I always feel weird when you guys say this like... you thought cheating as not normalized in the past? the "catholic husband has a mistress" is literally a classic. Maybe you mean that now women do it too?
Wait so the wife thought she was the cool, fun parent when the only time she interacted with them was when it was dinner? It's kinda confusing on how that works.. I'm glad she changed for the better though :)
I think she thought like that before having kids and being a working adult. Like her fantasies of what life would be ten years later when she was in her early twenties or something. And then life happened and other things took priority. It sounds to me as if she was very focused on having a good work/personal life balance but then forgot to make room for the kids in her routine when she had them. These weeks of introspection made her both realise the sort of parent she was and remember the sort of parent she wanted to be. Tbh she sounds amazing, not everyone can put the work into changing their ways so much even when they see the damage their doing.
@@devthakur84 I wouldn’t go that far. To be fair, no one is good if you look at it that way. We all have our motives but if the motives lead us to being better for the people we love, that’s good and should be celebrated.
Even if he was really a lazy man child, you have no right to cheat on him. These are grown adults why r they so out of touch and blind they see what going on in their own homes . Also, why don't adults just end something before they start something else.
It's because some people are in a situation where it would be too inconvenient to leave because of finances or other perks they have in their relationship but they want more so they cheat. I don't condone such behavior and think it's messed up to use someone like that.
It's all so true, but I especially hate when these people say are unworthy of me i have cheat. As one user There's truely "not adult, they are old children" #superdogsbrothers. At least she woke up before it was late
They get rapped in themselves. In their work,in their activities. They don't consider what all is actually happening for the outcome they see on a daily. Then they begin to ignore. Fortunately for OP,her eyes were forced to open. When she had to step in and do all the things her hubby handled. Unusual as it is,she looked at what she was doing. How much interaction she actually had with her family. She realized that she didn't even know what her daughter liked or wanted. That was the slap in the face that woke her up. She also realized that all she did was nag at her hubby. She just demanded. She didn't show him any kind of appreciation or affection. She actually got lucky. The quarantine forced her to see and do a lot. She has a ton to make up for. She also needs to look more into why she was considering cheating instead of really looking at her hubby and herself. Hubby has a lot to consider as well. Especially with finding her post. Learning how she considered him a "Man child" and her thinking about cheating. They're going to need quite a bit of couples counseling and individual counseling. They are off to a good start.
She always thought that she would be the fun parent, and then she was the working parent that's emotionally distanced from her family. It's actually kinda sad.
No idea how many of those stories are real but taking your husband for granted is present in 100% of them. I might want to do some actual research about it.
Summary Op realizes she is a bad partner and after following weeks, she gets more involved with her kids instead of herself. The husband found the post and tested to see if she was gonna do what she said After a year, they're 50/50, got couples counseling, and are emotionally involved with their kids.
bro. She has spent a WHOLE YEAR redeeming herself why is everyone clinging on that one sentence where she has considered cheating, even though she HASNT
@@Unoriginal-Username69because, and I'll quote one of the top comments, it's insane how cheating is starting to get normalized. It's like, any error, no matter how tiny it is in a relationship, can and will be an excuse for someone to cheat on their partner. That's actually scary. I'd be extremely conflicted with myself to keep dating someone that ever pondered to cheat on me.
@@Unoriginal-Username69 Imagine you are a son, your father nonchalantly said to you "You know son, three years ago i actually want to strangle you and your mom. Not because i'm depressed, because i'm bored." What would you feel?
It’s also a reflection of how easy it is to get caught in our own world and perceptions and not realize what is happening around us. For everyone wanting to trash the wife in this; she was seeing her reality when an emergency caused her to readjust for the moment. In that time, she saw life from a different angle that let her view what she had been missing before. The same thing happened for the husband. I think that is what so many are missing when they want to put the lion’s share of blame on the wife. The husband was silently planning separation himself. Nothing said indicates that either of them went to the other with their concerns before quarantine caused an involuntary shift, but thankfully for them both they were willing to pursue the new reality presented and resolve their past errors.
@@trenae77 agree whole heartedly. It sucks that it sometimes needs that kind of shock to the system to wake up to reality, but in a lot of cases it's too little too late. This lady deserves recognition that she changed for the better and had the resolve to do so and accept the fact that she was going to be hurt doing it. She knew it wouldn't be easy. Does it suck she thought of having an affair? Yes, but that is a single bit that she actively rejected and saw how she was wrong for thinking so. This is at least evident on her making an effort to return his affections, and seeing her husband in a different way recognizing she was in the wrong. That's personal growth. I sincerely think a lot of people need a therapist and not a youtube comments section. These wild fixations on a single line while ignoring the context surrounding it is disappointing.
Kudos for her admitting it, I guess, but, it doesn't make much sense. Did she think her dinner magically cooked itself? The laundry hopped, skipped, and jumped into the washer? The dishes shimmied up to the soapy sponge on their own? Where did she think her kids were while she was watching tv? I'm glad she's making a change, but to be that completely oblivious is really crazy
I'm relieved she realized she was the issue and decided to fix and change things before it was too late. The grass is not always greener on the other side, and cheating is definitely not the answer. Working towards bettering your circumstance is so much more satisfying.
