As someone that used to be obese and recently got into the best shape of my life. Being comfortable in your own body is HUGE. It's a heck of a lot easier to "own the space around you" when you're not self-conscious about how you look or if your love handles are hanging out in a weird way.. Being in great shape boosts your confidence automatically. Once you do that, a lot of the tips being discussed here simply come naturally. That's my personal experience anyway.
When you go from fat to fit and you see women looking at you that never would have before it's incredibly motivating and inspires a lot of confidence. That confidence just amplifies your attractiveness.
1) Speak through a smile. smile through your eyes and be charming. laugh at your own words. do not smile 24/7 like, starting a story, start serious and it gets to the funnier part, you can start smiling and then start laughing. keep the smile genuine. try to guide the conversation to things that actually make you laugh. 2) own the space around you. use your hands when you speak, use gestures. and even when you're not speaking, you can take up space when you laugh. put yoir head back, pur your hand on their shoulder or knee. this way you can slowly make people more comfortable to your touch and so if you're interested in them, you will easily be able to kiss them. also, another way to know if they're really interested or not. take up the space around you. ALSO, do not laugh at everything the other person says, it's cringy 3. Bounce between a) teasing lightly b) complimenting kindly bounce back and forth between this. this is called as the push-pull technique. this makes you less predictable and makes gou moe interesting. they wanna know what you'll say. more likely to work on people who are used to JUST good compliments. they're more likely to be attracted to this. don't just tease and be a jerk or give compliments and be out in the friendzone. 4. don't hide your flaws. own the mistakes that you did. if they jab at you, take it and laugh at it. if you're scared, admit it. Admit being scared, embarrassed. be willing to laugh at your own mistakes and be willing to own them. this shows you're not afraid to be judged. the thing that would bother other people, you're comfortable with it.
I liked this and wanted to share it, when I looked it up apparently there is no record of Mr. Lewis ever saying it, but there is a very similar quote from author James Sherman: "You can’t go back and make a new start, but you can start right now and make a brand new ending.”
I have a big... BIG... BIIIIGGGGG... muscles!!! HAHAHA!!! What did you think I was going for? That's so DIRTY of you! GAGAGAGA!!! I am the funniest TH-camr ever! Maybe that's the reason why I have TWO (!!!) HOT (!) GIRLFRIENDS. Thanks for being alive, dear val
Seems like a warning is appropriate: be VERY careful when touching other people in public, especially people you don't know. The two Chrises can do it because they're obviously friends and enjoy being around each other. But for those of us who aren't gorgeous Hollywood stars, it can be very easy to invade someone's physical space in an unpleasant way without meaning to. Read the room, always.
i love the video, can you make a video how to react in negative situations because most of these actors you cover are usually in a nice group of people and the energy is always lifted. how about a situation where you really feel uncomfortable? love your channel
The important thing is self-awareness. With it you can realize what's funny in the current situation you are. You can start to see yourself as someone else and therefore distantiate your feelings from your thinking. That obviously requires some energy / attention span in each of your conversations.
One thing this channel taught me about charisma is that there is no one size fits all and you should not try to be someone you are not. For my personality, I have found something akin to Chris Evan's charm to be most natural to incorporating into my own social interactions.
Have you considered that you may have adhd? I do and one of the symptoms is that I forget what I'm talking about while I'm talking about it. This doesn't mean you can't go into the conversation with confidence though. Remind yourself that no matter how the convo goes, you'll be ok. Because you will. Then remember that if you mess up or forget you can laugh it off knowing you're human, we all make mistakes, and you will be ok. You've got this! 👍
@@OMGSHEENA Thanks for the comment! :) yeah, I thought of that. I know that I have social phobia but I don't know if it's the cause or consequence of something else, maybe adhd. I'm still looking for the courage to go to therapy. Because of the communication problems I'm very afraid of it.
@@zoeydeutch6768 @Zoey Deutch Don't be afraid of therapy. A good therapist that is the right fit for you will listen to you and offer tools to cope with and/or overcome the obstacles that your brain is creating. Try online therapy if it's easier a lot of health insurance companies are starting to cover online therapy now. Your brain, like mine, may work differently from some, but that doesn't make it broken or bad. As simple as it sounds breathing is the best tool I've found for almost every issue I have and I have so many issues I offer subscriptions. But seriously, feeling anxious? Take a deep breath and let it out slowly counting backwards from ten. (Also if you have someone you trust near by, hold their hand. Skin to skin contact releases dopamine and other "feel good" hormones) Feeling angry? Take a deep breath, close your eyes, remember something that makes you feel calm (think of something ahead of time to be your go to so that you'll remember it when upset), smile and let the breath out slowly. Got the hiccups? Take a quick deep breath that expands your chest pulling shoulders back and hold it for 5 seconds and release slowly (gasping when scared or holding breath expands diaphragm which is what really helps hiccups), Can't stop crying, having IBS issues or experiencing pain? You guessed it .. slow deep breaths in, slow puckered breaths out (like you're blowing out candles slowly) Rapid short breaths when in pain or otherwise can cause hyperventilation so slow breathing can be vital. I had a boss that used to ask every new trainee what the number one rule in a knife fight is. Most would say bring a gun or don't forget the knife etc but the answer is to "remain calm" and I've found this to be true of almost any situation. The best way to remain calm, or atleast appear calm is to take slow deep breaths, in my experience. Even if someone is verbally attacking you, arguing etc just tune them out, hum if you have to (it helps tune out inner or outer noise, and take deep slow breaths until you're ready to continue. Obviously if you're in physical danger remove yourself from the situation if you can, breathing can't stop a knife or a fist or bullets but it can help you to think clearly and calm your body and mind. Also you'd be surprised how much standing with good posture, chin up, shoulders back etc., will influence your ability to feel confident. Good luck!
