may wrap-up || no buy series
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2024
- here's the rundown on the month of may... seems like I need to do a bit of reflection as we round our way into the second half of the year.
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Definitely replace the bra - it's a functional quality of life purchase that will allow you to get more use out of your wardrobe and solve a problem you're currently having!
very true!!!
"i sometimes wonder why people watch my videos" - I really love to put on your videos and just listen to you blabbering about all the stuff, while doing something like laundry or crafting. It's just so comforting and also you're my constant reminder of sticking to my personal low-buy year, without your updates it would have been just this thing that would slowly but surely just fade out of my brain lol. Keep doing what u doing girl, we are here to watch and support
thank you!! this is so sweet 😭💗
I’ve started and failed no buy so many times. You’re catching yourself before you mess up and that’s what matters ❤
"fail" is a relative term! for me failing means giving it up and quitting the whole challenge. as long as you're recommitting, you're not failing in my eyes!! 💗
@@gracenevittI’m slowly improving through failing every time 😅
I think its normal to spend more money in summer than in Winter. You can Do a lot more outside and take advantage of the good weather, you also feel like going out and doings things a lot more. As long as theyre great Events that you will remember, i think its totally fine to spend money
that's so true... I spent almost no money in winter tbh
Why people watch your videos? Because you’re honest, aware of what you’re doing and because you’re an incredibly sweet person 😊
thank you 😭💗
I love your honesty so much!!
Don't forget, if you're taking dopamine away from your brain, you gotta get a super exciting replacement or you'll just get completely bummed out. Your brain can't cope without it!! 💛💛
I've been trying to read a lot!! it's been helping for sure! also learning how to crochet
That view is stunning! But no way I could hike it either 😅
P.s buy the bra! They have a shelf life and think we all go waaay past it but a good bra makes a world of difference 😊
ugh that's probably true!!
Hi from a new sub! I'm 26, autistic & adhd, and your voice is so comforting to me that I've been binge watching all of your videos for a couple of days 😆Also your content is really relatable to me 'cause I'm a minimalist and currently on a no-buy year, too. Thanks so much for being here and posting 🥰
love that!!!! we're so similar hehe
girl you are crushing it! go easy on yourself. as someone who's in chemo right now, truly go big on those experiences. you are going to have so much fun at soccer at kpop and in new zealand! plus you already have your thanksgiving travel prepaid which is generally a huge expense. you are doing all the right things and inspiring a lot of us to reign it in. give yourself some grace, grace!! :)
thank you!! and I'm sending you huge hugs 💗
We love a bestie Kelly moment!
Thank you, thank you so much for your honesty. I am here for everything: the ups and the downs and everything in between. And please don’t stop the no-buy year, I live for your videos and they keep me so motivated and so much more responsible for my own spending. I appreciate you Grace!
thank you for these kind words!! 💗
Grace! I love your ending statement you have on every video and that's why I love watching you. You are super empathetic and compassionate and authentic. It helps me to remember to not shame myself as much which I love. Other youtubers can sometimes come off as condenscending (especially about consumerism), but you never do. ❤ Thank you.
this means so much to me!!! thank you so much 😭💗
I'm preparing to move to Australia from the States right now and let me say - you are going to be SO GLAD you put all this intentionality in early when you move to New Zealand! Trying to downsize enough for an international move in a month has made me really reevaluate my relationship with stuff and realize just how much I've bought that I never really needed (or even used)!
omg I bet!! best of luck to you!!
@@gracenevitt Thank you! I've been watching your videos to help me process it all!
Wowww, finding dyes at home and not needing to buy it is such a huge win! I'm celebrating with you 🎉
I was SHOCKED
You’re really motivating me to keep going! I haven’t been perfect with my no buy year, but I’ve honestly done well! I wanted mine to really focus on clothes and I’ve bought underwear (legitimately needed so it’s fine) and I broke down and bought two scrunchies. Ya can’t win ‘em all, but I’m proud I’ve saved so much on unnecessary goodwill and thrifting runs where I come home with pieces I don’t truly love. I also totally understand the shorts problem. I’m postpartum and nothing fits. I have one pair of shorts and one pair of overalls and that’s it 😂
ugh it's rough!! when clothes don't fit it's just not a fun time... I should have seen this coming too but oh well! we learn as we go lol
I started doing this no buy challenge last year. Even though I still fail sometimes and buy something perhaps I don't need, even though I still feel the urge to buy something, I've seen progress. It just takes time.