This lady was delusional and completely detached from reality. How the hell she could believe her husband was lazy and neglectful while she was amazing and contemplated an affair cause she "deserved better" is legit beyond me. He does EVERYTHING and she only sees the kids at dinner, doesn't cook, and goes out with friends both days of the weekend! Good on her for waking up and making positive changes, but how her view on her family got so warped and delusional is beyond my understanding
@@levy9595 You know what, you articulated it better than I could. She definitely had to be delusional to think the way she did. I'm glad she snapped out of it cause she was definitely on her way to some serious consequences.
@Amagem81 yeah it's good for her she realized the error of her ways in time to correct it, but she needs to take a serious deep dive into why her thoughts about her husband and the effort she put into her marriage and family eroded in the first place. Based on this post, her husband seems like basically a perfect husband and father, so her twisted view of things suggests some deeply flawed issues with her entire way of thinking. She needs to address the core reasons as to why her perception got so twisted in the first place, or she runs the serious risk of falling right back into the same trap with time.
It's good to see she finally saw the error of her ways and started to improve good for her and her family. Tho that afair thing really pissed me off I'm glad she didn't do it
@@deathrail1326 true, it just feels like people are obsessing over that, even though it didn't happen. I truly think some folks are so damaged and don't know it themselves that they obsess over the idea of something and don't see that she didn't only reject the notion, but she also ended up getting counselling, likely for that and other things.
Yup! She has the perfect husband and father to their children. She will surely regret it for the rest of her life if she actually cheated on him before She finally realize that she has a Gem of a Husband.
Why do when women feel that their husbands don’t deserve them they almost immediately feel like cheating is going to be the right answer? Why don’t they first think about sitting down and talking first?
This is more of a why do PEOPLE do this. Men and women alike somehow turn to cheating when they feel their partners aren’t right for them. It’s foolishness. Just leave. No reason to step out 🤦🏽♀️
I think people do it because they are actually hurting. They feel like they are too good for their partner because they are feeling hurt that their partner isn’t doing enough for them, even tho they themselves are likely the one not doing enough as seen in this story, and instead of talking about it and being open and vulnerable they just want to either hurt their partner or get that excitement without losing the stability and routine they already have with their partner. It’s very interesting from a psychological view on why cheating happens like that, but I’m glad she realized that she was the problem and actually worked on fixing it.
@@zamirshair5054 yeah because children are the founts of all wisdom. Ask her husband, ffs you people on the internet acting like you know everything - he knew his worth the moment things began to get better and he is the one who decides whether or not the relationship persists, whether or not she is worth his continued support as a husband and the father of her children. If he believes she is good enough now that she's improved, then it is so. We are a bunch of outsiders looking in and your opinions, while you are allowed to have them, are not important to them and their life. Humble yourselves, my god.
Why starting an affair and cheating is normalised ? Tolerance and patience are rare nowadays. I have never got this much of narcissistic vibes from any other wife. Expectation- she is better than her husband and deserve to cheat which is justified because of her delusional attitude. Reality- the wife is good for family life. She doesn’t even deserve a husband let alone such a wonderful man. The husband deserves better.
Every single time I listen to a Reddit story and it's about a relationship they always talk about the intimacy side and I get it's a big part of relationships but my guy I'm not listening to the story to hear how you get raw dawged 😭 8/10 story though extremely wholesome
It is a huge deal for healthy relationships, I know it is cringy to hear but for them or for any broken marriage getting intimate again is a really big step that shows everything or most is getting better. Don't think about it as just them having sex, getting intimate is far different.
It's so refreshing to see an emotionally absent partner realise their flaws. The ending warmed my heart. It's good to be aware of the fact that not all partners don't care at all and to know people can change
Agreed. Sometimes these reddit stories focus so much on the horrible that these nuggets of light seem to get lost, or worse yet, drowned out by negativity.
The OP has finally see things in a different light and has decided to do the right thing and save her marriage and family life for the sake of her children, good to go for her.
she realized her flaus and mistakes, took accountability and is trying to change, props to her for trying, most nowadays give up without trying, the quarantine was a blessing in disguise for their marrage
The husband is an amazing person for doing all that to support his family. As for her... she started off terrible, but I'm glad she realized it and changed for the better. I wish them the best
It’s so rare that people reflect on their actions and realize that they need to make a change without prompting. Very heartwarming to see someone deciding to work on their marriage instead of throw it away like many others have
This is straight up heartwarming! It sucks that she was originally thinking of cheating on her husband but I'm glad she realized her faults and worked on herself to become better.
insane character development. good for her for actually changing and see her faults. since theres people who see they're at fault but instead of improving or doing something to commend for that, they would push it into others instead. W wife for the development (L for thinking about cheating tho)
I’m 1 minute in, and I’m aghast. How in the world did this woman think she was anything but useless? She had no job. Didn’t contribute anything to the family financially. Didn’t contribute to housekeeping or child raising. She did nothing but run around doing her own thing… and she thought her HUSBAND was useless? This is utter insanity.
@@ThatOneBowlOfSoup You're right. It's not. But that kind of person realizing that's what they are, and working tirelessly to fix it and managing to mend their relationship is.
I guess it’s kinda wholesome, but idk how you could ever go back to someone who considered cheating on you. Thoughts of divorce on the table, sure that hurts but you can come back from that, but thoughts of betraying your partner. That says a lot about your character and I think the majority of people wouldn’t want to come back from that.