Push pull is hard to pull off if you're socially awkward and especially with the opposite gender. I've seen so many clips of guys on dating shows who think it's cool to talk down to their date or constantly tease her, but then say the odd nice thing. I think if you are doing it, the ratio has to be 80/90% nice and 10-20% tease. Because humans trend to overestimate the mean comments so much more
Push-pull requires you to do it with a friend of yours who is good at it, when in front of a girl. Takes two to tango. If he certainly isn't (he doesn't have to be great) -- it won't get you anywhere, and if you continue to keep trying, you'll look annoying to him as it'll make him more closed in. Trying to do that with a girl is only going to work if she's very sociable herself + banters well with you. It's something to employ with a girl After you get things rolling with her in some banter, to test out -- and to really roll with if it clicks with her.
None of this works unless you are naturally charismatic to begin with. These people are movie stars because they had charisma to begin with. They did not learn it afterwards.
@@Frankie5Angels150 that's not true. Look at his video of the rock. Charisma is absolutely a skill you can develop, it's just that most people don't put the effort into learning and practicing
Its easy to be charming when you're comfortable with the people around you, and you're already respected like Chris here. If you can be like Chris in a room with strangers and you're not a celebrity, then that's impressive.
When I taught piano one thing I really loved about my Chinese students is how they would laugh at themselves when they messed something up (in one of their piano pieces) during the lesson. It was so charming and made things fun.
I don't necessarily agree with that. You want to be successful, if you get rejected or fail that means you main a mental mistake or error, which is going against a competitive work environment that shuns errors. You want to feel confident and have a long history of successful experiences to draw from. If you keep getting rejected, you get numb and slowly turn into a loser.
I must say I haven't seen a relatable investment, my wife pushed me to start looking into stock and crypto some time before the pandemic because we were looking for other sources of
0:00 - Intro. 0:30 - #1: Speak through a smile. 2:21 - #2: Own the space around you. 5:25 - #3: Use the push-pull method. 7:30 - #4: Be willing to laugh at yourself.
Quick question: throwing my head back and laughing like that is something I really WANT to do, but I feel like as a girl it gives off a different impression than when a guy does it. Is that just a false perception on my part or is there something else I should do instead?
Just because it gives a different impression, doesn't mean it gives a bad impression. Some people will like it and other's won't, so it's a great way to differentiate between people you should spend your time around. But like they always say, do callibrate it to the people and the situation. A general rule is to just keep your energy at 1 level above everyone else (in group settings.)
@@peckishcloud My problem is that leaning back and laughing is just so unnatural to me. I’m worried it’s going to come across as fake or excessive. I am a man btw.
@@D00Rb3LL That kind of excessive laughter isn't a necessary thing, but just like any skill you have to develop it. Most situations don't call for it, so I would focus more on laughing deep in the belly, making it feel more natural, and training your mind to focus on the funny to make laughter more common. These things take time, but making it habitual is what will make it feel natural.
Some charming girls I’ve met move their head sideways and use hand/arm expressions when laughing. It’s more subtle but it might be easier for you to adapt yourself and personalize it if you feel like leaning is too much.
Late to this question but my girlfriend has a really drastic laugh when i tell a good one. Head back and a very loud HA that quiets down into more normal hahahas, but I always just go "yeah! I really got her that time" its what I always thought since the beginning
Just discovered your videos yesterday and I'm super excited to start testing all these tricks. Thanks for doing what you do to provide non-toxic advice.
Hey CoC, I love your content! I actually didn't watch this video for the longest time because of the title, (I'm a happily married man). I'm glad I came around and watched this though, each video like this helps reinforce lessons from your other videos. Your videos have been a tremendous help in my personal and professional growth.
