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Thank you. I'm actually a enneagram 5 who knows a few type twos and I think this really helped us. I like how well you summarize your content. Keep up the good work. ♥
I am so surprised to hear that type 2's don't normally watch these videos. I am so fascinated with the Enneagram and really drawn to figuring myself out and others around me. Some jobs that I've had and loved is: Executive assistant, Educational assistant, and being a mom.
I actually came across this video because I was watching videos based on other people in my life so I could see things I could do that they would like and I saw a type-2 video recommended and I was like "oh yeah" lol. I didn't think to look into mine until it was shown to me.
This video has helped me realize that I have really grown as a Type 2. A few years ago I would have had many more things to work on, but it sorta feels like I've hacked life. I do work in a helping job, I am an oral surgery assistant and my favorite part is putting my patients at ease and holding their hand when they are anxious. Instead of saying no, I have learned to say "Sure, I can totally help you with that, I just won't be available until XYZ" (If I need to take a rest and get with them next week I allow for that time, if that timeline doesn't work for them, then they will have to find someone else. And I know my needs, I think that's part of growing up and becoming an adult is just being in tune with the things that make you really feel good and the things that just don't. It's amazing when you learn that you can tailor your life's experiences and encounters to keep yourself in a better mood and mental space. It's called self-care as was stated in the video. Parenting your inner child!
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
@@emmahintz830 I can share how I learned and maybe that will work for you. I first took an enneagram test on truity.com. I then read the book The road back to you. Great book and quick read!
I’m a type 2! I’m currently In nursing school and work as a nursing assistant. I often listen to people’s stories, problems, and offer advise but typically don’t talk about myself. Like you said, if people were even to ask if I needed anything, I wouldn’t know what it is 😅 I struggle so much with understanding my own feelings but I can picture what others are feeling so clearly.
Interesting! There seems to be some over lap w 2s and 9s. I'm a 9 and my youngest is a 2 and we live in a completely different world from my other daughter(type 4) and husband(3 or 8, still can't figure it out!)!
I'm a 2w1 sp/so. I might be very different to the other type 2s in that I'm always on a journey of self discovery. Trying to figure out why I am the way I am, and how to improve myself with the information I find. 💜 Love all of your enneagram videos btw 😊
Ahahahaha!!! So many things, I identify with. I thought I was a 4 but after learning more I identify with the type 2. When you said 2s are usually learning about everyone else! Made me laugh so hard. Thank you!
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
💗 I'm a 2w3 so I'll answer your questions. To your first question: people tend to come to me for advice or a shoulder to cry on or someone to listen. I let any and everyone do that with me and I don't mind. Sometimes people do abuse my friendship and the help I give them, and when I need someone to count on they are not really there. So, I think my true best friends are those kindred spirit friends who help me "unshelf" my needs and concerns and are attentive towards me and where I feel that my needs do matter. To your second question, I'm a writer and teacher, but especially my writing and other artistic outlets have helped me realise what my needs are. Therapy has also made me realise that I grew up in an environment where communication isn't our strong suit, because both my mother and father struggle with voicing their own needs/wants/concerns, etc. Becoming aware of it has helped me exercise communication deliberately and has helped me grow to become more aware of these things in myself and not just in others. To any twos out there, therapy, slowing down, true introspection and exercising self-worth has helped me become aware of what I want and exercising communicating those needs with my friends and family has helped me build stronger, healthier relationships. Still a work in progress, though. I really really love to host, you got that way too right. I always shoo people away to clean up and when I go to someone else's party I always help clean up. I always have this issue and I wonder if other twos have it. I'm always up for helping people and I'm always there. Sometimes, though, I do get worn out and tend to isolate to "recharge energies" and then go back to being 110% there for others... I wonder how you guys deal with this...? I am always motivated by feeling loved and appreciated. I literally watch all videos of all types because I wanna help others. I would add something that I don't know if it happens to every type 2 but it happens to me. I have this negative tendency to obsess over criticism of others when I can't be the person they want (or need) me to be for them. Especially if they are someone I truly care for. I also tend to "buy affection"... Instead of recognising and voicing my needs I tend to be extra nice and extra good or helpful to someone when I'm in need of their love and/or affection
I've known about enneagram at least ten years and I've only just identified myself as a TWO! That's why twos don't watch the videos so much, they don't recognise themselves or the term helper, it's buried so deep it just feels normal, as if it's the way everybody is and goes about life! And it's not about running around baking cakes for people, it's a deeply rooted philosophy on life. It explains such a lot in my life, including over committing to work. I'm a PA. Thank you for your work, love the style of your videos and the decor ❤ PS I've previously thought I'm a 7, 4, 8, or 9.
Yes! This is extremely accurate! Type 2 here 💙 Indeed, loads of people think that they're my best friend! It's nice , but sometimes, I don't always feel that way aswell. I often just want to relax and spend some time by myself, something that is difficult when you have so many 'best friends'. I don't know whether to laugh or to cry about how accurate it is that I am not very in tune to my feelings 😂😭 Whenever someone asks me "how are you doing?" Or "What can I do to help?" I always answer 'I'm fine, no worries!'. Nine out of ten times, I could really use some help at that moment. As a type 2, I do indeed love jobs that help others! I've already planned to join a charity after Covid is over and things go back to normal. Also, my dream job is a psychologist! Indeed, I rarely watch videos about my own type! Funnily enough, I love watching your videos about myself, but rarely anyone else's videos 😂 These are just the best 👍 Thanks!
I’m a Type 2! Just starting out with it. I took a couple of tests that had me as a 7 and 9 but neither felt quite right. I started watching a ton of videos and Type 2 is definitely my type. Without a doubt. And I can relate to all 10 items on your list! Thank you. Super helpful!
Yes I have a lot of friends from all walks of life. The more we share, the closer I feel to them. I did more helping when I was younger, with less health issues. I have been a realtor, legal secretary, bookkeeper, insurance billing clerk, volunteer tutor, teacher, singer, receptionist, and assistant to the Controller and business manager at a law office, worked in jewelry and shoes at a store, was also a runner. So I did have jobs to help others. I have always had pets I loved and took care of. I have 5 dogs now. I wouldn't say I act on feelings or emotions first. I am a 2 with 1 wing. I would say I am empathetic because I can feel what other people are feeling. I think first. Sometimes I avoid going places that will be difficult for me based on the people there. As always, I enjoyed this video. Thank you for sharing!
I am rewatching this one. Let me clarify something from my comment, I was a runner in an office. I wrote I was a runner. Lol My friends know I've never been able to physically run very fast.