That has probably been one of if not my favorite set of updates, I'm so glad her husband was quarantined and that she decided to turn their marriage around
having an emotionally absent partner is so draining, i just got out of a relationship with a guy who i love and care about but can’t handle not being able to emotionally connect with him often and it caused a lot of problems in our relationship. we decided to take the summer off and reevaluate who we are as people and where we want to be in life and how to get there. although there is a lot of improvement that needs to be made, i want to think that we can do it.
What a good woman. Literally, realizing she was doing wrong before anyone told her, working to fix it without asking, suddenly developing empathy for her husband. This is what Men need Women to be. View us as humans with needs instead of a resource to exploit.
The fact that u were able to reflect on everything and realize u are the problem took a lot of guts and I’m proud of u for that and actually trying to fix the situation before u made an unforgiving mistake.
Why has cheating become something so normalized? It shouldn't be the first thing you think of when unhappy in your relationship. This shit's fucking disgusting.
Agreed. I was cheated on before so it hits especially hard when a woman is like "uhm i think i'll cheat you're not good enough" because a lot of the time the excuse is "I was bored" like, okay?? How am I supposed to know you're bored of me and why the fuck can you even get bored of me didn't you mean it when you said you loved me???
@@BlazingMoth28 exactly what should be done. If you and them both want to save it, you can then try and rekindle - but at least you're being fair to them, telling them the truth, even if there's no way back. It's not fair to rip someone's heart out like that
The fact she even THOUGHT of having an affair would have been it for me. Since she posted about it, id push for full custody and child support due to infidelity and marriage abandonment.
I honestly thought she was the husband until I listened more to the story. I’m glad they worked it out. Parenting is the hardest and the main job a person has.
So you assumed it was a man because you saw one parent was neglectful and was a terrible partner? Even though in the title it says "wife" and "mother" you still went ahead and assumed it was the husband. That's incredible
You’ll never get back those years of emotional detachment from your kids, I know because I was in a similar situation when I was a child as well. Good on you though, that you realized your mistakes and actually owned up to it instead of denying your own faults. Hope you’ll continue to be better as a partner and parent.
Its simply not realizing what you are doing wrong She needed a wake up call she was simply living in a world of her own not realizing what was really happening she’s not the first one that this happened to and she for sure won’t be the last At least she is part of the minority willing to try and make amends and fix the sinking boat
The millisecond you think “it’s affair time” is the same millisecond you really need to step back and take in the bigger picture. Self absorption is truly a killer of relationships. Cause you won’t acknowledge what they do when your so absorbed in it unless you watch them 24/7 and witness every deed they do, you will always undervalue what the people around you do, even then, they still say “well that’s easy” well then do it yourself?
I absolutely love this story! My parents tree were amazing PARTNERS, and shared in the home and child responsibilities…it’s so nice to see this woman realizing that during the pandemic. 🥰❤️
So your husband was basically a single parent raising them on his own while you did whatever you wanted? I'm glad you noticed you were wrong and tried to do something to change it.
People are so fixated on affair word that they willing through everything on trash can. Yes its wrong but wheb person is tired or blind of other person efforts they do get such thoughts. I really don't know why people think life is all fairy tale. There are point in life where you want to kill you're partner while at the same time you love them unconditionally. These thoughts are not coming from concious mind but more likely a idea from sub concious mind where we pile up everything and look for any way out to satisfy ourselves.
@@TheMantisLord50 yes but thought process doesn't work like that. The things we all speak comes from concious mind while such things doesn't. I am not justifying it but yes people come with such thoughts when they're literally disconnected in relationship. Affairs is one of the most common thought process among relationship where people really believe that having a attention from another person might able to help them out without loosing anything. People do find other's attractive while they're married doesn't mean they're bad or need to jump into divorce crap. We all have a thought that what if we rob bank and get rich instantly. Should we are jail time because we think about it? Ofcourse not unless you're not actively planning on that or execute that doesn't mean anything. It's okay understand why you get this thinking and work on it. Why so much noise?
I can’t get over how terrible of a human being this woman was before her epiphany, and I’m so happy for the husband to finally have his wife back. I do feel bad for the kids though. To be 11 years old with a neglectful mother who suddenly wants to be involved can be very confusing. Her kids will likely always prefer their father, and ultimately he deserves that. I just wish my own mother decided to put in effort. Sadly, she stayed like this woman. She divorced my father when my sister and I were babies and stayed just as horrendous as this woman was before the pandemic while my father is like this father. Definitely all hit home. It’s probably why I’m honestly really angry with that woman for being so awful and believing herself the victim for so long.
Yep, Quarantine did the exact opposite to me and my ex, and she continued to treat me more and more like a child (While I was doing most of the cooking and cleaning, and paying all the bills) After 4 years of explaining I needed help around the house and to not talk so negatively about me to her friends, I finally ended it. It makes me sad but I know I could not have waited another 4 years before she caught on (If she ever did).
This post is so refreshing. It always feels hopeless when a person specially a parent is fixed on their toxic ways. So nice to see someone who broke out of it and became a better person.
@@KysYujiPlsno she doesn’t. if it took him getting covid and her having to be an actual parent to realise all this, then she doesn’t deserve him. what would’ve happened if he never got covid?
She didn't mention until almost the end that he works as a researcher, meaning he makes most of the money. She could have cheated on him, gotten full custody of the kids, and alimony and child support. And everyone would be telling her how stunning and brave she was right until her ex-husband eats a 9mm, which would prove he was always mentally unsound.
