I have been a HG listener for four years. Had a very predominant, abusive spouse who is a narcissist and a very complex situation in which my child and I escaped. The process of leaving was near insufferable (house displacement for eight months) and rebuilding was absolutely grueling. I could never find a therapist, a YT channel or any literature that was able to distinctly explain the manipulations and their origins and respective meanings to the degree of specificity other than this man. I don’t care how it’s delivered or who it is delivered by…but give me the most accurate information, give me the truth, so I can understand the situation and ensure I do not repeat it because the damage was extensive. The trauma to my child has been significant. It is not an option to ever happen again. The knowledge I have gained has been immeasurable…not only for me but also for my child who is approaching adulthood. I understand narcissism to the effect that I can appreciate not only my own narcissistic traits and how they healthily propel me in life but that narcissists do contribute to society (more evolved narcissists) and as long as I’m not ensnared in an intimate relationship with one…I now have a healthy and logical perspective, less skewed by emotional thinking. He has saved many lives…including mine and my child. The scope of his content is vast and his prescription for gaining peace and freedom is 100% the only way. I enjoyed this interview, and the questions asked were very mindful adding a different flavor to the discussion. I no longer consider myself a victim or a survivor of a narcissist, after four years of listening to Tudor, but a scholar of his work that is designed for my protection. And, so far, it has worked brilliantly. I am forever thankful for that one night while feverishly searching for answers about this erratic behavior that Google graciously led me to his channel.
@@claraclaraj You are very welcome! It is entirely possible to come full circle. The passage of time and distance and no contact are your friends. It’s been eight years since we were homeless, living in a car for eight months and legally relocated 3000 miles away from him. It was a life lesson and a valuable one. Believe it or not, there is a lot of good things that can evolve from these situations…with the hands of time! 💕☀️💫☀️💕
@@claraclaraj Hache G. Now has a series on survivors that he has helped escaped the is the instrument of a narcissist. Just like Amy story, the stories are just a fascinating and incredible to listen to. The amount of wealth and education that HG has is something beyond anything anyone can believe. I would urge everyone, even those that do not believe H jeez work, listen to the series and how these people have put H, jeez work into practice to be able to escape their instrument of a narcissist. there are not many channels on TH-cam of real narcissist that are actually helping people like HG is.
Bingo. He nailed it. He said "but if you were in an intimate relationship with me...". That's the DIFFERENCE. Others wouldn't see it or get it because they aren't in an intimate relationship with them.
"Have I ever met another Ultra- no, because there's only one. Me." hahahaha, I love HG, you made me laugh out loud. Thanks so much for your insight, both Narc Con and HG Tudor.
I must be crazy, but I like him. He was the first one on here to open up my eyes to the truths of narcissism. I recognized the behaviors but didn't have a name for them. HG put things into perspective and gave me a deep understanding of what it was all really about. It helped me to let go of the Narc, and also to understand the demon inside him. I find HG to be a highly intelligent man, it doesn't bother me that he's a narc, and psychopath, as he truly is helping people by unmasking narcissism straight from the horses mouth so to speak, and who better? As for you Paula, you have spoken out my heart, so many times I can't can even begin to express my gratitude., or I just wouldn't stop. You too speak straight from the soul and into our hearts giving us yet even more comprehension into this disorder that so many people have. and make us victim of. Once the cat is out of the bag, and the truth about a person's disorder is out, you develop a much deeper understanding of them and even the hurt begins to subside. It's not their fault, but it only proves that that person was never right for you and you now have a deeper understanding as why things turned out the way they did. It only hurts when you don't know. Once you come from that level of understanding, letting go becomes so much easier, and acceptance for differences is created with no more pain. Letting a Narc go, is the most freeing thing one can do, and understanding the reason why, is the most forgiving thing you can give to yourself. Let go and forgive, be free.
Remember this his hot furry unleashing upon you will make you change your mind in a heartbeat! I would never want to go on the receiving end. You would never believe it was the same person!!
Thank you Paula. Good interview. H.G. Tudor was the "first" resource that I found after searching for some information after 20 years unknowingly married to a Cluster B FULL spectrum wife who triangulated me as an option... Excruciatingly painful, but instinctively I left everything behind and have never looked back. Both of you have been very informative and enlightening with "what the hell I was dealing with" I appreciate both of your collective contributions to this subject matter and your channels. Thank you and H.G.!
I am uncertain about the meaning of altruism at times. But I know we all get ‘something’ out of doing a good turn. However, it’s good to know the difference in that HG experiences no warm fuzzy feeling when he receives praise for what we feel is helpful to us. I also understand HG’s reasons for helping people are far removed from those of an empathic person.
HG is the only Naccecist that I accept in my life "at an appropriate distance of course" I would have liked his knowledge and honesty 40 years ago, then I think my life would have been different, but I still listen to HG every day and learn increasingly ! Thx HG
Simply listening to his videos and interviews helps me, without taking any action. I’m an empath/normal person. I’ve been tricked many times by narcissists all my life and I got exhausted by it. Only recently been listening to HG and I have gained clarity and understanding over what’s been happening all my life. GOSO is the only option, and I now fully understand how important GOSO is. Now all I want to do is hang around with people of my kind, as hard as that is. In the end, I’m grateful I am an empath/normal person. I might not be as fun as the narcissists, but I’m so glad I’ve got the emotions of an empath. I kind of like being vulnerable…
I have listened to many podcasts of HG Tudor. He assisted me to give me insight in the "enemy/ demon" I'm dealing with that. Thank you for assisting empaths to navigate a path that we don't always choose voluntary. We signed up voluntary. But Paula gives us the secret code - even if it is to escape. And to heal. To be more alert. To be not so naive. Empaths were born in this world with the view that all persons strive for the best for everyone close to them. That illusion was shattered and a huge wake-up call for me. I will never loose trust in fellow humans, I will be more self reliant on my own happiness. And not try to seek validation from every person the appears to be nice or charismatic.
Two of my favorites on the topic. Both are the complete opposite. I think this world was made for narcissists to thrive. That's been my experience. I love that Paula is such an empath warrior.
Great interview. I love your original and brave questions... And in fairness, HGs answers are chef kiss! Although I disagree with his karma response after seeing first hand at least two narcissists in my life getting fullblown in your face Karma and all it involved was going no contact!!! The universe had good people's backs ❤️
HG both intrigues me and terrifies me at the same time!!! lol 😂 but I love his work and his advice has helped me a lot … as well as yours too, Paula. Great interview!!
Hg is my favorite narcopath! I ❤ his voice & he was instrumental in my healing!!!! I don’t know if I would have made it if it wasn’t for his work. I cried through numerous videos etc of other creators- but then I found HG & slowly I was able to accept reality & start healing ❤️🩹
Outstanding interview I love HD tutor thank you Paula for bringing him on. He has put so much clarity and closure in my life with the narcissistic person I was dealing with, I was his intimate primary source
@lucinda HG has a survivor series. If you’re comfortable with it, Maybe you could reach out to him and see if your story could be included. It may help someone who’s unsure if HG work is genuine as a lot of people in this thread appear to have misunderstood HG, why he’s doing as he does, why he’s important for the community and why you can’t just listen to anyone on the net. ❤
I hope HG can keep all this insight and recover from his narcissism. I am a strong believer that one can change you just have to want to. I hope you can recover HG.
@@paula622 have still yet to hear him talk about his psychopath diagnosis even though I have heard him state this many times. I believe everyone can change even if they are diagnosed psychopaths. Maybe I’m delusional idk.
@@Celestineblue22 Jesus Christ is the only One who can heal any such condition - and I say that very sincerely. He's the only Person who has ever cured such conditions, especially demon possession, and I believe NPD is a form of demon possession.
