Girl Chat: Should You Take Your Husband’s Last Name?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ส.ค. 2024
- Adrienne Houghton, Jeannie Mai, Loni Love, and Tamera Mowry-Housley share their feelings on women taking their husband’s name (and Adrienne reveals her decision!). They also discuss a sticky situation a teacher found herself in, and one couple’s sexy plan to fix their relationship.
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I find this weird about western culture.I am married and I agree with Jeannie. In my culture your last name represents your history and your roots. It doesn't make you any less of a couple or family to not take your husbands name
I can relate. Family names aren't typical in my culture. I've always had a different last name to the people in my family, including my mum, and I've literally never felt any less connected to them as a result.
Since I'm now living in a different country/culture, there's a big change that I'll marry someone from a different culture. I plan on keeping my last name to retain my roots
Right? To get so mad at women not changing their last name is so weird. The whole concept is weird and foreign to me.
Jeannie Harteis..... Yeah, no. I completely understand why Jeannie wanted to keep her family name.
In the Hmong Culture, it's considered taboo and unacceptable to date or marry someone with the same last name, so we NEVER change our last names to match our husband's ever. Only our children will keep the same last name as the father.
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A lot of women in other countries do not take their husband’s name. It depends on the culture you’re used to and personal preference.
@Salina Estifanos interesting because that's what Muslims do. The fathers first name becomes the sons last name and sometimes the grandfather's first name is the second last name. Also Muslim women do not change their last name after marriage
I'm icelandic and last names come directly from the fathers first name and you add dottir (daughter) or son . And when your married you never change your name everyone keeps their birth name. In situations where you dont know the father or they're not involved you can use the moms first name or make it (translated) warriors (daughter or son). I personally will never get ride of my icelandic name and will add my husbands name if there not icelandic.
Sorry for all typos I'm super dyslexic
@@MANAL83 Yes, Women don't change their names in Middle eastern and Muslim countries, BUT actually .. Muslims do have last names (It's the family name) and your father's name becomes kind of like your middle name followed by your grandfathers .. so for example,
My name is: Dema Thafer Ahmad Howarie
Dema is my name
Thafer is my father
Ahmad is my grandfather on my dad'd side
and Howarie is my family's name (last name)
@@soffia323 that's so cool! The last name literally tells whose kid u are lol
Loni is single because of everything 😂
Choco Reacts She used to be married
😂😂😂😂 okayyy. Lol
She's single cause she dont wanna hyphenate her name 😂
@@NellieKAdaba yeah it was a mistake. She can't marry for many reasons but I'm wondering if the right guy came along and proposed to her would she say no
@@hippopotomonstrosesquipped8362 👍 maybe she'd say yes.
My mom and I don’t have the same last name and she never had a problem at the doctor office or picking me up from school.
Yeah, I thought that was ridiculous. Not every family is the same so different last names is quite common. Just say you want to change your name and go.
I was thinking the same in the age of divorce and teen moms I don't see a last name being questioned 🤨
Same
Exactly and I am in my 30s and my mom had no issues back then either..this whole topic is so dumb
In my culture women keep thier last name and no problem in every where
Asking to keep your name should not be a major sacrifice in a marriage.
And the last name that you're keeping belongs to a man, your father's correct?
@@dustyhickory8584 it doesn’t matter whose last name they were born with. They were born with that name and have had that name for their life before meeting this partner. Everyone has their own opinion but changing your last name, which is a lot of work, should not be a sacrifice for a relationship.
@@rachelg6289 And the last name that you're keeping belongs to a man, your father's correct?
@@dustyhickory8584 yes, but nobody can do anything about that. changing your name to your husbands last name just seems slightly sexist, cause it is in fact rooted in sexism. you don’t lose your identity and individuality after you get married, so why change your last name? and if it really didn’t matter or wasn’t a big deal, why don’t more men change their last names to their wives?
@@dustyhickory8584 every person has a choice whether or not to change their last name. It should not be forced upon anyone or expected of anyone to change their name once they marry.
Bailon is easy to pronounce. Now Mowry? I been saying that wrong my whole life lmaooo
vash I thought it was pronounced bay-Lawn when I was a kid 💀
That’s because for the commercials for Sister Sister it was always pronounced like mow-ree
Right? I thought it was MOW-ree, not like Maury!
Disney used to call them MOW-ree so that's what I used to think
I feel so uncomfortable everytime they don't let Jeannie speak. Stop interrupting
s Suban // she interrupts the other girls too!😂😂😂
s Suban well sometimes she says off the wall stuff
@@britbritnicole9211 I know she does and she is annoying but damn can she say something without getting interrupted
Forreal though! Its so damn annoying.
