As a neurodivergent person, I have been masking all my life to fit in. And more and more, I just can't do that anymore. I just crave authenticity and being simple, honest and direct. Kind too. That has really changed my interactions and friendships. It still isn't easy in many settings, but rather than seeing people are wrong, we can see them as deeply hurting and have compassion. And do the best we can to be authentic, wherever possible.
I’d guess a lot of people coming to this are neurodivergent whether they know it or not. I’m late diagnosed ADHD and probably autistic too. I think neurodivergent people sit naturally closer to nonduality in their natural state. (But also have a shite load of trauma to work through).
I've always felt I was born on the wrong planet. It's always felt as if something was wrong with me, as if I don't know how to "human" like everyone else, so I just began faking it. I'm now starting to realize everyone is faking it. Some are just better at it than others.
A small example. Before enlightenment, pray thanks before meals due to programming. During enlightenment, no longer pray before meals because there is no pray-er, no praying, no prayed to, and nothing in all directions. After enlightenment, pray thanks before meals because food is awesome.
Always hated small talk. Then it appeared as a carrier wave for good will. Like the Louis Armstrong song; saying how do you do really means I love you.
Wow! How neat you speak on this because it has been on my mind. I always struggled to understand social expectations as a kid. When I woke up, I thought I would eventually become a saint that everyone loves. In reality, I had a false belief about needing to belong. Now I have come to realize that i don’t need to belong and may never feel that way. I need to continue on even if people are hostile to me appearing authentically in the world. And there are always a few people who are into the authenticity, anyway. It is all ok! As long as I am treating others with love, it is not my business how they perceive me.
Just when I think, "Hey, I'm also skeptical of social conventions," My cat be all like " Check out muh butthole!", and I say,"Well played, sir, well played .
The tips you give about how things change over time are so helpful and reassuring. Eg the bit about how we get drawn in less and less to the way other people use language and other stuff to maintain feeling of separation. I keep going “oh yeah that’s kind of what has happened”. Thank you.
I feel like I'm interacting with people's defense mechanisms and triggers, and can see their 'true selves' underneath that but they can't see their true selves.... and am finding also that ppl LOVE to tell stories about the past and I just wait for them to end their story as I just nod, because I just don't resonate with those past identities, only the 'now' interests me....
Me at age 9: "Wait, how did I miss the memo that I was supposed to pick a New Kid on the Block to obsess about? And why do I still not give a single shit about doing that?"
Yes, transcend but always include. Social conventions may suck, but that's the conventional [sic] world for you. I've told people on multiple occasions (usually in a friendly way) that I don't follow sports or (most) TV shows and found that that honesty is often appreciated and may open up other (and sometimes deeper) conversations.
I hear a lot about shadow work and I feel I’ve been “doing it correctly” but is there a way you can give examples of what it looks like to fully process with an actual (or made up) situation?…like from the unprocessed stuckness to the release of it? I feel where I’m stuck is between processing/feeling into a trauma and/or obsessing and repressing it.
SAME!!!!! Omg totally! Almost everything you said. Very young at age 6!!!!!! Questioned labels. stories words all of it. Glimpses at age 6-8 all of it.
Thank you I felt this growing up. But I made a different conclusion….that. I was smarter than everyone else. Or at least I was the one;y one trying to find first principals, as if I was the first to discover this orientation. I think this part of my ego is a pretty tough nut now!
It’s very isolating for sure. It feels hard to find friends but I’m also not really trying because of internal work. Do you usuallly end up finding your tribe later on the path? I’ve been alone for so many years and don’t really know where I would find people that are interested in this stuff😅
I think this is my path also. Although I have been kicking and screaming about it internally for many years. Lately I’ve been becoming more chill about my FOMO when it comes to friends. I can feel the tight fist of holding on becoming less and less in regularity. All I can say is it’s about time!
As a neurodivergent person, I have been masking all my life to fit in. And more and more, I just can't do that anymore. I just crave authenticity and being simple, honest and direct. Kind too. That has really changed my interactions and friendships. It still isn't easy in many settings, but rather than seeing people are wrong, we can see them as deeply hurting and have compassion. And do the best we can to be authentic, wherever possible.
@@CarolinNobles love it!!
I’d guess a lot of people coming to this are neurodivergent whether they know it or not.
I’m late diagnosed ADHD and probably autistic too. I think neurodivergent people sit naturally closer to nonduality in their natural state. (But also have a shite load of trauma to work through).
@@clairedot657I’ve wondered about this.
