No time for games. If she starts playing games I’m gone. Women don’t play games with men they want. Women break rules for men they want, and they make rules for men they don’t want.
Same here... I'm fit as f..k now so I have the leverage and confidence now.. I'll approach show interest but if they don't say hello after my days of pursuit, i bail.. did it twice already even when they still at gym.. it's empowering..
Genau. Ich laufe auch keiner Frau mehr hinterher. Seitdem gehts mir super! 👍🏻 Denkt immer daran, wenn sich eine Tür schließt, öffnen sich viele weitere neue Türen beziehungsweise Möglichkeiten.
This is true and good advice. But very unfortunate for any man that doesn’t have the 6+ foot height that most women want. Or the six pack abs they prefer or the rugged chiseled highly masculine looks she wants. Understandably so it is far more difficult to attract a woman if a man does not have these features.
@@richdelaney9500 Nobody fkn knows lol , seriously if She likes you for whatever reason and you feel it , just keep doing whatever you're doing and don't mess it up , meaning do not change for her , be different from all the needy guys She met before and You will stand . GL .
this is nuts. If I have to go through all this, then she isn't worth the trouble. Life is hard enough to try and understand. No. Once I'm done, I'm done
Just talk to multiple woman at once and don't focus on just one, that's literally your problem, don't put all your eggs in one basket and hit the gym and get in shape, go out and party and learn how to attract women by being silent, and let them gravitate to you.
@@Cricis11700 listen this man. 100% Whats women's number one complaint? "Where can I find a good man" "loyal" "settle down" "kind" Why is it they crave that? Because most men aren't hyper focused on one woman giving her that. It's got to be earned. Men have to play the numbers game. It's harsh on some women but it's just what you have to do to maintain self respect from all the bad manipulative women that would trample on you for their own gain otherwise.
NOT REALLY, ENDLESS OPTIONS TO GET FUCKED AND DUMPED.. BUT A NORMAL CHICK WANTS RELATIONSHIPS... WHY WOULD A GREAT MAN WANT TO SETTLE WITH A BASIC BORING CHICK?
Wow. The timing of me seeing this video couldnt be more perfect, I was with a narcissist for 4 years, and when we stopped seeing each other, i found the love of my life, and because i was trauma bonded, i ended up ruining things but i realized my mistake and did all i could to make sure i got her back
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not
I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Men, don’t fall for it. Do not (I repeat) DO. NOT. tell your woman (or any woman other than your mother) about your feelings. It sounds good, but in the end, you will be seen in a different light from then on. You will not be the same man to them again, and it will backfire on you. Again, do not let a woman know about any struggle you’re going through. They don’t even know it, but they will be turned off by it. Little PSA for my fellas out there. Stay strong, and worry about only you until you meet a woman worth worrying about as well, while still prioritizing yourself. It’s a whole different world out here these days. Shit is different different
Women can't handle dealing with men having feelings because they are crappy people. So, you are correct.... Even If you have to put your dog down, a family member dies, etc. if you get emotional to a perfectly healthy situation you still loose. Majority of western women are damaged. Not worth it.
"When you stop chasing her, she's feeling relieved." Yup. Remember, anyone being chased doesn't want to be caught. Fellas, relieve her. Today, right now, relieve her. Leave her alone and work on yourself without expecting any woman to ever want you. Take care of yourself and maintain your peace of mind. You'll be better off in the long run.
No need to expect yes. The women who want a man will be willing to cooperate with his terms and they exist. Its women who have high interest in you hence numbers game all men must play.
You should never play these type of games if you are older than 20 years old. Just don't use your time or energy on someone that isn't highly interested in you. Life is too short to chase a girl, chase your dreams and the girl of your dreams will see your resolve.
I have never chased a woman my entire life. I would ask a woman out once and if her answer was "No", I would move on and never ask again because no means no to me. It means she's not interested. I can accept that, no problem. Life is too short to play these games women try to play, and now in 2024, soon to be 2025 in 4 days, women not only play more games they also tell men that they don't need a man. I gave up 100% on women 8 years ago and my life has been so much better. What women don't understand, because they don't pay attention, is that when a man finds out he can actually be happier by being alone, he's never coming back to the dating scene. Women have made a huge mistake by playing games with men because men are walking away in droves now, and they're never coming back. So, to all the women out there, when you reach 30 years old and find yourself all alone, don't blame the men, finally for once take responsibility for your own actions and accept the fact that you are your own worst enemy and you are a victim of yourself, you are the problem. Have a nice day ladies; while you cry yourself to sleep because no man wants you. Remember, tomorrow you are now only older. Better invest in more makeup, because you ain't gettin' any prettier.
