to be more universal: love is the answer. love is the answer you're looking for. edit: i wrote this because i feel icked that he only talked about certain people with certain status. some people fail to be one, not everyone is lucky enough to able to say without a doubt that they have good relationship with people expected to be. the same story can be told about different people, sister, brother, mother, father, friend, teacher, wife, husband, nephew, neighbor, in laws, and so much more. it's universal.
Exactly. Mothers are overrated… mine is trying definitely but it’s always “I always give u food and shelter” and never “I’ll never judge u for crying or for the reason u r sad”….
except that this video doesnt fit for me since my mother isnt a good one she divorced my father and left me with him, after many years it was fine until i reverted back to islam from atheism but this was the process of me becoming muslim: atheist -> agnostic -> deist -> muslim. my father now doesnt allow me to pray and fasting is hard in ramadan too. my love is only for Allah not parents. also no love isnt always the right answer love has its limits
@@adnan_honest_jihadist5775 brother, one day, one day you will get the love you deserve. may your love for allah be reflected back to you through someone blessed by him
It's ok to be stuck with different circumstances. I believe this video can branch off and apply to circumstances like yours. Perhaps like USS mentioned above there isn't just your mother who is an option to spend time with. Maybe you could try reach out to acquaintances and grow new friendships (which I'll admit is difficult and doesn't always work, but it's worth a try right?). You're all special :D We can make it through anything thick or thin, may we venture farther together!
@@rexeno Hold your memories of her close. I'm sorry for your loss. How are you doing? Perhaps there's something you want to talk about? What she was like, what you used to do together. I heard it's important to remember these things but if doing so oversteps a personal boundary then I'm sorry, I won't pry further. Wish you all the best!
Honestly I usually find self help videos depressing, seeing them say I've "wasted my time but there's still time I can do better and live my life in a 'good' way" it overwhelms me about what I have done wrong and what I need to do right. But this was so beautiful because it was more of an anchoring, something simple yet beautiful advise. Thank you, this didn't leave me stressed and depressed like so many self help videos have in the past.
Yeah i've been having this issue too, I think creators nowadays have been going over the top with "wake up calls" there's no need for them to be so stressful
If you have a good relationship with your parents, absolutely spend time with them. My mom was a narcissist who refused help time and time again, she stole, lied, cheated, and chose drugs over me. It's something I don't even feel upset over anymore, my whole life was simply like that, so coming across this video, and other posts reminding people to love their loved ones, it just...feels odd to me? Like, that's normal. That's what should be expected. I wish I had a mom, and a dad, and the whole family really. I don't know why I'm typing this. Love your loved ones if you have them, some of us don't even have that, so count yourselves lucky and spend what little time you have with them. I think deep down, I just want to feel the things others here are feeling.
Bro you've gone through a lot and can still think through it, a sign of true will and strength! It's really rough having parents like that, I have a friend like you, or at least in the same sorta situation. One day he told me he didn't need his family, he recognised that they'd wronged him despite being there for them many times, so he cut ties. But one thing I won't forget is that he thought of the homies as true family. Sometimes you come across the right people from many different places. Thought I'd just share this with you cus maybe it could help. Anyway, hope you have a great day! Wish you all the best, and Merry Christmas!
"You know… people should talk to others every day, even if it’s a small talk. Otherwise their hearts will grow dark and serious. Talking to other builds bonds, and makes you feel grateful for that you’re alive. That’s the kind of creatures we human are." - Jiraiya
I lost my mother almost a year ago when I was 33. She had been sick in a way that was only going to get worse for a while and we tried a bone marrow transplant to fix it. It seemed to work at first but in the end there were too many complications and she passed away. I didn't know the previous year that that would be our last Thanksgiving and Christmas together. My dad doesn't compare to her - she was my best friend and now me and my father are somewhere between roommates and father and son. So remember, you don't know how much time you have with someone. If you find someone who is worth being around like she was, make sure that you appreciate them and spend time with them. But it's also okay to not spend time with someone who is not as good or just not worthy. Do what you need to keep your sanity.
This is going on in my own family too. It's scary knowing one day she could just be...gone. I'm sorry for your loss and thank you kind stranger for inspiring me with your strength and resolve. I wish you all the best! And Meeerry Christmas!!
Spot on man, I feel the same way. I LOVE spending time with my friends, they are what really help me to ground myself and enjoy the present with them. Last Sunday we had a picnic together behind one of our friend’s house because she was moving soon, and it was great. Didn’t even feel like she was moving, if that makes sense. Got some photos and videos on my camera, let one of my friends take some photos as well. Speaking of, remember to take photos and videos, Polaroid, Canon, phone, whatever. Trust me, you’ll want to keep those memories of you guys.