My husband and I, depressed and desperately in love, decided after the big tension of moving in, that thanking each other for every mutual task was far better for each other and just made everything easier to do. It's so, so easy to thank your partner for making food, doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, etc. As long as you notice.
Idk you, but can I say.. I am just so so proud of you. It takes one hell of a woman to even admit these things.. much less commit to fixing them. In an age of “men ain’t shit” and “fuck them kids”, it’s so easy for us women to fall victim to the trap in which you found yourself - on the brink of throwing away your entire marriage and family rather than putting in the necessary effort. It’s so so lovely to hear you celebrate your beautiful life in this way, and the pride you take in becoming a wonderful wife and mother is inspiring. We need more voices like yours amidst all the lies fed to our youth these days. 💔❤️🩹❤️🔥
@@Arricovit’s definitely a topic to converse about as a family But it is not an unforgivable offense merely thinking about something doesn’t make you a horrible person She turned her life around and fixed her problems
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Quarantine for her husband literally saved their marriage
For HER husband
As terrible as the virus was for a handful of people it was also really good for other people
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@@isaacgarcia-iw5ucand she’s his wife?
True
Cheating is becoming WAY too normalized. It’s insanity. I’m glad she changed though! Cudos to you 🎉
i do believe it's "kudos"? just saying
@@the-GameRipper🤓
@@the-GameRipperDoesn’t matter
I always feel weird when you guys say this like... you thought cheating as not normalized in the past? the "catholic husband has a mistress" is literally a classic. Maybe you mean that now women do it too?
Why shouldn’t women cheat when society literally cheers them on?
She went from birth giver to mom
She went from spawn point to mom
💀💀💀💀
That was wild
@@Chuuyasimp49 _”SPAWN POINT”_ IS *_WILD_* LMAO 😭😭🖐🏽
@@Chuuyasimp49spawn point is actually mad
Tbh, atleast she tries to fix it unlike others
I think she did dawg
@@UnfunnyMan5908Did what?
@@ebonaparte3853fixed kt
@@ebonaparte3853fixed and changed
@@ebonaparte3853 he saying she did fix it (the main comment said "atleast she 'tries' to fix it")
“Thought about having an affair” is crazy
crazy is an understatement but not unexpected
I'm glad he saw it
The way she just casually said it was shocking
@@user-ic2dm8id9k wait i didnt even think about that
It wasn't casual but it was building up to her being the pos she knew she was then.
Was she horrible for thinking about starting an affair?
Edit: W ending
Edit2: reworte it
Yep, she started off as a terrible human, and ended the saga of redemption as an incredible mom and partner 😊
Yes horrible 😤
@@Momovr36 not anymore
Amazing character development
But the way she was able to willingly acknowledge her behavior and fix it is admirable
Wait so the wife thought she was the cool, fun parent when the only time she interacted with them was when it was dinner? It's kinda confusing on how that works.. I'm glad she changed for the better though :)
Yeah atleast she realised her mistake 😊
I think she thought like that before having kids and being a working adult. Like her fantasies of what life would be ten years later when she was in her early twenties or something. And then life happened and other things took priority. It sounds to me as if she was very focused on having a good work/personal life balance but then forgot to make room for the kids in her routine when she had them. These weeks of introspection made her both realise the sort of parent she was and remember the sort of parent she wanted to be. Tbh she sounds amazing, not everyone can put the work into changing their ways so much even when they see the damage their doing.
The mind is really good at lying to you.
The wife was still not a good person why? You ask
Well she's doing all this only coz of a guilty conscience
@@devthakur84 I wouldn’t go that far. To be fair, no one is good if you look at it that way. We all have our motives but if the motives lead us to being better for the people we love, that’s good and should be celebrated.
Even if he was really a lazy man child, you have no right to cheat on him. These are grown adults why r they so out of touch and blind they see what going on in their own homes . Also, why don't adults just end something before they start something else.
The ending ❤
Because they aren't adults, just old children.
It's because some people are in a situation where it would be too inconvenient to leave because of finances or other perks they have in their relationship but they want more so they cheat. I don't condone such behavior and think it's messed up to use someone like that.
It's all so true, but I especially hate when these people say are unworthy of me i have cheat. As one user There's truely "not adult, they are old children" #superdogsbrothers.
At least she woke up before it was late
They get rapped in themselves. In their work,in their activities. They don't consider what all is actually happening for the outcome they see on a daily. Then they begin to ignore. Fortunately for OP,her eyes were forced to open. When she had to step in and do all the things her hubby handled. Unusual as it is,she looked at what she was doing. How much interaction she actually had with her family. She realized that she didn't even know what her daughter liked or wanted. That was the slap in the face that woke her up. She also realized that all she did was nag at her hubby. She just demanded. She didn't show him any kind of appreciation or affection. She actually got lucky. The quarantine forced her to see and do a lot. She has a ton to make up for. She also needs to look more into why she was considering cheating instead of really looking at her hubby and herself. Hubby has a lot to consider as well. Especially with finding her post. Learning how she considered him a "Man child" and her thinking about cheating. They're going to need quite a bit of couples counseling and individual counseling. They are off to a good start.
She realized that she was taking her husband and kids for granted
She always thought that she would be the fun parent, and then she was the working parent that's emotionally distanced from her family. It's actually kinda sad.
No idea how many of those stories are real but taking your husband for granted is present in 100% of them.
I might want to do some actual research about it.
