DOUBLESPEAK | Omeleto
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ส.ค. 2020
- A woman reports sexual harassment at work.
DOUBLESPEAK is used with permission from Hazel McKibbin. Learn more at hazelmckibbin.com.
Emma has been working at a company for some time, dealing with continual harassment by an older superior named Peter. She has finally lodged a complaint against him and now is due to hear the results of her company's investigation.
But the face-to-face meeting quickly veers from a degree of civility to one where Emma finds her original testimony and evidence distorted, picked apart or prevaricated by the company's representative. Emma's case hangs in the balance -- but more importantly, so does her sense of security.
This compact yet powerful dramatic short -- written and directed by Hazel McKibbin and produced by Stephanie Fine -- has very relevant themes of sexual harassment at its center, but it is also essentially a conversation. As the action unfolds, viewers quickly realize that the conversation is not a mutual back-and-forth, but a lopsided dynamic skewed in favor of a company trying to protect itself versus a young worker trying to be heard and validated.
With a title about language and a structure of a two-hander, the storytelling leans heavily on excellent writing, which was heavily based on McKibbin's own experiences with reporting sexual harassment. Language and communication are what Emma presents as evidence of her harassment; language is also one of the ways that she has been harassed. And sadly, the sharp, incisive dialogue shows how language can take a truth and twist, obscure and wrap it in ambiguities, to the point of meaninglessness and distress.
The language of the writing is deft, agile and slippery in how it inflicts its own violence upon Emma, but the visual approach is clear, deliberate and powerfully lucid, with coolly clear tones and a sense of composition that is almost abstract in its attention to the small but telling detail. Every camera movement emphasizes the shifting of power in the room, and the editing captures the small gestures and unspoken behavior that reveals the real agendas at work in the meeting.
Lead actor Angela Wong Carbone's understated yet wrenching performance does the important job of bringing viewers into the subtext of the film, playing out her unspoken pain and disappointment as her trauma is essentially invalidated, and she's rendered powerless and unimportant, both by the process and by key betrayals during her meeting. Like the rest of the film, there are no melodramatics, but instead, the wrenching portrayal of someone having to swallow their voice, again and again and again.
DOUBLESPEAK offers an intimate snapshot into one woman's experience of reporting harassment, but it is also as much about process and systems as about Emma's individual story. Emma is caught in a system and dynamic in which she is just a small part, and it is this system that sets up the rules, as well as the checks and balances on them when they're broken. Sadly, it is a system more concerned with protecting itself, discrediting those that question it, and offering empty promises and apologies. Its masterful last scene is both a marvel of restraint and a chilling evocation of the price paid for this -- which is almost always paid by those already at a disadvantage in the system. - ภาพยนตร์และแอนิเมชัน
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"You won't work with him, unless it's necessary for a project."
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And it's always necessary to work with him, as it turns out.
@@cahidijoyoraharjo7833 She'll whack him as her project
She's the one with the problem - she can always leave.
@@ppumpkin3282 And start looking for a new job? Like it's so easy to land one? Yeah, I don't think so.
@@cahidijoyoraharjo7833 The amount of people in the comments who'd happily lick Weinstein's boots is sad
When she bowed her head, then said "I'm sorry", it was heartbreaking to see how she felt so defeated to the point where she felt she had to apologize.
I know right. That hurt me so much.
Unfortunately a lot of women and possibly men are put through this all the time. Possibly needing the job so badly, all they feel they can do is just take it. But hopefully she learned what she will need for the next time , and with those men getting away with things, most likely, there will be a next time.
If she’s gonna wait a year and half, an expectation to be believed implicitly is laughable
Hey let’s not jump to conclusions, we don’t have all the facts I.e how she was dressed etc.
Maybe she's a great actor that wanted to destroy the man's life and made it all up.
It's going to be very depressing for her to work with him around, and he's going to be just fine, that's what is the conclusion of this short. Unfortunately, it's a very accurate portrayal of most such real-life situations.
She needs to grow up and stop letting other people control how she feels.
@@ppumpkin3282 👏👏👏 yes!
@Glenna Smith Oh Glenna, what happened to you? Shunned by men?
P Pumpkin because she wants basic decency in a work place ??
P Pumpkin yeah this applies to Facebook arguments. The jest of the video is that she was sexually harassed but couldn’t prove it, her fault. But it’s not about her letting people effect how she feels and more about how her supervisor shouldn’t make people feel like that. We are talking about being professional at work, it goes both ways. Both parties have to be professional and courteous.
They made her supervisor a woman to show that *even the other women* in the office end up contributing to the status quo.
I guess that tends to be how you get higher up. If you seem outspoken no wants to give you a promotion.
I’ve had a few female bosses and can say that 100% would back me - esp my current boss. Heads would rollllll. I wish everyone could say the same.
To the status quo? What were they supposed to have done differently? There was no proof.
@@TheJemmaGrl Back you up even though you had no proof? Heads would roll? What are you even doing in HR? You should be working for the Spanish Inquisition.
i had a racist boss who was bullying me. the company brought in a black lawyer to handle the case.
I feel bad for her. I know what it feels like to be in the presence of an abuser. It's like being abused for the second time.
I could have a more mature conversation with the young male that stalked me and threatened me
Then with the females who have since then harassed me.
I completely understand this and I'm happy to say the manager who sexually harassed me was indeed terminated. Thank God!
I can feel how uncomfortable and how she might be slowly going crazy
Yes! She's a great actress! And also the actors playing Human Resources and the office manager! I could really feel the tension building up.
Yes... But she isnt.
Good. I hate women that complain about this stuff
Because they complain on you??