@@Celestineblue22you’re not delusional, you’re just misinformed. That’s why he does these interviews because there are so many channels out there that are giving the wrong advice, that I book in consultations with people again, giving them the wrong advice, claiming that they are something they are not, and in some cases are even narcissist themselves, but they are not aware. A narcissist does not have no empathy. Empathy makes you conscious of other people’s feelings. You feel guilt, shame, embarrassment, caring, towards other people, animals, etc. You can mimic empathy but you cannot actually learn to be naturally empathetic. A narcissist is created around the age of nine experience. The person has up into the age of nine, and their predisposition to it through a family member link is what leads to narcissism. To say, someone can change is like saying you can bake a cake, and once the cake is bait, you can then pull the fully baked cake apart. Change the ingredients, put it back in the oven and re-bake it. You cannot you cannot change a narcissist they can not heal from narcissism. And I would suggest listening to more of a cheese videos as there are so many videos on TH-cam by people that are giving the wrong information and are leaving people open to being injured hurt, killed financially destroyed and people scarred for life. he also has a survivor series where people tell there’s stories of survival and how Hache G has helped them, he also reads out some of people’s testimonials for those that do not wish to provide an audio file. Time and time again you hear about how Hache G has helped these people escape their instrument. There are so many people online they want to learn about narcissism, and unfortunately our ensnared by narcissist who believe that they are not narcissist, but empath and are trying to educate people where is, they are not really. They are actually using their audience for fuel, attention control residual benefits, so payment likes views of their content and character trait, acquisitions so stealing other people‘s ideas, concepts, functions, presentations, etc It’s vital that people listen to HG. Hache G has said time and time again he doesn’t want anyone to like him he doesn’t want anyone to meet him. When people say I really want to meet you hate she he awesome if they’re crazy because he’s a narcissist and the last thing you should want to do is meet with a narcissist. His motto is once you know you go exclamation out you get out and you stay out! Zero contact, including thinking about the narcissist. If you know anyone that appears to be engaged with a narcissist, whether it’s in a relationship, work environment, social, setting, financial arrangement, parental arrangement, child, and adult relationship, then please refer them onto Hache G so that they can get the best information to help keep them self and those around them safe and escape the narcissist, and to educate people, so in future, they can avoid a narcissist and know the signs to look out for, so they too don’t fall for the trick of the NASA, saying that they will change, because they never will, because they cannot change!
I loved the live format, Paula. It was wonderful to see you live. The chat was a great opportunity to meet my peers. Your guest sounded like evil to me because of the trauma that I experienced.
Hi Paula🤗 could I please book a coaching session with you? Even if it's just the one session, I would just love to get your perspective on a few things! Thanks for everything you do & keep fighting the good fight✨️💪💖
Hi from Australia, You're a brave lady I won't even comment on HG'S channel, I'd love to because of HG I believe my ex-husband is a narcissist which I'd love to ask him about but I'm to scared to.
Love you guys! So good to see this. But oh Karma comes! I've seen it many times. Usually late in life when they die alone. Nobody wants a bar. It comes. It's the universal law. ❤❤❤
@@shaunpdaly I used to think the same way when I was the recipient of my ex-husband’s narcissistic abuse. I no longer do. When you evolve with understanding, it becomes very clear it has nothing to do with the dark forces of evil, or spiritual bankruptcy…it’s genetic predisposition and nurture during formative years. They can’t help for what they do not possess.
Wow, I cant just trundle along from one relationship or job to the next. Things affect me deeply. I feel devastated and shame about having gone through divorce.
Always interested watching and listening to all your videos Paula. However, after listening to H.G Tudor, I find the audacity and arrogance of this man extremely difficult. It is almost as if us lesser mortals should accept without question his disordered behaviour as acceptable. Thanks Paula for this thought provoking interview. x
Honey we're not lesser than mortals (that's just in a narcissists mind) anyone who looks down on and abuses someone physically/emotionally/sexually/financially has made THEMSELVES lesser than by those actions 🤗🏋🏻♀️😙💗
Well, that's assuming that he is engaging in disordered behaviour, none of us have met his girlfriends and I'm sure engaging with him is not half as bad as many of the other lowlifes these girls could be engaging with instead. Jumping from partner to partner is the norm in the modern world. I think if you broke down neurotypical interactions most of them would have a very strong element of the narcissistic reactions he describes. "Residual benefits" is a weird one and you don't want control to be too bad (but most people are fairly controlling let's be honest). But mostly partners will appreciate the others status, money, attractiveness etc. Secondly, I'm sure this is a tired well worn point. But I have heard, from a source on this I respect, that you can't be a narcissistic psychopath. If you are a psychopath, your brain does not relate to others. Like... nothing. You are in a ten year relationship with a psychopath, you go away for a week and they barely notice you are gone. You don't exist at all. Not as a supply source. Not anything. Does that sound compatible with narcissism? I think he is exactly what he pretends not to be. He is a good person with a gift for guiding others who needs a good platform to do so. Didn't he say that he had received a message from someone that said he had saved her from suicide? So he provides a reason to people who come to him broken and paranoid. He walks them through a likely scenario from his OCD like brain that obsesses on this area. The only reason anyone (i.e. customers/ clients) would go into it in this depth is if they were actually traumatised.
@@Beth00009 Exactly, that is my point. it's the Narcissist and their disordered interpretation of us. They are insecure and vulnerable. By devaluing us, they have the snapshot within their mind that we are all bad and they are all good. Magical thinking.
@@cherylgregory6027 well if you actually listen to hg you will learn what the real deal is. Frankly shame on you for calling him names. R u the narcissist?
I can't help but hope that in real life, the person going by the name HG Tudor is actually an empathic normal person with deep insight into narcissism, who is genuinely trying to help society. But even if that's not the case and he's a pure narcissist, I thank him for his work.
Calling That Person My Wife Is An Emotive Title, They Controlled, Threatened, Isolated. Intimidated And Said Hurtful Things To me On A Regular Basis Over A Long Period Of Time. They Were AN ABUSER!!! If That Person Was Someone I Was Only Acquainted With I Would Have Nothing To Do With Them. What’s The Difference?? Why Should I Continue To Have A Relationship With Someone Who Is Controlling Me?? Why Should I Continue To Have A Relationship With Someone Who Threatens Me, Either Explicitly Or implicitly?? Why Should I Continue To Have Relationship With Someone Who Has Isolated Me From My Friends Or Family?? Why Should I Be In A Relationship With Someone Who Uses Threat Against Me? Why Should I Be In Relationship With Someone Who Causes Me To Feel Hurt By Their Words And Behaviours?? Thank You H.G. My Logic Muscles Are Getting Stronger 👍
….after the horrendous nonsensical abused that I have been through, I started searching Utube and came upon HG. At first I could not listen to him as he was too pompous. HOWEVER, 4 years later, I had to go back to his work to get a better understanding of what I was REALLY dealing with. I took advantage of his many discounts in order to get the material and consultation - best thing ever!. I subscribed to his daily blogs, which was very overwhelming at first as it was too much information at once. However, I realized by reading and listening to his material daily, it reduced my emotional thinking for me to do RADICAL ACCEPTANCE with the vile and evil spouse I was dealing with in order to get-out and stay-out. HG is a Narc, but I THANK him, Sam Vaknin, Narc Con and many other Utubers for my healing💎
I had just encountered my first involvement as a victim of an NPD manipulator and finding the TH-cam videos of H.G., Richard Grannon, Ross Rosenberg, Narc.con and others was absolutely miraculous for me. Helped me understand the fear, isolation, anxiety and processes narcs use to take control over others - it can be so subtle most people don't even know it's there. It was only because I went to stay with a 'friend' who I'd known 20 years before for a period of a year or so after re-meeting her that I discovered she had narcissistic personality disorder. I will never forget the very first sign I had that something was wrong: I felt as if I had to walk on eggshells when around her. She was older and her facade was cracking and that's why the NPD became revealed. She is totallly unaware of it! From then on it was downhill all the way and I had to wait to escape, but I know that even in a friend, narcissism will NEVER again be allowed to get a hold on me or run my life. To me it's a form of demon possession, as it definitely is a supernaturally-conveyed control of the victim's mind - and yes, very definitely abuse, no doubt at all.
@NarcCon I think they have to get some sort of karma,years of abuse to loads of different people must eventually catch up with them,I hope they get some retribution! Every one gets some sort of karma for things that happen. Meeting a narcassist must be karma itself?
@NarcCon I completely agree paula they do get some forms of karma as in they get left by really good people most of the time (partners/family members/children), also they make they're own relationships miserable and people around them wise up to them "eventually", also the "friends" they have aren't usually very nice themselves, plus their existence is karma being hollow, having to remember all the lies they've told, when to act how to act, being paranoid and desperately needing to be/feel better than everyone all the time and desperately needing contant stimulation, some end up arrested for harassment/abuse, their addictions cause them issues of all kinds (there may be hell for people who intentionally hurt people without repentance or genuine apology) or maybe there's a grander scheme of karma (like a payback for what they do ????) 🤗🤗🤗
@kirkhogan2688 kirk I don't think our meeting a narc/s is karma I think its a lesson for us maybe to evolve/remember our path/maybe awareness (I know in my experience I was raised in it so I had blinkers on and confrontation fears to ones i met later in life plus I'm an empath (thats probably what made me the scapegoat in my narcissistic family they were aware of my "difference" to them and didnt like it)
This speaker made reference to there being no one else who provides the 'education' that he does; what about Sam Vaknin? He's been around for quite some time; any thoughts on this individual?
