The REAL REASON MOST Black Women Dont Date Outside Their Race?
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Theres alot of talk about interracial relationships these days, especially when it comes to Black Women. It seems as when compared to Black men Black women are more reluctant to date outside of their race for several reasons. We discuss a few in this video
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The first lady, who's doing most of the talking is overthinking it. It is a mindset. You date to get to know a person. If it works out, fine. If not, keep it moving. IRR isn't something brand new. You can have those same considerations dating someone of a different economic status, religion, nationality, cultural practices or political affliation. If both of you want to be together and are intelligent enough to work it out, it won't be that big a deal. It really isn't that complicated unless you choose to make it so.
Remember she's african they culture is tribalism they tradition is tribalism that's how they raise
Yes, I agree w/ you. My partner is non black and we've always seen it as an opportunity for both of us to grow and learn from each other. It's been a beautiful thing. We realize that we have varying perspectives and world views but are always able to openly discuss what we see and what we think. We have different cultures and h'es introduced me to an indie rock band (we're going to the concert tomorrow) and I've introduced him to rice and beans, pork griot, and plantains. We both love certain things we've introduced to each other.
Our core values of honesty, authenticity, consideration, hard work, care, respect, collaboration are the same. We do not shy away from intimate or "controversial" topics, we enter them with openness, curiosity, and understanding, we both love each other and show it.
We have different personalities and I am so open with my feelings that it pulls him out of his emotional shell and he has always been really great at expressing his intimate feelings with me, he's gotten very used to being very open and he feels more comfortable opening up and showing his affection because he knows I love him and I won't turn on him for being vulnerable (which I think many men struggle with when it comes to expressing their intimate feelings).
We also were best friends for a couple years before getting together so if you're starting things off w/ someone you've known for a while and have shown to be compatible with for that time then there's a higher chance things will work out well together for a long time.
It's funny to me that before we started dating and were friends he of course was not saying "I love you" (people usually don't tell their friends that haha) and he seemed like someone who would be uncomfortable saying things like that even if he was with a gf but regardless he wouldn't say it to me as friends but he knew I was someone who did not like cold weather (but he loves cold weather), so he would meet me on a 75 degree warm sunny afternoon and I noticed he would be dressed in a tee shirt but carrying a sweatshirt. He loves the cold and hates the heat and I was wearing a sundress and so I asked him why did you bring a sweatshirt and he said "in case we are out later and the temperature drops and you get cold" so he carried around a sweatshirt for 5 hours in the heat just in case I would get cold later on and would need it and this was a pattern, anytime I saw him he'd have a sweatshirt either in his hand or in his car for me.
So this showed me he really cared about my well being, people sometimes tell you they love you w/o actually saying the words.
A little over a month later we were dating.
I believe our differences "push" each other in healthy ways and make each other better and overall more cultured, brighter people.
To each their own. Thanks for watching!
It’s only brand new for black WOMEN. Black males have literally been dating out and fighting to be with other races of women since they moment they stepped off the plantation.
It is a big deal. Too bad you don't see it.
I Grew Up Thinking My Husband Would Be A Black Man. None Of Them Ask Me To Marry Them. They Only Dated Me To See If They Could Sex Me Up. One Even Had The Nerve To Ask Me Money Questions. An Had The Nerve To Shhh Me When I Got Loud Letting Him Know That's Personal. I'm Talking About Samoan, Asian, White, Mexican And Men Of Other Countries. The Men Of Other Races Actually Wanted To Take Me Out, Go To Amusement Parks, Go Bike Riding, Climb Mountains, See Museums, Drive To The Mountains And Have Coffee. Not Always, But I Also Would Contribute Financially To The Dates. Meet Their Family And Do Fun Things. Black Guys Wanted To Stay Indoors, Drink, Watch Movies. It Really Doesn't Cost Much To Have A Simple Good Time. For Me If The Guys A Jerk, I Don't Care How Much Money You Have, I'm Not Wasting My Time. I'm Not Extremely Educated, But I'm A Fun, Sweet And Will Bite Your Head Off If Need Be. I Love People. So There's That.
I think you missed a capitalization.
I had the same experience. They wanted me to come over and chill or watch them play basketball..
Dates was like a foreign concept and ive always dated white guys so i kept the door open for a black man to date me properly but it really never happened
So now im happily married to a white man who is 20 years older than me. We have kids, he didnt wait to date. 2 days after he met me we were going to dinner 4+ times a week... I didnt even have time to date anyone else after we met lol
Interesting experience! Happy it worked out for you.