Thank you for this. In my career I’ve been a CNA for 4 years and worked in social work 13 years and now I’m a Manager of Home Care Agency. It’s so hard to ask for help for myself or accept it, I guess maybe that makes me feel weak? We lost our youngest son 13 years ago, I co founded a local chapter of an organization here to help parents, grandparents and siblings. I have always loved helping people. I’ve never heard of the enneagram until I started my job a month ago. I did take the test and I’m definitely a 2 lol or so it says. I am thinking due to results I wing a 1 for sure. I’m so glad I googled this in You-tube and found you. Thank you💗
I am a two and these spoke such truth for me! I’m in therapy to really work on boundaries and to help take care of me! And my career is a special victims unit detective and it was chosen because I wanted to help people! ❤️
Hi, Hillary ! Hope you're doing well ! I am a type 2 and I have watched some of your videos ..pretty spot on . To answer your question, I am a cashier at a grocery store. I love meeting new people even though my social anxiety is high at times. It can be exhausted because I do feel like I'm tuned into other people. If I see other people cry it makes me want to cry. Love to plan parties and want all the details to be thoughtful and well planned . I usually ask my co-workers if they've had enough water to drink that day or something like that and ask about their family. Today I offered to go get a jacket for my coworker because I saw she was shivering and I was on my way to the break room. She kind of laughed and I felt rather silly but I could tell she appreciated me asking. I am a people-pleaser and have a hard time saying no oh, but I've made progress with boundaries and self-care. I don't necessarily feel like people gravitate towards me per say ...but I definitely come across as approachable and friendly and my co coworkers confide in me . I have like three close friends and a lot of acquaintances. Anyhow , I enjoy your videos . Thank you !
As a 2, I often feel like I have a sign on my back that says "Please tell me all about your problems." But as I'm listening to you, I'm bothered that you are having back problems and I want to ask you more about that! I might have some ideas that might help you.
I’m a type 2w3. Honestly, I do MRIs so I see a lot of patients. I make strong connections and make friends easily. Sometimes people will come up to me in a store and act like we are best friends and it takes me a minute to recall who they are.
I believe I’m a type 2, and I’m currently studying to become a school counselor. I’m so excited to learn more and it fills me with joy having the prospect of helping others through a difficult and awkward time
Even though I am an 8, I can definitely feel a few of these, particularly the one about being the first one to help in a crisis. I also prefer to watch videos not about my type, but that’s because I know myself very well, and I don’t need the review as much, and must learn more about everyone else. Lastly, one of my favorite things to do is help others and do things for them. I know that I am in a good place when I am able to give people surprises, like baking something, or an unexpected birthday present or I’ll treat someone to dinner. Hope things are going well where you are!
2w3 here, a doctor involved in many charity organizations. Always had many friends, always the one that ppl call to offload problems, always the one helping ppl with issues, ppl always come to me, I am always asking details about friends’ lives and family. My wing 3 has helped me get better with my own needs.
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
Hi! I’m a type 2 and have two professions... 1 - claims adjuster 2 - youth minister. I was happy to see this video but I spend more time learning about other types to figure out what my loved ones types are so I can relate to them. Sound like a 2? 😂
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
@@emmahintz830 Well something to realize is that under stress you may present as different, and it's hard to really say when you're a teenager and your hormones are making you react a certain way. In my case I am very fiery and I can be confrontational if I don't like someone or feel like they or their values are not in harmony with mine, I won't show them loving kindness, just cordiality...it was much worse at 17 when I would HATE every second I was with my family or get triggered by a comment someone made. I'm sure as you get older you will have a more distinct personality come through. But in the meantime ask yourself: Do I love making people feel welcomed, loved, at home and free to talk about their problems? Do I feel like I have a burning desire to help even strangers when I see someone needs help? Do I do kind deeds for others even though they don't need it, hoping that it will make them see my value and shower me with praise? Am I hurt and upset when I see people treat others with inconsoderation and unkindness? Do you go through ridiculous leaps and bounds to follow through for someone even though it's at a great inconvenience to you, meanwhile the person doesn't know at all? If you answer yes to these or most of them then you're probably a 2. Just know that you can display traits of more than one type. Personally I identify with type #8 as well, the challenger...due to my strong justice complex and my belief in karma haha.
If I can add a comment regarding your 10th point. I'm a 2w1. I agree mostly with these, not every one applies truly to me, but for the most part yes. Your 10th point about 2s not watching videos about themselves and your reasoning about us watching other types to learn how to help others, while there is truth to that, for me I don't watch videos about my number so much is because of the criticism piece. If I watch too many 2 videos, I start to get down on myself and feel criticized...we hate criticism. I'm probably not a very healthy 2...but that's why I don't watch them. Thanks for your videos...I do enjoy them and learn a lot from them.
I’m more set in stone about being a 2w1 with 296 trifix by this video, much thanks! In my own opinion, most 2w1s will be Fe users since they feel the need to put others before themselves and not realize their own emotional needs (and they’re the ones who are most in tune to their environment and others emotions). Maybe Si as well since they have good attention to details and the past, often bringing it up and showing how good of a mind they have. I mainly see xSFx’s with either 2w1/2w3 or 2 in their trifix. Would love to know your views on cognitives and enneagram correlations!
Type 2w3 so/sx here! Thank you so much Hillary for all of your videos.. they've been so super helpful (especially because for a little bit I was wondering if I was a 3). I agree with ALL of these! 1. A lot of people do think I am their best friend, but often times I can't reciprocate those feelings. (This was why I was like... am I being deceitful? Who really am I?) 2. You wish people were as attuned to your needs as you are to theirs -- totally feel this. And I wish I didn't have to say it; I wish people just KNEW 3. I also agree with the fact that sometimes I don't know what I need... even when I may need some help or a hug.
Thanks for making this video, maybe you can help me, because I’m new to this and understand very little about the Enneagram. So, I recently did the test and got type 2 as result, I will go through the signs and tell you what I think. Sign 1; You make decisions based on feelings Implying; when deciding, rather that it’s based on feeling if it’s right to do than if it makes logical sense. I disagree, because I deem most of my decisions to have reasoning behind them, despite if it doesn’t make sense to others. I’m thinking more about split second decisions, being based on feelings, it’s wonderful to have intuition for that and yeah logic can’t help, because in that case there’s no time to make sense. Sign 2; You are tuned in to people’s feelings Implying: Capability to sense the feelings of others, reading the room, knowing people’s wants and needs. This is a good one, I don’t know whether it’s something I like to believe I have, less so if I want that. I do feel empathy for others, and it’s very hard for me to not consider where they at emotionally, before I tell them something, but there are many examples and different types of scenarios. I don’t think I always proceed with caution. Sign 3; Everyone thinks you’re their best friends Implying: People gravitate towards you or like to be around you, because good listening skills and remembering the details of their life circumstances. Yes, I do feel like this is true with certain individuals, however if people are like that towards me, I often feel reluctant to acknowledge them as a friend, wouldn’t certainly deem them; my best friends, because some of them default into overdependency and asking too much. I like to stay away from people who make a habit out of asking for things that they can easily help themselves with. Sign 4; You are the first one to respond to a crises Implying: Not faced or scared to help in a crises situation and be the first in line to step in Yes, there are numerous times when I did this, lots of where I was the only one to respond, but if others would step in first, I really don’t mind. In such situations, it can be quite compelling for me to make impulsive decisions, they were usually right, but I definitely made mistakes and hate myself for it. So I don’t want others to stand back, but always help, but they don’t have to be the first to respond. Sign 5; You wish people were in tune to your needs as you are with theirs Implying: otherwise feel like being taken advantage of Yes and it’s true sometimes I don’t really know what I need or want, however some people do take advantage of me and I don’t want that. So at a certain point when this is going on for a while and I feel I’ve been “pushed” too much, I tend to break contact. I do voice my wants and needs when I feel like the person can really help me with it or out of sheer curiosity to see what they do with that information. It’s independent of people offering to help me. Some people are just scummy; they’re looking for a corner to push me in, I try to avoid that. I’m usually right about a person, but if it turns out I was wrong, then I don’t really care, better safe than sorry. Sign 6; You love to host Implying: Love to have people come over and care for them; cooking the meal and providing fun True, and yes I don’t want my guests to help me, because I have my own way of doing things in the home. I usually clean up after the guests have left or if they stay the night then clean the next day. Sign 7; You don’t know how to say no Implying: Always helping even when self-detrimental Disagree, I do say “no” when people ask for help, when 1) I can’t help, 2) feel like or find out, they can do it themselves, 3) to see how they would react, 4) it’s to my own self-detriment. You got to have self-respect. I feel like in this world I don’t owe anybody anything, so that giving to people is truly something of myself. When people give something to me out of their own free will and they regret it later on, then I don’t feel guilty about it. Sign 8; Your job is in a helping field Implying: generally taking the role in helping people Sorry, this is too general, but to answer you; I didn’t nor do I have any of the jobs listed. Sign 9; Your biggest motivator is feeling loved and appreciated Implying: it motivates when helping others This is obvious, but I think it applies to everyone sometimes. Sign 10; You don’t normally watch videos about your type Implying: Not having as much the need to learn about oneself, but rather learning about other people I disagree, I like learning about both. I’m totally new to the Enneagram personality type system. And I’m checking if the signs you’ve presented in this video are fitting my personality. I’m having a hard time assessing whether this is true, but more importantly if knowing my Enneagram type is useful in understanding myself. So far, I understand little about this.