Sam is more analytical, scientific. He is a genius to be studied. He has come up with most of the terms and language for narcissism. Before Sam we knew of the abuse we felt. He helped us describe it and become free.
They have 2 different rabbit holes you can go down…. I prefer HD ….. not all of it but if you spend some time you will understand the cluster B clearly…. As much as we can
@@bluedogfish2 Hi Bluedogfish, thanks, that's helpful. I'm familiar with cluster B, as you say "as much as we can be"; today was my first exposure to Tudor HG. I think I'll have to listen to him further to be able to p/u on what he brings that is not already presented by Vaknin. Thanks for the feedback.
Sam Vaknin is very clever and very disordered in my so far uunderstanding. I would expect if those two met Sam would be the more dangerous one. If you watch Vaknins body language you can see his shoulders don't move like a normal persons do. Even in baseline.
I just don’t see how we need a narcissist who glorifies himself with supply from victims who thank him for his teachings as necessary or helpful. My personal opinion, only. I would rather learn from other survivors, rather than make this guy rich on the fact that his whole life is about exploiting others, even in this interview. He admitted it is self gratifying.
The other survivors cannot teach you how a narc thinks. Narcissists are "it's, there is nothing inside them, robotic beings. Survivors are humans, genuine beings. You are doing yourself a deservice
Morally of course I don't agree with H.G.'s abuse of others; however, I do admire his honesty in admitting he is what he is. That must have been a hard fact to face when he was brought to it. I think he simply accepted it and manages it, but to his advantage. I don't think that arguing moral aspects with a narcissistic psychopath will yield much to any 'normal' person.
Thank you Paula for doing this podcast. I am feeling like I have been going around in tight circles listening to this guy. I will listen to more of his podcasts but it has left me reeling. I could be totally wrong but his pure justification of why the narc does something hurtful is what gets me. So then they have no conscience or heart of emotions then? It’s almost like he is putting it out there that a narc is great to be with. Sorry for my jumble of words I found this very difficult to understand his answering methods. May be just me not on the right track 😢
Please H G Tudor, start writing books if you havent already. It would be a true service to humanity to do an expose series on Societal Narcissism, Familial Narcissism, The Origin Of Narcissism, Collective Narcissism (World Narcissism), obviously, it would also be a good opportunity for an enormous and ongoing hit of fuel.
As the others are sad, he has a numerous books and has done for years, he writes blog, articles, feature, articles, audiobooks, and videos. He has many many written pieces. I would suggest looking at his website to see further and look into the narc vault.
I would've liked to ask him: Would he do Desert Island Discs? What would he choose and why (do narcissists truly enjoy music/art, etc?), what book, what luxury and would he thrive/survive/escape or top himself?
Gaslighting and manipulation is a punishable offense in Iceland. You can get from one to five years in prison for manipulation. Maybe the law has an influence so that these cowards don't expose themselves to such a risk.
@@NarcCon" Is gaslighting illegal in England? Remember that gaslighting is a criminal offence covered within coercive control law. It is not your fault. With the right support, you can put a stop to it for good." From Googl.
@@NarcCon " Is Manipulation illegal in the UK? In 2015, the UK Government officially recognised coercive control, most often seen in relationships, as a form of domestic abuse. It is now enshrined within the law, becoming a criminal offence under Section 76 of the Serious Crime Act. It can be punishable by up to five years in prison.7. lis 2021."
Bingo. Cluster B’s Only Act The Way They Act In An Environment Or Towards A Person That They Perceive Will Not Retaliate. Thing Is Perception Is Not Reality.
Interesting interview thank you. HG's voice reminds me a bit of fellow Narcissist Boris Johnson! I wonder if Mr Tudor has much communication with Professor Sam Vaknin, or what they think of each other's work. 🤔
@@NarcConI think someone asked HG this question and he was like “Who?” I didn’t expect anything else. 🤣 But I must admit I would be very interested in a discussion between them.
@@MsChris2707 - a predictably Narcissistic response from HG! But he would have to be living under a rock not to be aware of him. Their work is very different.
I agree with you Diana..I find it eye opening to see how he answers questions and manipulates on a one to one basis..felt it would provide new insights 🌹
HG used the word "cementation." Look at the definition! 👇 ": a process of surrounding a solid with a powder and heating the whole so that the solid is changed by chemical combination with the powder."
Julie, hg isn’t making things worse for effect. He’s been writing and educating about this for years and years. He isn’t a blow in that comes in and has just started a channel thinking they know all. I would suggest listening to his actual work. Not just this interview. Listen to how dangerous narcs can be.
Should ask him about children. Do narcissist feel the impact and subsequent loss of their children? And eventually, narcissists will lose their children thanks to their toxic behaviour. You should also ask HG what does death look like to him? Is he aware of the fact that he is going to die alone. He will probably go out of this world with NO true connection. Not even a connection to his own self.
I used to listen to this man as well, thinking I could gain insight Into my situation, but as I listened and have healed thru the years I believe that he is harming our community more then helping, very toxic. If one is self aware, why the hidden identity? I'm sorry I don't buy it. There are a lot of "self aware" narcisists on TH-cam that show their identity. The man gives me the creeps!
He did explain that it would cause difficulty with his personal and private life - surelyl you can understand why! Not very many people even know about narcissism yet and certainly don't understand it even if they've heard of it. Just imagine how it would damage relationships with people one worked with, for instance to have H.G. advise he was a narcissist and psychopath!
True as that may be, a lot of his story is just that, a story. It is always better, if seeking help, to go to the qualified professionals, who face public and transparent accountability. Just logical thinking.
You’re getting the creeps because that’s your body protecting you! That’s your gut instinct. You seemed to have missed bits he’s said, no sure why. He DOES help people. Listen to his survivor stories. If you have w narc in your life or you suspect one is, just follow his simple rules, see if it works for you. In saying that, you really do need to know for sure they are a narcissist. He stays anonymous so his work doesn’t interfere with his real life. Have you not seen people cancelled for things they have or haven’t done? People claiming they are narcs online doesn’t mean they are narcs. There are people online that claim they are super empaths and other names they make up, and they are not. You didn’t say how you think he’s hurting the community. He educates people on narcissism, what the prime aims are for a narcissist, how to detect a narcissist, resources to use to protect yourself, your family, children, work, life, and assets from a narcissist, and to help people escape from being with a narcissist, including one that’s physically violent. I do not understand how someone that for many many many years has been working to help support people to get them out of these situations is hurting them. to keep his identity hidden is to make her focus also fully on his work and not the person he is i.e. the way he looks. When you watch the con woman you were looking at various parts of her, so her hair, her clothing things around her, rather than absorbing everything that is being said with HG you are focused fully on what’s being said or perhaps video footage that he speaks through rather than what he looks like live on a camera. There is no way HG could do the work he could. He is doing and helping people escape violent situations and also keep himself safe. These are not people that you want to risk your safety with. That’s why his motto is. Once you know you go you get out and you stay out zero contact! You stay hidden to keep yourself safe. If you would go to a top Chef to learn how to bake an amazing cake then why would you not go to a top narcissist to learn how they operate how they manipulate how they lie how they Gaslight you how they brainwash you how they isolate you from your friends, family, your entire life, how they vanish for long periods of time, and then reappear how they use children as pawns to emotionally, manipulate you or blackmail you, how they devalue you how they control you how they ensnare you, what the golden period is and then the final how they discard you!
@@katybee9996 except if anything, the pandemic has told us that people that are professionally trained don’t I always know what they are talking about, that they are NOT fully educated on the matter, and are only learning what someone has written in a book and the person that wrote the book may not necessarily fully understand how a narcissist works. A narcissist that is aware like Hache G can tell you exactly how someone manipulates, rather than someone who is not a narcissist and is guessing or assuming as to why, or how a narcissist operates, is created, how to escape etc listening to Hache G survivor stories, educate people on how informed HG really is, how educated he actually is on the matter and how his advice and information actually saves lives! Which is a lot more the most professionals have or are able to do! That’s logical thinking .