Summary
Op realizes she is a bad partner and after following weeks, she gets more involved with her kids instead of herself. The husband found the post and tested to see if she was gonna do what she said
After a year, they're 50/50, got couples counseling, and are emotionally involved with their kids.
they are split custody?
and broke up?
nevermind i didnt watch it all
No- no breaking up- they are working together as a team now instead of one sided
@@ItsValakithey are still together
wait, if he saw the post then did he also see she wanted to cheat for a sec? thats truly heartbrbeaking 😢
ofc he would. But then again, she proved otherwise
that's why he is broken and want to get to a counceling
bro. She has spent a WHOLE YEAR redeeming herself why is everyone clinging on that one sentence where she has considered cheating, even though she HASNT
@@Unoriginal-Username69because, and I'll quote one of the top comments, it's insane how cheating is starting to get normalized. It's like, any error, no matter how tiny it is in a relationship, can and will be an excuse for someone to cheat on their partner. That's actually scary. I'd be extremely conflicted with myself to keep dating someone that ever pondered to cheat on me.
@@Unoriginal-Username69 Imagine you are a son, your father nonchalantly said to you "You know son, three years ago i actually want to strangle you and your mom. Not because i'm depressed, because i'm bored." What would you feel?
Of course he doesn’t always think about YOU he’s raising your kids
It's also he's
@@KysYujiPls yeah I know but like it’s also hers
@@KysYujiPlshis*
Nah he always thinks about her even when he's taking care of the kids. She's too self absorbed to notice.
Did y’all even watch the video?
This is the dream everyone with a narcissistic partner hopes for. I'm so happy for the husband his wife turned out to be oblivious and not a narc.
It’s also a reflection of how easy it is to get caught in our own world and perceptions and not realize what is happening around us. For everyone wanting to trash the wife in this; she was seeing her reality when an emergency caused her to readjust for the moment. In that time, she saw life from a different angle that let her view what she had been missing before.
The same thing happened for the husband. I think that is what so many are missing when they want to put the lion’s share of blame on the wife. The husband was silently planning separation himself. Nothing said indicates that either of them went to the other with their concerns before quarantine caused an involuntary shift, but thankfully for them both they were willing to pursue the new reality presented and resolve their past errors.
@@trenae77 agree whole heartedly. It sucks that it sometimes needs that kind of shock to the system to wake up to reality, but in a lot of cases it's too little too late. This lady deserves recognition that she changed for the better and had the resolve to do so and accept the fact that she was going to be hurt doing it. She knew it wouldn't be easy. Does it suck she thought of having an affair? Yes, but that is a single bit that she actively rejected and saw how she was wrong for thinking so. This is at least evident on her making an effort to return his affections, and seeing her husband in a different way recognizing she was in the wrong. That's personal growth.
I sincerely think a lot of people need a therapist and not a youtube comments section. These wild fixations on a single line while ignoring the context surrounding it is disappointing.
Finally a story where the wife realizes that she messed up and actively wants to change for the better. Love it
Kudos for her admitting it, I guess, but, it doesn't make much sense. Did she think her dinner magically cooked itself? The laundry hopped, skipped, and jumped into the washer? The dishes shimmied up to the soapy sponge on their own?
Where did she think her kids were while she was watching tv?
I'm glad she's making a change, but to be that completely oblivious is really crazy
Yes. AMEN 🙏 Sometimes you just have to look at yourself, get out of your head, and realize how reality is.
I'm relieved she realized she was the issue and decided to fix and change things before it was too late. The grass is not always greener on the other side, and cheating is definitely not the answer. Working towards bettering your circumstance is so much more satisfying.
This lady was delusional and completely detached from reality. How the hell she could believe her husband was lazy and neglectful while she was amazing and contemplated an affair cause she "deserved better" is legit beyond me. He does EVERYTHING and she only sees the kids at dinner, doesn't cook, and goes out with friends both days of the weekend! Good on her for waking up and making positive changes, but how her view on her family got so warped and delusional is beyond my understanding
@@levy9595 You know what, you articulated it better than I could. She definitely had to be delusional to think the way she did. I'm glad she snapped out of it cause she was definitely on her way to some serious consequences.
@Amagem81 yeah it's good for her she realized the error of her ways in time to correct it, but she needs to take a serious deep dive into why her thoughts about her husband and the effort she put into her marriage and family eroded in the first place. Based on this post, her husband seems like basically a perfect husband and father, so her twisted view of things suggests some deeply flawed issues with her entire way of thinking. She needs to address the core reasons as to why her perception got so twisted in the first place, or she runs the serious risk of falling right back into the same trap with time.
@levy9595 I can't remember if she stated whether or not she/they were getting therapy. It's definitely needed.
@@Amagem81they got couples counselling
I had a gut feeling that the husband noticed and made up the extra work to kind of test her. I got a little giddy when it was confirmed 😂
Almost like the writer purposefully foreshadowed it.
@@RunawayYe you must be fun at parties 😂
@@Baba_Yaga_123 If you were on the Amazing race you'd want to be with Runaway.
I've seen this exact storyline play out where she goes through with the affair. This is the good timeline.
Sadly this case is much rarer than the other one
It's good to see she finally saw the error of her ways and started to improve good for her and her family. Tho that afair thing really pissed me off I'm glad she didn't do it
im pretty sure it pissed everyone off.
@@deathrail1326 true, it just feels like people are obsessing over that, even though it didn't happen. I truly think some folks are so damaged and don't know it themselves that they obsess over the idea of something and don't see that she didn't only reject the notion, but she also ended up getting counselling, likely for that and other things.