Most any woman can get a man if she wants one. The ones who remain single want to be single. There will always be enough men for any average looking woman. She can meet a man any time.
I have a lot of experience with this. I've chased women who i find attractive, and I've also been chased by women i dont find attractive, so i know how it is from both perspectives. I never schedule dates, i wait until i get strong and obvious indications of interest, and when the opportunity comes up, I'll say something like, "You can come over anytime." For a man, chasing shows weakness and desperation.
The thing you forgot is they have endless options and simps on their DMs or profiles so they'll move on quicker than you imagine This only apply to Chad and Tyrone who never commits to women 😂
Jesus 🤨🙄! My ex wants me in her life but only when she needs something or is lonely. I’m so sick of all the bullshit games and the female hypergamy. Enough, I’m done.
Guys. Here's a simple solution to know if she's into you. 1. When she smiles at you. 2. When she says nice things about you. 3. When she pays for her meal or even your meals too. 4. This is rare is when she opens the car door for you. Remember there are many women and many rejection but you just have to pick the right one. Always be ready to let her go so you don't have attachments.
She did all of these for me but the thing is she always made me initiate every date even 6 months in and never made any suggestions on what to do. I get guys are suppose to do that at the start but shit not 6 months in. She also never showed her feelings towards me cause she's "scared of love". I stopped asking her out and haven't texted her in a month. I haven't seen her in a month and a half. We haven't gone on a date in 2 months. Sometimes she's just not that into you regardless of the 1-4.
I ended my engagement because my ex refused to pay for anything. Not even a bagel. She has multiple college degrees and very successful. I can't marry a person like that. I'll go broke.
Women will do what they do anyway. All you need to do is keep you self respect and move on to another woman to see if she will be interested in you enough to do what you want.
Girl: If you are not interested, say NO. If you are interested but NOT sure, go for a number of dates to know the guy better. If there is no spark, stop the dating and move on. Boy: If girl says No from the start, drop her immediately. She is nt interested.There are many other girls that you could meet.
ya, men have to do all the learning, trial and error, in order to know how to date, how to meet and attract someone, reminds of a comment discussion i saw going on instagram and i agree with it, it went like this: "why aren't there accounts like these for girls? it seems guys have to do all the learning" and a guy said "women just exist and dudes line up for her" and it continued: "women don't have to learn game, let alone almost do anything to get guys. They just go out, be there, just be there, look pretty and get attention, options for just existing. Unfortuneately, we as guys have to learn this crap to get women into our lives. Getting girls is a skill that has to be practiced repeatedly" i thought that summed it up perfectly, ya for guys, men, getting women is a skill, but for women, getting guys is not a skill, but not the other way around, never was a fan of how reality has to be this way, oh well, it will never change sadly.
You nailed it. I fell for an engineering girl early in my career. It wasn't long until I figured guys like me with a decent income were a dime a dozen in her world. All she had to do was focus on her work, look decent and the guys would flock to her. She was 25 at the time and married at 44. I have a feeling she played the game until the wheels started falling off the wagon. (asian girl their looks tend to hold up well with age)
Love is not a flat surface, it has ups and downs. If she loves you, then keep going. If you pursue her and find it hopeless, then you can look for another opportunity. Just be serious and sincere and persevere if you can.
What I've done in the past is say this. " Clearly this isn't a love connection so do you have any single friends?" Often theyre offended but sometimes they become a wingman and set you up with a friend who actually IS into you.
Thank you Christy for your sincerity and dedication to your field of expertise. First time tuning into one of your sessions but believe me, it’s not my last. I’ve liked and subscribed to your channel and look ever so forward to seeing you again. Thank you again for doing what you do and doing it in such a splendid, genuine, caring way! God bless you and until next time, take care sweetie. 💕
When you stop chasing them, they immediately look for other supply. They're in dire thirst of constant attention and when you dont give it to them, they get pissed off and ghost you. That's what happens.
I'd rather go fishing or hunting.. I've come here to get info and to learn about what the woman I currently pursue thinks of me.. but I was annoyed instead. I think I'll just talk to her bluntly about my feeling towards her and ask permission to date her. If she reciprocates positively then good if not then goodbye. I won't be wasting her time and she will not waste my time. It's tiring emotionally and financially chasing a woman who views you as a creep than a potential mate. I value more my Self respect than a woman's attention. If she doesn't show the same interest I'll let her be and carry on with my life.
I only chased because the girl kept looking and smiling at me every time I went to coffee pop in group! At first I didn’t even find her attractive but because she was a lot younger I gradually developed a crush on her but when I asked her out she made an excuse! What was that all about ??
As much as I appreciate this perspective, basically this dynamic is why don't talk about their feelings. You hit the nail on the head there. Women tend to not understand what men are think and men talk about their feelings it tends to be used against us. ....and we wonder why men's mental health suffers.