Paula, I would love to ask HG if he has ever meditated, or felt completely at peace whilst watching a sunset, or listening to the sounds within a forest, the trickling of a stream, birdsong, or the wind as it moves through the treetops. Has he ever been touched in this way? Does he marvel at the mere existence of this green/blue planet in a vast universe, or the brilliance of how the human body-mind functions at all? I would really like to know. Or does he simply perceive the world as "Friend or Foe" and something to be conquered.
I want to listen because I love you and your channel Paula but, I’m concerned he might completely trigger me. He is so arrogant and pompous. I’ll have to see how this goes!
@@nickieglazer33 I could only listen for about 3 minutes. Paula was doing amazing, he is just too much for me. I just find his voice to be very monotone and knowing he’s a narcissist just triggers me.
I don't think it's so much arrogance and pomposity - he's simply accepted who and what he is - I actually admire him for doing so - not many people would have the guts to even admit it.
@@christiecooke1775what you’re hearing is someone that isn’t gaslighting you. Someone that isn’t giving you the golden period of fluff, dragging you in to believe all they say. He’s direct, to the point, Brutally honest and doesn’t beat around the bush, he isn’t here to make friends, to create a fake facade. He’s here to educate, to help people understand narcissism and to help people escape and keep them safe. If you have had an experience with a narcissist, then HG may trigger some memories and give you an adverse reaction. If listening to him is too triggering, then I would suggest reading his blogs. Watching his video with the sound off and just CC captions on or reading his books. Ask your library to get his books in. In HG survivor series, where survivors that Hg has helped, one lady suggested the book, Exorcism purging the narcissist, she said its a brilliant book. Maybe listen to his survivor series. Most survivors read out their own stories, some have asked HG to do it. But that may also help you ❤ come to one of his lives. We are a great bunch in there and support one and other ❤
Very film noir in appearance. karma karma karma if you are hoping for karma after dealing with a narcissist don't it's just another mental trap. the question how do we deal with the shrapnel and fallout of the relationship and i would say reconnect yourself to yourself let go of the thoughts that they have installed within you to make you feel less human and less you, they wanted you to shrivel and die while vacuuming up you, recall who you are identify with yourself and you will regenerate and reconnect to life don't dwell in the narcissistic soup be thankful you are not in the relationship, and heal, no contact is the solution if you have children get custody as parental alienation will occur and harming the children will become part of their supply. good luck to all stay strong trust in yourself.
Yes when narc is young and confident and good looking he can move on to another partner easily But watch so many narc celebrities who spend the last decades of their lives alone ? Their power and looks fade
I'd like to ask if HG is capable of truly falling in love, or is this an emotional narcissists in general don't experience? Is it possible the narcissism stops it happening?
They aren’t capable of love They can only mirror what they see And they can be more compliant or appear to be giving you what you want. That’s only because you are giving them supply in various forms. Time. Attention. Validation. Gifts. Money. Housing…. So if they are giving you sex. It’s because they want it. If they are watching a movie with you. It’s because they want to see it. If they are talking to you. It’s because they want to get something out of it
@goldenAutumn I would suggest watching more of HGs videos as you will find the factual information. The actual reason as to why hasn’t been provided in this reply section. @ssing was the closest to the truth though ❤️
I can hear him feeding you a line, in my opinion he wants to trick you and change your perspectivbe to question other people who are not narcissitic and make you suspicious. Its a game to him it dosent come for free it comes at a cost you can learn something but i still don’t feel safe listening to him. I’m glad I’m no closer than a TH-cam video. If he is The Ultra I would like to know what he thinks of Sam Vaknin?
I doubt it is genetic. It is a choice or God would not call people to repentance. It is kind of akin to Ayn Rand''s idea of putting self before everyrhing else. Your interview was very well done! I agree with one who said he should narrate books. He has a wonderful voice.
I would like to hear more about supply... So, if this "friend" discarded me.. why did he give POA and legal rights to another? That person CANNOT be supply for then.. he would not TRUST her. I have come to peace, believe you me, thanking Jesus in heaven for her, for she got him OFF of me.. Thank you BS! Thank you! (Abbreviation for her "nickname").... If a narc does not trust anyone.... how is this happening with her?
@@NarcCon But... if illusion ( I assume meaning SEEING her as "trustworthy" (which... Yes, as we might have talked about.. I do not TRUST her AT all.. just based on fact that she did not talk to him about TRUST for his millions but simple will, giving her IMMENSE POWER)... but.. the thing about supply is.. as I understand, is WE ARE NOT TRUSTED.. We are their SUPPLY, yet we are put down, discarded and NOT TRUSTED!! Still not clear.. I was his supply for over 24 years. Yet, never had key to his house. ... She has key, POA< and all powers. Believe you me.... I am thanking JESUS for this... however, this is the ONLY part of my journey that I do not fully understand!!!!
Narcissistic parent(s) question: Have you ever considered the fact that some of those other family members are enablers, even flying monkeys or narcissists themselves??
I think HG should narrate horror/ghost stories for audiobooks.
He reminds me of Barnabas Collins. I'm a huge, life long fan of Dark Shadows. 😁
He does have a unique, distinctive voice.
@@kristinmeyer489 Absolutely. His voice is ideal for scary stories.
That is a fantastic idea!
He somehow reminds me of Christopher Lee.
I have been a HG listener for four years. Had a very predominant, abusive spouse who is a narcissist and a very complex situation in which my child and I escaped. The process of leaving was near insufferable (house displacement for eight months) and rebuilding was absolutely grueling. I could never find a therapist, a YT channel or any literature that was able to distinctly explain the manipulations and their origins and respective meanings to the degree of specificity other than this man. I don’t care how it’s delivered or who it is delivered by…but give me the most accurate information, give me the truth, so I can understand the situation and ensure I do not repeat it because the damage was extensive. The trauma to my child has been significant. It is not an option to ever happen again. The knowledge I have gained has been immeasurable…not only for me but also for my child who is approaching adulthood. I understand narcissism to the effect that I can appreciate not only my own narcissistic traits and how they healthily propel me in life but that narcissists do contribute to society (more evolved narcissists) and as long as I’m not ensnared in an intimate relationship with one…I now have a healthy and logical perspective, less skewed by emotional thinking.
He has saved many lives…including mine and my child. The scope of his content is vast and his prescription for gaining peace and freedom is 100% the only way. I enjoyed this interview, and the questions asked were very mindful adding a different flavor to the discussion.
I no longer consider myself a victim or a survivor of a narcissist, after four years of listening to Tudor, but a scholar of his work that is designed for my protection. And, so far, it has worked brilliantly. I am forever thankful for that one night while feverishly searching for answers about this erratic behavior that Google graciously led me to his channel.
Incredible... ❤ Thank you for sharing this story. You have very clearly come full circle, and healed in significant ways.❤
@@claraclaraj You are very welcome! It is entirely possible to come full circle. The passage of time and distance and no contact are your friends. It’s been eight years since we were homeless, living in a car for eight months and legally relocated 3000 miles away from him. It was a life lesson and a valuable one. Believe it or not, there is a lot of good things that can evolve from these situations…with the hands of time! 💕☀️💫☀️💕
@amyemerson I liked reading your comments.
More specifically I trust your comments so thanks.
@@goldentrunnell7450 Oh, thank you…and thank you for the best response I have ever received. 💕
That emotional thinking is a pesky, little rascal. 😬
@@claraclaraj Hache G. Now has a series on survivors that he has helped escaped the is the instrument of a narcissist. Just like Amy story, the stories are just a fascinating and incredible to listen to. The amount of wealth and education that HG has is something beyond anything anyone can believe. I would urge everyone, even those that do not believe H jeez work, listen to the series and how these people have put H, jeez work into practice to be able to escape their instrument of a narcissist. there are not many channels on TH-cam of real narcissist that are actually helping people like HG is.
Bingo. He nailed it. He said "but if you were in an intimate relationship with me...".
That's the DIFFERENCE.
Others wouldn't see it or get it because they aren't in an intimate relationship with them.
H.G literally saved my life....Ive listened to 1000's of hours of his videos....information is power and brings peace🇦🇺❤
"Have I ever met another Ultra- no, because there's only one. Me." hahahaha, I love HG, you made me laugh out loud. Thanks so much for your insight, both Narc Con and HG Tudor.
Glad you enjoyed!
This was a great interview!