Marriage is work, this is awesome that you did this !
What a nice father and husband! He sounds amazing. Definitely a keeper, he sounds so sweet.
Yup! She has the perfect husband and father to their children. She will surely regret it for the rest of her life if she actually cheated on him before She finally realize that she has a Gem of a Husband.
And she wasn't a good partner until she became one!
Why do when women feel that their husbands don’t deserve them they almost immediately feel like cheating is going to be the right answer? Why don’t they first think about sitting down and talking first?
I know right
This is more of a why do PEOPLE do this. Men and women alike somehow turn to cheating when they feel their partners aren’t right for them. It’s foolishness. Just leave. No reason to step out 🤦🏽♀️
I think people do it because they are actually hurting. They feel like they are too good for their partner because they are feeling hurt that their partner isn’t doing enough for them, even tho they themselves are likely the one not doing enough as seen in this story, and instead of talking about it and being open and vulnerable they just want to either hurt their partner or get that excitement without losing the stability and routine they already have with their partner. It’s very interesting from a psychological view on why cheating happens like that, but I’m glad she realized that she was the problem and actually worked on fixing it.
@@KylaAdams14 Women do it more and people like you make excuses. Men's rights matter.
you think men have different reasons for cheating what. y’all ain’t special
She didnt deserve him.
She does now :D
@@shashwatsingh3230not yet, but she’s on the right track
@@shashwatsingh3230 She doesn't and never will. She failed to do the bare minimum for years. That is something that she will never be able to undo.
@@VRDejaVu Say that to her kids. I doubt they would agree with that, especially now.
@@zamirshair5054 yeah because children are the founts of all wisdom. Ask her husband, ffs you people on the internet acting like you know everything - he knew his worth the moment things began to get better and he is the one who decides whether or not the relationship persists, whether or not she is worth his continued support as a husband and the father of her children. If he believes she is good enough now that she's improved, then it is so. We are a bunch of outsiders looking in and your opinions, while you are allowed to have them, are not important to them and their life. Humble yourselves, my god.
Why starting an affair and cheating is normalised ? Tolerance and patience are rare nowadays. I have never got this much of narcissistic vibes from any other wife.
Expectation- she is better than her husband and deserve to cheat which is justified because of her delusional attitude.
Reality- the wife is good for family life. She doesn’t even deserve a husband let alone such a wonderful man. The husband deserves better.
Did... did you actually watch the story or just live in your head while it was playing after the single line about an affair?
Good for them! It’s so nice to hear a happy story for once. I’m proud of OP for actually recognizing their harmful behavior and fixing it.
Every single time I listen to a Reddit story and it's about a relationship they always talk about the intimacy side and I get it's a big part of relationships but my guy I'm not listening to the story to hear how you get raw dawged 😭
8/10 story though extremely wholesome
True but they are still entertaining
@@WGWP maybe
It is a huge deal for healthy relationships, I know it is cringy to hear but for them or for any broken marriage getting intimate again is a really big step that shows everything or most is getting better. Don't think about it as just them having sex, getting intimate is far different.
naaaa fr as soon as they start mentioning getting intimate shit gets so awkward for me i am here to listen about the story not you fucking each other😭
@@thelettera582 *…My mind just opened.*
It's so refreshing to see an emotionally absent partner realise their flaws. The ending warmed my heart. It's good to be aware of the fact that not all partners don't care at all and to know people can change
Agreed. Sometimes these reddit stories focus so much on the horrible that these nuggets of light seem to get lost, or worse yet, drowned out by negativity.
The OP has finally see things in a different light and has decided to do the right thing and save her marriage and family life for the sake of her children, good to go for her.
I’m happy she realized the error of her ways before doing something she can’t take back. I’m very happy that King gets the ending he deserves ❤
It is so nice to hear a story that doesn't begin with cheating and end in divorce
she realized her flaus and mistakes, took accountability and is trying to change, props to her for trying, most nowadays give up without trying, the quarantine was a blessing in disguise for their marrage
The husband is an amazing person for doing all that to support his family. As for her... she started off terrible, but I'm glad she realized it and changed for the better. I wish them the best
It’s so rare that people reflect on their actions and realize that they need to make a change without prompting. Very heartwarming to see someone deciding to work on their marriage instead of throw it away like many others have
This is straight up heartwarming! It sucks that she was originally thinking of cheating on her husband but I'm glad she realized her faults and worked on herself to become better.
insane character development. good for her for actually changing and see her faults. since theres people who see they're at fault but instead of improving or doing something to commend for that, they would push it into others instead. W wife for the development (L for thinking about cheating tho)
I’m 1 minute in, and I’m aghast. How in the world did this woman think she was anything but useless? She had no job. Didn’t contribute anything to the family financially. Didn’t contribute to housekeeping or child raising. She did nothing but run around doing her own thing… and she thought her HUSBAND was useless? This is utter insanity.
She did have a job it’s clearly stated she had a job
She worked from home. She had a job.
This is so wholesome 😭
Really isn’t a mother not paying any attention to their husband neither their kids is NOT wholesome
@@ThatOneBowlOfSoupyou didn’t watch the whole thing did you
@@ThatOneBowlOfSoup You're right. It's not. But that kind of person realizing that's what they are, and working tirelessly to fix it and managing to mend their relationship is.