@@annabellepeterson7810 nah boo, that's loni and tam. But everyone loves to hate on the opinionated Asian woman. Loni and tam are far worse and rude about it as well. But most of their black viewers are hypocrites and think the sun shines out of their asses and so its excused and jeannie is blamed and hated on instead.
I DIDN'T TAKE MY HUSBAND'S NAME & THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. IF IT'S ABOUT BECOMING ONE, THEN WHY CAN'T THE MAN TAKE THE WOMAN'S NAME? I THINK IT SHOULD BE A CHOICE.
Its actually possible
It’s is a choice actually
Thats gross
@T. A it is gross. The point of getting married is to become 1 union
PREACH! I’m not going to take my husbands name if he wants he can take mine. If not my kids will have hyphenated last names and there is nothing wrong with that either
“tHatS whAt thE biBLe sAyS” let me stop u right there
Daniella 12 if u don’t like my comment then u can keep scrolling. Take your own advice. No need to make it a bigger deal than it is. I believe in god and my family is pretty religious, but basing your STRONG opinion solely on the Bible makes an unstable argument. Women were considered property, that’s where the whole last name thing came to be. So I’d say, maybe, just maybe, don’t just say “bEcAusE thAts wHAt tHe biBLe sAyS”. It’s ignorant.
The bible does not say take your husband's name or that two become the husband. 2 become one.
The Bible says that two become one when married. I’m Catholic, but I do not go to church every Sunday, so please correct me if I’m wrong! :)
Jess I I’m not talking about the Bible. I’m talking about real life history. Research the history behind women taking their husbands last name (and their children). It’s clear that they were considered their property. That’s the reason for it. Legally. Not biblically.
@@jess6368 I know. I was responding to your quote from the show. "That's what the bible says".
And that's why in Mexico children take both last names from parents
I love how they do that
Sweetzs100 OOOKAY “sweetz100” cause your name is so pretty 🙄 FOH
In the Philippines it's the same. Once you have children, the mother's last name becomes the child's middle name and the father's will be their last name.
Sweetzs100 straight up racism in 2019! Beautiful! I happen to love our "long ass ugly names"...nobody has to change their name if they don't want to.
Real question what happens when you get married? Are you supposed to just add his last name to both of yours or are you supposed to drop one ?
Any Mexicans here? Usually the children take both their parents last names, I have two last names and they’re not hyphenated. Maybe it’s because it’s common in my community/city so it’s never been a problem for any of us.🤷🏽♀️
When I’m married I’d want my husband to take my name and vice versa, I’m not erasing mine.
Parents are from Oaxaca!
My mom didn't take my dad's name. & i have my two last names, not hyphenated. If i marry, I would not take his name.
But if that happens than you should have a really long name since your children are gonna have 4 last names and so on so thats a bit confused
yara soloh A lot of latinos have long names and it’s no problem (that’s the reason a lot of us have long last names 😂)It’s up to the parent to decide if they’ll pass on both last names ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@Yara-fx1yi No, usually the children will have only two last names. They will take the parents' first last name. The second last name, mother's last name, is dropped.
Ie. First name, father's first last name, mother's first last name.
@@Denise-te6sx thats confusing😂😂
But the good thing about having one last name is that you can know who was my grandfather thousands of years ago so its not soooo bad
In Spain women do not take their husband’s name. Kids get the father’s as a first surname and mother’s as second surname. Both surnames are official.
Considering where I come from, taking your husband’s surname seems sexist to me.
Elena Domínguez 👍
its not about sexism its just tradition
@@alisalg A lot of traditions are inherently sexist towards women. So..🤷🏿♀️
Oh please different strokes for different folks.
right , if other countries did that they'de consider them third world countries or don't have women rights...etc .
Idc what the Bible says because everyone isn’t Christian. The whole historical reasoning behind women changing their names is because women went from being their fathers property to their husbands property. I’m not changing my name, unless I like my husbands name more.
EssenceofJa Tarot thank you
Jammi Jam CORRECT
😹 love this!
Yep
Y e s
Hahaha fast-forward to 2021 and we now have Jeannie Mai-Jenkins🤣
Those children that stole the phone should have been prosecuted.
Prosecuted 😂😂😂😂😂 really people who think like you is why our justice system so fucked up. The teacher should have gotten time off no pay so she learns to lock her phone. The students should have been suspended for a week or so while still be required to do there work at home.
Thats being reasonable on both sides
1- lock your phone 🙄 like come on, you grown.
2- no one should be arrested , but the kids shouldnt have posted the picture. High school is old enough to know better than post nudes of someone.
3- The teacher shouldnt have been fired, she didn't give it to the kids, to share.