Com'on!! If someone is good looking and attractive, he automatically behaves in a manner which has a pullimg effect, ur body language during conversation comes from confidence, if someone is attractive he will not be looking much for approvals, so wat matters mostly is ur looks. If u r gifted with outstanding looks y would u feel insecure?? and it results in build up of comfidence.
been waiting for a chris evans character study from this channel for years but this isnt what i expected. maybe something around the lines of how to get around public speaking anxiety which evans has repeatedly admitted to having and seeing how he's grown out of it would be nice!
Its more of the opposite effect, these traits are what make people successful, for actors and celebrities charisma is what gets them to success as an actor. Entrepreneurs like mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Steve Jobs don't need as much charisma because their strength lies within there respective work, though the ability of public speaking is extremely helpful for big company owners.
So what about adding some more examples with women to your videos? I'd recommend looking at the cast of Ocean's 8 - those ladies are so fun to watch, their chemistry with each other is pulpable and each one of them has great sense of humour.
Wish I had these video guides in the 2000's so I wasn't this socially awkward kid that got picked on. Learning to laugh at myself along with others taught me to accept my flaws and has changed me to the extrovert adult I am today.
Ever think that trying to come to conclusions on how to act based on the behavior of an ACTOR who has reasons to behave in a way that garners popularity might not seem like the best idea, that it might not carry over 1:1 to regular people? Being on shows where they're paid to be there won't have them being their genuine selves. Just my 0.02, still fun to watch these clips.
Yeah, it is a play for the audience as much as a play between them. Still worth considering implementing some of the behaviour patterns and have some fun :)
People shouldn't worry about how they're perceived when they interact with someone they're attracted to. When you put on a mask to increase you ability to be perceived as attractive, you'll only gain the attention of those who are attracted to the act you create, not the true, inner you. It's campy and it's corny, but never underestimate the power of just being yourself. Being sexy means that you believe in yourself. Best of luck to you all as you discover this. Just remember; if you can't love yourself, how can you expect to love anyone else?
Make a video on Draco Malfoy (Harry Potter-movie version). He is a really interesting character but what makes such a huge number of people like him ???!!!!
Love the breakdown. I know that it’s been proposed in a video before that Tony Stark and Robert Downey Jr. are "cooler" than Steve Rogers and Chris Evans respectively because of the former’s sarcastic personalities, but I feel like Rogers and Evans don’t need sarcasm to be charismatic because they’re kind and kindness *is* cool.
Real way to get women to obsess over you, be obscenely good looking, have a great personality, have insane career. Chances improve if you're married, get that "can't have him" vibe going too.
Need more videos for females, unless I'm missing them?.. I know a lot of these work for women too, but just seems tailored more towards men. Still pretty good content but ya.
I just think that since both of the guys who run this are straight men, their experience is going to naturally be tailored toward straight men. I think there are probably plenty of channels directed towards women specifically who are made by women on TH-cam that might be up your alley. It’s kind of like going on a vegan cooking channel and saying “these are great, but I’d love a good meatloaf recipe”. You’re probably not gonna get that out of a vegan channel, and you probably won’t get worthwhile female advice from a channel by men that is more or less for men. As you said, there are some famous women they use as examples in some of these, however.
I would really appreciate more details on implementing the push-pull method. It sounds like something I do to a small extent naturally. But I think I could improve in both finding appropriate opportunities to tease and delivering complements in non-cheesy ways.
These videos are great at analyzing the actual behaviors that constitute charisma but IMO there’s no way to just do these things by memorizing these methods. You have to have the personal foundation that will allow for you to behave this way naturally-mainly being very, very secure in yourself-which means being very honest with yourself about your faults and loving yourself while fully acknowledging your shortcomings. Also, a deep belief that no matter what happens in your life or what people think of you, everything will be OK. The general lack of concern for what people think of you will follow, which will free you to be yourself. Being unburdened by insecurity and a genuine feeling of everything will always be fine, you’ll likely just naturally have good humor and be funny. It doesn’t hurt to also be doing what you love for a living. Developing these characteristics is the real work that has to happen. And as others have mentioned, it’s hard won for folks who aren’t wealthy, handsome, and who don’t have the outward approval of millions of people. I still think it can be done. It’s just a heck of a lot more work for the average Joe to do these things than for celebrities.
Hey I hope you see this comment, I think you should study Daniel Cormier. He’s one of the most charming people in mma and everyone seems to be his friend. I’d love to see a video on him !
Does anyone else just learn one at a time until it becomes second nature? I find it hard to remember all of them so I was wondering if anyone does this like with the plenty of times we have been told to do friendly physical contact like a hand shake etc?
When I first found tgis channel, I was like "Perfect! I finally found a way to learn how to talk" but then I realized something: I still don't know how to fix a butchered first impression, or how to talk to someone when I know they know that I know their name. Could you please fix that, Charlie ?