This made me smile and cheered me up, it has been a dark time but you are right, love your mama’s as long as they loved you (I understand not everyone’s situation is different)
Spend time with your loved ones before it's too late. My father passed away last September, and I wasn't talking to him because I was upset. I was mad because of something that he did, and I never had the chance to fix things between us. I will never forgive myself for what I did. I miss him and wish I had the chance to go back to his last week alive. (Sorry if it's confusing, English is my second language)
I'm really sorry for your loss bro, you've really had to deal with a lot. I do think that there isn't any way to escape regret no matter how hard you try. We humans aren't perfect after all, life can get unusually difficult and forging ahead for so long tells me you're a very strong person, don't you dare think otherwise. You can still recall and appreciate the time you had with him, and the fact you've learnt to see him differently could mean you've matured even more. And you really shouldn't be insecure about your English when it's pretty perfect. Wish you all the best! Hope I was able to bring some comfort (not the best at it 😅). Merry (early) Christmas!
On my whole life I've tried to approach to her and never really connected, and now that I've came out as trans, even less. I feel like I'm sharing an apartment with a stranger, we don't talk and when we do it's to complain from one another, the unconditional love that I should feel, it's not there
Wow I’m sorry to hear that :/ I don’t know what to say other than to not give up on her and to keep trying. Maybe try doing something you haven’t with her and you’ll connect and you’ll both realize how amazing you are
then why become trans? its scientifically wrong and even socially wrong as you see i would be dissapointed too but still would talk to you a lot especially educate you on how wrong it is to be trans and even homosexual, altough i can relate to an extent still since ive become muslim my father has become hostile towards me and my mother left me with him basically
I wont say to give up on the relationship with your mom, but cherish the relationships you do have and if you still love your mom, let her know. Dad too, if you have one.
I grew so tired of my mother's bad habits and decisions that I can't help but stay as away from her as I can. There's hardly something I can find for us to connect, specially now that everybody's glued to their phones, but I guess you got a point. She's really stressed and exhausted because of her job that she has barely time to do anything. Perhaps I should give her some comfort whenever I can, after all, if I don't, then who else would?
Your overwhelming kindness considerate-ness can also be dangerous for you. Make sure you're still taking care of yourself too mate! You're a good son/daughter for being concerned about her :). These times can be rough and it's good you've noticed she probably has a lot of stuff on her shoulders. I personally try to take care of all the dishwashing, laundry, cleaning (sorta) and give her back massages. Anyway, have a great day! And Merry (early) Christmas! I'm rooting for you!
This just reminded of how better my life is when i started living with my mother Im healthier, happier, smarter and overall i have everything needed Im not someone who shows love and appreciation easily My love language is hanging out and gift giving, im not a conpliment or hug type of person I usually look tired or dazed most of the time I find it hard to control how my face looks But i hope she knows im more than grateful and i hope to repay her one day
The video I TRULY NEEDED ,the past years especially year when I started self improving,I was always feeling empty, I wasn't able to enjoy hobbies I used to enjoy life plushie making or sewing because I thought I was very bad at them and they're useless not even able to have a good time with people that I love because all I cared about is to success but I didn't know who I am , I just locked myself in a box of meaningless reasons to survive, but I think it's just time to take a break, I miss spending time with my family like the old days and maybe I'm planing to make plushies for my little cousins ones I see them again
The message of the video is as good as old animes in the video🔥 Seriously, every time I see an old anime, I feel nostalgic, though I wasn't even born when it was made...
I wish I could still spend time with my mom, but she passed away this May and I still am grieving. Ever since, I've just been mindlessly living my life, going to the gym, playing games, until something happens.
Lzli undertood in a magical way about true happines and peace, i too had those thoughts about those aspects of life, It's good to see such well made video❤.
Well said. I’m 21, but still have my grandparents and parents. Haven’t seen them as often ofc because I live in another city for university. There’s also a language barrier between me and my grandparents who don’t speak English. I wanna get to know them better. Even as a teen you really don’t get certain things and even though I’m just starting my 20s I definitely understand life a little bit more than when I was a teenager so I feel like I should learn more about them.
Well you've probably already thought of it, but learning your grandparents language is definitely gonna be useful, even if you learn bit by bit, have small conversations with them one after the other getting better each time. That's what I plan to do too. I will say that I recently started talking to my grandparents and their stories ranged from years of picnics with their lover to full blown immigration due to war. Super fascinating, I've been noting down bits and pieces so I remember them. But anyway, point is you probably won't regret learning about their life just like you're creating your own story right now to share one day! Wish you all the best! And Merry Christmas!
