The first transgression was quite minor, compared to a federal crime. In a way, it worked out best that OP didn't press charges initially, because the Karen may not have opened the letter, which earned her an eviction and got her out of OP's life.
@@laurieharper1526 I strongly disagree. The Karen called the cops on THEM. Any benefit of a doubt of a mere transgression goes out the window. She tried to get them in trouble, they should press charges when it backfires.
Lesson 4: Always press charges. Lesson 5: Always press charges. Lesson 6: Always press charges. Lesson 7: Always press charges. Not being charged is how Karens decide the rules of society do not apply to them!
If you sit in the smoking area you cant complain about smoke thats as stupid as going too a metal consert and complain about the music ore going too a waterpark and get angry about getting splast its just dum
I was a truck driver. Many years back I talked to another driver who told me this story: He was in a truck stop restaurant in the smoking section when an older couple came into the smoking section and ordered coffees. The driver finished his meal and lit up a cigar. The older couple asked him to put it out and he responded that he was in the smoking section and intended to smoke. They called the manager. The manager asked him to put out the cigar. The driver stayed calm and explained how he had just bought $300 worth of diesel fuel, just finished a $25 meal while the couple only had coffee and intended to spend another $100 in the truck stop store. He was smoking in the smoking section, the older couple bypassed plenty of seats in the non--smoking section. Who did the manager think his real customer was? The manager asked the couple to refrain from bothering the trucker and to move into the non-smoking section.
I agree, the first 2 people that called OP as the AH sound like they either have entitlement issues themselves or childhood traumas they need to work on. NO ONE is OWED any money when you pass. The OP could have told them that he was going to donate all his money, property and businesses to charity. OP doesn't have to ask permission to do anything with his will. It's his will. OP is sooooo not the AH
@@jinraigami3349 I don't believe it even is favouritism. It's unfair they believe the father should leave nothing to his step son just because they had a rough childhood. The step son doesn't deserve to be treated as badly as they were and should get part of the inheritance
story 4, they let the Karen get away with waaaaay too much. I would have pressed charges the first time. the fact she trespassed was horrible enough to warrant that. in times like this you nip it in the bud, no mercy.
Yeah & it wasn't just trespassing, & the slut shaming. The Karen admitted she went in their house to take sugar of which she had no permission to take, That's also stealing.
Third story: "Can I use your bathroom?" "No." "Why not?" "I hate you." Oh, and then interfering with the mail? Federal offense. Press charges as hard as physically possible.
I live in a high rise. We have a bank of mailboxes in the lobby. We also have a high turnover in the building. Everybody's mail goes to everybody else and even people that have passed away still receive mail at this address. One particularly nosy woman decided it was her job to take the letters and flip them back into the mailbox slot. Which meant they went all the way to the next major big city before they came back to the post office in our city. One time a letter she threw in the slot took 70 days to return back to me with the yellow sticky note on the bottom. By the way, our post office is one block away. That's right, one block. I complained to the manager, and she put up a great big sign saying nobody can touch the mail.
I agree, THAT Karen deserves it for reading someone else's mail, and harassing a pregnant woman. I swear, some people are going crazy, so crazy that APPARENTLY, the rules don't apply to them!! And it makes me mad sometimes.
When somebody is that clueless, entitled and unapologetic, you always press charges. You need to give them a little education or they’ll be at you again.
'APC' is my motto - 'Always Press Charges'. Home invasion??? Pressing charges on that is not 'petty', it's *needed*. Lots of people who don't press Charges are like 'I just wanted her out of my sight' or 'She had a kid with her' or something else that they didn't want to 'bother' with. And *that's* where escalation happens. That's how we get Karen's who screech "I have a kid/I'm a single mother!" when managers ask them to leave, or people don't give up their non-priority seat on a more-than-half-empty bus/train - just because Karen wants *THAT* seat by *THAT* window. This is where we get Karens who make scenes for the very fact that people will cave 'just to get them out of their sight'. APC - A.P.C!!!!!
When I first moved into the apartment I live in, I had a young couple next door. He was a guitarist and drummer for a local band who thought it was perfectly appropriate to practice between midnight and 5 am! It was so loud, I couldn't even hear my TV, nor could I sleep. The thing is, when I complained to the landlord about it, the neighbor literally almost attacked me out in front of the building. He was screaming at me about when and where he was supposed to practice and I strongly suggested renting a studio or a garage, but not in a 6-plex where other people are trying to live! They moved out soon after, thank God!
Never tell the landlord. TELL THE POLICE. THE LANDLORD IS ALWAYS IN ON IT TOO. THEN THEY TELL THE NEIGHBOR AND THE NEIGHBOR ATTACKS YOU LIKE HE JUST DID. *ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS CALL THE COPS*
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS yeah… bad advice. If the landlord refuses and the situation escalates beyond reason THEN call the cops. If you always call police first without warning or even attempting to reason with people over a non-dangerous or criminal situation then some day you might very well find yourself featured as the Karen in a Darkfluff story. Talk about overkill
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS As a general rule, especially when dealing with neighbors, its a good idea to handle issues at the lowest possible level, escalating only when resolution at that level cannot be achieved. For instance, if its a noise issue, try talking civilly to the neighbor first. Midnight to 5am is rough for people who work regular day shifts, but maybe if the practice could shift earlier or later, so its not interrupting sleep, its less of a problem. If the neighbor isn't willing to be reasonable, then the landlord would be the next person to talk to. If the noise is violating the terms of the lease, that gives you even more to present when requesting the land lord take action. Police should be a last resort. When it comes to civil matters, unless the law is being broken, there really isn't much the cops can do other than wear an official uniform when saying the same thing to the guy that you already said.
Yup. A mistake is one thing; tons of people open mismanaged mail on accident. I get the wrong rent bill every other month and need to walk it down the street to a neighbor cause our house numbers are similar. However, this was deliberate and perhaps even premeditated. That is the difference.
yea sadly not soooo much but enogh to teach her a lesson. I personaly wouldnt have stoped my gf the first time and just watch how she would have utterly killed that karen on spot.
The first one only. HIPAA laws do not apply to a neighbor who opens your mail. HIPAA only applies to people in the medical/healthcare professions. The federal charges for interfering with the mail should be enough to put her in her place.
HIPAA doesn't work like that. It only applies to people in the healthcare professions in the event that they share someone's medical information without being authorized.
So NTA. As someone with a half-sibling who I'm not even that close with, I would be offended if one of my half-sibling's step-parents were treating them anything other than equal. Especially in OPs case because that step-child has an absent father himself and clearly OP knows that what he did to his biological children impacted them and he's filling in as the father for his step-son. To not treat him the same is to essentially make the same mistake over again, the real solution is to spend time (maybe even on OPs own dime) with his biological children as well so that they can get some time with their father, better late than never. Would they rather their last memory with him be discriminating against a child in the same kind of situation as them and then having a HUGE fight with him only for him to disenherit them all together and never speak to them again? Because if you push hard enough it can happen.
Story 2: What a nightmare neighbour. Walking in on people, calling a pan flag a terrorism flag, and poking her nose in other people's private businesses. Why is the Karen acting like this?
Decades ago. First full time job I had, company's new facility had a lunch area that was an outdoor patio, sliding doors for bc weather etc. I smoked back then (quit several years later), and my coworkers and I decided that since we had good air circulation, we smokers would sit apart from everyone else not to bother the nonsmokers. Keep in mind this was years before smoking restrictions started going I. Place. So we're sitting there during lunch break, food done, chatting and having an after dinner smoke. A few minutes in, younger girl, nonsmoker came and sat in middle of our group, and immediately began b*tching about the smoke. None of said a word, just kind of blinked, and, as if we were joined by a Vulcan mind meld, we all took deep drags off our cigs, then blew it all in her face at once. When she complained, she got informed we separated to spare others the smoke, so she was out of line pulling what she did. It's because of her behavior I vowed, when I quit smoking, to NEVER BEHAVE like HER.
And his kids get to decide how they feel about him for doing it, yes. Do-over kid has two other parents *AND* he'll benefit from what his mom inherits from his stepdad.
yeah, and those two kids who had a shitty upbringing, can decide in what elderly caring facility they can toss OP when he gets old, cause none of them should have to deal with him when he becomes a burden... he dint gave the kids a proper raising, or life, and now he is giving that to a kid some other man ditched thats a good slap to the face "hey kids, you see this little boy i've known for 4 years? well his dad doesnt love him, and that kinda reminded me how i was a bad parent durning your childhood, so i've decided that i will treat this kid like you two wished i had treated you, i will be the father for him you two never had, aint i a good person?"
@@BryanLu0 he also said the kid's birth father dissapoints the kid a lot and that he is there for him and how he hopes the kid will view him as Dad because of that. Imagine being the biological son/daughter that had an absent/distant father and now seeing him cussing another man for doing the same thing and being more invested (not talking about money) on that kid than what he was invested in his own kids back in the day. His biological children probably have a problem with not only OP´s wording but also his attitude. I get it for him to leave a part of his estate to the stepson, but i also understand the bio kids' point of view. We don´t know if they are being entitled to the money by it's face value or if they are hurt for their dad's attitude, feeling it as another slap on the face from a neglecting father.
the last story. I guess we are supposed to gauge love as money and gifts? Also, a child doesn't have to be biological for you to feel the same love for them
try to look at it from the viewpoint of OP's kids: they spend their whole childhoods with a father who didn't show them any love at all or that he even cared about them. their father cares about them now that they are adults but that is only because as adults, both of them are useful to him since they help out in his business and make it grow. their father only started caring and "loving" them now that he can get a financial use out of them. at the same time, both of them have to watch their father treat a stepson with the very exact same love and affection that their father had denied them their whole lives. OP's kids have every right to feel angry and betrayed. OP is a very selfish and toxic man and I wouldn't be surprised at all if his kids would simply walk away and cut all contact.
@@Timberwolftrass I wouldnt be surprised if they walked away from him because I think they only started a closer relationship with him because they want his inheritance. POS if you ask me.
The police report is record enough without pressing charges. You press charges so they (hopefully) learn a lesson. Who knows if that would have. She seems to be incorrigible. But opening the mail? I'm not sure how that works, but I think the police would have to report it to the Postmaster General whether or not charges were pressed. I think that's about 5 years in Federal prison.
Story 4 reminds me of an acquaintance that doesn't read English and for SOME reason wants her roommate to get her medical correspondence, prescriptions, etc. in Spanish.
In the first story, i wounder what would happen if it was OP husband who walk in the kitchen buck naked. It might give 'Karen' a heart attack, LOL 😆😅🤣😂
Story 3: Inheritance stories always seem to cause trouble, either because of an entitled inheritor, the person writing the will having some bias, both, or some other reason.