Btw, I love your videos and I love that this one was published just on my day off. Perfect timing!
Keep going with that no buy challenge. I'm sure we can make it! 💪💪
Going through the exact same thing as you. I’m realizing I’m putting my life on hold/making it more difficult in the name of no buy and savings. I’m scraping by just to hike up my savings for a house but the reality is, tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. I definitely need a recalibration.
exactly!! it's been really weird kind of trying to toe that line! I'm gonna do a whollleee brain dump about it soon LOL we can all freak out about it together in the comments of that video hahah
@@gracenevitt the solid truth is though… we have ALL learned so much about spending and our habits. So even if we feel like we are “failing” or returning to where we started, I feel like we’ve learned so much. IE trying to find something in buy nothing before going straight to target.
A thing I've learned is that there is no perfect wardrobe for me. Before this year I had "built my wardrobe" a few times thinking investing in the right pieces was worth it and then I'd be set. But a few months later I always bought different stuff. Before this no buy challenge I figured out my colour season and bought some game changing items. I really thought I had what I needed to last me all year. But for all the same reasons as you, I needed some different stuff. I got a little bit of money for my birthday and bought a whole bunch of stuff for cheap on vinted. I now see clothing as more of a utility item and focus less on getting some great piece but and more on entering a sustainable and affordable cycle of allowing items in and out and just getting on with whatever I obtain.
Also, I wear out my shoes fast and have tried this system of good shoes and bad shoes (and I do have a sort of system like this, where I have a clean and a dirty pair but they are actually the same shoe and I rotate the clean down to dirty when I bring in a new pair) but I will say I think it is worth having shoes you want to wear and wearing them. Good shoes make a big difference to life (they hold up your body and keep you moving all day) and imo are worth prioritising when financially realistic.
Besti Kelly is a sweetheart and Ray is adorable
I am very lucky to have these wonderful people in my life 💗
Its actually really helpful to see your thought process as you battle with "is this red or not"
still kinda battling, but I hope to make it more clear in my reflection video where I dive a little deeper into the goals for the rest of the year and perhaps make some adjustments
I also get the urge to buy more clothes, because it feels like I don't have enough. But then I usually singn off of social media and do something else, like going for a walk or read or clean or something and that usually makes it go away. And I realize I actually do have enough. The urge to buy is actually something else. I use it to numb my anxiety or get that dopamin kick or just cus' I'm board. But when I activitie myself or just acknowledge my anxiety the feeling disappeares. Maybe you have already tried that, but just a tip if you don't want to spend/waste your money. 😊 Love the honesty and that you share your struggles. Non of us is perfect! Keep going! ❤️
I had a weird spending month. I moved and ended up buying things for my new house and had to eat out because my appliances hadn't been hooked up yet. Life happens. Your intentions are good and the fact that you're even trying is great.
New bra and maybe 1-2 shorts for Grace! No buy year! No buy year! Lol it definitely sounds like you still have a hole in your wardrobe and NEED it to be more functional. Also isn't a bad idea to really think about your/our whys and be more specific. But I also think the month of May for you was just everything hitting at once. You got this! We got this!
I'm definitely going to see what I can get for free from my swap meet at work and then otherwise turn to my buy nothing group or a thrift store (gulp). and yeah really honing in on my why will help a lot I think!! but yeah may just came at me a lot at once lol
Girl you're doing amazing ! This is the first time you're putting yourself in a situation like this. Of course you can be frugal and careful but the no buy challenge is very much different than that. It's ok to make mistakes and I wouldn't even say you made any. It's gonna be hard at times and life will throw you some curveballs. It's how you deal with them that matters and even if you have to buy something (i.e. The shorts and the bra bc you absolutely need usable clothing that fits you and serves its purpose) it's ok too. It's not all black and white and you can just pick up where you left if you "fail". It's no big deal.