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
So funny! All spot on. #10 was funny because I definitely watched the other numbers first to understand the people in my life better before watching my own number. 😝
All the tests have given me 7,9, and 2 as my top three. This has made me realize I’m not a type 2, but one of my very good friends most definitely is. She is always taking care of everybody around her and has just started learning how to take care of herself too- still not good at saying no though 😅
I’m a type 2 and I work in admin but I always do support roles where I get to help the team achieve outcomes. I’m great at anticipating and solving problems and working with people at every level to get things done. I like being in the background and not the person taking the lead on projects, I use my people skills and problem solving skills to keep everything on track. My dream is to own a farmhouse where my friends and family can come over and to rescue farm animals.
Type 2 male here. Much of what you said resonates strongly with me. Thank you so much. I'm new to Enneagram Types so there's a lot for me to learn. I appreciate your videos.
My husband is a type 2, he works as a teacher for children in need, he is really specialized in his work.. he is the first who stands up for houseworks and cleanings, even at other people’s house 😂 anyone thinks he is an amazing friend and listener, he is always in the frontline in crisis, and he get mad when “I can’t read his mind and understand his needs” in that cases he can seem a bit aggressive, but if I tell him I love him, then everything becomes fine again 😝 if our friends are visiting us, they say they feel like in a luxury hotel, because he cooks, clean, do everything and never says no.. he actually never wants to read or hear about type 2 or enneagram.. 😂 I will watch all type 2 videos. Thank you 🙏 😊
I have taken the monetary tests where it obvs. is not free, the free tests etc... and always get Type 2. You asked about how we feel about people being our best friends. Unfortunately I have not felt that way, I only have one best friend, I used to have many but we've just moved apart in many ways. I just saw a medium she is famous so I won't say who she is but she got me 100%, she said "you are always the social worker for your friends and then they don't have time for you", sad but true. I think because I am so giving I found out, people take advantage plus I have a degree in psychology so that makes a lot more people want to talk only about themselves.
Haha. Yup, type 2 here! I’m a homeschool mama of four for fifteen years, I encourage and support homeschool mamas by writing, podcasting, and coaching new homeschool mamas. Yes, I feel that comment: I intuitively know peoples needs so I’m confounded that people can’t read others needs. 🤪😆 Wanna be on my podcast? We could help people. 😂❤️
LMAO!!!!! I’m a type 2 and your final number killed me xD. I’ve looked up all of the enneagrams of my loves and made a new friend that’s also a 2 so I’m finally watching videos on us ❤️ xD
"Muhahaha! I have you now. I will overpower you with my emotional tidal wave of love! You will have no energy to escape from my diabolical trap of feelings!" _clears throat_ "You! How did you escape from my rage cage of feelings?!" _chuckles_ You have my Wing 6 and my unhealthy 7 tied up on the train tracks. Trust me, you'll be doing me a favor. Yeah, don't worry, Peter! You're going to get a rare look at how a train operates from underneath while it is in motion! You remember your grandfather ran a train, right? You love it! My archnemesis. The waves of emotions eternally crashing on the rocks of logic. Ugh. I have seen a few 2s and 5s work out in life and in most cases, it is the 5 merely weathering the storm of a 2 in hopes the squall will eventually die down enough that a logical scenario can form. It can take up to three millennia for it to happen, of course, but who is checking on time. _constantly checks watch_ Please, please, please... Just... One second without radiating your emotions... Of course, after hearing all the things you said, you described my housemate to a t. She is a teacher, she wants to help everyone, she is a supercharged goal achiever, she hates having people do things for her _(trust me, when I feed the cat in the morning she always feels like she is on the hook for something - which she isn't)_ She is a big-hearted person, but she will often set her own traps with expectations. If there is one number that expects everyone else to be like them, it is a 2. *_"Enough about me, please. Let's talk more about me."_* Yeah, you go twirl your well-kept mustache somewhere else, Feelinator. I guess I gotta save my Wing 6 and my Unhealthy 7 from your mind taking. Well, okay. My Wing 6.
LOL! You never disappoint!😂 I think you are right about a 2 expecting everyone to be like them. That makes sense. But they'd have a hard time with someone trying to out help them I bet.
Being “in tune” is overwhelming to me as a 2. It can be draining. It has me being more introverted. I am 2 with 1 wing. I don’t love hosting because I fear judgement. I am working through it.
People have always gravitated towards me. I never knew why though. Okay, first to respond in a crises. Not in tune with my own needs. always a gracious host. People pleaser. I just found out that I am a type 2 Infj.
I just love your videos. My husband and I enjoy watching them and learning about each other and other types (he's a 5w6 and I'm a 2w1). I just recommended your channel to a friend and am excited to learn more about her journey of discovery! I resonated with all of the 10 points except the last one. I do like watching videos about my type because it helps me to feel more understood, like I'm not alone.. Does that make sense? 😂 and the one about type 2s wanting others to know what their needs are since we're so good at knowing what others need... So true! Sometimes that gets me in trouble, though.. haha... 😬 Thanks for all you do!
I am a type two I’m a hairstylist no I do not think everyone is my best friend but everyone does believe that I am very friendly and enjoy my company. I never liked being a type two because I always saw them as the servants or the people who are always groveling at people but I have come to learn no it’s mainly people who constantly want to help you and lift you up and I normally the positive kiddos around you. Self-care is very needed and I like it sorely
Heard about enneagrams and thought "what bullshit is this" also literally decided to study social work to monetize my core value of being "useful" because then I get something tangible out of it.