Honestly didn't sound like bias, just the guy wanting to treat them equally. Which is perfectly reasonable, which unreasonable AHs will argue otherwise.
I feel like dad is TA though, even though not a big one. If what the children said is true, which he implies it is, I think he owes his children something for that, and in his case inheritance is a possibility. He should be more supportive of them now of course and help them more to make up for it but we shouldn't kid ourselves.... Some parents only have money left to show they care for their children, because they didn't build or destroyed their relationship. I can't blame his children for feeling like that, but I think it's his money and he can do with it what he wants.
I think the dad wanting to leave an equal 3rd to each kid was perfectly fine. If he really wanted to he could just leave it all to charity and tell them to pound sand. It is his money and it is nice of him to leave it for them. The fact that his two biological kids said they deserved the money because they had worked hard to get a relationship with him comes across as dishonest. Like they are simply biding their time till dad dies so they can run off with the money. They may not mean it that way, but it kind of comes across that way. Inheritance fights can get nasty. People are better off to make their wills with a lawyer and an impartial witness then speak about it to no one. They ask, just say I have a will and the lawyer has a copy. Don't worry about it. If they insist on pressing for info and details ask if they are looking forward to you dying? Will it upset them, sure, but them being vultures about it makes their supposed love of you questionable.
@@SidereusOfTheFallen you’re joking right. His kids lost out on time and memories with him. Money isn’t going to fix that, what will is genuine attempts to bond and have a great relationship which is what OP is doing now. His kids are entitled as hell. He only owes his kids time which he is doing spending time with them now. All this story did was reaffirm my belief don’t tell people what they are going to inherit or that they are insurance beneficiaries. That always brings out the nasty in greedy and entitled people.
I've had an absent dad for most of my life (he came back in my teens and I see him maybe once a year and talk to him sometimes once a month). We're slowly working on the relationship but I expect absolutely nothing from him or his wife when they pass. I love them in my own way but I got captain crunch cereal from them when I graduated college. I learned to expect nothing from them so then if I do get something I'm not disappointed.
About this with my mother. The only things I'd like to get from her estate are the moneys that she stole from me and my siblings. She forced us to cash out savings bonds - bought as gifts from other relatives - so she had money for things for her and my step-dad that didn't benefit us in the slightest (a motorcycle versus shoes and the like for us as an example). Do we expect to see it? Not really.
@@breakinganddecorating8108 my dad stole savings that my mom had started for me when I was born ($2 bills because their unique and she worked in retail so she'd cash them out when she could). He stole a big part of that when he left and dipped on child support for a few years so he had to keep paying my mom through most of my college years. Never saw the $2 bills payed back but he has told me a crazy story how I was robbed out of money from my great grandmothers inheritance because of his mother (who I don't speak with) and his brother (who I barely know). After some other stories I've learned not to trust everything he tells me.
Same thing happened to me at work in the smoking area. An employee sat directly across from me and asked me to move because she shouldn’t have to eat where someone is smoking. I reminded her that the non-smoking area is inside to which she responded with “I’m allowed to enjoy the nice weather while eating” to which I replied “I’m allowed to enjoy the nice weather while smoking”. Neither of us moved and she complained to my supervisor, who had a talk with me. I informed him that if she’s going to sit in the smoking area, then she has no right to complain about someone smoking. Never heard another word from either of them.
Smoking in the smoking area? What's next? People drinking beer in bars? I don't like smoking either, but I don't go to areas where people smoke and then complain about people smoking.
That's like yelling at the sun for rising and setting. Or oxygen existing so we can breathe. Especially the breathing thing. We already went through TWO YEARS of THAT punishment. And THAT Karen was called COVID. *NOT A FAN*
The dad is NTA. My dad split from my mom only a few years after I was born and we struggled a ton, but I didn't blame my dad nor my mom. Just shit luck imo. He had two kids with his wife and while I rarely saw them or my dad for most of my life, I'm not angry b(ut I do wish he'd given me some more attention throughout my life). Anyway, the dad in the story just seemed like a guy who wanted to be a good dad but had to build his career first before he could share the fruits of his labor with his kids properly. He's been in his stepson's life since he was 8 and plans and wants to be his dad going forth so it makes perfect sense that he wants to include him in his will. I completely understand his kids' feelings but imo they're being a bit petty and a bit selfish, especially for the ages they are.
For the last story - Hell no! That man is not the Ahole. Yes what happened in the past is sad and it's great that he and his biological kids have a good relationship now but he has every right to leave money to his stepson.
Fully agreed. If I'm dad, my options for the biokids are: Take it, or leave it. They're still inheriting a fuckton of money that most kids with difficulty upbringings would never be able to dream of inheriting.
and his kids have every right to send him to pound sand imagine that you go trogh a shitty childhood, you see your parent being a better parent for a kid in 4 years than he was your whole childhood i wouldnt give a shit about the money, but what i am hearing is "this kid in 4 years is as much of a son for me than you two managd to be in X years, and since i love him, i wanna give him equal share, cause he is equal" no sir, he is not equal, and that IS a do over son, you are just now having the time to be a parent without the sacrifices that etitled. honestly, i've seen a crap ton of kids that got ditched by parent, those two should wise up and send dad to paint a forest and get lost innit hell was me on that place i would straight out tell dad "tis ok, you can give him my share, i want nothing from you. not like you had anything good to offer me in the first place" and just cut him out of my life forever
Exactly, ive told my parents many times that they should spend their money on themselves, they deserve it, they don't need to leave me anything. Sick of entitled kids expecting a pay day when their parents die, id rather my parents alive so I can spend time with them, because that's how you show love, not through money.....
The bio kids read like they felt inheritance was compensation for putting up with someone. Quite frankly, if someone felt that way about me I wouldn't want to give them anything due the what they think of me - a chore to endure that I'll pay them for.
@@wackytycoon I've said the same to my parents, I don't care about the size of any potential inheritance. Spend your money, go on trips and have fun cause you've bloody well deserved it.
I worked in an ER for years. In the 80s, it was common for the nurses to smoke as they were getting report at change of shift. In later years, we shook our heads in disbelief that we used to do that. Times change.
i think he is wrong but he is collecting what he planted, i mean you are ignoring, forgetting or not acknowledging the two kids that had to have him on the shitty times, i get it, its his money, but what is he saying with this stunt? "this kid i've known for 4 years, is worth as much for me as you two whom i've seen growing and whom i've laked and failed as a father" simple line? yeah, his money his decision, but i'd wise up to that man, and just cut all ties with him, erase him from my life, you dont get to make my childhood a shitty experience, and later make some other kid live a dreamy life and expect ME to be ok with it try to also see it from the POV of the kids, he is being the father they needed, the dude abandons his kids and makes them go trough god knows what, and he knows he cant turn back time, so what does he do? "you see this kid, whos father doesnt love him enough? that reminded me of how i was to you, so i wana treat him, as you two wished i've treated you, dont you agree i am a good parent?" no sir you are not, i hope the do over son doenst ditch you for bio dad if things ever change tunes... cuase if i were your kids, i'd ditch you and tell you to shove your money where you know where.
The last story. O.P married this woman and loves this boy as his son. He shouldn’t be treated any less because he isn’t blood. He is supposed to be family. I am a stepmother and I’ll be damned if I treat my husband’s children any different than my own. I love them just as much and he does the same with mine. I would expect nothing less. The kids also do for each other which truly touches my heart. There is no distinction here.
I wish I had you for an adopted mom. My adopted mom is no longer my mom. She Amber Hearded my dad and me for centuries. I actually have nightmares about her. She once even threatened to kill me. My dad loved a woman he left mom for. And she was more of a mom than that witch will ever be. Rest her soul. I will always miss Evelyn. She was a rock. A cornerstone. A shield. A warrior. A survivor. And an angel. Now my dad met a new woman. Named Terri. A relationship is still on the fence but it is clear she truly wants one. I won't go into detail about her past. But I truly want to see another woman as a mom again. And she just seems perfect. We even know sign language! We are flying down to Florida to see her and our friends again. Family is who you are happy and safe with. Family is not blood. Loki said it best. Asgard is not a place. It's a people. The people you love are your family. I know I'm rambling but I am autistic and struggle to communicate clearly. But if my dad wants to give his inheritance to Terri's family, or any other person in his life besides me, I will hold no grudge against him. I WILL keep it away from my Karen of a mom even if it does end up killing me.
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS more power to you. And I wish you the best. Sorry some people are absolute turds. Hope you get all the proper love and care you need
The last story is crazy. I hate that anyone think that they are entitled to a certain inheritance. It's his money and he could leave it to a dog shelter if he wants.
I agree with you there. You don’t show your love to your children by giving them money after you die you show up while you’re alive. The bio kids just seem upset because they’re not getting as much as they would have if there’s stepbrother didn’t come into the picture.
Plus remember what his bio kids said? “They would lose out on the inheritance they earned for working hard to repair the damage”. You don’t work on a relationship just to get a reward; you do it because you want the relationship to be stronger. It seems they only bothered to get closer to their father as adults because his business took off and they wanted to make sure they get a lot in the will
The last story - he can leave his money to anyone he wants. People who think that the more money you leave them the more you loved him are just wrong. Money does not equate love.
depends, leaving the money to the new family entirely would signal a lack of affection to the previous unit, but the money isn't the point, its the measure. The problem being that was all they wanted. As for the opening, he was working a job and was distant trying to provide, that isn't an ahole thing either.
Good point. It sounds like they are making up to him, now that he's older, mostly for his money. I'd then use "transfer on death" and beneficiary endorsements on all his property/accounts to the heir he wants. He could then show them a will stating they inherit. That keeps most of the valuables out of the will, so there's little of value to challenge.
The only times I have opened someone else's mail was when it was mis-delivered to me and I did not realize it until afterwards. Who doesn't know that stealing mail is illegal?
Story #1: The weird thing about smoking in restaurants (Yeah, I'm that old), is that you often got seated faster if you told the host/hostess that you had no preference on seating. If you'd specifically asked for no smoking, it would take you twice as long to get seated, simply because the no-smoking section was so small, say about 7-10 tables, and they were always filled to the brim.
I remember those days. Non smoking sections in a lot of restaurants felt like a poorly planned afterthought. Some were placed so poorly that the air circulation in the restaurant made them the smokiest possible place to sit. I would get annoyed when smokers would go out of their way to sit in the non smoking section and light up though. 2nd hand smoke is a bit like drunk driving in as much as others are having the consequences of others' poor choices forced on them.