Having gone through this and having to see your abuser on a regular basis is the worst feeling
This brought me straight back to my own case...and how no matter what, despite winning with overwhelming evidence, HE kept his job and had the full support of his male counterparts - and I was ostercized and treated like I was a liability - so no one would hire me that knew about it. I lost my heart's joy - what I was born to do - and he didn't even get a slap on the wrist. I was burned down and stripped of my soul. Nothing changes and it makes me so angry I could spit.
This just feels so realistic and true..
That's acting. But since women assume she's not lying, men are guilty in their minds. Get over it.
@Tom H Yeah and she'd love it and she'd love downing your jism but then when you stop paying attention to her, she'll file a sexual harassment complaint.
@@ppumpkin3282 again - who is assuming? There is a person who is saying it feels realistic and true. Why do you think that is? It's because many women (and men) experience this first hand. Yet, please - go on questioning every single person who is relating to this scenario.
Absolutely. So many men get falsely accused by toxic, damaged and/or attention seeking women. Something should be done about that "equality" we keep hearing about.
She needs to consult with an employment lawyer!
HR Professional here...if you EVER feel unheard by your company over something like this - find a lawyer - please. Sexual harassment is a CRIME and if your employer hasn't dealt with it like they should...lawyer up. Please. Retaliation is also illegal. Please, please, please.
But realistically if your HR dept is up to snuff it will address the issue.
Your lawyer can't do anything here, and neither can HR. If you're an HR professional - you should know that.
P Pumpkin I disagree with your pessimistic view.
Making false accusations should be a crime, yet despite the fact that even in this short movie there was no actual proof of anything you are happy to assume guilt. Your a HR professional... who is encouraging people to lawyer up with no evidence of a crime. So many false accusations made and I think people like you encouraging that is disgusting.
@@ppumpkin3282 Different laws for different states and countries, so why argue? True?
Discovering Omeleto has been one of the best things during my quarantine!
same! Idk how I hadnt heard of them before. I love all their stuff!
I love this channel. I have featured them in my recommended channels module for years because I think everyone should watch this. 😃 It is like “free” movies without the Hollywood stigma attached.
Yeesh, even the last scene made me feel uncomfortable.
Why? Was there something the un-named dude in the backround said?
@@anders8204 Not that I could gather, but I just get this icky feeling that something was gonna happen to the young woman. Like, the dude was gone lean down and whisper something to her or place his hand on her. You know, make her feel even more uneased. I could feel her discomfort just by watching because I've been in similar situations.
@@anders8204 Pretty sure that's the same guy who harassed Emma. It sounds like the lady offscreen says "Peter, your clients are here" at 8:45.
@Mittz The Trash Lord Yes it gave me the creeps.
It's so obvious that she got all worked up just by realizing that he's sitting a little close to her. She looked like she's scared that he's gonna touch her or something.
I once worked with a colleague who was a victim of the sexual harassment in the workplace. Took her over a year to make it known. It didn't help and she ended up leaving anyway. The company claimed insufficient evidence to prove her claims... they said the same things here... "You took too long to come forward", "You won't work with him, unless your departments need to collaborate". blah blah...
In the end it was easy to see that the male was invincible in the case because he was a very valuable employee with a 15 year service record and she was just moved from intern to permanent less than 2 year service.
Glad I don't work for this company anymore... I also heard of many other cases of harassment coming out of there.
The most depressing thing in the short film was the part where some people in the comments don't believe she was harassed even if it so clear by her chat with the mother and her reaction at the end, and it even says so in the video description!
But since they don't clearly witnessed the scenes (well, there were some flashbacks to be honest), they don't acknowledge it. Just like in real life!
The people who made this film must be very disappointed. Or maybe what they really wanted was to reveal that hypocrisy.
Your Majesty You silly fool. Everyone is fully aware by now, America in general no longer relies on facts or evidence. Heresy, semantics and emotion; that is what we use to determine guilt. “Logic? Get that out of my newsroom, he was an unarmed individual wrongfully killed by law enforcement. What? He disarmed an officer of his taser and the officer feared if given the chance he’d take the gun? Nonsense...police brutality- no racism, because from this incident and the inferred “facts” we gathered regarding the situation we may confidently say this officer is guilty of a hate crime.” Those of us whom would like to be made aware of the full fact based story are apparently the ‘victim blamers’. Oh how the blind sheep are cursed.
The meta conversation in the comments is actually seems to be pretty well in line with corporate America. Even in big cases like Weinstien and Cosby you have people asking why they didn't say something sooner, or they should have just quit, or complain how with how bad Me Too has gotten that "we can't even hug our female coworkers anymore without fear".
Corporate America would quickly become a lot better if everybody followed societal rules on not touching people without their permission or talking about the 'great rack' that the office worker has.
seeigecannon You say that as if the very few societal rules we still have are adequately established. The rules you reference in actuality were once referred to as “societal norms”, the very same norms that many are opposed to now in their entirety. Screw determining what parts were okay and what parts were wrong, let us destroy the entire system and try to rewrite it from the ground up at the same time. Spoiler; it won’t and can not work, that isn’t how civilizations evolve. You don’t just start a new regime by saying all the old did was wrong; or at the very least you only say it publicly to gain the blind loyalty of the populous. As much as you hate to admit it (privately that is), there was some good to come out of the pre-existing system (whatever it may have been); therefore you are supposed to take that and expound upon it. Instead sensitivity has taken over and replaced logic, reasoning and general science. That is what we have today, that “consensual touch” you speak of can only be attained AFTER you ask for the suitable pronouns one responds too. For christ’s sake, if a woman drowns on the beach and you wish to revive her, you mustn’t bother with saving her life as priority (provided she responds to feminine pronouns); instead you must ask if she would like your assistance (good luck with that) then be sure to have a witness so she can’t claim sexual assault twenty years down the road. Granted the reasoning for these changes aren’t necessarily bad, the temporary solutions society has decided to cling to; however, are extreme.