To no one. I actually act just like Chris Evans. The small platonic touch. The big intake of space when laughing. For years I thought I was weird because my classmates were odd about it. But coming to my attention. They weren't right for me. And so I need myself the people that are fine by me. Not right. *Fine* by me.
You and I both love Game of Thrones, and I just thought it'd be cool if you analyzed Varys since he's very similar to Littlefinger. Love your channel by the way.
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I prefer this kind of charisma to the 'cool guy', it makes people around you feel better about themselves and it's just a more positive vibe.
Yeah definitely play your personality strengths if you are a warm person he warm. If you are chill be chill :)
@@IsaacJoshi Totally agree. I think too many people try to force the wrong style for them
Save the Uygur people. Byctt China! who is kllng them. Byctt France who banned religious freedom.
@@disciplinado2190 I'm happy to donate some vowels if you're running short.
@@Sifar_Secure I'm happy to share some knowledge if you'll benefit.
I was smiling the whole time while watching this. Chris Evans' smile is contagious for sure.
Jeez. He's a 10. Of course he's perfect. Therefore not a good role model for the 90%
Oops noticed after reading this
I think Gordon Ramsey could be a very interesting person to be analysed on this channel.
No you donut
Also that missing lamb sauce
@@kalpeshrawat418 He found the lamb sauce
His Charisma is like Gandhi’s Flip Flops
For being a bad person?
As someone that used to be obese and recently got into the best shape of my life. Being comfortable in your own body is HUGE. It's a heck of a lot easier to "own the space around you" when you're not self-conscious about how you look or if your love handles are hanging out in a weird way.. Being in great shape boosts your confidence automatically. Once you do that, a lot of the tips being discussed here simply come naturally. That's my personal experience anyway.
100% truth
Legendary man 💪
When you go from fat to fit and you see women looking at you that never would have before it's incredibly motivating and inspires a lot of confidence. That confidence just amplifies your attractiveness.
Agreed. Was also overweight. Haven't gotten to my goal yet but I see the difference.
what if you're short?
Video suggestion: how to never run out of social battery
PLEASE. I can't tell you how much this is needed as an introvert
People are exhausting. We could use this.
I imagine you just have to not overextend yourself in social situations.
Impossible.
I'm extroverted, but because I'm the very high energy animated kind of extrovert, people exhaust me after a while, so this would help a lot.
1) Speak through a smile.
smile through your eyes and be charming. laugh at your own words. do not smile 24/7
like, starting a story, start serious and it gets to the funnier part, you can start smiling and then start laughing. keep the smile genuine. try to guide the conversation to things that actually make you laugh.
2) own the space around you.
use your hands when you speak, use gestures. and even when you're not speaking, you can take up space when you laugh. put yoir head back, pur your hand on their shoulder or knee. this way you can slowly make people more comfortable to your touch and so if you're interested in them, you will easily be able to kiss them. also, another way to know if they're really interested or not. take up the space around you. ALSO, do not laugh at everything the other person says, it's cringy
3. Bounce between
a) teasing lightly
b) complimenting kindly
bounce back and forth between this. this is called as the push-pull technique. this makes you less predictable and makes gou moe interesting. they wanna know what you'll say. more likely to work on people who are used to JUST good compliments. they're more likely to be attracted to this. don't just tease and be a jerk or give compliments and be out in the friendzone.
4. don't hide your flaws.
own the mistakes that you did. if they jab at you, take it and laugh at it. if you're scared, admit it. Admit being scared, embarrassed. be willing to laugh at your own mistakes and be willing to own them. this shows you're not afraid to be judged. the thing that would bother other people, you're comfortable with it.
where is 5th i cant find in this fckng video
@@antalyalyaync1423 is be yourself (:
The 5th is to sign-up and pay for the course they’re offering.
Goat
Tbh, You deserve more likes..........
1) Speak through a smile;
2) Own the space around you;
3) Use the push-pull method; and
4) Be willing to laugh at yourself.
you copied the list from the description
@@FireJach they summarized the video so people don’t have to sit thru lmao
Thank you
Ty dude these talks ramble with no decent summation
And star in an all-time, record breaking, blockbuster movie.
*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”*
*―C. S. Lewis*
My favorite author :) :) :)
I liked this and wanted to share it, when I looked it up apparently there is no record of Mr. Lewis ever saying it, but there is a very similar quote from author James Sherman:
"You can’t go back and make a new start, but you can start right now and make a brand new ending.”
Not actually his quote. Misattributed.
I thought that was Annie Wilkes...🤔
@@TheCpj1976 Yeah the first guy who said it lived 6000bc in Mesopotamia.
Him: the first tip is to smile
Me in the middle of a pandemic: 😷😷😷 am I charming enough yet?
Smile through your eyes. And oyeah listen with you ears
Indian?
@@fzfzfzfz499 yeah
As someone who works in retail, its trivially easy to smile through the mask.