I'm trying to buy as little as possible and I've done pretty well so far. Only really bought snacks that on my yellow light list with moderation. But this weekend I left for my friend's gradutaion and bc of a surgery I've had done a month ago and having to eat a liquid diet bc of that I've unintentionally lost a bit of weight. That alone isn't necessarily bad but now most my clothes are too big and I'm really self-conscious about my lobsided chest (sorry tmi). I had already left home so the only option besides driving back home (which would've waisted both time and petrol) was to go to a store and buy a bra/tanktop. I was already going to the store bc of some food I needed to buy for the journey so I thought it's fine. I found a 4€ tank top that worked underneath my dress and with its neckline so I bought it.... only to discover I didn't need it bc the dress was fine after all. I'm sharing this just to show you that it's ok if you mess up. Sure I'm still using the top and it's not waisted at all but it was something I could've lived without. But in that moment it was important to me to feel comfortable and that's ok. We make some mistakes and then we pick up from where we left off. You're doing great and just remember we're here with you every step of the way. I love your videos bc you feel like a friend I'm catching up with or cleaning with etc. You're safe, calm, a little all over the place but just the right amount. I feel that you care and that makes me love your content 🩷
this is so sweet!!! and yes you're so right that we will stumble and make mistakes but it's always important to just keep moving forward 💗
I’m curious to hear what conclusions you reach in your reflection/re-calibration video. I think the balance is definitely difficult and likely different for everyone. While good habits and positive routines (like not spending on things you don’t need) are important and can genuinely make you happier, I think there’s a bit of a burnout point where you start to feel like a robot or a train circling the same track. I think recognizing when you need those fun, spend-ier detours is crucial for keeping life interesting and viscerally reminding you why you’re on the track in the first place. As another commenter mentioned I think summer is often a just a spendier season as well. I know I certainly come back to life once the sun comes back lol. And on that note the video clip from the mountain climb was super cute, glad they made it all the way to the top!
I feel the exact same - realignment is needed. ❤ I have increased my hours at work and so my mental health has suffered, and so the crutches are back and they have to go, unsustainable, not expensive but money none the less. Here's to June and healthy crutches xx
Off topic, but the lighting in your "main" scenes is really pretty, especially on the green paint!
thank you!! I'm obsessed with this color tbh
And I‘m obsessed how the small curtain above the door in the living room continues the line on the walls. A small but really nice detail 😊
I really appreciate how vulnerable you are while doing this series, because it shows us that it’s really fine to mess up sometimes, it is going to happen, we’re not perfect. My point being, when u have a community to share your experiences, you end up feeling inclined to do better by you, because they support you and give all kinds of tips and words of encouragement ❤ It’s actually better than being recluse, blaming yourself for your wrongs and denying some stuff.
My may was kind of ups and downs, as most months are haha I had to buy some presents for my mom (mother’s day and her birthday), replaced some empty bottles. I feel like I’ve bought more than I should’ve, but at the end of the day, I saved more money than I ended up thinking I would’ve. That’s a huge win!!
I feel you so much about your bra situation, I’ve been postponing purchasing underwear myself for way too long. Let’s get it over with, it’s a necessity!!
Something I feel really bad about is my ‘to shop’ list, it only gets bigger and bigger. No way I can deal with all of that in a single month lol
Omg just rambled a lot here!! Sorry about that. I really love that we’re all doing this together for some kind of goal 💗💗
that's so true!! if the list keeps racking up then it might feel more overwhelming... I will likely replace the bra soon and hope I can find some good stuff at the swap meet at my job this month so I don't have to buy other clothes...
your brother's honesty lol so cute
he is a very handsome guy! and super sweet too haha
Starting a “summer no spend” so like June -August. Love your channel, it’s a great look into your life and budgeting
I think that you are discovering your priorities ❤. And your priorities are the things that are expensive 🤷♀️ but that’s why we have to hold those things in mind while we’re working and saving, etc. instead of just wasting money on things we don’t even appreciate and never having enough money for our true desires like travel and recreation.
true! last year I kept saying "I don't have money for dance classes" (because especially in NYC they're not super cheap) but I probably could have spent money on them if I had bought less books and clothes!! it feels good that what I'm spending money on this year is really in line with what brings me a lot of joy 💗
I’ve been watching your videos since the no buy video and the fact that you’re an earthquakes fan was the final push to make me officially join the discord! Ha I’m from around there too!