Tbh I understand that arresting them and having them do some type of community service because that woman will have to live with that for the rest of her life
@@shegotaccesstv5709 bet you would not say that if it was a male teacher and girls were the one passing nude picks of him around
Justin Wallace I SURE tf would.. that’s inappropriate whether it’s a female or a male
Those kids engaged in revenge porn. They should’ve been punished.
What’s revenge porn?
@@God.sDaughter technically they didn't do revenge porn. But I agree they should of been punished since the teacher got fired.
Revenge porn is when a guy or woman sends sexy/naked pictures to their partner and when they break up the relationship he/she make the nudes public.
As a revenge for the relationship being over.
Are you married yet?
JEANNIE BEING CUT OFF EVER TIME IN THE LAST 5 MINS
VSG I know Wow! She Better Jump in & get Louder. She did once tho.
Too dramatic that’s why
She talks too fucking much
Lonnie is kind of contradicting herself. You are getting married and you're becoming one. You are married you are combine yourself. Why not hyphenate your name? I'll do mine first then yours and you do the same. Becuse in my opinion when a woman takes only the last name it feels like ownership to me. My wife is not property I can just put my brand on. Same for the kids
That seems nice but what about when the kid has kids, their grandchildren are gonna have 4 last names, then their kids will have 8! It just doesn't seem practical.
@@glencoco5159 well, there is plenty of countries where we get one last name from our mother and one from our father. So my kids are gonna have on from me and one from my husband. I'm still not happy with that as I would normally have to give only my last name (my dad's) to my kid. So maybe my kid will have one of those long king kind of name x)
Why do a female have to have a man last name ,if it's not from the father then it's has to be from another man..why can't we get our own last name ,not from the one that the slave master give?
Glen Coco that’s not how it works when his kids got kids he can choose to follow American way or the son’s kids will take first the father last-name - and then his mother last name
Why is it automatically property? And if you think the same for your kids, are you gonna have them make up their own last names or something? Since giving them your last names is apparently branding them and claiming ownership?
I feel like this just depends on people's preferences, and some people negatively read into this way more than others.
Just start squishing names together... Mowry+Housely=Mousely!
Bailon+Hotton=Baiton! LOL
Houghton
irais salazar housley
👌lol irais salazar lol👍 BAM! There U go. Settled Now. HalleluJah! Geeeze Louise!
🤣🤣
That's actually kinda cute.
I never understood why it was so important to take the husbands last name, as if it defines the quality of the marriage. I don't think any female should be pressured into taking the husbands last name but there's also nothing wrong with doing it either.
Any school staff that cannot comprehend that kids can have different surnames from their parents shouldn't be in the education field lmfao
I think they do so for security reasons.
@@TNJ-gn2gv which is fine but when you enrol kids in school you give parent names anyway, so they'd have a record of who is who
T NJ 6789 If schools don’t have a record and release a child based on last name...sue them. How many Johnson’s, Garcia’s, Millers, etc are out there. Surely many unrelated people share last names but that doesn’t mean they can just pick up any child because of a name. Parents may share a name and have no legal right to have the child, so if anyone releases a child based on a name, sue them, report them etc because they are inept.
Exactly
My name is my name. Why should I take his last name if he won’t take mine? It’s really not that complicated; it’s 2018, if someone from my kids school is confused I’ll just have to say 5 simple words: “I kept my maiden name.” Also, ya kids should probably LOOK like you. 🙄
VII // TRUUEE!! NEVER AGREED MORE WITH A COMMENT
My kids will also have my last name too so there should be no confusion with the school or the doctors
Right?!!! It’s really not that complicated
Great album
That whole crap they was talking about schools and doctors being confused really? Like it’s 2018 you know how many children born out of wedlock with just only one parents last name. Even in the 90s when I was in elementary I had my dads last name but my mom was the one who took me to the doctors or dealt with my school no one ever gave her a hard time ever or was confused and she had a different last name from me and so did about of other parents who picked up there kids. It was never a big deal.
I kept my last name. It’s part of my roots idc. Doesn’t mean I love my husband any less. It’s just a personal decision and if he loves and respects you, he will be cool with it.
I will hyphenate my last name or something.
Amen
Your name , unless named as a culture names their children with meaning, is just that a name. Has nothing to do with your roots. Your roots are your culture, heritage, genomes and ancestral lands. So if you are of African descent and your last name is Johnson well that is your slave roots, not your roots. Food for thought.
He could say the same about you taking his name. I dont like that about women. Thats like you stop haveing sex with your husband and tell him if you love me you should be ok if we never have sex again it is just on sided selfishness at that point. If he kool with you keeping it that fine but if he wants you to take his surname it does not mean he loves you less if he gets mad when you say no.