@@sanasafeena2416 yeah feels terrible
Please Do a video of “how to talk to someone that we haven’t spoken or seen since the pandemic started?” I love your videos, great job
What a great idea!!!
Give them an F-ing hug. 😁
That's so specific lol
dude, i need it
Be better than you were before, physically, mentally, socially. It will be SUPER noticible!
Simple: just be a movie star. Works every time.
At the end of the day this the rule number one 😂
I have a big... BIG... BIIIIGGGGG... muscles!!! HAHAHA!!! What did you think I was going for? That's so DIRTY of you! GAGAGAGA!!! I am the funniest TH-camr ever! Maybe that's the reason why I have TWO (!!!) HOT (!) GIRLFRIENDS. Thanks for being alive, dear val
@@AxxLAfriku big appetite, ego, head, nose
Charisma on Command - ''The way to fake a genuine smile is to ....''
Well I mean there is Brie Larson... 😳
You can be confident and do almost anything and people won't question it
This is true.
This is so true lol
Seems like a warning is appropriate: be VERY careful when touching other people in public, especially people you don't know. The two Chrises can do it because they're obviously friends and enjoy being around each other. But for those of us who aren't gorgeous Hollywood stars, it can be very easy to invade someone's physical space in an unpleasant way without meaning to. Read the room, always.
Another thing to do is laugh at the jokes they really care about. It makes them feel like you understand them, and often promotes a feeling of empathy
You need to come back and edit your comment please
@@prepperjonpnw6482 Haha, good catch, thank you
Don't forget to be physically gorgeous while you apply these techniques.
Oh I almost frogot ( Changes face shape)
@@connorbetancourt5605 perfection.
@@forgetfulstranger thank you😂😂😂
Ofc
Wow genius who would have thought that
i love the video, can you make a video how to react in negative situations because most of these actors you cover are usually in a nice group of people and the energy is always lifted. how about a situation where you really feel uncomfortable? love your channel
He has
@@alw2839 is their a link? Whats the title?
@@connorbetancourt5605 Go to his profile and scroll through them. Apologies I don't have any links.
@@alw2839 oh your fine
Check out his How To Command Respect During Conflict
The important thing is self-awareness. With it you can realize what's funny in the current situation you are. You can start to see yourself as someone else and therefore distantiate your feelings from your thinking.
That obviously requires some energy / attention span in each of your conversations.
One thing this channel taught me about charisma is that there is no one size fits all and you should not try to be someone you are not.
For my personality, I have found something akin to Chris Evan's charm to be most natural to incorporating into my own social interactions.
Yeah 👍
Chris is naturally a cool, charming guy.
Yes, Chris
I hate myself because I’m nervous in every conversation and in the middle of a sentence I forget what I’m talking about.
You got this, Zoey!
Keep putting yourself out there and tell yourself the truth, which is you don’t have to be anyone but yourself. Have fun
Have you considered that you may have adhd? I do and one of the symptoms is that I forget what I'm talking about while I'm talking about it. This doesn't mean you can't go into the conversation with confidence though. Remind yourself that no matter how the convo goes, you'll be ok. Because you will. Then remember that if you mess up or forget you can laugh it off knowing you're human, we all make mistakes, and you will be ok. You've got this! 👍
@@OMGSHEENA Thanks for the comment! :) yeah, I thought of that. I know that I have social phobia but I don't know if it's the cause or consequence of something else, maybe adhd. I'm still looking for the courage to go to therapy. Because of the communication problems I'm very afraid of it.
Don't worry hun! I have this problem too and it gets embarrassing at times but you have to just let it go and understand that you're only human 👍🏻😁
@@zoeydeutch6768 @Zoey Deutch Don't be afraid of therapy. A good therapist that is the right fit for you will listen to you and offer tools to cope with and/or overcome the obstacles that your brain is creating. Try online therapy if it's easier a lot of health insurance companies are starting to cover online therapy now. Your brain, like mine, may work differently from some, but that doesn't make it broken or bad. As simple as it sounds breathing is the best tool I've found for almost every issue I have and I have so many issues I offer subscriptions. But seriously, feeling anxious? Take a deep breath and let it out slowly counting backwards from ten. (Also if you have someone you trust near by, hold their hand. Skin to skin contact releases dopamine and other "feel good" hormones) Feeling angry? Take a deep breath, close your eyes, remember something that makes you feel calm (think of something ahead of time to be your go to so that you'll remember it when upset), smile and let the breath out slowly. Got the hiccups? Take a quick deep breath that expands your chest pulling shoulders back and hold it for 5 seconds and release slowly (gasping when scared or holding breath expands diaphragm which is what really helps hiccups), Can't stop crying, having IBS issues or experiencing pain? You guessed it .. slow deep breaths in, slow puckered breaths out (like you're blowing out candles slowly) Rapid short breaths when in pain or otherwise can cause hyperventilation so slow breathing can be vital. I had a boss that used to ask every new trainee what the number one rule in a knife fight is. Most would say bring a gun or don't forget the knife etc but the answer is to "remain calm" and I've found this to be true of almost any situation. The best way to remain calm, or atleast appear calm is to take slow deep breaths, in my experience. Even if someone is verbally attacking you, arguing etc just tune them out, hum if you have to (it helps tune out inner or outer noise, and take deep slow breaths until you're ready to continue. Obviously if you're in physical danger remove yourself from the situation if you can, breathing can't stop a knife or a fist or bullets but it can help you to think clearly and calm your body and mind. Also you'd be surprised how much standing with good posture, chin up, shoulders back etc., will influence your ability to feel confident. Good luck!