I am a classic 2 and what I would add in my case, if you hurt me I keep that with me and I remember that and I may avoid things because I’m protecting my heart from being hurt from you again. That hurt stays deep within me and I don’t know if I will ever have that close relationship with the person that hurt me. So it’s like a 1 foot in 1 foot out situation for me. I do try to take into account the enneagram of the person that did the hurting but I don’t always excuse that behavior.
I get mad when I see people taking advantage of my 2 friends inability to say no....I will admit long ago I would do this to my mother-in-law. We only saw then once a year and a number of times I would ask if I could do some laundry, knowing full well if I asked she would volunteer to do them for me. I realized this was not good so my new strategy is to just go ahead and start the laundry and then tell her. "I was sure you wouldn't mind so I just went ahead and started some laundry". Sigh...so glad I have more sense than I used to. One particular friend her husband and child both take advantage of her until she ends up sick and in the hospital. I tell her all the time she needs more rest and needs to tell them "no" . But, she doesn't listen. With the Best Friend thing....hey, I'm a 7, I collect things...including best friends..lol. And I really do feel like each one of them is my best friend. For years I had my inner circle. I thought it was kind of like Jesus having "Peter, James and John. And now when so many people seem to be tightening their circle, I'm expnding mine, there are now 6 in the inner circle that now have the title "Best" Maybe it's because 2 is so far from 7 but I really didn't see much that I could identify with.
Hi! 2w3 here, and only here after having watched every other video to make notes on them so I can be there for other people i- but thank you so so much
I love to help but I'm terrible at crises, and I hate to host. Other than that I identify wit this.. I love self improvement and learning about myself. My degree is in social work.
I've been interested in the enneagram for a few years now and I STILL DON'T KNOW if I'm a type 2 or a type 4. I've taken tests a couple times and the 2 and 4 are sooooo close. Every time I feel like I resonate more with 2, I watch or read more about 4 and have no clue again lol. Idk if it's an integration/disintegration thing bc they share a line or if I'm a 2 but feel like a 4 because I'm a musician and have differing beliefs from most of my family
I'm a type 2, my parents divorced when I was 7, but that never stop me from being a very family oriented person. 😌😂 I love taking care of people close to me. I genuinely see my friends as my own family, I love being around them but I don't know how they feel about me. It feels lonely most of the time, because at the end of the day, they have a place to come home to, and they seem to live with happy and loving family. I know I will see them tomorrow but every time my friends say goodbye, deep down I just want to scream, "Noooo, don't leave, stay here." 😹 That's when I'm sure I'm a type 2. 😂
I have a bad memory… I should be a good 2, but its hard to remember everyones life details. I do keep a close tight group and stay close for years. Peoples life pain/issues continually flash in my mind. I think about everyone I know thats in distress. Otherwise most people are very comfortable near me… but the non deep thinkers often just think I am weird. I scored as a 4 though. And I often decide things not by my heart as much as what makes the most sense. I am very in tune with my own needs as my body is sensitive. I have a hard time saying no, and overload myself. I am also an introverted extrovert empath.
😮 😮 Why aren't we being met halfway? Repressing is not creating what we enjoy. We can be beautiful. Attracting what we enjoy. I even made a video about reconnecting to our intention, as a Enneagram 2! So awesome thanks for THIS video inspiration. ☆ kind regards, A sweet 2
This sounds like the equivalent of INFJ MBTI type. I have a few INFJ acquaintances and they sound totally like type 2. Side note.. noticed the video has your location as Chandler. I'm in AZ all week and visited Chandler yesterday. Such a beautiful city!
Thank you for putting a positive spin on type 2. I went to a workshop about the different types and it was a negative feel towards type 2's. It left ne with a bad taste in my mouth.
♥️ Thank you for sharing so I can learn more about my type even though it is true that I have spent more time learning about other types to try to understand and help others ♥️
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Thank you. I'm actually a enneagram 5 who knows a few type twos and I think this really helped us. I like how well you summarize your content. Keep up the good work. ♥
Thank you so much!!!! ❤️
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😂 yes!!!! Love this!!! 🍰
@@enneagramandcoaching How long have you been studying the enneagram? If you don't mind me asking?
I am so surprised to hear that type 2's don't normally watch these videos. I am so fascinated with the Enneagram and really drawn to figuring myself out and others around me. Some jobs that I've had and loved is: Executive assistant, Educational assistant, and being a mom.
Love that you are invested in self care and becoming the best you Anita! ❤️❤️❤️
I actually came across this video because I was watching videos based on other people in my life so I could see things I could do that they would like and I saw a type-2 video recommended and I was like "oh yeah" lol. I didn't think to look into mine until it was shown to me.
This video has helped me realize that I have really grown as a Type 2. A few years ago I would have had many more things to work on, but it sorta feels like I've hacked life. I do work in a helping job, I am an oral surgery assistant and my favorite part is putting my patients at ease and holding their hand when they are anxious. Instead of saying no, I have learned to say "Sure, I can totally help you with that, I just won't be available until XYZ" (If I need to take a rest and get with them next week I allow for that time, if that timeline doesn't work for them, then they will have to find someone else. And I know my needs, I think that's part of growing up and becoming an adult is just being in tune with the things that make you really feel good and the things that just don't. It's amazing when you learn that you can tailor your life's experiences and encounters to keep yourself in a better mood and mental space. It's called self-care as was stated in the video. Parenting your inner child!
Absolutely loved reading this! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️❤️❤️
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Type 2, lover of all things hosting here! Thank you for this ❤ very accurate for me.
Love it! ❤️
I'm a self-employed type 2. I mentor aspiring church pianists. Thanks for your videos!
Oh I love this!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
Type 2 and I’m a counselor, I can’t imagine a job that I did not feel I was helping others
Love this!
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
@@emmahintz830 I can share how I learned and maybe that will work for you. I first took an enneagram test on truity.com. I then read the book The road back to you. Great book and quick read!
I’m a type 2! I’m currently In nursing school and work as a nursing assistant. I often listen to people’s stories, problems, and offer advise but typically don’t talk about myself. Like you said, if people were even to ask if I needed anything, I wouldn’t know what it is 😅 I struggle so much with understanding my own feelings but I can picture what others are feeling so clearly.
Thanks for sharing this! So good!
Interesting! There seems to be some over lap w 2s and 9s. I'm a 9 and my youngest is a 2 and we live in a completely different world from my other daughter(type 4) and husband(3 or 8, still can't figure it out!)!
I'm a 2w1 sp/so. I might be very different to the other type 2s in that I'm always on a journey of self discovery. Trying to figure out why I am the way I am, and how to improve myself with the information I find. 💜
Love all of your enneagram videos btw 😊
Love this!!!!
The fact that you said “I might be very different to other type 2s” is sus…
Same, I'm a sp 2w1 and I can resonate with that.
Same
I'm a social worker, ALL these things except the not watching things about myself fit me. I love learning about myself and others.
Ahahahaha!!! So many things, I identify with. I thought I was a 4 but after learning more I identify with the type 2. When you said 2s are usually learning about everyone else! Made me laugh so hard. Thank you!
Haha! You are so welcome!
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I was gonna be a vet. Switched to beinv a nurse. Now I'm working on my postpartum doula certification
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
As a 3w2 I struggled for a long time with the “I’m their best friend”. I interpreted it as clingy.
Yeah, the term best friend can be interpreted so many ways. Thanks Jen for sharing!