I chased her all the time. Until she expressed how she felt and that I was pressuring her too much. So I backed off almost 100%. Recently she reached out to me for us to have dinner together. I politely agreed and now it remains to be seen what will happen next.
If your a therapist you should know men and women are different, us blokes start with the physical attraction, which motivates us to get to know you, seems some women presume men think like they do, and visa versa, which I suggest causes the biggest problems when interacting with the opposite sex
Did she ever contact you again? I just dated a fear avoidant woman this past fall. When I reminded her that I was dating with intention, she told me that she didn't have the "emotional bandwidth" to continue. I'm now a month into no contact and have gone out with other people.
I understand what you are saying and yes, chasing too much is bad. Coming across as desperate is worse. Chasing is OK but you have to know when to dial it down. Sometimes you have to make the girl do a little work. So I have to mention I just rediscovered my favorite romance movie of all time. Meet Joe Black. It's from 1998. Anthony Hopkins, Brad Pitt and Claire Forlani who is absolutely beautiful. MJB had some interesting twists. To anyone who has never seen it I highly recommend it. Everytime I watch this movie it makes me want to fall in love again.
I agree, most guys want it to be easy. But with the feel of exclusivity. So if a woman makes it hard, most guys will self eliminate. However, if a girl is too easy, they won’t respect her and probably will cheat on her. That’s the exclusivity bit, someone who seems difficult to obtain by others but isn’t complicating your life.
Great insight. Sounds like a lot of head games and very draining. i appreciate your thoughts as a woman and is very interesting the games females play.
When you don’t know why he’s interested, it’s because inside you wouldn’t be interested in yourself. Be present and clear headed. Don’t think in the moment, just act and react, and inquire into her brain…not compliments beyond “you look nice tonight”.
Thank you for your insightfulness and validation ! For those that have been through this I think we understand loud and clear what Christie is talking about .
47 years? This is beyond the usual timeframe for trouble, but I guess trouble can happen anytime. You have more woman-years experience than most people here. What is your analysis?
In the beginning both of us were equally into each other! Then we became Dance Partners and in the Friend Zone! the connection was still of the Charts. However she is holding back. After an argument. I decided to pull back.
Think about it. If you gave it your shot and it's not returned; honor it. Move on. If people are genuinely interested, they will be invested in you. If they are playing these push-pull scenarios? Stop and move on. If you're having these mind-game insecurities at a baseline level, when harder situations comes, it'll be a headache. There are too many people in the world to be hung up on a what if and time is short. Don't be a doormat to a mixed signals and don't be desperate.
I'm curious, where does the whole 'no self-respect' assessment come from? While I understand that over-pursuing (or chasing) and moving too fast with someone aren't healthy behaviors, I'm not sure how this always connects with the respect a person has or doesn't have for themselves. Sometimes I think we come up with explanations that might fit some situations, but they get applied everywhere. Why can't it just be a matter of immaturity or a lack of self-control and discipline? Who hasn't rushed into a relationship in their life? We're fallible because we're human. I'm not convinced that (an absence of) self-respect (or a need for validation) is (are) always at the center of this problem.
as soon as she said shes a "fearful avoidant" everything she is trying to say went out the window...... avoidants must be what they title themselves..... avoided
When you stop chasing her she's happy because she wasn't all that interested in the first place. You will never have to chase a woman who is interested.
I liked a girl at work. It was playful teasing back and forth. She called me a boomer and I called her a zoomer. We had many inside jokes. I made her laugh until her belly hurt. I asked her out many times and she always said she was busy. She liked my posts on insta and watched my stories. One day, I just moved to another city. She still liked my posts and stories. Eventually, I came back and asked if she wanted to meet. She said "Another time perhaps". Then few months later, I got muted from insta and then eventually blocked from all social media.
never chase cows when the milk is readily available !! Women have a shelf life as the way nature intended it. ...Let that sink in. Focus on financial freedom and health. Let them chase you ... real life example=Larry Ellison.
Dear Christie, as a thank you for your advice, i´m going to give you my advice. This time on Feng Shui. Replace the dead flowers on the background with fresh flowers. You´ll love the difference. Cheers from Lisbon, Portugal and Keep it up!
So i ran into a girl that i happened to like and oh boy did she confuse the heck out of me. First she admitted that she was going to ask me my name but changed her mind for some reason so i asked her instead, where upon she asked when i get off work and what times my breaks where. After telling her that i started to say hi to her to be polite and such since i see her like 3 days a week at work, sometimes she said something back or asked how my day was other times she just ignored me. I learnt that she had a lot of stuff going outside of wprk and tried to be kind and understandable, but she kept up her behavior so last year i was like look im going to do something nice here and give her a Christmas card. She took the card and said thanks with a smile but never gave me one back or even wrote me back so a bunch of guys just told me to let her go which i did, a few days before news years she once again treated me as dirt and only when i was about to leave did she say "Have a good one" and replied and said the same thing back and that was the last thing i ever said to her.