This channel is basically game without the toxic parts of red pill. Love the work you do!
I think toxic parts just come from the people who have problems in past
Plus, it always helps to be unbelievably fit and handsome.
I Don't know man but watching Chris Evans laugh everytime I couldn't be able to stop my laugh either.
I would love to see how these techniques work for an average looking non celebrity.
Push pull is hard to pull off if you're socially awkward and especially with the opposite gender. I've seen so many clips of guys on dating shows who think it's cool to talk down to their date or constantly tease her, but then say the odd nice thing. I think if you are doing it, the ratio has to be 80/90% nice and 10-20% tease. Because humans trend to overestimate the mean comments so much more
Push-pull requires you to do it with a friend of yours who is good at it, when in front of a girl. Takes two to tango. If he certainly isn't (he doesn't have to be great) -- it won't get you anywhere, and if you continue to keep trying, you'll look annoying to him as it'll make him more closed in.
Trying to do that with a girl is only going to work if she's very sociable herself + banters well with you. It's something to employ with a girl After you get things rolling with her in some banter, to test out -- and to really roll with if it clicks with her.
None of this works unless you are naturally charismatic to begin with. These people are movie stars because they had charisma to begin with. They did not learn it afterwards.
@@Frankie5Angels150 that's not true. Look at his video of the rock. Charisma is absolutely a skill you can develop, it's just that most people don't put the effort into learning and practicing
Its easy to be charming when you're comfortable with the people around you, and you're already respected like Chris here. If you can be like Chris in a room with strangers and you're not a celebrity, then that's impressive.
I am a simple straight Woman, i see Chris Evans - i click
Confident people love sharing a smile. It makes other people feel comfortable.
When I taught piano one thing I really loved about my Chinese students is how they would laugh at themselves when they messed something up (in one of their piano pieces) during the lesson. It was so charming and made things fun.
My notes on this video...
Step 1: Look like a Hollywood stud
Step 2:
Mission completed
Have a giant member, too. I’m sure that helps in the confidence department
Step 3: Profit
@@cltnthecultist No I'm afraid it doesn't.
Step 2: be incredibly rich.
So many parts of communication can be very different for women than for men. Could you do more female focused breakdowns?
Competence and confidence, along with good looks and charisma. Good luck
the more you get rejected.. the less you care about it ....the less fear you have for it.... the better you perform
I see you on every video bro 😂
I don't necessarily agree with that. You want to be successful, if you get rejected or fail that means you main a mental mistake or error, which is going against a competitive work environment that shuns errors. You want to feel confident and have a long history of successful experiences to draw from. If you keep getting rejected, you get numb and slowly turn into a loser.
Yes finally, I've been wanting a video on him! I'm personally inspired by the loving character he portrays as Captain America.
Video suggestion: do a breakdown of the character "Jimmy McGill" from the show Better Call Saul.
Reason why everyone should have a profitable investment.people need money
You're right Investment is the key to surviving during times like this when the government decided to mess with people.
Yeah what type of Investment y'all are into .the stock market has been crashing lately.
Bitcoin investment is the best when you're on a profit based platform especially with the current rise.
Investing in cryptocurrency and gold which is better?
I must say I haven't seen a relatable investment, my wife pushed me to start looking into stock and crypto some time before the pandemic because we were looking for other sources of
0:00 - Intro.
0:30 - #1: Speak through a smile.
2:21 - #2: Own the space around you.
5:25 - #3: Use the push-pull method.
7:30 - #4: Be willing to laugh at yourself.
FINALLY a Chris evans Breakdown
No one can replicate the perfection of that man 😰
Quick question: throwing my head back and laughing like that is something I really WANT to do, but I feel like as a girl it gives off a different impression than when a guy does it. Is that just a false perception on my part or is there something else I should do instead?
Just because it gives a different impression, doesn't mean it gives a bad impression. Some people will like it and other's won't, so it's a great way to differentiate between people you should spend your time around. But like they always say, do callibrate it to the people and the situation. A general rule is to just keep your energy at 1 level above everyone else (in group settings.)