So much for "Can't buy me love" the dad is ok. The kids are greedy and grudging. My mother died three years ago. She was VERY good with her money. I was not as attentive a daughter as I should have been. She split her inheritance between my brother, my sister and I. I didn't feel that I deserved anything. It was an UNDESERVED GIFT!!! I am so grateful. There was no squabbling and we even decided to give some of each share to my deceased older sister's two sons who were left out of the will (I don't know why)
First story: Karen makes as much sense as if she sat down at the wrong end of a shooting range. Then calls the cops because people are shooting at HER. "I'm not moving! I was here first! You shouldn't be shooting guns anyway! It's DANGEROUS!"
The comment Darkfluff made about barley remembering smoking areas. Now I feel extremely old because I can remember when they had smoking areas inside not just outside. I used to smoke in said smoking areas(I no longer smoke). 😂😂😂
I agree. He's not leaving out his kids or giving them a lesser amount either. I'm very pleased that he understands and acknowledges their feelings. He sees why they have those thoughts and opinions. At least he can build on that. He can always change his mind about his will and how he divides up his assets. He's getting different people's opinions so he can determine what he feels is right and fair. Not a lot of step-parents would consider leaving an equal share to their step children, so that says a lot about him. It's wonderful that his relationships with his children have gotten better but like one commentor said, they still have all those feelings of resentment of having an absent father growing up.
Agree. Then again, he could always divorce his wife and give her (and her son) half ... and then let his two sons divide what's left. ;-) His money - his decision. Not the a-hole.
Agreed. I think it's disgusting that people are angry at him for including her stepson. Blood relation doesn't mean anything when it comes to family. His kids are just mad that they don't get more money despite the fact that their only "reason" was how HARD they worked to fix the relationship. So, in other words, they did nothing and now they think that entitles them to all of HIS money. In fact, it sounds like they only did it because they expected something in return. They aren't owed anything, and I'd literally tell them to get over it or they won't get anything.
All I’m gonna say is that, out of all of the entitled people stories that u read, that 4th one actually made me shake in rage because of what that Karen neighbour did, OP definitely should’ve pressed charges against that Karen!
That last story with the comments saying that not leaving a larger inheritance for the bio kids is "traumatizing them" had my blood boiling, why is your love for your family measured by how much money you have/are leaving them? When i lose family i'm not upset that they didn't leave me anything, i'm fucking upset cause i will never see them again.
Last story: It's not like the OP is leaving more to his stepson than to either of his older children, nor is he leaving *anything* substantial to *his actual wife*. Those two are in their 30s, it's about time for them to grow up.
It's easy to throw accusation if you never have to experience the messed up situation like that. I bet if you are in their situation, you will also object your (estranged) father decision.
Yup. I know inheritance will be between me and my sister, but we also know it probably won't be that much, because we spent years telling our folks to live it up when they retire. They know we will be fine. Meanwhile, I've encountered people that openly bemoan their senior citizen parents spending one red cent over the bare minimum. Some people are truly pathetic.
Mail snooper: I REALLY hope that OP contacted the post office about this. If she did, Karen is looking at a minimum of 3 years in FEDERAL prison and a fine of $250,000.
True, but back then you could open a window on the bus (not possible today), and airplanes exchange the entire air supply every 2-5 minutes, depending on the aircraft, altitude, and number of passengers. If they didn't, everyone would die of CO2 poisoning (from everyone just breathing) within an hour. As for smoking in restaurants, that is still an option on some places, as that isn't a federal law, but state or local laws that restrict it. Edit: For clarification, smoking sections on aircraft were normally at the rear of the plane, where the exhaust, or vents to the outside were placed. Ram air and/or air from the engine compressors were fed to the front of the cabin and through the little vents above your head. That 'fresh air' you could control is, in fact, outside air fed to you from the aircraft's systems. In restaurants, it is much the same. Those big vents above the grill pump out a lot of air from the kitchen area, drawing lots of fresh air into the dining area from outside or through heat exchangers. This is why the air in your house is anywhere from 10 to 25 times as toxic as the air on a plane, bus, or restaurant.
I would unfortunately not be able to go on an airplane or a bus because im highly allergic to cigarette smoke. I am glad that smoking isnt allowed on them now.
No one owes anyone an inheritance. When my grandfather died, he left everything to my grandmother and nothing to his daughters. When grandma died my mom and her half-brother inherited everything. My mom and her half-brother gave a decent amount of money to their stepsisters even though they didn't have to. It was the right thing to do.
Story 4: The first time Karen came barging in she's already trespassing plus invasion of privacy. Second time she barge in and reveal that OP is pregnant that's where the second count of invasion of privacy happen. When Karen show photo of OP and her friends to her husband that's where the third count of invasion of privacy. The fourth count of invasion of privacy is when things get serious as not only did she stole OP's mail key she also stole her gender reveal letter which both are consider a single felony crime of mail theft so she'll be in jail for 10 years as that's two count of mail theft she committed. I don't know how long she'll get sentence if they decide to add the four count of Invasion of Privacy and the one count of trespassing.
Inheritance: if the bio kids really loved their dad they’d worry more about him than his money. I’d rather have my dad back than any of his possessions 😢
Opening or destroying mail that is addressed to someone else is a crime called “Obstruction of Correspondence.” It is a serious felony that could lead to prison time.
Is it just me who thinks the father in the last story isn't the a hole? He's treating all kids, including the stepson in a fair and equal light, trying to make up for mistakes. It's crazy to think he's in the wrong.
Not just you....anyone who views an equal split as slighting someone else is planning on doing the same....they are just trying to justify their own greed as they try to cut out their relatives. They are just showing their true colors. Only truly corrupt people could view an equal split as doing someone dirty.
i think he is wrong but he is collecting what he planted, i mean you are ignoring, forgetting or not acknowledging the two kids that had to have him on the shitty times, i get it, its his money, but what is he saying with this stunt? "this kid i've known for 4 years, is worth as much for me as you two whom i've seen growing and whom i've laked and failed as a father" simple line? yeah, his money his decision, but i'd wise up to that man, and just cut all ties with him, erase him from my life, you dont get to make my childhood a shitty experience, and later make some other kid live a dreamy life and expect ME to be ok with it try to also see it from the POV of the kids, he is being the father they needed, the dude abandons his kids and makes them go trough god knows what, and he knows he cant turn back time, so what does he do? "you see this kid, whos father doesnt love him enough? i wana treat him, as you two wished i've treated you, dont you agree i am a good parent?" no sir you are not, i hope the do over son doenst ditch you for bio dad if things ever change tunes... cuase if i were your kids, i'd ditch you and tell you to shove your money where you know where.
It would be fun to find out that OP literally cut the EP kids completely out and gave half to the stepson and half to a homeless shelter. I'm just saying
The first comment to this story that Fluff reads in the video is ridiculous. Why does it talk about OP giving "a large chunk" to wife and stepson and "a smaller portion" to his children, or that he would "pick his stepson as his preferred child"? He wanted them to have equal parts, that's the effing *opposite* of what that comment claims. So yeah, the entitlement is definitely on the bio children's part.
I'd rather have ment (mended?) my relationship with my dad and keep good and precious memories with him than expect his money. Like, yeah inheritance is a pretty boost but it's just numbers. Why would they even complain about that? If the dad put equal EFFORTS in the relationships between step and bio chlidren, then I'm OK with that
I remember when there wasn't even smoking areas in restaurants or anywhere. People smoked while grocery shopping flying on airplanes, everywhere, and it doesn't really seem like that long ago.
There are a lot of people in the US who, if a stranger walks in and challenges them to "make me" leave, will have a firearm to answer that challenge. And there are a lot of jurisdictions that have Stand Your Ground and Castle Doctrine laws such that the "Karen" could end up very dead and the DA would do nothing about it.
Plenty of places around here if a Karen or anyone else walks in someone's house uninvited and they answer with a firearm, they would never find Karen's body.
Ref story 5: A person's money is to be used in whatever manner the person wishes. So giving it all to charity rather than the spawn is just as good as deciding the funds as they PERSONALLY wish.
The 5th story, I missed most of it, but I feel like the person is NTA, they had an adoptive child they loved and cared for, so it makes sense they want that child to be happy in life
@@beatrixbabi62245 yes it’s a beautiful place to live. Sadly, expensive because a lot of stuff comes from the eastern states. But I guess that’s the world at the moment!
@@beatrixbabi62245 I think you have confused am and pm😉. I live in Germany and here it is 10 pm. According to your name, you live in Italy, so in the same time zone. No offense meant!
In the last story, he’s definitely not the a-hole. In fact, his biological children sound spoiled, and entitled and resentful, Merely repairing the relationship with him in order to use him as a post-funeral ATM. It’s his money in his business and he can Dole it out Anyway he sees fit. If he is truly as wealthy as he claims to be, there’s more than enough to go around to keep everybody comfortable they just sound greedy to me.
He can leave his money to whomever, but I get the children's feelings. He married someone FIVE years older than his oldest child and is lavishing all of the attention that he never gave them on that new family. He admitted that he was an absent parent. He doesn't mention paying support, which makes me wonder, but let's say he did. He was absent, so his money became the only thing he contributed to his children growing up. And now, he's got his do-over family? The stepmother that's a peer to them and the new child that's young enough to be their child? To them, this is probably another way that he's told them over the years that they aren't as important. 4 years is not a long time. I have socks older than their relationship.
It’s OP’s money to do with as he pleases. He could go ahead and do what my aunt and uncle did: spend almost every penny before he dies. They didn’t want to leave behind anything that could cause a battle.
@@mrllamadoesnotwant I would like to point out that 4yrs I'd still over a third of that kids life and given OP is likely to live for quite a few years yet that proportion will only grow. Or are you suggesting that a person's ability to love and consider someone family worthy of considering in an inheritance is dependent on time. All small children would ineligible for inheriting anything if that was the case.
@@mrllamadoesnotwant so you think it would be appropriate to cause more emotional harm......EQUAL shares is the only reasonable solution....it doesn't matter how many years the kid has been his.....does that mean that of his biological kids they should not split the money evenly buy instead by age since the older one knew the dad longer......in your case does that mean if some other family had a 3 year old that they shouldn't get a trust because they were only born not that long ago. If he was contemplating cutting out the biological kids, I could understand your insanity.....but him wanting to be equal is the only thing that makes any moral sense at all.
Inheritance issue - kinda makes me think of the parable of the vineyard workers where the ones who worked all day got paid the same as the ones hired later. It’s his money and his choice if he wants to be generous with it.