Yeah… sorry Mum abandoned me when I was 25 and that destroyed my self-confidence for a few years. Every time I flew halfway across the world to see her again, I would have a midlife crisis afterwards. This is a Christmas video someone sent me of her a few years before she passed. th-cam.com/video/x31bkycSAEQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=oPudyG4V37Xaukr9
That just sucks man, I'm sorry you went through all that. Just know there will always be people who will be there for you, whether that be other family, friends, soon-to-be-friends, therapist, or even the people here (including me) who are willing to listen (read) to whatever you feel you need to get off your chest. I aspire to have the strength you have to be able to survive all that. I wish you only the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
@ All we have is ourselves. If we get deeply hurt and people turn away from us, then we must look within and let our inner voice help us. I’m just a former Aussie actor who now makes TH-cam content, it won’t be seen by the many but it’s soothing to create things.
I’m not close with my mother, but I have other people that I care about a lot. Everytime I spend with them, whether it was productive or just good fun, is time well spent. I would not give that time up for anything else.
Dang. My life has always been good except for a few hiccups so I never felt the need to go on a self improvement journey. I don't even watch self improvement videos so Idk how this got on my recommended but it did. I already live by the message of this video but could never put it into words why I value it so much. I spend so much time with my family, everyday I tell my mother how amazing she is. I tell my father how much I love him. I spend so much time just talking and hanging out with my sister. I visit my grandparents twice a week just to have lunch with them. I go out of my room constantly just to have meaningless conversations with my parents. Simply because I want to be around them. Often times, I see people talk about how they don't have a great relationship with their parents and while some have very good reasons as to why, I also see/hear that they simply don't spend time with them. We won't be able to have our parents forever when we're alive so we have to be around them for as much as we can. This video didn't necessarily change my life, but put into words why I live the way I do. Thank you.
Lol, I mean u could say u were scared and wanted to be with her, no shame in that. But of course the perfect time is still anytime she's there throughout the rest of the day. Merry (early) Christmas!
i wish my family wasn’t so divided. my parents don’t love eachother anymore but it seems like they just don’t feel like getting divorced; so my mother is isolated in her room most of the time, and my father spends his time in the living room watching hateful political stuff on the TV, a lot of which is directed at a group that he doesn’t even know i’m a part of. i wish i could enjoy these simple pleasures lol 🙃
except that this video doesnt fit for me since my mother isnt a good one she divorced my father and left me with him, after many years it was fine until i reverted back to islam from atheism but this was the process of me becoming muslim: atheist -> agnostic -> deist -> muslim. my father now doesnt allow me to pray and fasting is hard in ramadan too. my love is only for Allah not parents. im glad it is divided! bcs being a family means being a slave like with me. also what group? hate is never justified but maybe his dissapointment is
I'm sorry you have to go through this, I can somewhat understand because a friend is in a similar household. You're a strong person for forging ahead despite this. It will surely get better one day. Perhaps reach out to someone? Maybe a professional who could help navigate this cus I think it'd bring you some peace of mind. I wish you all the best! And Merry (early) Christmas!!
Lmao, maybe ask for some other game, I find cheap mobile games or unique board games from the store are nice (although she still also rejects my ideas from time to time lol)
my mother is a horrible and arrogant person... their are reasons why their is only one person i value who also is the only person that acctually accepts me, likes me and makes my days better... my parents might throw me out because my mother had another tantrum... that person i talked about, instantly understood my problem and would be more than happy to let me live with her, till i can get something of my own... don´t feel down if you have a horrible mother... hug or spend time with other people that acctualy care about you!
You are one lucky human to have someone that truly understands you. I'm sorry you also had to go through being with your mother. I wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas! And thank you for your kind reminder :D
This was a valuable lesson but I keep seeing comments about people who don’t have a good relationship with their mother; I personally am close to my dear mother and she’s always good to me, but when I see other people who can’t enjoy that same gift, especially when they have abusive parents, it fills me with hatred and wrath for those people
I can understand your frustration mate, I've been reading these for a while myself. Sometimes life is just like that tho, and it's never wrong to take a break from worrying about other's health in fact that just shows you're taking good care of yourself. You're lucky, and I think you deserve to be happy. Wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
It happens lol. I prefer to stay alone. Mostly it's good. Sometimes, i mean rarely I feel sad about being alone. Then I realise that it's the perfect situation to grow. No one watching These are just human emotions. Don't get controlled by them.
as a person who has not o well bond with his family, i still dont know how to create one but thank you for this, ill put some effort to make them happy even if i fail
It's normal to fail, take it from me, no matter what I do my brother just won't stop pushing me away even after taking advice from my mum and quite a few others. It's ok because you also have your friends, or perhaps you could also make some new friends. I started the year with only a couple remaining close-ish contacts but put myself out there and worked the social system. Now I have a couple more close-ish friends! But what's important is we enjoy each other's company Point being, u can try reach out to others apart from family. Hope my story helped :) Merry (early) Christmas!