@@peckishcloud My problem is that leaning back and laughing is just so unnatural to me. I’m worried it’s going to come across as fake or excessive. I am a man btw.
@@D00Rb3LL That kind of excessive laughter isn't a necessary thing, but just like any skill you have to develop it. Most situations don't call for it, so I would focus more on laughing deep in the belly, making it feel more natural, and training your mind to focus on the funny to make laughter more common. These things take time, but making it habitual is what will make it feel natural.
Some charming girls I’ve met move their head sideways and use hand/arm expressions when laughing. It’s more subtle but it might be easier for you to adapt yourself and personalize it if you feel like leaning is too much.
Late to this question but my girlfriend has a really drastic laugh when i tell a good one. Head back and a very loud HA that quiets down into more normal hahahas, but I always just go "yeah! I really got her that time" its what I always thought since the beginning
I love this channel 🤟🏽 it’s helped so much with my social anxiety
Just discovered your videos yesterday and I'm super excited to start testing all these tricks. Thanks for doing what you do to provide non-toxic advice.
This is amazing! I remember when CoC was not even 1 million. Now you're close to 5 million subscribers!
I'm a simple man. I see Chris Evans I click.
Hey CoC, I love your content! I actually didn't watch this video for the longest time because of the title, (I'm a happily married man). I'm glad I came around and watched this though, each video like this helps reinforce lessons from your other videos. Your videos have been a tremendous help in my personal and professional growth.
Com'on!! If someone is good looking and attractive, he automatically behaves in a manner which has a pullimg effect, ur body language during conversation comes from confidence, if someone is attractive he will not be looking much for approvals, so wat matters mostly is ur looks. If u r gifted with outstanding looks y would u feel insecure?? and it results in build up of comfidence.
MAKE A VIDEO ON PATRICE O NEAL ASAP. This cannot be a charisma channel without analyzing THE GOAT OF CHARM PATRICE.
I think he's too controversial for a big channel like this to risk it haha but I hope they do
Be who you are.
thank you very much! i watched this video and now im just as charming as this ultrahandsome popular celebrity!! WOW works like magic!!
I think this channel is doing great things for people with social phobia and people on the autism spectrum.
been waiting for a chris evans character study from this channel for years but this isnt what i expected. maybe something around the lines of how to get around public speaking anxiety which evans has repeatedly admitted to having and seeing how he's grown out of it would be nice!
Please do a video on how to be charming in online interactions (if you haven’t already). Love your videos!
I've been waiting for a Chris Evans video from this channel for years. I have never clicked so fast!
The funny thing is when you have a whole bunch of money, these things just come naturally
How come
Mark Zuckerberg looking like a lizard: 🤐
Cap
Its more of the opposite effect, these traits are what make people successful, for actors and celebrities charisma is what gets them to success as an actor.
Entrepreneurs like mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Steve Jobs don't need as much charisma because their strength lies within there respective work, though the ability of public speaking is extremely helpful for big company owners.
nah
I'd love to hear more about push-pull method because it didn't understand it entirely.
This channel is the most legit channel of this kind.
This gave me a few things to think about.
So what about adding some more examples with women to your videos? I'd recommend looking at the cast of Ocean's 8 - those ladies are so fun to watch, their chemistry with each other is pulpable and each one of them has great sense of humour.
there is nothing like this anywhere. I never paid for any of their stuff but free stuff alone helped me a lot!!!
It's been a long time Charisma, where have you guys been?
A mentor is what sounds amazing
Wish I had these video guides in the 2000's so I wasn't this socially awkward kid that got picked on. Learning to laugh at myself along with others taught me to accept my flaws and has changed me to the extrovert adult I am today.
Gotta love Chris, such a likeable guy!
i miss craig ferguson. his late night show was one of my favorites.
He’s just perfect 😩❤️❤️❤️
Okay there's no way I can remember all the things you've discussed all over I do appreciate it.
Oh yeah I hate when people start teasing me about less enjoyed MOVIES I starred in 😂
Ever think that trying to come to conclusions on how to act based on the behavior of an ACTOR who has reasons to behave in a way that garners popularity might not seem like the best idea, that it might not carry over 1:1 to regular people? Being on shows where they're paid to be there won't have them being their genuine selves. Just my 0.02, still fun to watch these clips.
Yeah, it is a play for the audience as much as a play between them. Still worth considering implementing some of the behaviour patterns and have some fun :)
Im just here to watch Chris Evans being chsrming 🥰
People shouldn't worry about how they're perceived when they interact with someone they're attracted to.
When you put on a mask to increase you ability to be perceived as attractive, you'll only gain the attention of those who are attracted to the act you create, not the true, inner you.
It's campy and it's corny, but never underestimate the power of just being yourself. Being sexy means that you believe in yourself.