@@jamesthedouche1960 Please don't take this as sarcasm as this is not intended as such, but bravo on the single most impressive straw-man I have ever gotten the (again, genuine) pleasure of receiving.
Also, something something something Good Samaritan Laws.
The people who made this film aren't disappointed in the least, they made it
Contact a lawyer, they are railroading her and they know it.
She accused him of sexual harassment and her claims were not founded after an investigation. She should be fired! And sued by him for slander.
@@kinkkong5479 The guy literally said they delete security footage after 6 months. Her only crime is waiting so long to come forward.
@@kinkkong5479 Your claim is absurd and dangerous, and is neither how criminal nor civil law works. By your logic, every person who accuses someone of any crime should be sued for "slander" if the person is later found not guilty.
This is so realistic its depressing - he says, she says - sense aspect of justice is lost
Yeah, it's depressing. But proof should be necessary before punitive actions can be made, if not you just have mob-justice based entirely around popularity contests.
@@anders8204 Most guys I've met have been put through this, even I have by a toxic lying woman that was the one flirting with me. Sadly, the boss was the only one that never witnessed it and she only spoke to him. Thought I was let go because of performance, found out months later. Then women wonder why men don't want to work with them.
I've been accused of inappropriate conduct by somebody I had never even met before. I'm glad that there is a process to go through in that evidence is required. Any person at any time can make a false claim about you. It's good that they don't just believe you right off the bat.
Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas was accused of telling Anita Hill a crude joke about a pubic hair on a coke can. Even if true what's the big deal? And Anita invited him to her home for intimate home cooked dinner. This is why men and women can't be friends at work. They say the slightest thing, and the man is always guilty.
@@ppumpkin3282 You're starting to sound guilty about something.
So much to say on this...but I’ll keep it to one observation.
Keeping the abuser out of focus or only partially shown in any scene was a master stroke. He is not important enough to have the privilege of focus, that only belongs to the victim.
Congratulations to all involved in making this important film.
@Ed Yak It was a powerful short film. You sensed the uneasiness throughout the whole film and shows how she felt for so long with this for more then a year.
Agreed. Her apology for not coming forward sooner was heart wrenching. We are all individuals; to face up to abuse takes strength and courage. For some, it can take one minute to react; for others a year.
Abuser? White Knight? You're out of focus.
Agreed. it was so powerful!
It’s also a great example of how they’re still present & still have a powerful impact on their victim even after they’ve been “managed”. Even in the background they can give the message that they’re still there & not going away
I have suffered from similar issues. I was not a victim of 'sexual' harassment, but i had gone thru some brutal harassment in the workplace. After attempting to file a complaint to my manager i was told, "such is life" and my complaint was ignored. To this day i still get nausea when ever i go near that facility
@John Wabash that is sad honestly. Those are called toxic people and are allowed to get away with so much. You get the response ''Oh!! That is just Jackie or Chris...... just ignore them''
John Make them believe one way or the other that you poisened a neighbourhood in the past ! They'll " love and cherrish " you !
@MF Rex Such is life?? You are nothing but a TROLL. So maybe you need to shut up too. Ppl should put up with abuse? Do you have a family? If someone was abusing them, you would say take it and who cares.
@Glenna Smith What this person is saying, is nothing but sad and abusive. This is a troll.
Sadly it is true, "such is life" is accurate. Men go thru much in their lives, most of which we suffer and bottle. I bottled it up for a year at that job, and when in a moment of weakness i told off my abusers with some vulgar language, they had me fired for it. I learned that day that "such is life" is a cruel reality. However, it is not the rule. Never allow yourself to be controlled by the way things are in life. life is cruel but not evil. Its cruelties are blind. I moved on from that time in my life and though the scar is still there, i never allow it to control me. My scars give me strength.
I am a man by my own right. I do cry when i need to cry, but when i need to stand, i stand strong.
Just wanted to point out that the Human Resources rep is behaving in every way like an attorney except that he refers to the accused as "Peter" instead of "Mr. [Last Name]", as though Peter is a friend of his.
That is an interesting observation. Is Peter's name mentioned anywhere else in the movie?
More accurately, like Peter's attorney.
It has nothing to do with anything. That’s what makes this line of work so difficult. When you inform the person the laws and policy’s they feel like you don’t believe them or personally attacked. It’s like reporting a murder you witnessed a year and half later. Odds are nothing will happen because the evidence is no longer there.
He referred to the accuser as "Emma" instead of "Ms [Last Name]".
The allegations were not proven to be false, just not proven like a lot of crimes.
True. But one can't really be punished for unproven crimes because if you could, we'd have the witch-trials all over again.
Guilty until proven innocent is a dangerous concept
And just like many false accusations, genius.
Said by the SJW who will vote for Joe Biden, and Listen to Bill Clinton at the Democratic National Convention - two preditors.
Chain Reaction yknow there’s not that many false accusations , most of them aren’t proven true because the system goes out of its way to close the case with no conclusion
5:17 Her "I'm sorry" broke my heart. Wow.
This makes my blood boil........ The guy legit got into her space in the end on purpose to prove a point.. I would have been plotting a way to kick his ass outside of work 🤣
6:03 That death stare. Women should look out for one another, the look Emma gave her boss is the look of utter betrayal and rage.