Hello darkfluff, I work for the post office. As for the 4th story that Karen could get upto a $250,000 fine and upto 5 years in a federal prison for mail fraud
As someone with both a half brother and 2 step siblings (one from each step parent) on top of my 2 sisters I am completely on board with him treating his stepson as his own in regards to inheritance especially since he is actually helping raise him. He's not giving the step son more but an equal amount I definitely see this as the best scenario from what he shared. Honestly each scenario will be different as previously mentioned I have 2 stepparents, 1 who helped raise me from 12yrs onwards and still helps me to this day and another who married my father several years after I left home and who I have a very different relationship with. I imagine that my sisters and I will get a fairy equal share in any inheritance as he's made it clear that he sees us as his own kids (even getting our names tattooed on him along side his biokids) however I don't expect anything from my stepmother. Similarly I don't imagine my mum giving much to my step sister as she was an adult by the time mum and us kids came on the scene but whould be surprised if my dad didn't leave anything for my step brother as he married his mum when he was a teen and he still lives with them atm. Honestly it really comes down to whether the step parent considers the stepchild their own and if the answer I'd yes how could they treat them any differently. I also acknowledge heirlooms are a bit different and the majority will most likely go to biokids but given the sentimental value of such items would be greater for them in this case it makes sence to me.
Story 4: Your Mail and Mailbox is protected by Federal Law. So it is a federal crime/felony. It's called Obstruction of Correspondence. Let me put it simply like this for just taking and holding someone else's mail you could get about 6 months in Prison (Not Jail). For opening up someone else's mail you can get up to 5 years in prison. I forgot how long but you could get a good many years more in prison for destroying someone else's mail. On top of all of that you could also get charged up to $250,000 in fines too.
The last story struck a nerve. I don't believe he should've shared his will information with his children. It's none of their business who gets HIS money.
when we were in college, back in ancient times before there was _any_ restriction on smoking in restaurants, a smoking friend who worked as a waitress in a club with a low ceiling would walk home just to get the taste of tar out of her mouth and some fresh air in her lungs. By the time she had changed jobs, she no longer smoked.
For the last story, I am the step kid. I have 3 younger half siblings. I am still my dad’s (stepdads first born kid). I get that the dad was didstant and emotionally not available for his kids growing up, but it sounds like he was doing the best he could in the time and circumstances for those kids aka being the only source of income that was wavering for a family of four. He had to bust butt and sacrifice for his family and yeah it sucks but he was doing his best. Circumstances have changed, he has more time and income and lest responsibility now so.. yes he can be the dad his bio kids wanted to his step kid. And he’s trying to make right that he wasn’t the best to his bio kids. He is now again doing the best he can. The inheritance is more of an issue of feeling owed than of owing. He should be treating ALL of his children fairly and that’s what he’s doing.
Story 1: oh you sweet innocent child, DarkFluff. There was a restaurant where I live that had a main floor and balcony... I believe it was a Steakhouse or some kind of Fine Dining, but it was years ago. Anyways, some manager had the bright idea to put the smokers on the main floor and non-smokers on the balcony "to keep them away from the smoke." They had a restructuring soon after.
The last story; No, you are not the A hole. It sounds like your kids only mended the past relationship with you because you are now well off and they expect money
Story #5: My grandmother, nearly 20 yrs after my grandfather died, included her two step daughters (who were adults in college when my grandparents married) in her will. She didn't have to, they already got something from their father previously. But she did, because she loved them and it was the right thing to do. Anything else was just pure greed talking.
1st Story: I feel bad for the person, living with a Karen for a Mom. 2nd story: Neighbor Karen was Pumpkin Positive ( Shine light in mouth, Head lights up like Jack-o'-lantern from lack of Brains) Story 3: Those Adult Children sound a bit like my Half-Sisters' Mom, my dads First wife, She expected to be entitled to his home, but it didn't work out that way.
Letting the neightbor Karen walk into your house without consequence is why story developed. ALWAYS PRESS CHARGES - shut that behavior down immediately and don't let it develop.
Story 1: Don't miss those days, tbh. I grew up around smokers. Nowadays, the few times I'm around them, they at least have the courtesy to smoke outside where it's less bothersome. Most places are no-smoking now, so they don't have much choice but to take it outside.
#5 I'm trying to figure out where the idea "of parents owing their kids" came from?Leaving them an inheritance doesn't mean they were loved ,not leaving them an inheritance doesn't mean they were not loved .Parents for the most part do the best they can for their kids ,doesn't mean that once they are grown they are owed .......
Last story OP is not the A-hole, he is taking care of all his kids. What do the adult kids want him to do? Bring them back into his house and reraise them? He acknowledged he messed up when they were kids and has tried to make amends, demanding more or his money as their inheritance is positively entitled and wrong.
Our pain in life is relative! If the man in the last story wants to take care of all of his kids (biological or otherwise), then that is his prerogative.
Stop letting these people go without consequences! If she had pressed charges in the beginning, maybe she would at least think twice about doing this shit. Why?! Why do so many people not press charges? Always 👏 press 👏 charges👏. These people don’t learn when you let them get away with it. FFS and why would you let her in your house?!
Last story: Maybe my experience with my stepbrothers might have tainted my views with how they viewed my mother, myself and my sister as the "do over" family, but OP's bio child just sound like entitled brats. They think they are entitled to the money due to their childhood? He may have been always working and emotional distant but he was there. OP's stepson does not really have his father in his life. OP realizes his mistakes with his other children and he is in a better situation than when his children were growing up. No parent is perfect and OP admits he was not the best father when his children were growing up and according to him, he has worked hard to make up for that. OP leaving more to the step child would be favoritism. OP is splitting it equally. I am sure that the stepchild would not care about getting anything. I know I did not care I did not get any of the monetary funds from my stepfather when he died. No amount of money from my stepfather could ever replace the time I spent with him and OP's stepson would probably feel the same say. OP's children need to realize that the money does not mean anything. Is OP's children going to destroy the relationship they built with their father, over money? When OP dies the money is not going to make it better.
Story 6: And this, folks, is why you NEVER EVER discuss what's in your will except for who to contact after you are gone. He would be completely in his rights to leave EVERY SINGLE BIT of it to the local animal shelter! Bio kids or not, they do NOT get to tell their father what to do with his estate.
As for the story 4. Unfortunately there are people out there who are that damn dumb. My wife used to work at a day care and told a kid how marshmallows were man made and didn't grow in the wild. Turned out the child's mother legit thought marshmallows grew on plants.
There's a spaghetti warehouse near me that's 2 stories. The basement bar area allows smoking and the first floor dining room doesn't. But all the smoke from the downstairs billows upstairs anyway
Always press charges! It doesn’t matter how petty you are, or white little offense was made. If you don’t press charges on these people, they will continue to do it. And probably be worse the next time, or they’re gonna do it to another person thinking they can get away with it. If you don’t press charges they’re going to keep doing it. That’s why these people keep doing it because no one stops them. I would’ve gotten up and dragged her out by her hair. You don’t barge into my home without my permission, I don’t care who you are. If you would press charges at the beginning, the rest of that big ass would not have happened!
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When a cop says wanna press charges against Karen always say yes
Op was dumb for not pressing charges the first time
YEP.
The first transgression was quite minor, compared to a federal crime. In a way, it worked out best that OP didn't press charges initially, because the Karen may not have opened the letter, which earned her an eviction and got her out of OP's life.
@@laurieharper1526 I strongly disagree. The Karen called the cops on THEM. Any benefit of a doubt of a mere transgression goes out the window. She tried to get them in trouble, they should press charges when it backfires.
Exactly! Pressing charges against Karens, and having them locked up, is doing society a favor!
Story 2 lessons:
Lesson 1: LOCK YOUR DOORS!
Lesson 2: ***ALWAYS*** PRESS CHARGES!
Lesson 3: Get a restraining order against that Karen.
I reckon DarkFluff should get some merch with "ALWAYS PRESS CHARGES" on it...
Should've she pressed charges the first time, none of the other stuff would've never happened
Sure you're not referring to story 4? My bad, serious time slot inconsistencies.
lesson 4: have that karen killed and her body chopped up and fed to sharks
Lesson 4: Always press charges.
Lesson 5: Always press charges.
Lesson 6: Always press charges.
Lesson 7: Always press charges.
Not being charged is how Karens decide the rules of society do not apply to them!
This first story is the perfect example of a Karen’s daughter being more of an adult than her own mother.
That's my story. And yes, I'm more of an adult than my mother lol
Your mother would have loathed me, I smoke cigars!😂😂😂
If you sit in the smoking area you cant complain about smoke thats as stupid as going too a metal consert and complain about the music ore going too a waterpark and get angry about getting splast its just dum
@@CloverRose i cant even imagen having a mom like that i am just happy i got a mom who isent a karen . Its good you got away from her
Until she hits ~35 and metamorphs into a Karen overnight.
I was a truck driver. Many years back I talked to another driver who told me this story: He was in a truck stop restaurant in the smoking section when an older couple came into the smoking section and ordered coffees. The driver finished his meal and lit up a cigar. The older couple asked him to put it out and he responded that he was in the smoking section and intended to smoke. They called the manager. The manager asked him to put out the cigar. The driver stayed calm and explained how he had just bought $300 worth of diesel fuel, just finished a $25 meal while the couple only had coffee and intended to spend another $100 in the truck stop store. He was smoking in the smoking section, the older couple bypassed plenty of seats in the non--smoking section. Who did the manager think his real customer was? The manager asked the couple to refrain from bothering the trucker and to move into the non-smoking section.
You never should feel guilty for leaving your money any way you deem appropriate.
I agree, the first 2 people that called OP as the AH sound like they either have entitlement issues themselves or childhood traumas they need to work on. NO ONE is OWED any money when you pass. The OP could have told them that he was going to donate all his money, property and businesses to charity. OP doesn't have to ask permission to do anything with his will. It's his will. OP is sooooo not the AH
Sure, but don't ask why your kids resent you for favoring your step children after barely in their lives as a responsible father.
@@jinraigami3349 I don't believe it even is favouritism. It's unfair they believe the father should leave nothing to his step son just because they had a rough childhood. The step son doesn't deserve to be treated as badly as they were and should get part of the inheritance
story 4, they let the Karen get away with waaaaay too much. I would have pressed charges the first time. the fact she trespassed was horrible enough to warrant that. in times like this you nip it in the bud, no mercy.
They also have *zero* security.
Yup totally agree
Yeah & it wasn't just trespassing, & the slut shaming. The Karen admitted she went in their house to take sugar of which she had no permission to take, That's also stealing.
Third story: "Can I use your bathroom?" "No." "Why not?" "I hate you." Oh, and then interfering with the mail? Federal offense. Press charges as hard as physically possible.
I live in a high rise. We have a bank of mailboxes in the lobby. We also have a high turnover in the building. Everybody's mail goes to everybody else and even people that have passed away still receive mail at this address. One particularly nosy woman decided it was her job to take the letters and flip them back into the mailbox slot. Which meant they went all the way to the next major big city before they came back to the post office in our city. One time a letter she threw in the slot took 70 days to return back to me with the yellow sticky note on the bottom. By the way, our post office is one block away. That's right, one block. I complained to the manager, and she put up a great big sign saying nobody can touch the mail.