@@epicgodlux4228 johnson is not a slave name. The most common last names among black americans are welsh in origin. The welsh had very minimun participation in the transatlantic slave trade. Adopting slave names is a myth that's perpetuated
Speaking as a woman whose family’s last name ends with me I’m undecided that when I’m married if i will take my husbands last name or not. I would love to take his last name and have considered the hyphenated approach as well...but my family name is extremely important to me for personal reasons and i pray my future husband will be understanding of that.
The Thirty Journey if he’s not understanding of it he shouldn’t be your future husband
I hear you guys and of course i definitely will not be marrying a man whose pride/ego is bigger than his future wife’s reasoning for wanting to keep her last name, but im still undecided on this and won’t be getting married tomorrow lol my only thing is this is something to think about and FOR ME it’s a big decision. I’m sure the man i marry will be understanding but his opinion is one that matters because he may feel the similar about his last name as well. And then there are the children and their last names to think about also. Overall...a lot of compromises will most likely have to be made. As they should.
Same girl. I feel so strongly about my last name I would only hyphenate it for facebook 😂👍🏾
Lii Rosetta 😂😂😂
As you are the last one with yohr name and also feel strongly about it i would reccomend keeping your name because ot holds value and significance and you would want your children to be apart of that too. As you said youre not getting married now and you its your decision so do whats best for you!
I was not married when I had my first two children, so naturally to me, my kids got my last name. I think women shouldn't feel like their kids have to have the mans last name, especially if you aren't married. You brought the child into this world, you decide their name 💪♀️
Later in life I got married and changed my name and my kids names to my husbands. I completely regretted it and wanted all our names changed back, my husband was pissed off at first so I kept all the names his but as time went on he saw that my side of the family are who we are close with and his side had no involvement or interest. So we decided to change my husband, kids, and myself to my maiden name. I feel proud representing my family, my roots, and the name of the people who love us.
Yes. Thank you for addressing the elephant in the room.
1. Another old clip.
2. Loni always butthurt about things that doesn't apply to her.
3. Hyphenated names aren't the problem, ignorance is.
No shade to Loni, but she’s gotta wake up and realize that like no one follows the Bible like they used to. Certainly not as many people. The Bible doesn’t dictate people’s lives anymore.
Scorpio Bradley she could’ve been respectful. she too damn big to be running her mouth like that all the time 🙄
X x exactly, majority of the world isn’t even christian i-
Scorpio Bradley she can remain as bold and fat enough as she wants to lmao. i just said she too big to be running her mouth like that ain’t nothing wrong w being fat
Scorpio Bradley no i’m just saying nobody doing that much running of any kind can be that big that’s all
I’m DEFINITELY keeping my name. My great uncle was a famous artist, my grandfather was succesful and my dad is a great doctor who I admire because he works 24/7. I’m so proud of my family, I won’t take someone elses. I don’t think your identity has to become the same as your husband’s.
Malou Mas. Girl same here... I’m not giving up my name for no one
@divyanshu pandey so the woman should sacrifice her name and the kids because the man has a penis....yea, okay. While you're at it with your ridiculous misogynistic talk, why don't you put your paycheck in someone else's name while you continue to work the job. If you're cool doing that, then you can continue with your statement on every comment as you've been doing.
I will not change my last name because just like my mother I am my own person just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm gonna take my husband last name. For what?
s Suban it ain’t that deep
@@yenitaylor84 actually... in Christianity and Judaism, history behind it was women becoming men's property... so ya, it is that deep.
Go girl! I dont intend on changing my name either. I love it and its been the same my entire life so why should it change just because of marriage? I get why some people do it but its not for me.
im a highschooler and i totally agree
Wouldn’t it be weird if you had kids and they had a different name than you or your husband? I honestly don’t see the big deal in woman changing their last names. You still get to keep your first name lmao.
I ❤️ These Long Segments not the 30 seconds 👍🏽
toyshop same 😭
It's because they are showing old episodes in these long segments
toyshop Amen!!! I love he longer segments.
I love that they’re longer but I wish they weren’t from a year or so ago 🙄
Allison N 2 years* Ade wasnt married yet
I 100% disagree with Loni. I know this is old but anyway lmao. I think taking your husbands name is sweet, not necessary. Like Jeannie said, kids have brains i dont think its insulting to them for the mom to have a different last name or hyphenated. In other countries this isnt even a discussion, the mom keeps her last name but the kids take the fathers. I was raised in a family were us kids have our dads last name and my moms last name is hyphenated. It was never that deep or a bad thing.
Same. My mum's last name is different to ours. Never had any problem with it - although i was a little jealous of my cousins who had the same surname as my mum😄 - even at airports and doctor's/ hospital, etc, no problem.
Loni always spewing some 1920s bullshit.