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I must be crazy, but I like him. He was the first one on here to open up my eyes to the truths of narcissism. I recognized the behaviors but didn't have a name for them. HG put things into perspective and gave me a deep understanding of what it was all really about. It helped me to let go of the Narc, and also to understand the demon inside him. I find HG to be a highly intelligent man, it doesn't bother me that he's a narc, and psychopath, as he truly is helping people by unmasking narcissism straight from the horses mouth so to speak, and who better? As for you Paula, you have spoken out my heart, so many times I can't can even begin to express my gratitude., or I just wouldn't stop. You too speak straight from the soul and into our hearts giving us yet even more comprehension into this disorder that so many people have. and make us victim of. Once the cat is out of the bag, and the truth about a person's disorder is out, you develop a much deeper understanding of them and even the hurt begins to subside. It's not their fault, but it only proves that that person was never right for you and you now have a deeper understanding as why things turned out the way they did. It only hurts when you don't know. Once you come from that level of understanding, letting go becomes so much easier, and acceptance for differences is created with no more pain. Letting a Narc go, is the most freeing thing one can do, and understanding the reason why, is the most forgiving thing you can give to yourself. Let go and forgive, be free.
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Hi Melody, I argee with you I think he's great but I'd never tell him I'd be feeding his ego.
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@@katem58785 I feel he's helping people so I personally would commend him, as he deserves it. That's fuel well earned. 💖⚘️
Remember this his hot furry unleashing upon you will make you change your mind in a heartbeat! I would never want to go on the receiving end. You would never believe it was the same person!!
Thank you Paula. Good interview. H.G. Tudor was the "first" resource that I found after searching for some information after 20 years unknowingly married to a Cluster B FULL spectrum wife who triangulated me as an option...
Excruciatingly painful, but instinctively I left everything behind and have never looked back.
Both of you have been very informative and enlightening with "what the hell I was dealing with"
I appreciate both of your collective contributions to this subject matter and your channels.
Thank you and H.G.!
I am uncertain about the meaning of altruism at times. But I know we all get ‘something’ out of doing a good turn. However, it’s good to know the difference in that HG experiences no warm fuzzy feeling when he receives praise for what we feel is helpful to us. I also understand HG’s reasons for helping people are far removed from those of an empathic person.
I love how much she fuels his narcissism. Irony not lost.
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💯 takes the bait
“Because then what you’re trying to do is control someone who’s designed not to be controlled. And you’re not up to the task”.
Brilliant
HG is the only Naccecist that I accept in my life "at an appropriate distance of course" I would have liked his knowledge and honesty 40 years ago, then I think my life would have been different, but I still listen to HG every day and learn increasingly !
Thx HG
Simply listening to his videos and interviews helps me, without taking any action. I’m an empath/normal person. I’ve been tricked many times by narcissists all my life and I got exhausted by it. Only recently been listening to HG and I have gained clarity and understanding over what’s been happening all my life. GOSO is the only option, and I now fully understand how important GOSO is. Now all I want to do is hang around with people of my kind, as hard as that is. In the end, I’m grateful I am an empath/normal person. I might not be as fun as the narcissists, but I’m so glad I’ve got the emotions of an empath. I kind of like being vulnerable…
The live chat was empowering.
Thank you 🙏🏻 to all ❤
36 years of being married to a narcissist has proven to me that I am a warrior.He hasn't crushed me,damm near....NOT EVER!
From your first interview with H.G., was why I became a subscriber of yours. Looking forward to this interview. Respect.
Much appreciated
I have listened to many podcasts of HG Tudor. He assisted me to give me insight in the "enemy/ demon" I'm dealing with that. Thank you for assisting empaths to navigate a path that we don't always choose voluntary. We signed up voluntary. But Paula gives us the secret code - even if it is to escape. And to heal. To be more alert. To be not so naive. Empaths were born in this world with the view that all persons strive for the best for everyone close to them. That illusion was shattered and a huge wake-up call for me. I will never loose trust in fellow humans, I will be more self reliant on my own happiness. And not try to seek validation from every person the appears to be nice or charismatic.
Great interview with great questions and answers that were very helpful to my understanding of narcissism.
Thank you for your support
These HG Tudor interviews are fantastic, thanks Paula!❤
Great episode. HG is so great to listen to. His channel is addicting.
Two of my favorites on the topic. Both are the complete opposite. I think this world was made for narcissists to thrive. That's been my experience. I love that Paula is such an empath warrior.
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Great interview. I love your original and brave questions... And in fairness, HGs answers are chef kiss! Although I disagree with his karma response after seeing first hand at least two narcissists in my life getting fullblown in your face Karma and all it involved was going no contact!!! The universe had good people's backs ❤️
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HG both intrigues me and terrifies me at the same time!!! lol 😂 but I love his work and his advice has helped me a lot … as well as yours too, Paula.
Great interview!!
Best colab 🎉
Hg is my favorite narcopath! I ❤ his voice & he was instrumental in my healing!!!! I don’t know if I would have made it if it wasn’t for his work. I cried through numerous videos etc of other creators- but then I found HG & slowly I was able to accept reality & start healing ❤️🩹
Outstanding interview I love HD tutor thank you Paula for bringing him on. He has put so much clarity and closure in my life with the narcissistic person I was dealing with, I was his intimate primary source
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@lucinda HG has a survivor series. If you’re comfortable with it, Maybe you could reach out to him and see if your story could be included. It may help someone who’s unsure if HG work is genuine as a lot of people in this thread appear to have misunderstood HG, why he’s doing as he does, why he’s important for the community and why you can’t just listen to anyone on the net. ❤
This video was fantastic. Watched from Denver, Colorado USA 🇺🇸.
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@@NarcConYou (and H.G.) are now on my Prayer list! 🙏❤️
Enjoyed the interview with HG and his insite on narcisstic people and how they vary in different environment and cultures globally Too!
I enjoy you both so much! Love to hear you two together, this is going to be fun, entertaining and informative.
HG Tudor, I didn't know, why he is GREAT, he has the ideal prerequisites, thanks!
I think HG is a SUPER EMPATH, NARCISSIST SLAYER .😊
I have just been validated by a narcacist thank you HG
I love HG Tudors work! I have learned SO much from his channel! Thank you for having him on your show!
I hope HG can keep all this insight and recover from his narcissism. I am a strong believer that one can change you just have to want to. I hope you can recover HG.
He doesn't want to and even if he wanted to, he cannot, he has been diagnosed with psychopathy
@@paula622 have still yet to hear him talk about his psychopath diagnosis even though I have heard him state this many times. I believe everyone can change even if they are diagnosed psychopaths. Maybe I’m delusional idk.
@@Celestineblue22 Jesus Christ is the only One who can heal any such condition - and I say that very sincerely. He's the only Person who has ever cured such conditions, especially demon possession, and I believe NPD is a form of demon possession.
@@paula622you also cannot recover from narcissism.
@@Celestineblue22you’re not delusional, you’re just misinformed.
That’s why he does these interviews because there are so many channels out there that are giving the wrong advice, that I book in consultations with people again, giving them the wrong advice, claiming that they are something they are not, and in some cases are even narcissist themselves, but they are not aware. A narcissist does not have no empathy. Empathy makes you conscious of other people’s feelings. You feel guilt, shame, embarrassment, caring, towards other people, animals, etc. You can mimic empathy but you cannot actually learn to be naturally empathetic. A narcissist is created around the age of nine experience. The person has up into the age of nine, and their predisposition to it through a family member link is what leads to narcissism. To say, someone can change is like saying you can bake a cake, and once the cake is bait, you can then pull the fully baked cake apart. Change the ingredients, put it back in the oven and re-bake it. You cannot you cannot change a narcissist they can not heal from narcissism. And I would suggest listening to more of a cheese videos as there are so many videos on TH-cam by people that are giving the wrong information and are leaving people open to being injured hurt, killed financially destroyed and people scarred for life. he also has a survivor series where people tell there’s stories of survival and how Hache G has helped them, he also reads out some of people’s testimonials for those that do not wish to provide an audio file. Time and time again you hear about how Hache G has helped these people escape their instrument. There are so many people online they want to learn about narcissism, and unfortunately our ensnared by narcissist who believe that they are not narcissist, but empath and are trying to educate people where is, they are not really. They are actually using their audience for fuel, attention control residual benefits, so payment likes views of their content and character trait, acquisitions so stealing other people‘s ideas, concepts, functions, presentations, etc It’s vital that people listen to HG. Hache G has said time and time again he doesn’t want anyone to like him he doesn’t want anyone to meet him. When people say I really want to meet you hate she he awesome if they’re crazy because he’s a narcissist and the last thing you should want to do is meet with a narcissist. His motto is once you know you go exclamation out you get out and you stay out! Zero contact, including thinking about the narcissist. If you know anyone that appears to be engaged with a narcissist, whether it’s in a relationship, work environment, social, setting, financial arrangement, parental arrangement, child, and adult relationship, then please refer them onto Hache G so that they can get the best information to help keep them self and those around them safe and escape the narcissist, and to educate people, so in future, they can avoid a narcissist and know the signs to look out for, so they too don’t fall for the trick of the NASA, saying that they will change, because they never will, because they cannot change!