Interfering with US Mail is a 5-20 year prison offense.
I agree, THAT Karen deserves it for reading someone else's mail, and harassing a pregnant woman. I swear, some people are going crazy, so crazy that APPARENTLY, the rules don't apply to them!! And it makes me mad sometimes.
@@wmarkwitherspoon And/or massive fines to boot.
Press Charges? You mean kill her.
Betting that neighbour Karen stole the mail key and that's why it was "lost".
Exactly I was wondering if anyone else thought the hag walked into OPs house and stole the mail key.
Story 4: Should have pressed charges at the first opportunity
When somebody is that clueless, entitled and unapologetic, you always press charges. You need to give them a little education or they’ll be at you again.
fr man I hate stories like that
'APC' is my motto - 'Always Press Charges'. Home invasion??? Pressing charges on that is not 'petty', it's *needed*.
Lots of people who don't press Charges are like 'I just wanted her out of my sight' or 'She had a kid with her' or something else that they didn't want to 'bother' with.
And *that's* where escalation happens. That's how we get Karen's who screech "I have a kid/I'm a single mother!" when managers ask them to leave, or people don't give up their non-priority seat on a more-than-half-empty bus/train - just because Karen wants *THAT* seat by *THAT* window.
This is where we get Karens who make scenes for the very fact that people will cave 'just to get them out of their sight'.
APC - A.P.C!!!!!
When I first moved into the apartment I live in, I had a young couple next door. He was a guitarist and drummer for a local band who thought it was perfectly appropriate to practice between midnight and 5 am! It was so loud, I couldn't even hear my TV, nor could I sleep. The thing is, when I complained to the landlord about it, the neighbor literally almost attacked me out in front of the building. He was screaming at me about when and where he was supposed to practice and I strongly suggested renting a studio or a garage, but not in a 6-plex where other people are trying to live! They moved out soon after, thank God!
Never tell the landlord. TELL THE POLICE. THE LANDLORD IS ALWAYS IN ON IT TOO. THEN THEY TELL THE NEIGHBOR AND THE NEIGHBOR ATTACKS YOU LIKE HE JUST DID. *ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS CALL THE COPS*
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS
*NEVER, NEVER, NEVER* call the COPS. There is no way who they are going to shoot/tase/beat/arrest when they arrive.
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS yeah… bad advice. If the landlord refuses and the situation escalates beyond reason THEN call the cops. If you always call police first without warning or even attempting to reason with people over a non-dangerous or criminal situation then some day you might very well find yourself featured as the Karen in a Darkfluff story. Talk about overkill
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS As a general rule, especially when dealing with neighbors, its a good idea to handle issues at the lowest possible level, escalating only when resolution at that level cannot be achieved. For instance, if its a noise issue, try talking civilly to the neighbor first. Midnight to 5am is rough for people who work regular day shifts, but maybe if the practice could shift earlier or later, so its not interrupting sleep, its less of a problem. If the neighbor isn't willing to be reasonable, then the landlord would be the next person to talk to. If the noise is violating the terms of the lease, that gives you even more to present when requesting the land lord take action. Police should be a last resort. When it comes to civil matters, unless the law is being broken, there really isn't much the cops can do other than wear an official uniform when saying the same thing to the guy that you already said.
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS Horrible advice
A Karen landing herself potential felony charges for tampering with mail is just ✨EXQUISITE✨
Yup. A mistake is one thing; tons of people open mismanaged mail on accident. I get the wrong rent bill every other month and need to walk it down the street to a neighbor cause our house numbers are similar. However, this was deliberate and perhaps even premeditated. That is the difference.
That karen story about the mail theft is a felony. I hope she goes to prison for 20 years!
Unfortunately that is only 3 years max, but it leaves a big black mark on your record.
I didn't know--I thought it was more than 3 years.
It's a FEDERAL Felony
with a large fine as well
yea sadly not soooo much but enogh to teach her a lesson. I personaly wouldnt have stoped my gf the first time and just watch how she would have utterly killed that karen on spot.
A Federal offense for opening the mail and a HIPAA violation for opening medical mail
Absolutely press charges! 😡
The first one only. HIPAA laws do not apply to a neighbor who opens your mail. HIPAA only applies to people in the medical/healthcare professions. The federal charges for interfering with the mail should be enough to put her in her place.
HIPAA doesn't work like that. It only applies to people in the healthcare professions in the event that they share someone's medical information without being authorized.
So true
So NTA. As someone with a half-sibling who I'm not even that close with, I would be offended if one of my half-sibling's step-parents were treating them anything other than equal. Especially in OPs case because that step-child has an absent father himself and clearly OP knows that what he did to his biological children impacted them and he's filling in as the father for his step-son. To not treat him the same is to essentially make the same mistake over again, the real solution is to spend time (maybe even on OPs own dime) with his biological children as well so that they can get some time with their father, better late than never. Would they rather their last memory with him be discriminating against a child in the same kind of situation as them and then having a HUGE fight with him only for him to disenherit them all together and never speak to them again? Because if you push hard enough it can happen.
I completely agree.
So, his inheritence isn't HIS, to leave to WHOMEVER HE wishes, and money is the ONLY thing THEY THINK HE/THEY OWE, to each other? THEY are the AH!!!!!
@UCX08BRocmIWqa2mgvtIhZOw AGREE!!!
Agree totally.
Story 2: What a nightmare neighbour. Walking in on people, calling a pan flag a terrorism flag, and poking her nose in other people's private businesses.
Why is the Karen acting like this?
Same reason Amber Heard abused Johnny Depp and my mom abuses me. *BECAUSE SHE CAN*
your asking a Karen why they do what they do? it's like asking the Sun why it rises or birds why they fly it's a useless endeavor
That's the question we all want answered.
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The Karen confesses to opening OP's mail and when told its a fed offence, she waves it away like its no big deal????
Decades ago. First full time job I had, company's new facility had a lunch area that was an outdoor patio, sliding doors for bc weather etc. I smoked back then (quit several years later), and my coworkers and I decided that since we had good air circulation, we smokers would sit apart from everyone else not to bother the nonsmokers. Keep in mind this was years before smoking restrictions started going I. Place.
So we're sitting there during lunch break, food done, chatting and having an after dinner smoke. A few minutes in, younger girl, nonsmoker came and sat in middle of our group, and immediately began b*tching about the smoke. None of said a word, just kind of blinked, and, as if we were joined by a Vulcan mind meld, we all took deep drags off our cigs, then blew it all in her face at once.
When she complained, she got informed we separated to spare others the smoke, so she was out of line pulling what she did.
It's because of her behavior I vowed, when I quit smoking, to NEVER BEHAVE like HER.
First story ... people smoking in the smoking section? What a concept.
The one with Karen snooping into OP's business I have 3 words: Oh hell no.
Regarding the inheritance: it is the OP’s estate, and he gets to decide how it is divided.
And his kids get to decide how they feel about him for doing it, yes. Do-over kid has two other parents *AND* he'll benefit from what his mom inherits from his stepdad.
@@AdderMoray - it's called "a stepson," Karen.
@@AdderMoray The problem I have is the wording OP used. It implies that his bio kids only have a relationship with him due to a possible inheritance
yeah, and those two kids who had a shitty upbringing, can decide in what elderly caring facility they can toss OP when he gets old, cause none of them should have to deal with him when he becomes a burden...
he dint gave the kids a proper raising, or life, and now he is giving that to a kid some other man ditched
thats a good slap to the face "hey kids, you see this little boy i've known for 4 years? well his dad doesnt love him, and that kinda reminded me how i was a bad parent durning your childhood, so i've decided that i will treat this kid like you two wished i had treated you, i will be the father for him you two never had, aint i a good person?"
@@BryanLu0 he also said the kid's birth father dissapoints the kid a lot and that he is there for him and how he hopes the kid will view him as Dad because of that. Imagine being the biological son/daughter that had an absent/distant father and now seeing him cussing another man for doing the same thing and being more invested (not talking about money) on that kid than what he was invested in his own kids back in the day. His biological children probably have a problem with not only OP´s wording but also his attitude.
I get it for him to leave a part of his estate to the stepson, but i also understand the bio kids' point of view.
We don´t know if they are being entitled to the money by it's face value or if they are hurt for their dad's attitude, feeling it as another slap on the face from a neglecting father.
the last story.
I guess we are supposed to gauge love as money and gifts? Also, a child doesn't have to be biological for you to feel the same love for them
try to look at it from the viewpoint of OP's kids: they spend their whole childhoods with a father who didn't show them any love at all or that he even cared about them. their father cares about them now that they are adults but that is only because as adults, both of them are useful to him since they help out in his business and make it grow. their father only started caring and "loving" them now that he can get a financial use out of them. at the same time, both of them have to watch their father treat a stepson with the very exact same love and affection that their father had denied them their whole lives. OP's kids have every right to feel angry and betrayed. OP is a very selfish and toxic man and I wouldn't be surprised at all if his kids would simply walk away and cut all contact.
@@Timberwolftrass Are you one of the adult kids?
@@christophercuston LOL 😆
@@christophercuston I think he might be....he has posted the same thing to multiple comments.
@@Timberwolftrass I wouldnt be surprised if they walked away from him because I think they only started a closer relationship with him because they want his inheritance. POS if you ask me.
oh yeah, always press charges. you will need those records at later dates.
The police report is record enough without pressing charges. You press charges so they (hopefully) learn a lesson. Who knows if that would have. She seems to be incorrigible. But opening the mail? I'm not sure how that works, but I think the police would have to report it to the Postmaster General whether or not charges were pressed. I think that's about 5 years in Federal prison.
Story 4 reminds me of an acquaintance that doesn't read English and for SOME reason wants her roommate to get her medical correspondence, prescriptions, etc. in Spanish.
LOL, tell me you're trying to read my mail without saying you want to read my mail.
Gotta love it when people expose themselves
Listening to Dark Fluff, folding clothes and ignoring my barking dogs because they want to eat dinner way too early and are being impatient
What would we do without our furbabies, right? Your dogs sound adorable.
In the first story, i wounder what would happen if it was OP husband who walk in the kitchen buck naked. It might give 'Karen' a heart attack, LOL
😆😅🤣😂
Story 3: Inheritance stories always seem to cause trouble, either because of an entitled inheritor, the person writing the will having some bias, both, or some other reason.
Honestly didn't sound like bias, just the guy wanting to treat them equally. Which is perfectly reasonable, which unreasonable AHs will argue otherwise.