@@ThatOneBowlOfSoupdid you even finish the video? She literally realized she was a bad partner and mother and changed 😭
I guess it’s kinda wholesome, but idk how you could ever go back to someone who considered cheating on you. Thoughts of divorce on the table, sure that hurts but you can come back from that, but thoughts of betraying your partner. That says a lot about your character and I think the majority of people wouldn’t want to come back from that.
That has probably been one of if not my favorite set of updates, I'm so glad her husband was quarantined and that she decided to turn their marriage around
having an emotionally absent partner is so draining, i just got out of a relationship with a guy who i love and care about but can’t handle not being able to emotionally connect with him often and it caused a lot of problems in our relationship. we decided to take the summer off and reevaluate who we are as people and where we want to be in life and how to get there. although there is a lot of improvement that needs to be made, i want to think that we can do it.
a reddit story that actually has a happy ending impossible
What a good woman. Literally, realizing she was doing wrong before anyone told her, working to fix it without asking, suddenly developing empathy for her husband. This is what Men need Women to be. View us as humans with needs instead of a resource to exploit.
Ok but they have such good music taste? Like mamamoo are amazing! I saw them live and i'm still mesmerised 🤩
The fact that u were able to reflect on everything and realize u are the problem took a lot of guts and I’m proud of u for that and actually trying to fix the situation before u made an unforgiving mistake.
Why has cheating become something so normalized? It shouldn't be the first thing you think of when unhappy in your relationship.
This shit's fucking disgusting.
It hasn't. Always been openly accepted for men.
Only difference is now it's openly accepted for woman to.
But both genders have always done it.
Because sex and having numerous partners has been so normalized. So narcissists easily brush it off as nothing.
Agreed. I was cheated on before so it hits especially hard when a woman is like "uhm i think i'll cheat you're not good enough" because a lot of the time the excuse is "I was bored"
like, okay?? How am I supposed to know you're bored of me and why the fuck can you even get bored of me didn't you mean it when you said you loved me???
Fr if I fell out of love I'd tell them not just straight up cheat on them
@@BlazingMoth28 exactly what should be done. If you and them both want to save it, you can then try and rekindle - but at least you're being fair to them, telling them the truth, even if there's no way back. It's not fair to rip someone's heart out like that
I really like the self awareness though, instead of the usually dillusional things. It’s really calming and not rage inducing like other stories.
That's such a refreshing lockdown story. I hope this family stays blessed and successful ❤
This is such an incredible post. Self awareness, improvement and hard work. I am so proud of the OP and the effort she puts in.
I love the happy ending! There is usually just misery in reddit stories.
The fact she even THOUGHT of having an affair would have been it for me.
Since she posted about it, id push for full custody and child support due to infidelity and marriage abandonment.
Bro is a good man
Wow a story with a happy ending for once
"Thought about having an affair." Man, no way I could trust her.
Its so great to hear she realised the problem and fixed it by herself. I teared up.
I honestly thought she was the husband until I listened more to the story. I’m glad they worked it out. Parenting is the hardest and the main job a person has.
So you assumed it was a man because you saw one parent was neglectful and was a terrible partner? Even though in the title it says "wife" and "mother" you still went ahead and assumed it was the husband. That's incredible
@@Rahat-cg8rv it’s been my experience growing up. So I guess I have an internal bias
You’ll never get back those years of emotional detachment from your kids, I know because I was in a similar situation when I was a child as well. Good on you though, that you realized your mistakes and actually owned up to it instead of denying your own faults. Hope you’ll continue to be better as a partner and parent.
She started it by stating she was completely in the wrong. Respect.
why did she think she was better than him to begin with? it doesn't seem like she had any reason
Its simply not realizing what you are doing wrong
She needed a wake up call she was simply living in a world of her own not realizing what was really happening she’s not the first one that this happened to and she for sure won’t be the last
At least she is part of the minority willing to try and make amends and fix the sinking boat
Great redemption story
The millisecond you think “it’s affair time” is the same millisecond you really need to step back and take in the bigger picture. Self absorption is truly a killer of relationships. Cause you won’t acknowledge what they do when your so absorbed in it unless you watch them 24/7 and witness every deed they do, you will always undervalue what the people around you do, even then, they still say “well that’s easy” well then do it yourself?
Perfect character arc, 100% on rotten tomatoes
I absolutely love this story! My parents tree were amazing PARTNERS, and shared in the home and child responsibilities…it’s so nice to see this woman realizing that during the pandemic. 🥰❤️
So your husband was basically a single parent raising them on his own while you did whatever you wanted? I'm glad you noticed you were wrong and tried to do something to change it.
So happy she realized her mistakes and fixed her relationship and family
Its so nice to hear a woman acknowledge her wrongs and hearing that she changed.
That's rare
@@DezGrowSpotFR
I'm glad she got the reality check she needed to reailize her flaws and actively chose to do better as opposed to slipping back into old habbits.
He’s the best dad ever
People are so fixated on affair word that they willing through everything on trash can. Yes its wrong but wheb person is tired or blind of other person efforts they do get such thoughts. I really don't know why people think life is all fairy tale. There are point in life where you want to kill you're partner while at the same time you love them unconditionally. These thoughts are not coming from concious mind but more likely a idea from sub concious mind where we pile up everything and look for any way out to satisfy ourselves.
Because threatening to have an affair is a really bad thing to do? Especially when you are married? And have kids?