Women should look out for each other? Should men look out for each other? How about we all treat each other fairly, regardless of gender? You can't automatically believe a woman just because she is a woman... False accusations happen all the time.
@@Galdring such as Amber Heard vs Johnny Depp. She wrecked his life with false allegations of abuse when he was the victim!
@SaltyLemonz Are you serious? The world _isn't_ black and white, that is exactly the point. Have Americans all gone insane? Have you forgotten the principle "innocent until proven guilty", which is fundamental to Western society? What kind of Kafkan nightmare is the Woke movement trying to create over there? It is absolutely unhinged.
Don't you realize that if we depart from our principles of justice, that will not aid the _weak,_ it will give the _powerful_ even more power.
@@BrokenInTheBox How do you know it is false? We're you there?
Atmospheric abuse is really hard to pin down and "prove." It's subjugating and insidious, and can be just as destructive as more overt forms of abuse. It's a daily occurrence in an endless variety of different situations, particularly for young women, who are often the focus of more socially powerful male harassers attentions. Try living it before you automatically disbelieve her.
At that point you just need to not let people effect how you feel. What you say and what the video portrayed are two different things. She was overtly harassed but couldn’t prove it because of her own fault. You can’t prove what your stating. Its also not as destructive because you can ignore it while you can’t ignore harassment.
The remedy that the company puts into effect allows him to deny her entry into conversations that may be important for her to participate in to advance within the company. She could do the same to him, by starting a conversation in his absence. If it is a journalistic organisation, she can simply start researching something newsworthy and not include him in the conversation.
@@victorthurse6027 thats not what this is about. its not about her career per se, its about a man sexually harassing a woman in the workplace.
I haven't seen anyone in the commentary field automatically disbelieve her. People are correctly pointing out that you can't automatically _believe_ accusations, either. False accusations happen all the time.
I didn't know there was a word for someone making you feel unsafe just by being in the vicinity. Atmospheric/ambient abuse is a much bigger problem than most people realize because you often can't say anything without seeming "crazy" and losing your credibility.
As someone's who's been through sexual harassment - this hit so close to home! Such a powerful film that hit on that moment of disappointment that hits you when you realise there's nothing more you can do.
No job is worth this. I wish she would’ve been strong enough to just quit, as soon as they disregarded her like that. If this ever happens to anyone, they should just walk out and don’t look back. It’s just a job.
What if she is the sole bread earner? Or may she is stuck in a different city? What if those people are powerful enough to make sure that she doesn't get any job in any other company?
While I somewhat agree with you, a problem is that if she were to quit she might have a problem paying rent.
@macolyis I agree. Sorry to say , she waited way too long to speak up.BUT, she could have talked to other female co-workers and see if they have experienced the same thing. Some people are jerks, true. Usually if you call them out the first time, loudly, with witnesses, they tend to avoid that behavior again. If she possibly does not feel strong enough to do that, herself, maybe she could enlist the help of a good friend. I do not condone that type of behavior at all, but you need to deal with it in a timely manner, not wait. Also don't forget, it MUST be proven. There are 2 sides to every story.
Not everyone is in the position to just quit their job . And it’s not just a job , to some people it could be their lifeline for keeping custody of their kids , or supporting an ill family member , or keeping them off the street , or their dream job .
@macolyis they could have at least actually made it so she didn't have to work directly with him. The "You won't work with him, unless it's necessary for a project" part was more than a bit egregious. They also refused to acknowledge an obvious power dynamic created by having her work directly with a senior staff member and made up a bs excuse to try and deny it ever existed.
“There’s no proof that you were sexually harassed” oh but if the abuser denies doing it, is that proof that she *wasn’t* sexually harassed? double standards
He created a "hostile work environment" which definitely there should have been a policy about...
That’s incorrect
Honestly as someone who has gone through crap like this, this is how it feels. It took me years to even fully get over the initial guilt I felt and realize the actions as they were. I am aware there's tons of witch hunts out there right now, trying to just tag people for publicity, but there's also so many like this that go unnoticed or not cared about enough. I've been on that end and it's rough. It's not everywhere but it's there and that's the issue
how can it be fixed? A clause stating legal action would be taken by the company against the accused? But then again, who decides who's guilty or innocent
@@jra3224 yea I have no clue, it's just complicated and difficult. Guess it's just going to take years and hope that everyone begins to see it and understand it all a little better
@@rileyroo220 true. all we can do is hope. First, stuff like this wasn't spoken about openly n if it did, was brushed under the carpet. But now ppl have started taking note. So maybe a few more years n this would be archaic
@@rileyroo220 Hope u have healed though
@@jra3224 thank you, it's been ages honestly but it's gotten way better over time. The only rough bits are other people's judgement sometimes.
My brother has sexually assaulted me. My parents scolded me. This makes me crazy,justice that can't be found..
Some of the comments in this section are disturbing. Women NEVER want to feel like prey, especially at work. If you make her feel like prey, you’re not only disrespecting her but you’re also disrespecting yourself. It’s about self esteem. Once a woman experiences uncomfortable behavior, she often tries to qualify or disqualify her own involvement in the incident first; she rarely has the audacity to think she is doing anything that alluring to warrant such a reaction. By the time a woman fully understands that it’s not her fault, it then takes courage to address the issue. Environments are hardly ever skewed in favor of professionalism or self control. I experienced a similar situation very recently. I’m learning to immediately and firmly state, “I’m not interested (in co-workers).” Also, aggressors are not always male.