My parents were contacted by a girl who set a dinner date. I was early so I looked over the menu. I was tapped on my shoulder and the most beautiful model was standing there!! She's 27, divorced with 2 kids, house and a car. Talking over dinner, she knew all about me. She said: "Would you marry me"? We dated about 4 years. So being an average guy I guess I was lucky.
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Thanks for explaining to us men on how a woman thinks and feels when we stop chasing. This video was extremely helpful and gave me a lot of clarity
No time for games. If she starts playing games I’m gone. Women don’t play games with men they want. Women break rules for men they want, and they make rules for men they don’t want.
Facts. ✌🏾
Facts. I am attractive to almost all women of different ages and yes, they perceive the same actions differently depending on the man.
Same here... I'm fit as f..k now so I have the leverage and confidence now.. I'll approach show interest but if they don't say hello after my days of pursuit, i bail.. did it twice already even when they still at gym.. it's empowering..
Yes , good don’t hurt yourself like me believe me it’s a waste of time
Genau. Ich laufe auch keiner Frau mehr hinterher. Seitdem gehts mir super! 👍🏻
Denkt immer daran, wenn sich eine Tür schließt, öffnen sich viele weitere neue Türen beziehungsweise Möglichkeiten.
Trust me on this guys: Do NOT chase. ATTRACT. She will break every “rule” for a guy she wants.
Thanks for that advice. How do you attract a woman to you?
yep rules for betas non for alphas
This is true and good advice. But very unfortunate for any man that doesn’t have the 6+ foot height that most women want. Or the six pack abs they prefer or the rugged chiseled highly masculine looks she wants. Understandably so it is far more difficult to attract a woman if a man does not have these features.
@@adventureinlife7700you can still be the most honest, compassionate and caring person
@@richdelaney9500 Nobody fkn knows lol , seriously if She likes you for whatever reason and you feel it , just keep doing whatever you're doing and don't mess it up , meaning do not change for her , be different from all the needy guys She met before and You will stand . GL .
this is nuts. If I have to go through all this, then she isn't worth the trouble. Life is hard enough to try and understand. No. Once I'm done, I'm done
Exactly
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Just talk to multiple woman at once and don't focus on just one, that's literally your problem, don't put all your eggs in one basket and hit the gym and get in shape, go out and party and learn how to attract women by being silent, and let them gravitate to you.
@@Cricis11700totally agree
@@Cricis11700 listen this man. 100%
Whats women's number one complaint? "Where can I find a good man" "loyal" "settle down" "kind"
Why is it they crave that?
Because most men aren't hyper focused on one woman giving her that. It's got to be earned.
Men have to play the numbers game. It's harsh on some women but it's just what you have to do to maintain self respect from all the bad manipulative women that would trample on you for their own gain otherwise.
If she doesn’t match your energy let her go. Don’t waste your time.
100%
If she wanted to talk to you, she would.
If she's not talking to you, she's talking to someone else.
Her options are endless compared to yours.
NOT REALLY, ENDLESS OPTIONS TO GET FUCKED AND DUMPED.. BUT A NORMAL CHICK WANTS RELATIONSHIPS... WHY WOULD A GREAT MAN WANT TO SETTLE WITH A BASIC BORING CHICK?
The tables start turning in the 30s bracket, quickly.
Hahahhaha
If she wanted to talk to you She would because she felt bored with others whom she's been talking so need some change
Amen
We are done with the head games, the drama and BS. This is like teenager level nonsense.
Done !!!!
Wow. The timing of me seeing this video couldnt be more perfect, I was with a narcissist for 4 years, and when we stopped seeing each other, i found the love of my life, and because i was trauma bonded, i ended up ruining things but i realized my mistake and did all i could to make sure i got her back
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not
I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
It does not matter what a woman thinks if she never cared or interested in you at all. Therefore it doesn’t effect her even if a man stop chasing her
Men, don’t fall for it. Do not (I repeat) DO. NOT. tell your woman (or any woman other than your mother) about your feelings. It sounds good, but in the end, you will be seen in a different light from then on. You will not be the same man to them again, and it will backfire on you. Again, do not let a woman know about any struggle you’re going through. They don’t even know it, but they will be turned off by it. Little PSA for my fellas out there. Stay strong, and worry about only you until you meet a woman worth worrying about as well, while still prioritizing yourself. It’s a whole different world out here these days. Shit is different different
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It took me a long me a long time to realize this.