Why BW don't date outside of their race is not the question. The question is why are BW, especially American BW, according to every dating app, the least desirable women. Not only for intimate relations, but for any consideration for long term relationships.
It’s always funny when people site dating apps which are usually hook up sites, when the real determining factor for long-term relationships is marriage rates.
1. The most common and highest interracial coupling is between Asian women and white men.
2. Black American men are twice as likely to date outside of the race than black women. However, interracial relationships between black men and other races are the most unsuccessful and do not last long.
3. Ironically, black women and white men are the least popular interracial relationship. However, when they do you get married, they have the longest lasting relationship out of all couples, including white men and white women.
What’s this tell you is that black women are not accessible and available for “hook ups” but when it comes to marriage with non- black men, in terms of longevity we are very successful. Let’s be honest, even black men are not finding marriage and long-term relationships from these hook up apps where people have cited the undesirability politics of black women. Black men and black women are not finding their husbands on Tinder and OkCupid anymore. So this claim that we are so undesirable is ridiculous because the same black men are buying passports for the first time in their forties to look for women overseas 😂
Your relationships don’t work when you go outside of your race, so please don’t try to paint this desirability politics nonsense, because everybody knows it’s not true. A black woman can get any man she wants, and God knows, if black women really started walking in our light black man will be on their knees, begging because we won’t deal with you at all.
I’m waiting for the next census to come out because I guarantee interracial couples amongst black women is going to skyrocket and whilst black man paraded the Latina and mixed beauties throughout the 90s 2000 and present day, black women are going to be all up in your face with all the races of a men.
On a fun note, did you see that fine Asian man, SZA had in her music video, millennials and GenZ are not playing around with black men anymore 😂😂👏🏾👏🏾
That's the question!!!🤔🤔🤔
@@loulousworld92 Black women are not available for hook ups? Myopic, feminist nonsense. 72% of black babies are born out of wedlock. By definition that says BW are mostly available for hook ups and little else. Worse, 51% of BM are unmarried and childless and around 34% are married. Which shows not only are BW irresponsibly promiscuous, but they are having unprotected sex with the same small group of men.
Black men historically, as now, will occasionally date out their race, but when polled black men will say they prefer to marry within their race. Statistics show that BM marry and date out of their race less than white men and predominantly marry BW.
The divorce rate for BM/WW marriages is 40% which is actually slightly less than the overall divorce rate of all Americans. The number of BW that marry WM is so low in comparison as to be almost statistically irrelevant. But with all marriages, interracial or no, those numbers decrease as income increases. If you look at the incomes of BW/WM as opposed to BM/WW you'll see that marriages between WM/BW have higher incomes, which coincides with the lower divorce rates.
Ignoring dating apps is typical of most post modern feminists that love to treat equality and statistics like a Lazy Susan, picking the stats and facts they like while ignoring the rest. Which you've successfully indulged in here. Today's post modern women, black and white, use these apps as the main avenue of meeting men. BW are prone to hook ups, which is shown by the increasing number of single parent mothers in black neighborhoods, yet the overwhelming majority of these children are by black men and not from interracial relationships. Even if you use something as foul and crass as pornography as a metric, BW are still statistically the least chosen to view. Once again, when it comes to preferences, BW are the lowest on the sexual dating market totem pole.
interesting. Where are you getting these statistics regarding socioeconomic class and marriage length?
@@loulousworld92BS. If BW could get any man ya’ll wanted, you wouldn’t be the least married group of women in the US. And the government projects your marriage percentage rates to plunge even further, into the low teens within the next 30 years.
Few men want BW for anything other than sex. Your delusions don’t change statistical facts.
I think people lie to BW too much, and BW frankly lie to themselves a lot. The reality is dating beyond sex (i.e., long term relationship/marriage) is up to the man, and the the overwhelming majority of nonblack men simply want their own women. Its really that simple, but it seems that truth crushes BW egos so they always improperly and disingenuously frame interracial dating as something BW somehow decide against, which is complete BS that’s not the real issue. And it shows the cognitive dissonance of some women because many of these same women speak about colorism and so called eurocentric beauty standards - well ok, if those are issues then why lie to yourself that nonblack men are such viable options and open to marrying BW? It becomes an ego thing with a lot of the conversation
I see your point but I do think preference plays a big role. I know black women who have serious non black women pursuing them but just cant get over the fact that they are not black and as a result are not interested.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi Well there's also a quality thing too, what caliber of nonblack person is pursuing them? Most wanna stick to their own thats the norm but at least in America many BW very much wanna date out its just not always within their control
@@ncl1213-fy4zx I KNEW one of yall would reply this way, because of how deeply invested some of yall are in lying to yourselves. Predictable.
