
One of my exes once argued that the most powerful relationship is an open relationship, because if you're not being sexually exclusive, the only thing keeping the relationship together is mutual trust and communication. You're not relying on the other person wanting to maintain exclusivity with you, and you're not holding the threat of being caught cheating over their head*. No testing, no expectations--either you genuinely want to be with this partner and are willing to do your part of maintaining a healthy relationship, or the relationship simply stops existing because there's nothing else holding you together.
*You still want to communicate _about_ the sex you're having in an open relationship, because STDs are a thing and honesty about who you're sleeping with is partially a health consideration for your partner. Lying about who you're sleeping with is still grounds for ending an open relationship, it's just that _the act of sleeping with someone else_ stops being a hard-line dealbreaker.
Testing is so important. Its one of the biggest reasons why so many ppl end up in situations where they're saying "omg I never thought theh were capable of this", "I never saw this coming". Its not that he couldnt handle being tested he just didnt wanna be there.
I spent way too long in a relationship with a woman who constantly played mind games and felt the need to test me because my devotion, caring, and overt love for her was just not enough. This was way before Tik-Tok and all these idiotic games that women seem to think they need to play. I stayed in that situation for much longer than I should have and the level of relief now that it's over is absolutely amazing.
That sounds like a narcissist, which is a mental disorder.
That's relatable, unfortunately.
This woman gets it. Men don't want to play your childish games.
MEN want WOMEN, not girls. Obviously. XD But seriously though, agreed.
Absolutely true.
She’s the same type of personality who would lose their shit if a man DARED ask her to grab him a beer…
The result of "play stupid games, win stupid prizes." Kudos to that man.
What I think a lot of women aren't considering is that while they're thinking "If he can't even be asked to peel an orange for me he won't do anything for me" Men are thinking. "If she can't be bothered to peel her own oranges, what else am I gonna get stuck doing that she could easily do herself?"
One wants a spouse and the other wants a servant.
Other than to be manipulative and controlling, unless you are physically incapacitated, there is no valid reason to ever ask someone to peel an orange for you
@@dawnfire82 This. This is absolutely the vibe I get from this type of bs.
The weaponized incompetence men out here pressed over a significant other asking for a peeled orange. The bar is on the ground for men for a reason; stop crying over peeling an orange when there's a sizable population of men who say they can't cook, clean the house, or look after their own kid(s) etc & need a woman to do it. Even after just giving birth.
@@froggacuda1605Asking is fine. Asking is good. _Please_ ask if you want something!
It's when you _expect_ someone to do something for you that it becomes a problem. Especially when that expectation comes without a request.
As a Floridian I'm insulted that this is even a question but I also feel for him. I just know how to crack an orange in seconds lol.
You give great advice. Some women act so immature it's nauseating.
What really bothers me is that if the genders were reversed in the orange peel scenario, any man who tried the orange peel test on his girlfriend would be viewed as controlling and possibly as "abusive" in the future. Every woman knows this is true.
At the very least, she'd scream about not being his mother.
@@DavidFrost9992 Exactly. If a man tried something like this, women would respond, "I'm not your mother, I'm not your therapist, I'm not your maid, I'm not your chef..." and on and on.
@@kylemacdougall8355 Yeah, only one response to them going off like that. "Then (with your minor requests) never expect me to help you again." Boundaries, equality, and whatever the fuck this "equity of outcome" thing is.
Doubt itd be seen as abusive, and if it was, id be annoyed because abuse is actually serious not some orange weird test, but it definitely would still be annoyinh
@@ki.44524
Things men do to women are often magnified and jazzed up to something they are not. Things that are merely inappropriate then quickly become called "abusive", while things women do to men aren't seen as that serious.
Its like women have no idea that relationships are supposed to be pleasant for men too
That, and men having preferences and standards are totally inacceptable to lots of them nowadays for some obscure and twisted reasons with the word sexist out in it somewhere
Say it LOUDER for the women on the internet
@@Kat-sp5tdDon't get women started on men's preferences regarding body count...
@@Kat-sp5tdif you would fall short of anyone’s preferences. You would not like people to HAVE preferences
@zBorderPatrol that runs the gamut, though. Some men want to be their SO's only while others want her to know what she's doing in that regard. Due to this, it is very unrealistic to lump all men together.🤷
in the first week with my girl I said don't play silly relationship games or test me. She listened and 24 years later were still together.