I wish this weren't true but it is. A woman (besides your mother, sister, or friend) doesn't care how you feel. To think she does is just naive.
Women can't handle dealing with men having feelings because they are crappy people.
So, you are correct.... Even If you have to put your dog down, a family member dies, etc. if you get emotional to a perfectly healthy situation you still loose.
Majority of western women are damaged. Not worth it.
@@MrJom139 What you feel means nothing to them. It's only about what THEY feel.
"When you stop chasing her, she's feeling relieved." Yup. Remember, anyone being chased doesn't want to be caught.
Fellas, relieve her. Today, right now, relieve her. Leave her alone and work on yourself without expecting any woman to ever want you. Take care of yourself and maintain your peace of mind. You'll be better off in the long run.
No need to expect yes. The women who want a man will be willing to cooperate with his terms and they exist. Its women who have high interest in you hence numbers game all men must play.
*It's amazing how quickly things can shift when you let go of the need for validation and focus on your own growth.*
You should never play these type of games if you are older than 20 years old. Just don't use your time or energy on someone that isn't highly interested in you. Life is too short to chase a girl, chase your dreams and the girl of your dreams will see your resolve.
Stay single fellas No BS No mind games No dramas, save yourselves a thousand headaches!! 💪
I have never chased a woman my entire life. I would ask a woman out once and if her answer was "No", I would move on and never ask again because no means no to me. It means she's not interested. I can accept that, no problem. Life is too short to play these games women try to play, and now in 2024, soon to be 2025 in 4 days, women not only play more games they also tell men that they don't need a man. I gave up 100% on women 8 years ago and my life has been so much better. What women don't understand, because they don't pay attention, is that when a man finds out he can actually be happier by being alone, he's never coming back to the dating scene. Women have made a huge mistake by playing games with men because men are walking away in droves now, and they're never coming back. So, to all the women out there, when you reach 30 years old and find yourself all alone, don't blame the men, finally for once take responsibility for your own actions and accept the fact that you are your own worst enemy and you are a victim of yourself, you are the problem. Have a nice day ladies; while you cry yourself to sleep because no man wants you. Remember, tomorrow you are now only older. Better invest in more makeup, because you ain't gettin' any prettier.
Most any woman can get a man if she wants one. The ones who remain single want to be single. There will always be enough men for any average looking woman. She can meet a man any time.
I have a lot of experience with this.
I've chased women who i find attractive, and I've also been chased by women i dont find attractive, so i know how it is from both perspectives.
I never schedule dates, i wait until i get strong and obvious indications of interest, and when the opportunity comes up, I'll say something like, "You can come over anytime."
For a man, chasing shows weakness and desperation.
Guys like me don't chase anybody! Especially if they ignore you on purpose!
Never chase, always attract!
A girl goes crazy when you don't acknowledge her!
Nah they don't. That was q fantasy written up from the 2000s and 2010s.
The thing you forgot is they have endless options and simps on their DMs or profiles so they'll move on quicker than you imagine
This only apply to Chad and Tyrone who never commits to women 😂
Total BS. Women have far more options than you do.
Jesus 🤨🙄! My ex wants me in her life but only when she needs something or is lonely. I’m so sick of all the bullshit games and the female hypergamy. Enough, I’m done.
Then use her for sex. Say what she wants to hear while you search for your soulmate.
Fact
Dont chase, go on with your life because they don’t matter, there is someone else out there.
It can take guys months or even years to get another good option so no there aren't as many options for men.
Guys. Here's a simple solution to know if she's into you.
1. When she smiles at you.
2. When she says nice things about you.
3. When she pays for her meal or even your meals too.
4. This is rare is when she opens the car door for you.
Remember there are many women and many rejection but you just have to pick the right one. Always be ready to let her go so you don't have attachments.
She did all of these for me but the thing is she always made me initiate every date even 6 months in and never made any suggestions on what to do. I get guys are suppose to do that at the start but shit not 6 months in. She also never showed her feelings towards me cause she's "scared of love". I stopped asking her out and haven't texted her in a month. I haven't seen her in a month and a half. We haven't gone on a date in 2 months.
Sometimes she's just not that into you regardless of the 1-4.
Never had a woman pay for anything in my life. Women are the same use you for cash and then you are trash or I am.
I ended my engagement because my ex refused to pay for anything. Not even a bagel. She has multiple college degrees and very successful. I can't marry a person like that. I'll go broke.
Good for you! It’s about reciprocity and taking care of each other. I broke it off with a woman who did exactly the same thing to me!
I feel telling a person you aren't interested is better than ghosting the person suddenly. That's a cruel thing to do.