The reason there are so many "crazy Russian driving dash cam" videos is that the police/insurance system there is apparently so corrupt and ineffective that people NEED to record dashcam footage constantly to verify any claims. Imagine if more *people* walked around with wire microphones and hidden body cams
Ah, isso aí já está acontecendo com os smartphones. É bom sempre lembrar que tudo pode estar sendo gravado, pelo menos o audio, porque a lente é mais dificil de esconder.
then the rogue people will just find a way to block their signal. This is not a solution.
It is like building a massive wall in the border and thus forcing the criminals to come to the country through other ways...
@@alphan.7992Any suggestions?
No thank you, wallahi I'd rob your phone if you record me without my consent
@@iceitupgsv You would have to know you were being recorded first.
so from the comments I'm reading, is it okay to grope women at work?
Tom H-
"I'd definitely grope that at least, probably play a few rounds of golf with her dad too afterwards. I'm sure she'll stay happier and prettier in a less challenging secretary role or maybe a P.A. anyway"
P pumpkin-
" Yeah and she'd love it and she'd love downing your jism but then when you stop paying attention to her, she'll file a sexual harassment complaint."
I'm confused... do men really think this way? :( I mean, I'm just a young person who doesn't know who to believe, but I feel like that's quite a disrespectful perspective
@@bellylintlilly DHFSJHSFGSKF omg tysm
These sorts of things can be so complicated. Sometimes it’s an accumulation of incidents which seem minor if taken individually. If she’d reported the first incident after it happened she’d probably have been accused of overreacting or of being “paranoid”. You can’t win. She should have left the job.
When it happened to me, I cried in the washroom at work and nobody heard me. It wasn’t a very big washroom either. It’s a heartbreaking situation to be in and I couldn’t say anything because nobody cared.
Whenever a meeting begins with a business catchphrase, leave. Also, why doesn’t she have a representative with her?
This video was so realistic. Women experience these types of situations at the workplace all the time. I remember 2 years ago when I was 19, I was working as a outbound sales representative at a call center. One day the supervisor decided to place me in between six men. On top of that the supervisor himself would be flirtatious remarks towards me and other women in the call center. I remember feeling so uncomfortable and I didn’t know what to do. I ended up quitting the job. My brother who works in Human Resources told me I should’ve told the HR team. It’s easy to say that, but when you’re alone in these kind of situations you don’t know what to do. You don’t know if anyone will even take you seriously or that if it might effect your job. I empathize with women who’ve been through this
Is that harassment though? Did you ask him to stop?
@@treacherousjslither6920 Stop. Please.
Thank you for making this video, I've been there in her exact shoes and unfortunately had to quit my job. Maybe one day the systems will change for the better. I'm glad I work from home now. One good thing to come out of quarantine.
I, like many men, have been falsely accused. The system won't change because most people are inherently toxic. Especially those who wish for mob rule.
Toxicity a word that follows you everywhere you go. There are good people and bad people in this world and always will be. I'm sorry that happened to you defamation of character is a crime in and of itself. Maybe one day the toxic people of this world will just disappear. I can still hope can't I. +A Forever optimist
@Glenna Smith why is it suspicious?
@@chainreaction8977 look in terms of real data and not your pathos, 2-10% of men are falsely accused. Another data point is that only 35% of sexual assaults/harassment are reported. Therefore, only .66-3.33% of men are falsely accused. That's a very small amount as compared to women who are actually abused.
I am sorry you were falsely accused, it should have never happened. In my opinion any false accusation is one too many, but false allegations are not cause to not listen to victims. There are far more victims than false victims.
@Glenna Smith And this, is exactly why innocent guys are doing jail time or have their lives ruined. Cause of people like you.
She wont be working there much longer AND looks like he's working on his next victim.
When you're the next victim of false accusations, think of this comment.
Agreed. It was so heartbreaking.
Horribly uncomfortable.
It would be extremely difficult to quit her job and try to get another. Her accusation will follow her.
The second hand anger i feel rn...
When you think you're going to be harassed again, secretly record footage of the incident.
People don’t understand just how real and common this is.
Some folks may need to watch the short film again. The company admitted they were able to corroborate some of her claims and characterized them as in appropriate, but stated they weren’t in violation of their company policy. She didn’t simply come forward with nothing but rumors.
The scariest thing is that they agreed it was inappropriate but it’s still legal . And that he got to speak inappropriately to another woman WHILST the main character still having to work with him .
Yawn. If one say, oh is it cold outside while obviously observing your breast, is probably inappropriate especially with the wondering eyes. However, it is not an action worthy of firing anyone. Sheesh.
Capius1272 that’s not the bit I was talking about except that’s still a comment that should have consequences. I was talking about inviting her somewhere outside work while clearly meaning that he wants to get her out of the work environment so he can do what he wants . He was speaking inappropriately while trying to get her out with him . That’s not right .
@@hannahdiane8451 Sheesh, no man should come within twenty feet of you if that's what you believe is inappropriate. Sounds like you have dirty mind and are projecting your own dirty thoughts onto this man.
P Pumpkin no , the whole point was that he was being flirtatious with another collegue . That’s the point , he got away with his previous behaviour and then carries on with his behaviour toward other people . Watch the film and understand the concept instead of defending the harrasser
This is so enraging the writing is great
Yeah right. It's amazing how so many automatically think the man is guilty.
@@ppumpkin3282 she was completely discredited and embarrassed... and in almost all cases of sexual harassment the man IS guilty 😬
@@ppumpkin3282 It's amazing how so many men think she's lying or exaggerating.
@@TheJemmaGrl Exaggerating? Who said she's lying. When she told her mother things went "great" was she exaggerating or lying? Or both.