Me too girl
💗 I'm a 2w3 so I'll answer your questions. To your first question: people tend to come to me for advice or a shoulder to cry on or someone to listen. I let any and everyone do that with me and I don't mind. Sometimes people do abuse my friendship and the help I give them, and when I need someone to count on they are not really there. So, I think my true best friends are those kindred spirit friends who help me "unshelf" my needs and concerns and are attentive towards me and where I feel that my needs do matter.
To your second question, I'm a writer and teacher, but especially my writing and other artistic outlets have helped me realise what my needs are. Therapy has also made me realise that I grew up in an environment where communication isn't our strong suit, because both my mother and father struggle with voicing their own needs/wants/concerns, etc. Becoming aware of it has helped me exercise communication deliberately and has helped me grow to become more aware of these things in myself and not just in others. To any twos out there, therapy, slowing down, true introspection and exercising self-worth has helped me become aware of what I want and exercising communicating those needs with my friends and family has helped me build stronger, healthier relationships. Still a work in progress, though.
I really really love to host, you got that way too right. I always shoo people away to clean up and when I go to someone else's party I always help clean up.
I always have this issue and I wonder if other twos have it. I'm always up for helping people and I'm always there. Sometimes, though, I do get worn out and tend to isolate to "recharge energies" and then go back to being 110% there for others... I wonder how you guys deal with this...?
I am always motivated by feeling loved and appreciated.
I literally watch all videos of all types because I wanna help others.
I would add something that I don't know if it happens to every type 2 but it happens to me.
I have this negative tendency to obsess over criticism of others when I can't be the person they want (or need) me to be for them. Especially if they are someone I truly care for.
I also tend to "buy affection"... Instead of recognising and voicing my needs I tend to be extra nice and extra good or helpful to someone when I'm in need of their love and/or affection
I am often referred to as others best friend but I don’t feel that way about them most of the time.
I hear this a lot from 2s ❤️
Are those people just not good friends to you?
I've known about enneagram at least ten years and I've only just identified myself as a TWO! That's why twos don't watch the videos so much, they don't recognise themselves or the term helper, it's buried so deep it just feels normal, as if it's the way everybody is and goes about life!
And it's not about running around baking cakes for people, it's a deeply rooted philosophy on life. It explains such a lot in my life, including over committing to work. I'm a PA. Thank you for your work, love the style of your videos and the decor ❤
PS I've previously thought I'm a 7, 4, 8, or 9.
Yes! This is extremely accurate! Type 2 here 💙 Indeed, loads of people think that they're my best friend! It's nice , but sometimes, I don't always feel that way aswell. I often just want to relax and spend some time by myself, something that is difficult when you have so many 'best friends'.
I don't know whether to laugh or to cry about how accurate it is that I am not very in tune to my feelings 😂😭 Whenever someone asks me "how are you doing?" Or "What can I do to help?" I always answer 'I'm fine, no worries!'. Nine out of ten times, I could really use some help at that moment.
As a type 2, I do indeed love jobs that help others! I've already planned to join a charity after Covid is over and things go back to normal. Also, my dream job is a psychologist!
Indeed, I rarely watch videos about my own type! Funnily enough, I love watching your videos about myself, but rarely anyone else's videos 😂 These are just the best 👍 Thanks!
You are so sweet! And you left a ❤ for bring a two! Thanks for sharing all this. I love the insight you brought to bring a type 2.
I’m a Type 2! Just starting out with it. I took a couple of tests that had me as a 7 and 9 but neither felt quite right. I started watching a ton of videos and Type 2 is definitely my type. Without a doubt. And I can relate to all 10 items on your list! Thank you. Super helpful!
Love this! Thank you for sharing!
Yes I have a lot of friends from all walks of life. The more we share, the closer I feel to them. I did more helping when I was younger, with less health issues. I have been a realtor, legal secretary, bookkeeper, insurance billing clerk, volunteer tutor, teacher, singer, receptionist, and assistant to the Controller and business manager at a law office, worked in jewelry and shoes at a store, was also a runner. So I did have jobs to help others. I have always had pets I loved and took care of. I have 5 dogs now. I wouldn't say I act on feelings or emotions first. I am a 2 with 1 wing. I would say I am empathetic because I can feel what other people are feeling. I think first. Sometimes I avoid going places that will be difficult for me based on the people there. As always, I enjoyed this video. Thank you for sharing!
Margaret thanks for sharing! Loved all the jobs you've had.
I am rewatching this one. Let me clarify something from my comment, I was a runner in an office. I wrote I was a runner. Lol My friends know I've never been able to physically run very fast.
Thank you for this. In my career I’ve been a CNA for 4 years and worked in social work 13 years and now I’m a Manager of Home Care Agency. It’s so hard to ask for help for myself or accept it, I guess maybe that makes me feel weak? We lost our youngest son 13 years ago, I co founded a local chapter of an organization here to help parents, grandparents and siblings. I have always loved helping people. I’ve never heard of the enneagram until I started my job a month ago. I did take the test and I’m definitely a 2 lol or so it says. I am thinking due to results I wing a 1 for sure. I’m so glad I googled this in You-tube and found you. Thank you💗
I'm a two that has no problem saying no...everything else is spot on! I'm everyone's best friend but rarely do I feel the same.
I am a two and these spoke such truth for me! I’m in therapy to really work on boundaries and to help take care of me! And my career is a special victims unit detective and it was chosen because I wanted to help people! ❤️
Love this! ❤❤❤
Hi, Hillary ! Hope you're doing well ! I am a type 2 and I have watched some of your videos ..pretty spot on . To answer your question, I am a cashier at a grocery store. I love meeting new people even though my social anxiety is high at times. It can be exhausted because I do feel like I'm tuned into other people. If I see other people cry it makes me want to cry. Love to plan parties and want all the details to be thoughtful and well planned . I usually ask my co-workers if they've had enough water to drink that day or something like that and ask about their family. Today I offered to go get a jacket for my coworker because I saw she was shivering and I was on my way to the break room. She kind of laughed and I felt rather silly but I could tell she appreciated me asking. I am a people-pleaser and have a hard time saying no oh, but I've made progress with boundaries and self-care. I don't necessarily feel like people gravitate towards me per say ...but I definitely come across as approachable and friendly and my co coworkers confide in me . I have like three close friends and a lot of acquaintances. Anyhow , I enjoy your videos . Thank you !
This is awesome! Great insight! Thank you for taking the time to comment!
As a 2, I often feel like I have a sign on my back that says "Please tell me all about your problems." But as I'm listening to you, I'm bothered that you are having back problems and I want to ask you more about that! I might have some ideas that might help you.
This is awesome! Yes! Share some ideas!
I’m a type 2w3. Honestly, I do MRIs so I see a lot of patients. I make strong connections and make friends easily. Sometimes people will come up to me in a store and act like we are best friends and it takes me a minute to recall who they are.
I am a 2, and the only one I didn't resonate with was the "being a host" one. I am not much for hosting but the rest is definitely me!
What exactly is self-care? Eating, drinking and sleeping?
It’s taking care of your soul really. Figuring out what you really need mentally and spiritually. The deeper needs.
@@sputnik163 thank you
Type 2 here and my jaw dropped when you talked about our jobs. I am an RVT which is basically a veterinary nurse lol.