HELLLL YEAH GO EARTHQUAKES!!! I grew up in Cupertino but have always been an earthquakes fan
These reset questions are so good to hone in again now that we're nearing the halfway point of 2024. I hope life calms down for you soon. I'm cheering you on!
thank you!!! 💗
The Milford is probably the hardest track to book (out of an already very popular list)! I live in Aotearoa and did it with my parents in high school (thank you parents), and the only time we could book was over Christmas. There's a lot of other tracks in Fiordland which are worth checking out even if they don't have the same amount of support around them (I know the Milford has options to not have to carry a pack etc.), but it looks like you got lucky booking the track at all!
that's why we ended up just saying okay let's go in November then! we know it's super super hard to book so it felt worth it to adjust the plans!
"The sanctity is still here" ❤
No buy is a great outlook to have on money to some extent, I enjoy these types of videos! Thank you.
I think you are doing great so far! Definitely buy a new bra. It's a necessity and you clearly need it. It's not an "extra" you are buying. I have made a couple purchases the last month because by wardrobe didn't feel like me and was lacking some colour. After two kids I am re-learning what my style is. But with those new purchases comes a no buy! I will start July 1st.
Hi there Grace! Question. Will you do a revision of your red, yellow and green light purchases?
I likely will look over my rules in an upcoming video and adjust/clarify certain things about my existing rules!
I really relate to you ❤❤ keep going girl!
Hi, Im from Brazil! I love your vídeos 😊
thanks so much!!
Me looking at my high credit bill yesterday and remembering all that happened the month before - new dog, travel, other stuff
Regardless of the no buy aspect of the challenge I enjoy the thought process you go through, flexibility is important too, for example since April I've been going from 4 to 6 times a week to yoga and that made me realize I needed more workout clothes, I didn't buy though because I have comfortable clothes that serve for that purpose but if not I'd likely had to bend the rules and buy.
yeah it's totally all about readjusting constantly and seeing what you really need versus what you just really want. I'm glad me talking it out is helpful for y'all bc it's really helpful for me too hahha
Crochet yourself some shorts! Just follow a tutorial on TH-cam. 😊 you’re doing great on your no buy year!
oh good point!!!! I might also see what I can get from the clothing swap at my job in a few weeks...
Maybe your buy nothing group can help you out with those shorts! I’ve gotten some real gems and you never know if you don’t ask! :) you’re doing great Grace! And yes please get a bra, you’ll feel yucky in everything if you don’t feel great in the under stuff. That’s a replacement item FOR SURE
sooo true. I'm gonna see what I can find at the swap meet at my job and then fill in gaps by asking my buy nothing group tbh!
Honestly just replace the bra! If you need to replace a clothing item because it’s falling apart I say that’s allowed!
true 😭
❤
Hey, still watching :-) I wanted to say: don't be too hard on yourself,.
Girl, the life span of a bra is one year. That is a necessity. I think the shorts are too but I may not be the person to advise on that. If your rules don’t allow for the replacement of worn out clothing then the rules are not serving you. That’s unreasonable. I have been worried about how much you have been decluttering. If it ends up costing you more money in the end then you are decluttering just to declutter, not because it makes your life better or easier. If you have not brought anything into the house then why do you feel the need to constantly declutter? Don’t ever think you have to do it just for content. You are learning to find your personal personal minimalism structure. Everyone is different and has different comfort levels. Minimalism should serve you and make your life better, you should not be a slave to it. Find a level of satisfaction and stop running after the need to have less and less. It is just the other side of the coin from wanting more and more. Indicative of always being dissatisfied. You have been doing amazing so far this year! Allow yourself a measure of satisfaction about that. You and Ray are a super couple, going after your dream together. Family is important. Your days with them are numbered so no guilt, ok?? I have enjoyed this series so much.
thank you so much!! and you're so right that I made my replacements rule in order to allow for when clothing items got worn out etc. in terms of the decluttering, I think I did too much with the clothes in the last year in search of some "parameter" that I just didn't need to meet. other than that, the things I'm getting rid of now are still just things I don't need or use!
Hi Grace 👋
hellooo!!
I definitely think you should replace the bra. That is a necessary thing, unfortunately. As for the shorts, i would get them, too. Make sure they are what you really need.
honestly from now on, the shorts have to be PERFECT or else I won't even consider it
Cut some pants into shorts!
Or, Cut some of ray’s pants into shorts lol
LOL the problem is we both have so few clothes!! we've got almost nothing to work with 😂