Dang that's not nice of her. But hey! There's always other family, friends, or even to-be-friends! Personally I believe loving yourself is just as important. You're special my guy, I hope I was of some comfort, Merry (early) Christmas!
except that this video doesnt fit for me since my mother isnt a good one she divorced my father and left me with him, after many years it was fine until i reverted back to islam from atheism but this was the process of me becoming muslim: atheist -> agnostic -> deist -> muslim. my father now doesnt allow me to pray and fasting is hard in ramadan too. my love is only for Allah not parents
It's tough, the sorta stuff you're dealing with. Wherever you intend to go in life, I really wish you all the best! You can always reach out to others if it becomes too much or too confusing. Hope I could somewhat help you think about it :) Merry (early) Christmas!
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I don't think I can begin to imagine going through that, you've got an inspiring level of strength. I hope you're doing better! Perhaps you can talk about things that are on your mind? I'm happy to listen (read). Wish you all the best! And Merry (early) Christmas!
But capitalism prevents me from being with my friends in family, it forces me to choose between keeping them fed or being around them. Work has become the meaning of life, this truth must be realized not only in the self but in a system of selves. Seize the means of production friends.
This situation is incredibly important to consider too, you're spot on. There are still many ways to connect over long distances. I wish you all the best mate! And I'm rooting for you getting a more convenient job if you're looking for one. Merry (early) Christmas!
And it sucks that you can't really escape them too right, I know the feeling. While I know I understand your situation I recommend reaching out to someone maybe, I know finding solace in friends can be nice, or finding ways to set boundaries if possible at all. But I know it can be tough regardless of how hard you try (but it can also go smoothly). I wish you all the best mate, and I hope you're doing ok, Merry (early) Christmas!
I know it can be tough when this is the case, and I feel you mate. I have a friend who has parents far away and tries to connect via FaceTimes but she says they're just not the same as face-to-face. But even if it's not as good she admits it's better than nothing. I hope however you're managing that you can figure something out. I'm rooting for you! And wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
I feel the same way bro......although I can still keep in touch I have to take a 4 hour trip in the midst of studies if I want to. But personally I wonder, do you still remember why you chose college? What will you do if you drop out? Will college even land you at the place you wanna be at? Hope I was somewhat helpful, wish you the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
Hey you're doing well mate, you're strong! I will say reaching out to her is still an option but if u already have other special people that's already great. Wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
That's rough, I'm sorry you have to go through that. And to answer your questions perhaps a friend? Or make a new friend (I guess u shouldn't dump all this on them right away tho)? Teacher? Therapist? You could even talk here, I'd be willing to listen (read) Wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmaas!
If you're doing a 9-5 i CANNOT stress enough about how important keeping in touch woth your parents is. They ain't got a lot of time left with you.
unless you work eith them 9-5 its a nightmare for me as an autist
Damn. Didn't expect to find a self improvement video that is actually good. I even shed a small tear. Great video, thank you!
if it would be good it wouldve affected me too which it didnt
@@adnan_honest_jihadist5775 Bro, your username is "honest jihadist", any opinion that you have is irrelevant.
@@SadSmileGames why? just bcs i have a different opinion then you? do you even know what jihad means?
to be more universal:
love is the answer.
love is the answer you're looking for.
edit:
i wrote this because i feel icked that he only talked about certain people with certain status. some people fail to be one, not everyone is lucky enough to able to say without a doubt that they have good relationship with people expected to be.
the same story can be told about different people, sister, brother, mother, father, friend, teacher, wife, husband, nephew, neighbor, in laws, and so much more. it's universal.
Exactly. Mothers are overrated… mine is trying definitely but it’s always “I always give u food and shelter” and never “I’ll never judge u for crying or for the reason u r sad”….
except that this video doesnt fit for me since my mother isnt a good one she divorced my father and left me with him, after many years it was fine until i reverted back to islam from atheism but this was the process of me becoming muslim: atheist -> agnostic -> deist -> muslim. my father now doesnt allow me to pray and fasting is hard in ramadan too. my love is only for Allah not parents. also no love isnt always the right answer love has its limits
@@adnan_honest_jihadist5775 brother, one day,
one day you will get the love you deserve.
may your love for allah be reflected back to you through someone blessed by him
he did say near the end that the entire subject is universal, and that it applies to others
Yea, I hang out with my mom a lot. But I still feel very empty sometimes.
I wish I had a mother that wasn't a hateful, spiteful and abusive person.
There is always someone to talk, it could be your father, a sibling, a friend, or a therapist
I did, sadly, she is no longer here
@@rexeno I am sorry for your losee😥
It's ok to be stuck with different circumstances. I believe this video can branch off and apply to circumstances like yours. Perhaps like USS mentioned above there isn't just your mother who is an option to spend time with. Maybe you could try reach out to acquaintances and grow new friendships (which I'll admit is difficult and doesn't always work, but it's worth a try right?).
You're all special :D
We can make it through anything thick or thin, may we venture farther together!