@@aubreyabrams916 lmao facts
I changed my name when I was younger cause every time I went to the airport my mum had to bring files to say that she was my mum and would be questioned.... dad's surname was not necessary 😂😂
Ty Monae ♡ Same. It’s not a big deal. People just like to exagerarte this whole last name situation. I think you should do whatever you feel is right in your situation and most importantly what makes you feel COMFORTABLE. You shouldn’t feel forced to do anything you don’t want to do because society tells you it’s “the right thing to do”. That’s ridiculous.
The love you see pouring from tamera when she talks about adam and/or the kids warms my heart❤
I took my husbands last name and I was so excited before the wedding writing my future name. love it-- that teacher should not have been fired and those kids should be expelled
I think this is 100% a personal decision and how you feel. I wanted my husbands name so we are a unit and a couple. However my maiden name is SO apart of me. I added my maiden name as a 2nd middle name. Example, if I was Apple Banana Orange.. when I got married I became Apple Banana Orange Tomato and I go by Apple Tomato. When people ask me what my middle name is , I say I have two. Banana Orange. 🤣🤣 whatever you feel is right for you and your family! Be happy with you!
I love your example! Very fruity ;)
Why don't you ask him change yours? It still a unit
“That’s what the Bible says” while I usually agree with loni I don’t think it refers to last names, I’m Catholic and I live in Mexico no one here takes their husbands last name, people usually have their kids names with both parents lasts names so it’s not a problem in schools and what not.
She said the Bible talks about two becoming one. Having different last names can give the perception that there's not oneness between the couple.
My dad was a teacher, so I heard ALL the tea when it came to my teachers, honey lol. But in middle school, my gym teacher's cell phone was stolen by a student. The child looked through it of course, but it wasn't until the next day that the mom realized her child had someone's phone, so she brought it back to the school. She went off on the gym teacher because he had porn in his phone and said he should be fired because of it. It didn't make sense to me then and it still doesn't make sense to me now. My gym teacher did not get fired and to my knowledge, the child was not reprimanded for it, but I remember it being such a scandal in my 7th-grade year. I studied to become a teacher for four years only to find out I didn't want to be a teacher by the 4th year. Anyway, I say all that to say, children know what they're doing. The children should be reprimanded for the action, not the adult. And teachers have a life outside of school and what goes on in their personal life should not affect their job as long as it's not harming anyone else. This teacher should not have been fired. That wasn't fair for her to lose her job over such a personal situation.
I was sooo excited to change my last name when I got married. My dad stopped coming around when i was 2 and tried coming back into my life later on, I hated my last name because I hated him for doing that to me so i was super excited to drop his name and have a different one! Lol but i love my husbands last name and I love that our little family has the same last name, even our dogs. Lol.
Why didn't you take your mom's name if you didn't want your dad's.
@@liviaclaire honestly, I never even thought of that. Lol
Livia Claire well she didn’t name herself as a baby😂
@divyanshu pandey why would I be joking?!
@@Jan-bl2ho that is true, however, one can change the name later in life, if the laws of your country allow it.
I love that we don't do this in Mexico; instead we have two last names: one from each parent. When we marry, we say both the husband and the wife's first last name to call the new family as a whole, which in turn becomes the combined last name for that couple's children. In that way, I feel we keep our roots while also creating a new path for new families. Wives may choose to add "of husband's first last name" at the end of their name, although personally I don't do this. I believe it all comes down to culture and preference. We should do what feels right for us. :)
I'm married and I didn't change my name. Why should I? It's... MY NAME lol. It's always been my name, I've had it since I was born 😝
@Divyanshu Pandey men like you need to come out of your ego, you should change your last name and your whole family should come under one name. Or don’t call yourself her husband.
She's talked about taking her husband's last name before. She damn well knew she was taking his last name before this girl chat, she didn't need Loni to say it to decide 😒
Okay Mrs Jeannie Mai Jenkins
Love these longer TH-cam videos !
I actually like Adrienne's maiden name (Bailon) I would have hyphenated it if it were me but it's her choice, but I see nothing wrong with women keeping their last names after they get married.
Loni is so loud and always interrupting .
Eileen-May Murepe I cant stand her she shady always rolling her eyes and interrupting
Didn't take my husband last name and won't
Women like you gonna get dumped at their marriage at some point. So it's totally fine
@@ST0ICSAGE for not taking their husbands last name? Fucking dumbass
loni made sure to get in that “but they are kids!” at the end 😂 as a highscool student they knew what they were doing they just wanted to expose her and I doubt it was just a “silly” stunt to “laugh” at NO. that’s middle school behavior high school student know how bad that was and they just wanted to expose the poor lady . PERIODT .