Ghosting is downright Rude even if it is a non-verbal feedback.
Women will do what they do anyway. All you need to do is keep you self respect and move on to another woman to see if she will be interested in you enough to do what you want.
Let her go! And don't give her that attention anymore! Its her lost
Thank you bro I will do like you say
Keep believing that when she's off with some other guy long before you meet another girl.
Girl: If you are not interested, say NO. If you are interested but NOT sure, go for a number of dates to know the guy better. If there is no spark, stop the dating and move on.
Boy: If girl says No from the start, drop her immediately. She is nt interested.There are many other girls that you could meet.
It can take months or years to meet another girl you like that you might have a chance with. Some guys just don't get many opportunities.
Don't worry ladies.. You will always have dogs and cats in the end
Plants to water also 😅
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The best thing I can tell lol guys is, be your self, love your self,never make her your priority,never say you rich this will attract gold diggers.
Just let a women come to you , she doesn’t need to beg but she does need to show up , men women will always see you as needy no matter what
Who cares what they think. A woman with sense knows needy is only one who does what she says. Automatic ditch any woman telling me what to do.
I was chasing a girl for an year. After that I said "Sorry for everything" to her. Now what will be running in her mind.
Not much as she isn't interested in you.
Every human on earth is a dating coach
Especially on TH-cam
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Who cares? You should do this, you should do that...I don't care anymore. No point in dating anymore nowadays. All modern women are the same.
Björk was right... "If you ever get close to a human
And human behaviour
Be ready, be ready to get confused"
my mission is different this coming year. like me or not, MOVE. GET OUT MY WAY. IM PLACING MY OWN CARDS ON ME NOW.
“Men should invest, not chase” exactly 👍🤛
ya, men have to do all the learning, trial and error, in order to know how to date, how to meet and attract someone, reminds of a comment discussion i saw going on instagram and i agree with it, it went like this:
"why aren't there accounts like these for girls? it seems guys have to do all the learning" and a guy said "women just exist and dudes line up for her"
and it continued:
"women don't have to learn game, let alone almost do anything to get guys. They just go out, be there, just be there, look pretty and get attention, options for just existing. Unfortuneately, we as guys have to learn this crap to get women into our lives. Getting girls is a skill that has to be practiced repeatedly"
i thought that summed it up perfectly, ya for guys, men, getting women is a skill, but for women, getting guys is not a skill, but not the other way around, never was a fan of how reality has to be this way, oh well, it will never change sadly.
You nailed it. I fell for an engineering girl early in my career. It wasn't long until I figured guys like me with a decent income were a dime a dozen in her world. All she had to do was focus on her work, look decent and the guys would flock to her. She was 25 at the time and married at 44. I have a feeling she played the game until the wheels started falling off the wagon. (asian girl their looks tend to hold up well with age)
@@ColdPotatoThe appearance yes, but not the eggs! 😅
@ LOL for all I know the person might be a DINK. She was very good with kids and people so I honestly hope she pulled off a family.
If a woman loves a man or atleast, very interested in you, they will show it. She will do everything to make sure you are happy with her.
Love is not a flat surface, it has ups and downs. If she loves you, then keep going. If you pursue her and find it hopeless, then you can look for another opportunity. Just be serious and sincere and persevere if you can.
What happens when I stop chasing her is...I start chasing someone else!
If a girl plays games, she will game you forever. I don't know if it is me, but girls only want to follow me.
What I've done in the past is say this.
" Clearly this isn't a love connection so do you have any single friends?"
Often theyre offended but sometimes they become a wingman and set you up with a friend who actually IS into you.
Good strategy. Thanks for sharing it.
I'm kicking myself in the past for a girl that I friend zoned myself with. What about her friends, darn it LOL!!!
If she doesn't like you, most likely her friend isn't going to like you either. Why would her friend desire a man she rejected???
@@rascal211 maybe she already has a guy and isn't a jerk
@rascal211 unsure, but it's worked successfully for me on several occasions for me.
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When you stop chasing them, they immediately look for other supply. They're in dire thirst of constant attention and when you dont give it to them, they get pissed off and ghost you. That's what happens.
I'd rather go fishing or hunting.. I've come here to get info and to learn about what the woman I currently pursue thinks of me.. but I was annoyed instead. I think I'll just talk to her bluntly about my feeling towards her and ask permission to date her. If she reciprocates positively then good if not then goodbye. I won't be wasting her time and she will not waste my time. It's tiring emotionally and financially chasing a woman who views you as a creep than a potential mate. I value more my Self respect than a woman's attention. If she doesn't show the same interest I'll let her be and carry on with my life.
Genuine self-respect and love win all the time.