I love his history lesson. I didn't know that about feudalism. I wonder about that connection? 🤔
I loved the live format, Paula. It was wonderful to see you live. The chat was a great opportunity to meet my peers. Your guest sounded like evil to me because of the trauma that I experienced.
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You had such great questions for him ! Thanks you enjoyed this interview
Glad you enjoyed it!
Narcs can make the targets life look like they are the narc especially when you seem to attract those types of people for some reason
Hi Paula🤗 could I please book a coaching session with you? Even if it's just the one session, I would just love to get your perspective on a few things! Thanks for everything you do & keep fighting the good fight✨️💪💖
Yes of course - narcscon@gmail.com
Hi from Australia, You're a brave lady I won't even comment on HG'S channel, I'd love to because of HG I believe my ex-husband is a narcissist which I'd love to ask him about but I'm to scared to.
Love you guys! So good to see this. But oh Karma comes! I've seen it many times. Usually late in life when they die alone. Nobody wants a bar. It comes. It's the universal law. ❤❤❤
Karma does I agree
@@NarcConThe Bible says, one reaps what they sow!
Yes. Me too. Love and light.
As a psychologist..I find HG fascinating. Other TH-camrs felt condemning of the narcissist.HG is educational and rational.
Evil enjoys evil cheerio lame O
@@shaunpdalyfridge magnet platitudes?
@@shaunpdaly I used to think the same way when I was the recipient of my ex-husband’s narcissistic abuse. I no longer do. When you evolve with understanding, it becomes very clear it has nothing to do with the dark forces of evil, or spiritual bankruptcy…it’s genetic predisposition and nurture during formative years. They can’t help for what they do not possess.
You’re a psychologist? Is it possible if I can consult with you by any chance?
Thank you for the wonderful video. HG is the best tutor. Much appreciation to you both.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Wow, I cant just trundle along from one relationship or job to the next. Things affect me deeply. I feel devastated and shame about having gone through divorce.
Yes! Exactly! It would be draining for me to go from one person to the next for my entire life!
Love you both! Can’t wait to listen 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Enjoyed this video. Well done.
Always interested watching and listening to all your videos Paula. However, after listening to H.G Tudor, I find the audacity and arrogance of this man extremely difficult. It is almost as if us lesser mortals should accept without question his disordered behaviour as acceptable.
Thanks Paula for this thought provoking interview. x
I agree Cheryl 🌹
Honey we're not lesser than mortals (that's just in a narcissists mind) anyone who looks down on and abuses someone physically/emotionally/sexually/financially has made THEMSELVES lesser than by those actions 🤗🏋🏻♀️😙💗
Well, that's assuming that he is engaging in disordered behaviour, none of us have met his girlfriends and I'm sure engaging with him is not half as bad as many of the other lowlifes these girls could be engaging with instead. Jumping from partner to partner is the norm in the modern world.
I think if you broke down neurotypical interactions most of them would have a very strong element of the narcissistic reactions he describes. "Residual benefits" is a weird one and you don't want control to be too bad (but most people are fairly controlling let's be honest). But mostly partners will appreciate the others status, money, attractiveness etc.
Secondly, I'm sure this is a tired well worn point. But I have heard, from a source on this I respect, that you can't be a narcissistic psychopath. If you are a psychopath, your brain does not relate to others. Like... nothing. You are in a ten year relationship with a psychopath, you go away for a week and they barely notice you are gone. You don't exist at all. Not as a supply source. Not anything. Does that sound compatible with narcissism?
I think he is exactly what he pretends not to be. He is a good person with a gift for guiding others who needs a good platform to do so. Didn't he say that he had received a message from someone that said he had saved her from suicide?
So he provides a reason to people who come to him broken and paranoid. He walks them through a likely scenario from his OCD like brain that obsesses on this area. The only reason anyone (i.e. customers/ clients) would go into it in this depth is if they were actually traumatised.
@@Beth00009 Exactly, that is my point. it's the Narcissist and their disordered interpretation of us. They are insecure and vulnerable. By devaluing us, they have the snapshot within their mind that we are all bad and they are all good. Magical thinking.
@@cherylgregory6027 well if you actually listen to hg you will learn what the real deal is. Frankly shame on you for calling him names. R u the narcissist?
Great interview, thank you.
I can't help but hope that in real life, the person going by the name HG Tudor is actually an empathic normal person with deep insight into narcissism, who is genuinely trying to help society. But even if that's not the case and he's a pure narcissist, I thank him for his work.
I had a good laugh when listening to his video :What do we know about Lilly?
Five or maybe 6 phrases.
e.g. ".....she's very chill....😂
Why would an empathy declare himself to be a narcissistic psychopath? 😂
he is psycopath the are not change it. wt if you talk about.
Calling That Person My Wife Is An Emotive Title, They Controlled, Threatened, Isolated. Intimidated And Said Hurtful Things To me On A Regular Basis Over A Long Period Of Time.
They Were AN ABUSER!!!
If That Person Was Someone I Was Only Acquainted With I Would Have Nothing To Do With Them. What’s The Difference??
Why Should I Continue To Have A Relationship With Someone Who Is Controlling Me??
Why Should I Continue To Have A Relationship With Someone Who Threatens Me, Either Explicitly Or implicitly??
Why Should I Continue To Have Relationship With Someone Who Has Isolated Me From My Friends Or Family??
Why Should I Be In A Relationship With Someone Who Uses Threat Against Me?
Why Should I Be In Relationship With Someone Who Causes Me To Feel Hurt By Their Words And Behaviours??
Thank You H.G.
My Logic Muscles Are Getting Stronger 👍
….after the horrendous nonsensical abused that I have been through, I started searching Utube and came upon HG. At first I could not listen to him as he was too pompous. HOWEVER, 4 years later, I had to go back to his work to get a better understanding of what I was REALLY dealing with. I took advantage of his many discounts in order to get the material and consultation - best thing ever!. I subscribed to his daily blogs, which was very overwhelming at first as it was too much information at once. However, I realized by reading and listening to his material daily, it reduced my emotional thinking for me to do RADICAL ACCEPTANCE with the vile and evil spouse I was dealing with in order to get-out and stay-out. HG is a Narc, but I THANK him, Sam Vaknin, Narc Con and many other Utubers for my healing💎
Yes ! Proff Sam Vaknin !!
I had just encountered my first involvement as a victim of an NPD manipulator and finding the TH-cam videos of H.G., Richard Grannon, Ross Rosenberg, Narc.con and others was absolutely miraculous for me. Helped me understand the fear, isolation, anxiety and processes narcs use to take control over others - it can be so subtle most people don't even know it's there. It was only because I went to stay with a 'friend' who I'd known 20 years before for a period of a year or so after re-meeting her that I discovered she had narcissistic personality disorder. I will never forget the very first sign I had that something was wrong: I felt as if I had to walk on eggshells when around her. She was older and her facade was cracking and that's why the NPD became revealed. She is totallly unaware of it! From then on it was downhill all the way and I had to wait to escape, but I know that even in a friend, narcissism will NEVER again be allowed to get a hold on me or run my life. To me it's a form of demon possession, as it definitely is a supernaturally-conveyed control of the victim's mind - and yes, very definitely abuse, no doubt at all.
This has been very theraputic. Thank you Paula, I love your channel!
You are so welcome!
Who knew! Darth Vader quit the empire and became a psychologist!
I always watch h.g tudor and your channels Paula
Found it interesting when he said they don't get their karma"
Kirk yes but I kind of expected that..they do in my opinion
@NarcCon I think they have to get some sort of karma,years of abuse to loads of different people must eventually catch up with them,I hope they get some retribution!
Every one gets some sort of karma for things that happen.
Meeting a narcassist must be karma itself?