@@rexeno Hold your memories of her close. I'm sorry for your loss. How are you doing? Perhaps there's something you want to talk about? What she was like, what you used to do together. I heard it's important to remember these things but if doing so oversteps a personal boundary then I'm sorry, I won't pry further. Wish you all the best!
Honestly I usually find self help videos depressing, seeing them say I've "wasted my time but there's still time I can do better and live my life in a 'good' way" it overwhelms me about what I have done wrong and what I need to do right. But this was so beautiful because it was more of an anchoring, something simple yet beautiful advise. Thank you, this didn't leave me stressed and depressed like so many self help videos have in the past.
Yeah i've been having this issue too, I think creators nowadays have been going over the top with "wake up calls" there's no need for them to be so stressful
If you have a good relationship with your parents, absolutely spend time with them. My mom was a narcissist who refused help time and time again, she stole, lied, cheated, and chose drugs over me. It's something I don't even feel upset over anymore, my whole life was simply like that, so coming across this video, and other posts reminding people to love their loved ones, it just...feels odd to me? Like, that's normal. That's what should be expected. I wish I had a mom, and a dad, and the whole family really. I don't know why I'm typing this. Love your loved ones if you have them, some of us don't even have that, so count yourselves lucky and spend what little time you have with them.
I think deep down, I just want to feel the things others here are feeling.
Bro you've gone through a lot and can still think through it, a sign of true will and strength! It's really rough having parents like that, I have a friend like you, or at least in the same sorta situation. One day he told me he didn't need his family, he recognised that they'd wronged him despite being there for them many times, so he cut ties. But one thing I won't forget is that he thought of the homies as true family. Sometimes you come across the right people from many different places. Thought I'd just share this with you cus maybe it could help. Anyway, hope you have a great day! Wish you all the best, and Merry Christmas!
"You know… people should talk to others every day, even if it’s a small talk. Otherwise their hearts will grow dark and serious. Talking to other builds bonds, and makes you feel grateful for that you’re alive. That’s the kind of creatures we human are." - Jiraiya
I honestly haven't been feeling good over the past few months and I'm glad this showed up on TH-cam. Thank you and stay safe.
You're strong mate, I believe in you. And I wish you all the best! Merry Christmas!
I lost my mother almost a year ago when I was 33. She had been sick in a way that was only going to get worse for a while and we tried a bone marrow transplant to fix it. It seemed to work at first but in the end there were too many complications and she passed away. I didn't know the previous year that that would be our last Thanksgiving and Christmas together. My dad doesn't compare to her - she was my best friend and now me and my father are somewhere between roommates and father and son.
So remember, you don't know how much time you have with someone. If you find someone who is worth being around like she was, make sure that you appreciate them and spend time with them. But it's also okay to not spend time with someone who is not as good or just not worthy. Do what you need to keep your sanity.
Allah tests us in all kinds of ways
Underrated
This is going on in my own family too. It's scary knowing one day she could just be...gone. I'm sorry for your loss and thank you kind stranger for inspiring me with your strength and resolve. I wish you all the best! And Meeerry Christmas!!
Spot on man, I feel the same way. I LOVE spending time with my friends, they are what really help me to ground myself and enjoy the present with them. Last Sunday we had a picnic together behind one of our friend’s house because she was moving soon, and it was great. Didn’t even feel like she was moving, if that makes sense. Got some photos and videos on my camera, let one of my friends take some photos as well.
Speaking of, remember to take photos and videos, Polaroid, Canon, phone, whatever. Trust me, you’ll want to keep those memories of you guys.
Wow that’s so cool
inshallah you guys didnt do somethiing disturbing. didnt know you needed friends to live... oh wait you dont
This made me smile and cheered me up, it has been a dark time but you are right, love your mama’s as long as they loved you (I understand not everyone’s situation is different)
I’m happy to hear that, life can be so tough but there’s always those moments of gratitude and happiness
Spend time with your loved ones before it's too late. My father passed away last September, and I wasn't talking to him because I was upset. I was mad because of something that he did, and I never had the chance to fix things between us. I will never forgive myself for what I did. I miss him and wish I had the chance to go back to his last week alive.
(Sorry if it's confusing, English is my second language)
I'm really sorry for your loss bro, you've really had to deal with a lot.
I do think that there isn't any way to escape regret no matter how hard you try. We humans aren't perfect after all, life can get unusually difficult and forging ahead for so long tells me you're a very strong person, don't you dare think otherwise.
You can still recall and appreciate the time you had with him, and the fact you've learnt to see him differently could mean you've matured even more.
And you really shouldn't be insecure about your English when it's pretty perfect.
Wish you all the best! Hope I was able to bring some comfort (not the best at it 😅). Merry (early) Christmas!