I’ll never text her ever again or dm her or email her. I learned my lesson.
wow so if a guy stop answering your text or coming around or pulls back you do"t know you have been dumped or he has moved on?.
I only chased because the girl kept looking and smiling at me every time I went to coffee pop in group! At first I didn’t even find her attractive but because she was a lot younger I gradually developed a crush on her but when I asked her out she made an excuse! What was that all about ??
Just curious OnLooker
I have similar experiences. F*ck all these games seriously...
- from Indonesia -
You caught feelings for her. She did not catch feelings for you. She was curious.
Or she only likes the attention and ego feeding, no feelings involved.
Move on habibi 😉
Happiness happens when you stop chasing a woman! No dramas No BS No mind games just complete freedom 💯 👌
As much as I appreciate this perspective, basically this dynamic is why don't talk about their feelings. You hit the nail on the head there. Women tend to not understand what men are think and men talk about their feelings it tends to be used against us. ....and we wonder why men's mental health suffers.
Cannot disclose your feelings to a woman. It only turns her off as that is a feminine frame for a man to be in.
If the attraction is low LET IT THE F GO IMMEDIATELY ‼️
Chasing women is like Chasing a bus you always get left behind.
why do you guys call being dumped as ghosting? dose it make the person feel better to be a victim over not being good enough?
I chased her all the time. Until she expressed how she felt and that I was pressuring her too much. So I backed off almost 100%. Recently she reached out to me for us to have dinner together. I politely agreed and now it remains to be seen what will happen next.
How long is,100% backoff?
You should have said no. That would have made her want you more as she is now the one asking you and you are rejecting her.
If your a therapist you should know men and women are different, us blokes start with the physical attraction, which motivates us to get to know you, seems some women presume men think like they do, and visa versa, which I suggest causes the biggest problems when interacting with the opposite sex
This is so stupid, that's why I would rather stay single forever and keep all my money for myself and enjoy all myself!
Amen!!!! 👍😉
FACTS 🎉
Get to the point. Then stop. Anything beyond that is TOO MUCH.
I believe respect is key. No means no. That's how I see it.
Who cares for a gaslighter. More money in my pocket.
So why do they suddenly become interested when they see you doing better
LOL. All the time🎉
“Invest vs chase” was a good one
Wells? Far Go
Ya right , invest in your future now , buy Bitcoin and stop 🛑 dating nonesense. Woman
you articulated this dynamic incredibly well. well said and helpful
Good insights here. Just went thru something like this a few months ago. Keep up the good work, Christie.:)
Mine case is the AVOIDANCE situation due to being fearful of making commitments. I’ve moved on now, free, & happy!
Did she ever contact you again? I just dated a fear avoidant woman this past fall. When I reminded her that I was dating with intention, she told me that she didn't have the "emotional bandwidth" to continue. I'm now a month into no contact and have gone out with other people.
Just remember this never invests more in here more than she invest in you!
Such rubbish!! "A woman is sometimes too nice to let you know to stop chasing her" - it's all games.
I understand what you are saying and yes, chasing too much is bad. Coming across as desperate is worse. Chasing is OK but you have to know when to dial it down.
Sometimes you have to make the girl do a little work. So I have to mention I just rediscovered my favorite romance movie of all time. Meet Joe Black. It's from 1998. Anthony Hopkins, Brad Pitt and Claire Forlani who is absolutely beautiful.
MJB had some interesting twists. To anyone who has never seen it I highly recommend it. Everytime I watch this movie it makes me want to fall in love again.
The therapist is circling too long before revealing the answers.
Remember...she is a woman bro
Very helpful and very relevant to my relationship right now.
this was good thank u
I agree, most guys want it to be easy. But with the feel of exclusivity.
So if a woman makes it hard, most guys will self eliminate.
However, if a girl is too easy, they won’t respect her and probably will cheat on her. That’s the exclusivity bit, someone who seems difficult to obtain by others but isn’t complicating your life.
Great insight. Sounds like a lot of head games and very draining. i appreciate your thoughts as a woman and is very interesting the games females play.
Yep, everytime I've chased a woman, I've been used and thrown out, like trash. It sucks. Never again.
When you don’t know why he’s interested, it’s because inside you wouldn’t be interested in yourself.
Be present and clear headed. Don’t think in the moment, just act and react, and inquire into her brain…not compliments beyond “you look nice tonight”.
you do"t know men we like you or we do"t . if a man pulls back he dose"t like you. so he dose"t care what you do or how you feel.
Easy to say just move on don't waste your time on the wrong person. It's a hirt but true. Just move on love yourself
I definitely did the last one , she will accept and give back nothing.. so I just pulled away !!
Thank you for your insightfulness and validation ! For those that have been through this I think we understand loud and clear what Christie is talking about .