It literally took me moving out of my country to realise how common this was. I remember when I told my parents about this and they were shocked "why do you need to change your name, why doesn't he change his?" My dad told me. In my culture we keep both our parents last names.
Same here. To keep track of genealogy as well.
This is how I see it. I have my dads last name, the only man who will ALWAYS have my back, I love my husband but my dad will always be my number one.
Love this comment!!
Amen!
I knew Jeannie’s marriage to Freddy wasn’t going to last when she didn’t want to have kids with him and she wouldn’t take his last name.
So confusing..reload,Reload🙄
THE NILOTIC EMPRESS it’s not confusing at all, they’ve been doing this pattern of uploading one old long video, you can see the lighting and set is different too
I would never change mine, it’s my name that my dad gave me.
Then don’t get married
MosesTheRedSeas I’m not
@@mosestheredsea You do know that she can still get married and keep her last name, right?
MosesTheRedSeas
Why don’t you take your wife’s name?
You seem sexist and very misogynistic.
Exactly, the one your DAD gave you!
I have never understood the "take your husbands name" thing. Like am I supposed to give it back when we are divorced as if I borrowed it?? I think a name is something very special, cause u have had it science birth why would I change it for a man? The kids can a. Have a hyphenated name or b.have either father's or mothers name and that won't cause no problems, my mom never took my father's name and has never had problem at the doctors office or anywhere no one has ever mentioned it. And the "take your husbands name" started from the fact that women was "sold" to her husband and he owned her like wtffffff no I won't support that .
Some change their name back after divorce
Olivia Simmons That’s her farther tho🤦🏾♀️ BLOOD DAD! You shouldn’t have to change your name because of a ring
Olivia Simmons nobody’s blood is flowing through me but my own😂 it’s been that forever hun.. My children is his BLOOD I am not! Next
Antoinette Gross My mom still has my dad’s last name because to her she says she “earned it” 👀 My dad got remarried with my stepmom for 8 years and currently divorced and she immediately dropped it lol I personally would take my husbands name due to tradition. It was never a doubt in my mind that I wouldn’t, but like I said that’s just me 🤷🏻♀️
@@deevee08 My mom said that she earned it too. She kept her married last name. She said that she wanted to have the same last name as me. Personally for me, I think I would change my name to his or hyphenate it
I lost my father young and did not get married until I was 30, i kept my father's name but found ways to our my husband's name too. Plus we got our junior :) who carries both their names so I'm happy with my decision. I have a career as well and it let's me establish that and keep my reputation prior to meeting my husband.
I like how friendly they are as they discuss differences. It's real girl talk between friends.
I LOVE that me, my husband, my son and future child all have the same last name!! We are a family, we are one ❤
HOWEVER, there's no big deal if people's culture gives more honor their birth name. In latinx communities, nobody changes the names and the kids take their father and mother's last name.
So why don't you ask your husband take yours?
Damn jeannie changed so much! She has a baby now and remarried with her last name hyphenated. Still love her so much
Lol Loni’s face when she said “Everyday???” 🤣
Loni gives “kids” way too much of a pass in these types of situations. Being a kid is not an excuse for going onto someone else’s phone AND proceeding to SHARE NAKED PICTURES. That’s absolutely disgusting and Loni should not be dismissing their behavior.
I took my husbands last name because I wanted to share the same name as my future children. I’m still my own person, just personal preference really.
Erica I loved my maiden name it meant so much to me because my dad raised me on his own. My brothers, my dad and I survived so much it was more than a last name.
However I loved my husband so much, by agreeing to marry him it was about starting our own little family. I want to have the same last name as my husband and kids. I haven’t lost who I was just because my last name changed. I am proud to call myself Mrs. Vanessa Flores.
Erica and why didn’t your husband take your name?
Vanessa Garcia exactly. Good for you ❤️
btc_real because I wanted his name. Duh lol.
my cousins ex wife still has his last name cause she doesnt want her kids to ask her why she has a different last name
I am not changing nor hyphenating my name. I identify with my name too much. I also have my mother's last name and I am the only child. I don't understand the point in a woman changing her name because she became a wife. I can love you with my same name.
Thank you!!
This episode ls so good
I love their relationship like they are friend goals 💕
Tamera is so eloquent. I love hearing her point of view.
I come from a culture where the wife keeps her last name AND the children get their own unique last names. Family names are the exception, not the rule for us. Personally, I'm planning to keep my last name if/when I get married but I'll let my future husband choose whether to pass on his name or give each kid their own name.
As for other women, I think they should just do whatever works for them. Traditions and cultures differ and evolve, so there is no one way to do this
What culture are you from?
Yeah I'm interested as well, what do you mean by unique names?