So many BW who speak on these topics have such insecurities it completely clouds their judgment. Why would I want BW to feel bad about themselves? Cope for what? It is easy for BM to date interracially, and we do it more than BW so what exactly would we need to “cope” with? Interracial dating bothers BW and WM way more than it bothers BM, so what you're saying doesn’t even make sense. You just wanna see BM as your enemy no matter how accurate what we say is. You just wanna be a fake victim, the truth is only "abusive" if you are delusional.
If it makes you feel any better I actually tell BM the same thing - for as easy as it is for BM to date out a BM still should understand most nonblack women may have sex with a BM but chances are she still wants to marry a nonblack man of her group. But when i say that to a BM it doenst hurt his feelings the way it hurts BW's feelings, because for BW like you this is a deeper issue often rooted in inferiority complexes and the desire for validation of nonblack and especially WM. So youre not even thinking clearly and have too fragile of an ego to even respect how accurate my comment is.
In fact what I said applies to EVERY group of women, not just BW. WW are allegedly “the most desired” but yet surveys indicate that the vast majority of nonwhite men in every group (arab men, latino men, asian men, black men) do not want a WW because they want their own group women. So what I said applies not only to BW but to every group of women because every group of men prefer their own women. Stop being so insecure and making this some sort of emotional issue or some insecure point you need to prove.
As far as how the world sees BW, I dont think many of yall are prepared to even know that.
@ncl1213-fy4zx yes there is a large loyalty component involved but they love spinning it into us not being “desirable”.
the same can be said for BM. when they do date out it's the WW who have been rejected by their own. BM are going for the bruised worm-ridden apples on the ground bc they can't reach the ones in the tree.
Yes yall do
Yes I am open to dating other races at 61 years of age.
Lady u 61 talking about dating u should be married. This is suppose to be you're 30th year anniversary
🤣@@ShaneISRAEL
Stop being so judgemental you dont know her story or history. RELAX!
@EJIMANnenaNgozi do research serious is studied science idk which university. Look this up. The more sexual partners a woman has a effects her mental state. Look it up
And we’ve got options EVERYWHERE 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
The reason I REFUSE to date a non-Black woman is due to finances, world views, politics, pride, familiarity, and comfort. Interracial dating is a young person's thing. The older we become the more we see people diverting back to their own. This usually occurs around the age of 30. Interracially dating is often a money grab for non-Black women. They use us to empower themselves. Our hatred for Blackness don't allow us to see it
Deep!
Yeah go tell that to men who get screwed over by black women using false paternity info and letting a man pay for a child that is not theirs.. I don't buy all the black nonsense.
the older i got, the less i wanted to be around black men. i just turned 36.
but why are you all trying to practice polygamy if finances are important to you?
@@jones2277 right? too many are too broke to afford it and it makes more sense to only have one partner if you want to hold on to as much of your finances as possible. better for generational wealth. it seems to be that men just want an acceptable reason to have access to as many women as they can.
She ain’t got no other options
Can you explain?
Black women are hardly seen as attractive by other races. Not only be of different beauty standards, but also because they are often associated with negative stereotypes.
I think it's changing. Lots of black women and white men are married in my area in the UK.
I've seen more BW/WM couples than I've ever seen, in my area. Time will tell.
@@mooshway2000 I live in the US. Not sure if the situation is the same in the UK. Overall, we have more interracial couples everywhere as they are more accepted or tolerated. 3 out of 4 black women in the US are overweight or obese. From my experience, guys from other races who find BW attractive often seem to fetishise or see them as sexual objects.
Beauty standards are always changing. Features that were once thought to be stereotypically black have become more sought after. Not to mention the fact the many black people age really well. When people can not appreciate the beauty in another gtoup/race it's usually due to three reason: 1) lack of exposure to the group, 2) blinded by prejudice towards the group, 3) denial due to jealousy over that groups best features.
@@nelson8965
The people I know are generally older and established couples with kids so I'm not sure about that side of things.
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