I've always felt I was born on the wrong planet. It's always felt as if something was wrong with me, as if I don't know how to "human" like everyone else, so I just began faking it. I'm now starting to realize everyone is faking it. Some are just better at it than others.
“enlightenment is not enlightenment until it includes the relative.” ✨💛💛✨✨💛 hello darkness my old friend
A small example.
Before enlightenment, pray thanks before meals due to programming.
During enlightenment, no longer pray before meals because there is no pray-er, no praying, no prayed to, and nothing in all directions.
After enlightenment, pray thanks before meals because food is awesome.
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Always hated small talk. Then it appeared as a carrier wave for good will. Like the Louis Armstrong song; saying how do you do really means I love you.
Yep I agree
Wow! How neat you speak on this because it has been on my mind. I always struggled to understand social expectations as a kid. When I woke up, I thought I would eventually become a saint that everyone loves. In reality, I had a false belief about needing to belong. Now I have come to realize that i don’t need to belong and may never feel that way. I need to continue on even if people are hostile to me appearing authentically in the world. And there are always a few people who are into the authenticity, anyway. It is all ok! As long as I am treating others with love, it is not my business how they perceive me.
You hit the nail on the head -Emotional repression is an epidemic.
Just when I think, "Hey, I'm also skeptical of social conventions," My cat be all like " Check out muh butthole!", and I say,"Well played, sir, well played .
Cat's are savvy
@@SimplyAlwaysAwake yeah, I don't think they're from these parts anyway.
OMG! So true! Mother of three cats here... 😂😂
The tips you give about how things change over time are so helpful and reassuring. Eg the bit about how we get drawn in less and less to the way other people use language and other stuff to maintain feeling of separation. I keep going “oh yeah that’s kind of what has happened”. Thank you.
I feel like I'm interacting with people's defense mechanisms and triggers, and can see their 'true selves' underneath that but they can't see their true selves....
and am finding also that ppl LOVE to tell stories about the past and I just wait for them to end their story as I just nod, because I just don't resonate with those past identities, only the 'now' interests me....
I find it quite tedious haha
Me at age 9: "Wait, how did I miss the memo that I was supposed to pick a New Kid on the Block to obsess about? And why do I still not give a single shit about doing that?"
playing GTA V online right now
This one has to go on your greatest hits album Angelo. A total banger. Have listened 5 times so far today 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing this, Angelo 🦋
Yes, transcend but always include. Social conventions may suck, but that's the conventional [sic] world for you. I've told people on multiple occasions (usually in a friendly way) that I don't follow sports or (most) TV shows and found that that honesty is often appreciated and may open up other (and sometimes deeper) conversations.
Simply always on time 🙏🏼
I hear a lot about shadow work and I feel I’ve been “doing it correctly” but is there a way you can give examples of what it looks like to fully process with an actual (or made up) situation?…like from the unprocessed stuckness to the release of it? I feel where I’m stuck is between processing/feeling into a trauma and/or obsessing and repressing it.
I also find practical examples super helpful, so I hear you. Angelo has a playlist on shadow work, did you watch some of those videos?
@@CarolinNobles i’ve watched every single video lol but I will revisit that playlist for sure! Thank you for the comment🙏🏼😊
good ?, perhaps in future video
SAME!!!!! Omg totally! Almost everything you said. Very young at age 6!!!!!! Questioned labels. stories words all of it. Glimpses at age 6-8 all of it.
Thank you I felt this growing up. But I made a different conclusion….that. I was smarter than everyone else. Or at least I was the one;y one trying to find first principals, as if I was the first to discover this orientation. I think this part of my ego is a pretty tough nut now!
Using examples would be helpful…thanks
Indeed! ❤
This make a lot of sense... Thx brother
Thank you. Needed this.
Thank you 🙏
I am a member of the awkward tribe
It’s very isolating for sure.
It feels hard to find friends but I’m also not really trying because of internal work.
Do you usuallly end up finding your tribe later on the path?
I’ve been alone for so many years and don’t really know where I would find people that are interested in this stuff😅
I think this is my path also. Although I have been kicking and screaming about it internally for many years.
Lately I’ve been becoming more chill about my FOMO when it comes to friends.
I can feel the tight fist of holding on becoming less and less in regularity. All I can say is it’s about time!
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tjhank you
Can a person w narcissistic tendencies be deeply realized?
We're stewards of our own ecosystem. That's all I'm trying to say.
I wonder about your bracelets. Are they special stones?
@@joep2796 one is the Great Dharani
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neurodiversity for $1000, Ken
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playing GTA V online right now