@NarcCon I completely agree paula they do get some forms of karma as in they get left by really good people most of the time (partners/family members/children), also they make they're own relationships miserable and people around them wise up to them "eventually", also the "friends" they have aren't usually very nice themselves, plus their existence is karma being hollow, having to remember all the lies they've told, when to act how to act, being paranoid and desperately needing to be/feel better than everyone all the time and desperately needing contant stimulation, some end up arrested for harassment/abuse, their addictions cause them issues of all kinds (there may be hell for people who intentionally hurt people without repentance or genuine apology) or maybe there's a grander scheme of karma (like a payback for what they do ????)
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@@Beth00009 let's hope so beth
@kirkhogan2688 kirk I don't think our meeting a narc/s is karma I think its a lesson for us maybe to evolve/remember our path/maybe awareness (I know in my experience I was raised in it so I had blinkers on and confrontation fears to ones i met later in life plus I'm an empath (thats probably what made me the scapegoat in my narcissistic family they were aware of my "difference" to them and didnt like it)
Listening in from McKinney Texas . Thank you both for your work.
Thanks for listening
Wow what a great , very interesting interview. Thank you Paula
Thanks Cheryl
Keep it up
Shalomgreat work
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This speaker made reference to there being no one else who provides the 'education' that he does; what about Sam Vaknin? He's been around for quite some time; any thoughts on this individual?
Sam is more analytical, scientific. He is a genius to be studied. He has come up with most of the terms and language for narcissism. Before Sam we knew of the abuse we felt. He helped us describe it and become free.
They have 2 different rabbit holes you can go down…. I prefer HD ….. not all of it but if you spend some time you will understand the cluster B clearly…. As much as we can
@@JS-il9nw Hi JS, thanks for the response; I've watched him a bit, he's a real 'pill' by the way; very articulate. Thanks for the response.
@@bluedogfish2 Hi Bluedogfish, thanks, that's helpful. I'm familiar with cluster B, as you say "as much as we can be"; today was my first exposure to Tudor HG. I think I'll have to listen to him further to be able to p/u on what he brings that is not already presented by Vaknin. Thanks for the feedback.
Sam Vaknin is very clever and very disordered in my so far uunderstanding. I would expect if those two met Sam would be the more dangerous one.
If you watch Vaknins body language you can see his shoulders don't move like a normal persons do. Even in baseline.
I just don’t see how we need a narcissist who glorifies himself with supply from victims who thank him for his teachings as necessary or helpful. My personal opinion, only. I would rather learn from other survivors, rather than make this guy rich on the fact that his whole life is about exploiting others, even in this interview. He admitted it is self gratifying.
The other survivors cannot teach you how a narc thinks. Narcissists are "it's, there is nothing inside them, robotic beings. Survivors are humans, genuine beings. You are doing yourself a deservice
Exactly friend. He doesn’t say anything that other trustworthy channels don’t. And calling himself an ultra narcissist? I’m done 🙄
Maybe it was moreso about the advertising revenue. Felt like I must have skipped about 8 ads on this video.
Morally of course I don't agree with H.G.'s abuse of others; however, I do admire his honesty in admitting he is what he is. That must have been a hard fact to face when he was brought to it. I think he simply accepted it and manages it, but to his advantage. I don't think that arguing moral aspects with a narcissistic psychopath will yield much to any 'normal' person.
I've a preference to listen to channels made by abuse survivors (I delete any channels that show up by narcissists) so I understand your feeling's
Thank you Paula for doing this podcast. I am feeling like I have been going around in tight circles listening to this guy. I will listen to more of his podcasts but it has left me reeling. I could be totally wrong but his pure justification of why the narc does something hurtful is what gets me. So then they have no conscience or heart of emotions then? It’s almost like he is putting it out there that a narc is great to be with. Sorry for my jumble of words I found this very difficult to understand his answering methods. May be just me not on the right track 😢
Please H G Tudor, start writing books if you havent already. It would be a true service to humanity to do an expose series on Societal Narcissism, Familial Narcissism, The Origin Of Narcissism, Collective Narcissism (World Narcissism), obviously, it would also be a good opportunity for an enormous and ongoing hit of fuel.
He has books already.
HG already writes. I have 2 of his books - Fuel and
Sitting Target: How and Why the Narcissist Chooses You
As the others are sad, he has a numerous books and has done for years, he writes blog, articles, feature, articles, audiobooks, and videos. He has many many written pieces. I would suggest looking at his website to see further and look into the narc vault.
I would've liked to ask him: Would he do Desert Island Discs? What would he choose and why (do narcissists truly enjoy music/art, etc?), what book, what luxury and would he thrive/survive/escape or top himself?
Can't wait! Hello from Vietnam!
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Gaslighting and manipulation is a punishable offense in Iceland. You can get from one to five years in prison for manipulation. Maybe the law has an influence so that these cowards don't expose themselves to such a risk.
Wow that’s good to hear
@@NarcCon in England too 😉. And in France.
@@NarcCon" Is gaslighting illegal in England?
Remember that gaslighting is a criminal offence covered within coercive control law. It is not your fault. With the right support, you can put a stop to it for good."
From Googl.
@@NarcCon
" Is Manipulation illegal in the UK?
In 2015, the UK Government officially recognised coercive control, most often seen in relationships, as a form of domestic abuse. It is now enshrined within the law, becoming a criminal offence under Section 76 of the Serious Crime Act. It can be punishable by up to five years in prison.7. lis 2021."
Bingo. Cluster B’s Only Act The Way They Act In An Environment Or Towards A Person That They Perceive Will Not Retaliate. Thing Is Perception Is Not Reality.
He's right about that. Don't label. A narc is a narc
Narcissists should come with the explanation that 'misery loves company.'
He haunts my dreams and nightmares. ❤
hello from uganda!!!! enlightening!!
I cant wait 😊
Interesting interview thank you. HG's voice reminds me a bit of fellow Narcissist Boris Johnson! I wonder if Mr Tudor has much communication with Professor Sam Vaknin, or what they think of each other's work. 🤔
Interesting question 🤓
@@NarcConI think someone asked HG this question and he was like “Who?” I didn’t expect anything else. 🤣 But I must admit I would be very interested in a discussion between them.
@@MsChris2707 - a predictably Narcissistic response from HG! But he would have to be living under a rock not to be aware of him. Their work is very different.
Mentally disturbed Paula. It's funny when you give Airtime to these
What's your problem?
I agree with you Diana..I find it eye opening to see how he answers questions and manipulates on a one to one basis..felt it would provide new insights 🌹
Thank you 😊to both ❤
HG used the word "cementation." Look at the definition! 👇
": a process of surrounding a solid with a powder and heating the whole so that the solid is changed by chemical combination with the powder."
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The drama is insane. I think he makes everything just a bit worse for effect We are his supply after all, right?
Oh definitely! This is “ ultra” supply! ( pun intended )
Yes 👍
Julie, hg isn’t making things worse for effect. He’s been writing and educating about this for years and years. He isn’t a blow in that comes in and has just started a channel thinking they know all.
I would suggest listening to his actual work. Not just this interview. Listen to how dangerous narcs can be.
@@ShouldaKnownBetterit’s not ultra supply. 🤦🏼♀️ he is the ultra. They type of narcissist.
Should ask him about children. Do narcissist feel the impact and subsequent loss of their children?
And eventually, narcissists will lose their children thanks to their toxic behaviour.
You should also ask HG what does death look like to him? Is he aware of the fact that he is going to die alone. He will probably go out of this world with NO true connection. Not even a connection to his own self.
It never entered my mind the narc, would not know they are a narc.
As interesting and entertaining as the Harry’s wife series is, I found the Sinead O’Connor and Lucy Letby series more fascinating .
Wow Paula Thank you.... This is John
Hi John
I used to listen to this man as well, thinking I could gain insight Into my situation, but as I listened and have healed thru the years I believe that he is harming our community more then helping, very toxic. If one is self aware, why the hidden identity? I'm sorry I don't buy it. There are a lot of "self aware" narcisists on TH-cam that show their identity. The man gives me the creeps!
He did explain that it would cause difficulty with his personal and private life - surelyl you can understand why! Not very many people even know about narcissism yet and certainly don't understand it even if they've heard of it. Just imagine how it would damage relationships with people one worked with, for instance to have H.G. advise he was a narcissist and psychopath!
True as that may be, a lot of his story is just that, a story.
It is always better, if seeking help, to go to the qualified professionals, who face public and transparent accountability. Just logical thinking.