I feel like dad is TA though, even though not a big one. If what the children said is true, which he implies it is, I think he owes his children something for that, and in his case inheritance is a possibility. He should be more supportive of them now of course and help them more to make up for it but we shouldn't kid ourselves.... Some parents only have money left to show they care for their children, because they didn't build or destroyed their relationship. I can't blame his children for feeling like that, but I think it's his money and he can do with it what he wants.
@@KillerChrono666 exactly.
I think the dad wanting to leave an equal 3rd to each kid was perfectly fine. If he really wanted to he could just leave it all to charity and tell them to pound sand.
It is his money and it is nice of him to leave it for them.
The fact that his two biological kids said they deserved the money because they had worked hard to get a relationship with him comes across as dishonest. Like they are simply biding their time till dad dies so they can run off with the money. They may not mean it that way, but it kind of comes across that way.
Inheritance fights can get nasty. People are better off to make their wills with a lawyer and an impartial witness then speak about it to no one. They ask, just say I have a will and the lawyer has a copy. Don't worry about it. If they insist on pressing for info and details ask if they are looking forward to you dying? Will it upset them, sure, but them being vultures about it makes their supposed love of you questionable.
@@SidereusOfTheFallen you’re joking right. His kids lost out on time and memories with him. Money isn’t going to fix that, what will is genuine attempts to bond and have a great relationship which is what OP is doing now. His kids are entitled as hell. He only owes his kids time which he is doing spending time with them now. All this story did was reaffirm my belief don’t tell people what they are going to inherit or that they are insurance beneficiaries. That always brings out the nasty in greedy and entitled people.
I've had an absent dad for most of my life (he came back in my teens and I see him maybe once a year and talk to him sometimes once a month). We're slowly working on the relationship but I expect absolutely nothing from him or his wife when they pass. I love them in my own way but I got captain crunch cereal from them when I graduated college. I learned to expect nothing from them so then if I do get something I'm not disappointed.
About this with my mother. The only things I'd like to get from her estate are the moneys that she stole from me and my siblings. She forced us to cash out savings bonds - bought as gifts from other relatives - so she had money for things for her and my step-dad that didn't benefit us in the slightest (a motorcycle versus shoes and the like for us as an example). Do we expect to see it? Not really.
@@breakinganddecorating8108 my dad stole savings that my mom had started for me when I was born ($2 bills because their unique and she worked in retail so she'd cash them out when she could). He stole a big part of that when he left and dipped on child support for a few years so he had to keep paying my mom through most of my college years. Never saw the $2 bills payed back but he has told me a crazy story how I was robbed out of money from my great grandmothers inheritance because of his mother (who I don't speak with) and his brother (who I barely know). After some other stories I've learned not to trust everything he tells me.
The thumbnail just makes me think about crashing a villager's house and giving them better looking clothes in AC 🗿
What's AC?
@@GaySatanicClowns Autocorrect from MC, MC being Minecraft
@@GaySatanicClowns Animal Crossing
@@CatLeone2003 Nope. Animal Crossing. The M key is waaaay too far from the a key for that type of typo
@@VIofCaffeine My bad, lol.
Same thing happened to me at work in the smoking area. An employee sat directly across from me and asked me to move because she shouldn’t have to eat where someone is smoking. I reminded her that the non-smoking area is inside to which she responded with “I’m allowed to enjoy the nice weather while eating” to which I replied “I’m allowed to enjoy the nice weather while smoking”. Neither of us moved and she complained to my supervisor, who had a talk with me. I informed him that if she’s going to sit in the smoking area, then she has no right to complain about someone smoking. Never heard another word from either of them.
Smoking in the smoking area? What's next? People drinking beer in bars? I don't like smoking either, but I don't go to areas where people smoke and then complain about people smoking.
That's like yelling at the sun for rising and setting. Or oxygen existing so we can breathe. Especially the breathing thing. We already went through TWO YEARS of THAT punishment. And THAT Karen was called COVID. *NOT A FAN*
Yep, I never smoked. 65 now. I simply avoid smokers when they light up.
The dad is NTA. My dad split from my mom only a few years after I was born and we struggled a ton, but I didn't blame my dad nor my mom. Just shit luck imo. He had two kids with his wife and while I rarely saw them or my dad for most of my life, I'm not angry b(ut I do wish he'd given me some more attention throughout my life). Anyway, the dad in the story just seemed like a guy who wanted to be a good dad but had to build his career first before he could share the fruits of his labor with his kids properly. He's been in his stepson's life since he was 8 and plans and wants to be his dad going forth so it makes perfect sense that he wants to include him in his will. I completely understand his kids' feelings but imo they're being a bit petty and a bit selfish, especially for the ages they are.
For the last story - Hell no! That man is not the Ahole. Yes what happened in the past is sad and it's great that he and his biological kids have a good relationship now but he has every right to leave money to his stepson.
Fully agreed. If I'm dad, my options for the biokids are: Take it, or leave it. They're still inheriting a fuckton of money that most kids with difficulty upbringings would never be able to dream of inheriting.
and his kids have every right to send him to pound sand
imagine that you go trogh a shitty childhood, you see your parent being a better parent for a kid in 4 years than he was your whole childhood
i wouldnt give a shit about the money, but what i am hearing is "this kid in 4 years is as much of a son for me than you two managd to be in X years, and since i love him, i wanna give him equal share, cause he is equal"
no sir, he is not equal, and that IS a do over son, you are just now having the time to be a parent without the sacrifices that etitled.
honestly, i've seen a crap ton of kids that got ditched by parent, those two should wise up and send dad to paint a forest and get lost innit
hell was me on that place i would straight out tell dad "tis ok, you can give him my share, i want nothing from you. not like you had anything good to offer me in the first place" and just cut him out of my life forever
Exactly, ive told my parents many times that they should spend their money on themselves, they deserve it, they don't need to leave me anything. Sick of entitled kids expecting a pay day when their parents die, id rather my parents alive so I can spend time with them, because that's how you show love, not through money.....
The bio kids read like they felt inheritance was compensation for putting up with someone. Quite frankly, if someone felt that way about me I wouldn't want to give them anything due the what they think of me - a chore to endure that I'll pay them for.
@@wackytycoon I've said the same to my parents, I don't care about the size of any potential inheritance. Spend your money, go on trips and have fun cause you've bloody well deserved it.
I worked in an ER for years. In the 80s, it was common for the nurses to smoke as they were getting report at change of shift. In later years, we shook our heads in disbelief that we used to do that. Times change.
I remember when you could smoke in your hospital bed and the grocery store. My mom would smoke everywhere.
As soon as that 5th OP mentioned 'mail' I was like "Welp, rude Karen neighbor gonna get smacked in the face with a felony charge 😈".
Final story: OP's money, OP's will, OP can decide how to divide it all up. The kids can suck it up because it's not their money to divide up.
i think he is wrong but he is collecting what he planted, i mean you are ignoring, forgetting or not acknowledging the two kids that had to have him on the shitty times, i get it, its his money, but what is he saying with this stunt?
"this kid i've known for 4 years, is worth as much for me as you two whom i've seen growing and whom i've laked and failed as a father"
simple line? yeah, his money his decision, but i'd wise up to that man, and just cut all ties with him, erase him from my life, you dont get to make my childhood a shitty experience, and later make some other kid live a dreamy life and expect ME to be ok with it
try to also see it from the POV of the kids, he is being the father they needed, the dude abandons his kids and makes them go trough god knows what, and he knows he cant turn back time, so what does he do? "you see this kid, whos father doesnt love him enough? that reminded me of how i was to you, so i wana treat him, as you two wished i've treated you, dont you agree i am a good parent?"
no sir you are not, i hope the do over son doenst ditch you for bio dad if things ever change tunes... cuase if i were your kids, i'd ditch you and tell you to shove your money where you know where.
The last story. O.P married this woman and loves this boy as his son. He shouldn’t be treated any less because he isn’t blood. He is supposed to be family. I am a stepmother and I’ll be damned if I treat my husband’s children any different than my own. I love them just as much and he does the same with mine. I would expect nothing less. The kids also do for each other which truly touches my heart. There is no distinction here.
I wish I had you for an adopted mom. My adopted mom is no longer my mom. She Amber Hearded my dad and me for centuries. I actually have nightmares about her. She once even threatened to kill me. My dad loved a woman he left mom for. And she was more of a mom than that witch will ever be. Rest her soul. I will always miss Evelyn. She was a rock. A cornerstone. A shield. A warrior. A survivor. And an angel. Now my dad met a new woman. Named Terri. A relationship is still on the fence but it is clear she truly wants one. I won't go into detail about her past. But I truly want to see another woman as a mom again. And she just seems perfect. We even know sign language! We are flying down to Florida to see her and our friends again. Family is who you are happy and safe with. Family is not blood. Loki said it best. Asgard is not a place. It's a people. The people you love are your family. I know I'm rambling but I am autistic and struggle to communicate clearly. But if my dad wants to give his inheritance to Terri's family, or any other person in his life besides me, I will hold no grudge against him. I WILL keep it away from my Karen of a mom even if it does end up killing me.
@@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS more power to you. And I wish you the best. Sorry some people are absolute turds. Hope you get all the proper love and care you need
The last story is crazy. I hate that anyone think that they are entitled to a certain inheritance. It's his money and he could leave it to a dog shelter if he wants.
I agree with you there. You don’t show your love to your children by giving them money after you die you show up while you’re alive. The bio kids just seem upset because they’re not getting as much as they would have if there’s stepbrother didn’t come into the picture.
Exactly; or he could say oh you want part of the money? OK 50% to the step kid and 25% to each bio kid
Exactly my thoughts
Plus remember what his bio kids said? “They would lose out on the inheritance they earned for working hard to repair the damage”. You don’t work on a relationship just to get a reward; you do it because you want the relationship to be stronger. It seems they only bothered to get closer to their father as adults because his business took off and they wanted to make sure they get a lot in the will
My thoughts entirely and never mind him being the a-hole are oldest kids just being entitled
The last story - he can leave his money to anyone he wants. People who think that the more money you leave them the more you loved him are just wrong. Money does not equate love.
depends, leaving the money to the new family entirely would signal a lack of affection to the previous unit, but the money isn't the point, its the measure. The problem being that was all they wanted. As for the opening, he was working a job and was distant trying to provide, that isn't an ahole thing either.
Good point. It sounds like they are making up to him, now that he's older, mostly for his money. I'd then use "transfer on death" and beneficiary endorsements on all his property/accounts to the heir he wants. He could then show them a will stating they inherit. That keeps most of the valuables out of the will, so there's little of value to challenge.
The only times I have opened someone else's mail was when it was mis-delivered to me and I did not realize it until afterwards. Who doesn't know that stealing mail is illegal?
No way would i let that woman in my house after helping herself to my sugar, with out knocking or asking!