😂
You want an orange while I’m sitting down? Get it yourself.
The only secret tests I want to take are secret tests of character to prove myself worthy of a sword of legend.
Where is the trend of "king disguises himself as a beggar to find a generous and virtuous hero to be his champion"?
Mate, watery tarts handing over swords isnt a valid way to form a government
But what if they're really pretty? And the sword is really really shiny?@@oz_jones
@@oz_jonesHELP HELP, IM BEIN REPRESSED!! COME SEE THE VIOLENCE INHERENT IN THE SYSTEM!!!
@@oz_jones If you're going to quote lines from 'Monty Python and the Holy Grail', the least you could is quote it correctly.
"Listen. Strange women lying in ponds distributing swords is no basis for a system of government. Supreme executive power derives from a mandate from the masses, not from some farcical aquatic ceremony."
^ some peasant dude
Two dodges took place here.
1- she dodged accountability
2- he dodged a bullet
Good one. You probably copied it from somewhere but yeah ok, it's funny enough.
This woman is still a hypocrite though. She "explains" the whole larger tiktok sphere. Meanwhile she's pandering to us men with the same shit.
Go to the gym, read the stoics.
We have no use for shitty "content" like this.
You can be strong. Be strong.
Good luck, brother.
She really was pushing it
Wonderful video on exactly what she did wrong
Unfortunately, those who do this constant testing and pushing the relationship also will never listen to anyone's actual critique on what they did wrong.
Even so, I would totally date that first woman. I love how fast she talks and she looks extremely attractive.
TikTok is the Cosmopolitan Magazine of the new millenia! LOL!
Popcorn teenagers magazine
I must be young because the hell is the cosmopolitan magazine
@@captaingramcrackergrams5990 a women's magazine all about sex and dating. Written entirely by women who hate men
Deserves the ban its getting imho, even without the anti-western propaganda that site is doing nothing but harm to its users. Facebook and twitter should be next.
“Orange peel test”? Lord help us. Get a life people!!!!!!
These women value a relationship with the Internet over a relationship with their men.
Wish it was just this one
Wait till you see their relationship with the government over their men
Because there are plenty of simps she could take on, so changing one guy for another isn't a huge issue for them.
@@artgo9112 simple economics and hoeflation
You used the correct “Their”. 🏆
Awesome. 👏
If you test me, that's not love. That's intellect without empathy. Empty. Purpose-driven but without the other person in mind. Only yourself. If you test me, I'm out.
She waved a giant red flag and he bounced, good one him.
I don't do relationship tests. I walk away. Not playing stupid games. Life is test enough...
In the 70s, we called this sort of thing Head Games. And we shamed those who tried to play.
Today.... I see it more than ever.
Play stupid head games, "win" by losing.
The real test is seeing if you're mature enough to just ask them not to do it, abandoning the relationship because you don't know how to have a hard conversation shows you're not actually ready for one.
My wife is handicapped.
There's a lot of normal things that she physically cannot do.
Sometimes it does bother me but I have to remind myself that she is not testing me.
She try to do things herself but when she can't she has to ask me.
When my wife wants an orange, she gets a knife and peels it herself.
Correct...... She is why we choose to remain single
Seeing you respond like that might be a sign that also you might need to step away from social media every once in a while, as the brain rot is also affecting you.
@@owendejong9711 respond like what? I'm old and sick of women's crap. It's funny to see them prove they need to be alone.
I don't hate them or even dislike them.
It's a cultural incompatibility dilemma. And I'm fine with that.
@@owendejong9711 Totally right to try not let people get to you, I just got dumped for really dumb reasons, not mad at women just her. Important to remember that fact when dealing with shitty people
@@theonlyamergeddon A shame you had to go through that breakup. Only thing you can do really is to reflect like "Is there anything I would have done differently?" and try to improve for next time, or just move on entirely.
Indeed its not all women 👍Plenty of nice people out there!
Yes, generalize every woman and blame them ALL for the same thing. You will stay single forever with that attitude.
Im still in awe that women can genuinely sit there and wonder why a man does not want to come home from a stressful job to their own partner and have their integrity doubted to the point that they're being tested. Thank gos im surrounded by women with common sense because 90% of the ones i see on social media and streaming platforms are an embarrassment to the rest of them and the ones that fought and died for the rights they take for granted
Lady's, the more you TEST us guys, the quicker we are going to find a woman that doesn't TEST us.