On my whole life I've tried to approach to her and never really connected, and now that I've came out as trans, even less. I feel like I'm sharing an apartment with a stranger, we don't talk and when we do it's to complain from one another, the unconditional love that I should feel, it's not there
Wow I’m sorry to hear that :/ I don’t know what to say other than to not give up on her and to keep trying. Maybe try doing something you haven’t with her and you’ll connect and you’ll both realize how amazing you are
then why become trans? its scientifically wrong and even socially wrong as you see i would be dissapointed too but still would talk to you a lot especially educate you on how wrong it is to be trans and even homosexual, altough i can relate to an extent still since ive become muslim my father has become hostile towards me and my mother left me with him basically
I wont say to give up on the relationship with your mom, but cherish the relationships you do have and if you still love your mom, let her know. Dad too, if you have one.
I didn’t even live for 13 years yet💀
13 years of regret?! That’s basically my whole life! I definitely don’t regret THAT much lol
I grew so tired of my mother's bad habits and decisions that I can't help but stay as away from her as I can. There's hardly something I can find for us to connect, specially now that everybody's glued to their phones, but I guess you got a point. She's really stressed and exhausted because of her job that she has barely time to do anything. Perhaps I should give her some comfort whenever I can, after all, if I don't, then who else would?
Your overwhelming kindness considerate-ness can also be dangerous for you. Make sure you're still taking care of yourself too mate!
You're a good son/daughter for being concerned about her :). These times can be rough and it's good you've noticed she probably has a lot of stuff on her shoulders. I personally try to take care of all the dishwashing, laundry, cleaning (sorta) and give her back massages.
Anyway, have a great day! And Merry (early) Christmas! I'm rooting for you!
This just reminded of how better my life is when i started living with my mother
Im healthier, happier, smarter and overall i have everything needed
Im not someone who shows love and appreciation easily
My love language is hanging out and gift giving, im not a conpliment or hug type of person
I usually look tired or dazed most of the time
I find it hard to control how my face looks
But i hope she knows im more than grateful and i hope to repay her one day
You're an amazing son/daughter. I'm rooting for you! :D
@chriskh-studentoflight217 im a woman, but yes, thank you!
Thanks dude
You earned a subseriber. Thanks for the beautiful remider ❤
The video I TRULY NEEDED ,the past years especially year when I started self improving,I was always feeling empty, I wasn't able to enjoy hobbies I used to enjoy life plushie making or sewing because I thought I was very bad at them and they're useless not even able to have a good time with people that I love because all I cared about is to success but I didn't know who I am , I just locked myself in a box of meaningless reasons to survive, but I think it's just time to take a break, I miss spending time with my family like the old days and maybe I'm planing to make plushies for my little cousins ones I see them again
I’m so happy to hear that
Leaving a comment here cause more people need to see this.
And I'm placing one too
same
The message of the video is as good as old animes in the video🔥
Seriously, every time I see an old anime, I feel nostalgic, though I wasn't even born when it was made...
This is beautiful man, keep it up ! People need to see this
This was beautiful
So high quality message with so good quality editing this video deserves millions of likes 🤎🤎
thank you so much
I almost started crying, thanks.
I wish I could still spend time with my mom, but she passed away this May and I still am grieving. Ever since, I've just been mindlessly living my life, going to the gym, playing games, until something happens.
Lzli undertood in a magical way about true happines and peace, i too had those thoughts about those aspects of life, It's good to see such well made video❤.
Well said. I’m 21, but still have my grandparents and parents. Haven’t seen them as often ofc because I live in another city for university. There’s also a language barrier between me and my grandparents who don’t speak English. I wanna get to know them better.
Even as a teen you really don’t get certain things and even though I’m just starting my 20s I definitely understand life a little bit more than when I was a teenager so I feel like I should learn more about them.
Well you've probably already thought of it, but learning your grandparents language is definitely gonna be useful, even if you learn bit by bit, have small conversations with them one after the other getting better each time. That's what I plan to do too.
I will say that I recently started talking to my grandparents and their stories ranged from years of picnics with their lover to full blown immigration due to war. Super fascinating, I've been noting down bits and pieces so I remember them. But anyway, point is you probably won't regret learning about their life just like you're creating your own story right now to share one day!
Wish you all the best! And Merry Christmas!
What a beautiful message! I am so glad I found your channel! 🫶
What a beautiful comment
Thank you for this video.
That voice makes it the way i need to full focus on video and it can't go in background
I wish I had a mother who's that cool. All my mother do is to abuse me and dump all of her anger from work on me.
I love my mama and papa so much
Yeah… sorry Mum abandoned me when I was 25 and that destroyed my self-confidence for a few years. Every time I flew halfway across the world to see her again, I would have a midlife crisis afterwards. This is a Christmas video someone sent me of her a few years before she passed. th-cam.com/video/x31bkycSAEQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=oPudyG4V37Xaukr9
That just sucks man, I'm sorry you went through all that. Just know there will always be people who will be there for you, whether that be other family, friends, soon-to-be-friends, therapist, or even the people here (including me) who are willing to listen (read) to whatever you feel you need to get off your chest. I aspire to have the strength you have to be able to survive all that.