When you stop chasing her. The contact is broken and you live happily ever after.
So should we chase first before letting go?
You get to keep your self respect and move on. And the one who doesn't like you movew on with her life. Normalcy
I been whis woman for 47 years and she stop answering my call and my texts but when I don't answer her phone calls she gets mad
47 years? This is beyond the usual timeframe for trouble, but I guess trouble can happen anytime. You have more woman-years experience than most people here. What is your analysis?
In the beginning both of us were equally into each other! Then we became Dance Partners and in the Friend Zone! the connection was still of the Charts. However she is holding back. After an argument. I decided to pull back.
Wow! Christie! You’ve explained it very clearly! Wow! You sound very smart. You’re my kinda gal.
Do you have a platform I can dm you? Let me know.
Think about it. If you gave it your shot and it's not returned; honor it. Move on. If people are genuinely interested, they will be invested in you. If they are playing these push-pull scenarios? Stop and move on. If you're having these mind-game insecurities at a baseline level, when harder situations comes, it'll be a headache. There are too many people in the world to be hung up on a what if and time is short. Don't be a doormat to a mixed signals and don't be desperate.
So is it better not to make a move or approach if you're not sure that she's interested?
I'm curious, where does the whole 'no self-respect' assessment come from? While I understand that over-pursuing (or chasing) and moving too fast with someone aren't healthy behaviors, I'm not sure how this always connects with the respect a person has or doesn't have for themselves. Sometimes I think we come up with explanations that might fit some situations, but they get applied everywhere. Why can't it just be a matter of immaturity or a lack of self-control and discipline? Who hasn't rushed into a relationship in their life? We're fallible because we're human. I'm not convinced that (an absence of) self-respect (or a need for validation) is (are) always at the center of this problem.
LOTS OF SENTENCES THAT ARE JUST WORD SALAD... RAMBLINGS...
Don't take female dating advice seriously. Always take it with a grain of salt.
They only give advice to men that keeps them in power. For example.. "still pay for her when she comes back" lol
Women change like the weather conditions
When a woman is chased, she means chased by someone she’s playing or just wants, otherwise, they call it stalking. I’m out.
as soon as she said shes a "fearful avoidant" everything she is trying to say went out the window...... avoidants must be what they title themselves..... avoided
When you stop chasing her she's happy because she wasn't all that interested in the first place. You will never have to chase a woman who is interested.
I have my Asian Ling Ling too, and she's the best woman i have ever been with.
Shout out to Coach Greg Adams!!
It's NEVER the woman's fault, is it?
why dose"t she just ask hey whats going on?
I liked a girl at work. It was playful teasing back and forth. She called me a boomer and I called her a zoomer. We had many inside jokes. I made her laugh until her belly hurt. I asked her out many times and she always said she was busy. She liked my posts on insta and watched my stories. One day, I just moved to another city. She still liked my posts and stories. Eventually, I came back and asked if she wanted to meet. She said "Another time perhaps". Then few months later, I got muted from insta and then eventually blocked from all social media.
She committed to someone else. Be happy for her but don’t intrude.
She's with someone else and didn't care enough for you. reality stinks
never chase cows when the milk is readily available !! Women have a shelf life as the way nature intended it. ...Let that sink in. Focus on financial freedom and health. Let them chase you ... real life example=Larry Ellison.
Dear Christie, as a thank you for your advice, i´m going to give you my advice. This time on Feng Shui. Replace the dead flowers on the background with fresh flowers. You´ll love the difference. Cheers from Lisbon, Portugal and Keep it up!
So i ran into a girl that i happened to like and oh boy did she confuse the heck out of me.
First she admitted that she was going to ask me my name but changed her mind for some reason so i asked her instead, where upon she asked when i get off work and what times my breaks where.
After telling her that i started to say hi to her to be polite and such since i see her like 3 days a week at work, sometimes she said something back or asked how my day was other times she just ignored me.
I learnt that she had a lot of stuff going outside of wprk and tried to be kind and understandable, but she kept up her behavior so last year i was like look im going to do something nice here and give her a Christmas card.
She took the card and said thanks with a smile but never gave me one back or even wrote me back so a bunch of guys just told me to let her go which i did, a few days before news years she once again treated me as dirt and only when i was about to leave did she say "Have a good one" and replied and said the same thing back and that was the last thing i ever said to her.
My parents were contacted by a girl who set a dinner date. I was early so I looked over the menu. I was tapped on my shoulder and the most beautiful model was standing there!! She's 27, divorced with 2 kids, house and a car. Talking over dinner, she knew all about me. She said: "Would you marry me"? We dated about 4 years. So being an average guy I guess I was lucky.
Good advice