@@crazyanimeloveable I think Myanmar people do this, though probably there are other cultures who do it as well. They make up a new last name for each generation of the family. So the mom would have a different last name from the husband but the kids would have the same last name, so people with the same last name are siblings. I honestly think that's a really cool way to do it, wish it was more prevalent!
@@tianamiller6820 I'm from Rwanda. It's in East Africa
@@crazyanimeloveable that means that everyone in the family has a different last name. For example (I'm gonna use European names for clarification), dad = Henry Smith, mum = Sophie Jones, oldest son = Tom Morgan, daughter = Kacey Micheals & youngest son = Richard Banks. Basically, the wife does not take her husband's name when they get married. Also, the children are each given their own first and last names, and do not take their father's nor their mother's last name.
Its an interesting tradition that I haven't seen been done outside East Africa
Do whatever makes you comfortable and happy. You are your own person.
I gladly take my husbands last name 🥰👌🏼
what if you divorced ? keeping his last name or getting back to yours ?
I'd be honoured to have his name
@@maya8617
and your dad will be proud to not be in your name anymore
Candy_SR13 👍
Me too.. I take my husbands name..
I mean like? I'm not married to get a divorce. Once you married, you made a promise for a lifetime. So, before you step into marriage, it is best to go before God. Otherwise you wasting your time.
They need to put the date these videos came out. Not posting random videos and expecting us to figure out this came out years ago
Loni looks so beautiful... that hair is amazing 😍😍😍
I really miss their chemistry and REAL life friendships. It’s always beautiful to watch.
Tamera getting all shy everytime she talking about the deed in front of her MOL was freaking adorable
I wasn’t married when I had my kids, so both of my kids have MY last name. We did get married after, but my kids and I have never changed our names. I always thought that we would, but now I don’t see it as important. My husband couldn’t care less either. I’ve always personally thought that it’s ridiculous that kids are “supposed” to take the dad’s last name. So often those dads don’t even stay in the picture! Our thought was that everything goes through me. Insurance, appointments, everything... So it just made sense to give them MY name. If we need to use a family name for something, then we do use my husband’s last name (it’s far less common) but legally we have separate names. I love him to death and I’m proud to be his wife. I still would call myself Mrs. (with his last name) but I don’t see myself changing it legally. Our kids are old enough to vocalize what they would like and they’re happy as is too.
What about the couple deciding to take the woman’s last name wish you guys would have talked about that!
Emily Mayo It’s rare, personally don’t know 🤷♀️anyone who took their wives’ last name.
Hey @TheRealDaytime, can you please add the original air dates of old TH-cam clips in the description? It helps to understand at what point in time the topics are coming from and what point in time the ladies are talking from, if that makes sense. Thanks!!! :)
I used to work at social security, and I had this couple come in to change their last names. The first person already had a hyphenated last name, and they insisted on putting the second person's last name in the middle of the first persons hyphenated last name. And none of these names were short. We were exactly at the character limit in the system.... idk if they realized they were actually going to have to sign this now.... idk I thought it was a really bad idea
Lawd! This segment got stupid once they brought children into the conversation. Listen, I will not change my last name to avoid other people’s confusion or ignorance. I will only change it because I want to do so. Them: Why is your last name different from your mom’s? Me: WE HAVE DIFFERENT DADDIES 😂
We have different daddies loool
@Divyanshu Pandey a woman shouldn't have to make that sacrifice if the man isnt willing to also. Thats not her job.
Funny how now Jeannie took on Jenkins as her last name. I think she just wasn’t sure about her first marriage as she is in this one. I would definitely change mine if the dude has a fancy surname though 🌚🌚
Lonnie "EVERY DAY".. I'm donee lmaooo
I love loni.
I took my husband's name, I was so excited to become apart of his family and us become one. I was raised that when you get married it's respectful to take the man's name. There are no rights or wrongs what ever people prefer.
My OPINIONS on each topic
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Last Name Changes : I honestly think it’s up the woman and the couple... I know some men who don’t have a problem with their wife not wanting to change their last name... it’s deeper than just “ oh it’s a last name “ sometimes people are proud of where they came from and how hard they worked with their name but I would say compromise and hyphenate !
Teacher’s Nude Photos Shared : FIRST of all... this is a PRIVATE issue... it’s not her fault that she lost her phone HOWEVER those kids should be punished because that’s invasion of privacy and they SHARED it ! I don’t understand why they would that... if you know better then they should do better ! Saying “ they were kids “ is not an excuse.. they’re high school students... that’s worth an suspension or an expulsion cuz that’s illegal !