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I believe I’m a type 2, and I’m currently studying to become a school counselor. I’m so excited to learn more and it fills me with joy having the prospect of helping others through a difficult and awkward time
Awesome!
Even though I am an 8, I can definitely feel a few of these, particularly the one about being the first one to help in a crisis. I also prefer to watch videos not about my type, but that’s because I know myself very well, and I don’t need the review as much, and must learn more about everyone else. Lastly, one of my favorite things to do is help others and do things for them.
I know that I am in a good place when I am able to give people surprises, like baking something, or an unexpected birthday present or I’ll treat someone to dinner.
Hope things are going well where you are!
Yes, the 8 absolutely can be the 1st one to help in a crisis. Sounds like you are a healthy 8. Thanks for sharing Francesca!
2w3 here, a doctor involved in many charity organizations. Always had many friends, always the one that ppl call to offload problems, always the one helping ppl with issues, ppl always come to me, I am always asking details about friends’ lives and family.
My wing 3 has helped me get better with my own needs.
Love this!
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
Hi! I’m a type 2 and have two professions... 1 - claims adjuster 2 - youth minister. I was happy to see this video but I spend more time learning about other types to figure out what my loved ones types are so I can relate to them. Sound like a 2? 😂
Yes! Such a 2! LOL
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
I’m a 2 and often when I hit overwhelm I can’t for the life of me work out what I need to make it better 🤦🏼♀️ reading that was soooo accurate
Honestly I would love to know what my needs are 😂 Like I'm sure I have them, but WHAT ARE THEY?
Haha! Right??? 😂
Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
@@emmahintz830 Well something to realize is that under stress you may present as different, and it's hard to really say when you're a teenager and your hormones are making you react a certain way. In my case I am very fiery and I can be confrontational if I don't like someone or feel like they or their values are not in harmony with mine, I won't show them loving kindness, just cordiality...it was much worse at 17 when I would HATE every second I was with my family or get triggered by a comment someone made. I'm sure as you get older you will have a more distinct personality come through. But in the meantime ask yourself: Do I love making people feel welcomed, loved, at home and free to talk about their problems? Do I feel like I have a burning desire to help even strangers when I see someone needs help? Do I do kind deeds for others even though they don't need it, hoping that it will make them see my value and shower me with praise? Am I hurt and upset when I see people treat others with inconsoderation and unkindness? Do you go through ridiculous leaps and bounds to follow through for someone even though it's at a great inconvenience to you, meanwhile the person doesn't know at all?
If you answer yes to these or most of them then you're probably a 2. Just know that you can display traits of more than one type. Personally I identify with type #8 as well, the challenger...due to my strong justice complex and my belief in karma haha.
If I can add a comment regarding your 10th point. I'm a 2w1. I agree mostly with these, not every one applies truly to me, but for the most part yes. Your 10th point about 2s not watching videos about themselves and your reasoning about us watching other types to learn how to help others, while there is truth to that, for me I don't watch videos about my number so much is because of the criticism piece. If I watch too many 2 videos, I start to get down on myself and feel criticized...we hate criticism. I'm probably not a very healthy 2...but that's why I don't watch them. Thanks for your videos...I do enjoy them and learn a lot from them.
This is great insight. Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you ❤️❤️❤️
I am a type two and a recruiter. I love helping people find fulfilling jobs and helping my teams get valuable employees
I’m more set in stone about being a 2w1 with 296 trifix by this video, much thanks! In my own opinion, most 2w1s will be Fe users since they feel the need to put others before themselves and not realize their own emotional needs (and they’re the ones who are most in tune to their environment and others emotions). Maybe Si as well since they have good attention to details and the past, often bringing it up and showing how good of a mind they have. I mainly see xSFx’s with either 2w1/2w3 or 2 in their trifix. Would love to know your views on cognitives and enneagram correlations!
Wow! Love that you can bring the MBTI in with the Enneagram! That takes skill!
Type 2w3 so/sx here! Thank you so much Hillary for all of your videos.. they've been so super helpful (especially because for a little bit I was wondering if I was a 3).
I agree with ALL of these!
1. A lot of people do think I am their best friend, but often times I can't reciprocate those feelings. (This was why I was like... am I being deceitful? Who really am I?)
2. You wish people were as attuned to your needs as you are to theirs -- totally feel this. And I wish I didn't have to say it; I wish people just KNEW
3. I also agree with the fact that sometimes I don't know what I need... even when I may need some help or a hug.
You are so welcome!!!! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for making this video, maybe you can help me, because I’m new to this and understand very little about the Enneagram.
So, I recently did the test and got type 2 as result, I will go through the signs and tell you what I think.
Sign 1; You make decisions based on feelings
Implying; when deciding, rather that it’s based on feeling if it’s right to do than if it makes logical sense.
I disagree, because I deem most of my decisions to have reasoning behind them, despite if it doesn’t make sense to others. I’m thinking more about split second decisions, being based on feelings, it’s wonderful to have intuition for that and yeah logic can’t help, because in that case there’s no time to make sense.
Sign 2; You are tuned in to people’s feelings
Implying: Capability to sense the feelings of others, reading the room, knowing people’s wants and needs.
This is a good one, I don’t know whether it’s something I like to believe I have, less so if I want that. I do feel empathy for others, and it’s very hard for me to not consider where they at emotionally, before I tell them something, but there are many examples and different types of scenarios. I don’t think I always proceed with caution.
Sign 3; Everyone thinks you’re their best friends
Implying: People gravitate towards you or like to be around you, because good listening skills and remembering the details of their life circumstances.
Yes, I do feel like this is true with certain individuals, however if people are like that towards me, I often feel reluctant to acknowledge them as a friend, wouldn’t certainly deem them; my best friends, because some of them default into overdependency and asking too much. I like to stay away from people who make a habit out of asking for things that they can easily help themselves with.
Sign 4; You are the first one to respond to a crises
Implying: Not faced or scared to help in a crises situation and be the first in line to step in
Yes, there are numerous times when I did this, lots of where I was the only one to respond, but if others would step in first, I really don’t mind. In such situations, it can be quite compelling for me to make impulsive decisions, they were usually right, but I definitely made mistakes and hate myself for it. So I don’t want others to stand back, but always help, but they don’t have to be the first to respond.
Sign 5; You wish people were in tune to your needs as you are with theirs
Implying: otherwise feel like being taken advantage of
Yes and it’s true sometimes I don’t really know what I need or want, however some people do take advantage of me and I don’t want that. So at a certain point when this is going on for a while and I feel I’ve been “pushed” too much, I tend to break contact. I do voice my wants and needs when I feel like the person can really help me with it or out of sheer curiosity to see what they do with that information. It’s independent of people offering to help me. Some people are just scummy; they’re looking for a corner to push me in, I try to avoid that. I’m usually right about a person, but if it turns out I was wrong, then I don’t really care, better safe than sorry.
Sign 6; You love to host
Implying: Love to have people come over and care for them; cooking the meal and providing fun
True, and yes I don’t want my guests to help me, because I have my own way of doing things in the home. I usually clean up after the guests have left or if they stay the night then clean the next day.