I wish you only the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
@ All we have is ourselves. If we get deeply hurt and people turn away from us, then we must look within and let our inner voice help us. I’m just a former Aussie actor who now makes TH-cam content, it won’t be seen by the many but it’s soothing to create things.
I’m not close with my mother, but I have other people that I care about a lot. Everytime I spend with them, whether it was productive or just good fun, is time well spent. I would not give that time up for anything else.
That's a W you got right there mate
@@chriskh-studentoflight217 thank you, stranger.
Good video, thanks for it
Remember me when you get famous
I will! ☺️
Dang. My life has always been good except for a few hiccups so I never felt the need to go on a self improvement journey. I don't even watch self improvement videos so Idk how this got on my recommended but it did.
I already live by the message of this video but could never put it into words why I value it so much. I spend so much time with my family, everyday I tell my mother how amazing she is. I tell my father how much I love him. I spend so much time just talking and hanging out with my sister. I visit my grandparents twice a week just to have lunch with them.
I go out of my room constantly just to have meaningless conversations with my parents. Simply because I want to be around them.
Often times, I see people talk about how they don't have a great relationship with their parents and while some have very good reasons as to why, I also see/hear that they simply don't spend time with them. We won't be able to have our parents forever when we're alive so we have to be around them for as much as we can.
This video didn't necessarily change my life, but put into words why I live the way I do. Thank you.
Damn, this video is actually pretty good and quite simple as well. I hope that you gain more subscribers!
Looking at my clock, which tells me that the time is 4AM, I do not think this is the perfect time to spend time with my mother.
Lol, I mean u could say u were scared and wanted to be with her, no shame in that. But of course the perfect time is still anytime she's there throughout the rest of the day. Merry (early) Christmas!
i wish my family wasn’t so divided. my parents don’t love eachother anymore but it seems like they just don’t feel like getting divorced; so my mother is isolated in her room most of the time, and my father spends his time in the living room watching hateful political stuff on the TV, a lot of which is directed at a group that he doesn’t even know i’m a part of.
i wish i could enjoy these simple pleasures lol 🙃
I'm in the same boat. Except my mother is a lot more distant and angry when she isn't.
except that this video doesnt fit for me since my mother isnt a good one she divorced my father and left me with him, after many years it was fine until i reverted back to islam from atheism but this was the process of me becoming muslim: atheist -> agnostic -> deist -> muslim. my father now doesnt allow me to pray and fasting is hard in ramadan too. my love is only for Allah not parents. im glad it is divided! bcs being a family means being a slave like with me. also what group? hate is never justified but maybe his dissapointment is
@@adnan_honest_jihadist5775my heart goes out to you brother.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, I can somewhat understand because a friend is in a similar household. You're a strong person for forging ahead despite this. It will surely get better one day. Perhaps reach out to someone? Maybe a professional who could help navigate this cus I think it'd bring you some peace of mind.
I wish you all the best! And Merry (early) Christmas!!
My mom disagree when i ask her to play uno w me lmao 😭
Lmao, maybe ask for some other game, I find cheap mobile games or unique board games from the store are nice (although she still also rejects my ideas from time to time lol)
I love you so much ❤
I just wanted to comment thank you for this this is easy to forget thanks for the reminder.
i love my parents
thank you, this is beautiful and i love your voice
yay
I loved this, but "Today you'r on your Death-Bed." shook me up a little!
my mother is a horrible and arrogant person... their are reasons why their is only one person i value who also is the only person that acctually accepts me, likes me and makes my days better... my parents might throw me out because my mother had another tantrum... that person i talked about, instantly understood my problem and would be more than happy to let me live with her, till i can get something of my own... don´t feel down if you have a horrible mother... hug or spend time with other people that acctualy care about you!
You are one lucky human to have someone that truly understands you. I'm sorry you also had to go through being with your mother.
I wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas! And thank you for your kind reminder :D
@@chriskh-studentoflight217 thanks and merry christmas to you too ;)
Unfortunately, my mother is dead, but I’ll try to pretend that this video is talking about my father
:c this is so cute...
and thank you...🫶☮️
I'm gonna go hug my dad
Beautiful :`)
Yep I think my mom is okay tbh
She isn’t perfect though, because no one ever is
That's spot on mate! For me it's my dad but I still really enjoy his company. Have a great day, and Merry Christmas!