I went through this once with HR when I worked in a hospital. Other women brought up how inappropriate he was with me and they did an investigation and they found an email I had sent him accepting his invitation to show me designer consignment shops we could walk to during lunch. I basically had to apologize to everyone etc for wasting everyone's time. He continued to grope me behind closed doors ... no wonder woman choose to deal with it alone
That’s horrible
This kind of situations also apply to racism. When a black person, particularly a black woman accuses a white person of racism, everyone discredits you and give you empty apologies. Nothing is ever done. I can relate.
I used to cry and have panic attacks every once in a while before going into work, but i transferred to another town, and suddenly it was fine. I then realized that my coworkers were the problem. I started at 16 and these 30-40 year old men were making innuendos out of every word i said, alongside some teenage boys that would corner me and send me inappropriate texts detailing what they wanted to do to me. I never thought it was enough to do something about, because my managers knew and they didnt ever say anything or act on it even when i yelled for the guys that would chase me around to leave me alone. It made me think it wasnt enough, i wasn’t tormented enough or i was too weak, so it wasn’t harassment or assault “yet”. I would never tell a friend to wait until it is, so its sad i had to tell myself that.
The ending.....oh. He's filth. This one was good!
I might not be that socially savvy on what is OK and what isn't in the assumed setting in the video given different cultures, but what did he do at the ending that make you call him filth?
@@anders8204 - yeah, really? I didn't see anything either. Sadly, she seems an emotional wreck and really needs someone to help her learn to be more assertive.
There's much in the final scene that shows us how he is moving onto the next target while still keeping Emma in line. The way he sits on the desk & with his legs open not only physically elevates him implying he is asserting himself over the two women and has more power in the company, but how his informality & ability to do so shows us that the company is more lenient with him and probably will continue to be. His position is also key in that as he sets sights on this new girl in the way he wants to know what she's doing and get her to work extra hours, he is still near to Emma and can at any moment turn to her. Now, in a real workplace environment, these things may not apply at all! But this is a film where cinematography & simple body language can be used as a metaphor to portray a more complex message.
@@maddyjoh8488 Exactly! Well said.
@@anders8204 He's targeted another victim even when she reported him. Her body language told the whole story. The other issue is the reporting process. Her friend seems to know and wanted to know what happened, so it's not kept so confidential nor did her company take it seriously.
Typical corporate bs. I worked in corporate 15 years. This is spot on. Tragic.
How easy he changed his target making her realise how weak she stands
I've been through a similar situation. keep a diary, dates of events and e-mails. always turn up to these meetings with an employment lawyer or union rep. brief them on the situation first. have a 'war fund' that you put into every month to pay for any difficulties you may have. if you can get compensation be very aggressive and ruthless. ask for 10% more than you want. include the effect on your future career and get medical documents eg doctors' notes/records citing stress. if you cant get any compensation leave the company, it's not worth the stress. HR will not help you.
I was fired for sexual harassment
I was innocent
Then the alleged victim sent me a FB message a out 6 months later apologizing for her actions saying she did it bcuz she has never been a manager and she was scared she would be fired.
Fired for what? Not sure. Sure completed her 90 day probationary period. Had the days off she requested etc etc.
Got a lawyer. The company settled for over 6 figures about 2 years later.
She was terminated during the process for taking $2.18.
Victims of false sexual harassment/allegations suffer just like the victims of true sexual harassment.
Sorry to hear that, but this short story is not about false allegation. In this story, she was actually harassed. She just didn't have any evidence to back her up.
@@cahidijoyoraharjo7833 - are you reaching?
No where in my statement did I claim or say or type or even give a hint about what you're trying to claim .
Stop reaching.
Edit... She had evidence but some companies like to sweep things under the rug. These accusations are strong. Once the dude admitted to the 3rd offense, the dots should have connected.
One of the lucky who survived. Hey I was accused of sexual harassment by a woman I never met. She was a lawyer in the law department - I hear they are the worse. I put a bad pun in an email that got back to her. I admitted my mistake, as a penalty I got dunned half my raise. I would have liked to apologize to her, but I feared I could only make it worse. Bottom line is - a year later she had left the company. My guess is they thought anyone that would make a such a big deal about such a small thing they had to be real careful with so she may have closed some doors for herself.
@@ppumpkin3282 if you were in a law firm, I would expect you would be held to a higher standard than 'bad puns' in emails. This, in addition to all the victim blaming and in-bad-faith arguing you're doing in the comment section, and also your admission, make me believe it was your fault.
And maybe she just got a better opportunity.
@@cahidijoyoraharjo7833 Wrong. It's a story of another damaged woman making false accusations. Sorry you're just too dim to see that.
I know this is just a short, but when I see stuff like this it just makes my blood boil. All the little loopholes that he said that he didn't do it and that's all they took his word for it what a monster
This was sad to watch. Emma is too nice and clearly scared to speak up. If you ever experience sexual harassment, make sure to record it via video and when they deny it, make sure to expose them all over social media. That’s the only way to get justice done because and unfortunately most of the time sexual harassments/assaults are not taken seriously and make sure to sue the company you work for.
This unfortunately happens too often in the workplace. Companies disregard complaints unless they face legal liability. Another reality that exists in this situation is that sexual harassment is a very serious allegation that requires ppl to have direct evidence. False allegations occur when businesses believe any complaint without demanding evidence. If there is no evidence, then it's strictly a circumstance of he said / she said or whatever the dynamic is of ppl involved in the situation (men sexually harass other men; women sexually harass other women; women also sexually harass men).
@1993 You don't believe that there are females who harass men? Oh boy, it goes both ways. Yeah harassment happens more at the hands of men but that doesn't mean that there aren't are women harassing men.