@@TheMantisLord50 yes but thought process doesn't work like that. The things we all speak comes from concious mind while such things doesn't. I am not justifying it but yes people come with such thoughts when they're literally disconnected in relationship. Affairs is one of the most common thought process among relationship where people really believe that having a attention from another person might able to help them out without loosing anything. People do find other's attractive while they're married doesn't mean they're bad or need to jump into divorce crap. We all have a thought that what if we rob bank and get rich instantly. Should we are jail time because we think about it? Ofcourse not unless you're not actively planning on that or execute that doesn't mean anything. It's okay understand why you get this thinking and work on it. Why so much noise?
6:25 quick Note; OPs daughter being a fan of MAMAMOO is so real
Good on the wife for picking it up on her end instead of just quit! Way to save the family mom n dad!
this made me really happy. make more of these positive stories
honestley, props to her for realising all this.
I am so happy for you. You became vulnerable and were so honest.
daughter has amazing taste in kpop groups ❤
At least she changed and gave this story a happy ending.
I applaud her capacity for self reflection life shows all of us things but few of us recognize it
W mother for realising her mistakes
W mom at the end w husband at the beginning and end
I'm so happy to hear things going well 😭👍
HER DAUGHTER IS A MOOMOO!!!❤❤❤Stan mamamoo
Hey I'm glad you picked up on that before it was too late. Not a lot of people do and try to make a full-blown change
2:18 "that rock looks cool" my mind: France
Women introspecting seems to be quite an interesting and satysfying concept, and I hope to see more fiction writers give it a go
The way this happened warmed my heart
I can’t get over how terrible of a human being this woman was before her epiphany, and I’m so happy for the husband to finally have his wife back. I do feel bad for the kids though. To be 11 years old with a neglectful mother who suddenly wants to be involved can be very confusing. Her kids will likely always prefer their father, and ultimately he deserves that. I just wish my own mother decided to put in effort. Sadly, she stayed like this woman. She divorced my father when my sister and I were babies and stayed just as horrendous as this woman was before the pandemic while my father is like this father. Definitely all hit home. It’s probably why I’m honestly really angry with that woman for being so awful and believing herself the victim for so long.
I love your videos
Yep, Quarantine did the exact opposite to me and my ex, and she continued to treat me more and more like a child (While I was doing most of the cooking and cleaning, and paying all the bills) After 4 years of explaining I needed help around the house and to not talk so negatively about me to her friends, I finally ended it. It makes me sad but I know I could not have waited another 4 years before she caught on (If she ever did).
This post is so refreshing. It always feels hopeless when a person specially a parent is fixed on their toxic ways. So nice to see someone who broke out of it and became a better person.
I appreciate the people who have the bravery to admit when they are wrong
She doesn't deserve him.
Does! Now they love each other very much and the kids too stay mad
@@KysYujiPlsno she doesn’t. if it took him getting covid and her having to be an actual parent to realise all this, then she doesn’t deserve him. what would’ve happened if he never got covid?
She didn't mention until almost the end that he works as a researcher, meaning he makes most of the money.
She could have cheated on him, gotten full custody of the kids, and alimony and child support. And everyone would be telling her how stunning and brave she was right until her ex-husband eats a 9mm, which would prove he was always mentally unsound.
Finally! A good story with true happiness in the end!!! Lovely!
I'm really happy she was able to reflect on herself and truly work things out
Bro is the goat
Hmm, this woman behaved in much the same way as most men usually behave in marriage.
Statistically proven that women cheat more get fked
That’s a very generalized statement, have you considered not being a sexist asshole?
"Most” men 🤡
@@zacharysawcyn3066you’re right, almost all men do it
@@ryuk6517 You’ve met all 4 billion of them? Such generalized statements is so fucking stupid, congratulations.
I'm glad she improved her behavior and way of thinking. Mistakes don't make the person, how you handle them does.
It's unreal how common this dynamic is. The worst part is that the moms often leave the dad for a loser who ends up harming the kids.
My husband and I, depressed and desperately in love, decided after the big tension of moving in, that thanking each other for every mutual task was far better for each other and just made everything easier to do. It's so, so easy to thank your partner for making food, doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, etc. As long as you notice.
She doesn’t realize just how loyal most men are
Its great that she didnt broke her family and tried to improve herself and see her mistakes
Idk you, but can I say.. I am just so so proud of you. It takes one hell of a woman to even admit these things.. much less commit to fixing them. In an age of “men ain’t shit” and “fuck them kids”, it’s so easy for us women to fall victim to the trap in which you found yourself - on the brink of throwing away your entire marriage and family rather than putting in the necessary effort. It’s so so lovely to hear you celebrate your beautiful life in this way, and the pride you take in becoming a wonderful wife and mother is inspiring. We need more voices like yours amidst all the lies fed to our youth these days. 💔❤️🩹❤️🔥
So we're just gonna ignore that she was planning on having an affair? Like wow 😂 he definitely deserves better
She didn’t though.
@nikig2891 so? Still doesn't make it better. She still thought about it
@@nikig2891 yeah something tells me that if we reversed the genders here it wouldn't matter if he did or didn't. He'd be "disgusting" right?
@@Arricovshe didn't tho and they love each other now so u can't do anything
@@Arricovit’s definitely a topic to converse about as a family
But it is not an unforgivable offense merely thinking about something doesn’t make you a horrible person
She turned her life around and fixed her problems