You’re getting the creeps because that’s your body protecting you! That’s your gut instinct.
You seemed to have missed bits he’s said, no sure why.
He DOES help people. Listen to his survivor stories. If you have w narc in your life or you suspect one is, just follow his simple rules, see if it works for you. In saying that, you really do need to know for sure they are a narcissist.
He stays anonymous so his work doesn’t interfere with his real life. Have you not seen people cancelled for things they have or haven’t done?
People claiming they are narcs online doesn’t mean they are narcs. There are people online that claim they are super empaths and other names they make up, and they are not.
You didn’t say how you think he’s hurting the community. He educates people on narcissism, what the prime aims are for a narcissist, how to detect a narcissist, resources to use to protect yourself, your family, children, work, life, and assets from a narcissist, and to help people escape from being with a narcissist, including one that’s physically violent. I do not understand how someone that for many many many years has been working to help support people to get them out of these situations is hurting them. to keep his identity hidden is to make her focus also fully on his work and not the person he is i.e. the way he looks. When you watch the con woman you were looking at various parts of her, so her hair, her clothing things around her, rather than absorbing everything that is being said with HG you are focused fully on what’s being said or perhaps video footage that he speaks through rather than what he looks like live on a camera. There is no way HG could do the work he could. He is doing and helping people escape violent situations and also keep himself safe. These are not people that you want to risk your safety with. That’s why his motto is. Once you know you go you get out and you stay out zero contact! You stay hidden to keep yourself safe. If you would go to a top Chef to learn how to bake an amazing cake then why would you not go to a top narcissist to learn how they operate how they manipulate how they lie how they Gaslight you how they brainwash you how they isolate you from your friends, family, your entire life, how they vanish for long periods of time, and then reappear how they use children as pawns to emotionally, manipulate you or blackmail you, how they devalue you how they control you how they ensnare you, what the golden period is and then the final how they discard you!
@@katybee9996 except if anything, the pandemic has told us that people that are professionally trained don’t I always know what they are talking about, that they are NOT fully educated on the matter, and are only learning what someone has written in a book and the person that wrote the book may not necessarily fully understand how a narcissist works. A narcissist that is aware like Hache G can tell you exactly how someone manipulates, rather than someone who is not a narcissist and is guessing or assuming as to why, or how a narcissist operates, is created, how to escape etc listening to Hache G survivor stories, educate people on how informed HG really is, how educated he actually is on the matter and how his advice and information actually saves lives! Which is a lot more the most professionals have or are able to do!
That’s logical thinking .
HG Tudor: When the devil decides to reveal himself. Even his voice is mesmerizingly scary.
That’s why he tells people off if they say they would love to meet him.
fantastic
Brilliant!
Paula, I would love to ask HG if he has ever meditated, or felt completely at peace whilst watching a sunset, or listening to the sounds within a forest, the trickling of a stream, birdsong, or the wind as it moves through the treetops. Has he ever been touched in this way? Does he marvel at the mere existence of this green/blue planet in a vast universe, or the brilliance of how the human body-mind functions at all?
I would really like to know.
Or does he simply perceive the world as "Friend or Foe" and something to be conquered.
I believe the later from the 2 interviews conducted to date
Ultra 🙄😅
Nobody like me 😜
I want to listen because I love you and your channel Paula but, I’m concerned he might completely trigger me. He is so arrogant and pompous. I’ll have to see how this goes!
What did you think?...
@@nickieglazer33 I could only listen for about 3 minutes. Paula was doing amazing, he is just too much for me. I just find his voice to be very monotone and knowing he’s a narcissist just triggers me.
I don't think it's so much arrogance and pomposity - he's simply accepted who and what he is - I actually admire him for doing so - not many people would have the guts to even admit it.
@@christiecooke1775what you’re hearing is someone that isn’t gaslighting you. Someone that isn’t giving you the golden period of fluff, dragging you in to believe all they say. He’s direct, to the point, Brutally honest and doesn’t beat around the bush, he isn’t here to make friends, to create a fake facade. He’s here to educate, to help people understand narcissism and to help people escape and keep them safe.
If you have had an experience with a narcissist, then HG may trigger some memories and give you an adverse reaction. If listening to him is too triggering, then I would suggest reading his blogs. Watching his video with the sound off and just CC captions on or reading his books. Ask your library to get his books in. In HG survivor series, where survivors that Hg has helped, one lady suggested the book, Exorcism purging the narcissist, she said its a brilliant book. Maybe listen to his survivor series. Most survivors read out their own stories, some have asked HG to do it. But that may also help you ❤ come to one of his lives. We are a great bunch in there and support one and other ❤
Very film noir in appearance. karma karma karma if you are hoping for karma after dealing with a narcissist don't it's just another mental trap. the question how do we deal with the shrapnel and fallout of the relationship and i would say reconnect yourself to yourself let go of the thoughts that they have installed within you to make you feel less
human and less you, they wanted you to shrivel and die while vacuuming up you, recall who you are identify with yourself and you will regenerate and reconnect to life don't dwell in the narcissistic soup be thankful you are not in the relationship, and heal, no contact is the solution if you have children get custody as parental alienation will occur and harming the children will become part of their supply.
good luck to all stay strong trust in yourself.
He uses a pseudonym and is invisible so he can as direct as he likes.
Yes when narc is young and confident and good looking he can move on to another partner easily
But watch so many narc celebrities who spend the last decades of their lives alone ? Their power and looks fade
I suggest a duel between him and Sam Vaknin to see who is the bigger "Ultra" between them 😂
I'd like to ask if HG is capable of truly falling in love, or is this an emotional narcissists in general don't experience? Is it possible the narcissism stops it happening?
Yes they don’t attach because of their narcissism they fall in control
They aren’t capable of love
They can only mirror what they see
And they can be more compliant or appear to be giving you what you want. That’s only because you are giving them supply in various forms. Time. Attention. Validation. Gifts. Money. Housing….
So if they are giving you sex. It’s because they want it. If they are watching a movie with you. It’s because they want to see it. If they are talking to you. It’s because they want to get something out of it
@goldenAutumn I would suggest watching more of HGs videos as you will find the factual information.
The actual reason as to why hasn’t been provided in this reply section. @ssing was the closest to the truth though ❤️
I can hear him feeding you a line, in my opinion he wants to trick you and change your perspectivbe to question other people who are not narcissitic and make you suspicious. Its a game to him it dosent come for free it comes at a cost you can learn something but i still don’t feel safe listening to him. I’m glad I’m no closer than a TH-cam video. If he is The Ultra I would like to know what he thinks of Sam Vaknin?
Agree 🤓
I doubt it is genetic. It is a choice or God would not call people to repentance. It is kind of akin to Ayn Rand''s idea of putting self before everyrhing else. Your interview was very well done! I agree with one who said he should narrate books. He has a wonderful voice.
Sounds like an exhausting way to live, who could be bothered? Answer: the narcicist, of course.😊
Very sad & scary.
English is not my native language, but HG Tudor sounds like Peter Hitchens to me.
These are just hard to listen to. It’s very hard to relate to a person like this and understand their world view. Makes me feel contempt.
I would like to hear more about supply...
So, if this "friend" discarded me.. why did he give POA and legal rights to another?
That person CANNOT be supply for then.. he would not TRUST her.
I have come to peace, believe you me, thanking Jesus in heaven for her, for she got him OFF of me.. Thank you BS! Thank you! (Abbreviation for her "nickname")....
If a narc does not trust anyone.... how is this happening with her?
Illusion
@@NarcCon But... if illusion ( I assume meaning SEEING her as "trustworthy" (which... Yes, as we might have talked about.. I do not TRUST her AT all.. just based on fact that she did not talk to him about TRUST for his millions but simple will, giving her IMMENSE POWER)... but.. the thing about supply is.. as I understand, is WE ARE NOT TRUSTED.. We are their SUPPLY, yet we are put down, discarded and NOT TRUSTED!!
Still not clear..
I was his supply for over 24 years. Yet, never had key to his house. ... She has key, POA< and all powers.
Believe you me.... I am thanking JESUS for this... however, this is the ONLY part of my journey that I do not fully understand!!!!
Narcissistic parent(s) question:
Have you ever considered the fact that some of those other family members are enablers, even flying monkeys or narcissists themselves??
It's disgusting how he laughs at the end of the video 🤮. He quickly corrected himself 😜
Listening in Dublin.