Can Having Sex Everyday Fix a Relationship ?!!! : It’s funny because literally last season Adrienne said she’s kept her word ever since her & Israel got married 😂 365 days having sex... yeah... I’ll pass ! I’m not forcing anything.... if I’m not feeling it... I’m not doing it cuz I won’t be into it 💀 but Kudos to Ade... her 2nd year is coming up so let’s see what it’s like by year 3 lol
I dont get how Adrienne said she be having sex everyday . Don't you get your period every month ? How is that possible ?. 😒
If he doesnt have to compromise and hyphenate then i dont intend on doing thr same😊
💯 agree. Kids these days have no respect
@@queenbey2002 There are different forms of sex. It's possible...
I think because they dated a short time before getting married,it makes sense that they have sex more than the average married couple in their early years of marriage.esp that even before marriage,Ade was in a relationship 6 years and she said she and her man did it everyday whenever they were together.so I believe her.i don't think its 365/365 days coz Israel travels,they not together everyday.it probably will change after having kids tho.
Thank you Jeannie! 💜🖤
Thank you Loni for keeping it real
“HEYY JUDDYY” 😂😂😂
To each his/her own. I'm old school and I will take my husbands name that is one tradition that I like.
veronica goss Me too
Me Too
@BANGTANFM therefore?
Me too
@jinminkook a lot of traditions that are kept these days started from something much less innocent than the actual tradition, but that doesn't mean it is a bad tradition. Either way, regardless of how it started, people are free to choose for themselves whether they want to follow the tradition or not. You do you and let others to as they please.
My mother put her last name as my middle name for both me and my brother. Im keeping my last name and my man is happy to take on my last name.
Thats refreshing to hear. You dont hear that often
I am really digging Jeannie’s shirt! Would love to find where it is to order it
Omg loni hair is so pretty 😍
I love how this shows mentions the Bible a lot. Keeping it real❤️
If getting married means you "become one" as Lonie says, why doesn't the man take the woman's name? Lonnie, sit down and be quiet....
Agreed!
Literally and coming from someone who plans to stay single their entire life
@Jade Simmons yeah? Well I'm the woman of the house. No man is above me
@Jade Simmons you are small minded if you still think in terms of "man of the house"
@Jade Simmons lool and the wife is the woman of the house...
I changed my last name just because I thought my husband's last name was cool. If he had a different last name I would have kept mine. However, the process of changing your last name is a HUGE hassle, so only change it if you really want to like I did.
I kept my name and my husband kept his. I say you do you, and don’t take a last name just because society “tells you to”. Take it because you want to or keep yours if you don’t. Family is more than just a name on a piece of paper. ❤️❤️❤️
When I was young I always couldn’t wait till I was married so I could change my last name because I really don’t like it, just my luck that my fiancé’s name is even more ridiculous than mine. He was surprised that I wanted to change my last name to his because it is a stupid last name but I love it because it’s his last name. I think it’s definitely up to the woman to decide what she wants to do as it’s her name but I just feel like it will connect us and I’ll be proud to be his wife and part of his family and eventually when we have children we will all share the same name.
I believe we woman have a choice. Period. And there is no “right or wrong” 🤷🏻♀️
Single moms give kids their father's last name ALL the time. I've never heard of them having any problems with picking their kids up at school or at the doctors office or even grabbing their birth records from city hall. As long as you have the right documents and YOUR name (if its the same as theirs or not) is on their birth certificate it'll never be a problem in those types of situations
I plan on keeping my last name when I get married because of a few reasons 1) my last name is really awesome and I love it
2) most people I meet, I introduce myself using my last name as my main name
3) I'm going to be a doctor. Being Dr. (Not gonna give you my real name) is all I ever want out of life.
I Agree With Tamera I Want Keep Both My Husbands Last Name💍 & Mines Cuz I’m Old School I Don’t Mind🤷🏼♀️💯
The Real digital manager... please put on the description bar or title reupload date from ..... please and thank you 🙏
Omg. Jeanie. Yes I do look up to my teacher. I once saw my 5th grade teacher at a party and he like asked me for a dance and was so weird 😟 I was like Sirrrr... Cause that's what I'm used to calling him and he was like jus call me Stewart and still I was like Sirrrr😂😂😂😂
It’s so weird how y’all change ur last names for ur husband and feels so wrong where I live no one does that
I always find a condom in my schools hallway 😂 there’s the Bronx for you.
I'm keeping my name.
I Just Love The 4 Of You Ladies ❣️ I took My Husband's last name then when Our now 21 Year Old Son was born I gave Him My Maiden Name for His Middle Name!
I’m just waiting on my copy of my marriage licenses and marching my way to that office to change my last name. I love my husband and I love the idea of taking his last name. I see a lot of people mentioning college and everything but I meet him at 18 and helped me go through college through all my mental breakdowns. I’m also in a blended family and currently the only one in my immediate family to be married and to me it’s exciting having a new last name for my new family.