Story #1: The weird thing about smoking in restaurants (Yeah, I'm that old), is that you often got seated faster if you told the host/hostess that you had no preference on seating. If you'd specifically asked for no smoking, it would take you twice as long to get seated, simply because the no-smoking section was so small, say about 7-10 tables, and they were always filled to the brim.
I remember those days. Non smoking sections in a lot of restaurants felt like a poorly planned afterthought. Some were placed so poorly that the air circulation in the restaurant made them the smokiest possible place to sit. I would get annoyed when smokers would go out of their way to sit in the non smoking section and light up though. 2nd hand smoke is a bit like drunk driving in as much as others are having the consequences of others' poor choices forced on them.
@@randomstuff-qu7sh The real problem was having to smell people's smoke when you were trying to enjoy your meal. Fkn gross...
It should of been half and half. Feel like it would of not been fair non smokers.
@@goombapizza6335 ya. Especially if it effects your lungs. I probably wouldn’t be able to stop coughing.
"A non-smoking section in a restaurant is like a non-peeing section in a pool."
So much for "Can't buy me love" the dad is ok. The kids are greedy and grudging. My mother died three years ago. She was VERY good with her money. I was not as attentive a daughter as I should have been. She split her inheritance between my brother, my sister and I. I didn't feel that I deserved anything. It was an UNDESERVED GIFT!!! I am so grateful. There was no squabbling and we even decided to give some of each share to my deceased older sister's two sons who were left out of the will (I don't know why)
First story: Karen makes as much sense as if she sat down at the wrong end of a shooting range. Then calls the cops because people are shooting at HER. "I'm not moving! I was here first! You shouldn't be shooting guns anyway! It's DANGEROUS!"
The comment Darkfluff made about barley remembering smoking areas. Now I feel extremely old because I can remember when they had smoking areas inside not just outside. I used to smoke in said smoking areas(I no longer smoke). 😂😂😂
In the last story he is not the a hole. Inheritance is a gift no matter what. If he choose to share his inheritance that's totally up to him.
I agree. He's not leaving out his kids or giving them a lesser amount either. I'm very pleased that he understands and acknowledges their feelings. He sees why they have those thoughts and opinions. At least he can build on that. He can always change his mind about his will and how he divides up his assets.
He's getting different people's opinions so he can determine what he feels is right and fair. Not a lot of step-parents would consider leaving an equal share to their step children, so that says a lot about him. It's wonderful that his relationships with his children have gotten better but like one commentor said, they still have all those feelings of resentment of having an absent father growing up.
Yes I agree with you. Step son is still a son. It's his money to do with as he pleases.
Agree. Then again, he could always divorce his wife and give her (and her son) half ... and then let his two sons divide what's left. ;-)
His money - his decision. Not the a-hole.
Agreed. I think it's disgusting that people are angry at him for including her stepson. Blood relation doesn't mean anything when it comes to family. His kids are just mad that they don't get more money despite the fact that their only "reason" was how HARD they worked to fix the relationship. So, in other words, they did nothing and now they think that entitles them to all of HIS money. In fact, it sounds like they only did it because they expected something in return. They aren't owed anything, and I'd literally tell them to get over it or they won't get anything.
All I’m gonna say is that, out of all of the entitled people stories that u read, that 4th one actually made me shake in rage because of what that Karen neighbour did, OP definitely should’ve pressed charges against that Karen!
That last story with the comments saying that not leaving a larger inheritance for the bio kids is "traumatizing them" had my blood boiling, why is your love for your family measured by how much money you have/are leaving them? When i lose family i'm not upset that they didn't leave me anything, i'm fucking upset cause i will never see them again.
Last story: It's not like the OP is leaving more to his stepson than to either of his older children, nor is he leaving *anything* substantial to *his actual wife*. Those two are in their 30s, it's about time for them to grow up.
Exactly. Pure greed is all his bio kids are revealing
Exactly what I was thinking, the only reason why they’re pissed is Bc they won’t get a good amount of “daddies” money 🙄🙄🙄
and they made a point of how much work they did to have a better relationship with their dad as adults, Possibly because he now had money?
It's easy to throw accusation if you never have to experience the messed up situation like that.
I bet if you are in their situation, you will also object your (estranged) father decision.
Yup. I know inheritance will be between me and my sister, but we also know it probably won't be that much, because we spent years telling our folks to live it up when they retire. They know we will be fine.
Meanwhile, I've encountered people that openly bemoan their senior citizen parents spending one red cent over the bare minimum. Some people are truly pathetic.
Mail snooper: I REALLY hope that OP contacted the post office about this. If she did, Karen is looking at a minimum of 3 years in FEDERAL prison and a fine of $250,000.
Imagine being on an airplane or bus back when they allowed passengers to smoke. It was a crazy time.
True, but back then you could open a window on the bus (not possible today), and airplanes exchange the entire air supply every 2-5 minutes, depending on the aircraft, altitude, and number of passengers. If they didn't, everyone would die of CO2 poisoning (from everyone just breathing) within an hour.
As for smoking in restaurants, that is still an option on some places, as that isn't a federal law, but state or local laws that restrict it.
Edit: For clarification, smoking sections on aircraft were normally at the rear of the plane, where the exhaust, or vents to the outside were placed. Ram air and/or air from the engine compressors were fed to the front of the cabin and through the little vents above your head. That 'fresh air' you could control is, in fact, outside air fed to you from the aircraft's systems.
In restaurants, it is much the same. Those big vents above the grill pump out a lot of air from the kitchen area, drawing lots of fresh air into the dining area from outside or through heat exchangers.
This is why the air in your house is anywhere from 10 to 25 times as toxic as the air on a plane, bus, or restaurant.
@@zuzax1656 You're insane. That's cool.
Airplanes, buses, stinky taxi cabs, inside restaurants.
@@zuzax1656 airplanes were awful! Literally one seat would be smoking and the seat directly in front not. The smoke didn’t stay out.
I would unfortunately not be able to go on an airplane or a bus because im highly allergic to cigarette smoke. I am glad that smoking isnt allowed on them now.
No one owes anyone an inheritance. When my grandfather died, he left everything to my grandmother and nothing to his daughters. When grandma died my mom and her half-brother inherited everything. My mom and her half-brother gave a decent amount of money to their stepsisters even though they didn't have to. It was the right thing to do.
Since you asked, tampering with the mail comes with up to 6 months in jail.
Last I checked, federal law anyway, it was 5 years, $5000 fine or both
Story 4: The first time Karen came barging in she's already trespassing plus invasion of privacy. Second time she barge in and reveal that OP is pregnant that's where the second count of invasion of privacy happen. When Karen show photo of OP and her friends to her husband that's where the third count of invasion of privacy. The fourth count of invasion of privacy is when things get serious as not only did she stole OP's mail key she also stole her gender reveal letter which both are consider a single felony crime of mail theft so she'll be in jail for 10 years as that's two count of mail theft she committed. I don't know how long she'll get sentence if they decide to add the four count of Invasion of Privacy and the one count of trespassing.
Don't forget another FELONY CHARGE stealing Dr.'s letter HIPAA violation.
Inheritance: if the bio kids really loved their dad they’d worry more about him than his money. I’d rather have my dad back than any of his possessions 😢
I know right, they revealed what they actually care about. Sorry for your loss
Opening or destroying mail that is addressed to someone else is a crime called “Obstruction of Correspondence.” It is a serious felony that could lead to prison time.
Is it just me who thinks the father in the last story isn't the a hole? He's treating all kids, including the stepson in a fair and equal light, trying to make up for mistakes. It's crazy to think he's in the wrong.
Not just you....anyone who views an equal split as slighting someone else is planning on doing the same....they are just trying to justify their own greed as they try to cut out their relatives. They are just showing their true colors. Only truly corrupt people could view an equal split as doing someone dirty.
i think he is wrong but he is collecting what he planted, i mean you are ignoring, forgetting or not acknowledging the two kids that had to have him on the shitty times, i get it, its his money, but what is he saying with this stunt?
"this kid i've known for 4 years, is worth as much for me as you two whom i've seen growing and whom i've laked and failed as a father"
simple line? yeah, his money his decision, but i'd wise up to that man, and just cut all ties with him, erase him from my life, you dont get to make my childhood a shitty experience, and later make some other kid live a dreamy life and expect ME to be ok with it
try to also see it from the POV of the kids, he is being the father they needed, the dude abandons his kids and makes them go trough god knows what, and he knows he cant turn back time, so what does he do? "you see this kid, whos father doesnt love him enough? i wana treat him, as you two wished i've treated you, dont you agree i am a good parent?"
no sir you are not, i hope the do over son doenst ditch you for bio dad if things ever change tunes... cuase if i were your kids, i'd ditch you and tell you to shove your money where you know where.
It would be fun to find out that OP literally cut the EP kids completely out and gave half to the stepson and half to a homeless shelter. I'm just saying
The first comment to this story that Fluff reads in the video is ridiculous. Why does it talk about OP giving "a large chunk" to wife and stepson and "a smaller portion" to his children, or that he would "pick his stepson as his preferred child"? He wanted them to have equal parts, that's the effing *opposite* of what that comment claims. So yeah, the entitlement is definitely on the bio children's part.
I'd rather have ment (mended?) my relationship with my dad and keep good and precious memories with him than expect his money. Like, yeah inheritance is a pretty boost but it's just numbers. Why would they even complain about that? If the dad put equal EFFORTS in the relationships between step and bio chlidren, then I'm OK with that
I remember when there wasn't even smoking areas in restaurants or anywhere. People smoked while grocery shopping flying on airplanes, everywhere, and it doesn't really seem like that long ago.
There are a lot of people in the US who, if a stranger walks in and challenges them to "make me" leave, will have a firearm to answer that challenge. And there are a lot of jurisdictions that have Stand Your Ground and Castle Doctrine laws such that the "Karen" could end up very dead and the DA would do nothing about it.
Plenty of places around here if a Karen or anyone else walks in someone's house uninvited and they answer with a firearm, they would never find Karen's body.
The first story, just think how embarrassing it is for a child to have a Karen for a mother
here's the thing. it's entirely up to op as to how he chooses to distribute inheritance. not up to the son or daughter (who sound like toads).
Ref story 5: A person's money is to be used in whatever manner the person wishes. So giving it all to charity rather than the spawn is just as good as deciding the funds as they PERSONALLY wish.
The 5th story, I missed most of it, but I feel like the person is NTA, they had an adoptive child they loved and cared for, so it makes sense they want that child to be happy in life
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No one is entitled to what their parents worked for. They should be grateful he is leaving them anything.
It’s 330am and I couldn’t sleep and suddenly Fluff’s video appears. Thank you 🙏
Where in the world are you Asia? Cause it's 10 am here in Europe
@@beatrixbabi62245 Perth Australia Downunder!