@1993 There indeed are women sexually harass men ,not as many as men due to physical differences but there really are ,just visit a female prison and see how many of them there really are .
can't people realize that it's hard to open up about things like this because of the stigma. it's not that easy to just tell it to people since you're not sure about how they'll react and victim blaming is still a big issue these days plus the fact that it triggers you and your trauma. it takes a lot of time, courage and bravery that's why some people who experienced sexual harassment takes years to even open up about it.
This is **almost** exactly what happened to me, only without the official meeting. I was basically told "well just avoid him unless you have to work with him." It has gotten better, but he still works there and was never reprimanded at all, because it was never even told to any of his superiors. It was all very hush hush and swept under the rug
Seriously? What country is this?
This is why it's not reported...
Sooo in essence they DGAF
You cant blame someone based on rumors....
@@thomasmathew4865 your comprehension needs work. The woman in the short film came to them with evidence which they agreed was inappropriate.
@@Sweeeetpeaches69 nah
This is why you go to the police before you go to HR. HR's job is to protect the company, not its employees.
omg this is exactly how it goes down. Shame and blame the victim, mansplain sexual harassment.....
Pretty accurate depiction. My older male coworkers did unbelievable acts of harrassment knowing it was my word agains theirs. Ultimately I quit for my sanity. Best decision sadly
The Actress playing Emma is stunning and did her job so well. I was tearing up the whole time from frustration and helplessness.
Working at a place like that is NOT worth your sanity. It won't get better. You will become a target after you file a complaint, and you are lying to yourself if you think you'll "outlast" these toxic people. Oh, and you weren't sent there to be "a light". No one should have to subject themselves to abuse in the workplace.
I just read about a game developer company, where 16 women wrote a letter in 2018 about how rude were their colleagues to them. Now the company revisited the issue, they want to make bigger steps, than in 2018. In the comment section there were only misogynistic, hateful comments. It was terrifying that every gamer in the comment section is against to resolve this huge problem just because it's uncomfortable to control themself when they are talking with women. I literally have nausea of them.
Yeah, it's very bad. It's very obvious in game development but it happens everywhere. Most companies are slowly changing, but the vocal majority of consumers are still too toxic.
I'm a man and I had similar experiences. When I complained it was denied, HR sided with my manager. They then came up with a "poor performance" write up and fired me.
I saw one person replying to every comment and defending the accused. I am worried for him and ppl around him
At this point *Justice is a lie*
I can’t stop thinking they’re in an elevated version of the Conference Room from the Office
Coincidental homepage recommendation squad ...
I’m a 25 year old male and after making myself watch this while putting myself in her shoes I just now stopped hysterically crying and calmed the feeling of extreme frustration enough to be able to type this.
It ended 45 mins ago now.
Plain and simple. Women deserve the right to work in an environment free of all forms of abuse, and will punish those who do commit such abuse, as much as anybody else.
This felt so real. I actually felt like I was watching a real investigation. I really wanted to be in that room, supporting Emma. The actress was great. I felt like the other female in the room was weak and impotent. Her presence was redundant. A powerful and relevant piece of film making, in its subtlety and realism.
What should the other woman in the room have done? Hold her hand? Offer words of encouragement?
@@treacherousjslither6920 What the males were all doing: having each other's backs. Or hadn't you noticed that particular (and routine) pack-like male behavior?
@@davidowens5898 Haven't noticed. Maybe the other woman thinks she's being a crybaby over nothing serious. Or maybe she cares but feels powerless.
I have been through this, have PTSD because the director and his minions all ganged up and made my life hell. Can't finish watching the video.
why not buy some hidden camera and record
@@teabag1165 I bought a pen that was supposed to have a hidden camera from a cheap site but I couldn't work it. Work pressure and family problems.. there was too much on my plate to go re-buy something branded and expensive in the hopes that they would be standing in view of the camera and acting the way they did. I was so tired, having health problems.. I just left a bad exit interview. But I often daydream nowadays if I should have taken it to court. Anyway.
A perfect example of how these guys continue to get away with their behaviour. How sad, wanting a good job, only to find out just how broken the system is
Agreed. It's so horrible.
This movie was so realistic and so painful to watch. It’s a realistic and honest message about getting abused at work or anywhere really. Nobody believes it. Instead victims are gaslit.
It is obvious that the personnel representative and other 2 employees have "ALREADY" had a conversation about the case BEFORE the actual meeting WITH Emma. They are obviously working in the COMPANY'S interests by protecting "Peter". This is VERY obvious by their attitude and behavior towards Emma. ALWAYS REMEMBER - Talk to YOUR Lawyer!
All I can say is WOW. Too real.
It’s sad that this is happening
I'm a woman using bf's site: sexual harrassement happened to me, I endured months and months of one of my boss' innuendos re: cucumbers...I had enough and reported him to the office manager - she spoke to the boss that was in charge of this man, he than asked his secretary why I didn't talk to him before reporting him - he never spoke to me directly. I eventually transferred out of that department. NOTHING WAS EVER DONE!
"Me too"~
'Cept there were NO cameras in the basement where my office was...My female boss/owner didn't even believe me!! "Well, what did YOU do to encourage that?” !?????!?🤬 (He was fired eventually, but for DIFFERENT reasons...)I saw this short awhile ago, very WELL DONE! 👏👏👏❣️( However, it made me angry all over again~)
Stay ’safe’, everyone! Blessed be~🌜
Exactly what happens. Then after dismissing the complaint they move to drive you out or make up excuses to let you go. Speaking up makes you the problem.
Omeleto. Please do a reverse role on this. I’m a male and worked around a few offices and these kind of stuff happens to me too. Even as far as touching. Thanks!