Sign 7; You don’t know how to say no
Implying: Always helping even when self-detrimental
Disagree, I do say “no” when people ask for help, when 1) I can’t help, 2) feel like or find out, they can do it themselves, 3) to see how they would react, 4) it’s to my own self-detriment. You got to have self-respect. I feel like in this world I don’t owe anybody anything, so that giving to people is truly something of myself. When people give something to me out of their own free will and they regret it later on, then I don’t feel guilty about it.
Sign 8; Your job is in a helping field
Implying: generally taking the role in helping people
Sorry, this is too general, but to answer you; I didn’t nor do I have any of the jobs listed.
Sign 9; Your biggest motivator is feeling loved and appreciated
Implying: it motivates when helping others
This is obvious, but I think it applies to everyone sometimes.
Sign 10; You don’t normally watch videos about your type
Implying: Not having as much the need to learn about oneself, but rather learning about other people
I disagree, I like learning about both. I’m totally new to the Enneagram personality type system. And I’m checking if the signs you’ve presented in this video are fitting my personality. I’m having a hard time assessing whether this is true, but more importantly if knowing my Enneagram type is useful in understanding myself. So far, I understand little about this.
❤❤❤I’m 2 and i came here from time to time to relax and hear more about myself so that i always know who i am and what i deserve
I’m a type 2 and the job type fits completely. I’m an ex-teacher, church children’s and youth team leader, foster carer and relationships educator.
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Can someone please help me figure out if I am a enneagram 2. When listening to all of the 2s core desires and fears and everything I relate a lot to the feeling of wanting to be needed and doing things and hoping in return people will appreciate or do something for me back. When it comes to that I think I am a two but I also feel like I don’t overextended myself to help people. Of course if someone ask for help I’ll do it but I feel like I am not a regally really helpful person. It might be becuase I am only in high school but idk. I also feel like I get into conflicts sometimes. I read somewhere that 2s never say no but I feel like with my family I almost always don’t want to do what they ask like empty the dishwasher or clean my room. I read a few books on all the different types and I don’t really feel like I match any of the other core desires and fears but idk. Anything would help. Also maybe I am a 2w3 becuase it seems more like me. I also could be a certain subtype so tell me what subtype you think I am
So funny! All spot on. #10 was funny because I definitely watched the other numbers first to understand the people in my life better before watching my own number. 😝
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There is lots of people that think I’m their best friend, but I do not feel that everybody is my best friend. I only have few good friends.
All the tests have given me 7,9, and 2 as my top three. This has made me realize I’m not a type 2, but one of my very good friends most definitely is. She is always taking care of everybody around her and has just started learning how to take care of herself too- still not good at saying no though 😅
I’m a type 2 and I work in admin but I always do support roles where I get to help the team achieve outcomes. I’m great at anticipating and solving problems and working with people at every level to get things done. I like being in the background and not the person taking the lead on projects, I use my people skills and problem solving skills to keep everything on track.
My dream is to own a farmhouse where my friends and family can come over and to rescue farm animals.
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Type 2 male here. Much of what you said resonates strongly with me. Thank you so much. I'm new to Enneagram Types so there's a lot for me to learn. I appreciate your videos.
Thanks for sharing!
I am a typ 2. And I am a mother of three kids. Being a mother is the most important thing in life for me. ❤️
My husband is a type 2, he works as a teacher for children in need, he is really specialized in his work.. he is the first who stands up for houseworks and cleanings, even at other people’s house 😂 anyone thinks he is an amazing friend and listener, he is always in the frontline in crisis, and he get mad when “I can’t read his mind and understand his needs” in that cases he can seem a bit aggressive, but if I tell him I love him, then everything becomes fine again 😝 if our friends are visiting us, they say they feel like in a luxury hotel, because he cooks, clean, do everything and never says no.. he actually never wants to read or hear about type 2 or enneagram.. 😂 I will watch all type 2 videos. Thank you 🙏 😊
I have taken the monetary tests where it obvs. is not free, the free tests etc... and always get Type 2. You asked about how we feel about people being our best friends. Unfortunately I have not felt that way, I only have one best friend, I used to have many but we've just moved apart in many ways. I just saw a medium she is famous so I won't say who she is but she got me 100%, she said "you are always the social worker for your friends and then they don't have time for you", sad but true. I think because I am so giving I found out, people take advantage plus I have a degree in psychology so that makes a lot more people want to talk only about themselves.
Haha. Yup, type 2 here! I’m a homeschool mama of four for fifteen years, I encourage and support homeschool mamas by writing, podcasting, and coaching new homeschool mamas. Yes, I feel that comment: I intuitively know peoples needs so I’m confounded that people can’t read others needs. 🤪😆 Wanna be on my podcast? We could help people. 😂❤️
Wow! So amazing! Yes I’d love to!
If you’re still interested in a podcast interview, message me your email.
LMAO!!!!! I’m a type 2 and your final number killed me xD. I’ve looked up all of the enneagrams of my loves and made a new friend that’s also a 2 so I’m finally watching videos on us ❤️ xD
"Muhahaha! I have you now. I will overpower you with my emotional tidal wave of love! You will have no energy to escape from my diabolical trap of feelings!"
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"You! How did you escape from my rage cage of feelings?!"
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You have my Wing 6 and my unhealthy 7 tied up on the train tracks. Trust me, you'll be doing me a favor. Yeah, don't worry, Peter! You're going to get a rare look at how a train operates from underneath while it is in motion! You remember your grandfather ran a train, right? You love it!
My archnemesis. The waves of emotions eternally crashing on the rocks of logic. Ugh.
I have seen a few 2s and 5s work out in life and in most cases, it is the 5 merely weathering the storm of a 2 in hopes the squall will eventually die down enough that a logical scenario can form. It can take up to three millennia for it to happen, of course, but who is checking on time.
_constantly checks watch_
Please, please, please... Just... One second without radiating your emotions...
Of course, after hearing all the things you said, you described my housemate to a t. She is a teacher, she wants to help everyone, she is a supercharged goal achiever, she hates having people do things for her _(trust me, when I feed the cat in the morning she always feels like she is on the hook for something - which she isn't)_ She is a big-hearted person, but she will often set her own traps with expectations. If there is one number that expects everyone else to be like them, it is a 2.
*_"Enough about me, please. Let's talk more about me."_*
Yeah, you go twirl your well-kept mustache somewhere else, Feelinator. I guess I gotta save my Wing 6 and my Unhealthy 7 from your mind taking.
Well, okay. My Wing 6.
LOL! You never disappoint!😂 I think you are right about a 2 expecting everyone to be like them. That makes sense. But they'd have a hard time with someone trying to out help them I bet.
Being “in tune” is overwhelming to me as a 2. It can be draining. It has me being more introverted. I am 2 with 1 wing. I don’t love hosting because I fear judgement. I am working through it.
Thanks for such a great video of twos
I’m great in someone else’s crisis.... I shut down in my own crisis. 😭
Haha!! Sign #10 was so relatable, I watched the "10 Signs You're a Type 5" first because my husband is a 5!
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Type 2 here. I'm a designer and performer but have taught and worked in hr! I love to host ^-^
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i love your videos! the way you explain is so understanding and simple.
Thank you so much!
I'm a 2. Teacher. Mom. I relate to this so much.
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I’m a type 2! I am an acute care physical therapist :) I can defiantly tap into my 8 under stress. I’m married to an 8.