@@KatieB33 Oh what a nice place it must be 🥺❤
@@beatrixbabi62245 yes it’s a beautiful place to live. Sadly, expensive because a lot of stuff comes from the eastern states. But I guess that’s the world at the moment!
@@beatrixbabi62245 I think you have confused am and pm😉. I live in Germany and here it is 10 pm. According to your name, you live in Italy, so in the same time zone.
No offense meant!
Story 2- this is why I always keep my doors locked at all times because you never know who maybe coming in without permission
In the last story, he’s definitely not the a-hole. In fact, his biological children sound spoiled, and entitled and resentful, Merely repairing the relationship with him in order to use him as a post-funeral ATM. It’s his money in his business and he can Dole it out Anyway he sees fit. If he is truly as wealthy as he claims to be, there’s more than enough to go around to keep everybody comfortable they just sound greedy to me.
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He can leave his money to whomever, but I get the children's feelings. He married someone FIVE years older than his oldest child and is lavishing all of the attention that he never gave them on that new family.
He admitted that he was an absent parent. He doesn't mention paying support, which makes me wonder, but let's say he did. He was absent, so his money became the only thing he contributed to his children growing up. And now, he's got his do-over family? The stepmother that's a peer to them and the new child that's young enough to be their child? To them, this is probably another way that he's told them over the years that they aren't as important. 4 years is not a long time. I have socks older than their relationship.
It’s OP’s money to do with as he pleases. He could go ahead and do what my aunt and uncle did: spend almost every penny before he dies. They didn’t want to leave behind anything that could cause a battle.
@@mrllamadoesnotwant I would like to point out that 4yrs I'd still over a third of that kids life and given OP is likely to live for quite a few years yet that proportion will only grow. Or are you suggesting that a person's ability to love and consider someone family worthy of considering in an inheritance is dependent on time. All small children would ineligible for inheriting anything if that was the case.
@@mrllamadoesnotwant so you think it would be appropriate to cause more emotional harm......EQUAL shares is the only reasonable solution....it doesn't matter how many years the kid has been his.....does that mean that of his biological kids they should not split the money evenly buy instead by age since the older one knew the dad longer......in your case does that mean if some other family had a 3 year old that they shouldn't get a trust because they were only born not that long ago.
If he was contemplating cutting out the biological kids, I could understand your insanity.....but him wanting to be equal is the only thing that makes any moral sense at all.
Inheritance issue - kinda makes me think of the parable of the vineyard workers where the ones who worked all day got paid the same as the ones hired later.
It’s his money and his choice if he wants to be generous with it.
Hello darkfluff, I work for the post office. As for the 4th story that Karen could get upto a $250,000 fine and upto 5 years in a federal prison for mail fraud
It always stuns me when people think they've "earned" an inheritance.
As someone with both a half brother and 2 step siblings (one from each step parent) on top of my 2 sisters I am completely on board with him treating his stepson as his own in regards to inheritance especially since he is actually helping raise him. He's not giving the step son more but an equal amount I definitely see this as the best scenario from what he shared.
Honestly each scenario will be different as previously mentioned I have 2 stepparents, 1 who helped raise me from 12yrs onwards and still helps me to this day and another who married my father several years after I left home and who I have a very different relationship with. I imagine that my sisters and I will get a fairy equal share in any inheritance as he's made it clear that he sees us as his own kids (even getting our names tattooed on him along side his biokids) however I don't expect anything from my stepmother. Similarly I don't imagine my mum giving much to my step sister as she was an adult by the time mum and us kids came on the scene but whould be surprised if my dad didn't leave anything for my step brother as he married his mum when he was a teen and he still lives with them atm.
Honestly it really comes down to whether the step parent considers the stepchild their own and if the answer I'd yes how could they treat them any differently.
I also acknowledge heirlooms are a bit different and the majority will most likely go to biokids but given the sentimental value of such items would be greater for them in this case it makes sence to me.
That last story just makes me think of all the people who are mad that school debt was forgiven but they had to pay theirs forever ago
Story 4: Your Mail and Mailbox is protected by Federal Law. So it is a federal crime/felony. It's called Obstruction of Correspondence. Let me put it simply like this for just taking and holding someone else's mail you could get about 6 months in Prison (Not Jail). For opening up someone else's mail you can get up to 5 years in prison. I forgot how long but you could get a good many years more in prison for destroying someone else's mail.
On top of all of that you could also get charged up to $250,000 in fines too.
Wow! I don't think the nightmare neighbor would have survived if she had done that to me and my family!
Story 1: I think the one of the Smokers have already posted this same story on reddit, either that or i've already heard a simular story
The last story struck a nerve. I don't believe he should've shared his will information with his children. It's none of their business who gets HIS money.
Story 3: I would just lie and tell her I had lost the baby
Risk manifesting it, no thanks.
when we were in college, back in ancient times before there was _any_ restriction on smoking in restaurants, a smoking friend who worked as a waitress in a club with a low ceiling would walk home just to get the taste of tar out of her mouth and some fresh air in her lungs. By the time she had changed jobs, she no longer smoked.
For the last story, I am the step kid. I have 3 younger half siblings. I am still my dad’s (stepdads first born kid). I get that the dad was didstant and emotionally not available for his kids growing up, but it sounds like he was doing the best he could in the time and circumstances for those kids aka being the only source of income that was wavering for a family of four. He had to bust butt and sacrifice for his family and yeah it sucks but he was doing his best. Circumstances have changed, he has more time and income and lest responsibility now so.. yes he can be the dad his bio kids wanted to his step kid. And he’s trying to make right that he wasn’t the best to his bio kids. He is now again doing the best he can. The inheritance is more of an issue of feeling owed than of owing. He should be treating ALL of his children fairly and that’s what he’s doing.
Last story: NTA. It’s his money and property to do with as his wish. His children are being selfish.
In my opinion anyone who fights over inheritance doesn’t deserve inheritance
Good point
Story 1: oh you sweet innocent child, DarkFluff. There was a restaurant where I live that had a main floor and balcony... I believe it was a Steakhouse or some kind of Fine Dining, but it was years ago. Anyways, some manager had the bright idea to put the smokers on the main floor and non-smokers on the balcony "to keep them away from the smoke."
They had a restructuring soon after.
The last story;
No, you are not the A hole. It sounds like your kids only mended the past relationship with you because you are now well off and they expect money
Exactly
Story #5:
My grandmother, nearly 20 yrs after my grandfather died, included her two step daughters (who were adults in college when my grandparents married) in her will. She didn't have to, they already got something from their father previously. But she did, because she loved them and it was the right thing to do. Anything else was just pure greed talking.
1st Story: I feel bad for the person, living with a Karen for a Mom.
2nd story: Neighbor Karen was Pumpkin Positive ( Shine light in mouth, Head lights up like Jack-o'-lantern from lack of Brains)
Story 3: Those Adult Children sound a bit like my Half-Sisters' Mom, my dads First wife, She expected to be entitled to his home, but it didn't work out that way.
"Little did I know this was just the beginning" -- and that's why you should have pressed charges.
Letting the neightbor Karen walk into your house without consequence is why story developed. ALWAYS PRESS CHARGES - shut that behavior down immediately and don't let it develop.
They always escalate.
Story 1: Don't miss those days, tbh. I grew up around smokers. Nowadays, the few times I'm around them, they at least have the courtesy to smoke outside where it's less bothersome. Most places are no-smoking now, so they don't have much choice but to take it outside.
#5 I'm trying to figure out where the idea "of parents owing their kids" came from?Leaving them an inheritance doesn't mean they were loved ,not leaving them an inheritance doesn't mean they were not loved .Parents for the most part do the best they can for their kids ,doesn't mean that once they are grown they are owed .......
Definitely
okay but how wholesome is the uncle taking his dog fishing too so he "doesn't miss out"?
Last story OP is not the A-hole, he is taking care of all his kids. What do the adult kids want him to do? Bring them back into his house and reraise them? He acknowledged he messed up when they were kids and has tried to make amends, demanding more or his money as their inheritance is positively entitled and wrong.
Harassing this polite woman was totally uncalled for.
Our pain in life is relative! If the man in the last story wants to take care of all of his kids (biological or otherwise), then that is his prerogative.
Stop letting these people go without consequences! If she had pressed charges in the beginning, maybe she would at least think twice about doing this shit. Why?! Why do so many people not press charges? Always 👏 press 👏 charges👏. These people don’t learn when you let them get away with it. FFS and why would you let her in your house?!
Last story: Maybe my experience with my stepbrothers might have tainted my views with how they viewed my mother, myself and my sister as the "do over" family, but OP's bio child just sound like entitled brats. They think they are entitled to the money due to their childhood? He may have been always working and emotional distant but he was there. OP's stepson does not really have his father in his life. OP realizes his mistakes with his other children and he is in a better situation than when his children were growing up.
No parent is perfect and OP admits he was not the best father when his children were growing up and according to him, he has worked hard to make up for that. OP leaving more to the step child would be favoritism. OP is splitting it equally. I am sure that the stepchild would not care about getting anything. I know I did not care I did not get any of the monetary funds from my stepfather when he died. No amount of money from my stepfather could ever replace the time I spent with him and OP's stepson would probably feel the same say.
OP's children need to realize that the money does not mean anything. Is OP's children going to destroy the relationship they built with their father, over money? When OP dies the money is not going to make it better.
Exactly 100%
Story 6: And this, folks, is why you NEVER EVER discuss what's in your will except for who to contact after you are gone. He would be completely in his rights to leave EVERY SINGLE BIT of it to the local animal shelter! Bio kids or not, they do NOT get to tell their father what to do with his estate.
True that
Exactly that’s I feel. Never speak about wills or insurance benefits EVER, they’ll find out after you die.
As for the story 4. Unfortunately there are people out there who are that damn dumb. My wife used to work at a day care and told a kid how marshmallows were man made and didn't grow in the wild. Turned out the child's mother legit thought marshmallows grew on plants.
There is a plant called a marsh mallow. Maybe that is the source of the confusion.
There's a spaghetti warehouse near me that's 2 stories. The basement bar area allows smoking and the first floor dining room doesn't. But all the smoke from the downstairs billows upstairs anyway
Always press charges! It doesn’t matter how petty you are, or white little offense was made. If you don’t press charges on these people, they will continue to do it. And probably be worse the next time, or they’re gonna do it to another person thinking they can get away with it. If you don’t press charges they’re going to keep doing it. That’s why these people keep doing it because no one stops them. I would’ve gotten up and dragged her out by her hair. You don’t barge into my home without my permission, I don’t care who you are.
If you would press charges at the beginning, the rest of that big ass would not have happened!
"We're emotionally damaged because you were an absent father and we were poor... but half your money each will fix us right up!"