This was a valuable lesson but I keep seeing comments about people who don’t have a good relationship with their mother; I personally am close to my dear mother and she’s always good to me, but when I see other people who can’t enjoy that same gift, especially when they have abusive parents, it fills me with hatred and wrath for those people
I can understand your frustration mate, I've been reading these for a while myself. Sometimes life is just like that tho, and it's never wrong to take a break from worrying about other's health in fact that just shows you're taking good care of yourself. You're lucky, and I think you deserve to be happy. Wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
It happens lol. I prefer to stay alone. Mostly it's good. Sometimes, i mean rarely I feel sad about being alone. Then I realise that it's the perfect situation to grow. No one watching
These are just human emotions. Don't get controlled by them.
as a person who has not o well bond with his family, i still dont know how to create one but thank you for this, ill put some effort to make them happy even if i fail
It's normal to fail, take it from me, no matter what I do my brother just won't stop pushing me away even after taking advice from my mum and quite a few others. It's ok because you also have your friends, or perhaps you could also make some new friends. I started the year with only a couple remaining close-ish contacts but put myself out there and worked the social system. Now I have a couple more close-ish friends! But what's important is we enjoy each other's company
Point being, u can try reach out to others apart from family.
Hope my story helped :)
Merry (early) Christmas!
at least i spend time with my mother every wednesday :P
I thought it was going to be a bit better, but eh, fine enough
She hates me (her words)
Dang that's not nice of her. But hey! There's always other family, friends, or even to-be-friends! Personally I believe loving yourself is just as important. You're special my guy, I hope I was of some comfort, Merry (early) Christmas!
Never forget to honor thy mother and father. There will come a day when you won’t be able to.
except that this video doesnt fit for me since my mother isnt a good one she divorced my father and left me with him, after many years it was fine until i reverted back to islam from atheism but this was the process of me becoming muslim: atheist -> agnostic -> deist -> muslim. my father now doesnt allow me to pray and fasting is hard in ramadan too. my love is only for Allah not parents
It's tough, the sorta stuff you're dealing with. Wherever you intend to go in life, I really wish you all the best! You can always reach out to others if it becomes too much or too confusing. Hope I could somewhat help you think about it :)
Merry (early) Christmas!
i would i so absolutely would hug her so tight. but...she passed 6 years ago, today.
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I don't think I can begin to imagine going through that, you've got an inspiring level of strength. I hope you're doing better! Perhaps you can talk about things that are on your mind? I'm happy to listen (read). Wish you all the best! And Merry (early) Christmas!
...Thanks
Thanks don't have a mother or anyone I love.
wow.
Thanks
But capitalism prevents me from being with my friends in family, it forces me to choose between keeping them fed or being around them. Work has become the meaning of life, this truth must be realized not only in the self but in a system of selves. Seize the means of production friends.
that's what they want you to believe. pro tip: it's all bs. and you know that.
This situation is incredibly important to consider too, you're spot on. There are still many ways to connect over long distances. I wish you all the best mate! And I'm rooting for you getting a more convenient job if you're looking for one. Merry (early) Christmas!
Mm... your so right
my parents abuse me bro
And it sucks that you can't really escape them too right, I know the feeling. While I know I understand your situation I recommend reaching out to someone maybe, I know finding solace in friends can be nice, or finding ways to set boundaries if possible at all.
But I know it can be tough regardless of how hard you try (but it can also go smoothly). I wish you all the best mate, and I hope you're doing ok, Merry (early) Christmas!
@@chriskh-studentoflight217 thank you and merry christmas!
Cute :) Oddly, never seen content with this message before. Very warming
I am very far away from my mother
I know it can be tough when this is the case, and I feel you mate. I have a friend who has parents far away and tries to connect via FaceTimes but she says they're just not the same as face-to-face. But even if it's not as good she admits it's better than nothing.
I hope however you're managing that you can figure something out. I'm rooting for you! And wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
miss my family brah maybe college wasnt the best decision
I feel the same way bro......although I can still keep in touch I have to take a 4 hour trip in the midst of studies if I want to. But personally I wonder, do you still remember why you chose college? What will you do if you drop out? Will college even land you at the place you wanna be at? Hope I was somewhat helpful, wish you the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
I thought it was about an anime character in the thumbnail XD
Nice video bro
Whats the music name?
Subwoofer Lullaby and thank u :)
@Lzlixty no problem brother I really like ur content ❤️
Sorry, i cannot do that with my mother, she is so far away and i never knew her. I don't Have a mother and that's just fine
Hey you're doing well mate, you're strong! I will say reaching out to her is still an option but if u already have other special people that's already great. Wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmas!
@chriskh-studentoflight217 thank you! Merry (early) Christmas to you too!!! ❤
If only this video had found me 3 years ago
it’s not too late
@@cam-dasmartman I'm afraid it is, my mom is already dead😞
😔🚬
🫂
No
But my mom is cheated on my dad online now who should I tell my pains🥲
That's rough, I'm sorry you have to go through that. And to answer your questions perhaps a friend? Or make a new friend (I guess u shouldn't dump all this on them right away tho)? Teacher? Therapist? You could even talk here, I'd be willing to listen (read)
Wish you all the best! Merry (early) Christmaas!
Thanks