SoPiPz our training video at work has that format - it’s nice to show it can happen more than one way.
Omeleto doesn't make the films, they just share them.
Yes that would be interesting
@1993 Yes and here you are insulting him and belitteling his claim because he is of the wrong gender. He isn't just another male, he is an induvidual that happens to be a male. Your gender shouldn't matter when adressing those claims and judging if they have any merit, the gender of the victim shouldn't be taken into consideration. Also, you seem to have no idea of the challenges a man can face coming forward.
The sound of the boots tell it all!
* BOOTS INTENSIFY *
It’s quite accurate. As someone who was in a similar situation, The fear at the sound of them waking in is enough to make your heart race
I hate that feeling in the last scene.
Being stuck in the same room, being forced to put on a brave face, the other party being so ignorant, almost flaunting like "look, I'm still here." Next thing he'll play victim...
I was going into this fully expecting that it would be the usual male-bashing (based on the fact that films nowadays, incl. those on Omeleto, hardly ever show events from a compassionate male-friendly perspective), but I was pleasantly surprised that this was very nuanced. So kudos and a huge thank you to the author.
Fantastic movie. Shows how easily a woman who is jealous of her manager always talking to her colleague, and not her, can ruin a persons life.
This is exactly what I'm going through right now. I wish I could find a better job but I'll now have to work under this man. If anyone can recommend any online job. I am an ESL teacher and I have an honors in psychology. Im desperate to leave my company.
Hi Marisa, I am so sorry to hear that. I strongly recommend you to join websites such as Superprof, Udemy and Lynda. People are often looking for english lessons and most of the time you would be doing this from home. Video classes. I hope this helps.
Just get out , even if you have to take a lower paying job until you find a suitable one. You probably don’t realise this right now . But this is going to affect you for life. You already need counselling and maybe even a psychologist. It will affect your trust with relationships,friends,work colleagues, basically everyone in the future.
You deserve better ! Maybe have a tape recorder handy until you leave so if this disgusting pig slips up in the future talking to you(which they often do) you can show the police evidence of what’s happening/happened.
I’m so sorry to hear this but you are stronger than you’re letting yourself be. Look after yourself.
I hope you get out fast and justice is served for you. 💛
Marisa - have you lodged a complaint and your employer isn’t doing anything? Please pursue it further. If you have an EAP at work - they usually offer a free consult. It truly is anonymous and you shouldn’t have to give the EAP your name. Sexual harassment is a crime.
This is my second experience with this. I live in South Africa and the legal system has failed me in the past. I feel terrible at my job cause I can't focus on my students. I am trying to find a writing job or something not involving direct contact with people cause I'm honestly so empty inside. I've done everything. Followed all legal procedures but nobody believes me cause I don't have evidence etc etc.
@@Maplesyrup217 ugh - I'm sorry :( I didn't realize that you were not in the states. Like someone suggested, try out some online tutoring sites. Because of COVID - it seems like a lot of people are becoming accustomed to learning online. Do you know any other languages - or do you teach ESL to students who have some sort of grasp of the English language? Here in the states, especially where I live (Seattle), there are companies that are looking for translators for games, technical writing, etc. If you know another language - that could be another source of income. Fiver might be another place to 'set up shop' - they are a global place. I wish you a ton of luck at finding another job - hopefully something we've mentioned will pan out for you
I can't describe how true this is in real life. Wow, you guys captured it
What a sad story.
1. I guess she will be the one that will leave due to the bad atmosphere, whether or not the allegations were true.
2. Team workers have to work as a team, that must be resolved or someone has to go.
3. Warnings required for the confirmed inappropriate behaviour, as outlined in any Company policy.
4. Why wait so long, maybe there’s a good reason, that isn’t clear?
5. Who doesn’t know who their supervisor is, eg you should be getting appraisals?
6. Why not tell your Mother the truth? If she doesn’t believe you, who will?
7. Slewed against the man, the intrigue! You’d love to know the backstory.
A great film with great acting.
Don't hit on nobody at work and you won't have this problem .
It's not implied that she hit on him.
I have had these issues throughout my life.After asking them to stop the behavior,setting boundaries,and they didn't stop, I would just kick them in the balls.Only after the aggressive moves where they won't let you leave, etc- let them explain that to the boss.I never reported them as I did fine dealing with them on my own.
"She could have changed jobs" if it's not her it will be the next girl and the girl after. Changing jobs won't change anything.
Wow! This was done so well. I have to wonder if the writer went through something similar or was close to someone that went through something similar. It was also well directed, acted, and filmed. It felt like a documentary or like I was actually watching someone’s life that accidentally got caught on camera
This is the very reason why people are afraid to come forward 😡🤬🤦🏾♀️
Soooo victim blaming is what we are doing here.
That's why I record all my conversations with everyone.
I don't trust anbody these days dude.
F that
You record everyone because you trust no-one, and consequently: now no-one trusts you, either.
@@Galdring if life these days were only as simple as quoting a meme, then we could all be as happy as a lark.
@@Lukearthwalker Well done. These people learning to live from memes needs some severe trashings.
@@Galdring well if its going on for one and a half years, I'd start recording conversations too
@@Lukearthwalker Ehhh... Yeah, that's not a meme unless you mean in the Dawkins sense, in which case all common sense is memetic; it's useful, so it survives. I'm not saying recording someone is never warranted, I'm saying always recording people will take a heavy toll on your relationships.
Notice how he says his first name "Peter" instead of Mr. [Last Name]. Me thinks he knows him personally & is trying to cover for him.
Not really, do you not refer to all colleagues by their first names?