Best of luck to you all as you discover this. Just remember; if you can't love yourself, how can you expect to love anyone else?
Make a video on Draco Malfoy (Harry Potter-movie version). He is a really interesting character but what makes such a huge number of people like him ???!!!!
Me watching this during covid:
😷 = 😁
Owning the space around me = "HEY, SOCIAL DISTANCE! WATCH IT!"
NEAL CAFFERY
FROM THE SHOW "WHITE COLLAR"
CHARISMA BREAKDOWN
Please And Thank You
Yes we need this
4:40 i might try this one 😂💯🔥
I like the touch of the success stories towards the end. Very interesting and empowering resource. Thank you for this video. Very encouraging.
Love the breakdown. I know that it’s been proposed in a video before that Tony Stark and Robert Downey Jr. are "cooler" than Steve Rogers and Chris Evans respectively because of the former’s sarcastic personalities, but I feel like Rogers and Evans don’t need sarcasm to be charismatic because they’re kind and kindness *is* cool.
Being Captain America is such a cheat code.
Real way to get women to obsess over you, be obscenely good looking, have a great personality, have insane career.
Chances improve if you're married, get that "can't have him" vibe going too.
Need more videos for females, unless I'm missing them?.. I know a lot of these work for women too, but just seems tailored more towards men. Still pretty good content but ya.
I just think that since both of the guys who run this are straight men, their experience is going to naturally be tailored toward straight men. I think there are probably plenty of channels directed towards women specifically who are made by women on TH-cam that might be up your alley. It’s kind of like going on a vegan cooking channel and saying “these are great, but I’d love a good meatloaf recipe”. You’re probably not gonna get that out of a vegan channel, and you probably won’t get worthwhile female advice from a channel by men that is more or less for men. As you said, there are some famous women they use as examples in some of these, however.
so basically just be yourself thats the ultimate method
as a drummer I can confirm, the push pull technique is really effective.
Wow I notice that I do most of this right but sometimes I do put my self in the box when I get in my head.
There is a reason why i love Chris Evans so much
Be yourself. This is #1. But also like who you are. If that means tweaking a few things be open to that
Pre preamble:
Eyes glint 👀
- Push/pull
Strength introducing: pull
- speak through smile and eyes
Appreciate you fame 👊✊ 😊
- it happens(name and claim)
I would really appreciate more details on implementing the push-pull method. It sounds like something I do to a small extent naturally. But I think I could improve in both finding appropriate opportunities to tease and delivering complements in non-cheesy ways.
Confidence is key!
These videos are great at analyzing the actual behaviors that constitute charisma but IMO there’s no way to just do these things by memorizing these methods. You have to have the personal foundation that will allow for you to behave this way naturally-mainly being very, very secure in yourself-which means being very honest with yourself about your faults and loving yourself while fully acknowledging your shortcomings. Also, a deep belief that no matter what happens in your life or what people think of you, everything will be OK. The general lack of concern for what people think of you will follow, which will free you to be yourself. Being unburdened by insecurity and a genuine feeling of everything will always be fine, you’ll likely just naturally have good humor and be funny. It doesn’t hurt to also be doing what you love for a living. Developing these characteristics is the real work that has to happen. And as others have mentioned, it’s hard won for folks who aren’t wealthy, handsome, and who don’t have the outward approval of millions of people. I still think it can be done. It’s just a heck of a lot more work for the average Joe to do these things than for celebrities.
How to be charming. Build confidence because youre rich and good looking.
These videos really helping us dudes who grew up without dads
I'm from Brazil I don't know what I'm doing in this kkkk video

Can you do a charisma video on someone who isn’t handsome or extremely rich and powerful.
Hey I hope you see this comment, I think you should study Daniel Cormier. He’s one of the most charming people in mma and everyone seems to be his friend. I’d love to see a video on him !
I would reeeally dig a video on Anya Taylor-Joy (Queen's Gambit) charisma
I saw a comment that suggested how to never run out social battery and I totally support that idea
I just watched one of your videos from 5 years ago!!!
Dude your voice has change! 🤣
Does anyone else just learn one at a time until it becomes second nature? I find it hard to remember all of them so I was wondering if anyone does this like with the plenty of times we have been told to do friendly physical contact like a hand shake etc?
When I first found tgis channel, I was like "Perfect! I finally found a way to learn how to talk" but then I realized something: I still don't know how to fix a butchered first impression, or how to talk to someone when I know they know that I know their name. Could you please fix that, Charlie ?
To no one.
I actually act just like Chris Evans. The small platonic touch. The big intake of space when laughing. For years I thought I was weird because my classmates were odd about it. But coming to my attention. They weren't right for me. And so I need myself the people that are fine by me. Not right. *Fine* by me.
You and I both love Game of Thrones, and I just thought it'd be cool if you analyzed Varys since he's very similar to Littlefinger. Love your channel by the way.