I am a Typ 2 and a kindergarten teacher 🌸thank you for the video 💖
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People have always gravitated towards me. I never knew why though. Okay, first to respond in a crises. Not in tune with my own needs. always a gracious host. People pleaser. I just found out that I am a type 2 Infj.
Selfless.
I just love your videos. My husband and I enjoy watching them and learning about each other and other types (he's a 5w6 and I'm a 2w1). I just recommended your channel to a friend and am excited to learn more about her journey of discovery!
I resonated with all of the 10 points except the last one. I do like watching videos about my type because it helps me to feel more understood, like I'm not alone.. Does that make sense? 😂 and the one about type 2s wanting others to know what their needs are since we're so good at knowing what others need... So true! Sometimes that gets me in trouble, though.. haha... 😬
Thanks for all you do!
Thank you so much! I am so happy that you like watching videos about yourself! So helathy!
I am a type two I’m a hairstylist no I do not think everyone is my best friend but everyone does believe that I am very friendly and enjoy my company. I never liked being a type two because I always saw them as the servants or the people who are always groveling at people but I have come to learn no it’s mainly people who constantly want to help you and lift you up and I normally the positive kiddos around you. Self-care is very needed and I like it sorely
THIS IS TOO TRUE! Especially the last one! I watched mbti videos mostly for my friends xD
You have the gorgeous eyes Hillary and thank you for this video!
Thank you Angel! ❤️
I’m a type 2, a marketing manager promoting health and wellness products.
Heard about enneagrams and thought "what bullshit is this" also literally decided to study social work to monetize my core value of being "useful" because then I get something tangible out of it.
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I am a classic 2 and what I would add in my case, if you hurt me I keep that with me and I remember that and I may avoid things because I’m protecting my heart from being hurt from you again. That hurt stays deep within me and I don’t know if I will ever have that close relationship with the person that hurt me. So it’s like a 1 foot in 1 foot out situation for me. I do try to take into account the enneagram of the person that did the hurting but I don’t always excuse that behavior.
I get mad when I see people taking advantage of my 2 friends inability to say no....I will admit long ago I would do this to my mother-in-law. We only saw then once a year and a number of times I would ask if I could do some laundry, knowing full well if I asked she would volunteer to do them for me. I realized this was not good so my new strategy is to just go ahead and start the laundry and then tell her. "I was sure you wouldn't mind so I just went ahead and started some laundry". Sigh...so glad I have more sense than I used to. One particular friend her husband and child both take advantage of her until she ends up sick and in the hospital. I tell her all the time she needs more rest and needs to tell them "no" . But, she doesn't listen. With the Best Friend thing....hey, I'm a 7, I collect things...including best friends..lol. And I really do feel like each one of them is my best friend. For years I had my inner circle. I thought it was kind of like Jesus having "Peter, James and John. And now when so many people seem to be tightening their circle, I'm expnding mine, there are now 6 in the inner circle that now have the title "Best" Maybe it's because 2 is so far from 7 but I really didn't see much that I could identify with.
Sounds like you’ve done great self awareness work! Love the I collect best friends! ❤️
Yup! Type 2 and I work in public health :D
Hi! 2w3 here, and only here after having watched every other video to make notes on them so I can be there for other people i- but thank you so so much
LOL! Love this!!!! ❤️
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I love to help but I'm terrible at crises, and I hate to host. Other than that I identify wit this.. I love self improvement and learning about myself. My degree is in social work.
❤️ i’m pretty sure I’m a type two I’m still trying to figure it out but all of those were spot on for me, scary.
I'm a type 2 and I work as a nonprofit volunteer coordinator
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I've been interested in the enneagram for a few years now and I STILL DON'T KNOW if I'm a type 2 or a type 4. I've taken tests a couple times and the 2 and 4 are sooooo close. Every time I feel like I resonate more with 2, I watch or read more about 4 and have no clue again lol. Idk if it's an integration/disintegration thing bc they share a line or if I'm a 2 but feel like a 4 because I'm a musician and have differing beliefs from most of my family
im a type 2 in the HR feild. That's interesting, never knew why I loved HR so much. I've always had a sense of helping ppl from it.
I'm a type 2, my parents divorced when I was 7, but that never stop me from being a very family oriented person. 😌😂 I love taking care of people close to me. I genuinely see my friends as my own family, I love being around them but I don't know how they feel about me. It feels lonely most of the time, because at the end of the day, they have a place to come home to, and they seem to live with happy and loving family. I know I will see them tomorrow but every time my friends say goodbye, deep down I just want to scream, "Noooo, don't leave, stay here." 😹 That's when I'm sure I'm a type 2. 😂
I am an type 2 INFJ I am everyone’s best friend that doesn’t have a best friend in this dimension.
Type 2 for sure, job title is "customer care"...🦋
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I am a type two. All of these are spot on except I stress out if I host something. It’s not something I love. I am also a therapist. 😊
I have a bad memory… I should be a good 2, but its hard to remember everyones life details. I do keep a close tight group and stay close for years. Peoples life pain/issues continually flash in my mind. I think about everyone I know thats in distress. Otherwise most people are very comfortable near me… but the non deep thinkers often just think I am weird. I scored as a 4 though. And I often decide things not by my heart as much as what makes the most sense. I am very in tune with my own needs as my body is sensitive. I have a hard time saying no, and overload myself. I am also an introverted extrovert empath.
😮 😮 Why aren't we being met halfway? Repressing is not creating what we enjoy. We can be beautiful. Attracting what we enjoy. I even made a video about reconnecting to our intention, as a Enneagram 2! So awesome thanks for THIS video inspiration. ☆ kind regards, A sweet 2
Yes mam! If someone wants to be my best friend, I feel like it’s mutual! 😄
I have worked in Human Resources for almost 20 years!
Wow! Amazing!
I’m a 2!!🙋🏻♀️ they are all pretty accurate, but I do like to read about myself lol
I'm a 2w1, foster parent and stay at home homeschooling mom, definitely don't feel like people gravitate to me.
When you said love to host. Bingo
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I’m a type 1 wanting to learn how my type 2 Mom rolls with life. She definitely doesn’t do enough self care😉
This sounds like the equivalent of INFJ MBTI type. I have a few INFJ acquaintances and they sound totally like type 2.
Side note.. noticed the video has your location as Chandler. I'm in AZ all week and visited Chandler yesterday. Such a beautiful city!
Yes! I live in Chalder! I love living here! Hope you have an amazing time here Christian! You live in Vegas right?
Phew struggling type 2w1 that happen to come across this video. Just wanted to say thank you!
You're welcome!❤
im 99% sure im a two. thank you Hilary!!
You are welcome!
Great job 👏
Thank you! 😃
I’m a type two watching! 💗
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Thank you for putting a positive spin on type 2. I went to a workshop about the different types and it was a negative feel towards type 2's. It left ne with a bad taste in my mouth.
Oh I’m sorry! Twos are awesome human beings!
♥️ Thank you for sharing so I can learn more about my type even though it is true that I have spent more time learning about other types to try to understand and help others ♥️
Right on Hillary! I’m a 2.
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I am definitely a type 2 ❤️
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I'm a type 2 and I work at a vet!!
How awesome!